Were You Ever Hugged? - By Rabbi YY Jacobson

[Music] were you ever hugged do you need a hug do you know how to hug that's our theme this evening and it reminds me of a story once related by rep slim Alec Alba who used to hug everybody and he once visited a maximum-security prison visiting the Jewish inmates there and as his custom was he hugged every single person he met and he knew at a hug as he's walking out he encountered this very big powerful muscular tall mighty prisoner and gives him a hug and move his on this muscular man screams out he says rabbi come back some people were very weary they were somewhat afraid what this person might do to the rabbi after all there were very different types of people different colors different races different backgrounds different history different class of people what might happen but slim Alon unfazed came back and this big muscular fellow tells him he says can you do that again can you give me another hug so this time he gives him even bigger warmer teddy bear hug and then he asks him to hug him a third time he hugs him again the man tells him he says you know I never got a hug nobody ever hugged me throughout my entire life and maybe if I was young and I received such a hug the story of my life might have turned out differently tonight we're going to explore the dynamics of a hug from the Kabbalistic and Hasidic point of view for thousands of years Jews have been sitting in a sucker during the festival of circus in some form of a hot comprised of walls and a roof which is made of material that grows from the ground like branches or straw or bamboos etc how many walls does a sucker have to have open up source number one right below the video there is a PDF curriculum so the Talmud discusses this in tractate suka page 6b development bays under the Gemara source number one toner a bun on the rabbi's learnt stymie al-qasim two of the walls of the suka have to be complete fresh licious a philosophic the third wall can even be one hand breadth in its width this means this according to Jewish law the walls of the sukkah have to be at least 10 4 m in height and 7th fathom in width tent for common height would be approximately 40 inches because then you're sitting actually in some type of hot and some type of home temporary home if if the walls are lower than 40 inches then it's more like you know a cave you have to crawl in it it's not a comfortable place to sit and eat and schmooze and drink and relax and and hang out as Jews do during circus in the circuit that's the minimal that's the height it can be lower than 40 inches how about the width of the wall 7th Forum which is approximately 27 28 inch inches that's the width says the talmud only two walls have to be full size the third wall can even be a hand breadth in its width which means around three three and a half inches the third wall can be a tiny wall its width can be between three and three and half inches could be even one tougher a tougher is anywhere between three point one five and three point seven eight inches I told you around three and a half inches it's fine that is the law and the Talmud goes on to explain how its derived from the biblical verses in Leviticus with the Torah describes the obligation for the Jew to sit in a Sukkah during the holiday of suka s-- and we learned from those verses that we need minimal tools to complete walls and the third even a very small wall if you're planning to build your sucker this way discuss it with a competent scholar or a rapper because there are another few requirements that you have to know for example that little wall with the width of three three and a half inches has a few requirements and you should know them now it's interesting the CEDAW one of the greatest Jewish scholars the Italian great mystic and scholar and writer and researcher rabbi higham Yosef Dovid Azul o ye who lived in the 18th century in Italy writes a very interesting comment he says that the word suka which is the Hebrew word for the hot that we centered on circus actually describes the three methods through which we can build a sucker open up source number two in your curriculum so you could see a visual graphic of it suka is comprised of three letters sama cuff and hey looking source number two and keep on looking at it sama represents a full sucker a suka which surrounds us completely a suka four walls the calf the second letter represents the second way you can build a suka three walls and the fourth wall is open look at the cuff the cuff has three walls and finally the hay represents a third way in which you can build a suka and it's kosher and that's like a hey the hay has complete - two walls which are complete right the roof on the top and then the vertical wall coming down and then the third little wall hush lishus our Philadelphia which is a hand breadth it could be the width of three three and a half inches and that's also a good suka so of course the last thing is to build a sucker with four complete walls but how logically according to Jewish law you fulfill the mitzvot Oh so with the other two types of suckers either like a cuff or like a hey now every single law in Judaism contains oh so psychological emotional and spiritual meaning we're going to explore tonight what seems like a very tiny small technical detail about the amount of walls and the size of walls and show how this law mirrors profound psychological depth meaning and instruction teach and every one of us and this is based on the teachings of two of the great mystics of Jewish history rabbi Isaac Luria diarrheal rabbi yitzchak Gloria known as Diaries of the 16th century great kabbalist from sophist Tzfat and the founder of the Habad school of mysticism rabbi schneider's Ullman of Lee Adi known as the algebra who lived in the 18th century and the beginning of the 19th century passed away in 1812 now both diarrheal and a visionary Zalman use a beautiful phrase in the Song of Songs where the bride says these poetic words to describe her relationship with her groom source number three song of Psalms chapter 2 the bride says smile a Turkish Liras she the Amin a Turk obtaining his left arm lay under my head sustaining my head and his right arm embraces me and rabbi Isaac Luria sees this description as describing two moments of the Jewish calendar two times of the Jewish calendar the Days of Awe Rosh Hashanah Yom Kippur our describes as the days when smile a Turkish Liras she his left arm is under my head the left arm represents in Jewish mysticism the quality of Guevara or strength and this those are the days of aurash Hashanah and Yom Kippur the High Holidays following Yom Kippur begins the era when he Mina took obtained his right arm embraces me the right arm represents love and kindness and generosity and giving and that is the time of circus remunerated obtaining his right arm embraces me circus in other words at the time when God's right arm embraces me and according to that reason that is what the suka represents the walls of the suka the hut which we sit in on circus is that is a divine embrace what does this mean take a look at source number four I want to study this together with you this is a fantastic insight by the reaso let's see one of the works of rabbi isaac louise de creates Khayyam source for priests Cuyahoga souk espera calif Wahine a he says and behold min might saw Yom Kippur at young Schmidty at Sara's her coil whose side he book I am in the immunitech of kami from the end of Yom Kippur until Schmidty at Sara's the eighth day of circus it all personifies the secret of a right arm embrace as the verse says his right arm embraces me and a few chapters later pre it's cuyahoga suka sparing a dollar and the continuation of the source thy reason explains what he means where do we get this idea that a sucker is an embrace and an embrace of the right arm the he may know you does that somewhere as all it's knowing what our sages say in tractate suka devolve ke kaha suka him based on a skill hustling the gimel awfully tough on that the primary requirements for a Sukkah to have to complete walls and the third wall even a hand breath in its width for who ingen he book has really are now this represents the embrace of the right arm boohoo this means Kershaw other maja because each day he nay he a medispa name upon him Vaz miss Quebecers busy Roya when a person embraces his wife a spouse she's standing before him they're standing facing each other face to face that's when I embrace you I hug you she's standing before him face to face and then she is embraced by his arm he he name is Rajesh by gimel praça now in his arm or her arm there are three sections in the arm three compartments Aleph he appear kasama flick Asif the first section of the arm is our arm is divided into three sections the first is from the shoulder till the elbow o peyrac has relaxed mine the second section is what we call the forearm the arm itself from the elbow till the wrist and finally the third section is will pre okay shallots bias from the wrist till the end of the fingers these are three different sections and joints usually they are different they could be in different directions although they could be straight but they can be in different directions so we have from the shoulder till the elbow one section of the arm from the elbow to the wrist the forearm and then the actual fingers the palm of the hand from the wrist to the edge of the fingers says diary Salva he make sure other mohab ache when a person embraces the other one who may have big butts at smile shall look even if he's embracing his spouse with his right arm with his right arm so then the you're embracing the person standing in front of you so he embraces the left side of the look for the less left side of his wife in Perea Kali inshallah a yachtsman so her left waist is being embraced with the first section of his arm the highest section from the shoulder to the elbow a car car - really sir Habakkuk Islamic law then the embrace continues and with the forearm he embraces the back of his wife meperidine sahasrara with the second section of the arm from the elbow to the wrist Hiram Bay's Daphne's Memoriam these are the two complete walls of the suka these are the three complete walls of the arm homonym 8 - gimbal shop Erik I add the meds boys love Adam but then there's a third element of the embrace and that's the small third section between the wrist and the edge of the fingers huh Nick faux fur macabre gets out upon him salon look where that comes around and it bends over and begins to embrace the right side of his wife's face visage time kill huh sandwich Alicia's a philosopher this is the deeper meaning of the to complete walls of suka and the third wall can be even a hand breath he sat upon him shall I look available in the sky Bakula like beginners sheer tefik my mental Avadh because the face of his wife does not get fully embraced only a little bit of it like a hand breath of it what is diaries are saying and look at the image look at the image at the end of this source this image is not mine it's in the Priya time from their easel you see clearly the image take a look at it this is the suka the sukkah is a ride arms embrace you have one wall represents from the shoulder to the elbow complete war second wall from the elbow to the wrist and then you have the third part that's the third wall representing a much smaller embrace a hand breath literally the hand breath the hand itself from the wrist to the edge of the fingers and that is the minimal requirement of a circuit of course if you have a suck of three wolves or a sucker falls then it's a complete hug it's not just a right arms embrace it's what we call a teddy bear hug had complete hug much better but the minimal requirement of the sucker is a riot arms embrace via midnight the cop came because God is embracing us and as he explains so graphically and in the style of Kabbalah using very often the metaphor of relationships between people on earth between the man and the woman the groom and the bride the husband and the wife and so forth that actually the embrace is focused on different parts of the body the first wall embraces the left waist of the person I'm embracing look I'm embracing you like this so this takes your site the second section the forearm encompasses your back that's what it embraces with the right encompasses your back and then my fingers come over to the other side and they begin touching the beginning of your cheek the beginning of your face at least a little part of it the primary hog is the waist and the back the full back of the person and that's what Circus represents now cabbalistic literature is written in riddles in a code language allegory parables are always used it's metaphoric language and must be dissected we have to demythologize the abstractions and the metaphors and be able to apply it to understand it and this was one of the great contribution of the Hasidic masters because the Hasidic works actually took the lurianic kabbalah the Cabal of that reason and made it palpable and applicable especially the writings of rabbi schneider's Owlman of lee adi who wanted to bring down kabbalah in a system which he called Chabad chochmah binah da so that it can be assimilated and internalized within the structures of the person's mind and the person's hearts so we can apply it to our lives let us now understand what is the riddle what is the metaphor that reisel is conveying to us a beautiful concept a hug and embrace but what does this mean practically when I'm sitting in a circle I'm eating soup or I'm having a smooth or I'm learning where I'm reading where I'm having a drink or some people sleep in the Succa what type of hug who's hugging me I'm in a heart then there are walls around me and there's rock above me what does this mean God is hugging me with his right arm I mean it's nice to say that the walls are a hug or an embrace but what does this mean how do we understand that how to relate to it what's the message for this my dear friends we have to discuss love I want to explore with you this evening let's go on a little journey and explore four different mediums through which we express our affection our love to another person our spouses our children our friends how do you express love we want to examine four ways the first an obviously most basic way of expressing love is verbally through your words when I tell you I love you I appreciate you I cherish you I adore you when these words are said sincerely and genuinely I need not explain the profound impact they can have the first medium and instrument to the expression of love the power of words through words different types of words in different languages and in different ways the words express our love but then there's a second way and that's what's known as the kiss I don't just tell you I love you I come over to you and I give you this and a kiss captures in it an intensity of emotion that words somehow can't contain in a way the kiss is telling you I love you more than any words can say and then there's a third way through which you can express love and it's even deeper than the kiss it's the gaze of your eyes the silent but intense gaze of eyes when two lovers look at each other the song of songs says a neckline and your eyes are like doves the groom tells the bride or the bride tells the groom your eyes are like doves doves lovebirds can gaze at each other for hours and they cavil in looking at each other and that's another form through which we express love it's a very deep way of expressing love I look you in your eyes I don't have to speak enough to touch I have to kiss just look you in your eyes because eyes tell a very profound story eyes capture the soul when I look you in your eyes I can also see very deep things in you which is why and you may try this people will often become comfortable and you just look them in their eyes without saying a word you can try it out go look somebody in there look somebody in their eyes unwaveringly either after a few moments they're going to look away or they will start a conversation because it could become very awkward because eyes are extremely revealing but in very real relationships routine people I could look you in your eyes and I'm comfortable and you're comfortable and on the contrary I Egan there's an expression the egan hub and gated at the a game hub acacia Regan and you dish the eyes spoke and the eyes were silent sometimes the gaze of the eye contains very profound emotions of love then there's a fourth way and that's the hunk that brace it's not only I tell you I love you it's not a kiss it's not looking at you it's I give you a hug I embrace you let's take a look at children children of course love all forms of love that is expressed to them children love being spoken to not spoken act but spoken do children love a good kiss macca kiss yes not too often and not a choking kiss but children sometimes love a kiss and they of course appreciate when you look at them you look at them you don't just look at your cell phone or blackberry reading the text as they're talking to you but above all is it not true that children love being hugged being held embraced and hugged especially infants in the fence and a lot of children even older love the hug they love the embrace even more than the words even more than the kiss even more than the eyes the hog means so much in fact as we know today it is indispensable to life itself infants who never get touched never get touched never get held never get hugged in so many instances after two years die it's essential to life it's indispensable to life what's the secret of the hug what does the hug represent and it's fascinating that in the teachings of Hasidism all these four mediums of love are they sect it and analyzed and the soul of each of them is brought out including the secret the soul of a hug there are two major differences between the dynamics of an embrace and the other three mediums of love the other forms of love are all directed towards the beloved person's face the back the hug is directed towards the person's back when I talk to you I'm talking towards your face I talk to your face I don't talk to your back I don't say hey turn around let me talk to your back I want to see your eyes I want to see your face when I kiss you I kiss you on your cheeks I kiss you on your lips kiss you on your head you usually don't kiss somebody their back and when I look at you I want to see your face I look at your eyes so all the three mediums of love are directed towards the person's face the hug is unique you don't hug somebody on their face as their easel describes you embrace them and they're back it's an embrace of the back I hold your back that's the uniqueness of the book there's one more difference the other three forms of love don't grip the person they don't seize the person I speak to you you can go away I kiss you you can go away from the kiss I look at you you can move away you can look away but when I hug you you can't move anyway I'm holding on to you it's almost like I don't let you leave I'm almost forcing you in my grip only the hug has that dynamic then I don't let you tear yourself away from me now once we will grasp the spiritual energy behind the hug once we will understand the soul of a hug we will understand how these two unique characteristics of an embrace its target being the back number one and the gripping hold on the embraced one number two are actually interdependent upon each other you see there are two there are two types of love there is what we call the reciprocal love and what we call unconditional love reciprocal love is a love in which I cherish you and I adore you because of you your personality there's something about your life that enriches my life and I love it it may be your kindness your honesty your depth your candidness your wisdom your intelligence your humor your ambition your creativity your approaches your perspectives your twist on things whatever it may be it may be something I can't even scribing words is just something special about you something unique about you that attracts me to you my life is enriched by my relationship with you without you my life would be so much shallower so much emptier so much more impoverished ask yourself what is it that your beloved one adds to your life gives you in your life it may be very practical very pragmatic very deep emotional and so on and so forth this is a powerful love it's an intense love and it's the law that's expressed in words in a kiss and in a gaze and that's where they're all directed towards your face because your face is the primary location of reciprocity I receive from you what I can get from you usually through your face through your mouth through your intelligence through your words through your eyes the primary seat in which your individual personality and uniqueness is expressed the primary place where these features are expressed is your face so when I'm telling you I love you when I'm looking at you with love when I'm giving you a kiss what I'm telling you is I love you because of your face I love you because of that which you give me you give me back so much your mouth your words your personality your eyes your intelligence your heart your self this is a very strong love it's a beautiful of its a tremendous love but at the end of the day the love is based on the fact that I love you because of what you give me essentially it's an extension of my own love my self love I love you because I love myself and you give me so much you add so much to the self so in a way what I'm saying is as long as you're here for me I'm here for you as long as I'm enriched by you you will be enriched by me as long as I have your company you will have my company it's a beautiful love but it's a love that it's focus is ultimately what I am getting from you you are reciprocating to me that's why I'm calling it reciprocal love and this is the face like love I look at your face and I say I appreciate you what I see in this face is so moving to me but there's another type of love and that's the love that's expressed by an embrace where I'm hugging your back not your face I'm not kissing your cheeks and I'm not talking to you and I'm not to your face and I'm not looking at your eyes I'm actually embracing your back and what this represents is my loves target is that place your back which lacks the ability for reciprocating in any meaningful way the back is not seeing as the primary location of the human beings uniqueness and individuality and personality in fact it's very hard to recognize the differences from between people when you look at them from their backs rather than from their faces so when I'm hugging your back what I'm telling you is I love you I love you unconditionally I love you absolutely I love you not because I love myself and you're giving so much to me but I love you because I love you I love you my soul loves your soul so while gazing and speaking and kissing a directed towards your face the hug is directed towards your back and that's why there's a grip this is a love which represents the fact that I'm not letting you go you may not even want it you may not even love me you may not give me anything back in return but it's all about me it's about you I love you you're pulling yourself away from a kiss you pull yourself away from a gaze you move away I'm speaking to you you're speaking to somebody else it happens all the time I'm talking to you you're talking to somebody else from a hug you can't go away you don't go away from a hug what does this represent spiritually emotionally on a deeper level of course practically as you and I know there can be fake hugs that can be superficial long as there are professional actors who hug and don't mean it we're not discussing that of course just like a kiss can be faked and I love you can be superficial and shallow and skin deep and a person can be disingenuous and and dishonest but we're discussing the the pristine form of each one of these expressions of love what the hug represents is I don't think it's something that doesn't allow us to be separated because reciprocity is not a factor here it's a different type of love not me you that's why I asked in the beginning of the class did you ever hug somebody do you know how to hug somebody do you know how to give a real hug a hug which says I love you unconditionally absolutely no strings attached has anybody ever hugged you like that were you ever hugged always Thomas ever you know sometimes you hug somebody and you start pounding on their back you start banging their back but not good that's not a hug that's not a why are you pounding their back it's almost pounding their back is a form of covering up the possible vulnerable experience of the hug it's also almost demonstrating a certain superiority you're a good boy or a good guy when you hug you have to melt when your hugs you just just hug just talk don't start pounding don't start banging those that I can decline it just hug let you and the other person melt away in the mutual non-judgmental embrace of unconditional affectionate love how healing that can be try it give it to others you see white children wanna hug more than anything else yes a child got a boo-boo oh I hurt my finger you can get a band-aid you can quiet them down you can assure them that it's not dangerous but you have forfeited the most valuable opportunity and that is to lift them up and hold on to them and hug them in their back embrace their back and basically silently convey the message I will always be here for you unconditionally I love you not because of your achievements not because of your successes of course I appreciate your achievements and I appreciate your successes but that is not what justifies my love to you I love you at your core and in your core beyond your achievements beyond your projections beyond your external powers beyond of what you project to the world which I appreciate and I adore I love you at your core that's not conditional it's not about what you do it's not even about who you are today it's about who you are at your core at your essence which will never change because core doesn't change at symbol team Astana the great philosopher said the core doesn't change it's not about what you do and what you say it's not about what you look like I may appreciate it very very much and I expressed that to you but that's all the words against a kiss deeper and deeper and deeper the words and then the kiss and then the gaze but then there's a hug I love you and your momma shut your essence beyond of what you define what you do beyond what you say beyond what you achieve even beyond who you are today and that's what soldier need soldier would want that hug they want that unconditional promise I just love you that's what a soul needs that's what a person needs that's what the inmate was telling slam Allah that's what he felt that's what I need now now my dear brothers and sisters I'll be able to understand circus in a new way you see everything we've been discussing exists also in our relationship with God we talk about love the love of God to the person the love of the person to God but you see all year around safe suckers God speaks to us God kisses us God looks at us but that's directed towards our face not towards our bad suckers is reunited up cainy circuses when he embraces us Lucas is the embrace that sees the back as its primary target I embrace your back not your face you see all year around God's light is communicated to us as a result of the choices we make in our lives the more we fine-tune our bodies the more we fine-tune our psyches to the higher truth of reality to the depth of existence to the core of consciousness the more we allow ourselves to hear the echoes of the still small voice of the divine resonating in the depths of our souls all here it's our work it's our challenging ourselves which allows us to feel God's presence in our lives it's our work which allows us to experience God's love to us the more I refine myself the more I challenge myself the more I find tune the debris the more I excavate the depth beyond the crude Brut thick layers of my ego and my animal consciousness and I get to the deeper light the more I can feel the light of my soul the light of God the more I declare war against my addictions against my unhealthy appetites against my destructive habits the more I challenge my ugly temptations the more I can sense God's kiss and in a very powerful way if I challenge myself I'll be able to feel his love in ways that I could not imagine in other words throughout the year God's love is directed towards my face towards the place where I demonstrate my commitment my interest my passion for honesty for growth for truth for transcendence my face which represents the place where I'm expressing my interest my involvement that's the target that's the place where I receive the love in return and it's fascinating because go through the Jewish holidays and each holiday represents another form of love Pesach Passover Pesach says the holy re-solder rabbi Isaac Luria is made up of two words what are the two words pair saw a mouth that speaks what's the primary mitzvah of Passover he guarded till eventually you should speak to your children speak speak speak to them communicate to them don't be silent speak pair saw a mouth that speaks in Hebrew Passover God speaks to us shavoo is who was what's rule is the Kabbalah describes the Torah when a drooler in Stara the Cabal describes it as Anna she can it's a kiss is dab kusa Rubirosa when I kiss you mouth-to-mouth my inner spirit so to speak breath goes into your breath what's territories and non mouth she saw herself as the beginning of the ten commandments given on Shavuos are with the words of an IT the word on nicely which is an acronym the Gemara says Talmud says and Shabbos unknown a sheiks obviously a harvest I have transcribed my soul into Torah when I give you Torah I'm giving you my inner soul Moses tells the Jews partner and upon him Deborah I'm in Mumbai harbour image God spoke to you face to face the emphasis not just he spoke to you it was face to face it was from a faith to a faith service is God's kiss his inner breath can go into our breath when I learned Torah his inner breath is internalized in mine then you have Rosh Hashanah wish Hashanah and Yom Kippur and God gazes at us Passover he speaks to us Jewess he kisses us Kiva chorus area a dream Ovid Sinaiticus if they were saying in a sonnet I give one of the holiest most heart-stirring prayers of the High Holidays as a shepherd reviews his flock bringing each sheep under scepter paint a very specific ID with similar God scrutinizes and looks at every single creature your memory Rahim the days of all the days of year of or year are the letters of RIA the word year in Hebrew or fear you dress Aleph a the same letters like REE is seeing it's seeing that inspires or the famous shallow robbery Shia Horowitz the 16th century great rabbi from Prague and Frankfurt and Jerusalem rabbi Shia Horowitz Isaiah R was - Allah she looks as a bris writes the famous verse says are you shocked Mila era when a lion roar is a will not fear and he says RA is an acronym the lion ll Rosh Hashanah Yom Kippur high shine Arab reall Rosh Hashanah Yom Kippur Rosh Hashanah rapper but the primary time is LL Yom Kippur Rosh Hashanah re the first three letters and Rea is the same letters like Riya seeing and hearing or Mila era who will not fear and who will not see so Passover he speaks to us through us he kisses a source Hashanah Yom Kippur he looks at us he gazes at us very deep silence very deep war now suckers suckers he embraces us so kiss he hugs us let me explain what is what is the mitzvah of eating in a sitting in a circle what is the Mitzvah the Mitzvah consists of doing whatever you do the rest of the year in your own time when you do it in the sukkah it's a mitzvah what's the Mitzvah what are we commanded to do in the circle not to learn Torah necessarily not to pray necessarily not to meditate necessarily not to give charity necessarily I mean you could do all these things but to eat to drink to sleep to chat to read to schmooze to relax to hang out whatever we do all year around and we consider mundane secular personal individual desires suddenly when I do it on circus in a Sukkah I'm performing a mitzvah I'm sleeping in the sukkah a mitzvah I'm taking a drink of water in a suit it's a mitzvah why because I'm suka the Mitzvah is not what I'm doing but where I'm doing it all here I eat it's not a Mitzvah it's a necessity it's not a mitzvah and sometimes I eat things that are not a necessity unfortunately sleeping is a necessity but soon as I can sleep xtrasun necessity and even when I'm sleeping what I after it's not a mitzvah it's fill in as a Mitzvah mechanism it's the mezuzahs omits Yom Kippur is a mitzvah shofar is a mitzvah suka suddenly I'm sleeping a meeting I'm chatting I'm schmoozing I'm schmoozing about the weather or about my schedule for tomorrow with you in the souk it's a mitzvah why it's not what I'm doing it's where I'm doing it since I'm doing it in the walls of the sukkah suddenly it's a mitzvah why what it's a mitzvah a mitzvah means a medium through which I become connected to God all here if I want to become connected to God I have to do a mitzvah what's a mitzvah a divine act sacred act the holy act act of charity act of prayer study or any other Mitzvah in the world 613 mitzvot on Circus what's the Mitzvah I'm doing my mundane things I'm eating and sleeping and shouting and yet I'm doing it in the souq it becomes a mitzvah it becomes an act through which I develop an intimate oneness and relationship with God why because it's in the walls of a sucker what are the walls of the sukkah God's embrace what's an embrace and embraces I love you the way you are I love your core I don't love you because of what you do for me I don't love you because I appreciate your greatness because of your reciprocity because what you represent to me I love you I love you Sosuke is God tells the Jew I love you not just your face I love your back you're sleeping that's a mitzvah we're very deeply connected we're connected in your sleeping and in your eating and in your schmoozing because I love you it's not just because you're spiritual because you work on yourself because you're sensitized yourself because you challenge yourself because your face I love you back I love your mundane activities as much as anything else because I love you not because of what you're giving me not because of what you're achieving not because of what your greatness is so all year around it's not a mitzvah when it's done in a sucker in the place of God's embrace now it's a mitzvah because that's what Circus represents so if you need a big fat hog spend some extra time this year in the sukkah give that hug to other people as well have a good night a good young to see you next [Music]