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[Music] okay but today we're going to discuss the topic of hot luck as neighbors which we will see is not just a topic for women you know men have to know this topic as much as women do as we will see this one 'cimmanon chauhan era on the Holika Holika snare of Shabbos there is a lot to say in terms of alumnus behind it maybe another time we will be able to to get into the the backgrounds and the lumbus but just in one line how luck as neighbors is unique in that it fulfills cover Chavez and Oneg Chavez it is something that we do before Shabbos but we enjoy it on Shabbos so it is unique in that area that's not our topic right now but just to keep that keep that in mind we're going to go into seminar a psalm of Gitmo which is the Seminole Hard Rock about hot buckets narrows shops show up in arc starts off in source number one you have it yeah hey Zaire last those near Yaffa one should be careful to make a beautiful candle right is there is there any material that's better than any other material in terms of candles so anything that's beautiful so I want shemin's eyes most people don't use shemin's eyes that's that's Konica that's not that but again there today there's paraffin is beautiful different types of materials whatever one uses but there is one should be very careful to have a beautiful canopy Mehadrin last those Basie lows and the manag is when a woman starts lighting candles we'll talk about why a woman does it the meadow gets to lie - why so if you don't read the next one at the Oakland alright so we think one for the mommy and one for the daddy right that's usually right because the middle gets the ED on one per per child that has not what the shofar web says chef Canora says why do you start off with two one foresaw car and one for Sean Moore the two elements of Shabbos the positive and the negative that's dr. michelle maher if you're familiar that's based on a Gomorrah in shabbos Lama gimel how do I remember shop Islamic in MO I don't remember corners by heart but Sharm Islamic in was about to assume a high log book alright so Shabbos Lima gimel at the end when he finally comes out of the cave which hopefully maybe we'll learn that kumara together one day he comes out of the cave and he surround that he sees an old man on air shop is running with two hadass him in his hand says what are you doing he says look Hubbard Shaw he says what do you need - for his one for Zahar one for Shammar so that Kumar and shop Islamic game obeys is the source for the min hug of lighting two candles minimum one for Zhou car and one for Shammar yes two wicks no again in those days they didn't have separate they have like little like candle candle things he put the oil in and you have two things coming out so again it should be F 2 which we - two clearly two - two candles - sources via Hall on the Xhosa Valhalla game alone a dollar nears volcano go and you can add on can add on the hey na go and that is the min up right at the mid though most common minutes to add on one candle per child right that is the min hug interestingly the bracha though does not change the braava is Lahav ik ner shel Shabbos doesn't matter how many we light right just like Hanukkah because the acre is one candle the IKAR is one candle but anything more than that the brothel doesn't change I think we mentioned recently there's only one bracha that changes noosa based on quantity and that is de las Calum right I'll tell you les Kelly you're out feliz Calum other than that even if you do a mitzvah you add on same bra I'll have like ner shel hanukkah housing near shell Shabbos yes where does the minute come we're being moseph art which is part of the Mitzvah I'm not sure exactly when it started I show the other one it started but that is a accepted custom by Claudius RAL to be to be to be moseph for a candle Romano would salon again should only be only be talked about here one never takes away candles come on on this line if somebody loses a child there's always the sir number of candles the one doesn't take away a candle right one was most of our so then one has it whatever would there ever be another reason to add on a candle there is Xavier that's mentioned that you might have heard of the rama quotes it right here in the first cinnamon first see if Felicia shuffle kapa haka smiled they come a woman ever forgot to light a candle my let's call you Matt she has to add on a candle right if a woman why because again one of the reasons that we live we have a lock as near as Shabbos is to be moseph or to create shell and bias to create and if a woman doesn't remember to light a candle so then this week if we find her for the rest of her life she has to add on a candle every Shabbos women generally do not want to end on a candle generally in almost every case it comes up we could probably find the Kualoa Hector that she does not need to I've had the shiloh twice in so one time and and number one reason why I can find a cooler because the show Clinard says shava how many women you forget to light Shabbos candles I mean come on when does it ever come up something crazy happens right before Shabbos it's like you know you forgot the chicken and or the bath is overflowing and somebody's screaming somebody got hurt it and then it's like it's too late that's not cool shuffle let's not forget that's onus so in almost every case that's it number two the other reason is it doesn't come up on Chavez so much nowhere comes up comes up on yontiff on the second night of yontiff I thought I have this Shila the same year two women I remember husband about 12 years ago in the middle of my years in in Woodmere so there was this big combis when is it simcha satoru morning simcha store on the second out of your internal host lights you come home at 11 o'clock at night yeah the food yeah the woman were in shul so they didn't like candles before they went to show they came early with the kids and then you go and you're exhausted you serve the food you go to bed you wake in the morning I didn't like I don't like yellows last night all right so there are many reasons logical there number one main reason is who says there's ever XA Ron yontiff maybe was only on Shabbos right after all on the footnotes in the schmear Shabbos and source number two riot II writes that there was a maybe it's a it's somewhat of a Mills of devotion it's not common because if you remember during the meal and y'all if you get right all right then the hoax a ruse all you forgot you cause darkness but you didn't cause darkness I think was darkness it was you know you could have lit so in almost every case women don't want to add on another candle and Jannah you could find some type of a head there because a it shows it's embarrassing resin Barisan and at number two it's it's like the camels are the children that's what in their in their mind emotionally and therefore above that is that but that's in terms of the the number of remember if you have others fakers there you have it in the in source number two in the footnote relating to that holo same an old man generally doesn't lie to us or about the sea so yeah but they would be same for both I don't even think there was a canasa for a man if there was a situation where a man was supposed to lie that he didn't light yeah I don't think so I don't think it's a good extension of an extension but the shop owner says in the next simin next see if source number three at catenaccio masculine ocean men or women or equal men or women are equal obligation in Ibaka's near Shabbos equal obligation the Mitzvah is not upon the woman to the exclusion of the man I had the same exact obligation and Ibaka's Narus as my wife does the tradition is that women light the candles that's the tradition a collage about how now my ovum Leo Smith might am near Dalek by Shabbos they have to have a candle with a filo in oh my oh how right even if they don't have what to eat show a lot up saw him you have to beg and get candles so why do women do it why don't we do it the Rishon already discussed this why are women the ones to light the candles so the tour quotes two reasons number one the tour says vanishing source for most harbors boyo Sarah the tour of course we know the tour the shuffle now if we usually say the dial collocation of an R or the four called Locka mother cell phone are the tour is the one that really should get the credit we called it up he's the one that came up with a four hawaikan we called the show of an art but the tour is the one that what is the Torah mean Torah means a column he came up with the four columns da ba to rim but anyways he gives two reasons number one kid the east sub in Madras it always goes back to cava it always everything goes back to cava monisha coughs ah narrow shallow La Cava or she was YCJA then when she gave to the tree she wasn't cava yet she was Isha Eva the woman gay brought darkness to the world by causing the fate and brought death to the world garma masala my rezone and therefore for every forevermore she has to bring light to the went to the world and that's why the mint the halacha was accepted that women do it to be miss Akane every week that hate the bringing darkness so she brings she brings light number one number two but Haram bums out you know what I'll mention it now even though it's later on because I know if we're gonna gonna get up to it there is a minute quoted again it's not really a common custom today and we'll explain why there's a minute quoted that the mr. Brewer quotes the min hug but again it's not a minute that's of binding and generally women just the opposite what's the min up the first week after having a baby the husband lights the candles submitted quoted in the mission in broome I think I gave it to you all the way at the end I think it's somewhere up to find it on the yeah 38 in Soros 38 okie Yola des the Shabbos rishonim odd the Kabbalah Mubarak right the husband lights so where does that come from so the real reason where that comes from probably is because the first week after woman as a baby she's probably it's hard for to get out of bed and she's gonna feel bad if she can't get it out and maybe her neighbors gonna feel better and she's not you know what the husband collect the first week that's probably where it where the min hug came from but there is a lumpish thought why does the husband the whole reason the woman light the candles out the husband's because she brought darkness to the world and I she's been sake did this woman brought so much light to the world this week already she had a baby so it's done so you know what the husband collide this week well my son women water light that counsel the first week another candle with the baby so you want the woman to women get tubes women's it's her if she can't get out of bed she asked oz it's light fine but it's the woman's Mitzvah that's the manag and that is the that's just interesting in terms of one this is a beautiful explanation but not that well MYSA it has to be it has to be fulfilled that's reason number one the tour quotes why women do it going back to cava number two the Rambam sheets of the turquo to the Rambam the Rambam says in source for now some Tom over map nation Mitsuyo Spa bias valasco spots archaea bias which literally means on the bottom they're in the house they're involved in things in the house which I understand on a deeper level the woman is the one who sets the environment in the home the woman is the icarus abayas she's the one that that is the right Swami Mousavi Kailash Taurasi Maha there's a certain element of of a creation of the environment and the camels are part of that you walk into a home on Shabbos you know what Chavez when you see the candles so the woman is involved in creating that environment and that's why the Mitzvah is given to - to her good what happens if the man wants like the candle is one week honey can't do it this week tough luck on you it's a woman's Mitzvah she could say no right it's her Mitzvah there's even a discussion in the there's a safer licorice Shabbos I have at home which is all about Holocaust errors if the man does it before the woman of the concept of stealing a mid-south is you have to pay 10 gold coins which the chef and author talks about when you steal a mitzvah it's her it's what it means my mitzvah to just you do it well my sub we showed it what should we do though and this vinegars quoted we should set up the candles we should set up the candles right here you heard it right a couple years from now remember right if you get married you set up the candles the husband sets up the candles I was I once mention this and show on something comes out day and says I take the late train home on Friday I get home 6 minutes before Shabbos I said I'm a radical do with Thursday night I know a woman who sets up who the hoe tells her husband is that the candles mostly shops that's a holy woman right Holy Family it's that but either way the husband should set up the candles and that's why there is even a min hug again you might have heard of this that the husband buys the woman the candlesticks so at least he has some hey lack they're driven hug him some of them I don't know where it came from there was a minute that I don't even know about until the night I got engaged I come to my my in-laws house and almost suddenly give me a watch I'm like you trying to tell me something I don't know like but but on another yeah submitter you know what okay I don't know that is anyhow ethnic basis maybe it's like just to make sure that you're on time with the daughter but but how the narrows the candlesticks that's already a custom so the man has a hey lek in the Mitzvah the woman's gonna light the candles every week but at least the manis should have a hey look at the Mitzvah so if I buy my wife the candlestick so then that is a mitzvah that is uh that is quoted it's even fascinating there's a remiz to this there baqia ager points out beekeeping ager has besides these if you do shipment besides the chew bazooka cuba ager there's a little commentary of Akiva ager on the side of machine eyes and if you look there there's a mission that we say every Friday night if you dive and Ashkenaz and while I'm I'm leakin right about my leakin we said you haven't in source number nine I'll show Ave your own awesome a so special oscillate the Sun on three scenes women are you know I have to be very careful about on three myths folks they have to be very careful about the scene of the positive right knee de paola I have focus on air right knee de Sala beem after Scala and I'll uh cousin ear s turkey vaguer once you see it you're like whoa why didn't I think of that first million times I said it right it's not parallel why doesn't it just say needs a foul an air and if you want to bring in the verb has woke us on air so say hi from Scala and say precess neither why does only the third one have a verb neither hala headlock us on air says you'll be key figure it's hinting to us because the woman lights the candles but we should set up the candles as DAF kawatte the hint is neither fava reviewed on us I now see put that in the mission uh we can agar in source number ten hot Onorato Lora Mae's Lamont the east uppity a Zohar it's also a Zohar chavala bias his sake NASA narrows fish no topic the man should set up the candles Misha Maki Tanya about la casa near Walmart the chicken waffle a Rami right he sets up the candles she lights the candles I remember and father where my grandfather used to set up the candles and he used to you might have seen this by some of your ancestors he used to light the candles mama SH and then blow them out you ever hear of such a midnight to light the candles and blow them out where does that come from in the olden days candles lit better once they will lit once before so if you lit him one thing he put them out then they're gonna burn the next time very well so that was part of setting up the candles you'll like them and then you cuz I setting him up nowadays they burn fine if a woman sees a black wig she'll take a different candle she doesn't want you to light them beforehand because we don't have those kind of candles it likes fine the first time but in the day I remember my watching my grandfather do it but and that was that they did in New York that was the candles that they had but again either way it's all part of the setting up it's 11 is that that's where the schmear shop has quotes that minoc Shema tea Dominika of the of the rus and buying the candlesticks for the cow up right to have a hay whack in the in the Mitzvah ah good what happens I had to Shiloh Friday I just had the Shiloh Friday there was a woman who was gonna be away for Shabbos and her husband was going to be home with the kids who lights the older over Bat Mitzvah daughter or the husband who lights and you have another yeah the same kind of Shiloh you could ask same kind of Shila when the husband is away who should make kiddush and demote see is there an ideologically in terms of a 18 year old son or the mother in terms of kiddush of again generally it's the what we said get back getting back to the candles that's a different case they will talk about that when we talk about kiddush and women making kiddush different different topic what about here so generally the post can talk about it but the pose and say the man should light the husband Don's been show light because it's his myths well he gives it to the wife obviously the wife's Mitzvah if not but if not Eve the ball of ice and therefore the how the the the mitzvah is on the house and therefore he should i light i usually light once or twice a year my wife comes back I'm in camp in the summer my wife goes back a week early sometimes some there with the kids so I like that javis yeah this difference between a man and woman lining which we'll get to soon okay interesting correct if it's college go by the daughter right interesting I never thought about that but yeah but either way the min against that the Bala boys should uh July you can say that very nice very nice got to put into the notes maybe it's totally on the reasons okay uh what's their release that won't come I candles what's the earliest so let's turn the page says the show of an hour what if I'm really from and I really love Shabbos up Friday morning I can't control myself and I just wanted to be Shabbos already I mean you know it's I just need its the summer or shamans is at 8:30 at night right why was it who's who's here from from England yeah I was I was I wasn't in London but why Balmer shop is two years ago Shabbos was like a 9:30 it was like I'm boy it was like I don't want to wait that long you know three o'clock in the afternoon done I'm kind of starting Shabbos I want to do that the answer is no kin of Shabbos whatever you want you could keep shop as going as late as you want then mosey Shabbos but what about on Friday says we know the earliest time to light Shabbos candles is plug I'm info source 13 the in-between time between min huh katana and Shands well that's a question either sunset or taste we'll talk about that but maybe next week after we do this we'll have a shear on Zamani how young how to figure all those things out but it's in between time so it's on the calendar you open up a Luwak plug Ahmed AHA that is the earliest time that one could accept Shabbos anything before that is a brothel of Ottawa right if we set light Shabbos candles or Hanukkah candles for that matter of surly electronica candles because it's the earliest time that we could consider and fathom to be called the next day to be related to the next day that is the halfway point between medical katana and the and the end of the day good hat is one like handles this is crucial hat is one like handles heading to the Mitzvah halakha snares which is a mitzvah Darabont none of winding Shabbos candles it's a qiyam door I so when we like Shabbos candles is a fulfillment is our cross yama Shabbos Lacan show but how does one light sense the show up on Arkansas is 14 kiss she yelled to give our boy a girl she'll kill him how alum I sure could've shot at boobs Vonda well having there's no Shabbos ekadesha khadisha man are willing to make the same Baraka for candles gone beyond did CERCLA Varis also on yacht if she lights but she ends it off avec ner shel yom tov will be o makki Purim below Shabbos that's amok locusts I mean it goes to light candles on air of yom kippur it but isn't my cloak is if it's just um kipper that is one of the four bravas that only said once a year in Israel you have seven brothers only said once here but a hood flower if there are four Broncos don't say once a year one of them is Lahab McNair show y'all might keep we're in right only to the other Topher mahalik no-show yontiff but the IBM aqui program is abraca that it's only said once a year okay that's the Brava but how do you light you know if anybody I haven't seen my wife lied in a couple of years usually in shul and whatever but usually many women do something like this do the wave all right and then like cover up and like like what's going on there so this is not really quoted in the postgame it must have some status and some special quality 'king in the shop is whatever it is but that's not quoted in the postgame that that idea covering up the eyes is quoted what's the issue what's the issue show dorama says haha eh be show mer ship mubarak encode de la flaca some people say she should make the brothel before she lights candles meaning what there are those that say that what's the rule always you make a broccoli for you to the mitzvah over la see ya son before i boba shake a lulav i make the broth before I do any Mitzvah before I relay them again look before I learn Torah to beer cuz i Mitzvah so so do we hear a woman makes the bra and the lights the candles says they're on ma but others say you can't do that why cuz right wonder what may be right when a woman says the words will have initial Shabbos its Shabbos so she can't light a candle now so what do you do about the bra the HB Shama Shama vara after add vodka some say there are three or four cases not too many where it's impossible to make the brothel before hands so you make the Broadway afterwards after the Mitzvah who could they she / lasse yeah so but is there any way that you could get a little bit aloo it's before Oh Sarah Maude comes up with a with a cop what is it though yeah nummy manager abre la ami semen ahadith near a car has welcome of Arkin yeah haricot with salt can I add what happens a woman likes the Campbells but doesn't look at the candles that covers her eyes quickly it's as if she didn't like the candles yet I don't see anything she makes the broth initial Shabbos most women see its feel offer for all different good things with their families and then get Shabbos right open up but she has to make sure to look at the candles before she around us there's a lot everybody else right because it's the one holiday national shop is the point of covering the eyes is to then look at the candles get some hand off from the candles but that's why the eyes are covered because of this idea to get a little bit of oil a co Sun to get a little bit as ke Lu it was done beforehand so that is what the Rama sets of a sane high manag that is the that is the minute there are two major issues that are discussed in this context by a bukka's neighbors one of them was made famous by the jury show the jury should on the pre-show though the two commentaries in the bottom of the tour also the same author wrote the SMAW on commission but the same same uh same author say he quotes kiddush from his mother it's very appropriate he wants a finish from his mother in the hot dhamma of his safer on your birthday source time 15 he says let me tell you something that I think people are making a big mistake out there and there's a lot of discussion this is known as the finish of the imagery show this quarter dad brush em well learning the Torah from the imagery show says the a madrasah source fifteen Masha hug - I have to Horus on lighting candles number one Masha Noah goes mahalik near a show you want to have commercial Shabbos there are a lot of women out there at the light Yom Tov candles just like they do Shabbos candles they do the wave the eyes they open up the mother of the reaches is what are you doing you're a lateral light fire on yontiff so here you could just do regular just do regular / lassie on son wouldn't that be better say the Bravo Lahav ik there's joy yontiff and then light the candles straight forward that's what the a my tree she says yontiff should be different I knew some people do it the same hydrogen bond leak in tequila henares me after I was even at the MFA and a rose via Kawasaki nude AMX at your accessory quotes that from there I'm aa line 6 let's go to the web where it's underlined line ten-hut Nina potluck a senior / ABBA's I understand this relic of the era shabbos chakra Brava Oscar show Bamako I will be on TIF Shenmue 2 lavich nearest beyond TIF at smo its motor to light Campbell's on yard if mu Tov China said Baraka there's key kuna fulfill the idea of over la seosan there's a beautiful idea maybe at the end if we have time we'll mention it if not remind me in another context the idea of a burka a mitzvah wide Afghan has to me before you do the Mitzvah what the message is but either way that's what we do so I find a job as you can't do that but on yontiff he says well the Holika Air Show jumped if he says I'll bring you a ride on I'll bring you a proof they should switch it Chanukah you want to say oh just like hell's are the same what are you doing Hanukkah make a brothel first by having their show Hanukkah and then you light the candles says the imagery show you see I'm right whenever you could light make the Bronco first and then light that's what you should do that's what the a my Trisha says so we passed my PA my Trisha should we do like the a imagery show if you ask most women out there they've never heard of the imagery shot so is it something that we should talk about interesting the show huh nah doesn't mention it that's a great Riya against the image Risha the Rama does not mention anything in Hill House Yount have to do anything differently that's just point number one to halt but the Magan a from caught the a madrasah source 16 the enterica ball of a hula vm can be yontiff to verify off-topic table costed with slopes a Ferrari ship have an SR became emo and he quotes Abilene militia a local economy that is not a that is not an insult he's just quoting a castle which means it's confusing it's confusing and if you ask women it could imagine like you have a two day yawns if one of them is shot one of those out there what am I do today with you're gonna take chances without getting confused and then like making the brush and then lighting and it's Shabbos you wanna Messer so the my gonna problem we don't mess around with the Sioux race Kiowa you know what so you lose out over lassie you son don't make any distinctions says the manga never ah and look what he quotes at the end of the market ever army says I'll bring you two proofs that I'm right that I'm right that we don't make any distinctions commotion cause of a sim in Kufa noon class I Chum what's him in Kufa noon class you have it in store 17 Nutella Chad I am that's another one how do we wash our hands right we should make Nutella that I am is a mitzvah that we do mitts with Robonaut to be able to wash our hands before we eat bread and it goes all the way back to eating true MA so what do we do when we wash our hands with the minica most and call you sir all we wash our hands and then we say the brush-off okay we say it before we dry our hands to get a little bit of over last Yeltsin why don't we do that cuz you can't make head the whole point get me my brush when your hands a tummy so we do it afterwards I what if your hands are talk are what if you know your hands are not dirty spiritually you still make the broad day afterwards not gonna ever I'm says see I'm right you always make the Rope afterwards even if there could be a smart to see it beforehand you make the brush hey afterwards one Riya second Riya my never arm says look in toasters hips off him sign of a base that's what toes they said okay so you got a look at the sources nobody's talking about poses him saw him sign of a base source 18 was another one to V law when is the bracha Setanta Vela nowadays men do never have an obligation to go to the mikveh when do women say the Brock hunter Vela they say the bra huh where where the minnow ghee is to say it go dunk say the bra and then dunk again try to do a little both but the brook has not said before going in why because there's a situation that you for sure cannot say it before you go in a convert can't make the Bronco before you go into the make pop you're not yet Jewish you're not yet I have a business so there it's impossible this is at the Bronco Bala Quila before you go in so you know what we always see the bra high afterwards says the Magan I've wronged you see by Allah Tila you see bond until I said I am even if sometimes you can make the Bronco before ends don't make any distinction say it afterwards so so to hear a woman should always like the candles the same way light the candles say the Brock I'll cover the eyes that is the sheet of the mug enough run we're not done yet what's on okay okay but that's not the that's Abednego Allah not the min ago Ola so what should you do what you do but even before is there any way to do my phallic between the to defend the a my dream from the mug in a from the whatever I'm says hey you see by the toolshed I am you just do it afterwards and you see if I feel I just wrote afterwards what's the difference between that and what was the ride that the mother of the free ship wrote what ride did she bring that you should switch it should do it differently Hanako well happiness or chronica what's the difference between those cases have you need to fend says her beekeeper Hagar I'm sorry now Turkey Baker says the note to be who dumped in the dog Amira where the doctor where Barbara is the node to be who this commentary on the side of the joke on our but was a know the view of his name or if you have scale Landau you wrote the note to be Hooda as a tribute to his father so while the same with you who done he wrote his other famous a fair that slaw see you know NFS kya a very famous person both of his farm don't have his name in it right as his mother's name and his father's name but he also wrote the dog a mere Bob on the side of the show Clara he says there's a big difference between the tears of diamonds feel a versus Hanukkah with the difference but it tears your diamond Hanukkah theater diamonds feel it's the same Bravo a Latinos are going a lot Fela that's where there could be confusion it's the same Baraka that's why we don't move it to just do it afterwards but here it's a different Bravo well having their show Hanukkah you know I do that beforehand because it's a different brush you make the data Brock but then you do it that's where you could do it beforehand so you should do yontiff beforehand to dog Amir valve a is a fan of the a mod Risha look at the pose come or do we do know what we do whatever the woman wants and it depends you can speak to your wife about this fellow sure I'm in a couple of years she could say you know it's too confusing I'm just gonna do it this way fine sir mitzvah if she's ammulu madness and she's able to think a little bit before hands a lot of times there's a lot of pressure going on right before jobs and you want if you know you don't know whatever she wants that's the answer whatever she wants it's about focus I posed can we understand the slores for both but this is the this is one issue that is brought up regarding candles and the order but there's another I there's another one and I remember years ago when I first read this it was when I was in shock I was in shock and that is rub Yaakov and even the shale evades source number 21 Avianca Vanden is against the min hug of women making a Chevy on new when they like candles on yontiff what's the problem why you are you against taking Chevy on you so I was in shock in that it's not quoted in the Shahana anywhere nowhere in the show heart does it say say a Chevy on when woman lights candles Chevy on was only quoted when or Chevy under quoted Hilco skittish on yonder if that's what you say Saffiano well Halleck near shows Shabbos and yontiff it does not quote anything about Saffiano be a plan and since you know why it's not yontiff yet we see chef ya know for which gets into Josephus Shabbos yontiff is it really that'll be a sheer and two topics from now it's on the sheet right so the but says says react abandon I think that a woman should not see chef Yana was that really eundel yeah shame she be yote say the chef he uh no with her husband that kiddush that's what he says the yeshiva my Ramanathan ocean hvar slash fer Alcazar yontiff it's good that you're being my RA you're complaining about this but I know sohcahtoa special on this cover shrimpo sake it's not quoted in any Poe sake too low I'll defeat Bertha chef you know they see a Sukkah it's just like we don't make a chef Gianna when we built the sukkah we reject that opinion so so to hear it's too early says of Yaakov Emden and therefore you shouldn't do it this is fascinating line four I told my wife she didn't do it she told me top I'm doing it anyway I couldn't even get my wife to not do it so I said what why throw my hands but my wife is not gonna listen to me I guess nobody has opposed to me either so I left them in I guess it is amazing amazing the power of a yeah Cavanaugh's wife for a TC lemkos T V alpha P kill sec mice or at least he says he wanted to but he he couldn't force her Funaki lemon haha most like Yoda and I said then I gotta say to be ordained ooh okay let her do it the bishop ruler quote sister Bianca Benton just quotes it without commenting on it you read this with a Kommandant you read the mr. Bray like okay what should a good Jew do okay don't make sure Keanu but him at all the other post games say Hoss for sure this is the woman's Mitzvah it's so precious to them this is their this is their you gonna take away the Chicano from them says it Sicily Ezzor roof waldenberg he says if there was a problem with this somebody over the past 600 years would have said something about it women have been doing this for hundreds of years for sure it wasn't like a newfangled manag of a hundred years ago obviously what I've been doing this for thousands of years hundreds of years and nobody has said boo why cuz this is their couple's yontiff and that is why the Sicily Iser says exactly the opposite tell them it's amazing and it's your Mitzvah cuz I give EMC and therefore even though yeah okay we understand this fara but that is not what we pass get right women should make that she should make this Jeff you know that is the minute go kloster all that's what her mother did that's what her grandmother did and that is what that is what should be done okay moving right along see a few more minutes and then we'll see will we continue the the next time next time initial Canara see if yes 26 this comes up anybody ever been in a hotel first novice we have about 4,000 candles in the same place or in a camp anything questionable about that my cloak is macabre and there are ma chef Canora 26 basil gimel body bottom oakland welcome I thought two or three families didn't even know about like 50 families 300 families eating in one place shakaal at fun Mahalo Mahalo everybody's making yay shom rim should call a cod Mubarak Roman ours jello some say okay everybody their own Braco the age but gum gave it over and some are not so happy about that why wouldn't you be happy about it what's the problem if the whole point of Shabbos candles is to add or is this really adding anything you have 15 tea light next to it what is this doing so maybe it's not such a good idea then not only zarba Sabich Brava the chef on arc says sabe brockless logic l don't make a bra so I don't know if fired him go to a hotel or a camp I know if they that that's the manag there are more quotes ain't on Oh f ck no we make the Rafah we make the brusha even if it is a even if it is a problem even if there are other lights there why what's the hectare if the whole purpose of Shabbos candles is to add light and it's not adding light then how do you make the Braja I'll ask you a better question the post kamal discuss the schmear Shabbos in source 28 we have electric lights in our houses the candles are adding light at all forget camp every Shabbos my wife lights campbell's has plenty of light in the room that is how does a woman like Shabbos candles ever with Abraha isn't all purpose of the mitzvot not being fulfilled because there's already light three ideas number one the schmear of Shabbos quotes great idea turn off the light before she lied Shabbos candles then she lied Shabbos candles so it's adding light at that moment and then somebody else could turn on the lights on after she lights candles that's one suggestion given in the schmear Shabbos at source 28 other posts come don't like that because right when you turn on the light it's just like you're putting out the candle I how does that help what is good it has lied for 15 seconds what's the other suggestion that's more common maybe I think I'm theater of them are too common no the woman should turn off the light and then turn the light back on and have qivana that's part of her lighting candles and then go like the candles as we'll talk about later probably next time but as a sham we pass can electric campbell's keep be able to the mid speaking of Brooke on handles quite the most Posca so that's what you should do it should be part of providing second option both mentions industry or shops neither I don't think anybody anybody have in their house their mother do this either of these it is not such a common prep common practice so how is it that women like handles normally regular with the light on and nothing and how do we do like handles in the in the ina Hotel in the camp or zalman slo-moes on one in the clutch slow-mo zolomon in source 29 says yes originally Shabbos candles were about adding light but today they've they have another additional element and it's even a more defining element it creates an ambiance it creates an atmosphere you go into a fancy restaurant there are camels unlit table why just so why have candles here it's just turn the lights on no when there are candles there's an ambiance so when he walks into the house you know what Shabbos by seeing the candles and that's true even with the lights on and that's enough to make the broth and that is the Hector that's the defense for for Claudius ro right even though he says in 29 and also at the end even though bek Road it was originally enacted to add our nowadays this is the purpose of the Shabbos candles and that is what that is what that is one that is what has done good the show parks hasn't sips and source number 36 s somebody lights where's the Acre place to light what if I'm sleeping at home and eating it by somebody else what if I'm eating at home but I'm gonna light it in a different place sometimes in a hotel they have the candles like somewhere else not anywhere near you're eating the Acre place to light the shock says is what you eat it should give simcha and ambience to the sudha if it's impossible if you're gonna hotel and they set it up if you if you could get it close close but if not you should at least stand near the camel to get some benefit from it if somebody's sleeping in their house and eating some are so that other place is not really me you cut for you so it's probably better if possible to light candles at home first enjoy them for a few minutes and then go or you know enjoy them when you come back but there's an acre element of enjoying the candles and that's why having them what you eat is a crucial element and that is what the the chef on arc says you don't have to have them on the table a lot of times it's like more difficult because you can't clear the table you can't move them and smoke some Aquos yes sir another topic that we'll talk about one day good what if you put something else on the tray then you create okay you can have one the cables only we're always having on the table if you're not gonna get at any motive issues but you don't have to just in the room in the room we'll talk about by kiddush there's a minute of looking at the camels right before you make kiddush so it's an idea of having them also okay one final point let's just try to squeeze it in the show Hunter arc discusses soars 33 are you ought to make it's nigh a condition that you don't accept Shabbos when you light the candles let's see a woman wants to drive to the other side of town on Friday night so she was to like camels they get into a car so is there an except usually you can make it tonight on anything so my locusts re shown him the schita of the Baha Johanna here interesting ly quotes to both opinions source 33 so behad says the Baha walkers Godot Lowe's one of the gonna murder you do I go and says Chavez Campbell's is an automatic Kabbalah you light Chavez Campbell's Chavez you cannot make its nigh it's automatic and others say no you can make it tonight different opinions they suck there's some that argued that say it's not even an automatic Kabbalah but even if you say sort of manic this is Mike Lopez can you make it tonight or not well my so what do we hold step one we passed in the show Connor Hoskins for women it's an automatic Kabbalah for men it's not and therefore if a man ever has to like handles you like make the bra and then you light because in me I'm hands gonna go down women huh women should have been for two but maybe women could have an earlier but the halacha a the meaning is that the accepted custom is that women go by the bog automatic and that's why if a woman lights candles shall have somebody else to like turn off the oven or whatever but a man that's not the bog the man does not accept with his lighting there for a mansion make the brush and then light can a woman ever make it tonight so the post can say once a year meaning it should not be a generally done thing every week once in a blue moon lie sometimes call Nidre right a woman wants to go to college um once a year she wants to or she wants to drive to the Kotel she's in a hotel in an apartment they want to go to take a taxi to the call before Shabbos and then walk back so if it's once in a blue moon then it's okay she says verbalize explicitly I am not accepting Shabbos with this lighting but it should not be a something that happens more often good just two final issues just to mention quickly so we don't this next week I'm in America so I'm not gonna be here next next week okay boy dinner so these are just two quick points number one electric lights the post kimse except for of of idea and thirty-five who is not into it but generally the other post can say that one could use electric lights and make abraca in a hospital you can actually like to plug in you can take a broth on that according to most post can rob a Mordechai willing even says even on a fluorescent light it's not a din of fire it's a din of or have dull is a din of fire you need H but Friday's in of are so anything that would create are number one and number two is what happens if a woman miss Kia it's on the back page the circuit arc discuss is about asking a non-jew to light candles sets motor during banish washes during Twilight we pass kid that you could ask a non-jew to to do Malacca there's even a mugging ever arm this is huge lumbus but not for now a woman can make a bra claw on a non-jews lighting candles which shows it's all about the result of having them lit and not the act of lighting we wouldn't I don't think we would go that far in terms of Lamesa there's a gray Raya that he brings one time but either way you have the sources here this is all hot Lucas narrows Shabbos so again next week there's not gonna be a share won't be here but in two weeks we'll continue either with Zamani how you over to Assefa Shabbos one of the two but be the way you have the sheet in front of you a measurement will be going down the the sheets throughout the year except before the huginn we'll be doing probably uh I don't know maybe some cog unless I do that Thursday night we'll see anyway everybody should have a a good week we'll see you on Thursday you