Zera Shimshon Parshas Shemini with Rabbi Simcha Bunim Berger at Scheiner's Shul

Welcome back. Welcome back. Amen. I just want to thank Torah anytime for making this shir as well as all the other sh available to the public anywhere and anytime. Tonight's Zerashimir is sponsored by Sarah Salt. Thank you so much. In honor of the shur in honor of the class, Hashem should bless you and your family with all good tidings. Anonymous shalom. Okay. This week's We're opening up a new safer since Pesak, which we did volume one. Now we're at volume twoem page letter. The introduction to today's zeros, it's based on the para thea with all the different things happening in this week's para is of kosher food trade for food. The in the middle tells us the story about Aaron's children passed away where according to two streams of fire entered their nostrils from where their nama came out from the where it says it was a death directly of their and in that time and they passed away. The Tyra says told us with those who are close to us, I shall be glorified. I will be sanctified. There'll be a kdushe so to speak in the sense that people understand the the awesomeness of this mo in the front of everyone I shall be honored said nothing the says and Rashi brings down The next para says because of the because he was quiet. He was I forgot to shut it off. Because he was quiet. He was that the aisha would talk to him directly. It would be we just had a grandson. Yeah. Yeah. That's I just did. Okay. Look at [Applause] that. To have he lost two kids, but the was the directly to him. Which means that he became a he connected himself to the Aisha in such a profound way through his through his quietness that when the Aisha told the next parish it says aar it would seem that Aaron's silence was such a grace of madrega because aaron connected him to the aish to connect himself to hashem. So much so that instead of Hashem talking to Mosa and giving Tyra through Mosha the next p was given to Aharin. Just want to tell you a story before we start the zerosion. I heard it from a galinski before one of the ways he would make parinosa. He had different ways of making paranosa through his life. One of them was he would sell a swarm. He would go from city to city selling the he wrote. Nope. One day he had a kulum. He had a dream. In his dream he saw a safer tyra burning. The very bad sign. He saw it was he saw that there was a safer terror burning. He realized that something so he immediately wherever he was he went back to his to I guess to Rad and back to his town. When he came there he arrived at the Leva of his son. One of his children had passed away. Ket came up to the top to the podium and at he said I didn't know that you were going to do this. If I would have known, I would have tried to do something about it. That's what he said. [Music] Now, and he read the parish of Aaron of the of Aaron's two kids. And then he said, I love this child. I take the love that I have for this child and I'm giving it to you. He read the para one more time of Aayida Mahar and he never mentioned the name of that child again for the rest of his life. That's he never mentioned it again. They say you want to understand that when the says when he was said take your son your only one that you love. So Rashi says your son he said have two sons you're one and only one one and only one to one and and and want the other right as that you love I love both of them. So then that's the broke it to him that he's expecting him to be when the says after he unties and he obviously doesn't thera says it doesn't [Applause] say the points out it said aa before the story. It doesn't say because in order for to be able to do what he did, he had to be he had to disconnect. He had to be in control of his emotions and say, "I have to love the Aish more than I love my child." And from that point on, That's what happened to and that we're learning is what happened by he was what the did with his two boys with such a complete he received it accepted it made peace with it that his two children passed away that you know the Gmorrah says Basra a person cannot learn Tyra if he's you know what atsus means depressed you can't be ai mis mismar mismar when did he have the sometimes he was in a good mood so it was mismar he didn't have and sometimes it had to be mismar he had to get something to kick him You hear? So you have to get the somebody to be for him. In order to have in order to have a person cannot be a person cannot be depressed wants to explain to you how devoted was as right after this story is getting a nu He's getting a How could you get a if you're in a unless the says as it says you are not in ais you're devoted to me your devotion is to me was able to get a which means that inside He was fine. I'll tell you one more story. Rabbi Schwab Zra who was just nifter a few weeks ago. Rabbish Schwab the following story. He had a brother named Barak bear. This Barak bear had a brother named Bar. His father Morai Schwab had a lot of children. Mosha had a brother Borak bear borak bear was Schwab's rebi bear the beer this little borak bear passed away at the age of three years old Schwab lost a brother at the age of three when the little boy was three years old after the rebim schwab asks asks, "How you doing? How you doing?" He says, he says, I can say, "But how you doing?" He says, "Outside I look okay inside it hurts." Still hurts. So Schwab gave it his brother Abra Shem should help you should [Music] find six months later tells his brother Shim Shiman Schwab Shim I'm fine last week I had a dream in my dream I'm in my house and there's a knock on the And I open up the door and I see the rebar, my rebi. And holding his hand is my little barak bear. They were holding hands. I knew my little bak bear is in a good place. I'm okay now. I'm okay now. Now I'm okay. I know my kint went to a good place. This week's par, as we're about to learn, the zerosimshin is all about how we accept the good and sometimes unfortunately nishk the bad where it's we started the sphere some people are keeping it first days some people's second days the where there's no music there's no sim Some people goes it's only those two weeks after it's a time when unfortunately passed away. So it's known in cla as of ais in this week's para parmini discusses the Indian of a. So now with that introduction the suga of the of the sya of how a person accepts the good and unfortunately sometimes the not so good. Just like the even the smallest everything is even the smallest. thing doesn't overlook something if God forbid a sadic does something which he shouldn't do. So Benjam sees to it that he gets it in this world even just like he's being with the he's medactic the same way with the we all make mistakes. We're all but we make mistakes. So we're going to get it in this world and there's no mistakes by the way. He pays good for the in this world. He'll pay good for the in the next world. If as we know and we've heard many times and I'll say it again to be clear the the reward of a mitzvah you did a good thing you helped somebody you're going to get this in the next world so I don't understand so why is he giving the in this world make up your mind now Normally why is what's the regular why not why not why normally because the is what like YI says it's too big the world cannot the world cannot give you so the mitzvah is amazing beyond amazing beyond what you could even imagine how could you get a mitzvah in their belt but the zerosion is going to learn a novelty inv let's see what he says the says the after they got all of these says to Don't worry. These things will establish you these why don't you tell me good why only things why is just saying only the why does Rashi say only the bad things the those things reprimanding us that's going to make us good the I'm going to tell you very often the says when a person when things go too good. Unfortunately, sometimes when it's too good and a personem, he has this, he has that. So, he becomes a little bit lax on his observance. All the good promises are not going to be a motivation enough to make a person turn and do the right thing. It says it brings down a story when a person when they did they got good tomorrow. We all know that unfortunately when things get difficult, God forbid you have to end up in a hospital, a family member is there or this or that, then people start praying, people start looking for him to donate to intervene on their behalf. When the paros is not good or some other situation, now we do. Now and if they made a mistake then a person wakes up and says I promise to be good and it's a taco good motivation and works and now I wanted so I the says that people will get that does give good if you're telling me giving good is dangerous gives good says you have to be a real you know what it means you have to be yeah worked out disciplined right disciplined that's right disciplined if you have discipline then the good won't spoil You the inabas says had already a taste of says the gimar at the bottom of hit ones. right says he took offer you know why the a few lines later says the had no on them they were so they had a life Our a and they were filthy rich. They were very wealthy byem in a good way. I said filthy. There is says you walked into that. Yeah. Jewish people have characteristic traits of being a good people because of they gave us that. That's what we inherited from them. Yes, that's our yusha. Okay. But were able to be wealthy and not get spoiled by their wealth because of their because and that's what the says. So and this says the why the doesn't give in this world. You know why? If a person is not such a big sadic, he's he does good mitzvah aid wonderful but you start being mashia too much good that good itself can cause them to become lax and not be disciplined and lose their milo. According to the Zerimmitzvah by Alco is not just because the world itself cannot to take the mitzvah because the mitzvah carries with it a potential of bringing a person down in his top of the next paragraph. causing a personal to be go after his. So you know why the gives in the next world and not in this world for one simple reason because they might not be able to handle it. They might become unless the exception to the rule is if a person's a person is like the other or people on that level then the good won't take them off the path then give it to them. So it comes out that if we talk about the juxiposition, if we compare good right to the in this world, we're probably better off gettingim because it'll keep us first of all anyhus that we have to get comes off already in this world. Number one. Number two, as the zerosion is going to say, it's probably also going to turn us around in case we need to be turned around. So, it's going to be a cap and it's going to put us on the right path. Therefore, a person who gets with things which don't go the way he would like them to go, things are not doing so well, it does two things. When a person does a sin, the person should realize and not do a sin anymore. So when a person sees that things don't go so well, don't say, "Why are you doing this to me? What did I do wrong?" Be honest. Look in the mirror and ask yourself, "No, so what did you do wrong?" No, you must have done something. Well, somebody's never going through a difficult time. You look at the guy and you say that the guy is a is a nice you know you God loves you still loves you. He's waking you up for heaven's sake you up but that's because there's something wrong with you because you did because that person did something and now he has an opportunity to fix it up gentlemen. Maybe we just want to test him anyway. Sadik Val has a of which the ra is really good. We're going to get there about we're we're almost there. But I'm I'm happy is asking why she's saying the telling us if the sending you it's a good reason number one because there's something you need to tweak. You need an Is any chiropractors here? You need an adjustment, right? You're not standing 100% straight. So you need an adjustment. So you show your spine. So you should be straight. Number one, you should feel and you should know and you should leave alone. You should step back from the sin you're doing. That's why you're not getting the of this mitzvah. Because let's face it, gentlemen and ladies, if you're not in the right place because you a person's doing a and you get that's terrible because that's going to take you down the wrong way. Besser, leave it for them and you'll get the full. So number one is there to wake up. Number two, a person will do. Guess what [Music] happens? He'll get a porro. He gets the first round of isurim are there to wake him up. The second round of isurum is with the chuva. Like the Rambam writes, if a person does a sin and he does chuva and he gets we're learning this. What does it say in Mak is very important. If a person is supposed to get curus and instead the Adam give him a warning for malus and he gets the malus and he does chuva. You know what? He doesn't have to get the curse. Listen to this my rebby flake zen the malus saved his life the malus save he was gonna get kurus mismay and instead he got malus and he did chuva that's it free the best thing that could happen to him is get the malus like this you're alive makes sense but it's not a walk in the park but getting courage person dying before 60 is not a walk at all. Forget about in the park and that's it. You're not going anywhere. So says the so because now thanks to these he has a when does a sin is an equal opportunity employer. sends to Alam to the Sadik. Everybody, everybody, everybody's getting a chance. Wake up. The Sadic sees it. I did something wrong. He looks in himself. I need to fix it up. Let me do Let me do the Raja says, "Where is God? How come he's not taking care of me?" Starts blaming. You know what the Bam says? I'm wasting my time. He's not listening. I sent him. He saw him. I sent him. So I'm doing him a favor. You know what? Just give him his already. I'll just give him this because anyway, he's not going to understand. And that's why and that's why says the says that's why it says in the gim that forgets in this world because if anyway not going to listen. So says what am I going to go? I'm going to fight with him. I'm trying. trying to he doesn't want you I should give you I should give you in this world and in the next world but at least you should have it good over here at least you have good over here says let's finish off we're running out of time says look at he has some bomb If we summarize what we've learned so far is as follows. Rabbi we're asking why is it that the sends says and yet he's giving the and he's giving the all of this punishment and we're saying the terret is because getting is dangerous because it could take you in the wrong way. The first thing a person should really get and if a person needs to be fixed up and needs a tick and who doesn't need a tick get some so the don't work so well the have a little bit of anxiety get yourself close to the figure out what you're doing wrong and it'll be good for you because this way you know whatever it is nobody's perfect and the wants us to be perfect he wants us to fix things up he's sending and the way that says it's good cuz He's waking you up and when he gives you the punishment, he does it in a way. He doesn't give it to you in the full throttle. He takes it off a little bit. That's how he's because he's giving you the and he gives it in a way this is listen to this. So maybe when you get you should make page Wow. You got to be the to ask this. If I've already explained, says the all the bad is good. As much as you love your children, the loves you more. And the only reason he's bringing isim is because we need to straighten out. And if a person straightens out, it's the best thing that could ever happen to him. Imagine you want to invest money in a business deal and the business deal is a rotten deal and you don't know that and some glitch happens and you find out that you know you lose a couple of bucks but before you put all your money in you found out before and it was a scam. Wouldn't you be happy? You say I lost only a little. I could have lost everything. Right? So what would you make a D make a make a so as the B is doing this a favor by giving us in this world. So make I don't see this as bad at all. I don't see the bad says because we have to fix ourselves up and if you make on the then in a way you'd be asking the give me bad and and is you can't go so far. You're just you're just saying yeah. He says I'd rather you say die in em say die in em. Don't say it's You know why? Because if you say die in emis then your den is done. No pun intended. Your den is done and you don't have to have any more den. Then your den is done. What does maz come in with? What mas was? People always say, "Oh, this guy never doesn't have a good masle." Okay. Now at 9:05 you're asking me that kasha and now anymore. Okay. Mas are separate. Mas are separate because that's the way the we talked about in the past. And the the 302 answer is that each person starts off with a different masle because that's the realm in which the wants him to work. Now as he goes along depending on his mim. So he can either do things to ruin his masle or to enhance or change his masle in a better way. But the masle that you start off with has already been pre-ordained before you came to this world. what you do afterwards. But like we're learning. Let's summarize. Like we're learning tonight. This is what we learned from. He was the prototype. He lost two children, which means he made 100% peace with what the aster did. So much so as the fear as he says at the end that the was able to give him you can't talk to you don't get if you're don't get if you're depressed you don't get if you're not how in the world was to be able to get the say he so made peace with what the Aisha did like the story we said of the that he understood the I had to my child I gave to you by doing that he was able to make peace and rise to the level so much so he was connected to the every that the sends us every curveball is meant for you it's meant exactly the nan the nan that gets thrown at you day in and day out. Sometimes they're big, sometimes they're small. It could be a nudnik who's driving in front of you 15 miles an hour and you're rushing to get to the shar. It could be a person who is it could be whatever it is and that's your that's where wants and that's where you have to grow from. We, you, all of us to grow from our to learn from our and to use these instances and these stories to connect to the