Zera Shimshon Parshas Re'eh with Rav Simcha Bunim Berger at Scheiner's

Good evening, Marai. >> Welcome back. It's almost time to start once again. Back to learning Tyra. Vacation is over. Hopefully, nobody took a vacation from learning Tyra, but we took a little break from our regular schedule and now we're back. It's >> one other that we did other I told you other than the one that you sent. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> We've done before. We're going to do two pieces on the Indian of there's we'll begin on page shin letter yud. We'll be doing two pieces tonight. Letter Yud and letter Z. and they're linked together. First of all, tonight Zerimshin is they're more on the is sponsored by Sam Koig in honor of the wedding of his children Mandal and Miriam Zelda. The was Tuesday evening. Mazy Eisenberger is sponsoring a co-sponsor nishmas his Russia Shiva and his rebi raber wine. I happen to have been at the Leva on this Sunday and I was also in Eritrol. Rabbi Wine was a rashiva and a RV where everyone could feel connected. He was everybody's rebi he was such a deus such a figure and so knowledgeable in tyra kol has a big loss with the loss of rabbi one z like I told his son he was so knowledgeable in tyra he was so clear and He was so welllearned that you had the confidence that if you had a shila, you could always go to him and get an answer. >> You felt the you felt the firm foundation of a >> who could tell you or anyone whatever you needed to know. He was that type of in everything. >> So our should be since it's being sponsored. [Music] The last in this week's para it says three times a year a person should come and it says of the is referring to the mitzvah of and the amount that a person should spend is based on as much as the gave him the of the he gave to you asks thee there's repetition in the p let's look at That whatever was given to him. Isn't that a double lotion again? Page letter. Why is the word necessary in the What's the double? And a third question, the P changes gears in the middle. The Pik begins talking and then is talking directly. Meaning look at it. Pay attention to the Pik. The way he was blessed. That means we're talking about him of third person. The way a person was blessed. That's to you. That's direct. That's first person. [Music] We must be talking about two different people. If there's a reference in the and then there's so it's talking about two different scenarios explains the certain mention there are two types of people we're talking about financially theem mention that the gives them way more than they themselves need. Then their family needs than their there is a person which masle could have a good mazle might not be the smartest person. What did one one time Mr. Rman once said? He said business is 99% masle 1%. If I could take the 1% and get nois of masle, I would trade that in as well too. But every bit of mazle, every bit of masle is hashem. I talk about masle. I just want to wish mazle to our Jonathan Barashem who over the last two weeks that we were gone made of two. Yeah, I was to be at I missed the wedding, but I was to be at I missed last night's shar because it was worthwhile to go to the bro because I felt there was you don't have to ask I have to ask for not being at the wedding but I I also learned how important it is and I share this with sometimes you never know you go to you go to a should I go should I not go it makes a very big difference when you show up. Never secondguess the idea of whether you should go or not. You should always go. Showing up makes a big difference. Makes a very big difference. And I was I was happy yesterday to I had to cancel three shurim and one dinner meeting to go to the chev which was at the other side of the world in New York. But it was worth the whole thing. It was worth it just to see the sim on the face of the family >> in the rain. So yeah, it was cedarhurst was like you needed a boat instead of a car. >> But I want the to know that it's the right thing. It's a lesson. You never you we don't sometimes don't understand how important it is to show up by someone else. Whether it's a sim or whether it's an ais you show up. It makes a huge difference the support that the person gets. So we should be to much more and by all of us gives him what give the person so much for why did he give it to you share it >> the terror says I've added to share it right you know what he's called says the zerosim He's called a He's a gave it to him and he lent it to him. Them a person who has more than he needs than he or she needs to support themselves and their family. So what they should give it to you? You don't need that much. The ter says he's empowering you. You owe it to Hashem to be a to help others. So in a sense that person is a he's a he's borrowed. He owes it to the you have other people. They're the middle class. They have enough what we call inites. They have just enough to finish the month. That's about it. Go be there right at the end of the month. Right. I finished the month. There are clearly two kinds of people who have and people have a fellow who doesn't have anything extra in a certain sense doesn't owe the anything says the zerosion. Wow. You know why? Because he obligated himself as it says Gmorra says a half of a fellow I think it was tris who said to rabas the who created people and he created them with the need to be sustained isn't it his responsibility to do Shouldn't the bee is you made us and you made us not self-sufficient. You made us deficient. We can't take care of ourselves. We need to be we need to eat. We need to sleep. We need to drink. We need we need right. Open up your hands and feed us. was himself to take care of us. Aisha's job. So when a person has so in a sense says you can't call him that he borrowed from Hashem because said I'm going to give you what you need and you have what you need. You don't have any extras what enough >> means exact >> exact by the way the shabas and is not on the number two. That's already above and beyond. That's not part of the when it talks about in 30 days how much he's going to make not including for the children or us grand we take care of grandchildren or right or for that's a separate there are two types of people says the next page the second person who has just what he needs He is referred to, you know, there's this very funny situation. You have the poor person, but he's a mench. Because in a sense, Aisha, you can't expect me to give away thousands of dollars to Seduck. I don't have it. I just have what I need. I have exactly what I need. He's called me. He's not considered alive and he's not. He gets according to what was given to him. He has to give sudak. Even an has to give sudaka. Allig everyone has to give soda. Everyone has to give meer. Yeah. But >> is after all the >> what's that? So the Timsum is after all this >> is with with the after the that's all he's got >> and the is from the >> is the rich person says the right he says it inside mayor he was given the I'll tell Once there was one of the Reb, the Sajera Rebba from the the previous one used to have two Balabatim would come to him also so the Reb had designated gir a couple of And he would tell the person come to him go to this and this person and they'll give you once there was a story about a woman. She had two boys that became she was an almon. She had no husband and both of her kids became two of her sons were became she had no way to marry them off and she went to the reb and the rebba said you should give what was back then considered $5,000 told her to tell this gir should give $5,000 for each boy should be able to make so she went to the Gir and Gir was having a hard time at that time and he gave her half two and a half for each boy. He gave Ketsi a week later he had a big map in his business. He had a and he lost a heapped right away that it was connected. He realized immediately it didn't take it didn't take such as he came to the reb and he says rebre I'm sorry I didn't if I would have known how important it was then I I would have given I would have stretched myself so the gob my making a big mistake you're making a big mistake you think that you're giving giving from your money. You think you're giving for they give people don't come to you the way they come to me. They come to me for the money. They come to the rabbi. He said, "So the should put my money by you. I'm the one who has to give this. It's my guilt that I have to give out by you. As long as you are listening to me, you're a good sha. You give Don't worry. I already found somebody else to give my money. Says you have as much as you need. So what do you have more for? Says wants to be mak us with the opportunity to be a to be a pipe to give to other people. That's our that we have. As a matter of fact says is the says when there's an and he doesn't have enough and you're helping him out you're doing my job says why is it that what's giving it saves a person from death what's Right? It's much deeper than that. Like we said beforehand's job, he created the world. He created us. He has to sustain us. He has to give us the the he has to take care of us. He is known as he is the source of life of the world. When the created the world, he gave people the opportunity to do his job. I have to take care of them. I'm going to give you the opportunity to help take care of somebody else. This way, you become the source of life to that person. You become the through you that could live. If you're the source of life, then you won't die. [Music] You put yourself in a massive of being the source of life. A source of life does not die. Death is a source of because he became a source of life that says the continues. So these are the two people. That's what it means. The Pik said on the one hand there's one person who was given as much as he needs. Then that he gave you meaning to say that there is a special connection where a person becomes empowered by the aish to be able to be a source of life for others giving a person more above and beyond. Now I know what everybody's thinking here. How do you get to being in category two? I'd like to be the le of the aishar. For that we have another zerosion. We have zerosimshin zion. Let's go back one page where he once again in a short piece discusses the inion of giving to others. Take a look ra a small zerim. We're doing as I said in our introduction we're doing two of them letter y and now we're going to do letter z. And they connect together beautifully. The says, listen to the double. Give the heart shouldn't feel bad. You shouldn't feel bad when you give him [Music] when you give him for this thing is giving you a let's take a look at the zerion there are many duke in this p first of all what's the notion of no question number one what's the double notion no A B. What does it mean to say that you're going to feel bad when you give him? If you don't want to give him, don't give him. What does it mean? You feel bad when you give him then you're going to feel bad. >> Think it's yours. >> What? What is that? So because of this thing, you have a this thing not something else comes to it's something else. Let's see the lotion inside. Question number one. Why does it say double? When you're giving it just give them and don't feel bad and don't give. What kind? What does it mean? Don't give. Don't feel bad when you're giving. This way gives you the other one doesn't. What's going on? There are two types of responsibilities in seduck. Earlier we spoke about two types of people. One who can give a lot and one who can only gets bits simp. Now we're going to talk about two different types of seductus. One which is the and one which is above and beyond the let's see how the zeros explains this. There's one concept of as much as gives you The people who have more should give more because they could give more. The people who have less some for them they give what they can. And then there's another which is you sometimes have an uni who finds himself or herself in a really bad situation. your 10% or your micer isn't going to take care of it for them because unfortunately they need more or because it's a pigeon. It's a spatial situation which doesn't the regular tiduck is not going to cover the costs. There's one den of the giver. He has to give his 10% or his 20%. That's the but sometimes if you look at it from the perspective of the receiver for the receiver there in this situation is great. Then people have to stretch themselves. I always say over there was a fellow in Westport. Wasn't from he used to say, "Rabbi, it only really counts for seducko when it hurts." When it hurts, right? That's when you get the real mitzvah. That's what he used to was an investor lived in Westport. He was a good fellow. When it hurts, he said that's when says the nimish of first type of is the 10% the 20%. That's the that a person has to give no matter what we'll call it. That's you got you have to give. But then that's not you know means means to say I want right because needs it. This is the concept of there's a no and there's a no sign you give your 10% you give your but I can't promise you that you're going to get a super abundance of of yetmer That's one but and then there's according to what is from him the second I know what you're thinking I have to give him so much I have to take so much. [Music] The second type of giving could cause a person to feel upset and feel he's using me. I'm giving I gave. Do you know why? You want to get the big bra the first one you give the first one is it's but over there I can't promise you that you're going to get but when a person stretches himself and I want to be m of one point which is a very big point sometimes a person can't give but he could see that others should give that makes us very uncomfortable. When your eyes remember the first time one of my I was I was still I was just a young man went back to Los Angeles and one of my friends asked me one of the he said to me when you go to LA and some of my there maybe you fellows could raise money for me. I need some money. I remember thinking to myself, I just rather write him the check. The fact I have to go to other people and start asking money from this. I felt so uncomfortable. Just let me give it to him. If I have it, I'll give it to him. But to go and ask for ask others when sometimes a person can't give, but he puts himself out for a if it's for a if it's for a if it's this and then he asks other people. So then say The person who is the doer and the maker and sees to it that other people should give has the of even bigger than the one giving the saddaka because here he is he's extending himself for another ye for another where it's so uncomfortable to do but yet he does it anyway. So not always are we talking about the second of when a person goes above and beyond the call of duty where he has to write the check himself but he can facilitate for others that someone else should do it and he's putting himself out for that. [Applause] Let's finish off the zeros. When you give according to your money, when you do your amount, you can't necessarily get that big present. You have to give more than your because the needs it then says you can get a presses a present. [Applause] going from category A which we saw in the first which is a person who had mitsum and he how did he get to category number B because he went above and beyond his means to do something which was really big like the fellow from Westport said he's pushing himself he's pushing himself above and beyond the limits That's what the is coming to tell us that type of there's no which you're giving and then there's which you give for which puts you in an uncomfortable position. So gives us opportunities again and again to be there for each other to be there for you. So help we should be You