Zera Shimshon Parshas Ki Seitzei by Rabbi Simcha Bunim Berger at Scheiner's Shul

tonight's Zar is sponsored by it should be for him and his wife everybody who learns his safer this week was his yard site and we are all consider Ed like his we're his children and if we're his children he's our tati and if he's our tati then he's going to help us out pres hem this week we're going to learn this week's para letter Z which is Page Shin B we're going to learn about the qualities of being am being a ye who's allowed into CLA who's allowed into what's called this week's tah portion says I'm going to read some of the background from the should not be part of the words of the Tyra are very interesting it's differental hasem Beal hasem literally would the word kahal means a congregation the congregation of Hashem is the Ty telling us we're not supposed to accept converts from Ami is that what it's saying no they can convert and they can become Jewish but Judaism has two different tiers there's CLA ISRO and then there's called hasem blue blooded if we want to use that terminology blue blooded Jews that are called kahal Hashem which means let's talk about a Mamer for a minute is a m Jewish 100% Tata is a mother's Jewish but she lived with somebody she wasn't supposed to the child's a Mamer he has to put Onin if it's a boy bris Milo but the said what does that mean that means that CLA has different tears he can get an alah yeah you can get alyah is the status of Purity within CL a person who's a mitz was and Egyptian who converted to to Judaism d means if the father converted his child is called a Doren his anle his grandchild is Dari that generation can marry any Jew no matter what tati can't Zi can't the Father the child can't the anle could why because the T says and the same is true with The Offspring of asov the says so the first thing that we're establishing tonight is that within CL you could become Jewish and you're a Jew may you get an Aliyah 100% Jewish however there is another status that the calls it's called hasem what does it take to be in kashem a person cannot have any blemishes with their lineage so a regular convert you're in kahal AEM a regular convert could be part of kashem but if they come from certain Nations then depending on which nation you come from you might not be able to get into kahal right away it might take a little time like a MIT or an ad three generations regarding regarding those who are our cousins you know why there are cousins because they're L's children like was ab's nephew says even if it's 10 Generations never that was the debate that was the debate in the time of the where cl's Echelon debated whether Rus she'll be a convert G she converts to Judaism she's Jewish but to marry Boaz is she allowed to do that that he's he's a regular ye and hisz PAs and that's our discussion tonight and that's our sheer the men were kicked out the women not in the doesn't make such a distinction thear discusses it let's say say has such a conversation it's that's where the discusses it the of lineage but the is there no difference between the am and the excuse me the mid with men and women only by am and the fellows the guys the gim out forever the women the women in immediately right away was not allowed into shave of right for that reason she not she was it that that was because was she because he wasn't part of dun she was from dun but he's father was a MIT not because he was a mitz sh he was also a Mamer too right because she was married to somebody else correct correct very good because he wasn't part of shave done so he had no right to put his tent there we're learning Z so one more time the writes and here it gives a reason I'm going to read for you what it says in the because of the words or the thing the the they didn't offer you and M they didn't come out to greet clo with bread and water when CL left Egypt they should have been greeted by am and to welcome them and to support them they turned they in Yiddish we say which means they totally ignored CL they made themselves like they don't I don't know they made themselves n nothing nothing that's one and they hired this mercenary bam to go ahead and curse CL for those two things there that's the reason Hashem didn't listen to b because he loves us therefore don't say shom to them stay away as I state in the T says the z p he gave you an gave they gave an the CL sinned unfortunately with remember 20 4,000 Jews died out of the 600,000 it could have been much much worse if not for pin's intervention but CL suffered and it was because of an to be Clash on the words rash inserts another reason the T writes the reason because cuz they didn't come out to greet you and the Rashi adds another reason because they were M says the hi asks theer the obvious question is why does rash have to give a different reason if the gives one reason if the says because of because of why is Rashi giving in eight says about being that's the first question means it could have said aler so because it says he saw an extra word in the because he saw an extra word in the he because of the but as knew so now there's an extra but what do I need it for if the gives one reason the says and you're telling me because of the that they give so there is an extra word in the the reason was sent away and became an Abomination was because causing a person to sin is like worse than even killing him you're making him sin spiritually why don't why does rash need extra reasons the and according to rash if the real reason is because you were because you made them sin so what's the and by the way just let's already ask this why is it so terrible that they don't come out with and that that's the reason why is that so terrible so you didn't come and approach them says the if the reason was if that would have been written then who was M them who was it ladies the ladies the girls right they seduced the Jewish people if the Tyra would have talked about that how in the world could you say how could you say that they don't have blood on their hands that they're not guilty if they're the ones who are it was the women who laa caused CLA to fall so how come the t is not writing that reason if that's the reason a why isn't it writing it B how come we're allow to marry how come Rus was allowed in the terit is and what is the second reason listen to the lumus the ter why are the women off the hook why is it only the men why not the women the ter say says the gar the gor says because the men were the ones in charge the men say once upon a time I'm not talking now hit once upon a time the world had a different perspective about what the definition ofas isas is not whether just your the whether you know you're closer to the Elbow or over your knee many ladies barash are extremely sistic wonderful but sne also has to do with a way of life of being careful about what one says not just shooting text or spreading information sne is a way of life it's not a way of how one dresses and there was a certain Majesty not just by the girls by the boys by Gans CL you saw but certainly by the women of having a certain therefore this is a very important Point let's make it very clear we'll translate the T says the main reason is because but Rashi says that's not the main reason it's so why are we doing the switch the ter is to bring out a major Point why was it that CL why was it that were held accountable because where were the guys where were they to bring an accommod they CLA where were they to go ahead and accept CLA to make CLA feel good we had that tin against the men not against the women because that time it was on the men not on the women says the zerin just like you see that the men were able to stop the women or it was not appropriate for women to go out and that's why there was no tin on them why they they didn't go ahead and give other women food so when they did go out you have to know that the control was by the man and they were being Honus to go out they weren't calling the shots so although it was because of the women but it was it was not because of it was through the women because of the men meaning they were the one calling the shots they were the one in control and they're the ones who were M and they're ones so now let's explain the indeed doesn't want to have to do with because of the sin and the way they were they made and the way they caused death to 24,000 it wasn't on the because the women were also involved it was the Diabolical plan that they it was the fathers forcing their girls to go out and do this sin and convincing them it's like laav maybe it is even La when the Arabs when the muties get up and rile up a crowd and and convince them and get the crowd to a state of rage and then those people go out and carry out what the B um taught them and what he rile them up so he is the one with power he's the one in this case the O of those girls are the ones who are being M the girls so even though the happened through the girl girls but we says the who was Theon who was the leader who was the Mover and check who made it happen they did yet if they would be you give someone to eat you're so now that they didn't do it they're considered disgusted the ran and the par asks what was such a terrible thing like and he even asked him say didn't that the end of the 40 years they did give them when they came out of MIT they didn't give them they give them later so what's so terrible listen toan and let's learn the lesson of am says the ran is one of the foundations of good mid understanding that when someone does something for you that you have to have an appreciation that a person has to truly and honestly recognize when someone has done you a favor and show this program that they're going to be sending out beem in the next few weeks here is going to be an opportunity for all of us here who come to Davin and learn to show to 18 for 20 for and personally even to laser Sher for all that he does that's coming up is the foundation of the nation listen to what says these two brothers am and these two brothers the sons the grand sons of Light and the sons of Light light's daughters who gave the names am and they had so much to be thankful from he saved their parents their father and their mothers from from being killed and from being captured when they were captured when light was captured by the malim the four against five who went to war and who risked his life for light ab and then and when s was being turned over who saved him again AB ainu multiple times AB ainu stuck his neck out and light wouldn't be there if not for light's daughters wouldn't be there if not for a and wouldn't be there for not for so for heaven's sakes now CL the children of coming out of you don't have to say thank you you don't have to go and say let me do something to show a little bit of a they should have done good any decent moral human being would feel responsible we got to show our we need to show that I appreciate what you did not they did Evil one of them went and hired to curse them as came close they turned around that's who you are you can have nothing to do with our nation The Children of abrah Children of who eat of them was able to conquer their and they were able to have good like like from each the mar says is a direct it's in our DNA how can you miss with such people in their DNA they're missing something that doesn't doesn't they're not compatible like you do you do to make sure you those don't have and if they don't have they can't be part of it was the men's responsibility the women were not given that opportunity they stayed at home so the women were not held accountable for this there's no on them so it's only AA on the men and not on the women and therefore am and Rus was able to become immediately part of Clauson that's why she was in but it teaches us RAB it teaches us very clearly the attitude that we ye have to have and understand RAB everybody one way or another gets insulted and hurt from another ye no one's perfect we all make mistakes we all make mistakes but to hold a grudge for weeks and months and years and not to talk to somebody for years because it's brus that's not something Jewish it's not Jewish it's not Jewish Al if a person can hold a grudge against another Jew even if the other person is wrong and has wronged you but it isn't right to continuously bear and be angry at that person that's not Yiddish that you've been me you've been influenced by the GHA world around us it's not the yat that it's coming from it there's deep down any ye in this week's para again and again it says when you see a lost object of when you see this thing your brother when you see something which belongs the says your brother your brother your brother you know those are the mid of kahal hasem that's called kahal a Congregation of the where even if somebody does something wrong to us we're willing to say let's move on let's be M let's be the bigger one the once said when two people are fighting and one person gives in he said in Yiddish the bigger person bends down the can because the small person can't the big one is the one who says I'm sorry who lowers themselves cuz the smaller person is not big enough to be able to bend you have to be big to be able to say I'm sorry you have to be big to be able to say it's I don't want to fight anymore that's the message of kahal hasem that's the that's the softness which is that's our that's our DNA that's what makes up a yishan nation and that's why we talk about other Jews this week's para in the terms of they your brother a brother has lost something a brother needs something it's not just another Jew it's an a it's a brother to the person so therefore when nations of the world become Yiddish and they but they can't exhibit that kind of Brotherly connection they can't have that mid of by they could be Jewish they could be part of Cl but they can't be part ofal hasem they can't be part of the nation this is our a every single year during the of el is to awaken theal Hashem within us to recognize that mistakes that we've made throughout the year have made us lose our own identity have made us lose and forget what it means to be a ye to be able to become so angry to be able to become in such a and therefore not talk to other Jews not talk to family members not talk to kinder Kinder not talking to parents that's not Jewish that's not Jewish so how does it happen it happens because of the influence of the and the that's around us that's part of What's called the LA EV it's a hard stone that becomes a person's heart becomes hard this is a it's a time that makes a like a briso oras means or is the name of a an oral a forkin the oral oras means that CL can unfortunately get to a d where they're so fared they're so stuffed up that they can't have the regish where they feel what deep in their hearts they should be feeling and they lose the sensitivity become desensitized is it's a that we can rip away that so that we should be able to feel what a Jew really feels which is that we're all Brothers this is what expects from us this is the definition which what we started tonight which is called a congregation where is identified with that nation that nation is that nation is a nation that has full of good within them and dispenses and is only doing good that has to stay pure why bad not willing to have the common deeny of having that that you're if not for him you wouldn't be around and you can't do anything for their kids you can't be a part of we should be to feel theal hasem inside every single one of us it's there it's natural the fact that we don't feel it maybe is because we're covered up with layers of desensi we're being desensitized to the K of that the should be a good