Yud Tes Kislev 5775 (2014) Chicago: Who Am I? Where I'm I Heading? What's My Purpose?

[Music] daughters [Music] good evening to one and all dear friends ladies and gentlemen gathered here to celebrate ut's kislev the liberation day of rabbi schneider zalman of liadi the al-tarabh as well as the yard site of his rebbe the great maggid of mizritsch who passed on yutez kislev the 19th of kislev the successor of the holy balshempt of the founder of the khasidik movement arafa brengan in the year tough race pay test the sixth lubavitcher ebba the rabbi rayats said something astounding he repeated in the name of one of the disciples of the al-tareb of the balatanya who said that the rabbi rabbi zalman once said that i have achieved in heaven that you test his slave should be treated like james kipper in the sense that whatever a jew will request on the 19th of kislev will be accepted in heaven it's been two hundred and sixteen years since the liberation day of the balatanya in 1798 tough cuff nuntes for more than two centuries hasidim and jews the world over have commemorated celebrated rejoiced on yutez kislev through gatherings through feasts and homes and shows and communities in centers the world over and 216 years later the energy the passion the excitement and the vitality of utes kislev has no or not only not faded it increases from year to year last year i had the privilege of spending yuta's kislev in the holy land i spoke one night in khwar khabad where the public fabregan for you to schistle have attracted some five six thousand jews from all across the land and the dancing the celebration the festivities and the feeling of ashrae numa thank you um was palpable the next time i was in jerusalem in the great synagogue close to a thousand jews came to celebrate for yuta's kislev this year i have the privilege of being here with you in chicago at free on and the question is what's the power of youtube many powerful exciting revolutionary movements sprung up in jewish life some a few decades ago a century ago many of them took off with tremendous oomph and attracted sometimes hundreds of thousands if not millions of young jews but 50 100 years later they're lifeless because revolutions need a special blessing to stay they're always exciting in the beginning but the continuity proves to be far more difficult when the original excitement fades away and reality sets in and cynicism sets in corruption takes over and often the idealism of great idealist dies down as time goes on in the case of utes kisliv 216 years later in 5775 2014 option ina the celebration of utas kislev tonight spans literally the globe with hundreds of thousands of jews and probably every community in the world gathered in one form or another virtually or in reality to celebrate what's the kayak what's the power of yutas kislov friends they tell the anecdotes about a man who went on vacation in the winter wanted to run away from cold chicago he took a vacation he went to the bahamas in the bahamas he was enjoying his stay at the hotel and from there he wrote a postcard to his therapist he's been in therapy for 31 years as the custom of good jews so he wrote a postcard to his therapist back in chicago and he says i'm here in the bahamas i'm having an awesome time i'm enjoying every moment of it and i wish you were here to tell me why the search the search for human identity spans the history of homo sapiens with the first glimmer of consciousness other marisha in the first man is confronted with the question by the creator ayeka we're art now the moment he eats from the tree of knowledge the tree of some form of self-consciousness god asks him the question that will plague humanity since ayaka where are you as the rabbi in tsarist imprisonment was confronted by a czarist russian minister who asked him why did god ask adam where are you does hashem not know where man is so the altered said rashi answers the question and the russian christian minister an educated man says what rashi says i know i want to hear what you have to say and the alternative then explained to him that it's the question that god asks every human being throughout her or his life ayeko it's not only a geographical question where are you in the east or in the south like every jewish wife asks her husband ayaka where are you you said you're going to be home in 20 minutes it's been four hours that would be my answer why god asked him aye he was telling him that this is going to be the question every jewish man is going to answer he's going to have to answer or get out of but the altitude explained that yaka is where are you vubisto of developed you have been sent down to this world with a mission with a purpose where are you have you fulfilled are you fulfilling your destiny are you aware of your contribution are you maximizing your potentials are you serving the creator the way he needs you and wants you to serve they say there was a jew in hellam a city in poland who had a struggle a problem he was what's called the yiddish accracea you know what it is procrastinator but a procrastinator sorry is not an accurate translation of a kratzer some yiddish words just defy translation and each day it took him two hours to get out of the house because he always misplaced something else one day he misplaced his keys the other day he can't find his shoes the third day can't find his hat he can't find his coat he can't find his jacket so he comes to the rov of hell i'm the rabbi of khalim and he says but what should i do so the rabbi of khalim says listen to my brilliant advice the night before when you're in bed take a little pat and write down on a piece of paper where everything is your shoes and your keys and your pants and your hat and your suitcase everything and then in the morning you'll follow the list and you'll find everything that night lays down in bed takes out the pet and he goes through the list of necessities that he's going to need tomorrow and he writes where everything is and finally he comes to number 12 the most important thing is himself where am i so he says i am in bed next morning he jumps out of bed my donny washes his hands gets dressed follows the list and within no time two minutes he has all the items he's ready to go never happened before now he comes to item number 12 i am in bed so he goes to bed to search for himself and he searches and he searches and he searches like you search for hummus under the pillow and below above the pillow under the mattress and under the bed he crawls he's looking and looking and looking and some people say that he's still searching after three hours he comes to the rabbi and he says rebel why did you deceive me usually it takes me two hours to get out of bed to get out of the house today three hours i'm still searching i can't find myself i'm looking for myself in bed then i can't find myself but this anecdotal episode where sometimes the very search for self is the most elusive search and the very consciousness of the search doesn't allow us to discover it really is the portal to at least understand one aspect of the power the relevance the message of hasidus which yutes kislev is the day that celebrates the contribution the priceless gift of the hasidic teachings from the world of the balsham the magi the al-tarab and their students and successors to this very day a friend of mine the chabad rabbi at duke university rabbi zalman blooming shared with me today that a student in the business school of duke related to him the other day that this year the first day the opening semester of the business school at duke he walked into class and the professor not june not a jew opens up the class to these ivy league brilliant students future movers and shakers in the business world and the way he opens his classes i'm going to stare with you a story about a hasidic jew in moscow this wasn't what this duke student would expect he didn't understand what does a hasidic jew in moscow have to inform him about business in the 21st century in the u.s but he was listening and the professor said there was a jew walking in the streets of massacre and you know in good old russia i don't know if it was so good then i don't know if it was so old but he's walking in the streets and you had to have your id constantly and if you were caught without identification papers for that itself you can be arrested and this policeman stops this hasidic jew and he says who are you and where are you heading tell me who are you and where are you heading and this custod breaks down in a smile he runs over to the policeman and he embraces him and he says i would pay you 250 ruble a day if you could come over to me every hour and ask me those two questions very vistu and we are your heading where are you who are you and where are you adding the truth is there was an interesting fellow who would ask those questions jacob our father in the portion of ayishla which we just read tells the messengers who would deliver a lavish gift of animals from yaakov to asa from jacob to eso he says you're going to meet my brother and he's going to ask you three questions the first question is le first question is let me ask who are you who do you belong to the second question is we're going on a sale and the third question is what are you doing and jakob says he's going to ask those questions and you have to have an answer prepared and yaakov says you have to tell them if we belong to yaakov we're coming from your servant where are we heading and what are we holding we're carrying a gift to asaf to his brother says the hidushayarim the first hasidic master of the dynasty of gair repeats a mayor alter a contemporary and a friend of the rabbit zamachadek says the hidusha arim and he says there is a profound symbolism in this detail of the dramatic narrative and genesis of the relationship between jacob and eso yaakov is telling every jew my brother asaf is going to pose three questions to you and the objective of those three questions is to get you depressed sad dejected melancholy and downtrodden because when you're sad depressed and ejected then you can easily become a victim to all forms of destructive inappropriate demoralizing addictive behavior his first question is going to be let me at the very best we coming from and what he wants you to say to yourself is rujoh which in english i guess is i come from very very rotten dysfunctional putrid origins who am i who am i either i'm an addict or i'm insecure or i'm jealous or i'm angry or i have been hurt or i have been abused or i'm a victim where i come from a dysfunctional family if you would only know if you would only know what type of marriage i'm in you know the mice you don't know the mice there was once a jew erevium kipper walking to shul he was a very religious jew came from lithuania what you would call a genuine litvak in the old days i don't know if they have them today and he meets this house and the hustler looks at me says why are you so depressed he says him kipper he says why are you depressed i'll tell you the truth i checked my iphone i haven't committed a single sin since last jim kippur what am i going to do oh yum kipper oh yum kippy you got to confess i don't have anything to confess and you say god's name away cain over the key have he said it's going to be reciting god's name in vain i have no sins the hustle looks him says what's the problem there's a half an hour left to him kipper he says what can i do in a half an hour because what can you do plenty for example your next-door neighbor do you love him or hate him of course i hate his guts she says why don't you go over to your neighbor knock on the door and beat him up where do you have a better sin than beating up another jew right before him kipper and then you'll be able to confess your sins or your kipp you'll have a glorious day he says what an idea brilliant i always knew i could trust you he goes to his neighbor knocks on the door the man opens the door for 20 minutes he kicks him and strikes him and beats him the poor man is to zest sahax he finishes the beating he says leaves the home makes a shakhyanu and walks to samaya with levy so happy ah now he's gonna have a young kipper he did a real aveda real soon he could confess as he's walking down the street the wife of the beaten jew comes running out to the porch and she screams down the block she says which means jew i don't know your name but i want to tell you never in your life will you ever realize what a great mitzvah you've just done so you know when people look at their lives le miata where do you come from we look at our past at our youth all the mistakes i have made all of the things i could have done and i didn't do all of the things i should have and would have all of my errors maliciously inadvertently willingly that's what ace of wands his next question is where do you where you're heading tell me what's your future what where are you heading now he really wants to get you depressed and his third question is what are you even doing with your life i don't know where you're coming from i don't know where you're going and what are you doing you're slapping a bunch of animals what are you doing your days and nights are wasted they're futile they're senseless and yaakov tells them these are the three questions you're going to be confronted with and the hidducharim says but the same three questions are asked in pre-k by akavia ben mahalo is the letters of yakov same three questions right who is going to hold you accountable and he says this is what you need to ask yourself in life we say in the morning the rooster has wisdom to distinguish between day and night only roosters have such wisdom women don't have that wisdom says the kidus you know what it takes wisdom to be able to distinguish between these three questions the way they're posed by yaakov even the way they're posed by yes the same three questions but they elicit three different responses one elicits the worst of the human being and one inspires the best within the human being and in many ways i think one can say fairly that hasidis and the teachings of the altareb in particular address these three questions that both asap and yaakov ask us each day of our lives le miato va honestly who are you whom do you belong to what is your origin what is your essence tell me about your identity and his great answer can be articulated perhaps best through that lovely hasidic interpretation in that moment of this week's portion of joseph joseph is sold as a slave by his own brothers and he ends up in the home of a man named potiphar potiphar's wife takes a liking to joseph to joseph and incessantly she demands from him to engage in inappropriate intimate relationships to which joseph refuses again and again and again via moy and he declines he says no but then there is that one day as he comes home to do his work and nobody is there and it's that day that his wife jumps on her prey she fetches him she grabs him by his cloak by his begget saying to him lay with me and what does joseph do he flees he escapes out outside and she sees that azav he abandoned his cloak in her hands which allows her of course then to concoct a libel that he violated her and he is imprisoned by her husband who believes her probably has to make believe that he believes her fatih she grabbed him by his cloak say one of the great hasidic masters says as follows you know how the wife of paitipha tried to lure joseph into her immoral trap and do you know how the wife of poetifer in each generation tries to grab us by his cloak by his begotte the word beget comes from which word in hebrew what's the etymology of the word baguette [Music] which means a traitor it's called a bogate because garments betray the person you can be a multi-millionaire but you dress like a cops and you're dressed like a poverty-stricken individual people think you're poor you can be very poor you're dressed like a wealthy man and people think you're rich clothes betray identity and much of genesis as a reflection on how close of yaakov's traders vatispaseo bevigdoi she grabbed joseph by his beggar by his boy gate meaning the way the wife of patifa grabs you is she tells you you're a boy gate you know how many mistakes you have made you know how many sins you have committed you know what a low life you are you know how despicable you are you think you could fool god you could maybe fool your rabbi you could maybe fool your mother-in-law you can maybe no okay pence who's not yours his he could you could maybe fool your environment you could maybe fool your rosh shiva but we know the truth you know who you are in the privacy of your life you know your history you know your past you know what goes on in your meshugana brain you know what's happening in your heart you're a boy good you're a traitor that's how the wife of poetifer said that's how she gets you she says and if you're a traitor why not at least enjoy life for the moment come lay with me when you identify yourself as a boy gate when you identify yourself as lowly repulsive despicable abominable hopeless downtrodden then you become easy father for poetifera's wife what does josefatzadek do by yonos he leaves his beggar in her hands and he goes out without his begget he never forgets to differentiate between himself and his garments when the altarebi comes and declares in the second chapter of tanya there's a consciousness the soul the core of every jew is a peace is a fragment of god what he is essentially saying is never ever identify your core as a boy gate as a traitor never allow the wife of patiphat to grab you by your beggar telling you you're so alienated you're so distant you're so hopeless you're so far you don't belong and therefore come lay with me in the window and he remembers who he is what he's really connected to what his core is what his essences your essences you're a reflection of infinity you're more powerful than every every addiction every negative thought every obsessive instinct that may enter into your psyche the altitude of the one said he is incapable nor does he or she desire to be detached from the ultimate core of all of reality from hashem that's the miata do you have clothes of course do the clothes sometimes completely disguise you of course but they are your garments they're not you and you can't allow the dark clouds that are passing over the beautiful blue skies to make you believe that the skies are not blue the dark clouds are the thoughts the instincts that come into us confuse us overwhelm us because we have a big thick beggard that the tanya calls a beastly consciousness bahamas but those are what those are clouds and the clouds move they move they move but even when they're there they're present look look deeper those who are privileged to learn the discourses the my maryam of the altareb and there are hundreds hundreds and whenever i read them i learn them and i try to do it on a daily basis or almost on a daily basis one senses there there one sense is the endless love the endless faith in the authenticity in the depth and in the unwavering purity and wholesomeness of the human spirit and the jewish spirit not coming from naivete not coming from a delusional idealistic sense of inspiration that is detached from the reality of the human psyche and the darkness that lurks in the human journey the darkness that confronts us every single day but coming from the courage to say that i can take my baghead my garments and leave it in the hands of patiphara's wife by flee outwards not confined by the walls that obstruct me but to be able to see the heavens and the stars as my horizons there's a second question that ace of asks and the second question is on a sailing where you're heading where you're going what's your future what lay ahead of you and asap of course says you're getting older at one point or another you're going to perish the cemetery is filled with people who thought they were irreplaceable ace of tells you remember your body will not be the same nothing will be the same in the future and as aristotle once turned to his students and asked them he said my dear disciples tell me who is the greatest teacher in the world who manages to kill all of the students and the answer is time there is no teacher like time but time also eliminates all it kills all spears nobody on a sailing what was yesterday will be tomorrow my story as a betty been written by others and i'm just playing out either the sad story of my genes my dna of nature or the sad cynical story of nurture but in the imagination of yaakov of judaism especially articulated and emphasized in hasidis there is a different perspective and i think the best way to articulate it is from gemara peace and gemara a piece of talmud bear with me from the base page 31b fascinating piece of talmud we know that on shabbis which is the theme that concludes the tanya the entire tanya that was concluded today concludes with the theme of celebrating and observing shabbos and the need to study the laws of shabbos shabbat and divided the entire shas between every minion every shul every community where everybody took at least one massage to one track they to learn well throughout the year so in all of the gemara discusses one of the labors that pro that are prohibited on shabbos which is boiner and seiser twin laborers i can't build and i can't demolish biblically one may not construct on chabas or destroy the malachan shops but when is demolishing considered a prohibited labor biblically speaking only if it's soy ser al menas live noise if you're demolishing not for the sake of demolishing but for the sake of construction building i take down a brick from my kitchen wall i break down the wall not just to break down the wall if i'm just want to break down the wall just to destroy then biblically biblically i rabbinically in allah do it biblically it's not prohibited i don't have to bring a carbon cartesian offering why because it's a useless it's a purposeless act you're just breaking what you're breaking but if i'm demolishing the wall because i want to expand my kitchen then it's biblically prohibited why because the demolishing is really part of construction i can't expand my kitchen if the wall is standing there says the gemara the view of rabbi is he is only if it's almanas live noise when am i obligated when am i biblically liable when i demolish a wall or a building or a home on shabbos only if i'm planning to rebuild it in this very space but what happens if i want to take the bricks and move to switzerland or to miami or to los angeles and build there then i'm not biblically liable why you understand why because here i'm not building i'm just demolishing i'm not expanding the house i'm destroying the house i'm going to use the bricks or the wood elsewhere what's the question [Music] how do we know which labors are forbidden on shabbos from where from the mishkan all the things that jews did when they built the tabernacle in the desert that's what we're not going to do on champions did they demolish the tabernacle in the desert of course every time they moved they had to take apart the mishka the sanctuary when they took apart the sanctuary were they planning to rebuild it in the same place or in a new place in a new place right so it's live nice you're going to rebuild it not in this place because they're going to take it and trend go travel and relocate in a new place if so asks the talmud one should be biblically liable on shabbos even if they demolish a wall or a building or a home or any structure which they're planning to rebuild elsewhere they should still be liable biblically because that's what happened in the mishkan so the gemara answers the talmud answers listen to the answers sins that pasik says in baal in the book of numbers that they traveled according to the guidance of god he directed the traffic in the desert for 40 years where they go where they stop where they travel where they rest so it's as though they were rebuilding it in the very same place what does this mean literally it means literally but it's still difficult to understand that since god was directing them so they didn't know where he's taking them it's not like you know where you're going you don't know where you're going the gps that they followed meaning god's positioning system that they followed in the desert was unpredictable and since it was unpredictable they didn't know where they're going maybe god is going to take you a full circle and bring you back that's the literal answer but it's still difficult to understand because they were on a journey towards the holy land they weren't going in circles i mean it looked that way it took 40 years and golden may used to say why couldn't moses make a right instead of a left saudi arabia would have some oil that was golden maya's question they're not going full circle they're heading towards the land so they're not going back to the same place so even if you don't know where god takes you but you know that he's not bringing you back so when you're demolishing the mishkan you're going to rebuild it elsewhere so what's the more answering what's the answer in the gemara the explanation my dear friends is as follows those of you who are travelers i have a second home in the airport i travel a lot and in laguardia airport you have to get used to spending full days and sometimes nights in the airport those of you who are as lucky as i am to travel a lot know that sometimes traveling gets to you although it's exciting sometimes so say you take a journey from chicago you fly to l.a from la you fly to miami from miami to detroit then to honolulu then to jerusalem then to moscow then you decide to go to melbourne to sydney to perth to new zealand and you end off your trip in johannesburg before you go to new york and then chicago and then when somebody asks you on a sailor where you're heading they say look at my passport and of course you show them right away all the pictures and videos you took all the what apps you sent from every tourist attraction in the world even though you understand these tourist attractions less than i understand about turtles in new zealand but nonetheless you're a cultured person and you visit all these attractions and you show them off you have been here and you have been there and you have been there and you name off all the cities and you even know how to spell them and maybe even how to pronounce them but now i want to ask you another question say your wife joins you on the journey with your little baby your little infant girl your little infant boy i don't know why she would do it but say she's an adventurous spirit and she follows you on the journey with your little angelic little boy or girl and imagine you can pick the brain of this little baby in your wife's arms or in your arms rabbitsons and you'll turn to this little baby and you'll say tell me my taya ingalla my tayata medala my precious daughter and boy i see you guys have now for five weeks been all over the place can you tell me where have you been and if this little baby would be able to respond to you what would its answer be the little baby will say me i was in my mother's arms i wasn't in sydney i wasn't in honolulu i wasn't in l.a i wasn't in detroit i wasn't in moscow and i wasn't in perth where was i i was in my mother's arms achillec if my mother is on a plane or off the plane my mother is eckveld yanakville my mother is up there down there what do i know i am in the comforting tender loving warm embrace of my mother's arms as far as i'm concerned i traveled nowhere because wherever i traveled i was in my mother's arms that's what the talmud is telling of the jews demolish the tabernacle knowing that tomorrow or today they're going to travel here and then there and then there vaais over to harvest moya of lebadek 42 encampments 42 exits true but in their experience kimakoi maidamu they were in the same place they were in the arms of the reborn they were in the arms of the creator of the world of their father and their mother in their experience and their emotions and their imagination and their life story where were they ki mekoi maidami they were in the same stable grounded embrace of hashem is barack of god when asaph asks you honor saleh where are you heading where are you going came the baal shem tov came the al-tirabha came to tell me they have also the great hasidic masters and revealed again and again emphasizing that great foundational idea of judaism that is life is a roller coaster if you haven't figured it out by now life's journeys take us to inexplicable places and sometimes the roller coaster goes in one direction and sometimes it goes in a very different direction one day you're here and another day you're there and you don't even understand sometimes the mysteries of the journeys of the human mind the human soul and human destiny and you wake up in the morning and you're like how did i get here and yet and yet the jew knows that it's kimikoi my dummy i'm always grounded i always have this stability and the confidence because i'm in the arms of god who loves me unconditionally and is with me creating me nurturing me and holding me at every single moment the gomorrah says in brachas the fourth chapter of rama instituted chakras and yaakov instituted which prayer myra you know why somebody asked me why did yaakov do mahrif i said very simple why not ramen yitzhak the first prayer right we start with the knight so yeah afrom should have done my said it's a very simple answer yaakov came home one night from the field right he came up leia turns tim says there's 12 boys who need a bath 12 boys besides rauven has a virus shimon has strep levy has an earring he hasn't slept in two nights yohood is in a bad mood you suck as a good kid but he was expelled from school and his volun is terrorizing the house don needs tlc always did nothing i don't know what's going on he we need it we need a specialist i don't know he runs and runs and runs and runs and runs i don't know what he's running from god i'm worried about he's not expressive and usher eats oily foods all day i'm afraid joseph and benjamin haven't had a night story or vase in how long i need you to spend time with them tuck them in tell them a story show them you care and put down your cell phone and when you finish remember 12 boys need a bath so jacob's response was mighty i gotta go to my rev of course i would also institute mire if i was yaakov would you not you blame god what's the best way to get out of it i gotta go to shul my river me mishna avishir rambam sheikh morishi i gotta go what am i a hefka young you remember last year there was a big snow in your shalom you remember a paralyzing snow so somebody shows me a text message from mayor shawrim sunday morning a huge snow consumes jerusalem and the the principle of one of the khadarim of one of the schools in their chardon sends a text to one of the teachers he says you don't have to show up sunday morning to school the teacher says i'm gonna show up he says wow you're such a great teacher but really you don't have to stay home enjoy yourself relax i'll tell you instead of 35 kids only 10 kids showed up you don't have to come he says i'm coming to yeshiva i'm coming he says wow i never met such a teacher like you unbelievable person but i'm really telling you you don't have to it's only 10 kids he says i'm coming because in my house there are 15. but there's a deeper meaning in yaakov tickets means that when yaakov ran away from his brother asof and he was about to travel to his uncle lavon he was stripped from everything elifas took everything away from him yaakov says kevin macleod i owed nothing but a stick he came empty-handed just with his own body had nothing he had no family he didn't know his future he had no income and he was being chased and pursued by asap and his son eliphaz wanted to kill him what does a jew do at such moments asap says on a sailor where you going yaakov yakov taught the jewish people how even from night time you can create a fila how even iris how even the darkness of night can turn into a prayer can turn into a song could turn into a relationship tkt philosophers he built the instituted he showed us how to deal with an iris with a myriad that in the journey of life never stopped telling you that god is holding you in his arms and his love to you is infinite and absolute the bolshev says he loves you more than a parent loves an only child that was born at old age they tell a mice they tell that lovely episode where this person passes on and he comes to heaven and when he comes to heaven every person is taken on a stroll god takes a walk with you and the walk obviously is in this beautiful this beautiful sight near the ocean on the beach and this man is walking with god and he sees footsteps all across the shore and he tells god what are these footsteps god says every man owns his own ocean every woman owns her own ocean and these footsteps are essentially the footsteps of your life they are the imprints of your story take a look at the beginning and you'll see small tiny footsteps representing your childhood years they become larger and larger until they decline and if you analyze each footstep you will see what state you were in at that point of your life there will be footsteps that will demonstrate a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction and others a sense of fear and ambivalence and the man studies his life and he notices something intriguing namely there are two sets of footsteps near one set of footsteps there's another one and he asks god he says what are these second set of footsteps god says those are mine i always walk with you and i hold your hand throughout your life and then this man turns to god and says but then i have a question i am studying those footsteps that characterize the most difficult painful moments of my life and there i only see one set of footsteps god i don't understand when i needed you most you abandoned me where were you at those moments in my life and god looks at him and says my dear son at those moments in your life i did not walk beside you holding your hand i carried you in mine the footsteps you see are not yours they're mine when they took down that mishkan they traveled elsewhere geographically yes psychologically existentially they were always in the same place and thus grounded wholesome confident something i experienced myself it was a thursday night some years ago i was sitting at a computer and trying to produce a weekly essay that some of you have been receiving for many years my weekly essay through the email and we i had what some of us know and we call a mental block in our business nothing was coming it's already two three in the morning and segatinish there's no flow there's no inspiration there's no creativity there is numbness and deadness vas tutment soon it's going to be shabbos in australia i have my favorite that'll wait for it in australia i have to send them something but nothing is coming so i decided to steal something the gemara says potter right full not from the karen still something for my archives some story that somebody once sent me i'll you know do some edits connect it to the weekly portion a fast 20 minute job track send it out i really didn't feel good about it it was the first week i wasn't producing something original something from my own heart my own mind my own work so i really felt empty and and somewhat stupid and not very noble but i had no choice i found some story i glued it with some superficial glue to the parsha and i sent it out which story was it it was a story about the helicode of the holy bosh the bashamtive had a student whose name was was a holy man the basham once told him before rosh hashanah you're going to blow chauffeur for us this rosh hashanah i want you to prepare how do you prepare not only study the laws tough sadhaka but i want you to study all of the kabbalistic meditations about the blowing of the chauffeur and revolve kisses took the task seriously and for weeks he dedicated time to study all of the meditations dedicated to the blowing of the chauffeur and he took notes he wrote down a synopsis of all the explanations so that what the great moment comes he can remind himself and tune in to this momentous experience of blowing the chauffeur and coronating god as the king of the universe and then rosh hashanah comes and after the reading of the torah and the master he comes up to the bhima ready to blow the chauffeur and he opens his master to take out his notes and he can't find them he searches for his notes everywhere in his seat he can't find him anywhere and from the aggravation he goes blank the balshemptiv is waiting for him to blow the chauffeur he's desperately searching for those notes that would remind him all of those weeks and months of intellectual study and toil of spiritual meditation and profound engagement with the texts of kabbalah about chauffeur to no avail he feels so horrible he is such a disappointment but there's no choice his rebbe is waiting for chauffeur it's rosh hashanah in the morning he takes the chauffeur he feels like a simple simple drew with a humble broken heart he makes the blessings and he blows the sofa in the most technical way devoid of any great spiritual delightful experiences of ecstasy transformation and transcendence he finishes the blowing of the show for his broken man davening finishes and the baashemtiv walks out of shul and makes his way to revolve kisses and he says my dear student i want to share something with you you know every chamber of blessing in heaven has a special key there is one key to enter into the chamber of health the chamber of truth the chamber of wisdom the chamber of repentance the chamber of livelihood the chamber of children the chamber of life the chamber of music every hell every chamber has its own key and it's a different key but there is one master key that can open up every single chamber and you know what that master key is revolve a humble heart revolve today you gave us the master key when you blew the scheifer you opened up every chamber in heaven thank you he gave him back his soul i pressed send at 3 30 in the morning and the story was sent out to my subscribers i went to sleep feeling foolish and empty mission accomplished i would have forgotten the whole story trust me i'm a man within a few hours next thursday night i'm sitting again at the same computer trying to produce an essay and this time thank the lord to gate it's flowing i'm in the middle of typing in the middle of writing it's the middle of the night and this is the old days of aol all over shalom you remember when you got an email a whole went on you've got mayo and you were supposed to get excited that somebody in the world actually thinks you deserve a letter not a letter but an email so i got this you've got mail so i open up the email and i see a letter a letter from a woman who writes dear rabbi jacobson i have to thank you for something i met you a few weeks ago at the sufi bookstore in the lower east side of manhattan on east broadway in manhattan there was a sufi bookstore i don't know how many of you are into sufism but sufism is the kabbalah of the islamic religion it's the mystical branch of islam ayatollah khomeini of iran was a great sufist and some of the sufists are authentic mystics very into their mystical brand it was a sufi bookstore a woman working their phone me and said rabbi jacobson would you come give a talk in the sufi bookstore thursday night in a few weeks i said sure this was a challenge for me i never spoke to muslims before i've spoken to jews spoken larval to many many non-jews usually christians but to muslims i never spoke i thought maybe it's a great opportunity so i brushed up on my quran from the yeshiva days you know it got a little uh foggy so i brushed up on it and i took it as a challenge i'll spend an evening with my cousins the children of ishmael and who knows maybe i will be the savior who will knock some sense into their minds and have them you know grow up so i prepared it was mamash i'm the truth it was the hardest lecture to prepare for because you know i knew i can't say i'm going to start saying a word in the parsha it's not going to work i come into the store i see a large group i take a look and i see it's all juice it's all juice how did i know i knew i knew from the nose i knew from a lot of things i knew from the appetite i saw the matzah it's all jews you know when there was food there they made food i saw how they related to the food i right away see it's juice because for jews every meal is considered the last supper you never know that's our attitude you never know if there's going to be another meal and that's why as you see the smokers boards are for a long long gone here even though everybody borrowed hashem had dinner but you never know who knows if breakfast will be served so i see it's jews and i'm thinking to myself you know jews are very spiritual people and they go for anything and if sufism tells them that they're going to be enlightened spiritually you go into sufism but i'm thinking in myself i'm going to speak to 200 jews about sufism a mexican talk i scratch my lecture i go into a filing cabinet in my brain i open up one of the files i take out a lecture for this crowd and i talked to them about yiddish kite i talked to them about kabul i told them about siddhis let them think it's sufism i'm going to teach them some siddhas and we had a wonderful lecture it was a beautiful experience and i told them whoever wants to receive my weekly essay give me your email address and this woman says i was there i gave you my email address in the last little while i've been receiving your weekly essay last week thursday she says i heard terrible news my uncle the glue of my family the only member in my family that i really got along with i loved i cherished phones me that he was diagnosed with a terminal illness he's soon going to die under natural circumstances if that wasn't enough my boyfriend phones me that he decided to break up the relationship after many years coming from a very difficult background and a difficult family and she described the details i was completely shattered and broke she was into zen buddhism aydah shamed and she went to her zen buddhist therapist cried her heart out and came home and she said i was so broken and devastated i turned to god lawma tony why would you abandon me and she describes to me in detail the grief the pain the sadness the thoughts the confusion she says it's 3 00 30 in the morning and i'm weeping and suddenly i hear from my desktop you've got mail and i'm thinking who's sending me mail 3 30 in the morning and i open up the mail why why jacobs what does he have to say so i open up your email you tell a whole story with the baal shantiv and rabbi zaye wolf kitsas i read the story and i listened to the words of the balshamptaf to revolve the master key you have given us today a humble heart and i want you to know that at that moment i felt so close to god because that's where i was i had no ego my ego was shattered my sense of a delusional sense of security was gone and in that moment of emptiness and humility the balsham have helped me to understand that i had access to the master key to a relationship that was so real naked raw authentic because it had nothing else to block it there was nothing else besides that relationship nothing else that could compensate for the need of a pure pristine simple relationship with god beyond logic beyond calculations and i want to thank you for sharing that story with me and i'm reading and i come to the last line and she signs her name and her signature is her first name and her last name kitsas p.s she says when i was a child heard from isaiah my baba that we are descendants of a great spiritual master in the jewish world whose name was rabbi wolf kitsas and i asked what's the significance of this we weren't an observant family my grandmother said whenever you'll need something turn to your grandfather he was a holy man ask him to talk to god to help you out says rabbi jacobson i don't know why but it's obvious to me that my grandfather chose you to be his emissary to tell me what the balshemptev told him and give me back my own judaism my own relationship with god that's been lost for decades why he chose you i don't know and i don't know how much time it took you to prepare and how much meditation was necessary for you to be able to create and compose this story and you knew when to send it out i don't know but i want to thank you for being the messenger and i knew as i was shivering and crying i knew that i was the messenger because i was absent too my ego was absent too and ego stands for easing god out and thus i could be that messenger but at that moment it taught me that life has two perspectives you could look at life and say yesterday i was there today i'm here and tomorrow who knows where i'm going to end up you can be worried you can be plagued by anxiety by concern what's going to be what does the future hold what's going to be with my children what's going to be with israel what's going to be with the jewish people what's going to be with global warming anybody here worried you want some global warming don't you yeah in new york too [Laughter] somehow global warming only hits miami it never hits chicago or new york i don't know why global warming has something against us al gore doesn't like but then there are some more well maybe it's syria this life has its concerns and its ambivalence came the hasidic masters like all the great masters and said you're in the arms of the reborno shalom who believes in you who trusts you who loves you who embraces you and who carries you finally there's the third question and the third question is you remember the third question or you forgot already who are you where are you coming from to allow you to understand the wisdom in his words that every moment god is creating every situation given to you giving it to you and empowering you to bring light there and the third question is what are all these things what are you doing with your life how are you spending your days how you spending your nights is there any meaning is there any purpose is it just futile what are you really doing aren't you wasting your time and here shared with us something incredibly profound and incredibly moving the love that yaakov has to joseph is a mysterious story the israel arvis joyce of nicole bonov yakov loves the ice of more than all of his children for us alike sinus passing he makes him a multi-colored tunic which evokes the ire of his brothers who will throw him into a pit and sell them into slavery why does the act of love joseph more than all of the brothers and he reveals to us an incredible insight and that is wherever the terror uses the word yakov it's referring to the individual wherever the torah uses the word israel it's not referring to the individual it's referring to yaakov as the embodiment of uma israelis of the jewish people the jewish nation whenever it says you stroll it's not yakov as an individual person it's yaakov as the prototype of knesses israel israel sovereign it's the nation it's the people embodied and personified by yaakov who loves you more than all of the children you stroll not yak of israel of us why what was the uniqueness of joseph what was this love all about comes now the redman says joseph was very different than all of his brothers what was the difference between joseph and his brothers there was a deep philosophical difference the brothers of joseph believed and claimed that judaism can only be experienced in isolation and insulation they were shepherds for a reason when you spend time with the flock when you spend time with greenery with water with streams with rivers and farms and fields you can sense more the presence of the master of the universe you can pray you can study you can meditate you can bond you're in a communion and intimate communion with the bashar with the boy with god joseph had a different vision joseph dreamt of a day when he will be a leader in the world of agriculture he's going to be a leader in a world of economics he dreamt of a day when he's going to be a leader in the world of science astronomy first he begins with the sheaves and then he goes up to the heavens yosef dreamt of a day when they will bow to him when he will represent vision the sun and the moon and the stars he's going to give guidance and vision and direction both in earth and in heaven the ace of dreams of leadership of kingship of influence over the world and the shvatim look at him and say this constitutes the greatest threat that will undermine the entire integrity of the jewish people and cancers israel but yisrael of oisami yaakov as the father of the jewish people understand that if the jewish people are to fulfill their destiny which is which is ultimately to transform the entire world and make it a dear elijah home for god ultimately joseph is going to have to be empowered to fulfill his mission and show the way to all of his brothers how to be able there was only one jew in shusham it's like telling me there's a jew in chicago and his name is yankov he was a jew in sushana there are many jews in shushan but they're hiding in the stiblach there was a jew who was in shusha nabira he was a jew comes into egypt dressed as an egyptian prime minister running the economic so the economics of a superpower and yet he retains his dignity and pride as a jew and infuses his environment with the sanctity and the morality of monotheism for us like saunas possum he creates for him a multi-colorful tunic a multi-colorful tunic is the ability to appreciate the oneness of diversity to be able to appreciate the oneness of god in a diverse and fragmented universe so this is the story i heard this story from one of my teachers of israel friedman saw zangasun there was a big wedding known by hasidim the wedding that took place in the city of jalapeno you know who got married there you don't know tough ayan 18 not of kevin in the early 1800s the first decade of the 1800s the first decade a grandchild of the altareba marries a grandchild of rebellion they make it in juleben because that's midway between bardichev in ukraine and liadi in belarus and both sadiq meet in jhlobin and which costume will not come to such a weekend it was a weekend like no other the baddichev there are many discourses from that weekend many stories many anecdotes fascinated many my mormon alter episode the bodhichi ver was so to speak at its best and the alternate was the altar the weekend is over that is going home he gets into his wagon and he had a balague he had a wagoneer and he turns to his wagoneer and you know sometimes wagoneers know a lot and he says new with pride the altareba had a love tourist of badichiv that was unique he had such a love to him it was special he finished one of the maymarim that's printed in the toyota it finishes with the pasek sadiq hashem behold rakhov at that wedding and so he turns to his wagoneer and he says tell me what do you say about my makutan about the holy rabbi of addictive what do you say about him it's like you know when you turn to somebody say what do you say about my son what do you say about my daughter and the balla gold of the wagoneer turns to the altar and he says these words he says wonder of wonders but a rebel like you there's none i want to pick the mind of the balagala forgive me i want to understand what he meant i know another story that happened at the wedding they were going to the chupa and the entrance to the chupa was narrow only one person could enter at a time so who goes in first but was older dr ebba says you go in first he says no way you go in first now you're going you going waiting at the probably hungry and they're arguing who goes in first sorry in all sincerity turns to the alter ebb and he says i have an idea you know what the idea is let's go through the wall and he meant it he meant it and the altar responds there are different versions one of the virgins is he tells the vatican he says no we must walk through the door but let the door become wider a short anecdote but it captures a life philosophy the patichever was higher than this world there's a wall who says there's a wall we walk through walls walls don't stop us obstructions don't haunt us and don't hinder our progress the altareby's message was something different we are not afraid of walls but the objective of all of creation was to transform the door so that it becomes wider not to escape into a world of heaven but to generate the kiss between heaven and earth that the earth becomes heavenly the great message of the altar rabbit was there is a struggle there's a battle there's a battle between heaven and earth between soul and body between god and the universe between light and darkness and between your animal consciousness and your divine consciousness but the ultimate journey of man lemieux when you look at your daily life fraught with boredom financial stress financial struggle psychological struggle animalistic issues and you say what's the purpose and your answer is this is this is a gift because god desire that the human being transforms the very earthiness of his or her life into a vehicle for holiness in the ultimate equation the altered says don't obliterate your animal soul don't run from the world the entire cosmos craves to put its mouth on your mouth and the clear together is god always don't abandon the world don't abandon the self because ultimately this is the stage from the brokenness and fragmented pieces of our life we create the world of redemption the world of mashiach the ultimate destiny of the universe watch which was to transform darkness into light and to take the very physical brute matter and make it divine let the door become wider and the wagoneer understood this the badichimer wonder of wonders but a rebel like you the leader that imparted to each of us that gift of siddhus and siddhabad to be able to infuse our lives and infuse the life of the world with that depth and majesty with that infinite richness of appreciating the ultimate plan the ultimate cause from the highest highs to the lowest lows the ability to be able to see that full picture and to understand that in our very efforts on a daily basis to work on ourselves and to impact our fellow human beings to reach out to those who need to guide to lead to direct here lay the great miner the great gift and so finally my dear friends the big question is asked by the base yosef why is chanukah eight days the miracle was only seven days right the oil could burn for one day so a miracle happened it burned for eight days so the miracle was only seven days because one day there was enough oil for one day there are many answers one of the answers is that the first day we celebrate the miracle for the fact that they searched for the jug of oil because if you come into a room and it's ransacked there are pigs on the altar heaven forbid thousands or hundreds of jugs of oil are broken and the oil is contaminated and spilled everywhere there's a corbin that the syrian greeks destroyed who thinks of searching for a wholesome drug of oil and yet they searched and they found one drug that remained wholesome and pure the miracle was that they searched and they found isn't this the story of our own lives sometimes we become jaded in our world you get older you see corruption you see the messes in the world of politics in the world sometimes even of the jewish world in the lives of some so-called spiritual leaders some so-called educators people are supposed to be role models and we become disappointed we become disappointed and disillusioned by politics by arguments by fighting by gossip i slander all the all the drugs of oil are broken and you become cynical you become jaded you become dry and you just let life move on the great miracle of youtube was that the altar rabbit turned to the jewish people and he said i promise you that if you search you're going to find a jug of oil that's sealed with the seal of the cayenne god in his works in his books and his talks in the my marion of his and of his successors throughout the generations till the web they allow us each day to go into a place where you can find real wholesomeness real idealism real goodness real sanctity real depth and real purity and light up your menorah and light up the menorah of the world kindle souls and kindle hearts inspire yourself and inspire people around you to be able to answer the question where you're coming from where are you going and what are you doing to be able to say minhy i'm lighting i'm making from this world of menorah that lights up the whole world until it's lit up with the great light of lilac with the ultimate destiny where we're all going with the ultimate redemption and the coming of mashiach may be speedily in our days now let's go [Applause] you know what you know we're going to i'm going to ask the musician now to uh give us a special to give us this special yuta's kislev moment the al perebba composed a song that is sung by hasidim only a few times during the year by weddings by brisson and yuta's kislev it's the of dallad baba's the song of the four stanzas that he composed corresponding to the four worlds at syria yet syria brian silas and the four levels of the soul and during the song during the song everybody can tune in and connect to the soul of the altareba ask for what you need and ask for what you want and connect yourself with the light and the depth of terror and the light and the depth of siddhis and this song is always introduced by a preparation song and our hasidic wire will take it away please join us [Music] i [Music] my [Applause] [Music] i [Applause] [Music] [Applause] a [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] i [Music] i [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] i [Music] ah is [Music] ah [Music] i [Music] yaya [Music] [Applause] [Music] a [Music] i [Music] i [Music] a [Music] ya [Music] [Applause] [Music] i [Music] ya [Music] i am [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] yay [Applause] i [Music] a [Music] [Applause] [Music] ya [Music] ya yay [Music] yo [Music] foreign [Music] i am [Music] is [Music] is [Music] i [Music] hey [Music] my [Music] hey [Music] oh [Music] uh right [Music] ah [Music] god all right oh [Music] [Applause] oh [Music] give the person there you are foreign there is there's an amazing torah that was said by him that is richard margaret was the dave beard eleno the successor of the bolshevik whose yard site is on you test kisly he passed away on the 19th of kisly gimmel 1772 it's known that before his passing he turned to his youngest student when he called themselves and he said right before he passed away he said this day it was kisled his hour is our day of celebration because on that day it was both when his neshama finished its journey on earth when he returned his soul to its maker and a few decades later in 1798 it became the saga of his successor of istanbul alternate there's a toyota from the margaret of miss rich explaining another story in gamora in shabbos gamora says in shabbos the famous story teach me the whole torah while i'm standing on one leg how long can you stand on one leg for okay some people 30 seconds some people more teach me the whole toyota in 30 seconds or in five minutes a few minutes so what does shamay do i was a contractor so he had a measuring stick to measure real estate yards various sizes so he had a stick that he used to measure so dusapha he pushed them away with this hamas with this stick that he used for construction so this non-jew came to hillary and he asks hillel teach me the whole terrier while i'm standing on one leg so hillel famously tells him no problem the whole turn on one leg i'll give you the whole player in five seconds mada allah what you dislike for yourself don't do to your friend this is the whole toyota everything else is commentary now zil gemar now go study the commentary because the whole toyota is a commentary on this thing this is the story so the commentators including the marketer of ms rich ask a few questions first of all why is it relevant to tell us that shaman rejected him with his measuring statement fine that's what happened he was holding the stick is that really relevant to the story what if i said go away with his hand number two number he two to hillary and hillary tells him what you dislike to be done to you don't do it anybody else this is the whole time what does hillary mean welcome every person warmly pleasantly new so somebody comes to me and says teach me the whole thing on one leg even if you think it's unrealistic it's unfair would you walk in to medical school and say teach me everything there is to know about medicine and biology in three minutes so it's a mockery so what is judaism inferior the whole nucleus you think it's unrealistic so you could say nicely what do you do if somebody walks into your cabanas and says teach me the whole traitor in the next four minutes hallelujah if it would be so easy alive so you tell them nicely you say listen listen if you sit down for 60 years now and you finish most of today you'll be locking what do you have to throw them out shaman himself says have a metabolism to save gives the following answers oh says the following interpretation this non-jew came to be and said i want to be a jew and i want to learn today but i want to learn the whole thing regal i want to remain on one leg meaning i won that my judaism and relationship with god should be stable consistent and unwavering i don't want it to shift i want to remain on the same leg meaning i don't want to have days when i'm passionate and days when i'm apathetic i don't want to have days when i'm inspired and days where i look at myself and i like who am i on the sale like what am i doing i don't want to have times when my heart is on fire and times when my heart is filled with melancholy in questions i don't want that teach me the whole time i should always be able to remain standing on the same leg have the same strength the same foundation the same grounding so shama takes amasa binion he tells them amma there's a structure to creation and the structure of creationism there was night and there was morning day one there was night and there was morning day two this shiva may have been in as they're called in kabbalah there's the seven days of construction from sunday through shabbos and they all have nighttime and they all have daytime and this is a reflection of a person's life and of a person's middles there are aliyahs there are euridis you go up you go down you have night you have day you have darkness you have light there's confusion there's ambivalence there's struggle there's contention and the kiddush of the jew is the novelty of the jewish that he knows that the night always leads in today night precedes day and it's followed by day ultimately the day is the culmination of the night the night is not the culmination of the day but this is you can't escape that if you want a religion you want a judaism where you're always going to have the same mood and always in the same state of mind duality is inherent to the human psyche and the confrontation of that morality is inherent to men's journey on earth that's written see now he comes to miranda him not saying something different than shaman but a hero was explaining to him the depth and the sweetness of what is saying and what he had said to this man was what you dislike to be done to you don't do it anybody else says says i want to ask you a question you are not jewish and one it's not easy to beat you and yet you decided one day to emphasize your entire life and become a jew how did that happen the answer of course is there was a spark of jewishness in your soul the heber writes that in gomorrah is always called a conqueror to convert it so acceleration is guided gentile will convert the answers to be a good person so there was a spark that was hidden in you and it invoked and it inspired its transformation but i want to ask you a question how did that start suddenly we got to the floor how did that spark come to revolution in our playlist the answer is that there was somebody else he fell down he spiritually experienced a downfall in his life and as a result of him going down he managed to heal your spark by him going into the abyss he managed to lift up that which was in the abyss and that is how you were inspired to come again now you're asking that you should never end up in numbers you're if somebody else would have not had a fall would have not fallen to the abyss where would you be today the reason you're here today is because somebody else was not always on the top of a mountain somebody else had a day of difficulty when they had to find god in the abyss when they had to find truth in the darkness and when they entered into that place and brought light into there they lift it up and it sucks as the sparks that were there so what you would have disliked to be done to you because if nobody else would have had it you didn't you wouldn't be here today now you want to be oblivious to the pain of others and you want to remain on the top of the mountain for the rest of your life why sabbath you can see you know i saw this title of the manga who reminded me of a turtle that the rebel should ever once said on this week's parish variation it was tough around he said that uh what's the beginning of ghosts what's the beginning of gods the beginning of goddess of the egyptian goddess says the ace of being sold into slavery but how does it happen the ocean was not just told to slavery the brothers wanted to kill them it was said don't kill it let's throw them into a pit what was ruby thinking so the turtle says wanted to take him back to his father to extra to to take him out of the pit and bring him back to his home but something happened in the middle and joseph was sold he would have said let's take him out of the pit and sell him as a slave ruby comes back and he sees that joseph is gone tears disclosed and he says is not here what am i going to do with myself sarah she asks from the message they took them out of the pin and sold it the answer is reuben was away where was he river wasn't a riot sarasota gives two reasons right one reason is that it was his turn to go serve his father so he went to yaakov and there's another reason was busy fasting on a daily basis he would put on a sackcloth and he would fast to repent for the fact that he violated the intimate space of his father after the passing of broccoli took jacob's bed and he placed it in leia's death when it was a villain you know how long ago that happened that happened when rocco passed away when joseph was nine years old this happened almost a decade ago nine years earlier nine years later was still fasting doing sugar every day for the fact that he had violated an intimate space of his father this tells you the sensitivity the conscientiousness and the spiritual profound refinement of reuben's soul nine years later he's still fasting and therefore he's not present when his brothers sit down to eat bread because he's not eating he's fast and that's why the turtle says they sat down to eat but this explains why removal was not there and when he comes back joseph was sold already so he rents his garments khan is the love average says so now let's think about this what's the genesis of ghosts what's the beginning of exile the beginning of exile is not only that joseph sold them to slavery because that would have that didn't happen in the vacuum the genesis of exile was that listen to this the genesis of exile is ah in the edition bad people doing bad things yes sometimes that happens the beginning of godless happens in a different situation when a great spiritual and sensitive jew is capable of going to meditate and engage in fasting and self-mortification and repentance knowing that there's a jewish child struggling in the pit of the abyss when there's a jewish child laying in the pit how can you detach yourself and go engage with spiritual transcendence goals and lofty sublime ambitions when there is that's the genesis of dollars that's the beginning of exile it doesn't come from brute people comes from spiritually sensitive people who are capable of saying this is none of my business i have to do what i have to i have to go serve god and fast for my own repentance truman is critical but how can you allow yourself afford yourself the luxury of your own repentance when there's a jewish child struggling in the pit this is what hillary was explaining to the person somebody else went down to the abyss to lift you up there's a reason that god puts people through darkness it's not just just that you're able to struggle it's the every time you go down and you remain connected to your soul you fight through the thicket of darkness and you reveal light there you elevate somebody you sublimate somebody you give hope courage and confidence to somebody who thought his or her situation was hopeless you lift up sparks consciously or sometimes most often unconsciously you don't even know what to accomplish so now you're not going to do it to somebody else the beginning of dulles is when i ignore the child in the pit because i'm too busy what's the beginning of redemption the beginning of redemption what is a consciousness of organic oneness and this is one of the great messages of you and of citizen general and that is to never ever let go and abandon that child who may lay in the pit everybody knows one person a teenager a child a friend a colleague a partner a community member somebody who's in the abyss who experiences and the filler in life and everybody's busy and everybody's overwhelmed but the beginning of godless is when i say let me go engage in my spirituality because i don't have the patience i don't have the willpower i don't have the wisdom i don't have the depth i don't have the methodology methodology to reach him and what the altareb and all of the rabbits till the rabbit thought was that a jew can't afford himself or herself that luxury a person is a story about that was known one year was extremely questionable to the point it was in the city of poland that the brother was saying they saw them and they said it's not a cultural circle because he used every possible hatred if you learn sukkah you know that there's so many different ways of building a sukkah with gaps and loopholes pun intended you have to apply the laws of love you have to apply good asset and you have to apply the laws of good assets and you have to apply the laws of pt to your investment and you have to and you have to apply this laws of doshun akuma and you have to apply the laws of spain the confront every possible loophole in the sukkah which you can create the walls don't hit the roof and there's spaces and gaps here and there's no third wall no complete third wall and no fourth wall and the used and combined every possible hat dispensation to make a sukkah people looked at it and they they said it's not good and they say a note fell down and it said a note came down from the staff from heaven and it says that should be so questionable and problematic and we have to we need to tell us that it's kosher besides terrylab angels can give the verdicts of allah so that answer to that is but the question is why why the need for it why the need to create a problematic sukkah and we need angel to slide send down notes from the notes from heaven make a beautiful sukkah make a nice four wall complete supernova you know what he said tomorrow says [Music] all the jews are worthy of sitting in which every jew can feel comfortable a sukkah that can embrace every single type of jew and some jews can only be embraced in a sukkah with a defense with a good asset with a good atheist with allah with a petika your indecisive if you're going to go straight you're going to be a straight shooter give me full complete walls a lot of people they don't find their space they're too broke in themselves they're not complete to be able to fit into the complete that can't afford to build a sukkah only for those choices for the best for the brightest for the most worthy for the most support that the can't ignore those who are in the abyss the balsams of success to make every jew feel that he or she has a place in essence discourses of sukkos the name of that is often creates an iron and what's that what's the connection with sukkah that lockheed suk of the gemara says that you need two complete walls and the third wall could be a tether you need three walls and the fourth could be a tafa but like the rabbis you need two walls and the third one at that which is what it was a very open soul so he says that there is about every quote says when somebody embraces you with their right arm so when you look at an arm so the arm has three sections there's the first section that's from the shoulder till the elbow that's one turret section number two is from the elbow to the wrist that's the second section and the third section the third joint is the actual palm of the hand this is when somebody now embraces you with the right arm what does it look like the first part of the arm embraces your waist your side the second section of the arm extends behind your entire back and then the the last section the smallest the palm of your hand comes around so he says graphically that's two complete worlds and the third one is the third one is literally a hand's breath so asuka is hashem's arm so to speak embracing the jew so it's two complete rules in the third attack we want a teddy bear hog so we make four walls but not everybody is ready for a teddy bear so the balsamic has to be able to embrace them because the authentic will not walk away from the pit and say this person fell too long today we live in a time in a generation that many people struggle and they feel that they're in the abyss and one of the great messages of kassidnes is our sukkah must give everybody a place and must make every person feel they belong and must have the depth and the wisdom and the selfless love to be able to show them that they're embraced by the sukkah of necessity and that's why the famous story where the mithuli rebel was learning one night that his child fell out of the crib and he didn't hear the baby crying because he was engaged in learning and the alternate living downstairs came up and lifted up the baby in his arms and calmed the baby down and put it back in the dribble and later rebuked his son his successor the middle and ever every day bear was named after the that even when you're engaged in the deepest learning when there's a coil yellow biker when there's a child crying how can you not hear the crying of the child it's not just a story it captures one of his great messages and that is when there's a toilet yellowed bike when it's a child chronic either in an audible voice or sometimes even deeper in an unconscious voice i can't go to only focus on my completion and my wholesomeness as important as it is and critical as it is to work on yourself but i have to tune in to the child in the pit that every single person can have influence on somebody you know in your community in your school in your family in your extended family in your community that you could reach out and embrace them physically emotionally psychologically and spiritually i hey thank you hey uh oh hey hello hey uh nice i heard the following i heard the following that's right the following story is violent i heard from the picture in montreal i went to the menachem some number of years ago after the passing of his mother that was he told me the following story that he heard from his father his father was alone you remember him and his father was once traveling he was in the airport and in the airport he found out that the plane was delayed and would not take off that day or that night so they gave all of the passengers the voucher to sleep over and on locally the next morning they were placed on a flight that would go out to their destination he decided that he doesn't want to stay in the hotel because if he goes home he could wake up in the morning have his shear go to the mikvah dive and chat his pizzebu with a minion and then he'll go on the flight what should we stay over here well there's a problem the problem is the famous instructions gave his children his family and many jews have accepted at least many of those instructions and one of them is that once you leave your house to go on a journey until you don't complete the journey you don't go back home once you left you left since he already left his house to go to the airport and he never made it to his destination so so what is he supposed to do and he was he was paranoid to love and i was thinking especially about savannah he was extremely cautious so he wouldn't he wouldn't he wouldn't entertain the idea so this is the days of the public phones children who don't know what a public phone is when you wanted to make a telephone call you had to take out a quarter or a dime at that time or a nickel for the young ones among us mr turner huh yeah you still use a public phone in the airport and he put in whatever the coin was and he called up rabbi isaac who was the personal secretary of the heaven and he expressed him his dilemma there's no flight going out tonight doesn't want to sleep he wants to dive in with a minion tomorrow have a shia go to the mikveh give me 10 minutes tell me the number on the pay phone they had a number so i could call you back wait 10 minutes i'll call you back on the number here to pay for and hopefully i'll have an answer for you sure enough ten minutes later the pay phone rings to bring up your question to the river and the rapper responded as follow i'll say it in yiddish son talk to me and then i'll translate it which means tell him let him study let him learn a chapter in tandem when a person studies and learns a chapter in tanya he becomes a different human being it's not the same person and then he can go in other words it is saying the same person who left the home shouldn't come out until he finished his destination what if it's a different person coming up it's not a problem so imagine this was the instructions he should learn and then he can go home and he doesn't have to worry that he's violating his instructions the best the next day the story is now the next day he gets a call from rabbi katakos today that ever asked me to ask you to call you and ask you what happened what happened in reality what did you do and the reason he wants me to ask you was he wanted i should clarify to you i'll say it again i wanted to clarify that what i said yesterday i didn't mean as a cute humorous statement i meant it sincerely and earnestly in other words i meant it was it wasn't just you know a cute allegorical statement you learn a period of time you become a different person and therefore you could go i meant it seriously to the point that as a result of that you can go home despite the instruction reviews when you think about it my grandmother used to say that there's three types of jews there's a masala the difference is the meal pours the soup on the slaw masala and the nutmeg wants to know what type of soup was it somebody is asking did absolutely go home or not i'm not sure that's the point of the story but let's think about it let's think about it for a moment what does this mean there's many people sitting in this room who learned one pedestal and some of them for many many years it ever wasn't speaking to amala he wasn't speaking to a sonic governor he was speaking to a human being but a person a person why not mindless another person a person with all the components of hermes let's reflect on it for a moment because really what it ever was saying as he said that's something cute there's something very real what is it orphan let orphan put it in this one when sidness was introduced to the world that had tremendous opposition the whole reason is that you just kissed them is because there was tremendous happiness we know our position would be no you disgusted there was tremendous opposition not by people who didn't care but by some people who hear it fiercely and seriously and they were extremely suspicious they felt this dangerous they felt an undermined entire sacred structure of institutionalized judaism that has survived and has secured the survival of the jewish people with his passion with his heritage with his focus on movada and finland and actors of siddha and the dancing and the symmetra and the perspective of and after all the kindness of the world because siddhis essentially was a revolution transformation was a revolution it revealed the depths of toyota but it was a revolution to reveal those deaths and to make it part of the daily life what happens when sickness itself becomes again the institution that confines rather than liberates what happens when sickness itself becomes just another component of structure and institution where it's all about just following in the mold without the passion and the individual creativity that it elicited in cinema china so then sid is loses sidness loses its richness its depth its appeal what it ever was saying was something very simple and something very profound there's two ways of learning one is a person learns it robotically there's a shiatan you learn the shaytan you have you may even look at the translation so you did yourself without ever a favor and you know the english translation and maybe you'll even read the fruity footnotes so you said today you learn to share plot and you'll get you may even know what it says that's one way but that's not what limit accident says what limbo that's in this is personal application when a person learns a vedic time but they're sincere what does it mean to be sincere to be sincere means that for those moments you really tuned in you let the altar ever speak to you that one said you're having a conversation in the hagdam of tanya the introduction not whoever has a washroom he says riding the safer for people whom i know very well and the washington uses he defines the relationship between red band qasid what was it it was a conversation of love between us and they revealed to me all the secrets all everything hidden in their hearts and then he says first the heart then they're praying away the first definition of the relationship was there was a tremendous level of love and a tremendous level of trust what do you mean this is but the foundation was it was a diversion table you trusted this person you love this person and therefore you knew you can expose everything about you you could become completely barren psychological no levotion you could leave the big guy out by yamas you could leave them goddamn elsewhere and they have asked him some questions and he told them something the boy answered so the rabbit told them he said indeed dalai damas and these four cubits people speak the truth so go out on the garden from remove the clothes that are deceptive and then when you're ready come back in i know you're not the lawyer but this clothes that i want so get rid of your clothes but to be able to be honest you have to be able to trust you're not going to sit down here what was the insight of a fabrianian by sydney people could be honest because they trusted if you don't trust they're not going to be honest those conversations of love if you don't see the love in every panic of time you're not learning talking you're learning a different book you're not learning the tongue you're not getting its energy to get its energy you have to tune in know you could read parsha's vaii for the third 300 times and you know you're not getting it this is it's just endless it's infinite who was joseph who was you who was yak you read it again and again it's been around for thirty three hundred years and nobody ever touched what says they've been nabbed they've been they've been digging into this birthday cake for thirty three hundred years lawyers it's complete and it says nobody touched it it's untouchable because it's infinity and infinity you can extract a billion dollars and a billion dollars and a trillion and he still didn't touch them so the governor should be done the governorship nobody understands it fully but everybody understands something the six-year-old understands something the 90 year old god oil understands something and both understand real things of toyota does every anybody and the same is true tiny territory the same is true in all of themselves but you say that you say this is there's a conversation of love there's a conversation of trust the conversation where somebody is talking to you and you're talking to somebody who cares for you and when you learn to pedic tanya with that attitude and with that seriousness and with that earnestness it's going to make a dent i don't think that ever meant that when absolutely finished learning the predictance [Applause] will turn into moisture complete transformation but a dent a different person means that the person who's here now is not the person who's going to be here tomorrow morning there's a dead something that affects you something that makes a real serious dent in my brain and my heart and my attitude in the way i relate to my wife the way i relate to my children the way i relate to another person the way i relate to my work the way i relate to hashem the way i relate to life there's a dent in earnest and then you see that vaccine it's relevant but the only way that it can be relevant is it requires a seriousness and it requires the ability for people to challenge themselves to be open to listen and to really understand that sinners that doesn't speak to the real person living today top shin that's not siddhis it's part of going back in and just repeating the sayings of the true that goes in a circle which is what the balshamp came to define he wanted in his shaman he wanted the passion he wanted the individuality he wanted the love he wanted the bleak fool he wanted the creativity within allah within yiddish within he didn't want that it should become another group of judgmental people that the most important thing is that everybody conforms and does what the other person does so we can say you're following the procession you're a caterpillar who follows in the procession and the main thing is you didn't make too much trouble and you're you're you're perfect and you're impeccable and you're flawless nothing is not going them do much better they did then much better and they came to what are you disturbing things who knew that you get up in the morning and you do what you got to do you you we hatch them we match them and we dispatch them you got it you hatch them you match them you dispatch them so he says what are you going to kill me i'm still alive i don't want to give up she said there was once a city that needed a job and they needed a rapper so they put in a nan in the newspaper they need a rabbi a spiritual leader but they need somebody who's a jack of all trades so somebody comes and he referred police says i'm the jack of all trades they say what can you do so he tells the board of the show he says for starters i'm gonna call you i'm a kind you need breakfast kind of so i'm a priest i'm a client besides that i'm a great grandma in addition to that i'm a balcony i know how to read the title in addition to that i'm a model i can do circumcision besides that i'm a shaykh i can slaughter animals besides that i'm a self i can write villains if entitlement i can give bar mitzvah lessons i can read the title i'm a speaker i'm about i'm an orator i'm a bar mitzvah teacher okay besides that i'm a poison i'm a bicycle so i'm a counselor i'm a therapist i'm a psychiatrist i'm a psychologist i'm a marriage counselor unbelievable whatever you need and besides that i'm also have a condition [Laughter] i'm from the holy burial society that can bury like come you know so one of the people in the board who was listening says i don't understand you started off and you said you're a client you weren't listening listen that's your problem your a.d.d so if you're a client how could you beat every condition how does it work so he says what about the chauffeur i want i once searched for my heed his name is ripley he lives in pittsburgh he lives in pittsburgh so he told me that he knew a jew an old jew a rabbi rhode island who in 1927 was in a car accident you remember the cars of 1927. i didn't know what they looked like yeah yeah the boats right told me you heard from a rabbi rhode island in 1927 he was in a concert in the highway the police came he was not conscious they declared him dead on the scene they didn't have the mechanism they have today they claimed dead on the scene so they covered him up with the sheet they sent him to the hospital and sent him to the morgue he was in the morgue for a few hours unconscious under the sheets it's very complex there's no place in the freezer to his muzzle so he was still on one of the tables over there an african-american black holy brother came down to the morgue and it was his responsibility was his shift so there was place down the freezer so he goes over to the table and he starts rolling this rabbi to the freezer to put in the body till somebody comes to click on the way he wakes up he wakes up from his unconscious state he's up and it's it's cold it's a morgue there were noble worship it was before they saddam and before the tree of knowledge it was just some sheets whatever they had there so he started to shiver he started to shiver and he looks up and there's this big holy african-american brother you know maleficent escorting him escorting him to the freezer and he looks up and he says i'm cold i'm cold i'm cold the black man says you ain't cold you're dead and he said this rav said this gave him fuel for his whole life because when you're cold you're almost dead between coldness and lifelessness the inside of the sydney tom it took not the coldness warmth and warmth is always about individuality because your soul is not my soul when there's a fire burning in you your your fire is not my fight when it comes to the eternal life of the jew who you are what your relationship hashem is how you experience yiddish god i experience life every person is a different universe and that's the beauty the beauty of the beljam sukkah is that it embraces every type of person every type of individual and therefore we reduce this just to a structure where everybody just copies the other person and just emulates the other persons they could fit into the mold and show them for somebody to be honest and say what's on their mind and on their heart because then they might be judged and shown for somebody to talk about their genuine struggles because they might not be perceived as the one who fits in perfectly so then the whole is sight of giving people an opportunity to internalize either skype authentically and internally is lost i'm not there my premise is not there it's concerning us it's external the holy site of tanya is to identify your inner mechanisms your inner dynamics and be able to work with it to understand it to appreciate it and in many ways to celebrate it because it's your journey there's a divaldi insight that everyone said shabbos parties told us told us 1980. he asked in a question now she brings says he started that riff got two children in the womb right and she was agitated why was she agitated so what does rashford say it's relationship that when rifka passed a pagan temple ace of gravitated to go out to aberdazar and when she passed the basement yeshiva yakiv wanted to go out and then when they grow up they grew up they followed this path he went away he went to asha so they had to ask the question how can you call ace of russia a wicked man if in the womb of his mother he was gravitating to idolatry that wasn't his choice who decides where you're gravitating in your mother's womb you decide that's completely from hashem that's completely as we say today it's your genes it's your gene pool it's your dna what you're doing in the womb of your mother is not voluntary it's completely pre-programmed so that means acid was a genetically inclined organism what do you want from me it's called russia it's completely unfair you played it you didn't even have a truth interesting question so the point of the rebbe's answer which later was published in lakota synthesis i think volume 20 told us was as follows let me give you the the core of the idea asov was destined from above to always struggle with available always because in the womb of his mother not by his choice he was already struggling and gravitating towards paganism towards idolatry but here's the deal struggling with avoiding zara doesn't make you evil in fact struggling with available may make you even greater than yaakov who lacks the struggle which is why yitzhak cherishes hasta wants to bless the fact that somebody a young man a young woman is struggling with a terrible terrible issue does not make them bad it doesn't make them evil on the contrary this is their path of what god wants from them to worship the way the tsar is negative to struggle with our disorder what does that even say don't get so depressed that maybe your entire life you may have to deal with thoughts and feelings and emotions that are immoral and inappropriate maybe you were created for this came to the illusion and he said he doesn't have time to learn he's stressed it says don't say when i have time i'll learn you may never have time just said this don't say when you have time you learn and maybe from you god wants us that you shouldn't have time and that's how you should learn there's a voice from the more naive you know the colleague of the if somebody comes to be cleansed they help tommy if somebody comes to become tommy they open up the port in other words if you want to you want to become tommy they'll help you you want to become tar you'll be helped he says [Music] more no does rabbi chapter understand that's a different story that's a definition okay he's got smart students huh he's got smart students okay she'll explain to the rabbi what i'm saying yeah it says like this the murray says in sanhedrin that there was a jew menachem menachem the son of kiskin and he used to make fun of toyota two succumb bothered him very much the first pastor that drove a man was a possibility from his wife adam elifa is married a concubine be like her name was similar and they had a son a baby with the famous or infant's name of amalek so menashe used to say who cares who cares that seminar was a pit legislative negotiation it's a big story because simna wanted to convert she came from a family of princes christ she came from a family of royalty she wanted to convert to judaism avrom rejected her yitzhak rejected her yakov rejected her so she said you know what i can't leave this family i'll rather be a maidservant in the family of avraham than be a monarch a queen somewhere else so she becomes on a legacy a concubine for a grandson of yitzhakovino to stay in the family that's the that's the story so that mighty nayim asks why was menasha upset with this boss for both this was the only pasta he thought was irrelevant life is relevant what's the philosophy the philosophy is i would like to but i'm nimna i can't i'm stopped i'm prevented my genes my iq my middles my parents my community my master my financial situation my marriage my university my college my rabbi i can't i would love to but simna i'm stopped dr maya and i am the seminar the philosophy of simna of wrong rejects you took rejects yaakov projects the only one who accepts it is eliphaz bennes at least for the only clip why why he says how boldly tommy doesn't mean if somebody wants to become tommy they open the doors and they say come and purify us when you're struggling with a particular quality that's going to make you tame that's your pesach to come close to god personally that's your path it's not a mistake it's not a simnet it's not a mania this is what's intended for you this is the way you access god asam's destiny was to gravitate over the tsar and deal with it confront it work with it cry about it fight it and maybe one day transform it and in that he's deeper than yaakov being the name of these two types of jews it's a different avoid that asap is a goody goody and ace yaakov is a goody goodies holy ishtan and asap is a struggler and struggling against evil is not evil never we often make that mistake and therefore nobody's allowed to talk about their struggles struggle with evil is not even on the contrary aye it's tuma that's your path peace holy share it said it it's real it's authentic god is not scared he's not afraid of you don't be afraid of yourself we have so much fear either we're fear of death or we're scared of other people who are scared of our own brains so therefore we make sure to die when we're alive they say that they already established in science that is life before birth from hypnosis they established that there's life after death from the comatose states clinical deaths the only thing they have to establish of this life after birth [Laughter] dr debbie writes in chocolate and lucas richardson he brings from the posca don't say zach says why because if he says i am with a panda it sounds like i am to life and not to death by lombard he doesn't say lil marvel says la mothers could sound like lloyd mothers so and not not mothers a double negative is a positive so when you say remember me for life and not for not death what does that mean for that ask the baby it's a white and altered ever changes by the mothers so you know what the answer is he says it's two parts of the film the first thing you ask is what should be for life obviously if it's for life it's not for death but then you say something even deeper the lord i'm not asking only that it shouldn't be not death i'm asking there should be life meaning there's two types of life there's a person who's alive because he's not dead it shouldn't be only that i'm alive because loy marvis a person should be alive because they're alive sometimes a person is alive because you know they never happen to die they just follow their own routine emotionally psychologically spiritually so the routine the routine is you put a number the routine is to show up it shows up but the person is not there the heart is not there the soul is not there the depth is not there i am it should be in the law it shouldn't only be la mothers that i'm not dead the life should be full of ram zak and bob by young you walk into the day every day you're in it fully you're there fully you're there with your whole presence and to be there with your whole presence you need the deepur vegetable it makes a dent and that's what's needed transformation you're a person we don't want you to be him what do they say don't copy him his life is already taken you be you say most people all people are born originals they die as copies why do i feel i have to die as a copy because of some type of pressure very depression the whole cities came to take away that pressure but sometimes we create our own prison walls our own structures now there are those anarchists who want to destroy all structure but that's not how territory works turner is believable in global that's what shulkin does there's structure there's a morning there's an evening there's an afternoon there's a shabbos there's a young tiff there's our kind of zero there's a nice official mission but the full of toy never finiteness that comes because we're afraid to be creative because we're afraid to be individualistic we're finite because we're afraid to touch deeper truths we're afraid to be infinite we're afraid to to uh to transcend on the contrary uh hey uh um now hey coyotes the jew once shared with me something he heard himself from the rebel yachts his name is your label postner or my label posner he told me that he was once going on mercury because he was going in the summer to visit jewish communities in the us and before he left he went in to the previous to the sixth laboratory he called him a few things one of the things you shared with me the rabbit told them i asked told them that by the satan they used to say in a safe eternal terrorists called out different types of letters there are ordinary letters these issues rather than large letters right like the dalit of effort that's written largely and then there's ic is the a and the small letters like the alphabetical other letters that are written in small a jew is like a seyfatara so what's the difference of these letters some letters they're small and therefore you don't see them as clearly although you see them you have to read them you have to see them other letters are large they're very conspicuous and others are ordinary so he told them in yiddish these words and then i'll translate and i saw somebody wrote it up and translated it but they didn't know what yiddish so they completely missed on this missed the point it's important to know the original language it ever said like the same the virtues of another person you have to be able to see see it the flaws of the other person you don't have to overlook but don't see it don't overlook them but don't see them what is the meaning of this he's not telling him oh never see the flaws of another person how does that work well you're a i'm an angel what if somebody has flaws but there's a difference between seeing something and not and not overseeing something the my list of manzan is able to see the miles this is fair but when you're dealing with a person you may have to be aware of their flaws of their challenges but that's not what you have to see don't ignore them don't oversee in other words because they may come back to want you know you have to understand who the person is you have to speak to them according to who they are you have to relate to them according to their maths and to their situation but you don't have to see not overlooked don't overlook but you don't have to see it and that shouldn't be it's when you become obsessed with it which is essentially another way of that famous explanation about something says that a person another person is like a mirror if the mirror is dirty i'm my face is dirty so if i see dirt in you it's my own dirt so that baskets in a famous what if somebody really has a blemish and i see it i mean what if the mirror is dirty and i see dirt in the mirror means i'm dirty what if the person has a real blemish we all know right what if a person lied to me what if a person deceived me what if a person stole from what do you mean every blemish i see in you is me doesn't see evil in anybody so how do you observe the bits of my gestures if you rebuke somebody oh it means it's in you so the rabbi explains that it's a whole city he spends it i'll be he says but the point is as father doesn't mean you don't see it there's two ways of seeing one is you see it as a halacha and one is you see it as a story if you see it as a story then it's something in you if you see it then it's a different story in other words i could see that you have something and i see it as a meaning my focus is what can i do about it what should i do about it maybe i should speak to you about it maybe i have to speak to somebody else maybe you have to stay whatever it is but to focus on what to if the focus is it's a story now i have a file on you in my mind i'm busy telling your story then it's not about me then it's something in me there's a mice that did that maharashtra's oldest son from zaminar when he was a child he was shorter than the reverend asham than his younger brother so one day they were playing in the garden there was a little ditch so he took his younger brother and he put him into the ditch so the rebbe marash calls over his son and he says why did you put your brother in a ditch so he says because my brother is younger than me and yet he's taller than me and it's not fear so by putting him in the ditch i created an equilibrium because now he's shorter than me and that's how it has to be you understand what he did the next time you want to feel taller instead of putting your brother in a ditch why don't you climb up to a mountain amount instead of putting him in a ditch climb up on the mountain one of the slightest the most fundamental aspects how do you know what's the litmus test the first is how you treat and relate to other people starting your own spouse your own children your own friends and the people around you a person who lives with sickness personal learning person who breathes in this person who relates to sinners never needs to put somebody down in order to be able to feel good about yourself on the contrary you can truly respect the space of another person because it doesn't compromise your own space it doesn't take away from me that you are you visa the cops i then i am not i and you are not you but if i am i because i am i and you are you because you are you then i am i and you are you it's a fascinating thing you see in humish a fascinating thing you see in humish where is the first time that love is mentioned in homash no mr turner where is the first time [Music] jacob loves joseph is uh what's the first time the word ava's mentioned rabbi rabbi wolfe knows the answer in passion is valley you say it every morning the story of the arcade hashem has so the first person to be loved right what's the second time the word abbas mentioned next week next passion so the first one who's loved is yitzca and the second one is the first is avraham loves yitzhak and then eats the clubs there's a there's an aima kid there's a depth that's not all those crackers so what's the next step he is capable of giving av why is that he who is loved he can truly love why the answer is scar partial what do you think when you experience something when you experience something you can pass it over that's true when you feel it you can pass it over you know what it's like you have it so you can give it over you don't have it you can't give it over but there's also something else there's something else is as follows it's really loved by his fault so he could love rifkin because the connection in his father is you see when a person doesn't feel and doesn't appreciate their eric their kashivos their ab when they're unlocked it's very very difficult maybe impossible for them to truly be there for somebody else and the reason it's impossible for them to be there for somebody else is because they always have to be in the state of a macabre they can't be in the state of amaspia because they always have to fill a void that they never feel filled and they need the other to validate and to fill that void and as soon as it says that clipper is never mush be it's always macabre only kedusha is really must be a wan kedusha gives clipper tanks why the answer is when you're insecure with your own existence you don't have the luxury to give you always have to take only when you secure in your own existence can you suspend yourself and say let me be here for you but if i'm insecure with me i can't afford to forget about myself you know a woman once said she stopped dating they asked her why she said the last date for three hours he was talking about himself and after three hours he turns to her and he says it's enough of me speaking about me let me hear what do you have to say about me some at first he can't go away from himself why can't they go away from himself because he has good confidence or maybe the exact opposite because he's afraid of kasper the conversation turns away from me i may cease to exist somebody tells us you know the story right everybody talks about me everybody in chicago talks about me i walk everybody steps on me i walk into shul and they're talking about me they step on me by the kidneys they what does this mean what does this mean and you know what they never said about the story that happened actually printed the last universe said that when they haven't have told the story said it was on your kidneys and this is the time when your hidden shepherd nephesh was revealed so even when the hidden ship in fish comes out a person could still be in a state where they feel they have to be everywhere why do you feel you have to be everywhere because if you're nowhere then you got to be everywhere you have no place you got to be in every place and couples so how can i be here for you when i need you to compliment me when i need you to about how can you be here for your spouse how can you be here for your kids how could you be there for somebody else when there's no eye that you took was lost so he could walk when although against another jew you should reject you know what he says that too but it's a it's a fundamental idea because one of these saudis have said this one of the govaldic avoid from the music market and it's interesting how this word came to us not in a conventional way i'll play the mice there was a yid was a jew he was a philosopher he was a big searcher and he went to search for everything he went to search for truth and he wrote an autobiography and it's one of the only that i know the only documents we have of a non-cousin who actually you could probably call the real apocalypse who spent the whole shabbos with the market and reports a lot of what he saw and observed and he's so objective and quite against the what he saw that you could trust everything he says he ended up in germany he became a friend i think of mendel's he was a fascinating character he became a he got into a depression he died very young but he has an autobiography and he spent a week in the shabbos by the music market and he described everything he saw and he brings three tithes from the music market that he heard from one of the sydney three titus in his autobiography it's not in the curriculum for good reason so he brings three types so they always people that should you trust and not trust i thought it could be trusted because first of all that good titus titus but it's interesting that recently the fighting of considers found that all the titus they founded in sources of siddhis swallow mamish all the three titles they were they were verified from another source from the system that wrote it emerged in recent years somebody wrote a whole essay about it so there's a very interesting toyota that he writes that the music manga set says fascinating the covet of your friend should be as coveted as as precious as cherished as your uncover i should treat your covenant your dignity like i want like my dick freaking drives people mad when they're obsessed with covet or enemy or timeless addiction so the khairi that triggers he says no your covenant is cherished by you and somebody else's comment should be asked like the covet you give yourself and he gives an example let me just give the practical example of my own suit let's say i give a drush i give a speech in chicago or somewhere else llamas and at the end i was waiting for a standing ovation and it never happened don't give up thank you right again thank you thank you that's why i keep on coming back to chicago every few months so i come home i'm very disappointed i could or not think ups so what do i do you know what i'll do it for myself you're not doing it i'll do it and i say if times beloved was the mirror so he once said he was talking around he says the gomorrah says in sanhedrin that hashem told you you're first why is he asking so he says i come to hakuka so they call me up for cinder conduction so the emcee gets into the mic he says there's no [Applause] i want to hear it again that says