Your Wife is your Closest Relative with Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston

[Music] the pasik tells us the difference between a kohen gado and the regular konim who they made matami themselves for so even though it says lenefish low yatami belmont the next verse pasigbet immediately tells us the seven relatives that a regular cohen may matum himself for kim lis ero hakarov that the big question is who is that talking about is that just an introduction to the next six or is it a category in itself the seventh one so let's count it as the seventh one or the first of seven and rashi tells us right away that it is his wife ish toe he gets it from the gemara insota and yavamos it's well known there are seven closest relatives and ishto is hinted at in those words and that's what the clear car will discuss so after that you have the imo that's four counting the fifth and the sixth and la hotel basula villa so there you have and even when it says about her it's a love it's the sister that's krova allah but when it comes to talking about the wife that we think it means keem the shayrohaka road it's masculine and that's what's bothering the clear car if it means wife which we know that it does why does it not say a love make it feminine you are talking about a female your wife so that's the first thing he wants to say and nevertheless the cleo cars bothered number one why does it say ro masculine his flesh his relative okay and um who was closest to him again he should have said knowing that it's ishta she is closest to him it's still masculine so what he wants to say is this that why does it say shay ro even before the mother and the father it's just a side point he's also bothered by the fact that the wife is coming before the father and the mother because he already spoke about previous to this idea that there are different levels of tuma and perhaps a cohen either doesn't have any tumor at all or is under a very light tumor and therefore it's not such a begum for the coin to matum himself for other khanim who are his closest relatives but how is the wife then included number one she most likely let's just say is probably not a bas kahuna she's not necessarily of the cohen lineage and it doesn't say love regarding the wife and it should have if that was the case so he right away brings a gemara from yavamos sanagimo amin aleth said rabbi yosit eliyahu navi right how does a woman help her husband in what way is she such a great help so he answers what do you think she he brings home the wheat and he just chews on the wheat no she obviously cooks it she mashes it she washes it she bakes it well what about the pistan what he brings home the the wall or the flax or the cotton what that's what he wears no obviously and so he uses these beautiful words to explain what she does she's the light of his eyes she enlightens his eyes she brings real peace to the home and she stands him up on his feet meaning she's the one who really makes him and she nourishes him that's going to be the idea she really nourishes him nourishes him in a in many ways i mean with the clear car doesn't say this but we know that all the blessings of the home come to the white so basically the clear car says she's the one who is supporting him and nourishing him so what is she hero according to the clique it's mizono mamish nourishing him and why does it say hakuro they love because when she nourishes him right let's say all the baking and the cooking and all the cleaning and laundry and whatever it is that she's doing for him she it's her own sweat it's her own energy that's being put into the food so to speak and you are what you eat when he eats the food that she prepares for him it becomes his flesh it becomes his flesh so she is putting herself into it and then he is eating it and therefore it is so the principle the clear car wants to bring down is the idea is that he's matame le micho zanoto for the very person who's nourishing him because the mazon itself becomes him he is actually why is it masculine because it's karo they love it actually becomes his own goof okay and we have this famous expression alkene called ishto kagufadamya she is actually and we have a halacha that says what that a man must honor his own wife more than himself now even though back in genesis and breishit beth gemmell that we see that woman was taken from the very essence of man and god says there zosapam it's true that happened only once in all history that a woman was actually separated physically from a man and was his own bones nevertheless even that was bitsy rishona nevertheless all the doroths for all generations it comes out that she is the one who's meera enov she adds to his own flesh she enlightens his eyes and she is basically she is his flesh and his nourishment therefore it's certainly fitting for him to tummy himself for her say the cleocar points out it doesn't say ishta but faroush right it actually says right only the relative that's closest to him and that is because to explain the very reason why he's matame for her because she became his flesh they are one flesh the clear card then tells us another din and that is specifically by a guttulador or any great rov so we have to understand that whenever it says in mode cotton chambers everyone is considered like his relative we drop what we're doing we close our businesses we go to the levia of the god of the door and it's learned basically this concept in gamora bracha's your zain one of the god of the door is saying that the whole world is is basically has paranasa and shepherd because of a great sadhak and to um emphasize this point we have a gomorrah baba kama impranos bole okay so basically you have a punishment din needs to come into the world and hashem is only bringing it because of the evil acts of the shrien but but he's going to take out the siddiquin first and we learn this from a verse in shmos kafbet pasuke where it says so as in mashpatni explains that we're responsible for the fires that we create make sure they don't cause damage and the fire goes out and it says then it finds kotsim but it's past tense it's necholgadesh so the kotzem obviously represent the evil people that's why the perennials came into the world but who does it consume first unfortunately consumes the standing grains which is represented by that and the car points out that there's no wonder why the siddiquim are compared to something that nourishes you it actually right the standing corn the um the standard corn is what nourishes you so when hashem wants to bring perennials to the world because israel is not doing the will of hashem the first thing he'll do is master tsila malayam first they'll take away the siddiquim because the the righteous people are keeping the perennials from happening so in order for the perennials to come hashem has to take away the saddiquin first this is really coming to answer the cleocar's real question is why doesn't it just say ishta but rather it says they love masculine because it's also hinting to a tamil who is mazing not just you me but the whole generation and everyone is considered like his relative and now we understand why it also comes before the father and the mother there is a halacha that says that god forbid if and there's only uh academic of course that if someone's father or his or his rebbe and his rebbe is drowning or if they have lost objects and you only have the ability to either save one of them or save the object so then you have to save your rebbe before your own parent because that's why it comes first because it's also hinting to the rov the goddamn door that's a deacon in the generation that are also mizanotano right they're actually nourishing us so basically if we remember there's a gemara that says that when rabbi yehuda nasi died that the konimur movato what does that mean it means just then and there for that period of time of the levia that even the konim are supposed to go because it was all on account of the tsaddik the holy sage rebutta and nasi who was mazan the generation and this is the reason why that the cohen the regular cohen would matum himself number one for his wife because she is the light of his life she nourishes and nourishes his soul and his body and of course the tsaddikim the great siddiquim also through their learning and their titkas and their their righteous acts they are also bringing chef into the world and keeping the world going and with that have a good shot [Music] is [Music]