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in these weeks. So many many after Pes at least from Pes so learns there their reasons brought why learns speaks about reasons the simplest is that we're preparing for we're preparing and preparing a person works and that's the simplest These are my learn. There are other menhagen that people learn through the summer that they continue on after continue. I'd like to learn a little bit once in a while. Now to try once in a while to jump in to learn some share something. I want to share something from my Shapiro. He said something in this yeshiva two years ago that I liked a lot. I liked it a lot when he said it like resonated. It's probably it's probably a lot of truth to what he said. And I want to share it with the Mishna. The Mishna scribes and Misha Misha learned was from Yeshua. He taught to Yeshua. Yeshua is Yeshua taught us gave it to him. Then it quotes three statements from the ankal was the governing body that actually gave us the first safer ever written down in the world. Normally is not written down. From the first writings of our is the wrote the amongst them were the last the last prophets that we had. They actually wrote the because it has powers. The words have powers. They were nim. They knew how to unlock things that we don't know how to unlock. There's tremendous power to the it's hard for people to say they say I don't even know what I'm saying the words are very powerful beyond your own ability. The words are powerful. That's the very s was written by and they knew what to say. It's a good question. They knew they knew what to say, when to say, and how to say and and they put tremendous power in the sed it. It is a it's complicated because people say I don't know what it means. Certainly, we should try to find out what it means. But there's a tremendous power to the words in the a matter of fact prayer has two aspects. You're supposed to speak from your heart. You're supposed to. It's people ask am I allowed to speak in English during you're supposed to it's it's it's a an incomplete prayer if somebody doesn't speak in English it's a prayer you're a complete prayer as words from the heart one should speak in English in the center the way you should do it is typically in most brahas only speak about that you come to you're talking about chuva should speak to should Hey, I Hashem I I have a friend who's struggling. Help him come lead choua for our own choua in in um Hashem. Speak to Hashem. I have a friend who's very sick. Needs a I have a friend who has a bad arm, who has a bad foot. Hashem, please heal his foot. One should speak in English. That's a big part of prayer. You might know somebody who's struggling financially. Say, "Hashem, please, I have an uncle who needs pasa. Hashem, give my uncle's name is son." A beautiful family. They struggle to make ends meet. Hashem, please give the family. Shem's a one should pray in English. One absolute not can you, you're supposed to understand. >> You should the language you understand. One should really talk to Hashem. Yes, very important. >> That's a very good question. in middle right smack dab in middle there's there's a that near the post and so you talk it's always a you say you're saying right there you should talk to my friend the guy works so hard letters of this take off then the last words before the are supposed to be connected to the it's called the is that is certainly a person should talk in English and but besides for his own words there's the words of kazal in the lion it says Jacobu says that I won a warashi with my sword and my arrow. Um, Jacobu says I won a warashi which says means two forms of prayer. Two forms of prayer. I won it with both forms. What are these two forms of prayer that Yakavinu attributed winning a war to two forms of prayer? The two forms of prayer are the words that are you talk to God speak to talk to Hashem beg. What guys should do more is talk more to Hashem. Talk to Hashem. You're in the dorm, talk to Hashem. You're in the gym, talk to Hashem. You're walking in the forest, talk to Hashem. Talk to before you go to sleep. Talk to you have to talk to I want to talk to that two forms of prayer. There's one form of prayer, your own talk from your heart. There's another form of prayer, the prepared prayer. the one that the knew had to unlock things and had specific words, specific ways of saying things that have a tremendous power. That's why it's called the sword and it's called a bow. A sword kills on its own strength. It's sharp. That's the prayer of an prepared prayer that has a power for itself. It doesn't need the human help. And then there's the form of prayer that's the bow that comes from the heart. You pull it to yourself. So those are the two forms of prayer. It's called made a prepared prayer that as opposed to go in sync with the prayer from the heart and was supposed to come with both. Now there's a big mile. You say why do I need a prepared prayer? Doesn't Hashem want just me to come from my heart? There are mile of the prepared prayer of one of the mileas is humility and you like read there's a certain humility what we say so that's your prepared prayer there's a tremendous humility to read in front of hashem I come humble I come like tremendous humility I I don't even I I say my own words but I also have something prepared for. There's a certain humility. I say the words that you told me to listen to and I'm listening to the coming there's and that has that aspect of humility. They were the last they were a governing body who had the last amongst them the last prophets. said three things. I want to talk about the first thing they said. They said be very deliberate in judging in judging. When you judge, if you're a dian, when you judge, be very deliberate. Don't answer deliberate. Missim is patient is to deliberate with a lot of care. Now certainly the simple simple shot is don't be don't be impulsive. Don't just say the first thing off the top. Work hard. Work hard. Right. Shapiro asked the obvious question. Now there's nothing wrong if they say something obvious. But there is he said it's so obvious like what would they what were they coming as opposed to what? Oh, I thought to just say whatever comes to my mind and said be very deliberate in judgment. He asked he asked a few he asked why he asked why why is this their message like of all the messages to give in your life be very deliberate be careful what you say >> of course of course >> I know why I know why they said that right >> what's that's why Shapiro asked >> why Shapiro asked what's be very deliberate as opposed to what who would think otherwise what was their big worry with our people not being deliberate what were they talking about that's what R Shapiro asked it's a very fair question you always think who are they talking to what was the need to say it why are you saying that be deliberate and and the people thought so right Shapiro said something to me was extremely intelligent. Raj Shapiro said with that body that was there after the prophets. A matter of fact, the Mishna itself says that the Nim gave it to they were after prophecy. They have to understand there was a massive drop. But you read this had we had prophecy before we knew the truth. Prophets literally knew if you were missing if you lost something, you went to the N. He told you where your lost item was. They knew. They knew stuff. And you have this massive fallout. We no longer have prophecy. There's a tremendous darkness. They used to like know. They knew the secrets. Prophecy. Direct line to God. You went to the Ni. You said I'm like missing something. The Ni would come back. I spoke to Hashem. It's over there. And you'd find it. If a guy wanted to know his mission, this it's brought this far and bring a guy want to know his mission. like what's my job in life? The Na'vi would meet you. He would find out and he would tell you your mission alive. Your was this and this is your light you bring to the world. They knew comes the loss of prophecy. There's this clarity by Shapiro said something brilliant. He said the tendency when we lose the ability to know is to feel that I don't have so much that I don't have so much for this to this discussion. So you could see people quoting but what do you think about this matter? We just don't know anymore. We don't know anymore. So people would run they would quote their prophets. As for what do you think? Oh we're just dumb. There would be a sense that we don't know. My Rebi, my Rebi told me a story that I'm gonna bring out a point. My Rebi met Rabisha Feinstein and lost his mind. Where Zak and Yeshiva, we have Ramosa's great great great grandson and yeshiva, David Grayer is a great great grandson, Ramosa [applause] Feinstein. My rebi my Rebi met with Ramos. It's a true story. My rebi met with Ramosa Feinstein and he like lost his mind from the greatness of the human being. He couldn't believe it. He was in front of Ramosa Feinstein asked him like a simple sh. He like asked what drink what's the brahan on water. It wasn't that the guy asked like the simple sh my rebi was shaking like a leaf. He said I don't know anything. I can't answer. I just saw I know nothing. He felt like he felt so humbled. He said, "I can't answer. I'm just not in the space that I feel like I know." Rebi said, "I can't answer the simple sha." My father who was very confident and he knew a lot of and he was very confident once went to speak to learning. He looked at me said vir what's your name? My father forgot his name. He didn't talk in learning. He said if I can't remember my name I can't talk my name. He was so aed by the giant. So what what I what Shapiro said is after we lost the prophets there was a sense what do I know I don't know anything I don't know like a sense like that said be delivered in jud in judgment said actually trust yours the having means you're capable of yes knowing think through things decide things judge things you Trust yourself. The best thing I there's a I consider him my rebi for life. He changed my life and learning from the best I've had in my life. He taught me to trust my imamish taught me. I didn't even realize how important your is. He taught me to trust my own m. I was talking to somebody yesterday. I was telling them about m somebody came to my house last night and was describing being in a shear that was like dazzling was like a sheer cl but he's leaving that shear I said why are you leaving he said I didn't come to watch the rebi learn tyra I want to learn ouch >> and he was saying sometimes you go to a sh he says such dazzling you don't learn to trust your own process your own story you have a you have a we had a learning last year and was like very we're not like the whole mat should be people think and learn something and have a question your process is a huge part of right Shapiro said brilliantly that were talking to a generation that lost prophecy and to a generation that felt we don't know you know I saw greatness and they devalued the of each person what do you hold what do you think I want to express and there's much to say on the topic were they didn't respect each other there's much written they were the biggest they were huge it's possible to understand it and there's probably some it was they were big sadikim but there was What the Rebi say? What the Rebi say? And part of the Messiah has to be that each person learns and as a process figure out. My father begged me and beg people close to him when you want to get a look up and really think really come up with an opinion learn and trust your process. We're having a kid every has been saying my wife and I've been enjoying immensely. He's like really learning the trying to figure out what is. It's like refreshing. He's trying to figure out. So I'm not getting involved his conclusions what they are or aren't the it's like this is the source. Mr. Gamarra says this the shin said he's like figuring out is trust your opinions like get busy the opposite is not to not be impulsive that wasn't what they were coming to bey don't be impulsive think they were saying your opinion and you're working on the matter you should actually trust your process your process is beautiful if anybody thinks about seder the way the way sed two people sit and they have a conversation. The process itself is part of >> one of the biggest learning is why does it say every tell me the conclusion the process is part of the the asking and answering and saying that process is a beautiful process. It's a process of the that's what we're teaching a generation like really go through it and in a certain way in a certain way your darkness ends up being light in a certain way. It's interesting Rev Gifter who was the RV in Waterberry for four years. That gifter at the end of his life started forgetting Tyra and he commented that supposedly he commented that a good side is like he likes not knowing again he could like try to figure out again now even if you know there's plenty you know so the comment was only bringing out a point that it's not so bad to be in a space of not knowing I liked were almost saying oh my love we're a oh my god Earth darkness. Let's let's figure things out. Let's sit down. Let's let's think. Let's work ours that could be a tremendous light precisely from the darkness in not know we don't know. We have no let's deliberate. Let's think the let's be let's have conversation and dialogue. It's so precious. The bush for the bush for theem is wonderful. Trust your trust your thoughts. Go through your process. Schlommouri once once expressed from the Reb. He once told the so many people are trying to get good at learning like to get a certain maj like your own process where you're up to a figuring out is beautiful. Two people sit down with a safer and they're fig that process of has so much holiness and purification. The person sitting there trying to figure out struggling asking arguing that is such a purifying experience. That's what was speaking to. There's something so encouraging and beautiful. It's true to everybody at their levels. But specifically you picture a dur but all of a sudden the people before like knew everything and then comes our d our d we don't know and that guy like I don't know two people like sit there are figuring out like they're working hard back and forth being trust your process celebrate your it's beautiful when somebody went to the rebi like describing I'm weak and learning he was like he he was literally giving over your you're becomus from where you are is like that's the story that's the beautiful story that's everything beautiful happens there at your space celebrating your you're trying you're connecting to theem that is what Rabi Shapiro learned have means and that's what it's saying I thought >> it's saying don't like go running to your >> that's what he said deliberate that's what he's saying deliberate like really work through converse on the matter and talk right right you remember him saying I like that shot a lot it's it rings true all why are they the ones saying it was everybody acting impulsive in there at times he's saying people weren't deliberating they thought we don't know anymore who do we ask where do we find deliberate and that's something beautiful specific to your dor I love this area yes >> last year he said it again he added also. Yeah. He said >> in he the way to get there is like it's not it's >> like a unique lion of it. He's like just be and that'll allow you like the crazy like all the way just he and that'll allow you to become >> interesting. That's I like that. I like that. >> I want that is an interesting word. It's funny that word he what that word he is. What was he what's he expressing with that? Like be present to what's hitting you? What's hitting you? >> Really? Yeah. Don't try. Yeah. Not like don't force it. >> Yeah. The biggest question in learning is why it's >> not resonating. That's like he's saying somehow he sees that in the word he be present. Oh, interesting. You like this? I like it a lot. We love but this it actually funny it bothers me. They said be deliberate in judgment. Oh, I thought like not that it needs but why even why don't teaching that? What was what's the deal? Rap went on he went on he went on to say that the next thing They have many and he went I he went on like the next step you even become a vehicle to handle the sense of inadequacy for oneself having is you have what to think and at that point you realize give over to you could actually have you have what to get and then you have what to give the sense you have what to give is the next level of buildup of the person you have a tremendous amount that can come from in and give open. I want to say it could be because Aby's here and I love I want to tell you a Leonard Con story. I like this story a lot. It's from a I want to quote Leonard Con and it's what R Shapiro took and I'm need to tell them Harvey. I want to express to the guys there's something called I'm going to say Leonard Con in a second. What's that word when people have a sense like people are learning by them and they have a sense like who am I? But what's the word I'm looking for? There's a >> imposttor syndrome. >> What' you say? >> Imposttor syndrome. >> Imposttor syndrome. Thank you. Thank you Mary. Impastor syndrome. Somebody's teaching to >> and the tendency is who am I to teach? You're teaching. Thanks to my name ever impostor syndrome. There's a sense who am I to teach? And we make a tremendous time we make a mistake. A nishama is mamish big. And there are times others can feel in your nishama what you can't feel and plug in what you can't see. We mameish have big nishas and big lights. Leonard con. Lenny I'm going share. >> I'll share like this. Lenny a a guy was interviewing Leonard Con. See he said Leonard what did you mean in a certain song you said that. What did you mean when you said it? So Leonard he was so if you ever heard of he was he seemed to me very honest person. So Leonard Con I don't know he didn't say mom I don't know the inter the interviewer in my eyes did not seem so intelligent. I feel bad saying that just the way it looked to me was not like the brightest of the bunch. Not no crime. The interviewer says to Leonard Conn, "When you said that in your song, what did you mean?" [snorts] So, Leonard Co, I I don't know. So, the interviewer looks at him, do you understand that the brightest people in the world are like claring or like thinking what Leonard Con meant? >> So, he said, Leonard like tell the world to knock it off. You don't even know what you meant. You know, you have you have in England you have Lord Saxs like writing brilliantly what Leonard meant. I know like brilliant people have tis and what he's saying and he asked Leonard I don't know what I meant. So the interviewer said we have a whole fraud going on in the world called him off. So Leonard Cole looks and with such like sincerity he said of course they should analyze what I meant. He said I think it would be a big game. It came from deep in my soul. What I mean, it's worth studying. And the guy I saw the interviewer doesn't know what he's talking about. I don't know what he and of course Leonard Cones read something came from a person. Let's study what he meant. There's deep there's deep things in a person and to understand the nisham has deep lights and if Leonard called a certain song came from him and certain words he was moved to so then it's worthy of thinking. What do you mean? He said I might know what I meant but something came for me. I felt something I so study. I think he should study. I think I should study. We both should forget what I meant. And and this was saying to have many is to was speaking to a generation that lost prophecy direct line. Then at that point what am I could I myself have think through find what's deep inside yourself. Find your light. Find your light and express your light. What you come out then it becomes important to give that over. What do you mean? It came from me. Yeah. Came from you. Things come that are worthy of giving over and sharing with the next person from your soul to another soul. There are things worthy in us. Trust your soul to the point that you're part of me. Now hand h hand to the next I it came from me. Good good yeah it came from you. Hashem sent and and sends down to your special light. Now pass that on and that becomes part of itself. So these these two these two all of a sudden it makes sense why specifically were the ones who said it specifically. I want to add on and this right Shapiro actually said a different shot but the third thing they said is make fences for the this means the Tyra itself was unkeepable. According to the Tyra, all of us on Chabas would drive to work. You're allowed to do everything on Chabas. Just do a just do it different. You would drive. You would see everybody driving with their like wrong foot doing work with do. But said there would be crazy Shabas. There would be endless shabas. The rabb were commanded to make sure make offense to the make sure the is capable. The center you can't do any and hashem asked the asked the to make the capable and this part that is within the human being. Why didn't Hashem just write the in a way that's capable? Why didn't Hashem just answer you as it that the is in a person the process of the person applying to the MS according to Ray Shapiro this is what the itself is saying that you're part of the process the Torah will be written in a way that you can't keep it >> and your job through your want for MS through your process of connecting to MS That's all part of the make fences for the connect to figure out how to bring the Tyra into yourself. I'll tell you a very interesting thing that happened to me today. Tell you an interesting thing. I want to share this with the guys. It's going to be relevant in your own journeys. On the way to yeshiva, I get a call. I get a call from a lady. She says she has a kabura. She's a person, a growing person and she has a kabur of people, a large kabur and they learn tyra and they want to connect to tyra. She said what's safer? I want to connect to mitzvah. Give me the safer that will give me a connection that will speak about maybe the depth of mitzvah that will give me that connection to mitzvah. So we were talking for a while about this and the thought occurred to me in a certain way I don't know if a safer could give her what she wants your own thoughts your own relating to mitzvah if somebody else tells you how they related is not going to give you people always want I'm learning with a bub what's that safer I can learn that will and if they see somebody who's connecting to mitzvah in a way of fire is there safer. I can learn also get that everybody wants that safer. You know what that safer is? You there's no safer that could do that for you. The safer can only be an inspiration that somebody else try to relate to mitzvah. We're supposed to put on we put on. So now what is it saying to you? How do you relate to that experience? Now put on and if it if it I promise I have you put on and it's life changing your entire you could go to a thousand and nothing will impact you like putting on film but I want my g I want all my parts to touch it. Maybe study, maybe think. Hashem, our creator, told us to put these on. What could it mean to me? How can I emotionally connect that task? Nobody could do for you. Putting it on and being impacted your own attachment, what it means to you. You can learn something and then apply it to yourself. That's your own job. Means your own journey. Be deliberate. Trust your own thoughts. Have your own thoughts. Know that through your own journey to Tyra, you now become part of Tyra. You have students. Students I I the Tyra came from me. Mhm. Now give it over. It becomes part your journey to get Tyra becomes part of Tyra. teach it to the human being is part of the Tyra experience. Hashem wrote the in a way that the human being's own way of of of relating and understanding how is this possible to keep. Oh, I can't do shinuy. That's part of the Tyra process. The human being's connection to the MS is part of the MS. So that's based on Shapiro had to learn this beautiful beautiful Mishna specific specifically for Adaru hada that's where Aishapiro expressed in this mish I thought it was remarkably relevant to our generation of tremendous tremendous want for and it was this in the Mishna how many years ago Revesi Maybe even three years ago. He said it was show this three years ago or two years ago from Maybe even three years ago. >> I was asleep. >> Nana, you were there. He said it in the annex. >> Yeah. >> Is Islam still here or he left already? >> H what? We can't do guitars. >> I want to say like this. We can't we're not going to do guitars. It's spher and we're loyal. There's a minist we we certainly been following the minis throw. We're not listening to music right now. We're keeping that. But I feel funny. Abby Schlommo mayor is here. Maybe we can sing something together. Come up. We'll think of something we could sing together. Come. Come. Let's go. Oh, you got one for me. >> Gabe, where's Gabe? >> Gabe. Okay, I want to watch. >> No, it's not as >> it was in Sulam, right? It was a lot of color work very >> it's obvious. It's delicious. >> [chanting] [chanting] >> I love him. [singing] I can now I am tire [chanting] Not [music] Jesiah. [singing] [singing] [music and singing] might [singing] again like I [singing] [music] I am like [chanting] [applause] one very quiet. Thanks for meeting. >> What other [applause] me? You were one for one on your pick. >> Yeah, thank you. That was Aby's pick actually. >> Who was it? Aby. >> Thank you. Should [applause] be notice. Are you going to drive [chanting] of [chanting] Mar [chanting] [singing] [chanting] Yeah. I I am [singing] [chanting] I [chanting] am I am >> [chanting] [singing] >> I marana. [chanting] [chanting] We must marry. [chanting] [music and singing] [chanting] [singing] I am I am I am [chanting] yeah I am higher Yeah. [applause] The final song of the choir. We're going to have Shimshi join in a minute. I want to share I want to share being here. I want to share quick ty thought that I have learned this idea from I want to express it to tie together. We came from the meeting with the camps. I want to speak about that very briefly. I want to speak about the following truth including learning of and it goes like this. The next mission of us says is from the remnants but the leftovers were very interesting. What's this leftover deal? You never want to be called leftovers. The funny thing even though people called the survivors the sap the remnants. So it's not a negative connotation but it needs and I don't want to say right now though this what's this is like leftovers what's being expressed but is the I want to say this you'll hear it's going to be relevant to her if we're going to say in a second so is from the remains of he said three things used to say the world stands there three pillars to the world one pillar of the world is a second pillar of the world is and the third pillar of the world is acts of kindnesses plural and the question I want to ask is why didn't he say three pillars of the world. Acts of kindnesses plural. He's talking about the three pillars of the worldass doing. Why does he say plural doing acts of kindnesses? The world stands on what is this plural? And it says to be to do plural plural kindnesses should say the world stands on what's so I want to I want to share something that I've observed in my life. something I've observed the pus and kyalis will say it from this way and I have spoken about this a lot and I've observed it in our world here in Durham and I've observed it this is just the truth the smartest man who ever lived says throw your breads on the water and many days you'll find the bread you threw that's the smartest man who ever said, "Throw out your bread. Throw it out there. In many days, your breads will come back to you. You'll find it." What's the smartest man expression? It's some people, you know, there are a lot of famous stories where somebody was nice, you know, there's stories of the Holocaust where somebody was nice to a neighbor and then that neighbor ends up saving their life. That neighbor ends up being a guard in the concentration camp. And there's many such stories. And certainly when that happens you say many days with the rebum you will find it what that sometimes happened it's a great story wonderful what's he saying some it doesn't happen who said you'll find it what's he expressing sometimes he says as a matter of fact in many days you'll find Will you always have everybody you're nice to you'll have a great story how later on they save your life. >> I want to express what I think what is a tr what I know as a truth and I think what means do in many days you'll find it. I want to express that when we do to somebody we bring a certain kindness and it unleashes that person to do as well. said when somebody is kind unleashes in the next person of kindness which unleashes the next person of kindness. I was observing today it was interesting a lot of the guys now running trips went on trips a lot of the guys running the trips went on trips and there's something beautiful about it that this person received kindness and now he's given kindness. I remember one day in Sulam one day there was a carnival. Ravaria brought a carnival. So you see the first kind of somebody spent money to like cheer up the guys and they brought a carnival and the guys there were setting up the guy Shafon kindness. The guy who was setting up the carnival was a musician and a lot of guys from yes were giving him a lot of respect for like oh you made up music. He was playing his song to guys. So the guys were doing kindness to him. Then he was allowing people to do his rides. He was I saw like kindness, kindness, kindness to it looked like I I felt like I was tasting eternity. Kindness that causes more kindness that causes more kindness. Melik is making an observation. When you're kind, you unleash a torrent of kindness. The world's a better place. You were kind to somebody. You unleash their very nishama. When somebody receives I have watched a yeshiva a guy a guy could a guy a new guy comes to yeshiva. It's very hard to be a new guy in yeshiva. There are about 12 to 15 guys who just came out to yeshiva. It's murder to be new especially in a place of connection. It's harder to be new here. If you're new in a secular school, it's everybody the bell rings and you go there in a place of connection and you're new. You go to a shir and then tight with each other. It's hard to be new here. There's relationship. There's conversation. You've had many conversation with friends. He hasn't. And I watch I'm specifically thing I watch cuz sees a new guy like he runs in. He makes the guy comfortable. That's what I watch. [applause] In a year, in a year, that guy's going to be a vet here and he remembers somebody was kind to me. Somebody saw me and noticed me and he's going to repeat the kindness to somebody else who's going to repeat the kindness. You're going to have a world the guy's going to be a nicer to his to his wife in 10 years. And by the way, the kindness comes back to you in a hundred ways. Observed is going to be so much fun to see just the MS the sense of what your kindness caused is The amount of change you do worldwide change from your kindness. It's If you think about the change, it's interesting to me. I don't want it's funny to say publicly because it's interesting to me just cuz in our world I I like thinking about these things the the present United States son-in-law is a from he's a from he's probably having a lot I don't want to say I don't know how much impact on decisions anti-semit are saying bad things hashem runs the world imagine some revi was like nice to rev Jared in third grade caused him to be more kind to be more gentle here. He's impacting world things. If you follow trails of kindness, it changes the entire world. Schlimmel made a deep observation. He was the smartest man to ever live. He said, "If you don't need the crazy story, I was nice to that kid and he said, "Throw out your breads on the water will be found in the world. You create as reverberations a world of kindness. It's one of my it's one of the most beautiful things to watch here is people receive and they give. Receive and they give. Receive and they give. They become vessels of giving. They become vessels. You watch somebody who is seen and he becomes somebody who sees other. You watch somebody who receives kindness and he becomes a vehicle of of initiating kindness and giving. You could watch it happen. The trips itself like bring I loved watching the presenters. Many of them were on trips themselves. An older guy took the time made a nice summer and together with respect and love and then I watch Aka Aka went on a trip himself was seeing was and now he's like giving and see and it's just this torrent of kindness that spills onto the world in the most real of ways. It's just an amazing truth. We're not going to be privy. You're Shai is is one of the nicest, one of the kindest I've met in my life. You won't see. [applause] You won't always track. [applause] You won't you won't always be tracked, child. One day your kid's life is going to be saved by a guy. And you won't know this. That guy came like mamish from your kindness. He was born from your kindness. his husband, his father only had a kid because of your privacy. I these are realities. We're not privy to all these things. These are things only God can follow. We can't follow. There's a world one day we're going to laugh our head off. We're going to discover things a guy does a random act. Now, it's fun when you could follow it. It's fun when you could say you can't you do kindness. You don't know where that takes the recipients of your kindness. You don't know what comes out from that kindness. But things you create and made from that kindness. I promise you says a student of this world, he can guarantee you don't need that crazy story. The guy you said hello to. He ends up saving you. We shouldn't have difficulties. We shouldn't have camps. >> But when you say hello to a guy, that guy is nice to his wife who's nice to her student in school. Well, that's the the school ends up marrying your these things promises put kindness to the world. It will just repeat. It will be in the world. Lanessa, it repeats. I think it doesn't say act of kindness because that's not how kindness works. Kindness is a is a is is just it's that which multiplies. It's that which increases. There's no such thing as they're acts of kindnesses. If you do one it goes l because it goes to that that it's the nature of multiplies and grows and develops and has a life of its own changed this world because it went and then that's why I think he says three stance he doesn't say them acts of kindness that keep repeating I I what I've watched has created He's created a world. He's created a world not with this where people then who are doing see here I want to say it should say if you're right so I'm claiming it doesn't say becomes there's no such thing as one but it said there's a huge And I want to end with this. We have to get the second 5:00. It's 5 seconds. So I want to like this. Why does it call? There's a big stew when it's late. We've gone on all time. I want you to hear is a contradiction. If a guy works for you really hard and you pay him, is that he earned it? is what a guy didn't earn. He didn't earn it. By if a guy works hard for you and you pay him, you do he earned it. That's called MS. You call MS and that's MS. He worked and you owe it. What by by its nature somebody doesn't deserve. The problem is that we call it the entire is exact. You know what means? means that which you owe somebody means wrote a safer called the translation of means payment. Now we have a real problem is a complete contradiction is to give a guy what they deserve is what they don't deserve. Uh-oh. >> The very expression if it's not if it's what does it mean to be and we're told to be so I want to express that there are two ways to do kindness. One does not spread and one spreads. What's the brand of kindness that creates somebody who does kindness and does kind there's two brands of kindness. We come from Abraham to a very specific grant. Is there such a thing as bad kindness? So it says the smartest man again who ever lived said there's something called bad kindness. I have another proof. There's something called bad kindness. Says Hashem is good kindness. So you see there's obviously something called bad kindness. >> The worst type of kindness is pity. >> You see that? That unfortunate look. Look at this guy. That type of kindness does not produce a kind person. It actually reinforces the guy's a you give something to the neb, you actually reinforce him. He actually just becomes a taker. When you give something to somebody in a way that you're just a poor guy and you give him a dollar like that, you actually make him more of a receiver. It's not a that grows. The grows is means you deserve this. I'm like moved by you. I want you to have it like you want to be of kindness. It's as if I'm paying you. What's yours? You like deserve this by your very essence by your beauty by your specialist. You deserve it. That's why it's called I'm giving you what comes to you. You're like worthy of this. You deserve it. When you do kindness in this way, you actually produce somebody who does kindness. The person the kindness itself Abrainu fed his guests. They became people who fed others. It restored like we're somebody there's a certain type of kindness that buries a person that teaches a person if you look at the rau meets these three travelers he says my masters Allah is it possible is there any chance I could have you they're looking at him like are you serious he's like could I have the opportunity please don't is might get a chance like there's certain guys they need an off shabas you think of a guy in yeshiva people are into a guy says like I need a place for shabas need a place picture of shimshi needs a place for shabs people fight over can I have you when shimshi comes to my house we're like whoa he chose us we got it he chabu's brand of that's in the pos He saw he had he saw the human being. He was like the chosen one when he came. Is there any chance I could have you? He had such to have somebody was like he was like chosen. He felt so honored. It was an honor. He felt blessed to have somebody that's brand that comes out of deep appreciation for other person. like worthy if Schlomi asked any guy in the I come to Shabas. The guy had promised it's like I think so. >> Yeah. Rezi would be like yeah like like come like please how much do you charge? That's Abrau's brand to see that when you got what you deserve. You were like worthy of it. That type of produces a person then does to others. The person learned their worth. When a person ate by Abrau's house became a person who hosted others. Abrau produced a whole nation of hosts. When you were hosted by a you became a host you learned who you were okay I'm worthy you host others that's the brand of give me if you're giving somebody what you see them as worthy of it becomes kindnesses to them becomes to others becomes a whole cycle send out the whole world an entire world of gets formed that completes. You get what I'm saying? It's a beautiful world. I saw on these trips people who got trips giving trips got trips. I love that you see it in unforced chill. I love when guys on the trips are helping and unforced just it's a natural flow of you taking care of You feel your dignity and then you taint him. It's this beautiful world of kindness that that day in sum that I experienced that that's this beautiful world of kindness that a person I want to express and there are other times to express but I'm talking about the camps and we talk about a world of kindness. I want to express if he never does another camp but I hope maybe he'll do it this summer. >> [applause] >> WE THE WORLD DOES KINDNESS and kindness. This is the whole everything that we have here in Durham. I see this type of kindness from it's always with a sense the recipient doesn't feel lowered. The recipient feels like you're worthy of this kindness. And it and the the proof to the matter you can ask yourself about the type of do you pity or do you respect is does it cause a person who does if you respect when you do the you'll see they become a machine of they're they're respecting they become worthy of doing giving they see they have the person recognizes I'm alive it becomes a vehicle of kindness that's this reverberating of this kindness that just goes endless. Kindness to kindness to kindness. It would be cool if we had the eyes of Hashem to follow this kindness to follow this world of kindness. Like to see it, it would be like remarkable. We would see all the time somebody's nice to us came from our father's kindness to that. It's just the world. Throw out your breads. You have what? Throw it out and it will certainly come back to you. an outstanding man. >> Let's do one more song. >> One more song before a second sater, you're going to join the choir and >> Oh, solo. Solo >> I would pick it two for two. I have ideas, but >> no, I'm just saying two for two might be odd. >> Oh, stupid. Do you have a song? >> We'll mix it if you like. >> That was That was the one song I wanted to do. I didn't know it. [applause] Gabby, you know, I think so. >> What? >> Think so. Sort of. >> No. before they start. >> How beautiful. [applause] Wow. And they're sitting like purposely buddy. Should we take like a shabas picture right now? >> I'm so happy I sat right next to the Russ. You notice they sat in one. >> You moved them like you did. >> That's crazy. >> Where's picture of the year? Y like this scene brother. >> Sorry, I was they like it. Helman. like [chanting] [singing] [chanting] Jama. My eyes [singing] [chanting] sh my >> [music and singing] >> B I [singing] love [music] [singing] [chanting] [applause] A quick welcome home. The welcome home to Mayor Cat. [applause] Welcome home. Welcome to Joey. We're having [applause] >> It's now It's now 5:13. At 5:17, we'll begin the second. >> Let's go. >> [music]