Your GREATEST quality

it's always a double-edged sword that thing that you're the greatest at is also the thing that's your undoing right that tragic flaw whatever that most pronounced feature of your personality that's the thing that you learned how to do when you were a little kid and there was chaos in your home and you learned how to do this thing in order to make yourself feel safe so some people learned how to be invisible and they got really good at it some people learned how to be manipulative and they they got really good at some people learned how to fight I'll fight back I'll be meaner than mean and they got really good at it some people learned how to be The Peacemaker I come and I play diplomacy and try to Plate everybody they became really good at that some people became the comedian I'll crack a joke I'll diffuse the tension they became really good at that and that becomes your strong suit and that becomes the thing that you're awesome at and you're known for it it also becomes the thing that's the undoing of your life and your intimate relationships because it becomes this this trap that you have to do it that's the only thing I know how to do how can you take this away from me this is my skill this is what I've developed this is my survival mechanism