You are the True Recipient of the Charity You Give

tonight wonderful first of all to tell you that he's a part of an attempt that we are making to these things No to encourage contributions to the rabbis charity does the rabbi really knows the diverse the suspect tried to suddenly that a job where suddenly the illness and insurance cover some of the cost to individual there we're testing because of some situation its development there are so many different situations that come up sometimes difference recently I was able to just weakly provide funds for somebody who could rent this month hard-working single the unanticipated positive benefits that came just from being able to provide that kind I'm sure you can imagine many many different other possibilities in the beans so this charity fund is a very very important like you keep that away tonight if you had a chance to make a contribution of any size robbing over he is a colleague of mine I have had the privilege of getting to know him through meetings over they have together conferring issues and creativity it has a very interesting I would say grabs and somehow cuts into a set according to his teachings and diverse he's got an unusually the rest of membership somehow BMS manages to serve them all very very satisfactory so we're thrilled to be able to pose to while I'm at it I'm Judy single [Applause] thank you so much over feldman echo the sentiment it's great to see Jeff in journey and settling in here I want to thank all of you for welcoming me here you wear a shoe about Jacob and the community of Atlanta or nothing well now but in many ways they're a model for us when I was a young man a child so they were medical student I was reading about senior rabbi Feldman and the tales of this show and of this community and it became a source of inspiration it's continued to as I thought we mentioned I had the privilege for several years of getting together on a regular basis and without exaggeration every time I've interacted with your rabbi rabbi Feldman I believe inspired it always generates some thought some inspiration some motivation some new way of looking at something not that there's such a thing is that there's a band rabbi or a rabbi with an ego and their own playground mice who really take what they do seriously and not themselves too seriously your rabbis ignore them and I feel honored to call them a colleague and a mentor and a friend I've also had the privilege of the last couple years I think to know the facts not only organized on details for tonight another thank you for so our topic is I just have to bring someone from the outside to tell her where they have to get more dug up our topic is the topic of giving stock which is this is that is an agent in your favor so that even if you were destined to have a poor degree even if determined not such a favorable here but if you give to stock up then the current do you know some other it tears up that degree and that tears me up inside because it's so deeply disturbing to think that we can buy our way down are you telling me that God is determined based on my actions based on my values based on my life at lifestyle whether I deserve punishment there is judgment and justice that is coming upon me from the heavens and I can intervene to see I can redirect it if I write a big enough if we think about that in any other ravine or area of life we are open it's corrupt such a church with is a system of just justice and then church is supposed to exactly execute judgment against the person but says yeah one of the activities they were the college guide at the college and acceptance the committee or the person who was in charge and we were only then that I might just call on you as you're introduced me to get in tonight shouldn't that disturb us more deeply there are not known for schools not known for recommending if you engage in a good however he says some of the custom to go to the military shut up some go visit a cemetery America Shoshana then no saloon star Kolodny and there is a universal customers quota from the coal though to give to start going to poor people before Rosh Hashanah on their way into the courtroom you said we give to the judge how exactly does that work the sentiment and with arguably one of the most early and moving parts of our data even though it's fairly recent relative to other parts of our doubting but designed to talk about our heartstrings it does exactly that the house it uses the red melody there's hardly a dry eye in the room is of course the imagery of Hoonah sonnet okay the imagery of the author proposed it and as we think about this past year from last shots at this mia theorem the elmo's who was family never anticipated they would be sitting Shiva who never anticipated they were welcome the new child a grandchild a great grandchild into the family finally realizing that dream this paragraph is a pregnant with possibility and the danger and pulls on our heart roots and once the climax what's the culmination as we contemplate and consider that you're ahead and all I could go right or wrong would spend the next ten days which has shown us screams at us don't binge watch on Netflix and don't waste time on Irish cry and don't pursue things that are not lasting that are fleeting what is our single focus and occupation for those ten days Chuseok tree let's talk of this threefold formula a prescription for how many signed and sealed [Music] there's a I changed my life exercise we are humbled by the experience of they calibrated my moral compass that reset my ego and a reminded me that I rely entirely on Michelle children yeah I get it I understand why they were but stalker why in the world should starting to work aren't I simply grinding God what message doesn't send poor children we've made mistakes we may be in don't worry just add enough zeros to the channel make the bill large enough and you can bribe your way out so we talked about the ethics of we engage or violate when it comes to getting ready and here's the last question if we're going to only engage in trying to provide God why are we doing it by getting started you know what even greater than this doctor you wanted to tell us and that meant ask her about my solutions you know the Caminos for something you was serving as doctor in three ways to eat yes it is even greater I don't mean with almonds stuck a drive not competing with the we say yes for several times during the year he said his company have loved ones who are longer and the origin but the practice of saying mr. I'm all these is really relatively recent comes from the 18th century the English we practice on which dates to the moral high and is recorded by the show others kippers called but the name is Jerome I keep her in the plural upon which the rabbis mentioned that we need atonement not just the living make choices they can no longer achieve results of being closer to God we make choices on their behalf we give them a return on the investment they made in us there are countless frozen in heaven they can't make any more investments but the investments they made while they were alive namely that impacted influence on us they can get a return on that investment so one of the ways we give them that return is by reciting discard but the Shoah reports the modify the origin of the experiment Kippur and this is not just every year people come up with to make it about the money to hit people but he is great video is not gonna shoot these for appeal is for you because you don't give the stock up it's just a lip service yes you're gonna revoke the memory of your parents about these continues your neighbors hands and uncles and you can say God begins as if God could forget a separate topic about history but we say God remember them and God says people with three values of God says okay let's see put out your hand is there anything in it are you willing to share what you have so we get stuck up so that's not just lip service but is called into action at that moment so stock got associated with this type of here is found not only in the sources we've mentioned but in the very practice in the very practice part of his group and again our question is why how does it work are we bribed in God are we using protective how does it work so once you're with the three perspectives that a white sucker is in fact transformative like children and then stuck on which reflects our attitude towards money and our attitude towards money know so much about us and who we are and who we aspire to be who we aspire to be some important stalker has a forgiving process you know that there's a custom that goes very far back women when they buy the Shabbos candles give a little bit of the stock because of it narrator when we give stuff but the merits are just limited to the merit of getting stuck was not just a limited testing issue the ten days of repentance but it's part of the very fabric the weather how are you and believing that what you need will be the clash how are you what's your attitude and relationship towards money is connected calamitous it is like a reflector to mirror because it says incredible one has to be exceedingly vigilant when it comes to calculating stock up and to giving out that in fact that a little secret the only answer that we have a moment are given to us 613 mrs. gates Dhaka is the only Mitzvah we have that we are invited to test God it's normally it's against what we believe this way to my childhood I'm sure I did it my spouse would be healthy I did it so that we're not invited to test God by making commitments and then holding him accountable and I'm not a Tesco it's off the table not except for one area there's one Mitzvah we're about to test God and here - it says am I good am i good we cleared slate now I storage even stuck it was associated with Rosh Hashanah this is the first suggestion because it creates a bond and a connection with others what greater expression of a commitment to community what greater expression of caring about people around you then your willingness to share our resources with them and we're seeing this [Music] it's more painful then we worked hard to save that we gave up on trees that we didn't afford ourselves we would have and yet we take it not to use on ourselves but to invest and enable and support and help others what an expression of commitment to community of seeing strong as a family of caring about the rest of our children and that's one of the core themes at this time of the year maha vailo component interpersonal restoring relationships that are or that have a divide between them the profession throughout the brain that sistaco is the mushaf on us appreciation and in that way that image is so beautiful in a poem people who spend a lot of money we can advance ourselves if you want me to be impressed inspired to want to feel close to you be really nice and good to my children if you really bit to my children I'm connecting close to you I'm going to allow if you really ignore my children if you're mean or harsh or cruel to my children not only why not like you but it's gonna get ugly and the Republic same way this is a while mean this truth is children if somebody's mean or cruel or rude or obnoxious and even if it's unintentional they're just unkind to my child they can try to get as close as they want to me they can be as generous as they want with me but they will get nowhere if at the same time there were kind to my child and I showed us the same attitude respected towards us he says you're spending this illustration shows our speech we have differently later advancing this argument why I should be close with you while you're mistreating my children they're unkind to your siblings my other children and they think that when they eat you because you're stingy get selfish and you can't share what you have which by the way is what I gave you God says it's duplicitous it's hypocritical don't claim you want to get close to me water unkind to my children and so yes I don't even though they leave me I'm a romantic loving intimate relationship with eyeshadow we invest in it and we grow it during this time of year but you know what else we do we showed our love and that's why because kids kids to the first explanation estar is the idea that stuck is the greatest expression of bonding it's how we connect we show our show that we we love his other children we care about our community we care about our fellow men and maybe that's why it's so important courage to do it Momo because our interpersonal relationships is so central it's so foundational and if the foundation is not strong you can't hold the building so we build that foundation give a lot of stock and that's why it's part of the forgiveness [Music] what we're doing is showing that we are worthy and how do I should know I'm worthy how do I earn the merit to show that I'm worthy so if you've ever had to and I'm sure the rabbi's have helped her guide somebody who's unfortunately that a crime is going to appear before a judge or appear for sentencing the lawyers will always advise that before the sentencing before the hearing to every 20 million hours of community service volunteer enter whatever program that you meet on their own do everything you can to show you're a changed person before the judge is about to issue his judgment and that important to this first understanding is probably to be stuck up it's why tonight is all about support the discretionary fund because your rabbis can't tell the people and I know what it's like I'm in debt grab my club I know what it's like to take that phone call that said opposite person alone or to pay that bill to turn the electricity back on there was almost as hot today in South Florida you lost power two years ago when you posted all of our friends myself are lured by the way and promise thank you for that your generosity that they don't remember this community and the hospitality you showed at our community was extraordinary for that will forever be it to you and on top of that yet take it on the chin that you lost power we did those people but anyway we thank you for that it was it was really it was really really amazing so we give in to stock up because we come before God when we say you're about to judge me I want to put my best foot forward I want to show you a changed man or woman so I said I know what it's like when someone's powers off in this he was played tonight air conditioning you know it's like this today with campus because they are my time there was linked in that order to possibly all will come from or whether you can pay the tuition with your children will be allowed to school on a Monday but their polls the shoes have more holes in it than that has family so you're helping is a great statement it's a great expression of understanding at the beginning of wanting to be part of making the difference of caring about God's of the children you're gonna pop off think they're gonna stand the truth we're going to sway to the amazing peuta and the tremendous cause suddenly I hear you're gonna be moved you gonna cry God take a look at you say you kidding me you were there that night their way fella told me he told you he needed your help today someone's wrapped the claiming you love me and he can't take care of my children and I'm supposed to give you a year or blessing to the first I'm buying them off it's changing ourselves changing ourselves by positioning ourselves as caring about these children we're not just taking care of his children to bribe the judge retaining carries children because we care about his children because his children happened to be our siblings they're our brothers and sisters they're our brothers and sisters and then you take our analogy that afford even further my child can claim to love me if they're not nice to their servants if there needs them don't tell me how much you love me I don't care how flowering your Father's Day Mother's Day card or what heartfelt message you put on Facebook for the world to see if you can't be there for your siblings when they meet you don't tell me the parent of you all and that's the attitude Russian has that's number one number two started is in fact the statement of the truth when we said earlier they change us of course with deserving of any degree and we'd ask but it's not what you just write the check and drop with some cash in the box how exactly does that work and the answer is stucco works in the same way all the stuff is a form of redemption it's not a coincidence that after the fainted Italy immediately after the episode the golden calf has shown commands the Jews to donate in order to build initiative he was giving them an opportunity to repair the damage they had done it's called cofrin our show we redeem our soul when we make a donation by paying our way off but by reflecting that we understand what the returns reduces so Sonny says if God made for people why are you undermining his will and if you want to be taken care of why did he make them poor everybody keeping answers and he says no we are privileged that's a controversial word today but one who is in the position to be giving this donkey is in fact privilege and that privilege comes with a responsibility to take care of the one who's an underprivileged the one who needs help and God put them in a position to need help for us to test us to challenge us to help us realize of ourselves and so do not take advantage to not pass that test not become the best version of ourselves it's not good to be missing out for ourselves but it's the EE cause that pain because the whole reason they're going through what they're going through is for that is for that reason money money is one of the areas that people have a very very powerful to run I don't have to tell you the headline scandals annotation the challenge to college but money is a powerful intimacy these are the carnal drives that are difficult for us to conquer to defeat the self-destruction expose and impairs our judgment because they have success it's how we measure whether someone is successful or not the story left so far he left two wills and he directed one review Oh pains it would only be read at the solution after 30 days so among the instructions whether the first will was that this billionaire said here's my setup my eulogy and in addition to the top - in addition to wearing the Marrakesh shrouds I have a favorite pair of socks and I want to be very diverse x2 can imagine if every condition the children packed the wish and after they bury the deceased wrote is children right now we should really know that no matter how much money you have [Music] at the end we are the newest record if you're in that list you have more money than you could ever ever ever know what to do and yeah because amazing because they have to hold on because a person who is worshipping and I know the persons worshiping the mighty dollar they think the secret to their happiness for their success the arbiter of their destinies holding on to their money so instead of worshipping God instead of live within that faith that will happen or need the person who refuses to give stock oh is it my daughter because they're worshiping worshiping the mighty no but something record says you know white stock is the most tempting of all these needs our harness my money saris the most because the resource you can use that's why because you know the answer we worship material now I understand why you haven't made the human psyche has within us this decision will craving for more and more so what's it more and more of the finest wine the most expensive scotch coming in Netflix series we convinced watch the cars the house size of my house where does the insatiable appetite directed when we take the Momo that is inherent in the human psyche and we channel and redirected from money to stock Oh still revolving around the same currency but redirected to the address then to change the world because it gives us to show that we have these righteous and there's nothing righteous about it should be called what should we call its generosity for me to share with you why says that mothers are called selling stock oh there's nothing just about it it's totally unjust so there are verses yeah if I think that it's mine it's unjust demanding that I share is mine whew I realize that all that really belongs and I am the steward but is money then what's just a righteousness to give it where he wants if you have an investment banker who's managing your money they can't just put it where he wants yes to get your permission and if there's an investment banker managing your money and he squanders it he has an expense account that's unjustified he loses your money because of poor investment so you gonna give it more money so that's why the person says I sent a ser no rabbi say a service unit is a shared you know God is investing in us we are the stewards of that money we are the investment bankers all of us to make our parents probably went into Investment Banking we're all investment bankers and God is invested nice gave us assets he allocate resources to us and when we use them properly when we spread and share them properly then he wants to give us more more because we're giving him a great return and when we see wander them when we misuse them we use them on ourselves then he's done giving he's not going to give them back to us anymore failed to get stuck on is not just being stingy reminds me is actually God has given to you but also other children around when he's asked us to say two of these to give those how much takabbara the answer is when I show the resources and money that I am a steward and a trustee over which really is when I promote and reinforce my sensor that munna in him that is the greatest comparable so they're not mom says if you have a choice we could give one dollar or a hundred people or a hundred dollars to one person what should you do you could give $100 to one person what you do there are my rights to give $1 200 people make a big difference my hundred hours want a bigger impact but the Robert says if each act of giving is transforming my relationship with my attitude towards what I have then a hundred of those experiences will transform you have 100 times more than giving it once even if the denomination I was giving the once is equal to 100 times of giving each act of giving literally transforms us it's our responsibility it's why we're here it's our relationships our attitude it's what it's all about so our attitude towards getting stuck you know this is a generational crisis I'm not from here the divine I could be but in my impression in the past people paid for their necessities and stock was part of the necessity I have to make my contribution I have to do my part and only once I paid my mortgage and given the stock yeah now I can evaluate do I get a bigger flat screen do I take a fancier vacation do I indulge morning luxuries and tragically today people are making the list of their budget to include to suck up alter our list of necessities are luxuries when we're creating our budget and there are many people with very tight budgets but when we are evaluating a bunch of weirdoes giving stock before is that a necessity paying my mortgage pay my electric company through on the table in giving sadaqa doing my part is that on my list of necessities or is that why we have the relationship I want to tell you when winding down an amazing insane that I've been so long we were meant for that article myself any money that just as in Israel they tied their produce separate abortion so let's go call myself a man still observed today in Darren's a stroll my children last year the whole system so much nice tell us how you observe a price of fame and listen to the inefficient system that we have I said that is every death animal has to be separated and so how do we do that efficiently if you would have asked me I'd say well let me get my pen hundred animals you know what we do we open the door to the pen and we stand there why are we doing his ass it's a big temper since a lot feels like a lot it sounds like a lot is all until you stand at the door with that pen and you go one for you one for me too from in 384 4 5 6 7 8 for me not for me one thing you got one for me two for me and three for me for for me five for me six for me it is an exercise I'm just the junior doesn't even want to take he told me to give his car to others who need it and he is cut even though he's responsible for 90% of the success of the enterprise he's only asked for a 10% cut he's letting me bring home with every ten dollars I heard for me to make one dollar for myself meant to help people not buttes one dollar me $2 for me three dollars and so on I want to think of myself stuck in that sense that we are to your partners that we and yet we are entitled to 90 percent of the income and we're only being asked to give up 10% only it's not a big number in that context and we're being asked to give it to the senior partner who's responsible for all those success and you know what to see your partner says if you don't give you know in this world [Music] there was this charity ledger and said this this is how much I'm worth this is what I've done the calculation is what you have they said I don't have that the government could seize and the market could crash and fall depreciated I don't know the only thing I have my net worth is what I'd given away it's what I've done to help other people my dearest friends if you want to know what they're worth it's not what's in your bank account it's what's the difference I made it's not what you have but what you've given them a way independent and so we transform ourselves by our attitude towards our money where the stuff that is on our priority list is it a luxury or a necessity where does it fall within our budget do we give but they say a baby's born and clenching her fists and a person was buried with an open hand because a new clench our fists here in Richmond child we're supposed to don't they know to get their freedom all they need to do is let go all they need to do is open their hand and they'll find their freedom too many of us are quenching time we're holding on and those fists are trapping us the materialistic world this competitive world it's trapping us that we serve more and more but if we let go if we'd share generously if we'd make a difference to do more and more through the rebeis discretionary fund through whatever means to whatever organization here or elsewhere to make a difference in this world we can finally set ourselves free to be worthy of earning [Applause]