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You are the True Recipient of the Charity You Give
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tonight wonderful
first of all to tell you that he's a
part of an attempt that we are making to
these things
No
to encourage contributions to the rabbis
charity
does
the rabbi really knows the diverse
the suspect tried to suddenly that a job
where suddenly the illness and insurance
cover some of the cost
to individual there we're testing
because of some situation its
development there are so many different
situations that come up sometimes
difference recently I was able to just
weakly provide funds for somebody who
could rent this month
hard-working single
the unanticipated positive benefits that
came just from being able to provide
that kind I'm sure you can imagine many
many different other possibilities in
the beans so this charity fund is a very
very important
like you keep that away tonight if you
had a chance to make a contribution of
any size
robbing over he is a colleague of mine I
have had the privilege of getting to
know him through meetings over
they have together conferring issues
and creativity it has a very interesting
I would say
grabs and somehow cuts into a set
according to his teachings
and diverse he's got an unusually the
rest of membership somehow BMS manages
to serve them all very very satisfactory
so we're thrilled to be able to pose to
while I'm at it
I'm Judy single
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thank you so much over feldman echo the
sentiment it's great to see Jeff in
journey and settling in
here I want to thank all of you for
welcoming me here you wear a shoe about
Jacob and the community of Atlanta or
nothing well now but in many ways
they're a model for us
when I was a young man a child so they
were medical student I was reading about
senior rabbi Feldman and the tales of
this show and of this community and it
became a source of inspiration it's
continued to as I thought we mentioned I
had the privilege for several years of
getting together on a regular basis and
without exaggeration
every time I've interacted with your
rabbi rabbi Feldman I believe inspired
it always generates some thought some
inspiration some motivation some new way
of looking at something not that there's
such a thing is that there's a band
rabbi or a rabbi with an ego and their
own playground mice who really take what
they do seriously and not themselves too
seriously
your rabbis ignore them and I feel
honored to call them a colleague and a
mentor and a friend I've also had the
privilege of the last couple years I
think to know the facts not only
organized on details for tonight
another thank you for so our topic is I
just have to bring someone from the
outside to tell her where they have to
get more dug up our topic is the topic
of giving stock which is this is that is
an agent in your favor so that even if
you were destined to have a poor degree
even if determined not such a favorable
here but if you give to stock up then
the current do you know some other it
tears up that degree and that tears me
up inside because it's so deeply
disturbing to think that we can buy our
way down are you telling me that God is
determined based on my actions based on
my values based on my life at lifestyle
whether I deserve punishment there is
judgment and justice that is coming upon
me from the heavens and I can intervene
to see I can redirect it if I write a
big enough if we think about that
in any other ravine or area of life we
are open it's corrupt
such a church with is a system of just
justice and then church is supposed to
exactly execute judgment against the
person but says
yeah one of the activities they were the
college guide at the college and
acceptance the committee or the person
who was in charge and we were only then
that I might just call on you as you're
introduced me to get in tonight
shouldn't that disturb us more deeply
there are not known for schools not
known for recommending if you engage in
a good
however he says some of the custom to go
to the military shut up
some go visit a cemetery America
Shoshana then no saloon star Kolodny and
there is a universal customers quota
from the coal though to give to start
going to poor people before Rosh
Hashanah on their way into the courtroom
you said we give to the judge how
exactly does that work
the sentiment and
with arguably one of the most early and
moving parts of our data even though
it's fairly recent relative to other
parts of our doubting but designed to
talk about our heartstrings it does
exactly that the house it uses the red
melody there's hardly a dry eye in the
room is of course the imagery of Hoonah
sonnet okay the imagery of the author
proposed it and as we think about this
past year from last shots at this mia
theorem the elmo's who was family never
anticipated they would be sitting Shiva
who never anticipated they were welcome
the new child a grandchild a great
grandchild into the family finally
realizing that dream this paragraph is a
pregnant with possibility and the danger
and pulls on our heart roots and once
the climax what's the culmination as we
contemplate and consider that you're
ahead and all I could go right or wrong
would spend the next ten days which has
shown us screams at us don't binge watch
on Netflix and don't waste time on Irish
cry and don't pursue things that are not
lasting that are fleeting
what is our single focus and occupation
for those ten days
Chuseok tree let's talk of this
threefold formula a prescription for how
many signed and sealed
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there's a I changed my life exercise we
are humbled by the experience of
they calibrated my moral compass that
reset my ego and a reminded me that I
rely entirely on Michelle children yeah
I get it I understand why they were but
stalker why in the world should starting
to work aren't I simply grinding God
what message doesn't send poor children
we've made mistakes we may be in don't
worry just add enough zeros to the
channel make the bill large enough and
you can bribe your way out so we talked
about the ethics of we engage or violate
when it comes to getting ready and
here's the last question if we're going
to only engage in trying to provide God
why are we doing it by getting started
you know what even greater than this
doctor you wanted to tell us and that
meant ask her about my solutions you
know the Caminos for something you was
serving as doctor in three ways to eat
yes it is even greater I don't mean with
almonds stuck a drive not competing with
the
we say yes for several times during the
year he said his company have loved ones
who are longer and the origin but the
practice of saying mr. I'm all these is
really relatively recent comes from the
18th century the English we practice on
which dates to the moral high and is
recorded by the show others kippers
called but the name is Jerome I keep her
in the plural upon which the rabbis
mentioned that we need atonement not
just the living
make choices they can no longer achieve
results of being closer to God we make
choices on their behalf we give them a
return on the investment they made in us
there are countless frozen in heaven
they can't make any more investments but
the investments they made while they
were alive namely that impacted
influence on us they can get a return on
that investment so one of the ways we
give them that return is by reciting
discard but the Shoah reports the modify
the origin of the experiment Kippur and
this is not just every year people come
up with to make it about the money to
hit people but he is great video is not
gonna shoot these for appeal is for you
because you don't give the stock up it's
just a lip service
yes you're gonna revoke the memory of
your parents about these continues your
neighbors hands and uncles and you can
say God begins as if God could forget a
separate topic about history but we say
God remember them and God says
people with three values of God says
okay let's see put out your hand
is there anything in it are you willing
to share what you have so we get stuck
up so that's not just lip service but is
called into action at that moment so
stock got associated with this type of
here is found not only in the sources
we've mentioned but in the very practice
in the very practice part of his group
and again our question is why how does
it work are we bribed in God are we
using protective how does it work so
once you're with the three perspectives
that a white sucker is in fact
transformative like children and then
stuck on which reflects our attitude
towards money and our attitude towards
money know so much about us and who we
are and who we aspire to be who we
aspire to be some important stalker has
a forgiving process you know that
there's a custom that goes very far back
women when they buy the Shabbos candles
give a little bit of the stock because
of it narrator when we give stuff but
the merits are just limited to the merit
of getting stuck was not just a limited
testing issue the ten days of repentance
but it's part of the very fabric
the weather how are you
and believing that what you need will be
the clash how are you what's your
attitude and relationship towards money
is connected calamitous
it is like a reflector to mirror because
it says incredible one has to be
exceedingly vigilant when it comes to
calculating stock up and to giving out
that in fact that a little secret
the only answer that we have a moment
are given to us 613 mrs. gates Dhaka is
the only Mitzvah we have that we are
invited to test God
it's normally it's against what we
believe this way to my childhood I'm
sure I did it my spouse would be healthy
I did it so that we're not invited to
test God by making commitments and then
holding him accountable and I'm not a
Tesco it's off the table not except for
one area there's one Mitzvah we're about
to test God and here - it says
am I good am i good we cleared slate now
I storage even stuck it was associated
with Rosh Hashanah this is the first
suggestion because it creates a bond and
a connection with others what greater
expression of a commitment to community
what greater expression of caring about
people around you then your willingness
to share our resources with them and
we're seeing this
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it's more painful then we worked hard to
save that we gave up on trees that we
didn't afford ourselves we would have
and yet we take it not to use on
ourselves but to invest and enable and
support and help others what an
expression of commitment to community of
seeing strong as a family of caring
about the rest of our children and
that's one of the core themes at this
time of the year
maha vailo component interpersonal
restoring relationships that are or that
have a divide between them the
profession throughout the brain that
sistaco is the mushaf on us appreciation
and in that way that image is so
beautiful in a poem people who spend a
lot of money
we can advance ourselves if you want me
to be impressed inspired to want to feel
close to you be really nice and good to
my children if you really bit to my
children I'm
connecting close to you I'm going to
allow if you really ignore my children
if you're mean or harsh or cruel to my
children not only why not like you but
it's gonna get ugly and the Republic
same way this is a while mean this truth
is children if somebody's mean or cruel
or rude or obnoxious and even if it's
unintentional they're just unkind to my
child they can try to get as close as
they want to me they can be as generous
as they want with me but they will get
nowhere if at the same time there were
kind to my child and I showed us the
same attitude respected towards us
he says you're spending this
illustration shows our speech we have
differently later advancing this
argument why I should be close with you
while you're mistreating my children
they're unkind to your siblings my other
children and they think that when they
eat you because you're stingy get
selfish and you can't share what you
have which by the way is what I gave you
God says it's duplicitous it's
hypocritical don't claim you want to get
close to me water unkind to my children
and so yes I don't even though they
leave me I'm a romantic
loving intimate relationship with
eyeshadow we invest in it and we grow it
during this time of year but you know
what else we do we showed our love
and that's why
because kids kids to the first
explanation estar is the idea that stuck
is the greatest expression of bonding
it's how we connect we show our show
that we we love his other children we
care about our community we care about
our fellow men and maybe that's why it's
so important courage to do it Momo
because our interpersonal relationships
is so central it's so foundational
and if the foundation is not strong you
can't hold the building so we build that
foundation give a lot of stock and
that's why it's part of the forgiveness
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what we're doing is showing that we are
worthy and how do I should know I'm
worthy how do I earn the merit to show
that I'm worthy so if you've ever had to
and I'm sure the rabbi's have helped her
guide somebody who's unfortunately that
a crime is going to appear before a
judge or appear for sentencing the
lawyers will always advise that before
the sentencing before the hearing to
every 20 million hours of community
service volunteer enter whatever program
that you meet on their own do everything
you can to show you're a changed person
before the judge is about to issue his
judgment and that important to this
first understanding is probably to be
stuck up it's why tonight is all about
support the discretionary fund because
your rabbis can't tell the people and I
know what it's like I'm in debt grab my
club I know what it's like to take that
phone call that said opposite person
alone or to pay that bill to turn the
electricity back on there was almost as
hot today
in South Florida you lost power two
years ago when you posted all of our
friends myself are lured by the way and
promise thank you for that
your generosity that they don't remember
this community and the hospitality you
showed at our community was
extraordinary for that will forever be
it to you and on top of that yet take it
on the chin that you lost power we did
those people but anyway we thank you for
that it was it was really it was really
really amazing so we give in to stock up
because we come before God when we say
you're about to judge me I want to put
my best foot forward I want to show you
a changed man or woman so I said I know
what it's like when someone's powers off
in this he was played tonight
air conditioning you know it's like this
today with campus because they are my
time there was linked in that order to
possibly all will come from or whether
you can pay the tuition with your
children will be allowed to school on a
Monday but their polls the shoes have
more holes in it than that has family so
you're helping is a great statement it's
a great expression of understanding at
the beginning of wanting to be part of
making the difference of caring about
God's of the children you're gonna pop
off think they're gonna stand the truth
we're going to sway to the amazing peuta
and the tremendous cause suddenly I hear
you're gonna be moved you gonna cry God
take a look at you say you kidding me
you were there that night their way
fella told me he told you he needed your
help today someone's wrapped the
claiming you love me and he can't take
care of my children and I'm supposed to
give you a year or blessing to the first
I'm buying them off it's changing
ourselves changing ourselves by
positioning ourselves as caring about
these children
we're not just taking care of his
children to bribe the judge retaining
carries children because we care about
his children because his children
happened to be our siblings they're our
brothers and sisters they're our
brothers and sisters and then you take
our analogy that afford even further my
child can claim to love me if they're
not nice to their servants if there
needs them don't tell me how much you
love me I don't care how flowering your
Father's Day Mother's Day card or what
heartfelt message you put on Facebook
for the world to see if you can't be
there for your siblings when they meet
you don't tell me the parent of you all
and that's the attitude Russian has
that's number one number two
started is in fact the statement of the
truth when we said earlier they change
us of course with deserving of any
degree and we'd ask but it's not what
you just write the check and drop with
some cash in the box how exactly does
that work and the answer is stucco works
in the same way
all the stuff is a form of redemption
it's not a coincidence that after the
fainted Italy immediately after the
episode the golden calf has shown
commands the Jews to donate in order to
build initiative he was giving them an
opportunity to repair the damage they
had done it's called cofrin our show we
redeem our soul when we make a donation
by paying our way off but by reflecting
that we understand what the returns
reduces so Sonny says if God made for
people why are you undermining his will
and if you want to be taken care of why
did he make them poor everybody keeping
answers and he says no we are privileged
that's a controversial word today but
one who is in the position to be giving
this donkey is in fact privilege and
that privilege comes with a
responsibility to take care of the one
who's an underprivileged the one who
needs help and God put them in a
position to need help for us to test us
to challenge us to help us realize
of ourselves and so do not take
advantage to not pass that test not
become the best version of ourselves
it's not good to be missing out for
ourselves but it's the EE cause that
pain because the whole reason they're
going through what they're going through
is for that is for that reason money
money is one of the areas that people
have a very very powerful to run I don't
have to tell you the headline scandals
annotation the challenge to college but
money is a powerful intimacy these are
the carnal drives that are difficult for
us to conquer to defeat the
self-destruction expose and impairs our
judgment
because they have success it's how we
measure whether someone is successful or
not the story left so far he left two
wills and he directed one review
Oh pains it would only be read at the
solution after 30 days
so among the instructions whether the
first will was that this billionaire
said here's my setup my eulogy and in
addition to the top - in addition to
wearing the Marrakesh shrouds I have a
favorite pair of socks and I want to be
very diverse x2 can imagine if every
condition the children packed the wish
and after they bury the deceased wrote
is children right now we should really
know that no matter how much money you
have
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at the end we are the newest record if
you're in that list you have more money
than you could ever ever ever know what
to do and yeah because amazing
because they have to hold on because a
person who is worshipping and I know the
persons worshiping the mighty dollar
they think the secret to their happiness
for their success the arbiter of their
destinies holding on to their money so
instead of worshipping God instead of
live within that faith that will happen
or need the person who refuses to give
stock oh is it my daughter because
they're worshiping worshiping the mighty
no but something record says you know
white stock is the most tempting of all
these needs our harness my money saris
the most
because the resource you can use that's
why because you know
the answer we worship material now I
understand why you haven't made the
human psyche has within us this decision
will craving for more and more
so what's it more and more of the finest
wine the most expensive scotch coming in
Netflix series we convinced watch the
cars the house size of my house where
does the insatiable appetite directed
when we take the Momo
that is inherent in the human psyche and
we channel and redirected from money to
stock Oh still revolving around the same
currency but redirected to the address
then
to change the world because it gives us
to show that we have these righteous and
there's nothing righteous about it
should be called what should we call its
generosity for me to share with you why
says that mothers are called selling
stock oh there's nothing just about it
it's totally unjust
so there are verses yeah if I think that
it's mine it's unjust demanding that I
share is mine
whew I realize that all that really
belongs and I am the steward but is
money then what's just a righteousness
to give it where he wants if you have an
investment banker who's managing your
money they can't just put it where he
wants yes to get your permission and if
there's an investment banker managing
your money and he squanders it he has an
expense account that's unjustified he
loses your money because of poor
investment so you gonna give it more
money so that's why the person says I
sent a ser no rabbi say a service unit
is a shared you know God is investing in
us we are the stewards of that money we
are the investment bankers all of us to
make our parents probably went into
Investment Banking we're all investment
bankers and God is invested nice gave us
assets he allocate resources to us and
when we use them properly when we spread
and share them properly then he wants to
give us more more because we're giving
him a great return and when we see
wander them when we misuse them we use
them on ourselves then he's done giving
he's not going to give them back to us
anymore
failed to get stuck on is not just being
stingy reminds me is actually God has
given to you but also other children
around when he's asked us to say two of
these to give those how much takabbara
the answer is when I show the resources
and money that I am a steward and a
trustee over which really is when I
promote and reinforce my sensor that
munna in him that is the greatest
comparable so they're not mom says if
you have a choice we could give one
dollar or a hundred people or a hundred
dollars to one person what should you do
you could give $100 to one person
what you do there are my rights to give
$1 200 people make a big difference my
hundred hours want a bigger impact but
the Robert says if each act of giving is
transforming my relationship with my
attitude towards what I have then a
hundred of those experiences will
transform you have 100 times more than
giving it once even if the denomination
I was giving the once is equal to 100
times of giving each act of giving
literally transforms us it's our
responsibility it's why we're here it's
our relationships our attitude it's what
it's all about so our attitude towards
getting stuck you know this is a
generational crisis I'm not from here
the divine I could be but in my
impression in the past people paid for
their necessities and stock was part of
the necessity I have to make my
contribution I have to do my part and
only once I paid my mortgage and given
the stock
yeah now I can evaluate do I get a
bigger flat screen
do I take a fancier vacation do I
indulge morning luxuries and tragically
today people are making the list of
their budget to include to suck up alter
our list of necessities are luxuries
when we're creating our budget and there
are many people with very tight budgets
but when we are evaluating a bunch of
weirdoes giving stock before is that a
necessity paying my mortgage pay my
electric company through on the table in
giving sadaqa doing my part
is that on my list of necessities or is
that why we have the relationship I want
to tell you when winding down an amazing
insane that I've been so long we were
meant for that article myself any money
that just as in Israel they tied their
produce separate abortion
so let's go call myself a man still
observed today in Darren's a stroll my
children last year the whole system so
much nice tell us how you observe a
price of fame and listen to the
inefficient system that we have I said
that is every death animal has to be
separated and so how do we do that
efficiently if you would have asked me
I'd say well let me get my pen hundred
animals you know what we do we open the
door to the pen and we stand there why
are we doing
his ass it's a big temper since a lot
feels like a lot it sounds like a lot is
all until you stand at the door with
that pen and you go one for you one for
me too from in 384 4 5 6 7 8 for me not
for me one thing you got one for me two
for me and three for me for for me five
for me six for me it is an exercise I'm
just the junior doesn't even want to
take he told me to give his car to
others who need it and he is cut even
though he's responsible for 90% of the
success of the enterprise he's only
asked for a 10% cut he's letting me
bring home with every ten dollars I
heard for me to make one dollar for
myself meant to help people not buttes
one dollar me $2 for me three dollars
and so on I want to think of myself
stuck in that sense that we are to your
partners that we and yet we are entitled
to 90 percent of the income and we're
only being asked to give up 10% only
it's not a big number in that context
and we're being asked to give it to the
senior partner who's responsible for all
those success and you know what to see
your partner says if you don't give
you know in this world
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there was this charity ledger and said
this this is how much I'm worth this is
what I've done the calculation is what
you have they said I don't have that the
government could seize and the market
could crash and fall depreciated I don't
know the only thing I have my net worth
is what I'd given away it's what I've
done to help other people my dearest
friends if you want to know what they're
worth it's not what's in your bank
account
it's what's the difference I made it's
not what you have but what you've given
them a way independent and so we
transform ourselves by our attitude
towards our money where the stuff that
is on our priority list is it a luxury
or a necessity where does it fall within
our budget
do we give but they say a baby's born
and clenching her fists and a person was
buried with an open hand because a new
clench our fists here in Richmond child
we're supposed to
don't they know to get their freedom all
they need to do is let go all they need
to do is open their hand and they'll
find their freedom too many of us are
quenching time we're holding on and
those fists are trapping us the
materialistic world this competitive
world it's trapping us that we serve
more and more but if we let go if we'd
share generously if we'd make a
difference to do more and more through
the rebeis discretionary fund through
whatever means to whatever organization
here or elsewhere to make a difference
in this world we can finally set
ourselves free to be worthy of earning
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