(Way# 40) MAKING OTHERS MERITORIOUS: 48 Ways with Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston

[Music] hey good day everybody welcome back to another episode of beyond the seven live from jerusalem with rabbi aaron david poston uh and he's sharing the beautiful beautiful series the 48 ways to wisdom and today we've got uh uh number 40. we're really making a good time uh it's been a long journey thus far but each and every episode has got a tidbit of wisdom for you to acquire or integrate into your life and i love last week's message on sharing the burden and today rabbi poston's got a wonderful message on making others meritorious and i look forward to hearing what he's got to share and prepared for us today so let's just jump right in and see how the rabbi is doing rabbi poston you're live on the air such a joy to always be with you and thank you for sharing the light of torah out of jerusalem shalom alaikum everybody welcome i'm so glad to be back i i wish everyone at chevrolet and i'm glad dana you're doing this okay yeah so for those who have been paying attention we're on the number 40. but you know what you can always go back if you're new at this and you haven't heard the previous lesson the truth is the truth is this is almost like a continuation of last week and i actually remembered a very important point that i forgot to mention i really wanted to mention and i made a special note and it was after we were off the air already that i saw this note and i said ah i wonder if i could put it in somehow slip it in but you know what it was so easy to come to that point like a segway because we we dealt with the idea of carrying the burden of others and today we're going to it's the he that the title in hebrew is called now the word it's hard to describe but we'll try to vision a scale of justice mahria is to tilt the scale right when i is a rabbi someone comes to me and asks me my opinion is it this way or that way so in my mind i am you know i think fiddler on the roof right on the one hand it's like this on the other hand it's like that but in the end i have to make a judgment call and the judgment is basically which side is heavier right which side am i going to lean towards yeah so machrio the would literally be the determination for the side of merit however the rabbi the book of my left shoulder the 40 ways rav noah weinberg describes it he translates translated making others meritorious and it's very interesting because there's actually two major discussion points that we're gonna what does it mean to make others meritorious okay so on one hand we're going to discuss the idea of not necessarily judging others favorably that's going to be the second point is to help them become more successful in other words to have a more positive judgment in heaven how we do that it could be through rebuke but rebuke is not going to be the end all you actually like pull up your bootstraps pull up their bootstraps help them stand on their own two feet and make a more a more productive lifestyle for themselves that's how you're going to help them be more meritorious so we're going to discuss that idea on the other hand the general or the traditional way of describing is called judging others favorably because remember the whole idea of machia as we described tilting the scales is judgment and we're judging people all the time question is how do we or why should we and what benefit is there to us by judging others meritoriously and i think at the end hopefully it'll come together that both these ideas are really hand in hand yeah it's more than a verdict it's actually by judging them favorably you will make them more successful people which is a a very it's a scene it's an investment isn't it it's yes but it's going to be out of the box i mean it's it's metaphysical it's metaphysical of nature now what i what i failed to mention last week and i'll tell you we talked about carrying the bird now imagine what happens when you go to visit somebody who is ill whether they're in the hospital or at their home but they have an illness now even if i'm gonna save with a capital even if what they have is contagious right your first your first inkling your first um you know thing is basically stay away and i'm not telling anybody that if it's highly contagious to uh to become infected like god forbid but hazal tell us that if you go and visit somebody who is ill you remove 1 60th of their illness now what does that mean we're talking metaphysically here because any time the number 1 60th is used it means that it's almost insignificant so you would imagine okay so get 60 people to visit this guy and all at once or whatever one right after another and you would remove all of this illness it can't mean that can't mean that you're literally lifting up and maybe even carrying a part of this illness away obviously if it's contagious okay it doesn't mean you have to be in what do they say six feet whatever you could still be you know attending to his needs trying to help the person um without getting too close god forbid to be contagious but so you're uplifting his spirits right we talked about beaker calling last week but in terms of removing 160 in other words there's actually a risk by visiting someone who's sick right i mean at least when it's contagious right even if it's not contagious maybe even um emotionally psychologically you could be brought down right because you're maybe you're lost the faith you know you don't have as much optimism anymore but no so going and and doing this courageous act and i'm going to call courageous because some people are you know woozy it's some seeing somebody who's for whatever reason you know it depends on the on the illness of course some people do want to stay away from looking and being around people that are ill but there is this unbelievable transformation that's taking place in the person you're coming to visit we spoke last week that the doctors the nurses whoever is taking care of this person becomes more enthusiastic about helping that person the per right so that is already like it's unbelievable what you can actually do to help somebody get better by just going and visiting showing that you're interested but also the person themselves is um most likely right uplifted their spirits will be uplifted and that's going to be a major a major aspect in healing i mean i don't want to get into this next it's not today's topic that was carrying the birth very merry heart does good like a medicine right right so they speak about make somebody else's life uh merrier right so they speak about when i say they whoever they are uh scientists researchers about medical clowns right and i spoke about this when i mentioned about how animals are big they now they bring in dogs they've got you know loving puppy eyes and stuff like that yeah okay okay i could hear that i've even heard of them bring horses into the hospitals and let the sick patients pet the the horses and that and the horses they're very sensitive where they will go and who they want to visit actually are you sure they don't bring the person outside the hospital see the horse they actually i've seen i've seen videos actually horse a walk down the hospital hall and determine which uh which patient they want to visit and uh yeah okay anyway that was that's beautiful beautiful anyway that was just a um a point that i i failed to mention last week in terms of carrying the burden of others this is a crucial point and now why does machria why does either judging others favorably or in this case trying to help others uh be meritorious in their behavior how is this related to carrying the burden and i think you'll see in the beginning in a big way so the roshiva mentions that it's not enough to feel the people's problems but you actually have to help them get up on their back on their feet get back on track right and that means it could it could mean being a little bit um [Music] not overburdened towards them um what's the word he use compelling in other words like we have we talked about motivational motivation we talked about intervention right people are in denial people are not seeing any light at the end of the tunnel and you are presenting perhaps hopefully with other people who love the person um that there's care and concern and you're willing to help the person get get beyond uh the point they're at in life um but one of the ideas is why would you do why would you even begin to do this so there's this idea of you you've had this sense of responsibility in other words you you bear you feel you bear the responsibility to help them otherwise why would you go out of your way to try to help them so you see how why why this is really a continuation to a certain extent of can i can i ask what about with dealing when dealing with those that seem to take advantage of such and try to make it your obligation i mean uh i've seen people try to you know impose obligation on on myself where none should exist like i'm not obliged to to to do good to somebody specifically in other words i don't want my kindness to ever be seen as obligatory uh i think it somehow re takes away from the kindness itself okay without going because obviously every situation could be very different but we do have a responsibility we and that's going to be but the question is how to do it under each case because then sometimes bestowing the kindness is actually what they call um enabling is that the word okay so there could be a time and place where your kindness is actually doing uh more harm than good but let's say in general people are not aware that it is their responsibility okay so cain and abel conversation between god after you know i mean like what does cain say am i my brother's keeper where's your brother am i my brother's keeper yes okay so this is a an important lesson that i believe i believe that there's a strong disconnect with the non-jewish world it's said over and over and over again right in the our torah that a jew has an obligation to love every jew and anybody who converts they have made a major decision to enter the covenant to make many sacrifices and under the protection of the shechina of the divine presence and of course non-jews who are righteous especially living in the land of israel we call ghettos which you know we have today but the concept still exists when there are righteous jews living righteous non-jews living amongst the jews this is it's least in in eres israel under certain circumstances we treat them with the same social welfare that we would any other jew so we have a responsibility and yes the kindness may at times as you mentioned um be skewed and they feel it's coming entitlement and all this what we talk about today you'll see you have to know there's still responsibility again right this is making meritorious i get okay it's in here it's there in the end and we spoke about this last week if someone's in physical danger you know you're going to take the responsibility to act right he gives an example you have somebody who's standing on a balcony they're about to jump down you know i mean like they're gonna they're gonna die obviously right then you're you're a bystander you know okay you might have this tight schedule right we talked about this before we started right you have a tight schedule you have your priorities set up for the day hey this is going to ruin your day you're going to put you're going to spend 15 20 minutes maybe three hours who knows right and trying to take care of this problem even though it's not your problem it's god put it in your way it's your problem now right are you going to do everything you possibly can to take this to convince this person to step away from the edge right so that's true by physical um danger what about spiritual danger right we're more sensitive to it and there's people around walking with their blinders on and they have no clue about the spiritual world and this is also our responsibility so you should make everyone should make some effort to take care of this this is a responsibility okay just mentioning about that it's not about just rebuke but giving the person as much wisdom again it's it's how you do it you have to use a lot of tact you know if they're not asking for it you can you can figure out a way say look i'm older than you i have experience when you've experienced give me five minutes um if you don't like what i have to say you never have to speak to me again right whatever it is that you could figure out a way to um explain right you don't you don't want to preach to something right if someone's bleeding you want to stop the bleeding you want to put the pressure on right so um this is our responsibility as human beings okay now we did talk about the 12 steps a lot over this um series and i just want to pull up what i mentioned was the 12th step in alcoholics anonymous just have to find it okay one second and i mentioned it having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps this person whether it was alcoholism gambling whatever type of um addiction addiction that was ruining their life i hope right we're talking about by the 12 steps only 12 steps is the final right having had a transformation in their life it says that they try to carry this message message to others okay the idea is also to continue practicing these principles but why is carrying the message so important well they don't mention it here i mean the idea is that it's actually quite therapeutic for the person but if we know that we're responsible for all other human beings on this planet which i believe every thinking jew who knows the mitzvas and knows our role knows that the question is about non-jews do they have the same responsibility for the world i don't think so but they do have the same responsibility for their family for their community you know for the state that they're living in and if they're really you know um move to do so absolutely you know if you can see something that is a problem in the world but again charity and i say charity not in terms of money charity in terms of carrying a message taking responsibility to help others begins at home so i'm not excusing a non-jew who has the abilities to get the message out to the world i believe they absolutely should but i'm saying that there's seven eight billion people on the planet everybody is responsibility to start at home with their with themselves and their family and to do what they possibly do they can but they have to start with themselves and move move forward um now what i want to do is move into why it's important to judge others favorably and i mentioned in my i guess it's called a promo or some kind of advert for this class that this would transform the way we actually look at god ourselves and other human beings let's in our relationships our relationships that's a three-fold relationship right ourselves and others and with god i want to start with the obligation that a jew has in the torah itself and i'll allow you to uh if you can kindly read the verse in leviticus it's chapter 19 verse 16. now the truth is it's really only the last few words of this verse but please read the whole thing 16 says you shall not go around as a gossip monger amidst your people you shall not stand by i think it's fifth must be 15 then so i go to fifth person 15 says you shall commit no injustice in judgment you shall not favor a poor person or respect a great man you shall judge your fellow with righteousness now those last few words you shall judge your fellow with righteousness it's a directive in hebrew it says basidic but sevik is in righteousness now what does that mean in righteousness it means to view him as righteous in righteousness tishpot you shall judge amitakh so this is a directive to a jew for his really your your um not just your fellow it's your fellow of your nation um hebrew for your nation it's so your fellow your fellow in arms now just imagine it really applies to anybody who's righteous you're you're righteous you're trying to be righteous so you should judge those who are now in other words not everybody's being judged righteously right someone is known to be evil known clearly publicly displays his evil you have no obligation to judge him right righteously in fact you shouldn't however by the time we get through here you're going to see there's going to be a huge shift in that caveat yeah so keep in mind at least the hawaka says if someone is known to be evil outright evil publicly you have no obligation in fact you should judge judge him not favorably someone who knows known to be righteous and you see them doing something off you have to figure out a way without lying really come to a story in your head where it's believable that you believe it that this person whenever he woke up on the wrong side of the bed whatever it is or you know a religious jew on shabbat getting out of a car going into mcdonald's walking out with a couple cheeseburgers what happened so either his wife was pregnant and said i need i need this which actually is the law okay that he's allowed to the shabbat we call desecrating the shabbat meaning driving in the car on the sabbath going to the mcdonald's and getting this cheeseburger for her to eat okay we're not going to go into the details on why it's permissible in certain certain certain circumstances but when a life is dependent on it and in the case of a woman in pregnancy in certain cases it is true um so so you as the viewer the you're you're observing what's going on there's a way in your mind to think like i just said it could be his wife don't do such a thing who knows maybe someone put a gun to his head who knows but you're not thinking badly of this person um on the okay so then there's like all the middle people the people called benonim they're not known to be righteous they're not known to be evil in fact you may not even know them but you know so it's it's praiseworthy to judge them favorably okay not necessarily as an obligation okay with that in mind i want to refer to a concept in um breslav and it's called a zombra so for those want to do further investigation on their own it's spelled a-z-a-m-r-a you can go and do your own uh google search with maybe put in the word breslau judging favorably um but i'll read to you what rabbi nachman of rezlat says in the likute maharan and we're going to see on a metaphysical level and we're going to go back into the gemara to see where he got this idea from that if you judge somebody favorably you're actually going to create a metaphysical force that will cause the person to do truther and to live up to the positive thoughts you have about him so remember remember we spoke about two ideas one was uh just to give uh help to somebody to get on a more meritorious path the other idea was just judging within yourself about this person positively well and i told you they're really connected so by thinking positively about somebody you're um what's the word you're emulating from yourself you're emanating emanating from yourself these ideas that are the other idea which is judgment on this person god in turn believe it or not will then have a favorable view view of this person and will judge the other person more positively because there are other people who actually think quite positively about this person okay i know it sounds very crazy that we affect the way god thinks but we're talking metaphysically as if okay but it is a reality in metaphysics and therefore the judgment is what's against this person is softened or sweetened okay and so now this person hopefully obviously could change his behavior towards the better and i think we've spoken about this before how every person should look at the world as if it's sitting 50 50 right if each person is in the the scales of justice or 50 50 and the merits and the debits and if all we do is one more positive act or one more mitzvah then not only are we judged to the merit to the positive side but the entire world is so do you see that the way you're going to view another person hashem will pick up on that will then judge the other person positively or let's just say soften the judgment and this will actually help the person believe it or not that is going to be the metaphysical reality that one can set in motion for the other person as well but wait it's going to boomerang back on you as well because you will also have a positive first of all because you're doing a mithra which is judging others favor so already you're doing a mitzler which we already know is going to offset if you're 50 50 it's already going to give you already a majority on the positive side but metaphysically as we will discuss there's a concept called the 13 attributes of mercy which we're going to discuss a little bit in depth and i kind of made a decision that the next subject we're all we still have nine more classes i know we still have eight more classes after eight will be eight more right answer today uh a book called tomer devorah or let's say the the uh the the great work by the uh the uh ramak promotion who was the our result the great our resolves teacher in slot okay so the 13 attributes of mercy we're going to talk about we're going to this is where the class is going to move right now into that idea and how we're supposed to emulate god that's just the way it is for jews and we'll get into where that came from how do we how do we know that and one of them is called rav that's going to be in the hamish itself and we'll talk about the verses in exodus 34 6. and then we're going to go to mikha which is in the prophets chapter 7 verses 18 and 19 how these statements the statement that michael uses is parallel to the 13 attributes of mercy and we already mentioned which means god one of god's traits is abundance of love and kindness now that's god's trait and we're supposed to emulate him you'll see if you're already imagining where we're going with this by judging others favorably it changes the whole dynamic of judgment in the world okay so it's going to be one aspect when it comes to in that's in exodus 34 6. when we talk about michael and again there's 13 attributes that are basically not redefining but we know that the the prophets don't make up anything new whatever they say is to expound upon and to explain what the five books of moses already said so if you have the 13 attributes in exodus and you have these 13 attributes in mira they're basically i'm not saying copycatting they're they're explaining so when it says over there who forgives iniquity and passes over the transgressions so that is what we're dealing with when we talk about the the kindness of hashem so now we're going to see how you judge others positively and this will apply even to those who are known evil you have to imagine as azamr will discuss something this person did in his life was worthwhile i had a very interesting friend slash comrade and i'll go as far as tang he was a teacher of mine his name was ruff hayem of yerushalayim very dynamic person personality and he was very much into azamra teaching the kute maharan and um and breslau and a living example unfortunately passed away a few years ago um and actually ye bonnet our organization helps his widow and uh and children the orphans um anyway so back to the he used to have a hundred people for every meal from uh i went to his house five years straight for just pesach just the the pennsack seder uh just an unbelievable personality um full of hesit and it should be a real alias mashallah not that he needs my help or anything like that but um anyway unfortunately he died young and okay so i want to get into this and i'm not even sure where to start but i guess i'll start with quoting where should we start from let's start quoting the the um the the cutie marana exactly the rabbi nachman from breslau says like this these are his words a person know and understand he says know and understand as if this is going to be life-changing a person must judge everyone favorably remember i mentioned already according to the if they're not righteous know not to be right you don't have to he says even if someone is completely bad it is necessary to search and find in him some modicum of good the little bit of him that is not wicked now it's very interesting we're going to see some verses in the torah that describe why this is true and by finding in him a drop of good and judging him favorably one brings him to return to the true path of his jewish soul okay now now that i quoted that i want to get back to this but i think it's proper to go to the gamora first and see where these ideas develop from so in rosh hashanah rashawn 7a we're going to use these verses so let's first become familiar with the verses if you could read for us exodus i believe it's 34 verses 6 and 7. let me before we start reading this is when moses is asking forgiveness the jewish people sins with the golden calf and moses is begging forgiveness and god is ready to forgive them and he tells them any time you have you're looking for forgiveness keep this in mind even though that was a national concept and for us jews we say this every day in a minion we don't say it privately you can if you say it correctly but we say it collectively when we are asking for forgiveness we're pounding our hearts and we're doing tachanun and these are called the 13 attributes of mercy and god says right i'm going to give you the secret this is the secret okay go ahead six and the lord passed before him and proclaimed uh lord lord benevolent god who is compassionate and gracious slow to anger and abundant in loving kindness and truth uh preserving loving kindness for thousands forgiving iniquity and rebellion and sin yet he does not completely clear of sin he visits the iniquity of the parents on the children and children's children's to the third and fourth generations now on those words abundant in love and kindness so in hebrew it's rav abundant rav kindness loving-kindness so rashi says for those who need love and kindness because they lack sufficient merit okay so there are people let's call them evil or that's obviously not all of us are evil who lack sufficient merits but the people are not completely righteous okay we lack sufficient merits and this is a character trait of god how does it manifest itself and that's for him to worry about what about me i'm supposed to imitate god okay so let's go to michael chapter 7 verses 18 and 19 and this is parallel to what we just said by moses revealing the secret of the 13 attributes of mercy micah which chapter it's chapter 7 verses 18 and 19 18 and 19 read who is a god like you who forgives iniquity and passes over the transgression of the remnant of his heritage he does not maintain his anger forever for he desires loving kindness he shall return and grant us compassion he shall hide our iniquities and you shall cast into the depths of the sea all their sins so you see from the beginning to end there's a concept of a forgiveness of iniquity but the he the hebrew part i want to show you is what it says and passes over the transgression so in hebrew it's no say avon which means carry the sin which we spoke yes last week about carrying the burden the same hebrew no say is to carry here you talk about carrying the sin god will carry the sin but it doesn't mean carry here means to forgive it actually means to forgive recover over the alpesha and he will what he will the word is our means to passover what does that mean he passes over the sin to those of the remnant of his inheritance of his heritage so i'll explain a little bit right now because there's going to be a gamora we're going to talk about that if you're over me dato if you allow somebody they're not acting so nicely towards you they don't treat you with respect and i'm not talking about torah i'm talking about personality wise right i'm not about a rabbi that they disrespect torah and therefore they're on the rabbi's case about torah that you're allowed to and you're you're obligated to go and fight with this person i'm talking about where it's a personal attack so what you do is you keep your mouth shut you're you're not taking out your vengeance or your grudges on this person on a personal level and you're it's basically you're allowed you're overlooking i think that's the best word overlooking his character what happens is god will overlook your negative character when you overlook somebody else's negative character hashem will overlook your negative character and this creates an a tremendous amount of peace in the world okay so i want to go into the gamora itself which actually describes what's happening here um i kind of want to skip the first part but i think it's a good lead up to what we want to talk about so i'll go through it quickly and then i'll slow down halfway through so it was taught in a bryce at the base hillel says right it says in our verse in 34 6. what does it mean rav khasit abundant of kindness it means that he tilts the scale in favor of kindness so that the middling people that means the benonim the average person will not have to go to gehenna now the good morning asked well how does he do this how does god do this so rebecca says this is about god he pushes down the side of the merits right if you have a scale tipping the scale in their favor as it says in michael he will again have compassion on us and push down the other idea which is judge says in chapter 7 verse 19. rabbi yossi barghanina says he bears meaning he carries that means he raises the sight of the sins as it says in michael 7 18. it says that he is no say the sin and forgives transgressions now there was a certain sage from the house of ruby ishmael from the school of ishmael and he taught in abreissa that what he does is he overlooked looks each and every first transgression because it says mavericion he overlooks the first first is a little bit complicated what he does but every time the person sins the first time it could be in the second time third time whatever it is the first time or a few times god will always overlook it provide the person's righteous and stays on the righteous path and doesn't continue to sin okay that's a little bit complicated i want to get into that but okay rather this is where we're going to get to brother understood this verse differently he said with regard to whoever forgoes his reckonings with others in other words that's about the mavia he overlooks when someone else wronged him with others for injustices done to him then the heavenly court in turn foregoes punishment for all his sins again whose sins are we talking about we don't know right now could mean the other person but it also could mean you the person overlooking the sins of the others or forgiving or foregoing the sins the punishment is forgiven for all the other persons well we don't know which person anyway so that's related to in niha chapter 7 verse 18. he bears sins and forgives transgressions now the question is the good morning asked whose sins does he bear whose sins is god carrying so the first answer here right is the sins of the one who forgoes his own reckoning reckonings with others for the injustice committed against him so how beneficial is it for us forget about i mean i cannot say forget about it but forget about all of the personal um character traits that you're rectifying on your own that's already a tremendous benefit that's probably the best but also as a consequence your sins are also forgiven or overlooked and it was related that rahul the son of yeshua became sick it's a it's a story but really it's the end of the story is the point and he went into his um rahuna the son of yeshua became sick ralph papa went to his home to inquire about his well-being he saw the world was growing weak what does it mean the world was growing weak it means that the the rob the rabbi was on his way out of the world so rav papa said to his attendants maybe you should prepare the the shrouds the burial shrouds but guess what happened ravuna actually recovered and you know what roof papa was quite embarrassed he he went and saw him and he saw he was like on his way out and he said let's prepare for his funeral and then the guy gets better i mean he was quite embarrassed to go back and see him it seemed as though he had actually decreed ravuna's death well rahul's friend said to him what did you see when he was lying there between life and death you went ahead and said go get the shrouds ready he said to him oh actually they asked rahuna who was um who was the one who was sick what did you see when you were in that state he said i was really close to dying but you know what hashem did hashem said to the heavenly court since me since i'm the one the heavenly court was judging me saying since i i'm the kind of person who doesn't stand on my rights meaning i'm ready to wave them when it's right what is doing you too the the court god was talking to the court you too the court should not be exacting him in judgment and again the quote was he who bears sin and forgives for transgression who does whose sins does he bear the sins of the one who foregoes his reckonings and there's another story i guess it's all the same concept i won't even go into it so you see that in heaven unbelievable um transformation can happen in your own in your very own uh judgment amazing i want to mention that at the nighttime shema there's a there's a blessing we say but there's also a bakasha a tafila a request that we make from hashem so imagine you're saying this every single night master of the universe i hereby forgive this you're going to sleep you don't know if you're going to wake up the next morning right every single night i hereby forgive anyone who angered or antagonized me or who sinned against me whether against my body my property my honor or against anything of mine whether he did so accidentally willfully carelessly or purposely i mean we're talking about even those who we know are evil whether through speech deed thought or notion and this is a very interesting statement whether in this transmigration or another transmigration in other words in this lifetime or in terms of reincarnation a past lifetime i forgive every jew may no man be punished because of me because i'm still holding any kind of uh resentment or grudge it's not healthy first of all just healthy it's not healthy emotionally not healthy toxic it's toxic mentally spiritually not healthy now the question is do i have some of these verses yeah so the idea of this genre is based on first of all we all know in parque i vote uh if you want to open it up in perkier vote um first chapter mission is six you want me to read that uh yeah please let's see is that uh joshua ben pariah and uh nitai the the uh i don't have it i don't have a problem receive the oral tradition from them joshua used to say appoint for yourself a teacher and a choir for yourself a companion and judge allman with the scale waited in his favor that's it see you're right so you have an obligation to judge everybody favorably okay so this is not just for judges these are also for every single person i think we discussed this last time we brought that up now in the teaching itself there is a yes a verse from the psalms king david writes um 37 ten in other words chapter to hell 37 verse 10. ken reads a short while longer and the wicked man is not here and you shall look at his place and he is not there okay the way to well here i have an english translation that makes it fair that you know a little bit better and maybe on let me pull up the hebrew at the same time i'm sorry for not having this prepared uh psalms 37 we said 10 10 37 and i'm reading from chabad.org yeah i'm going to do the same 37 here we go okay so a short while longer so it says further just a little bit so we spoke about trying to find that little good in him in russia so if you can find a little bit of good then there's no evil okay and the in russia meaning the evil person is not here just find a little bit of good and the evil has gone is dissipated right and then when you're looking for that evil he's not there anymore this is how they understand this verse in fact look at rashi rashi says a little while longer when you wait a little longer you will see the wicked man is not there okay so what he understands this is like this if you find but a little bit of good then the sinner is not he's no longer guilty search his place and he is not there but is now to be found on the side of merit that's why he's not there unbelievable unbelievable and he tells you in this book go with this lesson constantly this is like the mantra this is like one of the main principles of breslau okay keep it in mind and practice it always i mean if you think about what rabbi kiva said right the hato re kamoka love your neighbors yourself this is the general or this is the main principle which all the torah is based on and um even hillel you know like somebody wants to convert and he says you know teach me the whole torah one foot he says the same thing love your name yourself go learn everything else is commentary right so to really ingrain this principle we have to learn and it's not easy to figure a way to legitimize legitimizing your head make a legitimate story of what it could be to to judge this person favorably meaning you know what he did to you was wrong but there's something in this person's life that's redeemable and if god would look at this you know when he was young he did respect his parents until he got ruined right because he's he was probably a decent being at some point you know he was cute like every other kid is cute right so you got to figure out some way to find that one point that was pure and good before he or she went to the dark side so to speak and this is going to have a great effect um this happens to be i'll just tell you one of my favorite subjects really of don even though this is titled machria le cafete and it put in both ideas of helping people which i try i try um you're doing a wonderful job right now renault weimar called me a tov he had different labels for different people um there was a brochure but ever whatever it is mine was tov so i never was really into these acronyms and he's figuring out the personality types but i believe that he was right on the toe i like to do good things um so on one hand i want to as also someone who's into the 12 steps you know taking this merit taking this message carrying the message you feel and bear the responsibility if you were a slave in egypt which i was right literally a slave in egypt i'm not you know not even like using my imagination as a jew right which i'm actually obligated every jew is obligated to think of themselves as having been a slave in egypt and i think that every jew should carry this message of freedom right the torah itself is jerus is inscribed on the tablets the word for inscription is the same word for freedom with a different validation of course but it's the same route and it's interesting to see why when you engrave you when you print something you leave you leave ink on top of the paper right okay but when you inscribe you're creating borders for the letters the the groove but you're creating a border those so believe it or not i think everybody who's married would agree with me or hopefully happily married would agree with me that the wives i'm not going to say it's their job but that's what they do they help the men create borders you know there's a concept called constriction and i mean we can get into some of the metaphysical probabilistic ideas of how that work whether sexually and manifold the different aspects of what they do but there's this um ultimate border laying being in your life and that actually creates for you true freedom okay without getting into any any any anything further about that um but trust me and i think everybody who's happily married knows and understands that um so what abort so that's what god lays down for us these borders that's what the 6 13 commandments are obviously there we call them restrictions or borders or it's a plan laying out for you very clear delineated we have a lockha that's what's in the middle you have extreme left extreme right which is forbidden whatever is within the definition that's what's called permissible um so anyway this is it's through the torah it's through the acceptance of the ten commandments so to speak which really was all 6 13 because there's 613 letters plus another seven it means qatar that's the whole crown of torah which is the seven okay laws 613 for the jew and this is where one will find their true freedom through the turn when i don't want to mention the name of this uh i don't want to guess uh banned from facebook but when this uh virus first came out and the name sounds like and i'll say in english honor the word is in hebrews kavod kavod means honor and in fact the word corona as far as i know means a crown and the word ketter which is actually 620. that's ketter means the crown and we call it the crown of torah that the crown of torah needs to be put back in its place the crown of torah which is the 613 mitzvahs seven no high laws need to be accepted by mankind and this is the message that god is trying to tell us aside from whatever else all the other lessons which we have a whole list of all kinds of good lessons we learned this last year and a half two years but this would be i would say the main lesson people say what is god trying to tell us to return the crown this is an age-old jewish wish to return the crown to its rightful place which obviously includes not just hashem himself but his agent uh his agent being the meshiach um and the jewish people and of course all the righteous people in the world and how does it begin i believe it starts with understanding the main principle love your fellow as yourself and if you can love this this really fits in well because you're talking about why should i judge him favorably because he's my brother we're in the boat together remember if i judge him favorably the whole judgment of the world will be judged favorably it'll sweeten or lessen the the punishment right it'll sweeten the judgment against him and against me and against the whole world and you can't get better than that so i hope like i mentioned this help this whole idea will transform the way we the way we have relationships ourselves it shouldn't take people a lot of logic to realize that when they're acting the opposite and putting it you know in in the wrong place how it uh it causes things to go awry all around the world just causes agony amongst people and uh yeah and it perpetuates and and yeah so thank you for sharing that clearly okay so i want to just encourage everybody as well that they should know that these materials are found also in this book on the asiator website it's called h.com um but the 48 ways you can look it up there's so many videos there's other uh speakers there's other remember it's based on the mission in perkiavo chapter six mishna six um there's more there's so many other aspareme other resources if you really want to acquire it folks it's out there you can dig deep into each and every topic and it will just boom transform your life but it's work and it's consistency it's going from one to the next to the next and reviewing hopefully you're around good people that you can help they can help you put these things into practice can remind you oh didn't we learn this the other day right it's about a community wherever you're at and non-jew also i know that the many noah hydes are looking for a community they need they feel that they feel the need and it's it's so obvious um you have to find like-minded people who are into torah and i'm saying torah because there's a little bit of a difference of what how we learn and what we're learning in terms of jews and non-jews but all the ethical teachings all of them are obligated on non-jews as well any of the commandments that are logical or ethical are obligated and what we've been discussing i think fits into both categories quite easily and you just what's the word you you drink with thirst the words of the torah yeah and i think that's why you know i've been doing so many broadcasts rabbi it's just such a joy to dive into it's like you thirst and you just want more of it and you want it to change your life and uh change the world i love how you put that today about putting the crown in its proper place um yeah beautiful way to put it and uh yeah i hope people uh get how they can rectify uh the world in in just the little way uh as rabbis posted it today just just start to uh consider others as meritorious before ever passing uh you ever notice how you know we've been reading a uh a book on my rocky mountain readings called never get angry again by dr lieberman and uh he's very very uh strong on uh the psychological uh downswing that happens in a person's life when they just let their ego get in the way and they start to respond incorrectly i think uh turning that around uh and is is only possible with what you're sharing with us today we have to begin to look at others and make others uh meritorious um don't pass the buck on this folks live it this is living right that's that's really living yeah yeah i i you know rabbi i asked myself yeah a hundred a million times you know some of the struggles in life that i've gone through and i asked how often i've brought such onto myself and a lot of it probably had to do with not viewing others meritorious and you bring yourself all kinds of havoc uh when you don't need to if you can just start to to consider even like you say look for that one little thing and even bringing it alive uh in the torah and the tanakh today as you have uh it's there it's uh and hashem will pass over uh uh and they're not there anymore the the wicked's just not there it's just beautiful and we all learn to integrate such into our lives oh man i mean i'm looking forward let's see what uh next week brings us let's see what next week brings us next week would be 41. wow we're making good ground living in reality wow wait living in reality is 41 achieving peace of mind is 42. maybe that's why you need number 43 fascination with living it's just getting better and better that would be our promo for the upcoming weeks well i i i remember the very first time i was reading this course and it just seemed to whoa when i didn't think the lesson could get any bigger it just kept growing and growing and growing it's like oh cooked me i was hooked you know people are into what they call pop psychology and what they call the new age and all this stuff it's all the time right there's nothing new under the sun all the stuff that works all the stuff that makes sense just that unfortunately i guess a lot of your viewers who have left um you know not just christianity but any type of uh subset of christianity i mean it's just uh i don't wanna i don't wanna bash them too much but it's um they got lost they got lost in the in the amongst the trees you know uh literally literally you know we talk about from julius's point of view the i guess we call the cross right it crosses the wood and you got to see the whole picture and when you see the whole picture which hopefully will change your mind about paganism and about the way you think about god and yourself and your community so hashem willing are we on for next week is your schedule allow it so fortunately all right so folks we're going to sign up for today uh remember make the maki make others meritorious uh don't be so quick out there to judge people harshly at all don't do it uh look for the the the good out there and uh hashem will just uh open your eyes and your life in a different way and i think it all plays into making the world a better place so we're gonna sign up for now have a wonderful wonderful week folks [Music] is