Shaarei Teshuva 1:17 & 18 with Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston

[Music] it's [Music] shalom everyone welcome back to the borah for the tr the shari chuva and uh we invite you to listen to the previous shiri to catch up we are still in shar alef in the beginning uh the first shah and we will be dealing with paragraphs 17 and 18 bizroth hashem today um i just want to mention this class is dedicated to the rafa shalema of harav pinto yushiyahu yosef ben zahri okay so it's rat hashem in the school of our learning he should experience a quick and complete recovery bizarre shim okay i just want to adjust the camera so let's begin we're talking about means to worry now we all know as i've expressed where he can be paralyzing where he can actually prevent you from growing so we have to define our terms and try to understand what this dog is so the uh the rabbiniona begins in paragraph 17. it's true that a pentenant person someone who's in the process of truva should have a certain sense of worry now just to recap we spoke last week about the kind of weary should only be about spiritual things when it comes to the physical world so we shouldn't worry that much obviously we have to take care of things we're not in a vacuum we're in the real world but real worry should not ha should not take place and we should pray to hashem that our worry should only be or should at least pri the priority of our weary should be regarding spiritual matters okay keeping that in mind what the penitent should be worried about furthermore is what pen yet because well let me just translate this yet might have come to overpower him because we don't slaughter the natsuhara as that as if it's not it's not an existence it is unfortunately sometimes our best friend right in fact it's our older brother because her older sister because when we were 12 as a girl and 13 as a boy that's when the yates rahatov really entered into our um let's say sphere of existence yet for already 12 or 13 years prior we had the eights hurrah so he's the older brother or sister he's more familiar with the territory and he it she is very cunning and we're going to deal with some of the verses in the garden of eden let's just say with with adam richon okay let's discuss this it says like this kamo zakrono right away he brings perky a vote per kavod says um it's in chapter two mishna 4 that one should not believe in themselves until the day they die what does that mean of course you have to have a sense of self-worth everyone has an ego we're not talking about total annihilation of who you are but don't believe in yourself until the day of your until the day you die i'm trying do not believe in yourself until the day you die what does that mean as i just explained just to go through the one particular comment here one can never be confident that he has vanquished his yetzerah or their yatsurah for even if he succeeded in winning many battles and has not sinned in a long time the war continues there are going to be many battles right there could be many battles it's very cunning but don't assume that the war has is over as the yetzer hara never gives up trying to entice the person okay so keeping that in mind that's why you should not believe in yourself until the day you die kosher kane haisha shared nitsugo yitzro kavar this would even apply to someone who really is confident or certain that their yetzerhara has already been defeated one second and by but certainly to the man who's jesus has already defeated him in the past one second so if you know for sure that your yates has not finished with you right how much more so right you have not uh completely uh vanquished yurizu around hishamer minha oh you raised mccall ace this is going to be where we're going to discuss a lot tonight it's certainly fitting for one to guard themselves from their yetzer hara which is looking to ambush it's anticipating it's always one move ahead right or raid the coalesce at all times it has a home court advantage let's say so la hoysief bit naf show us hashem one should increase this is what we're doing here right we're sitting and learning the revenue because we're trying to do what he just describes now that one should increase their urus hashem their or of god every single day find ways you know learn moosa learn torah whatever there's so many ways but this is what we're doing to try to increase your fear of hashem every day vitiligo in order that it should be a stronghold for you in order it should be your you know be tacon you're so again you're not so sure of yourself until the day of you die but as long as you're on the right path you're hanging with the right company you know choosing a community that's healthy and you know they don't sit and they don't curse they don't hang out the bars we're talking about you know as mature as you can be obviously we're human beings we have fun and whatnot but you know you want to go to the beach so they say okay let's find a separate beach or let's organize with the owners that'll be just women's hours or just men's hours whatever it is you know this is the kind of people you want to hang out with as opposed to people that really don't care they'll go to a mixed beach and whatever that's just one example right um because what happens is the yetzer passes over you like waves and it comes as a like a renewal at all times he can use the words regularly it's constantly renewing itself just like god creates the world every moment okay so the it's hara is very strong obviously it's not god but this is it's under the auspices of hashem hashem gives the power of the eterna the eternal has no power without hashem just like we don't so it is also renewing itself against us every single day so i have this gamora here conducion 30 be a 30b and there's a lot of verses that we'll have to become familiar with i'm sure you are familiar with hopefully some of them just to make sure i have it all here okay so basically here let's just open up real quick in deuteronomy 11 18. so we have here it's part of the shema we say this every day more than once and you shall place these words of mine upon your heart the hebrew goes like this the first word the psalm 10 the psalm 10 some in hebrew some is a like a medication drug okay tam is like tom is pure so the torah itself is a pure antidote as they translated in exceller of life it is the antidote it is the the cure against the yetzer so again one should try this the best study torah for many women would would memorize or when they have spare time uh to heal him that's also torah so you should place these words the psalm tem place these devara ela al of him upon your hearts okay so what does that mean let's go through this we read the word not the that means the perfect drug the torah is compared to the drug of life and i'm serious this is the anybody who was in any kind of addiction will hopefully has come out of it because they hit a point we call rock bottom but it means you you hit the point where you really have given up uh hope of any kind of sanity um any kind of normal life and that's called rock bottom and once you reach that point you know that there's only one thing you can hold on to we call this the o's right mig delos right this is the uh the the um the rock right sure this is the my stronghold so the gamora gives a parable a person hit his son with a strong blow and put a bandage on his wound now i'm assuming we're talking about not just the bandage but also some kind of ointment and medicine under the bandage he says to him my son as long as this bandage is on your wound it is healing you and what you do whatever you want you can enjoy life and drink bathe you can use hot wood or cold water it doesn't matter you have nothing to be afraid of because you have this bandage on your wound but if you take off the bandage it would become gangrenous right like gangrene and god forbid that would mean or possibly mean that a um you know an amputation would have to take place you would lose that limb so to the holy and blessed be he said to israel my children i did i created the evil inclination which is the wound now just keep this in mind because this is a very important principle hashem has created the cure which is the torah before he created thee which is the wound but now think about that in every single scenario and every case in your entire life always i mean always whenever you experience so my gosh this is this test this trial this tribulation this experience and there's no way out of it first of all you couldn't be more wrong that hashem already created the healing the path out even before he brought on the illness but here we're talking about the torah is the is the cure and the atara is like the wound and he says i created the torah as its antidote if you're engaged in torah so you will not be given over to the hand of the evil inclination so now we're going to deal with the chapter 4 verse 7 in genesis you should know this is before cain kills abel however cain's sacrifice was not accepted abel's was and cain was let's say either despondent the depressed something was going on internally where he really felt giving up hope and hashem saw that and one of the response god says is it not that if you improve hello you will be forgiven all you have now we're going to talk about rashi says this is working on your character all right if you do not improve however the locative so then if you don't work on your character if you don't improve the petahatas rovates that's when sin is crouching or ambushing you at the door the elect to shukateau and towards you is its desire however tim shabo but you can overcome you can win you can rule over it so let's discuss now where he's going the um oh let's stay in the game for a second so the answer is if one engages in torah that is going to lift you up it's going to lift you up above your evil incarnation if you don't engage into our study then you're given over to its power and that's what it means sin crouches at the door as we mentioned moreover all the evils inclinations and double deliberations will be concerning you meaning its desire is towards you to bring you down and we're going to talk about this interestingly enough i think what we're going to learn tonight relates a lot to what's going on in the world with different uh parties with the different people surrounding the candidates who are actually running for the most powerful man in the world today which we call the president united states potus i'm going to talk about a little bit not really having to mention any names or parties in particular but i think you'll pick up uh who's who so let's continue moreover listen uh that the evil inclinations desires will be towards you as it says and to you is its desires and if you wish you shall rule over it and that's what it says but you may rule over it now the sages taught so difficult so harsh is this evil inclination that even hashem called it evil look what it says in genesis 8 and the lord smelled the pleasant aroma and the lord said to himself this is by the right before the flood i will no longer curse the earth uh because of man for the imagination of man's heart is evil from his youth and i will no longer smite all living things as i have done sorry so this is right after the uh the the flood so what do we see first of all the word is when he when god says that the imagination of man's heart is evil from his youth this is what i was talking about the evil incarnation is already inserted within us while we are minou it means literally when we are in our youth but also the root is the same as moving around meaning within the womb even before we come out of the womb that is when the yetzer i'll just read rashi there he says this is written min without a vow implying even though it means the word naar means youth from the time that he or she is the embryo and shakes himself nina to emerge from his mother's womb the evil inclination is placed in him as we all know there's a measure that speaks about the fact that there's an angel that teaches the entire torah in our mother's womb and as we come out there's an angel that causes us to forget well what angel do you think that is what what else is going to cause us to forget torah okay so now it all fits together in case you were wondering not only that the gomorrah continues ruth yitzhak says a person's evil inclination because this is going to be the verse that we're dealing with a person's evil inclination renews itself every day now you could find this in genesis chapter 6 verse 5. so this is before the flood and the lord the lord saw that the evil of man was great in the earth and every imagination of his heart was only evil all the time of course that's why god says you know what man will only live 120 he's got too much time on his hands okay so i don't have to read the verse in hebrew but it's uh maybe i will okay the yar hashem god saw kiraba rosa odambara it's how evil man great evil man was on the earth the call yet and all of the imaginations of his thoughts towards his heart was rock raw it was only evil cole hyun the entire day or all day or every day all the time so the work continues so we understood kolha yom is every day ruby shimon belvie says the person's inclination overpowers him every day and actually wants to kill him this is what we're talking about in terms of the uh the elections but anyway let's continue the passage is in psalms 37 32. um the wicked man watches for the righteous man and seeks to put him to death that's the frets verse 32 but he also brings 33 so one second and if not for the fact the holy one blessed be he assists you need hashem's assistance without hashem's assistance you would not be able to overcome the aids this is where hitting rock bottom for an addict is really useful because at least he's in the know like how lucky is he that he knows he can't do it and he needs hashem's help while we healthy people walk around this planet thinking i got it i got it covered right it's it's all on me it's such a big mistake how lucky and fortunate are those who have hit rock bottom and have seen the light so to speak right i have a friend for example he i'm thinking about seven eight years ago he told me came back from the doctor and the doctor told him he has six months to live i just want to know he's still alive today anyway he spent all his money on cruises uh fancy things he just enjoyed himself for the next six months and uh he ran out of money but that's a whole nother story the doctor told me he's got six months to live you know what i told him i mean my heart was broken and i said to him how lucky are you we we're insane we're all living in a fantasy we think we're gonna live forever that and you have clarity you're the only one that in our circle who knows they're going to die okay i'm not laughing at i'm just saying how how important this is to understand that tomorrow we may die we should do truth before the day of the day before we die is it it says so too here this guy had absolute clarity amazing so he knew that he needed hashem here we have and if not for the fact the holy one blessed be assist each person in battling his evil incarnation he could never overcome it and how do we know from the rest of that same verse in 37 verse 33 the following verse the lord shall not leave him in his hands god's not going to leave the today in the hands of the russia he shall not condemn the righteous when the wicked is judged okay okay let's go back now to our text how far did we get we're now well i want to read this comment also in the more in the um the charity the gemara conduction teaches that a person's yetzer renews itself against him every day according to one explanation this refers to the phenomenon that as a person grows older matures he outgrows the desires and attractions of his youth with each new stage in life one comes to the realization that something he had pursued is not as attractive as he had thought for example i mean this is really easy obviously it comes to candy as a kid oh candy candy candy you know but as you grow older you realize it's not the end all but i guess if you're a little bit feeling down a nice pint of ben and jerry's and some whipped cream doesn't hurt but you realize it's uh it's um it's not a necessity maybe it is but you realize it's more of a a luxury but a child thinks you can't live without the cotton candy or whatever and going back but this does not cure him of the desire for materialistic pleasures free quickly finds some new attention attraction that seems more worthwhile to him that when he that then what he saw previously so now it's like yachts and cars and you know what i mean the newest phones or the newest computer or whatever it is we have we call adult toys right i don't mean that in the in the perverted sense government i mean in in the sense of more expensive and more fragile in this sense the it's hara renews itself constantly never ceasing to challenge a person until his last day on earth if we're aware of that we're actually aware when we're really honest with ourselves about we have a fighting chance right as they say in the 12-step programs if someone is not capable of being honest with themselves they have very little chance of recovery but that's true in life if you're not going to be honest with yourself you're just going to keep making the same mistakes over and over and over again review to those constant challenges as waves of the sea that's how we describe them which never stop coming they don't stop i mean you're not we're not talking about like a lake we're talking about the ocean right a lake it could be certain tides could be certain um parts of the year that there's uh perhaps no waves we're talking about the ocean the ocean is constant there's no stopping even if one withstood many challenges of the atara he can be sure there are many more to come don't worry very cunning and once you think or assume that you've overcome one thing you're you're in for a rude awakening as we shall say it's very cunning as i keep saying but the antidote is to increase one sphere of hashem daily so as to combat the effort of the yetzerah which likewise renews itself every single day okay so let's continue now we i'm just going to mention what he says he says we have three major categories in the idea of what the bautreva should worry about two of them we discussed previously the third one we're on to today so number one that that there's a punishment looming over you that we talked about number two that you should worry that you didn't fulfill your obligation in chuva that's true and the third thing is we already discussed those ideas the third is he's in danger of falling prey to the yatara again and that is today's uh chapter basically what the weary one should have and king solomon spoke about it in detail in his book called proverbs and he went into detail regarding this idea of worrying okay so let's talk about the verse the verse is well how does begin his words in chapter 28 verse 12 it says when a righteous when the righteous rejoice there is much glory this is where i'm going to get a little political but i hope you'll forgive me i'm not ever going to tell anybody who to vote for and that's your choice this is a civil i think a civil responsibility and privilege and you know it's a privilege it really is and the idea is that you have to vote your conscience but i will tell you from a tourist perspective what one should do is try to choose the better of two evils because the governments that run the world today they're not they're not meshiach they're not a righteous sanhedrin they're they're evil um they're not so righteous so we have to choose the least problematic one so i'll use the word corrupt right choose the least corrupt and that makes sense to me because the no heights it's not just the jews but under the seven okay laws to set up a system of justice and therefore you need law and order okay now you heard it i'm not telling you to vote for but whichever candidate is for law and order is the one you should probably consider right because the torah that's what you should be considering another idea i want to save this for them i'm going to blow it now that i believe that one of these candidates like in other words any candidate for the last 200 and whatever 40 some years however like old america is or whatever country you live in if your leader could possibly be the world leader right because i think in america they do claim that and probably is true at the time at the moment until machia comes um that try to imagine cyrus cyrus in in in persia a leader who decides i'm going to build the temple imagine imagine one of these good two candidates if there's one of them who would say who you can imagine saying i'm going to build the temple because i have experience in building or in making peace i don't know maybe and he's going to say i'm going to get persia to pay for it i'm going to get the iranians to pay for it which of the two candidates could you imagine saying that i think that's the one you should vote for but it's up to you whoever you think and you imagine the one candidate saying that wouldn't that be nice okay so now let's go to this idea it says in proverbs 28 verse 12 when the righteous rejoice there is much glory but the when the wicked rise up a person will be searched out okay we're going to talk about the first part of this verse now what does this mean according to the um the rabino yonah balotsa ferrous adam fine the parishes the explanation is that's the deakin um if they're righteous if you have a righteous society they're very positive thinkers they're looking um let's say download there's a very optimistic view like make something great again right there's some idea of positivity and they're not always looking for the negative in things i'm not talking about people who are criminals and you know the criminals i'm talking about the general attitude is a very positive and optimistic outlook and that's what siddiqim do but wait till we hear what the russian do the russian movement they're looking for the blemishes how cruel and just how bad things are um they're always looking at the negative let me just tell you how we translate these words because um they tend to seek out people's faults and errors in order to belittle them we're not talking about individuals that society is all right and that's the way i'm looking at it right so when the righteous it's plural exalt there's much splendor but when the wicked rise victims are sought now why victims saw it it's going to be because they're like preying on them right but another thing is that their sins were hidden and they're going to look and investigate to find out what these people's sins were okay let's go onward um let's give a translator a comment here when he mentions that the righteous tend to praise and glorify people for every good attribute that's found in them the comment says that when the righteous exalt meaning when they're in authority this is why i thought of the upcoming elections when they're in authority and society functions according to their ways there's much splendor meaning the praise of peoples are sung they're somehow optimism and they're they're looking for the good what about when the wicked rise victims are sought this expression that victims are sought means that the wicked seek out people's faults and even dredge up forgotten misdeeds for which people have already repented right there's an idea and i'm not saying it's true but there is a possible idea within society and i think it's very wrong they have a council culture that if someone said something wrong 20 years ago 30 years ago or did a misdeed isn't there any redemption isn't there a possibility of of chuva of forgiveness it sounds like what's going on in america is there's a certain amount of people i don't know who they are that are unforgiving there's no mercy and i think it means because they really don't believe in god it's like the godless not in hebrew but in english right they're not there's no mercy there's no grace there's they don't believe in it and therefore if you said the wrong thing 20 years ago they're going to cream you they're going to cancel you you they're going to ruin your life right things do change and then we're talking about maybe we even was in the sin back then right but let's see a real sin they'll investigate the look and they'll try to find something from a long time ago okay i didn't make this up this is where we're at we're a paragraph uh 17. can you imagine actually now we're on 18 already but this is where we started today this is not something that i said oh this chose this this is exactly where we're at in the book and i think it relates somewhat to today's society right yeah when you're saying they're looking to the pack to the past you're saying that um the person who's in power is looking for the past at you and saying you're evil therefore i'm gonna pick out everything bad you did no i'm not talking about the person in authority i'm talking about a whole part of society that is running things if the society itself functions a certain way whatever part there could be parts of society that runs like that so we're talking about someone who did chuva and yet they're not allowing now there was a person admitted the wrong move on but they're not allowing that to happen so obviously if someone does not admit they did wrong i think you have every right to call them out on it okay we're talking about when they did chuva that's what the council culture is person says it was okay back then i would i say that today no but it doesn't matter you said it and you're you're you're gone you're off you know you're not going to speak at my campus you know what i'm saying that's that's the council culture and that really i think is only in one part of society i don't think it's widespread okay i don't know if i answered your question but he specifically told them when someone has done truva because we're going to get into this whole idea remember this is about doing true though so we're going to get into this idea of confessing your sense publicly we're letting people know that you had sin and you're no longer the same person okay we're going to get into that because we shouldn't get confused with other religions where they actually do what they call public confessions or at least other people we'll have to discuss when that is done when it's appropriate okay because it's not like across the board it's inappropriate in most cases to confess your sins publicly or to let people in general know that you you were a sinner okay but they're going to be times where it's necessary that's we're going to get into that now so after this introduction or did i read this last point let me just read the last point but the wicked tend to seek out people's faults and errors in order to belittle them even after they have abandoned these wrongful deeds and have repented that's probably the most important point here okay that there is redemption there is moving forward moving on after this introduction then malek uh mentions in verse 13 he who conceals now we're going to be dealing with this verse for a while he who conceals his sins will not succeed but he who confesses and abandons them will obtain mercy the hebrew part is of the one who's hiding his his sins will not succeed um that means not just admission but confession and abandons them he has done shiva he's no longer acting in the same way we'll find mercy we'll have mercy we'll obtain mercy now we're going to deal with this verse versus another verse meaning a seemingly con seeming contradiction so let's go through it one at a time we just read the verse 13 it was michele proverbs 28 13. one who conceals his sins will not succeed but who confesses and forsakes them will be granted mercy pay russia what does that mean about the lagalos even though it's inappropriate that a balchu should not and will not or generally does not reveal his transgressions to the public and that is based on this idea uh commotion it said in the verse that when the wicked rise arrives victims are sought what does that mean i'm going to just read which implies they must seek out the sins of people because people generally hide them it's considered brazen and even a cause of hashem a desecration of god's name to publicize one's sins okay that's one of the reasons we don't do that this is between us and god okay to go around the world say yeah i was a sinner i was a sinner i was a sinner but unless you're like some kind of a motivational speaker uh a big speaker sought out because you have made such a major change in your life and everyone knows who you were and what you're like now then you could be and maybe should be a public speaker and mention your past sins publicly because it's all part of the history of where you were at and where you're at now and how you got there but for every tom dick and harry to go around publicly and say yeah i i mean i don't want to say the words whatever i did this and i did that there's no toe ellis there's no benefit and it's well it's going to hurt your kids i mean it's going to hurt society because one of the ideas why we don't do that is because it belittles the severity of the sin you make light of it right if you just every time dick and harry and say you know yeah i robbed the bank couple years ago i got away with it i don't know whatever it is you make the sin less severe by just mentioning it so freely right it's it's something that you should not cherish god forbid cherish the moment that you have changed but it's not something that should be so uh you know fluent on your lips only where you find that you can actually help somebody who may be going through the same thing you may be the perfect person to show sympathy and empathy and and give the person strength that he too she too could overcome because you overcome cain but that's we're not talking about an inspirational speaker we're talking about a personal conversation you're having with somebody okay so goes on this idea that when the wicked arrives and and victims are sought what does that mean but nevertheless we do have an obligation to confess them to hashem in order to succeed in gaining our atonement and that's pretty clear in the verse right let's just go through the verse again we said that was he who conceals his sins will not succeed but he who confesses and abandons them will i'm going to use the word succeed we'll obtain mercy so there is a positive thing seemingly from the confession okay so that's one idea we're gonna have to deal with that because that doesn't really fit in so well with everything that we know then it says in tehillim 32 5. so i think we're going to basically take these two verses if i'm not mistaken and deal with them because it says i will inform you of my sin this is king david psalms 32 5 and i did not conceal my iniquity he said i will confess my transgression to the lord and you forgive the iniquity of my sin forever okay so before we go further we need to do is now look at a verse in jeremiah if i'm not mistaken okay so in jeremiah chapter 2 verse 35 it says and you said but i am innocent surely his wrath had gone away from me behold i contend with you concerning because you say i have not sinned okay one second basically what do we what are we concluding here at this point while it's generally appropriate to conceal one's sins from other people one may not conceal them from hashem by denying them but rather you must confess them and beg him for atonement now we're going to go to gamora in yuma 86b and that is going to deal with two major verses become familiar one of them we already mentioned um did we in in proverbs 28 13 proverbs 28 13 said he who hides his transgression shall not prosper correct we did 28 13. i'm just reading he who conceals his sins will not succeed so if you conceal your scenes you you since you won't succeed it's implies that you must or should talk about them and profess them out loud but the gomorrah says like this rabbit has said that rob raised a contradiction it says in psalms 32 1 so 32 1. all the pages praiseworthy is one who transgresses whose transgression is forgiven whose sin is concealed so one second here it says if you conceal your sin that's better right your ashrae your praiseworthy okay but the other verses we read imply that if you confess your sin or you make known your sin that is a that is a good thing so which one is it which one we're in a quandary on one hand certain verses imply one should confess and make them known on the other hand king david just says i will confess only to you you're the forgiver i'm sorry this wrong verse one second here it is um praiseworthy is huge transgression is forgiven who seal whose sin is concealed okay so how we're going to deal with this lingamar this is a little bit technical but we'll try to keep keep track okay so verse number one fortunate is he whose transgression is forgiven whose sin is hidden implying that it's inappropriate for one to reveal his sins whereas there's another verse in proverbs 28 13 he who hides his transgression shall not prosper meaning what's going on here it's contradiction so the gomorrah says it's not a difficulty why when we say here here is always the second one the most recent verse where one who hides his transgression will not prosper that's because here it's referring to publicizing you're publicizing the sin now since his sin is already public knowledge it's so you can't hide it you shouldn't hide it if it's public knowledge and everyone knows then by denying it that's creating even a bigger issue you have to admit it and go on with life but here he says right the publicized sin in other words everyone knows you sinned and therefore it's also fitting to publicize the repentance if your sin was done let's say between man and man right between men and men you have to go and apologize to the person right we all know that on yom kippur that if you do not apologize to the person if it's a it's a sin between man and man you won't be forgiving it so it's so very important so when it says publicize sin it means that either at least one maybe three maybe a lot of people know about it so you have to publicize the repentance part as well over there we're talking about the first verse where it says fortunate is he whose sin is transgression is forgiven because and the sin is hidden that's talking about what where the sin was never publicized therefore it's inappropriate to publicize the repentance now the gemura ends by saying resutra bartuvia said in the name of rav nachman a different shot he's saying over here which would be verse the second verse that you hide your transgression if you hide it you're not gonna prosper i mean you should confess it that's when what that's when this person sins against another person you must publicize your repentance so that other people who hear this would persuade him the person you sinned against to forgive you right because you sinned against a person but over there meaning in the um in the first verse fortunate is the one whose transgression is forgiven forbid forgiven because the sin is hidden that's because it was just a sin between you and god in which case there's no need to repent publicly it's just between you and god and god knows everything okay so so far so good going back we did the gemara and he the brubena yona explains er based on this gemara that sometimes even one who conceals his sins from people will not succeed right we saw the verse this applies for example two transgressions between man and his fellow whether monetary matters or personal matters i'm going to read the hebrew anyway they explain if you had a sin between another person you're not going to be forgiven until you return that which was stolen or robbed or seized or you cheated him you have to return it to the point where it's personal between you and him that you have to ask him for forgiveness right when it's between you and another person you won't receive atonement until you ask for forgiveness here's another example from the same thing if you did any of these sins you you agreed somebody you humiliated somebody you spoke flesh and heart against them you also need to now there's certain cases where it's probably inappropriate to tell the person uh that you did these things but in a lot of cases it is appropriate so you should ask rabbinical guidance when you call you might cause more damage by letting the person know what you did okay or another example oh there is when it comes to god forbid sins between man and hashem the nitpar samu livnedam and this type of sin became known the whole city knows you drive on shabbat right or you i don't know you had a butcher store and you were i didn't want to say the words but did obviously we know people have done this where they sold the non-kosher meat right so something was in the news something that became quite public although that probably is between man and man but anyway if you want to transmit transgressions in public um or in a way that allows them to become publicized afterwards that's you have to repent and you have to um like mourn and um how does he translate this lament right in in the presence of other people in order to sanctify god's name okay clears mud there is a a comment here i'd like to uh address ravina yona concurs with the opinion of the rival the rivet is on the same page as the rambam and usually argues with the ram bomb so we're going to hear something of the arrival and something in the rambam regarding this idea that when a sin between man and hashem is public knowledge it's appropriate that the truth will also be done in public makes sense as for the reason arrive it says that it is good for the person to suffer embarrassment in other words the actual suffering that you serene is part of the kapoor process uh okay that's how the rabbit holds okay that you want to be atoned you have to have some humiliation it's not enough just to um just to stop doing the sin but is the hashem is a very difficult sin to uh repent from and therefore according to arrived or at least according to the way the romanian understands and he agrees with this point that you should experience a certain aspect of humiliation which will what help you gain atonement uh robina yoni actually expresses the idea uh regarding kiddush hashem of pablo shuva will rectify the shem of a public sin okay so far that's the rival what about the rambam on the other hand man maintains that even when one sins against hashem is by they know in other words you did something is between made adam lamakom and people do know about it he should he's not to he is not advertised he's not advised to publicize it further since there are many people who didn't know about the sin so in other words there might have been a small group they the rest of people didn't know and by making it known to them you would be increasing the you would increase the desecration of god's name rather the rambam states it's preferable that one publicly make a general confession that he sinned and recite a specific video when you do your confession then you go into the details your confession is to god and god alone but there are a lot of people that know about it and you want them to know the chuva it should only be a general confession and not a very specific confession to the people but when it comes to hashem it should be extremely detailed okay now the rebellion is going to teach us that certain sins require that one make them known when he repents okay now we're going to get into a little more detail it says in jeremiah 31 18 in 31 18 what does it say for after my return i have completely changed my mind um so then after it has i have been brought to know myself i smote upon my right thigh um so then i was ashamed and i stood confounded before i bore the the reproach of my youth so what is what are we doing with this passage and why is he bringing it because it says nikomti the word nikamti we said means to have regret here it just says i've completely changed my mind okay what does that mean that's paratha it's basically which are ideas we already spoke about the the regret and the pain involved and as a result that's why i slapped my knee but we're not there yet one second so iker truva the marirus the prime aspect of repentance is the the bitterness the sorrow you feel within your own heart as we have already spoken about in previous uh paragraphs but then it says the acharya vadi after it became known i got to know myself i slap my thigh what is the idea of slapping your thigh meaning after it became known to other people and it became known in public about my sins ah dating so after i became known to people as a sinner now people know me or the person not me as a sinner and my transgressions were then publicized so then i mourn over the actions that are visible this little visible to people just as i slap my own thigh in anguish and there's another verse in job it's 33 27. he makes a row of men and says i sinned and i perverted what was straight but i did not profit so this sounds like you are confessing to whom to other people yahshua the yashar havity willow so he explains over here he goes around to people and says i have sinned and i've made crooked the upright and that is how we're going to end but i do want to read another comment two comments so the gamora explains this refers to one who sinned against this fellow he must approach them and emit his wrongdoing wrongdoing and asks for forgiveness as we know this is what one needs to do now um did i read this comment already yeah okay so actually i did read that card so what i want to conclude is we talked about daga worry okay and what we've seen what seems to happen is people worry as it ended when other people know about their sins so what does that mean that's part of the marirus we do want to hold ourselves in in good steed good stead in society and unfortunately sometimes we don't have the moral compass ourselves right hopefully we do that we realize what we did was wrong but if you don't if one doesn't one actually can thank hashem for making it public making it known i got caught wow what a relief i've been living this with this lie or i've been living with this this is my whole life and finally someone comes along and makes it makes it public so this is an opportunity for the person to do truva bar hashem and he should take it in we talked a lot it seems like a lot of halal there's a lot of details when when one should let other people know when it's not necessary when it's even forbidden okay so let's just think about these ideas if it's between you and god there's no reason to let the public know but even it's between you and god but the public already knows so then it may be a good idea to let the public know you have don chuva therefore a general confession may be necessary but a detailed confession is certainly not necessary when it comes to sin against man so again obviously someone's affected so someone has to know the question is what are you going to do about it right so now is the point where if it's not going to create more damage of course you have to do true return the objects if it's slush and hara maybe it's not necessary to tell but again you have to speak to your rabbi when and how that may create more damage so between man and man is already this idea of confession to a certain extent it's almost uh prerequisite it's almost a necessity okay so with that we have just concluded uh paragraph 18. we did 17 and 18 today and mizrat hashem next sunday we will continue and i know that uh the the time change will be back in sync and we're back to whatever hours we were all along and we look forward to resuming so anyway shavuot have a great winter stay warm stay healthy and um have a great life we'll see you next week [Music] oh it