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okay hi everybody thank you for coming
right before pesak or shortly before
pesak um they share tonight is dedicated
for a Ben zel and as always for all
those whose Health has been affected by
the war especially for the safe return
of our brothers and sisters helding
captivity and to the IDF and am Israel
and the lasting Unity of the people of
Israel
al
benzar Dr Yos Walder by Alisa bullo and
by Mrs Jean alevy for the El
of her beautiful and beloved
daughter
Lisa who is n t Nissan first day of PES
at age 23 18 years ago again May her n
have an Aliyah uh
finally is collecting for its annual Kim
Fund Raising money to distribute food
coupons to needy families we've already
distributed tens of thousands of shekels
to families in need and are in need of
more contribution tions to distribute to
participate in the MIT
of they're synonymous I see they switch
terms in the middle there but they're
the same thing uh use the link below in
the description box or the website and
it's a not only is it a general mitvah
it's a particular obligation before P we
are obligated to give money for people
to be able to afford
the you know uh it's interesting there's
a in m Prophet M uh which God is quoted
as
saying when the time of the G comes I
will show you
wonders like the days that you left MIT
that the
G is going to be compared in many ways
to the
and people often ask you know why
doesn't God do Miracles like he did in
the good old days the good old days
splitting of the Red Sea all of that
good stuff uh today no Miracles are
happening if only God would do Miracles
I would be a believer so the truth of
the matter is ramban says you know how
many times does God have to prove
himself you know he did he did all this
stuff if you believe he did it then he
did it what does he have to keep on
doing it uh but there's another way of
looking at it and it says who says God
doesn't do Miracles you know maybe you
slept through it I slept through it but
Saturday night God did a miracle the
idea that Iran sends you know almost 400
missiles to attack
Israel and
basically virtually nothing happened I
think one uh Arab uh young girl got hurt
uh I think she was there but but she she
before schma get anything is forgettable
but one that is such an
unbelievable
rate of success on the part of Israel
that as great as our army is as great as
the Iron Dome is as great as our
security system is nobody could believe
that this was capable of
happening and it is a miracle it
absolutely is a miracle I I've heard
people say and I actually heard a
physicist say who was involved in the
security system that this was a miracle
that was greater than anything that
happened in the Six Day War he said it
was greater than the yamu okay I don't
know if I could go back and say that I
wasn't I'm not that old I wasn't there
uh but Six Day War yeah you know and
it's an amazing thing it's just amazing
it's is almost as
if you know it was said you may like
this or not like this it was said in
1948 that the establishment of the state
of
Israel was God giving us a a a kiss
after the Holocaust after the
devastating
devastating tragedies of World War II
the loss of 6 million
Jews we were broken and God needed to
give us a hug show us yeah bad things
have happened but I'm with you and the
state of Israel was said to be God's hug
after the
Holocaust again I'm not explaining the
Holocaust I'm not going there at all but
it was simply the reassurance that I'm
with you
well I me Bram even October 7 was not
the Holocaust I don't want to compare
that but still we're facing a bit of an
analogous
situation with the massacre of October 7
and the
hostages and the constant fear that we
have that you know who knows what's
going to happen every single
day and then something like this happens
in which God's love and God's care is so
evident in a super really a super
natural
way so once again it's kind of God's hug
after October
7 that he's with us that doesn't
automatically you know solve everything
we still have all of the problems that
we have to struggle with but Hashem is
showing us that he's with us he's on our
side and this is a tremendous thing you
know think the medra says that there
were different Kings you know D prayed
that God should give him Victory to
fight fight the
enemy and another person just said I
don't have the strength to fight I'll
just do
in and said I can't fight I can't D I'm
just going to go to sleep and you'll
handle it let God handle it well for a
lot of people Saturday night was uh just
went to sleep you know I'm not even I'm
not I'm not even a heavy sleep I'm a
very light sleeper because I didn't I
didn't wake up at all so I wake up in
the morning around like 5:30 and I have
20 emails from the United States
expressing fear and concern and how are
you and what's going on and are you safe
and then I I had no idea what they were
talking about so I I look at the news
now I'm scared to death gee that's what
happened you know I didn't even I didn't
even know I didn't hear any Sirens I
mean there were I said there were Sirens
but I didn't hear anything so it's
really what K
say sometimes a person benefits from a
Divine miracle
and doesn't even know a miracle
happens and that's what this is so it's
something we have to think about really
very very
carefully you know who knows what'll
happen the next time who knows if
there'll be a next time you know who
knows there's a lot of stuff we don't
know and you know when God does miracles
for you there's also a reciprocal
responsibility to try to give something
back in some way and we got to think
about what that's going to entail but
nevertheless we should Revel and
rejoice in this yeshuat Hashem that came
in a very very most unlikely and
unexpected unexpected way uh how Israel
should respond I I'll leave to the
politicians although my well maybe I
shouldn't even say my personal opinion
okay what is my my personal opinion is
that this may be the only issue on the
Middle East that Joe Biden ever got
right but whatever it is I I kind of
agree with him but I I understand the
argument to something I don't I don't
want to get into the Pol politics of it
it's kind
of nothing happened let's just go on we
we we don't need to be involved in a war
on uh you know multiple fronts but okay
but I'll leave that to uh other people
to debate and and discuss but right now
we should see that in the month of
Nissan the month of Nissan is the month
of redemption the month of Miracles and
Hashem gave us a Nissan Miracle this
year something to be very very grateful
and maybe just maybe it once again is a
Harbinger a prediction of mashia based
on the PK that before Mia comes I will
show you miracles analogous
to an amazing
thing uh now a lot of what I'm going to
talk about I think we have covered in
various weeks I'm going to bring bring
going to bring a few things together I
mean after all when we didos what were
we talking about we were talking about
and the like so now we're back to PES
and we have the same type of uh type of
inim uh let me just start though with an
interesting historical
Point uh people ask when was the first
Sader so obviously the first seder was
in Egypt the night before we left
mitzraim we had a corbon pesak and we
ate the Corbin pesak and we sat around
that last night counting well we
couldn't recount everything cuz some
things haven't happened yet we couldn't
recount right what was the story of The
Exodus before there was an exodus so
obviously we were not yet talking about
things that didn't happen yet but we
were talking about things that were
going to happen and we talked about the
plagues and we talked about the faith in
God you know all of those things so that
was the first Sader the second Sader was
one year later exactly one year later
we're in the desert and we had one
Corbin pesak in the
midbar right that was the second seder
uh that was actually premm because the
the M didn't uh start falling into no
I'm sorry the m the m started the Eeyore
before yeah yeah the M had been falling
for 11 months but okay now if we then
ask when was the next corbon pesak that
was
brought it was in the day days of
yahushua Bin nun the rest of the 40
years in the desert there was no carbon
PES the holiday of PES in terms of not
doing
M presumably they kept as one of the
mitas of the Torah but they didn't bring
the carbon PES they didn't eat matah
they didn't eat marar they didn't do any
type of hag they didn't do any type
ofas so it's very very interesting that
for the 40 years in the desert after the
first PES there actually was no Corbin
pesak till Yeshua bin nun now there's
something a little odd even about the
Yeshua bin nun PES it mentions that from
the time of the spies
onward no children that were born no
male children that were born had a
bris meaning all children born in the
desert after the sin of the
spies did not have Brit
Mila why was that so the gari discusses
that as a result of both the sin of the
agel and the sin of the spies we were no
longer protected by God to the same
degree that we had been protected before
we had we had M we had the Clouds Of
Glory but we didn't have all of the
healing that God gave us and as a result
it was considered to be a Sak not to do
circumcision while we're actively
traveling so as a result an entire
generation of Jewish boys in the
desert did not have Brit
mea now what is the of carbin
P you cannot bring a carbon
PES if you are
uncircumcised but more than that you
can't bring a Corbin pet
if any of your children are
uncircumcised which means to
say if I would have a son and this is
even if it's medically necessary meaning
even if it would be a
Sak like
hemophilia for the baby to have a bread
so I'm
excused I'm not allowed to eat to bring
a carbon
PES so there is a reason why they didn't
bring a carbon PES in the desert for
those 40 years at least some of the
families had boys who were not
circumcised and that would prevent the
fathers and the mothers from bringing
the corbon PES now that wouldn't
necessarily cover everybody because not
everybody had a boy any given
year I mean I say I didn't have a boy in
year two or whatever it would be but the
other reason why they didn't bring a
Corbin PES was because the Corbin PES is
really connected to a basa mikdash
meaning it's the other way around
bringing it in the desert was the
exception the norm would be you'd have
to wait till ER Israel and the
like but what's interesting is they
finally did bring a Corbin PES in the
days of Yeshua B and in the book of
Yeshua it discusses there was a mass
circumcision ceremony hundreds of
thousands of people had to be
circumcised in order to bring the Corbin
PES keep
the people who left were circumcised the
people who were born in the desert were
not circumcised they're the ones coming
to ER Israel we have to circumcise them
but here is the
odity there is another Hal that got
activated when they came to ER Israel
this is very
fascinating this is the
eer of
eating kadash
now I don't want to get too detailed but
just just in terms of just understanding
something what is kadash kadash applies
to
grain particularly grain that grows in
the land of Israel
mainly grain that grows in the land of
Israel the five grains not kidneys the
same five grains that become KS wheat
barley oats Rye
spelt that new grain that
grows cannot be
consumed
until you bring a sacrifice of barley on
the second day of
pesak which is called the OM
sacrifice Kash is
user until the Corban om is
brought now now you may then ask me so
how can I ever eat today if we don't
have a
bikash and the Corin is not
brought so the gamar in rosashana
explains that there's a two- tiered
system when there is a basa
mikash you cannot eat the new grain
until the corbon of the OM is
brought when there's no Basa mikash
it is the start of the day of the OM
meaning the OM is brought on the second
day of
pesak which is the 16th of
Nissan so when there's no B mikash you
can't eat the grain of the new year
until the
morning of the 16th of
Nissan butak was
Mak that you got to wait until the 17th
of meeting and then words he basically
said that that day is no longer
permitted the reason is because maybe
the temple will get rebuilt and if you
got used to eating it first thing in the
morning that's not going to be allowed
when the temple is built because you're
going to have to wait till they bring
the
OM you see in other words if they bring
the OM at 12:00 noon you couldn't eat
the kadash till 12:00 noon but if you
got into the habit of eating it at 6:00
in the
morning then next year when the temple
gets built you'll eat at 6:00 in the
morning so they therefore said eat it on
the 16th at all and when the temple is
built then you'll eat it on the 16th
when they bring the OM okay whatever is
so the practicality simply means the
following even
today I cannot eat
kadash till the morning of the
17th of Nissan and D until the morning
of the 16th of
Nissan I cannot eat
kadash on the 15th meaning anything I
eat before the 16th or 17th of Nissa
has to be grain that preceded last
year's Omer
date so now this race is a very
intriguing
question the first seder that we have in
erus
real now what were we eating we came to
ER Israel Rec crossed the Jordan River
the book of Yoshua says we cross the
Jordan River on the tenth of
Nissan right mosha died the seventh of
AD we mourned mosha for a month and then
we made 3 days of preparation crossed
the Jordan on the tent of Nissan that's
a month and three days after Moshe
died at that
point we were living on M that that even
though M normally only lasted M stopped
falling when mosha died but God allowed
the man not to spoil so we were living
off mun we come to erel are we allowed
to
eat the grain of
erel we are not it's
kadash and kadash is not going to be
permitted till we bring an OM offering
on the 16th of
Nissan so we lived off the man or we
lived off fruits and vegetables or meat
or cheese or eggs there's a lot of stuff
you can eat but we couldn't eat
grain okay so you might think that not a
big deal okay they don't eat grain like
plenty of people gluten intolerance they
don't they don't have
grain but here's the
problem how did they
fulfill the Mitzvah of
matah at the first seder they had
entering the land of
Israel all of the grain is
kadash no om had ever been BR
yet the kadash is not going to to be
permitted till they bring the Omar
offering on the 16th of Nissan the
second day of
PES so the first night of PES we could
have Mor we could eat the corbon P
okay we couldn't eat the matah or could
we so the Tama Shi actually
says they did not fulfill the Mitzvah of
matah at the first sers do you
understand why it's only a problem this
year because after the first year even
though they can't eat the new
grain they could eat grain from the
prior year which was covered by last
year's Omar
offering because last year they brought
an
Omare but the first
year they didn't bring an Omare till the
second day of PES so all the grain is
kadash if all the grain is kadash
they're not allowed to eat it till the
second day of PES so the actually the B
says it as well I mentioned shash on it
but both the B and thei say absolutely
they did not
fulfill the Mitzvah of
Mata at the first
Seder in some ways it's kind of like
starting off on a bad foot I mean this
is your first Sader in AR Israel and you
can't you can't eat
matah very strange
so that's an interesting historical
point that I wanted to share with you
let me just mention the interesting
question of the
USI the Jerusalem talm asks a
fascinating
question there is a general rule
in that if something is prohibited by a
negative commandment Thou shalt not do
something but I have a positive Mitzvah
to do
something and the only way I can do the
positive is by transgressing the
negative I don't have another choice so
what do I do do I do I obey the negative
and not do the
positive or do I say listen I got a
positive commandment and I don't have
any way out so maybe the positive
overrides the negative right what and
you understand the problem here I have a
conflict of directives the negative
commandment says don't do
something the positive commandment says
to do it so if I have a way of doing the
positive without the sin of course I got
to do that that's obvious but if I don't
have any other
alternative which has precedence the
positive or the negative so H gives you
an
answer H basically says the obligation
of doing a
Mitzvah overrides the prohibition of not
doing something this is called a
the positive
Commandments pushes
aside
low the negative
commandment the most common example
although it may not be totally apt is
the notion of doing a Brit if a baby is
born on
chabas now doing a
bris actually involves
violating m causing bleeding and
bruising so it's a negative commandment
it's desecration of
chabas on the other hand there's a
positive commandment to circumcise on
the eth day so what do we do the
positive commandment of Brit
overrides the negative commandment
ofas I
say
loasa so thei asks a very logical
question isn't that that exactly the
situation the Jews found themselves on
the first seder night in the time of
Yoshua on one hand there's a negative
commandment do not eat the new grain
until the Omar is
brought on the other hand we have no
other
grain all we had was m m is not Kosher
for matah it may taste like matah but m
is not matah matah requires from the
grains itself we have no no other grain
and if that's the case the positive
commandment of
matah should override the negative
Commandments of not eating the kadash so
that's a thei asks it does give various
ansers uh we don't have to get into all
the technicalities but I just want you
to bring out the historical anomaly okay
and um there's a lot of logistical
problems in PES a lot of logistical
problems it's interesting um I assume
most people here have migrated from
Karis I don't think anyone here was
actually born in Israel so all of us
remember the old country you know the
olden days where we had two
Sedar and uh some people say maybe most
people say that you know having one day
yump is one of the greatest benefits of
living in erel particularly for pesak
and the other hand on the other hand I
have heard a respectable minority who
actually say they miss a second seder
because it gives you a chance you know
practice makes perfect it gives you a
chance to get it right uh there may be
different types of Torah insights that
uh you didn't want to you know use up
all the time the first night because it
was getting late but that way you can
split it you have two occasions to try
to bring out different uh uh different
ideas uh so logistically a Seder is a
difficult experience first of all um
it can be uplifting it can be joyous it
can be Redemptive it should be
Redemptive but part of it is
logistically difficult because how are
you going to pitch it to the many
different types of people and different
types of interests that exist in the
audience on one hand the Seder seems to
be something that should focus primarily
on children very much so because the
Mitzvah itself in the Torah is described
you shall tell your child this is the
occasion when a parent tells his child
about what does it mean to be Jewish
what is our history how did we become a
nation of God and what does mean for us
the notion of
contemporizing even though it may sound
a little 11 guard is I would suggest not
at all a foreign idea we have to ask
ourselves
what does it mean that we were slaves in
mitam and God took us out of that
slavery what are the implications what
is the significance of that for the way
we live our lives on a day-to-day basis
these are very important questions on
the other hand we also have adults we
might have grandparents we might have
aunts and uncles and the like so you got
to kind of throw a lot of balls in the
air and you have to try to speak to
everybody on some level but then you run
into the problem uh you know jack of all
trades master of none in which the
attempt to try to do a little bit for
everybody means that nobody totally gets
everything they need so I don't have an
answer to that I can't even give you an
answer to that you just do the best you
can and pray that at some point The KES
will take over and give you
theay to try to make it inspiring uh and
and the like let me just remind
people that if a person let's say let's
say you have some people who really want
to talk a lot about uh the hagada and
the Seder and other people maybe elderly
they need a quicker seder you can talk
about even after the Seder is over so
you can do the Seder relatively quickly
and then
be after the S and you are still
fulfilling the Mitzvah
of okay so that's something one should
think about you can do a lot of
poster uh learning
uh and speaking of dor and like I've
said
before that one of the major themes of
The
Exodus is the
linkage between freedom and
responsibility you'll
notice that we start counting the OM the
OM the 49 days between the bringing of
the OM and
Shas the second day of PES
in would be the second s and it's
already the first day
of the ramban
suggests that that actually
means PES which is
freedom and
shos which is
Torah are not considered to be two
separate
holidays they are one
holiday and in fact the whole Omare
period
can be
regarded as a
long of course P has it own but there's
you know first day of
PES last day of PES but then the ran
says the whole period of the
OM is like a connecting holiday number
one which is
PES with holiday number
two which is shabas
and in fact this is born
out by the rinic name for the holiday of
shabos the Rabin name for the holiday of
shabos is a bit strange if you're not
familiar with it it is called when when
kazal say the
worder they are not talking about
Sher the word atas in the
mishna is shos
why is that so the word ateres means
conclusion one of the meanings of the
words shos is the conclusion of
PES what's the
message
Freedom has
value only when it is used as a
vehicle to submit to God and live your
life in accordance with his
will PES is
worthless unless it's connected to Matan
Torah submission to God's will God's
morality you see this is kind of a
mistake that we have in modern culture
freedom is not an end in and of itself a
person says the goal of my life is to be
free that's a meaningless statement free
to be
what free to do
what freedom is not a
goal freedom is a very very important
means to achieving a goal yes yes so I I
I I agree that even political freedom is
an important thing but it's important
not because it's intrinsically important
it's important that through
freedom I am able to achieve
the meaningful goals of a
life so freedom is a means it's not an
End Eric Fram who happened to be Jewish
but not observant a talet of Sigman
Freud who also happened to be Jewish not
observant although Freud himself came
from a line of
rabbis Eric frm once remarked we make a
very big
mistake when we Define Freedom as being
freedom from
something Freedom has to be
understood as Freedom towards
something right or in the language of
Aristotle uh you have to look at Liberty
as a positive Liberty rather than a
negative Liberty a negative Liberty
simply means absence of
restriction positive Liberty is the
creation of a sense of values that gives
your life structure and
purpose I think I mentioned more than
once the beautiful metaphor of the
Indian poet
Tori um who's not Jewish I don't even
know if he knew any juice um he
described a human
soul like a violin
string within every soul is a tremendous
capacity to generate
music if you take a violin
string and it's totally loose it's not
attached to any instrument
put a
free unattached
string on your dining room table your
kitchen table what sound will you be
able to get out of that string
nothing
paradoxically in order for that string
to produce music it has to be tied
down it has to be
confined it has to be
limited it is only within the
structure that the music of the string
gets
revealed a human soul is very much the
same it is in the structure of
submission that we achieve
Liberty otherwise we are just slaves to
the Yer Hara we are slaves to whatever
passions we have whatever emotions we
have freedom
is when we have the inner strength to do
the right thing even if my urges would
pull me in a different
direction fact this been well said
people think Freedom means I can do
whatever I
want real freedom is I can decide to do
what I don't want to do but I should
do and I don't have to do what I want to
do in other words it's the other way
around instead of saying freedom is the
ability to do what I
want freedom is the the ability not to
do what I want if doing that is not good
that's a person who's free a person
who's free is a person who says you know
I don't have to give in to that urge I'm
better than that that's Freedom that's
Freedom it's an amazing thing sometimes
you see it with with kids and I and I I
actually I know some stories where uh
the adults were enormously impressed
whatever um a story about um a
non-religious grandmother takes her K
children to a kosher style restaurant in
New York or whatever it is because
that's the place where she has her
Social Circle and the owner like offers
the kids
candy and you know kids love candy right
and the kids uh looked at the at the
rapper they didn't see a hexer they said
we're sorry we can't have the the
candy and the guy went crazy the guy's
said I never saw children like this
children who who are able to have the
discipline he almost became a baluba
there he was so absolutely amazed at
that notion of I'll turn down the candy
if that's not what I'm supposed to do
and the like those are those are things
to think about so the point I'm making
is this is why in the Jewish
calendar PES and shos are
linked by the Counting of the OM see
what the counting of the OM does the
counting of the OM says on our day of
Freedom or our season of Freedom we
think about Torah now kazal made the
point in a very interesting way they
pointed out that the grain offering of
pesak the grain offering which is the
Omar offering is
barley
barley before cholent was invented was
commonly fed to animals
the grain offering of
shos is
wheat which is human
consumption so moving from
PES
to is moving from animal
Liberation to human
dignity versus m you see and that's why
we need counting of the OM now you might
have thought well GE let me think about
the next holiday after this holiday why
why should I be thinking about Shas in
the middle of
PES it's actually a violation of another
principle you don't intermingle one Joy
with another Joy so I'm thinking about
the Om I'm counting towards
shos when I'm celebrating
pesak the answer is yes shos gives
meaning to
PES now we see this in another way that
that's interesting
there is an ashkanazi custom I don't
know if Sim practiced this and it's a
custom it's not a d although for some
reason some ashm take this Mish more
than eating matah that is that the first
thing that you eat after you finish the
matah the mor and the sandwich the K and
you're ready for the meal finally so the
first thing that is served is a
hardboiled egg dipped in salt water
again it's a minog if you're watching
your cholesterol don't worry about you
don't have to have it but it's an old
minog that that people have a hardboiled
egg at the
Seder why is that so so the explanation
that's given is a hardboiled egg is also
the first food that you give a
mourner when a mourner comes back from
the funeral from the Leva he's going to
sit Shiva so people bring him food this
is a very important T the OV should not
have to get him self food people bring
him something to eat and among the
things that are brought to him is an egg
and the reason is because an egg is an
oval shaped and it represents the wheel
of life life life is perceived as a
wheel of good experiences and bad
experiences difficult times and joyous
times and the circular or oval nature of
the egg reminds a person that there is a
cycle in life that yes there may be
tragic and difficult times but there
will also be good and joyous times in
fact it's reminiscent of the famous
medish which I see now they made it into
jewelry and the light in which schom the
wisest of all
people uh asked uh someone asked a
Craftsman give me a ring that when I
Ponder the
ring it will keep
me uh in equinity meaning to say I will
not become arrogant when I am suc
uccessful and I will not become
despondent when I fail give me a motto
that will sustain me in all aspects of
my life and the the inscription on the
ring was
gam this too shall
pass I'm arrogant I'm proud I think I'm
the greatest guy come be humble
I'm broken I'm suffering I'm
defeated things will get
better gam Yore and they they may you
can actually buy a gam Yore ring they
sell it now jewelry and the like so part
of the egg is telling the
G but you'll ask me so what does have to
do with P why why do I have that message
on PES the say there is a happy occasion
so one answer is this the reason is that
the first day of
PES always falls out the same day of the
week as the ninth of a later in the
summer so if PES this year is Monday
night
Tuesday TI is going to be Monday night
Tuesday and therefore we remember
especially when we don't have the carbon
P we remember
theik at the
Seder and we eat the egg to give us
comfort so it's a very strange symbolism
so not only are we bringing in
shavuos in the counting of the OM course
that's the the next day but we're also
bringing in
Tish with the eating of the
egg there are no coincidences in the
Jewish
calendar why would it be
so that the first first day of pesak the
day of Liberation the day of
freedom is going to be the same day as
the ninth of of why should that be so
here is my um speculation I have no
source for it
whatsoever but it's a
thought and the thought is the first day
of
PES is the only day of
the that is not yet connected to the the
counting of the Omare because you don't
start counting the Omare till day two so
the first day is Pure
Freedom without a connection to
submission to
Hashem so maybe the lesson
is freedom without
submission leads to Tish above and
destruction in a sense the egg takes the
place of the OM right the OM counting is
designed to remind me of the linkage
between freedom and
responsibility what happens is first
night later you don't have the Omare
that is the function of the egg remember
Tish a freedom that is not connected to
submission to God will inevitably lead
to destruction and so that once again so
we see a number of ways uh in which PES
and are going to be linked that freedom
without
Torah is not only meaningless but it's
actually
destructive a person doesn't have any
they're like a a a kite that that's not
being held it just floats out floats up
into the
stratosphere there's nothing holding it
down there's nothing that gives it a
structure a
purpose you know I mean I don't want to
get too far a field but it's no
accident that um the teen suicide
rate is is relatively high in primarily
affluent
countries you know it's interesting in
very poor
countries uh suicide rates are very low
because the reason is because when you
got to spend the whole day looking for a
piece of bread you don't really have
time to be philosophical and think about
the purpose of life you got some more
immediate concerns but precisely
precisely
when basic needs are more basic physical
needs are are more or less
met is when people are consumed with
angst depression
despair
anxiety we're
hardwired for purpose and meaning that's
the nature of a n a Godly soul that
seeks connection to the
Transcendence seeks connection to the
spiritual you know when people try to
drowns
El in whatever it is in drugs in alcohol
in sex in
workaholism these are
distractions because inside there's an
aching
need for meaning and for
purpose for connection to something
greater than yourself and you don't know
know without a Torah without some type
of guide like that you don't know where
to go what to do with
it and that can result in suicide
as well as violence to others I mean
that self-loathing can easily spill into
killing others that's why every week in
the United States there's some school
shooting
somewhere and the
like but it
comes from The
Emptiness of a person who is
starving starving to fill up the aching
void within
them they don't know how to do
it that is a life of
freedom without submission to
AES The Emptiness of that
life sometimes it's better to be a slave
the slave you know doesn't have the time
just like the person looking for bread
to be distracted with these questions
once we're confronted with these
questions they're very hard to
escape and God forbid they can result in
some very very
extreme uh consequences right so that
was really one point I wanted to share
with you the idea that we got to focus
on it's wonderful that we're
free but what do we do with our
freedom again it's kind of analog
analogous a little bit to these people
who win the lottery right this it's a
Well document documented phenomenon that
the people who win millions and millions
and millions of dollars in the lottery
are almost at a 100% rate like totally
miserable for the rest of their lives uh
they're miserable because number one
they're like thousands of people come
out of the woodwork you know claiming to
be their
friends and they misin the money they
don't know what to do with the money you
know a guy you know a guy's been working
as a janitor and you know he wins a
hundred million lottery oh I'm going to
buy an airplane you know whatever there
literally is there's no sense of what my
life is about
when you don't have that
purpose the physical world is not going
to satisfy
you so I I don't want to lecture too
much but as I say we have to think in
ourselves and try to communicate to our
children but once again you can't
communicate to your kids something that
you haven't understood yourself fully is
what does it mean to be
free what do you do with your
freedom what's the purpose of things
right now again I'm not saying you can
discuss all of this at the Seder maybe
not but it is something to think about
in the course of the Year remember that
the Mitzvah to Remember The Exodus is
not just P the Mitzvah to Remember The
Exodus is every
single day and night of the year so this
is a discussion you can have any time
but P might be a time where you know
some point during P you you think about
this have this type of discussion what
is is the meaning of freedom now one
point I I did suggest again I I may have
said this a few weeks
ago uh is that you see from the
Torah
that is actually the source of Jewish
compassion and Jewish
empathy the Torah says many
times you shall love the
gar love the
converts because you were
slaves in the land of
Egypt actually says you were kind well
you were G you should love the
g
g now let's just plug in our translation
here we normally translate GIS
convert but if that's the case the
sentence doesn't make sense love the
convert because you were
converts in the land of Egypt we we were
not really converts of the land of
Egypt so you have to go back to the
original
atmology yeah g means a convert g means
a non-jew converted to Judaism but the
literal meaning of g is the
stranger the
other remember what it was like to be a
g in biblical times and to some some
some degree even
today but certainly in biblical times in
biblical times economy was
landbased right you owned land that was
kept in the
family even if it was sold it would go
back to your family in the Jubilee
year a landbased economy an agrarian
economy an economy or a society based on
tribal
affiliation ruang Shimon Ley
Yehuda and now we have a g a g doesn't
own
lands AAR has no tribal
connection AAR has no protexia to use a
modern
word he comes to you as the
stranger he comes to you as the
other the natural inclination of a
person who is secure and comfortable in
his
life is he doesn't pay attention to the
insignificant people on the bottom rungs
of the ladder not that he's goingon to
be bad to a g but he's not going to pay
attention I'm sitting pretty I got my
land I got my tribe I got my
clan and whatever he's doing is this his
business not my
business what is the torah's message the
torah's message is when you see people
who are
powerless you see see people who are
weak you see people without
influence remember their pain because it
once was your
pain
remember not just the Exodus of Egypt
remember the slavery of Egypt remember
what it was
like to be a slave remember what it was
like to be a nobody remember what it was
like to be poor and
humiliated and Afflicted and Abus used
and use that Collective
memory as the source of empathy and
compassion to
others who are going
through that same
experience this is a
remarkable Insight of a lot of
contemporary
application you know we live in a
culture more so in America than Israel
but in America certainly it's a big
thing where
VI victimization or victimhood is almost
a professional
status everybody is a
victim again I don't want to get too
political I don't know if any of you
came across um the unfortunate incident
at Dean Irwin cherin's house in Los
Angeles whatever he's a Jewish guy he's
not he's not religious at all he happens
he's the dean of University of Southern
California
Lao he's a Jewish guy he actually his
field is freedom of speech on First
Amendment he's a very eminent
constitutional scholar and his wife is a
law professor as well so every year he
invites students over to his house for a
barbecue so he invited like the
Palestinian students and the
like Hospitality he was very very nice
so one woman wearing a heat job gets up
and uh she takes a loudspeaker and
starts giving a YouTube she starts get
recording her self giving an anti-israel
speech so uh the professor said please
you know stop that or leave my house
you're a guest in my home and I don't
want you to make the speech in my home
and uh you know there's no First
Amendment right to make speeches in
somebody's home you know go somewhere
else and make your speech and the wife I
think maybe the wife overstood a little
the wife like put a hand on the woman
like giving her a little a little push
and uh the woman starts saying she made
a whole public thing I have never been
so abused in my whole life uh the
professor's wife you know fondled my
breast just a w a wild exaggeration and
turning it into like sexual assault and
criminal assault and battery and
everything
else uh so these things you know uh
happen as it were uh that one has to
realize that being a Jew is still very
very
precarious in this world so the notion
of identifying with the outsider can be
taken to extreme and absurd in other
words the point I want to make is that
don't take a good point and turn it into
absurdity yes one of the lessons of Yas
MIM is empathy
compassion looking at the suffering of
all people Jews and
non-jews absolutely
but don't allow victimization to be
taken to absurd so in the United States
everybody's a victim of
something how does the Torah view
victimization so here's what the Torah
says if you have been
victimized instead of using your
victimization as like a shield for
entitlement use your Vic
imization as a source of
empathy and
compassion for
others and then you're no longer a
victim you become a
hero now these are dangerous words to
say and I I may I may very well get um
negative responses because I I I I want
to make it absolutely clear there are
certainly victims in the world very
serious who have suffered sexual abuse
emotional abuse we have to have
compassion we have to have respect we
have to take the steps that protect them
there is no question about that and I
want to make it very very clear I am not
demeaning the legitimate uh you know I'm
not defending the the abuses that people
have
suffered but you
see if that victim becomes a
narcissistic
preoccupation with self-
entitlement then you're living your
whole life as a
victim the torah's message is
extraordinarily powerful remember your
slavery remember your
victimhood remember your
pain don't make believe it didn't
exist but use that
pain as the
source of how you help others
it's a tremendous idea and it also has a
very healing effect on the victims
themselves when a victim can kind of go
beyond
themselves and use their pain as a
catalyst to help
others they become redeemed they become
liberated they can move on they life
acquires a
purpose okay so again something to think
about
uh this idea that one of the lessons
of is the notion of feeling the pain of
others through the empathy of
remembering the collective pain that we
went
through in that connection I'll just end
with a with a little story some of you
might have read the
biography of rakov Yos Herman this is
all for the boss it's a remarkable book
uh Yakov Yos Herman was the
father-in-law of uh well the father of
represent shinberg the father-in-law of
P shinberg one of the great great K Ador
the one who wore 100 pairs of of C he
looked stocky you know you would know he
looked like a like a football player but
he really was quite thin but he wore a
100 pairs of cittas nobody knows why and
uh none of his children do it and he
told them not to do it but whatever this
was his his thing but his father-in-law
was rakov Yos Herman who lived in New
York and the end of his life lived in
erisel he came from Europe to New York
and then eventually uh spent the last
years in Israel and he was a remarkable
person I mean he was religious at a time
when very few Jews in America were
religious and his daughter ramash Shain
Ritson shinberg sister wrote a very
loving biography of her father filled
with beautiful beautiful
stories ramain was a great writer anyway
but filled with stories and all for the
boss so it's one of those inspirational
books of stories of great people that it
might be worthwhile to read so she tells
a story in the book I'm not uh totally
accurate in every fact here but I'm
going to give you the general gist of
the story she says that her father came
to America with his
parents when he was like 11 years old or
whatever it is his parents quickly saw
that they could not make it here so they
went back to Europe but they left him
alone they thought America was better
for him they left him alone in the
country as a young boy can you imagine
that they set him up with a relative
charging rent for a room that was
something like uh $5 a week which in the
1920s actually was expensive rent but it
was
manageable as soon as the parents left
the rent was raised to $10 a
week at that point little Yakov yose who
was working there were no child labor
laws in those days he couldn't afford
it he got
evicted he got evicted Friday
afternoon he
spent all of chabas in Central Park
which granted was safer then than it
later
became and you can imagine maybe you
can't
imagine how frightened he was all he had
was two little rolls with
him he was cold he was
lonely he was
frightened he was
scared his parents weren't there he had
no place to go he had no home to live
and what's going to happen after shabas
he had a job but in those days you know
how it was if he didn't go to work on
chabas
you had to find a new job on Monday you
worked from uh Monday cuz Sunday was off
you worked from Monday to Friday you
were expected to work on Saturday didn't
show up on Saturday no
job so what's going to be he really was
in a
situation of abject
hopelessness there seemed to be no way
out so he told his daughter you know
years
later that that night
was the most frightening scary
despondent night of his
life but at some point he got himself
together little boy and he said he
doesn't know how and he doesn't know
where or what but he has auna
Shala that God will take care of him and
then he said to God he asked God for one
thing only he asked ask God that he
should never
forget the pain and the loneliness that
he feels tonight that when he becomes
successful and he was sure he would
become
successful he wants to remember what
it's like to be bereft of
everything so when he meets people who
are
suffering he will
know what they went
through this was the prayer of a little
boy in Central
Park which granted was safer then than
it later
became and you can imagine maybe you
can't
imagine how frightened he was all he had
was uh two little rolls with
him he was cold he was
lonely he was
frightened he was
scared his parents weren't there he had
no place to go he had no home to live
and what's going to happen after shabas
he had a job but in those days you know
how it was if he didn't go to work on
shabas you had to find a new job on
Monday you worked from uh Monday cuz
Sunday was off you worked from Monday to
Friday you were expected to work on
Saturday didn't show up on Saturday no
job so what's going to be he really was
in a
situation of abject
hopelessness there seemed to be no way
out so he told his daughter you know
years
later that that
night was the most frightening scary
despondent night of his
life but at some point he got himself
together little boy and he said he
doesn't know how and he doesn't know
where or what but he has MAA
Shala that God will take care of him and
then he said to God he asked God for one
thing
only he asked God that he should never
forget the pain and the loneliness that
he feels tonight that when he becomes
successful and he was sure he would
become
successful he wants to remember what
it's like to be beere of everything
so when he meets people who are
suffering he will
know what they went
through this was the prayer of a little
boy in Central
Park The Story Goes that brashem
eventually he became successful he was
in the fur
business and he married a Ritson he
married a woman who became his
reiton and uh they had a house which not
only had all all the visiting Ras of
Europe they ate there but it wasn't only
great this was a house that was open to
people that we would not be very
comfortable having in our house people
who were mentally ill people who were
dirty people who kind of extended their
stay for 6 months or
longer they just didn't leave at the end
of the meal people who were abusive to
him and to his
wife and when people would ask when the
normal people would ask
him how can you
bear these crazy
people he would say I know what they're
feeling I know what there's like I know
what their life is like I remember it
and therefore we have compassion for
them we don't reject
them because I know I've been
there and my say in the depression he
lost his fortune as well and he you know
then he moved there toel Etc so he had
ups and downs even after his successes
but he prayed to
Hashem that he should remember that
suffering and to generalize this point a
little bit more part of the idea is that
in all
adversity there is Redemptive
potential in all
suffering we don't know why Hashem
brought it you now we can't really
explain
God but we ask ourselves
always what can I gain from this how can
I grow from this how do I become a
greater person from this this is the
lesson
of to understand that the slavery itself
gave us something it's not just
believing
thean it's the being in
M gave us something and that's true for
all the many
mits that people
have you know life can be very very
difficult I mean here in Israel we're
going through
difficulties but apart from the national
struggles that we have which are
obviously very very significant and of
course the national struggle turns into
the personal struggle when your own
family isn't you know involved but we
have whatever challenges we have in many
many many many
areas and we can get overwhelmed and we
can get
crushed we can get defeated we can get
despondence but the message of is to
understand there is a Redemptive
potential in all of that
adversity and our job is to find the
Gula even within the
gas fact there's no accident moral says
that g and Gula share so many
letters he says basically Gula is seeing
the seeing the AL seeing God in the
Exile seeing God in the
darkness converts Galos into
GAA and that's really what our our job
is to kind of see Hashem even in the
darkest moments so I wish you all
a and thank you for coming and
May niss once again be a time of G on
the 6th of Nissan as I said at the
beginning we were to
Miracles may we be to many many more
miracles the release of the hostages
shalom in call and
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