Rabbi David Aaron - The Kabbalah of Success: Secrets to the Ultimate You

[Music] welcome everybody I'm really glad to see you all here I want you to juice the rabbi rubbing David Aaron is a spiritual visionary and master educator who's invested over three decades delving into life's biggest question marks and Sharon totus transformational wisdom to adults and young adults he has emerged as the god expert simply because he's dared to ask the question the most difficult questions I'm sorry he dared to ask and answer the most difficult questions that he and what people have and or struggle with about God's existence and their own learning with Rabbi Aaron is both fundly moving and entertaining people at every level of spiritual knowledge and practice enjoy the adventure of people around the corners of mystical ideas finding answers to our big questions begin a process that is life-changing to me throughout my earnest type light light-hearted playfulness as a mature sophisticated and holistic understanding of Torah well branded well grounded in classic and classic sources Torah scholars scientists and psychologists alike have marveled at the profundity of his comprehensive systematic thinking Robin I received his rabbinic ordination from yeshiva a tree is the demon founder of Israelites and is she with erecto he runs Jewish national educational programs in Israel and abroad including rabbinic enrichment leadership training executive seminars retreats outreach seminars and more Ramayana has also developed educational curriculum from Jewish high schools rubbing iron is the author of eight paradigm-shifting books works including endless light seeking God love is my religion because my favorite the secret life of God investing God in living a joyous life and the god powered life which is available for sale by the way I think there's other okay the newest book is available at the end and a number of those books have already been translated into Portuguese Spanish Russian and Hebrew nobody lives in Jerusalem with his wife Connor and they're sent the children and grandchildren for ever getting good evening whoa good evening first of all I'm very thankful and as you've all showed up I'm very thankful that I showed up because I was sick for the entire week with the flu don't worry I got over it in honor of this event tonight so I thank you so much for coming I was asked to to dedicate this learning in the memory of Shmuel Abba Ben Menachem Zev a coin so it would be to the Eagle English month but also tonight and tomorrow is my own father's passing it's the earth side of my father it's been about nine years now and so so Martha sham I'm very thankful that we could be learning together and I'm going to dedicate the learning also to the Queenie schmuck that Moshe host had been WAV okay so the Kabbalah of success the Cabal of success so I saw this cute cartoon and there's a husband and wife and they're in a car and she's got a map this is an old cartoon right nobody has Maps anymore right but she has a map and she's looking at the map and and she's her husband you can see he's very determined and he's zooming down the highway and and he his wife you can see she's trying to figure out she says you know honey you know I think we're lost and he says yeah but we're making such fabulous time you know and that's I think for a lot of people unfortunately they maybe wake up but too late to realize that they'd be making a lot of time but they're not really getting anywhere that they knew they wanted to go or happy to be getting to and so today I want to talk about the map of Torah there actually is a map to success according to Kabbalah and I've laid it out here so if you don't have a sheet it'll be important that you get one all right and we're just gonna go through this sheet over here I love questions but I love them at the end so I really appreciate you letting me just kind of download this material and I know there'll be plenty of time at the end to go over whatever you want and ask me anything you want to ask me okay all right so this is based on what's called the tents if you wrote the dense if he wrote are the ten powers that the universe is made of so to speak you know they're like the ingredients of the cosmic cake and everything in our life is made of these ingredients and once we go through this flowchart of these powers you honor your own can kind of go over it and see maybe where are the blocks in your life and what you need to open up okay but this is like the flowchart of how one brings abundance blessing success whatever it is I'm into your life and so the start the first ones called kaptara and that's it to talk can't you literally means ground and I'm not going to go into the details of it just yet and then after that's called Cosmo which is being referred to as wisdom but that's we'll see it's not really a great translation then to the left of that is being that which is be translate because understanding and that also misses the understanding of it and then under that is dot which is be described as knowledge and then have that is tested kindness Ghora restraint tea ferret which is beauty or truth Nessa which is persistence or endurance code which is accepting and you so dis Foundation and the last one is mostly I'm going to go through all of it but what I want to do is I want to start off with the bottom one because it's actually the bottom one which is the key to being receptive to the top ones so you gotta kind of think of yourself like a radio and then right now in this room there's music but if you don't turn on and tune in to the frequency you won't be able to download that music okay so do with these powers you need to learn how to turn on and tune in so that you can actually tap in hack in transmit these powers these blessings into our lives into your life into the life of other people right and so I'm first gonna start with how to even start and it starts with multiple now multiple literally means Kingdom but a capitalist tell us that Kingdom means that a person realizes that in and of myself I am nothing okay that's the first that's a secret to all blessing right to all receptivity it's just to realize that in and of myself I am nothing it doesn't sound so good does it right does occur but what does it really mean so I've had the past I've had students they say to me they're not religious and they say you know rabbi this is my life and I can do it is like whether whatever you know well why'd you Toro I don't need God my line of so I said okay let's just doing a little experiment we'll just check out how much this life is surely your life may we could do that experiment right now I'm gonna ask everybody for just three minutes to turn your hearts off just for three minutes and I'll let you know when you can turn them back on clearly that's ridiculous you can't turn your heart off and on it will but if you can't turn your heart off and on it will that means you're not beating your heart because if you were beating your heart then you would be able to turn it off and on but you're not that for a lot of people that's a real big shock right you're not beating your heart now if you're not beating your heart then who is whoever that is I suggest we stay in good contact okay same thing with my mind I think I'm thinking but how much am I really thinking because the truth is I cannot stop thinking right I would like to stop but I can't I'm always thinking even when I'm sleeping I'm thinking what I think is my choice even that's not so much my choice sometimes what I think okay could be my choice but that I think in that I have no choice I am constantly thinking even free choice isn't completely free because I'm always wanting I'm always wanting something what I want could be my choice I hope it is my choice right but that I want in that I have no choice the interesting thing is that you don't have a choice in choice you have to make a choice what you choose is your choice that you choose and that you have no choice that is a taste of Malthus months this is a realization then in of myself I'm really nothing all the powers within me are not from me this very second there are 17 muscles in my face they have to work in perfect coordination for every silly that come out of my mouth now I don't even know how there are weird there is space in my face for it 17 muscles right but let alone I know how to do this I mean this is my profession I make public speaker right and I don't know how to publicly speak I don't know how I'm doing this right I don't know how to speak I'm just doing it right now I'm gonna handle this my hand there's something said well have it I don't know how to do this it's not amazing that everything you do all day long you really don't know how to do and yet you're doing it clearly the powers within you are not from you that's a multiple consciousness right when you realize that all the powers within you are not from you then the more power to you that's very important because that's gonna take us up the ladder here okay the more you realize that all the powers within you are not from you then that opens up the gate to more power to you right and you feel a tremendous sense of responsibility because you realize that these powers are a gift and you're just to receive for like a radio you're a transmitter like a radio and the way you turn yourself on and tune yourself in to these powers is to know they're not yours they're not yours and yet somehow people think they're all this brilliance is coming out of their brain there's nothing brilliance coming our brain is like a radio and it's transmitting it again the more you realize that your brain is just a transmitter and a receiver the more you're capable of being received I remember I was at someone's home for Friday night dinner and they brought it out the first course and I was not I didn't know what this was it didn't look like I felt the fish as I'm eating this first course and I say wow this is very good thank you very much what is it and so my host said it was servals and I said very nice sounds of French or something she well well what is it she said well it's lamb brain lamb brain and then I was doing a little bottom eating brain but suddenly I had a moment where I saw my brain on the plate and I thought to myself do you really think that all the wisdom right now your capacity to think is coming out of your brain no it's coming from a shell your brain is a receiver a transmitter the more you realize it all the powers within you are not from you the more you're able to have those powers you know I heard this very clearly from a writer who's a screenwriter very famous very successful guy wrote a lot of movies that won a lot of awards and I shared the site view with him he's no rabbi I'm not evil it just man but I'm gonna share with you something I know that all the movies I wrote I didn't write and I feel like I can share that with you because I know you weren't behind this but whenever I go into the office to write I feel so stupid and I've got all these posters and all these are words and I'm thinking but but you you've written so many but I wrote none of these films even outright I just come into my office and I just sit in front of my keyboard and I have a little prayer I say please God use me please go and use me and honestly grandpa I don't know how it happens but I just put my my finger on the on the keyboard and I just hope that something will happen right and so time's it doesn't but thank God a good enough time to did and I literally feel possessed by a spirit by a Power greater than myself have you ever experienced that anybody in the world of creativity or I've smoked a guy who was a very famous musician and he played with some of the greatest artists and I asked him why is there so much drugs in the world of music he says because very often the original experience of the musician is the joy of being possessed by a power greater than himself or herself but what happens to the stress going to his ego or her ego and they start to think this is my power this is my strength these aren't my powers all the powers within me are from me and then they can't write anymore they can't play anymore right I know for myself as a public speaker if I'm giving the class it's not a very good class right but when I can get out of the way and just be Mullis just be the kingdom for God where God says he can land a landing pad for the powers of God then I'm in a state of service and I'm just a radio right because this is not my song these are not my words he's doing about my powers these are not my ideas I just want to be in service and so that's called Malthus Malthus is to learn to realize that in and of yourself you're nothing it is the true meaning of humility but humility does not mean that you say oh I'm really not good at what I do well that's blind brother if you give a good talk and someone says wow that was a great talk don't say I'll no it was it really was it that's ego right if it's a good talk you should say Baruch Hashem Hashem is the source of all blessing and I'm thankful that I could be in service you know if you're a he little healer and you help somebody and they say really great oh no really it's nothing in something no it's something it really is something but it's not you right if you did a painting or if you cook something amazing and someone compliments you you have no right to say no because if you do say no then that means you actually think you did it and you didn't you just chose and that you can pat yourself on the back you chose to be a vehicle you chose to be a radio you chose to be in service you chose to make yourself into the kingdom for the presence of God to land into this world through an ever art or or skill you've be blessed with you got that that's so so important that'll bring so much so much blessing to your life to learn to understand that so if anybody ever complements you 1/8 you do just say Baruch Hashem Hashem is the source of all blessing and be thankful that you can be the surface and if you think for that you can be in service then you'll be blessed to be able to be in more service to bring more whatever it is more money more Beauty more healing more music more wisdom more laughter whatever it is but be that vehicle through being multiple so that's the beginning but now we're going to jump to the top okay because everything then flows from there to be even able to access the top you have to start with the aim that in and of myself I have nothing and as soon as I realize that in and of myself I have nothing I'm realizing that in and of God I am godly and that's get her get her is the I am but it's not the low I am of Eco where I believe that I exist independent and separate self-contained but rather it's an I am that is array of the great I am Isadora teaches that when we say Michelle we are referring to the universal I am at Sinai the Jewish people heard I am Hashem which means I am all there ever was is and ever will be there is nothing but one I am I know he is Shem Alocasia I am all there ever was is it never will be there's nothing but me hello kefka i am the godliness of your inner self I am your godliness what happened it's Sinai is because it hears somebody somewhere over there talk to us rather we heard our higher greater self that we share with the entire universe that we share with all human beings a factory Sado the literally explains that what happened at Sinai is we didn't hear God speak to us rather we experience God speak through us and that actually what happened in Sinai is everybody said an OT issue okay right but they felt possessed they felt possessed by the spirit of the one self the one soul of the universe a Shem and that is the great I am so as soon as you realize it in and of myself I am nothing they will be safe to then jump to kept their experience where you experience the sense of I am this that is Rudi in at a part of a single shared I am that you share with all human beings it's an incredibly powerful experience I know his experience when I was a teenager loved going to rock concerts right and my favorite moment the rock concert was when thousands of people in the studio and they in this concert hall would hold a match today people hold their cell phones it's a desecration it's gonna fall to rockers like me it's a desecration of rock-and-roll right but in those days everybody would call a match or a lighter and there was this incredible feeling of ecstasy wine because suddenly we all realized there were all part of one's self that's a character experience I can't do experiences when you feel so plugged in you a sense of self is array of a shared sense of self that you share with the entire universe that's a very dangerous idea so that's why I have to start with maltose internet myself I am nothing get rid of that ego sense of myself which will help you open yourself up to the one cell the great sense of I am and it's connected to time newb it's connected to this incredible pleasure because you know what really gives people pleasure it's experiencing by damned yes when a person sees a beautiful painting it's not the painting they're enjoying it's the experience of I am seeing in a way that I have never seen before I'm experiencing I am this in a very new way because of this painting right when a person eats something very tasty it's not the food they're enjoying it's experience of I am eating in a way that I have never Eton before right it's a deep sense of I am this so real pleasure comes not from having but nobody gets any pleasure from having something because you know you could lose it right what you have you could lose it's about being I am but being and I am that's connected to all I am okay so that is the experience of Kenter and it's connected to I want because you I am this comes with I want yes right that's what it means to be alive you want right the power of will is kept there and that's why it's called Kaptur because cancer is the ground and the crown is the king and the king can get whatever he wants right that's the game the king can do whatever he wants so Cantor's connected to the freedom of will power and this is the fuel of our entire lives I am or I want therefore I am the question is what do I want I want therefore I am we cannot but what what does it really mean to be alive to want life and will are synonymous the more you want to live the more alive you are the more you want to live for the right reasons the greater the quality of your life when a person feels depressed what do they feel they feel like they don't want to do anything now there used to be this Israeli pop song low Bobby the letter Philip Avila Cher I don't feel like going and I don't feel like staying like that's really compressed gonna like you're so depressed you don't even feel like going to bed probably you just don't want anything that's a sign of depression when you don't want anything but when it when a purse is we happy they want right because what do they want but life and will are synonymous and when a person starts to lose their will to live they lose their very life force itself and they've seen this people who had in their minds who should not know these things somebody who had a fatal illness and somewhere but they wanted to get they found that people would die after New Year's right because they had it in their hand I want to make it till new eaters or people had in their minds they want to make it to their grandsons Bar Mitzvah or something they had this desire they wanted to live and they had some clarity till when at least they want to live and they find that that amazing want to live itself is life so that is the most important thing you need to take care of it's not a thing which is wanting to be alive wanting to live okay so that's Kenter captor is I am I want therefore I am and when I don't want anything then I don't feel I am and I don't really want to continue to be so much do you see you hear that that's when I really need so much to take care of your will because your will is literally the life force of your life and wanting what's worth wanting now this is a very scary thing because weird or some of its existence is a generation that weak-willed ill willed we don't know what we want and especially I saw kind of Versace I read a book that said that the average American my guess is all see of average Israeli is encountering something like 3000 commercials a day that sounds ridiculous right how's that possible but when you think about it you just walk to the street everywhere you turn there's another you know commercial of some sort this is a billboard you open up a newspaper there's more ads than than than that articles right you're on the bus or you're on the train or you know worried or in New York City you just get in the backseat right if they just bombarded you with commercials the whole time with this little monitor if we return this take the trying to tell you that this is what you want you gotta have this if you don't have this you're not gonna be happy you're not gonna feel good about yourself so we're also more so in a generation where we being bombarded with people who are spending a tremendous amount of money and a tremendous amount of wisdom to try to convince us to want what they want us to want how much time do we spend figuring out what we want but what do I really really really want that's Cantor Cantor is getting in touch with what I'm realizing that the power of will doesn't start with me will not end with me it's God's will and that actually is you can in a nutshell sum up all of Jewish life very simple all of Jewish life is we learn Torah to know what a show wants we diamond to want what a chef wants and we do mitzvahs in order to live for - in watts and the more you'd know what a sham wants and the more you want what a chef wants and the more you live what a sham wants the more you tapped in to get there the more you tapped into the very essence of life itself it's called will Kabbalah teaches that everything's made of will scientist would be trying to figure out what's this all made of and we finally figured out it's made of energy well they're not quite there yet Tower says it's made of will that's why in Hebrew a thing is called a kayfetz and what does kayfetz literally mean desire or will payments look offense okay so the tables is really the will to support and the chair is the will to enable people to sit and the cup is the will to enable people to drink so for you your I am this is a certain kind of will good will what do you want is who you are it's actually bus look I need to feel that II I am my prayer I need to feel a tea your pre or a suit you want if you're dating somebody to find out what is the prayer what are the dreams what do they want because that's who they are and if you want to change who you are you got to change what you want if you want to change what you want the first thing you have to do is get in touch but what do I want anyways and why do I want what I want okay so that's canter okay canter is I am cancer is I want and that is where the greatest Avenue the greatest of pleasure in our life is what we want what in our deepest deepest depths we should want and that it's great pleasure in just living that want okay so then what's the next step the next step is a cop because canter is I want I want I want Kosmas so what do you want in fact the Hebrew word hokhmah the Zohar says is cos MA and co-op my literally means the power of what the power of asking the question what do I want and I meet so many people okay now I be Shiva with eighteen-year-olds and I find a lot of guys themselves what do you want like why do you what do you really really want out of your wife right so hot was connected to dreaming right it's connected to the power to see what can be it's referred to as Road air and to know that me as I come who is truly wise Haro adenomas one who sees what could be born what could happen right basically hokhmah is you know what it says in couple extra bucks I'm soft my said but much about tequila right start that Hashem started with the end in mind he loved he read kind of obviously God read Stephen Covey's book I start with the end in mind right and that's why God created the world did pretty good okay but that's exactly what Solomon is start with the end in mind what is your end goal because you can't get it to market that you can't see and therefore sadly enough people because they have no sense of an end goal that they'd like to get to they don't know how to make any decisions because if you don't know where you're trying to get to then any road will get you there right because you're going nowhere in every room will tell you taking nowhere okay so therefore come is this visionary thinking it's creative thinking its foresight it's gold mindedness its imaginative its purposeful you have the sense of where you want to go okay where you want to go now that'll rev up your will okay because if your goal is to make enough money to pay for your bills tomorrow you're not gonna be very motivated right that's not so motivating to get out of bed you know so if you're having a hard time getting in the mornings because you probably don't have a good enough reason to get it out of there right but when you have to yourself a goal that is a goal that is Noble a goal that you can get yourself excited about run so that will draw more will and you will feel a greater sense of I am right and once you have that Hockman then the next thing is Pina which is what is your goal alright it's very extract you know you go all this you want to do good right you want to help people you want to make a difference ok there's beautiful goals right but now you've got to get bina which is more specifically but what's your plan what's a strategy right what's your picture of that right what is that gonna be I know that when I was kidding probably what you were kid to adults asked you so what do you want to be when you grow up like as if we really knew as little kids right now I it was told what I want to be when I was drove I was told I want to be a doctor right because I was Jewish and my parents told me you're Jewish and you're gonna be doctor right now I grew up in a non-jewish neighborhood so all my friends have these really exciting visions for themselves they're gonna be firemen and hockey players in baseball guys and right and I was the only guy that want to be a doctor you know you know at three years old you know but but but but really the question is well but what do you want to do with your life because when people don't have a goal focus Purpose Driven Life they don't feel very alive right you just don't feel very alive and if every day's just to get it's going to be very very hard so the question is bina is so how are you going to accomplish your goal and that's where you can see over here that being a strategic thinking is very practical insightful it's planning it's analytical being actually means Levine devar me talk devar to understand the distinctions it's gotten actually Kabbalah cosmic correlates to the male the seed of the male but being it correlates to the wool of the woman because the woman will take that scene and she will draw out of it all its details so you have people that have real great vision you know they want to build an orphanage but they have a clue on when they're gonna do it how much money that's going to take what kind of planning do they need what what kind of consultants do they have to turn to that's already a being a kind of person now you might not always do you know you may be a very creative person I'm a very creative person bina isn't my greatest strength but so you find people that can be your strategic advisor you come to them with your vision and they help you come up with a strategic plan or challenge your vision to make sure maybe your vision isn't what your vision right maybe that's not what you want to do to get the point now what happens when you've got the dream and you've got the plan that brings you to dot and dot is determination Don is you know what you want now in Kabbalah there's ten sofy roads but we don't count Kenter and dot together if we were to do that we'd end up with eleven spirit not Katherine dot are actually the same because Cantor is I want but I don't really know what I want kana is I know what I want bina is I know how I want to go about getting what I want and when I've got the the the goal I got the dream and I've got the plan I've got the strategy boom I get it and that's actually what that is that is I know what I want and I want what I know what I want and there's nothing more frustrating than wanting and not knowing what you want have you ever had that experience right like I this time they'll come home at night I'm feeling really really hungry and I open up the refrigerator door and the fridges fall but I don't know nothing in there seems to speak to me but I'm really hungry so why not you seen anything but I don't know when I close the door I walk away I come back thirty seconds later open the door again right is it like something new happen to appear inside there and I do the same thing do I there's no like that on that one close the door come back a minute later open the door again you see if you find yourself opening and closing the refrigerator door then that means that what you're looking for is not in the refrigerator what you're looking for is in the freezer no what you're looking for is not food there's this emptiness inside of here and this is the work we all need to do what do you want because peanut I've kept there is I want I want I am therefore I want all right and that is the basis of human being and I am therefore I want will say well what do you want and you got a really think about it what do you want bhima's gonna ask you how do you want to go about getting that and when you come up with the right recipe of what you want and how you gonna go about doing it then you'll know you got the right balance cuz I hit you with the dot and the dot will be the sensor yes yes it's that AHA experience in fact in in in galactic terminology there's something called Bart dot which is you cannot purchase something from somebody who's not old enough to own something and that's referred to as being a bar dot so own that means I get it okay I really get it because you'd like to hear a glass oh you know you understood it you heard it you didn't get it dot is when you get and that's why you see over here that is decisiveness dhatus commitment it's determination you feel a sense of confidence okay and then what happens you explode into Hesed what you then feel is this rush of passion if you're not feeling passion in your life it's because the other four are not there right I am therefore I want but I don't know what I want I don't know how I'm going to go get it and I'm not very determined about it because I don't know what it is I don't know how I'm going to do it okay but when a person has clarity of their purpose and their strategy and they feel determined then they feel this passion to go to good okay I think it's always about doing good it's always really about doing good to plug in to Hashem I amnesty plug into a Shem scoff mom the plug into a Shems be and dad it always is connected to some form of service what good are you now again good doesn't mean that you're saving the world because nobody's gonna save the world but everybody could save eight world and that's every single human beings a world and that's all we have to do is save a world and to save a world means maybe save their day by just giving them a smile maybe just making a phone call maybe just you know sending a soothing note so so easy to bring a smile to someone's face and you just lived a little more of a purposeful moment right so that's suggested test it is not just kindness it's more than kindness it's this passion to contribute to help but now on the other side of that is Laura and what is Laura well if you really kind of clarity of your purpose and you feel really excited about a strategy in the plan and you get it and you determined and you feel this path to go do something you're going to feel scared what if you blow it and for it is kicking in and saying watch out be careful what do you have to be careful about you see Laura is under beena because the catalyst tell us that bina gives birth to the game rules you see sometimes people's lives is not working because they're playing by the wrong game rules right you're on a basketball court and you're trying to play by the game rules of football right and so that's a very big you know block in people's lives they've just got the wrong angles but if you have the right be enough you've got the right strategy and you but the right game rules of what are the rules that you need to buy by in order to accomplish your purpose okay think before it says you gotta stick by these rules because what happens is you'll see the tested us and is underneath Kozma so a cosmic dries this past I get this dream right but eNOS says yeah but you've got a plan and there's rules you gotta play by to accomplish that there is a timeline there's a budget right and you gotta stick to your plan so the four is saying you could blow this if you just go out there and try to win over the world and don't pace yourself so that's why for it is discipline conscious restraint carefulness law-abiding that's what the fora is right so a lot of people they messed up their plan and they messed up the goal because they were just impatient and they wanted to get it all done now and they need to go back to their plan or the plan was missing a timeline alright that brings in allottee ferry that ferret is connected to truthfulness there it is connected to integrity you see now this is kind of like cobalt in hot water you see it press it press it is this passion for it is this caution and dafair it is how much hot water passion do you need how much cooling down restraint do you need that's already the mixer board which is the different which is truthfulness which is to be real with yourself to be honest with yourself and go back and keep going back am I am I might have I lost my dream you know they're people they kept the middle of building something and so I realized I'm not passionate about this at all because they lost their dream or you can have people that are really dreamy and Reitman but they get lost in their process and that's because they they stop being in touch with their plan right or they were just too passionate ago where they were too restrained or whatever so T Fair it is you gotta kind of keep checking in on yourself am I being true to myself am I being true to my dream I mean doing true to my plan it's my passion and my caution in place that that brings you to net to hugging yourself this is now how you interface with others outside of you or the facts of life outside of you in other words it's great you've got a dream you got a plan you're very passionate that is stickin to your rules you know you're playing the game by the game rules right you're very true to yourself but you're not real with what's coming on the people around you are not convinced but people around you or not the Commuter are not cooperating right the money is not coming in the response you're looking for isn't happening that's already a question of netiquette hold which is when you start hitting the facts on the ground everything until that was all in your head right your dream your plan your passion your spring fuer your restraint your caution you being honest with yourself you being true to yourself but now you have to make peace reality which is maybe people aren't buying it maybe people don't like what they're hearing right and then now they have to actually scalp well what do I do right natsot says blow right through it be relentless right just just keep going hard to say wait a second let go go back to your rules go back to your plan run hold it is saying wait wait wait right and that's a big big question which is when I give obstacles is this a time for me to say I am going to be relentless or is this a time for me to say you know what maybe this is a time to pause and go back up and see maybe I've got to do some rewiring of my dream or maybe there's something a little off here in the plan or maybe I missed something with the rules or maybe you know but that's a difficult question you know I'd be dating somebody okay and they say no so is that a sign for you to say I don't take no for an answer right and they say well tough luck it's still no right or maybe they'll be very impressed with you say well I don't take no for an answer and I would like to see you again maybe they'll be impressed but you don't know and the only one that could make that decision is he sold his soul is gonna hit straight into reality and it's gonna say well do I need more net shot which is we shall overcome be persistent be assertive you know and I know when I met my wife the first time and at the end of the day I said you know when can I see you again she said in a week from now I said no she said what do you mean no I said I want to get married I'm not gonna wait another week to meet somebody that I'm interested in meeting I'm not gonna wait from now but you know I'm not gonna wait a week right she was really impressed with that right that worked in my favor that night right now some women might say well that's a jerk I'm sorry it's a week but I'm not sorry I'm not gonna wait a week for a second date right she thought she liked that right now again that was my use so at that moment just kind of intuitively feeling that I'm just gonna be honest and I'm it was maybe maybe it was aggressively someone would find that very aggressive but thank God my wife didn't find that aggressive she's found that as somebody with confidence somebody that had clarity and somebody that was very serious and dating I don't know I'm not telling you to use that and whatever strategy you do but the point is that you so does adaptability is this the time to say you know what I tried and it's time to let go right and be thankful for whatever I've accomplished until now and maybe it's time to go all the way back up to the top and re-examine my dream or my plan or maybe there's nothing wrong with my plan and this isn't this is the test and I have to move forward and I've got to be strong right but you saw it according to Kabbalah is when all of this comes together right so the person who was really the master view so it was Joseph and Yosef is referred to as having shame he had this charisma because people that have all this together they got a balance right I want therefore I am I dream therefore I am I plan therefore I am I know what I want and I want what I know passionate about it but I'm going to be careful and conscious I will play by the rules that I established by playing right I'm gonna always be true to myself to make sure that I'm in touch with this but I'm gonna look at the information in front of me and ask myself carefully is this a time to bust through and let my dream overcome or is this a time to kind of pull back and look at my plan and maybe there's something wrong here and I just gotta let go here but people who can pull all this together are incredibly dynamic leaders in their life in their families amongst their friends and that brings us back to muscles right which is you've got the landing pad right it all lands there right and this is the flow chart of how Judaism see success success is to always be in service of a show and in service efficient means to ask yourself what good can I bring to the world what is that dream how will I do it how much do I really deeply connect to it and you'll know when you feel that passion and you feel that little fear of not succeeding because you so much want to and you'll know when it's time to make it happen or let it happen or bust right through or have the clarity that maybe regroup and and and kind of re-examine the whole process once again but that is the goal the goal is to be in service it's very simple we learning Torah to know what a sham wants we dive into want what a sham wants we do mitzvahs to live what a sham once and the more we want what a chef wants and know what a sham one we live what a sham wants the more we have the blessing of an incredible life force just just flowing right through us so thank you so much and I'd be happy to hear your questions here what's your name again I'm certainly not you know Jacob Jacob sorry I was a private thing this year yeah but it was pretty pretty amazing he was very in touch with the fact that he's just in service and I think when people live their life that way then blessing comes their way and the more they think this is my power and this is my strength it was accomplished this for me then the more you actually choke him to walk out the the flow of energy into your life more questions yeah what's your name [Music] yes it's like again like a faucet it's like Nessa but you know who say the right side is hot and the left side is cold right because the dream is hot I have a dream and I'm hot passionate to do it and I'm relentless I'm gonna make that happen that's intense ups right left side is wait a second what's your plan what's the time what you budget who do you need involved in this right do you have all your ducks in order that takes a lot of time right and then okay what's the game rules right what rules you have to play by in order to get what you want to get you know I mean like if somebody says they want to succeed in you know in getting their PhD right yeah but they'd like to party I'm sorry that's just not a game rule you know I mean like thou shalt party is not going to help you get your PhD right so so you yes you have to ask yourself what rules do I have to play by in order to get to my dream if they ask yourself what that is those rules uh in terms of the big picture of Judy is but in my own life a person has to ask themselves like I asked my guys at these shivay say well what do you want to accomplish this year and they tell me I said okay give me a rule that you're going to live by in order to accomplish that right like how about going to bed before 3:00 in the morning I think that's a rule that you know you can't tell me that you want to really succeed this year but you're gonna be on Facebook for four hours you know until 3:00 in the morning right so obviously you haven't come up with the rules that you need to keep in stick to in order to get to your unit you go so therefore you know gora kind of cools you off right and whole just say okay how it is like I see the facts on the and this is not working out so what do I need to do I have to let go and go back up did I make a mistake in my rules or maybe something's off in my plan right so is that the question do I have to kind of go back up to the top or at least begin to trace my steps backwards or this is a time for nexif and I say no this is I'm going to be persistent and I'm not going to take no for an answer those are difficult questions I mean as long as the question have I tried enough right is it time to say I've really tried and this is Hashem saying no or this is a chef saying no I want you to try even harder I you know it's a good thing you know there's there's no there's no easy answer to those questions and a lot of people have asked me those kind of questions you know in their lives which is is this a sign you know is it a sign that eating Israel because it's not working out for me or as a sign that I have to work even harder these are different questions but that's the question you so would be asking which is do I turn up the Nets up and be relentless or is this a time to be thankful for our far I've common right and the yielding and surrender and go back up the other direction let's see what I might be missing does that make sense yeah okay what's your name no no no because it is passion Kozma is having clarity of your purpose right bina is having clarity of your plan right and when you have clarity of purpose and you have clarity of plan then you'll know that you got it when you get this yes dot experience of this is this kind of like surge of energy of determination and then you and then you feel this passion do you feel passionate to do that but the good is somewhere up there in your absolutely that's very good right I mean everybody knows you have a mitzvah half the replicas most I love your neighbor as yourself well I know lots of people that I would really prefer them not to love me the way they love themselves you know and I would hope they do a little better than that or maybe a lot better than that so we need everyone to love themselves right if people were to really love themselves they would love other people right because when you love yourself you love other people when you love yourself you don't need cuff owed you're not looking for ego you know you don't get into silly fights over stupid things you feel good about yourself so why are you getting two fights with people you know right so if we would just feel good about ourselves it's very sad it's very it's not such a common consciousness among some from people I met that that they don't understand that this is a prerequisite to to live the midst of a half the rest will come over which Raveena says is the whole goal of eternal life it just capture the whole essence of Jewish life and yeah our people are not taking care of those cells they're not gonna be taking care of other people but you know it's very clear that people hurt people because those people are hurting right so heard people are hurting people because they are hurting themselves all right so yeah it could be maybe right now the hakama is what is your vision for a better you to feel better about yourself right and I believe that people generally feel better about themselves when they help other people feel better about themselves and now you feel good by doing good and and that's really the basis of Tober life right when you know I am because I am in service and I am service bringing some kind of godly goodness to others which gives me good feeling for myself but sometimes guys start with yourself for sure absolutely yes what's your name beautiful right because what makes something beautiful what makes something beautiful is that there's a harmony okay and so when there isn't harmony when there's too much passion but there's not enough caution so this person is out there to save the world but but they didn't they don't have a plan you know and they're not sticking to their plan you know and so something's not beautiful there okay there's a difference you thinking what you want that is now I know it before I just thought about it it's like you know it's like a person says you know I want to stop smoking yeah that's true they want to start smoking right but this don't don't stop smoking right there's a lot of people who want to lose weight but they still don't lose weight right so so so so do you want to lose weight you don't want to lose weight I don't want to lose weight but I haven't gotten it down to the dot yet and sometimes it's because I don't have a real good plan nobody's given me a real good plan so I don't feel really confident I could really do it so again goes back to my dot which is I don't have that confidence that I can do it because I have this vision of myself being thin but I don't really have plan about doing okay or I have a plan I don't really have a vision I have to literally vision myself looking that way you know and it's a good exercise to do it's just kind of close your eyes and just dream you know what is the what does that dream you that you have in your mind what we're are you what are people saying to you where are we're is this happening like if you could pick a dream moment that would just capture that dream what would it be and that's why it says right there the lad who was truly a someone who sees literally sees the birth to really visualize it you know and that's part of the exercise of Kaufman that's why I put in their imagination it's bingley to kind of really see it you see it but if a person can't dream it it's gonna be hard to get anywhere after that you know a lot of people are afraid to dream you know so as I mentioned you know it was a kid they they go they ask you you know what you want to be when you grew up I learned a much better question not when I grow up when I was growing up unfortunately right which is ask your children or ask yourself what problem would I want to be part of solving in the world that's a much better question than what do you want to be when you grow up right who do you who are you to know what you want to be when you grew up but it's really what does I want you to be when you grow up but when you ask a person you know what if there's what's a problem in the world that you could help solve what would that be that's a good question to kind of access your heart you know and again it doesn't have to be the world I mean I know it sounds very universal over here but it could be something very very private something very personal it could be one person family right nobody's diminishing you know the incredible contribution that one person could make on just one person maybe that's why you came to this world to just help that one person knows there's no way of knowing any more questions yeah what's your name I don't think that's possible because Hashem only wants you to be a vehicle that's what you're here to do right it says metallic code is part of the sought theory Toby talked to Neil because part of one has this desire to be in this world and how is a Shem going to be in this world you are the kingdom right you are the landing pad right you are the you know you're the airfield Hashem wants the land in this world which means absolute good wants to land in this world and every single human being is to channel for the presence of the great I am to bring good to the world everybody every single human being could bring some kind of good there's something good that's true that's true but as I mentioned you have like a partnership what I want is my choice that I want in that I have no choice so Torah is telling us this is what Hashem wants you to choose to want okay so when a person wants what a Shemp wants right a favorite sono read some cop want what a Shem wants then you are aligning your will and your just like a radio tuning into divine will okay so if you choose to not want what a shiv wants you might think you're feeling successful in doing successful thing but you're not right it looks like it but in the big picture you're not in service and the goal of a tower life is to be in service and to be in service doesn't mean to be a slave to be in service means to be a channel for the presence of God's goodness to come into the world right so you look at whatever skills are shown gave you a sham gave me the ability of public speaking all right I didn't do anything for this I didn't go to any courses on this I just since I was a kid I was doing acting in front of you know I've never had you know fear of public speaking you know my question is what do we do with it you know there's lots of things I could have done with it right so I'm hoping that I'm doing some good with it by bringing a little bit more clarity to people's lives that bringing up a little bit more hope to people's lives you know that's my service you know or one of my services okay so people can look at themselves and say okay Shem gave every single human being a constellation of gifts and challenges you know like it says I'm a God expert you know well you know I was I was forced to be a God expert because I'm a son survivor you know and at a very young age I heard my mother screaming in the middle of night having a dream of the concentration camp so as a child I was bombarded with questions is there a god and if there's a God is he good and if he's good why is the world so bad and if we're the chosen people I wish he chose somebody else you know and so at a very young age I was asking these questions right so I dared to ask these questions I had a choice to ask these questions I was thrown into being a son of a survivor you know and the Holocaust plays big into Who I am you know I'm a whole life revolve so much about being a son of a survivor my father wasn't a survivor that itself was an interesting marriage between a survivor and non-survivable so but you look at your life and you look at the challenges that you've been giving in the strengths that you've been given and the problems that you be given and the sensitivities that you have and in there is a recipe for serving good right somewhere in there is your recipe of serving good and that's what you're to do to serve good does that make sense more questions or comments yeah yes in the god powered life that's why I brought it I wrote eight books or let's say sham wrote eight books through me but he loudly put my name on it told me to pick up the check but but I gave myself right and so what is the books like rot is the gun powered life which actually is what yes it's true yes I did so so so anyways the material that I shared here some of it is in the chapter in that book called getting our souls in shape it's the last second last chapter the god power of life is really who we are and how we are here to serve and to be empowered by the presence of God so it's it's fifty shekels also if you're interested in more of this stuff you can look in the bottom on here I put my website Rabbi David Aaron calm and if you want you can go to it and register I I send out every week you know I buy you I do these little animations and I have articles I have a website have a retail show called soul talk that goes out every week so if you if you want to get that weekly you can otherwise you can follow me on Facebook just about every day I both something either a podcast or an article or an animation or a video or something and thank you so much for listening and thank you for allowing me to share these words I will hang out in response and grab the questions if you have [Music]