Learn To Love with Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston

[Music] Shalom everybody welcome back to the we are actually guests temporarily in the we actually found our own Center we will be uh discussing all the details next emails next the publication whatever all the details so for those who are in who are familiar they know already that you can find the original uh Hebrew store sheets in the um link below we deal with the fundamentals right now we're dealing with pares via and we use the clear as the basis for our discussion we're always dealing with fundamentals meaning anybody who wants to be knowledgeable about Judaism whether you're living it whether you're you're a righteous noahide you want to know about Judaism you want to the principles the the the Divine information that God downloaded to the world through the Jewish people uh 3,400 years ago you're in the right place okay so we're dealing with chapter 18 of Genesis verse 9 we what we usually do is we end up focusing on one verse but we bring in all kinds of sources and whatnot and if you're interested in receiving the English Source sheets just shoot me an email and I'll add you to the list okay so in Genesis 189 these angels had come to Abraham and they told him that um they're going to have a child but before that everything's um you know going on in this verse it says and they said to him and I want you to understand they plural the Angels said to Abraham where is Sarah your wife and he responded behold in the tent she's in the tent now in the Torah scroll itself there are three dots above the word a love so they said to him a basically where she that's feminine where is she sorry your wife now what are those three dots doing there so the Torah is a Divine code and these three dots appear in the Torah scroll itself if you notice on the English FL sheet I have the Hebrew verse and there are three dots now there are the little two dotts on top of the lamid that's part of what call the trop that has to do with the canellation notes but there are three black dots one above the alif one above the yud and one above the V not the lit and we have a tradition that when you have a majority of dots meaning majority of the letters with dots that implies that there is a draa there's something to be expounded and derived from the dots from the word itself from the letters which have the dots if a majority had no dots but there were several dots but the majority had no dots so then we would not derive we will see the Rashi and what he says exactly then we're going to use the words let's look at Rashi he says like this they said to him the word a to him there are dots over the letters Al if you invol in the words and we learned um this is in the in the medish rim the son ofar said the son of elezar said whenever the undotted letters are more than the dotted ones you must expound on the undotted letters but here in our case the dotted letters are more than the undotted letters therefore what we expound on are the dotted letter letters which is our case meaning what so we're taking the words Al because the word without the lamid is Al and that means where is he so what we're going to find out is that this is how Angels usually work they can be in two places simultaneously they can have conversations with two different people simultaneously if they can be in two places simultaneously so I'm just assuming it was simultaneously because when they said to him and the words are they said to him where is SAR your wife they were also speaking to her and saying to her where is Abraham your husband now that is a little bit crazy to suggest because the text says that they were right in front of Abraham so why would they ask where afon was not only that Angels know pretty much everything they need to know so of course they knew she was in the tent so why would they even ask where is Sirah your wife when they certainly knew where she was so they're obviously lessons so the first part of the Rashi says we learn that a person should ask when he's a guest somewhere he should ask the husband about the wife how's she doing how's your family and the same thing you ask the wife how's her husband doing how's the family doing so that's lesson one in Rashi the second lesson and Rashi brings from aor bmia that the angels of course the ministering Angels knew where our mother Sarah SAR Maya was but you know why they asked they asked in order to make known that she was modest now we're going to get into this what is modest mean but H in order to endear her to her husband now I'm going to say something that is may be very un PC in this day and age right unfortunately many people do not dressed modestly and people may think that's attractive but the truth is the more that's covered again I'm using this as a non-pc even in religious circles the more that is covered the more is left to the imagination in other words it's actually very attractive things so the very fact that she was modest and we're not talking about just the physical way we're talking about from a metaphysical spiritual level right people are attracted to spiritual things so a woman who's covered it's not the physical Beauty because you're not able to see it all but you're able to see the the beauty from within the real Beauty not the fake counterfeit beauty that people uh think is what do they call Skin Deep right it's deeper than that okay and and we're gonna have to discuss how was it by them asking where's your wife that it's according to Rashi that it's letting him know how modest she was I think we can already answer that cuz the answer that he says she's in the tent that already he recognizes her modesty and that would endear her that would endear her to her husband oh that would mean her husband would be more endeared to her and the third opinion in Rashi rosi son of rabi khanina OSF sorry the son of rabi khanina in order to send her a cup of blessing so I don't know if you're aware of the fact that when you have a zimon three people men eating together or more so uh it's likely you'll have a cup of wine in order to do what they call Grace after meals and when the the person is finished making the final after the after the the it's it's it's proper to give to the husband to give to his wife as well um and if the husband for sure he should give to his wife the last three words of Rashi behold she's in the tent that implies that she is modest now we didn't even begin with the clear all we did was read the first verse and the Rashi or rashis as we will say and let's turn to our CLE yakar itself the first line says Paris Rashi he actually claims right this is what Rashi says at least it's the first opinion um actually it's the second opinion the whole reason that they asked where is she where is she it was to inform him to make known to him how modest she was that she was in a tent Bala in order to endear her to her husband the husband would take her um in a much more serious and endearing fashion so the CLE clear says this is difficult this is a difficulty why what do you mean are you telling me up until now there 100 99 years old you're telling me that he didn't know that she was modest of course he knew she was modest so what does this add the according to the we can explain it in the following way as we know the following verse verse 10 says and the um the angel said I will surely return to you at the this time next year and behold your wife Sarah will have a son so when the angel says I will surely return to you what would be the impression that the husband at 9900 doesn't have any children yet it could be that the Angel's going to come back to me I'm the one who deserves the child and my wife is undeserving no wonder we didn't have any children because she's she's not deserving and that's what's holding up the the Works um so that would be a possibility that Abra might think so masma because it says I will return to you but I'm not going to return to her meaning it's not really re relevant to her why why why you're having a child and so there is to be concerned for's sake that perhaps there would be some I'm G to call Cena is here it means resentment there might be some animosity uh that's placed on abam regarding her because he the angel said I'm going to return to to you not to her he could have said I'm going to return to both of you but I'm returning to you implies maybe there's some something lacking with her pre bettin and what he might think based on those words that I'm going to return to you that the only reason that um that it's her she's the reason for the Mana for the withholding of God from giving off the fruit of the womb right therefore according to the clear the angel wanted to make sure this was not a problem he's not there to cause shom bias he wants to increase peace in the home so the the the Mal himself saw a way to fix this and how did he fix it when he says where is Sarah Your Wife by saying that that's what Rashi says it's going to bring them closer not further apart and we say of course the Malik knew where she was right nevertheless nevertheless if you are um Abraham will admit to me will say it out loud that she's in the tent constantly because she's a very modest woman then that's the case certainly God will not deny or hold back uh the reward for her being modest and therefore there's a recognition she's on a very high level sh we have a gor Milla um chapter 10 I'm sorry page 10 B I don't think I brought it here but basically I I do have it here somewhere number five on the sore sheet where it says I'll read the gorah first the gorah responds it's in accordance with which Rabani said that RAB yonatan said ready for this any bride any bride who is modest in the house of her father-in-law so what happened back then I'll tell you the truth it sounds like back in the day the bride even before they got married married would already live in the house of her father-in-law and um you know obviously that um causes it could cause a lot of uh uh stumbling blocks but nevertheless if she's modest in the house of her father-in-law you know what's going to happen that woman merits the Kings and Prophets will emerge from her and how do we know this from Tamar right in Genesis 38:15 now listen to this when Yehuda saw her he's at the crossroads it's true he's at the crossroads and she had covered her face it says he thought her to be a prostitute for she had covered her face now the gore explains that prostitutes don't cover their faces so so what's going on you know where she covered her face in her father-in-law's house Yehuda and he never saw her so he didn't even really know what she looked like okay so the gor continues in Milla ten can it be that because Tamar covered her face that he thought her to be a prostitute on the contrary a harlot tends to co uncover her face so the fact is that she had her face covered he didn't know who it was and he wouldn't have even known who she was had she covered her face but the covering of the face here is referring to what not her standing out on the street cuz that's she was acting as a prostitute she was covering her face when she was at home um and he didn't know what she look like isn't that amazing and um I'll just read the the Rashi on Genesis 38:15 so part of the the verse because she covered her face Rashi says he thought she was a harlot because she was sitting at the crossroads that's why he thought she was a harlot not because she covered her face the latter part the verse says because she covered her face he could not see her and recognize her our Sage's Mis interpretation is because she had covered her face when she stayed in her father-in-law's house and she was modest therefore he didn't suspect her and now we understand why Kings will emerge from her as it says in Genesis 176 which is our verse and it says and I will make you exceedingly fruitful we're talking about Abram and SAR ab and Sarah and I will make you into Nations and Kings will emerge from you okay that's 176 um where do I go with this okay let's continue in the clear the clear says this is an amazing idea in the Hebrew it says so any bride who is modest will Merit that she come from her Kings and the proof was from Tamar we know that Tamar was very modest so too was therefore as a result what we saw chapter 17:6 that will come out from her the and how much more that that through this that the husband is endeared to his wife more loving and it's because of the modesty that caused all of this and thenal tell us they say that V right we saw in the word there's a DOT on top of the AL andara why are the dots on iO because what it means is even though the angel said where is she feminine Sarah your wife the word Al implies where is he at the same time simultaneously as they're saying to her s as they're saying to him where is your wife they're saying to her where's your husband simultaneously Samu now this is going to be deep stuff that the um those who expound the Torah metaphorically or analytically and how do you say this word anally like um through a Mas like an analogy but you I'm trying to figure out how to say the word um okay so through through analogies they would ask like this they would explain like this the very letters aov a are the exact same letters just like scrambled meaning when the very letters that say that they said to him the words to him where is she are the exact same letters just a little bit scrambled they said to her where is he now that's all very nice and good we're going to have a real good question on this the question is but really back to the first question how can they ask SAR where is he hello made a lamb the very verse says that Abram stood over them by the tree and uh and and and gave them water and washed their feet therefore the is going to explain it on the whole another level the actual question where is she or where is he is not L it's not asking where is their location right you have on your phone a location guess what we're not talking about location I'm sure you've had conversations someone would say you know I'm not really standing there you know like that's not where I'm at we're not talking about phys physical we're talking about the conversation the topic right a he sorry a who oh he were not they were not asking where literally location wise here she was H goat they wanted to know where they were holding on a spiritual level where is your husband standing on a spiritual level where is your wife standing on a spiritual level believe me they were on high spiritual levels and they recognized it but recognizing the spiritual level that your partner is on is an unbelievable thing because it's virtue I just want to explain when we have a commandment to love right you have commandment to love your your your neighbor as yourself you have a commandment to love God is love an emotion I mean I haven't looked it up the in the dictionary to find out but usually people say love is an emotion well guess what how do you command an emotion so as rno Weinberg always told us that it's what is love he defines love as seeing the virtue in the other person that's love right when you see the good qualities you focus on those qualities how can you not love them so I think that they saw those qualities and that was the question where is your husband where is your wife where are they holding spiritually K the very idea of where are they the idea of place where are you standing the idea of place is referring to a spiritual level he and there was no doubt that at all that they were asking about the physical place of where he she was rather the question was where are they in their status their spiritual status where are they in their virtues regarding their Good Deeds regarding the mitzah that they do that where they're both standing where they're both holding as we say that they would Merit to have a child a son she certainly merited to have a son because she was modest which we already discussed why was Abraham in the Merit why did he deserve or right or Merit to have a son because of his s his charity work his Outreach right there's no greater Outreach than connecting people with meaning and making sure people were well fed right making sure people had a a roof over their head make make sure they had clothing on their backs a shirt on their backs now even though we we spoke about the word with the three dots and theu um was right we SP we spoke about those words and are the same letters that are scrambled when it said they said to him where is she and they said to her where is he exactly the same letters guess what when he just explains that right here just like those two words so too there's going to be more hints in other words when it says um the literal word was where is your wife we only focus on the word your wife and he said so the first question was to him where is your wife your wife and he said those exact letters match up with where is your husband your husband and she said unbelievable the Torah is perfect the Torah is just so sweet the exact same letters there's a hint here that the angel the Angelic forces were speaking simultaneously the same words the same exact words if you just scramble up the letters they say exactly what the medis is saying it's as if it's actually written as if it was written they said to her where is your husband exactly and Not only was the question the same the answer is the same right V he named ohel okay she's going to answer behold he is in the tent what does the tent represent that she's also answering back about his spiritual status about the virtue of where he's holding spiritually he she said he my husband he is in the tent AB this is the spiritual status of Abraham he was in the tent where he was sitting by the entrance of the tent and he was scouting out he was anticipating he was looking for people walking by that could use some nice cold water and he was constantly involved with this activity what activity he was pitching his palatial tent in order to receive guests now I just want to mention before we go into this we talk about yakob was dwelt in the tents right shame dealt in TW dwelt in tents those who dwell in tents it's like the tent of the ohal is the the place of where the Torah is like I would have thought that he was going to give me that AB study Torah no I'm not saying he didn't but the focus here is that he was the it says in chapter 21:33 that he planted anel the shin okay where do we have that on the sheet I mentioned it is verse 2133 it says he planted anel so I'm not sure if you're familiar with this idea but what is the Mitzvah ofel reminds us of his involvement with the is shin is drink so you have food you have drink and Lena well some say it's the lamid would represent so you have the the food you have the drink Lena would represent shelter like sleeping lodging or Le like after you have guests it's a Mitzvah to walk them a little bit some say minimum of uh you know six8 ft but the main idea is to escort them at least to point where they won't get lost right hu Pak so the clear explains what does it mean over there when it says he planted an Asel it means he made an in he what does an in usually have usually has food drink and lodging so in Daniel the same words appear just you should know this says the in other words to plant a tree is the and when you make a tent I'm not sure what they use they say in English you're I know you have staks that you plant in the ground I don't think you say you plant a tent but maybe people say that they're the securing the tent I know that's what you do you have to secure the tent but it's the same Hebrew word new in um in Daniel 11: 45 it just happens to be he's trying to give us a proof text to show us that just like Abraham was planting the eel the same idea of planting as it says in Daniel let me just see where I have it do I have it on the page 11 yeah 45 you'll see the number 14 it says he will pitch his palacial tents between the Seas okay so you see in Hebrew no okay so you have a connection between planting a tent and um planting I'm sorry planting a tree as well and that's connected to a pundak as it says in Daniel 11:45 now if that's all true IM Kain we say we're talking about the simple reading of the verse it actually includes both ideas remember it says that's our verse that they said to him where is your wife Sarah where is she standing on her spiritual level what virtues does she have and that's what they were reminding him of and he says so she's in the tent which symbolizes modesty meaning they were trying to remind him so on account of what she would have a child don't think it's when I say I'm going to return to you because that's that was like the whole fix I'm going to return to you what not to her no don't worry she's got enough virtue and she certainly merits to have a child the what was the answer oh she's in the tent not only that that because of her modesty you know what's going to come out from her Kings rulers and that's the Jewish people we are right what are we we are a we are a kingdom of priests and a holy nation but one second the mees then explains they actually also spoke to her and and it says where is your husband he and her response was where else in the tent I would have said again in the tent of Torah but no we're talking about the tent of s and wait till you see this the very question they asked him I'm sorry the very question they asked her where is he they were asking M who she is what do you think he'll he what do you think is so virtuous of his spiritual level that he'll Merit to have a child answers behold he's in the tent he is constantly planting or establishing his tents his palatial uh uh homes in order to receive orim I just want to stop here before we finish because this is going to be one of the greatest things that the Yan Center is going to do right we're based on the world stands on we plan to have 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charity holy for that alone he was in the position to give birth to his son and we're going to end with this cryptic verse in Psalms chapter 17 verse 14- 15 the reason I say it's cryptic because what cleard does he takes the last part of 14 and the beginning of 15 and puts it together which I'll just read who have children in plenty and leave their abundance to their babes I will see your face with righteousness now in Hebrew right it says yes you'll have plenty of children and they'll leave over to their um to their children and but it says I would translate like this I through my by me being righteous by giving charity I get some Merit to see your face I will see the face of God through the that I give okay so that's how the clears it's kind of a short piece but if we sum it up to a certain extent um just the general concepts is that we need to create Shalom bias and a person who's in a relationship I know it can be challenging um we should learn that we ourselves should look for The Virtue you want you you have a commandment to love okay so love and love alone okay great what does that mean how do I activate that emotion so I can meditate on the virtues I can have to write them down maybe or I can meditate on those virtues um and hopefully the other partner will too um and this scenario that took place is teaching us um well first of all some very deep things about Torah learning and how to learn Torah and how to understand the verses and what's the death behind the what's the depth behind the verses themselves but here um like I said number one I think we also have to be righteous I mean you have to be modest and um at the same time you have to be willing to give of your time to others that's what uh Saka is it's not just money it could be your time but you're giving of and becoming rightous so you become righteous yourself and then you look in your partner hopefully you're on the same page you both want to be righteous and you appreciate again you can meditate on it but you have to know you have to come and recognize it andem through a what we call through a really true loyal home because the the tide Waters of this world with I don't even want to say what's going on but you know I'll just use the words the opposition to the winner of the presidential elections the opposition there there's this uh very woke anti-semitic ideology anti- Torah anti-god ideology andem through our learning and through our Improvement of our own character we could turn the tide we can have an influence you can change the world what did the say I wanted I already learned so much Torah I can change the world and he set out to change the world and he said you know what I think it's too big it's much bigger than me I'll just change my country he set out whatever energies he did he realized know it's a little bit too much too I'll just do my city really it's a lot he said you know what I'll just work on myself and you know what happened the whole world changed that's why he says I I changed the world once I work on myself and because that's doable you it's really hard may be impossible to change others so but it's not impossible I'm not gonna say it's hard it's it's challenging but it's not impossible and you just have to find the right tools the right people the right community and Y is a community for you okay so um give us a call send us an email and have a good shabas and we'll see you next week bat [Music] oh