Learn the Secret of Heavenly Assistance (Siyata D'Shamaya) Melavah Malka with Rabbi Yom Tov Glaser

[Music] what up everyone welcome this is our first [Music] little thank you all for coming I don't know if you all know Rabbi of glazer but I mention to people [Music] Rel malamas yeah you were my first host in malamas so uh we set up a camp like my first year or second year at malamos we set up a camp where we learned half a day all the MIT to MIT that relate to the land of Israel and we plant the trees for half a year and this guy like fresh off the boat mountain bike went outside I was a littleit scare for but uh as I got to know y the Blazing man of tremendous SP a little crazy but whatever I don't mean in a bad way um crazy crazy good risk taker and what's the word I was looking for adrenaline what they call those Sports they call Extreme Sports Extreme Sports Enthusiast Enthusiast there you go that's a good word I just want to begin with one short V that I spoke about at as you notice the sign says this the same thing as on the the Torah on the be and on the address out there so came up in the anybody put on vibrator L and the idea that the gro brought down in this week's par it's an amazing idea that the Jews men and women were taught were commanded basically told to go and ask to borrow the vessels the gold and silver vessels from their non-jewish neighbors the Egyptians and yet the Torah itself calls them or and that term believe it or not just like we is seemingly reserved just for Jewish people so how can it be how can it be how can it be I'm asking how can it be that Martin Luther King's thank you so the girl giv is a fantastic answer I think it's very interesting and that is one of the things and I think even today especially when you see the war that's going on the re one of the things that we merited not just to leave Egypt but also to leave with wealth because we couldn't have left if we didn't come out with the wealth that was promised to Abraham in the Brit B was because the reason we merited to leave it's fact it even says that God gave special special Grace in the eyes of the Egyptians towards the Jews and when the Jews asked for one thing they said one we're going to give you double whatever you ask we're going to give you more than what you ask and the reason the reason is the cross says is because of the the Jews did because we were I feel like crying like the unbeli what's going on now for the last year and a quarter how much H so shouldn't just come when we have tragedy right the the world is built on so the girl answers the reason why the MIT recall was not because of them it was the Jews it was the it was the the fact that we gave to each other so much that it what's the word like wore off it like as Moses somehow or another there was such an influence on them but the influence because of us so the word r is still referring to the Jews not to the MIT that they asked from theu because and they gave it to them with Grace because of the original that the Jews did with each other is that clear anybody questions about I mean doesn't make a ton of sense what the original Kasha is still there why why are they calling the is not going on them oh it's not going on them ah make sense that make sense I guess I wasn't paying enough attention Okay I'm a little ADHD and um anyway young laser has an amazing not just talent but a love for the Jewish people that I have seen you know with his home is open his su he su su was open very open okay and his table and his heart and with that any F without any further Ado y hey [Music] everybody you know what instead of saying it let's sing [Music] it sh sh [Music] sh h [Music] feel speak [Music] did [Music] hey oh my [Music] my my [Music] I am already know [Music] me [Music] me [Music] me for is [Music] you guys you people my friends my beloved new friends I imagine you don't hang out with a like me every day but uh I'm kind of a different kind of I like to be in every kind of situation you know I explain to my teenage sons that you know they're wondering sometimes like do I really have to wear these outfits you know because growing up in our house is a very uh free experience and you know what I tell them I said you know you can really wear whatever you want but there's something about this outfit that gets you into certain circles consider it like a knife that cuts through a lot of chaff to get right into some very holy ins special people and so my sons are actually very at home in every kind of situation my daughter's too but we're the ones stuck in these outfits and uh but it it's really nice because it's kind of you're totally Incognito everywhere you go except for maybe here but over here everyone's just kind of wondering if you think they're a which of course you know is only one self-judgment it's nothing to do with the guy walking in actually the guy walking in usually most of the time if he looks like me I promise you he's wondering if you you know are judging him [Music] because we're all self-judging you know when you meet somebody the first time you're until you get to know him a bit you have no idea where you stand in his eyes you know because think of all the categories that we live in you know there are categories that you compared to the person you're meeting a lot of categories you could be higher or lower in any of those categories for example Le [Music] brains religiosity money you don't know how much someone's worth until you see their [Music] watch and so we're all a little nervous you know maybe I'm not going to be so respected here and so we're we're a little on edge when we meet a person to know if we're really in or not but perhaps that's whyem says anashim because the an aem's in all of us and that's the common denominator that we all possess we all have that Anem and that that is the the substrata of every Jew and you know what anything else doesn't matter that much we've really learned that this year and maof on this amazing situation of come out of shab is to find out three more of our Brethren are [Music] free although I'm sure there's not a person in here very excited about the way this is happening [Music] but join me [Music] you know we're singing because it's and this is sud and it's uh you're supposed to actually say that when you eat something after chabas so try those words sud actually you're supposed to have that in mind yeah we got d right here you guys you guys know Anders nurman you know Anders nurman he's a real character he would belong here for sure so he wrote he wrote a do melik that's amazing that I always play Whenever I hear someone come out with a great song I learn it immediately to imor IM imem moralize how do you sayori what memorialize it just in case his song didn't get very popular I'll do my best to make sure it does ready here it goes [Music] it's good you're just listening now you'll get used to [Music] it [Music] s s s you can try [Music] [Applause] it pretty cool right righty it's easy here [Music] it's hard on my voice this [Music] one here we go Sim [Music] s oh [Music] let's [Music] go that's a rocking song The Rocking song and I love that it has two beats now it's a very different beat the the this part where it's like they were so meaningful to me and that the shaper shaped them for me and I sat with them and worked with them in the shaping Bay to get them just right for me and you're they're high stakes and wistern waves that big it's high stakes but the double big but the problems I'm I'm now in my mid-50s I'm not riding those waves anymore like who am I fooling but I was having trouble admitting it then I'm not going to ride those boards not that I can't surf waves that big I could I'm in great shape but but it would take training and it's just not you know I'd have to fly to Indonesia or something spend like six weeks I'm not doing that like that's just not what I'm doing but I couldn't get rid of the boards but God got rid of the boards they went to surfboard Heaven yeah when they talk about how toxic it is they won't let my parents back to their house so I'm thinking it must be the fiberglass in my surfboards that time you know that's tough is carcinogenic on when on fire you they live in Pacific pal yeah they lived in the Pacific Pals yeah are you sure they didn't survive my boards yeah nothing survived I'll tell you those [Music] uh so I was thinking the that those boards not my boards my parents should build a stone house and part of the advertisement would be this house is uh fire fire resistant I think that's a great idea that they should build probably should be your sh Jerusalem stone that yeah it's very expensive in HS I guess each time I visit them I could bring a few of my roller bagers or something anyway um yeah it's so interesting to see my parents and their different reactions but I'll tell you I was on the phone with them when they both found out cu no one knew about their homes even though everyone knew but didn't know like you don't know until your home has been witnessed so so when they got the news I was on WhatsApp video with them and they had two very different reactions but my mother's reaction was so beautiful she says oh I'm like a little girl again yeah imagine 86 years old with 80 6 years old and not anything to show that you were ever in the world and these are like you know this is La you know it's like she has like two grand pianos and like dueling Grands and all her artwork she's an incredible artist gone like everything's gone so so but she's like oh I'm like a little girl again and she was so excited because the only place they could rent the place they rented was in the F community in P Robertson and she's like she's like I've never been this happy before cuz cuz they've been living on the cliffs doing shabas by themselves and she's so excited to walk to the Happy minion and be part of things yeah and uh it's not a nice name the Happy minion you ever think about that like the RAB was just tearless yes yes yeah yeah they should never have named it the Happy minion though cuz you realize there's an obvious Duke about every other minion the not happppy minion you know you know there's like another 50 minions in the area so we're the happy one I don't know about the other guys but this is where people are happy to encourage that would be just as happy happy um so uh anyway my father you know my father said he's 95 95 years old you know what he said I said to him dad you know since you know maybe there's a good time to come to Israel you know you wouldn't even have to pack and you know I mean you own nothing you know so you might as well come to Israel and and he was like I can't come to Israel I have to be in touch with Architects and contractors I have to rebuild my house and that's all he thinks about and he's like he reminds me of something I heard Rabbi berer talk about anti-Semitism Rabbi mty Berger said that that there's uh that ants did you know this ants have burial ants have burial when an ant dies the ants bury the they they smell that there's a dead ant and then they find that ant they carry it they hold a via and bury the ant and uh so they tried spraying the they TR they they were able to manufacture the scent and so they sprayed it on a living ant which of course all the other ants just picked them up and buried him of course he'd crawl right out of the sand and they' pick him up again and bury him again and the poor guys just keep getting buried but he keeps coming out you know it's kind of like whack-a-mole you know so he gave it as an mush for anti-semitism is that like you know we're not you can try to bury us but we're not we're we're going to come out you know we just keep coming out but it reminded me a little bit of my father is like everything he's been through in his life he's had a lot of ups and downs and you know business and his his other house that Dustin Hoffman lives in he bought my father's house that house burned to the ground uh how old 50 years ago 54 years ago that house burned to the ground and he just rebuilt it and it's went back and he rebuilt just rebuilt rebuilt rebuilt rebuilt you bunny you bunny can't keep a good man down so um so I'd like to I I actually um transposed a song and I'd be remiss not to play it for you cuz it's uh um I worked hard on it a of chabas of course the group showed up late and I didn't have time to play it for him that I was playing on the old city but um play it for yall maybe you'll join me a little bit I trans I notice as I'm getting older my upper range is slowly disappearing but I guess all rock stars today have been replaced by other people you know I said to My Brother Sam who goes to concerts like every night he's a musician Sam glaz anyone heard of Sam glaz I play a lot of his music and he had this next one I'm going to do is his I uh My Brother Sam he goes to concert all the time and I ask him like is there any musician left in that 1960s or 70s band that's actually from the original band like is anyone even there he's like no nobody and I'm like well who wants to go see that he says you know people fill the or fill theaters to watch Beethoven no one's expecting to meet Beethoven people go here Mozart no one's going to meet Mozart it's like like what's the difference you know we're here for the music and and it kind of I heard that I heard that I still haven't been to one of those bands but I heard what he was saying I like what he was saying okay here we go um I apologize if I miss a chord or two because um as I said I transposed it for my my new singing voice by the way I wouldn't trade my deep voice for anything it's really comes in handy especially when people are [Music] misbehaving here we go it's a bridge that is long and narrow I started a totally different song I'm not going to stop there we cross each day and every year [Music] it's a bridge that is long and nrow when we cross there is no need to fear [Music] it's a dream that we are fulfilling every time we take another [Music] step though I feet sometimes are unwilling we press on knowing you are [Music] near cool [Music] [Applause] gu just remember not to be afraid at all not afraid at all it's a bridge that is long and [Music] Ne that we cross each day and every [Music] year it's a BRI that is long and nrow when we cross there is no need to fear you can join me this time come on [Music] o [Music] the other song that was the other song did you like that song I hope you're enjoying these songs so good let's just do what no everyone Clap That was like somewhat of a Simon you ever seen seals clap it's sometimes I think to hire them to gather around my bed while I sleep at night you know cuz so many rock stars you know they choke on their own vomit at like 3: in the morning and they had been playing a concert a quarter mile away with 30,000 people clapping so I'm figuring they can afford to just get people to Clap by their bed you understand so they wouldn't like have to take all those drugs to fall asleep they could just relax you know we're still giving you attention you know while you sleep we will give you attention you know for minimum [Music] wage feel like one of my strings was a a my b [Music] string this string we're not going to mention its name okay everything's good we're good all right [Applause] okay okay here we go uh here's the song I wanted to play and this is in honor of uh our situation in the world so it goes like this yeah it's a similar ballad spreading the Fe all over the Earth waiting for the day Brothers can walk hand in hand and no one feels afraid with all of our hearts we call to you knowing you're here somehow like never before we need you here right now oh say he [Music] shalom [Music] shalom are you saw [Music] of [Music] me tell all the people who Shar your life Let Your Love Shine [Music] through make sure to mention from time to time how much they mean to you we're holding the future in our hands we can be the light if only with stand this one it would be so right we say he [Music] Shalom [Music] shom no they are called ISRO [Music] the sh sh I'll you [Music] I'm to see L [Music] [Laughter] [Music] your Shalom you know I'm going to teach you the words spreading the feeling all over the Earth waiting for the day together spreading the feeling all over the Earth waiting for the day Brothers can walk hand in hand and no one feels afraid where Brothers can walk hand in hand and no one feels afraid with all of our hearts we call to you knowing you'll here somehow with all of our hearts we call to you knowing you're here somehow like never before we need you here right now like never before we need you here right now now you can sing O shalom [Music] shalom say shalom [Music] is [Music] the one more time everybody oh say [Music] shalom say [Music] shom they are call isra isra [Music] [Applause] what y'all think that's a nice one right if only would stand as one it could be so right I everybody all right so I want to share with you guys something that's amazing that um if you noticed on the flyer that the flyer said do the which you have to be like from our background to know what that means cuz some people from like uh like you know like aidic guy walked up to me and said it should it was a mistake it should be be be the noon and I was trying to explain to him that like in the American genre you do a certain dance that's you do the no you know it's like do the hustle or do the twist so I actually got up it was this was at my shabas table packed with guests and and this said it should be be the next so I said no let's do the next and I and my wife said do the twist so I like pulled my chair back and I I showed every on the twist real twist for everybody yeah yeah so let's let's talk a little bit about uh the title of this night um see if we can get a little growth out of it and there's a great misunderstanding of uh people this great misunderstanding people make oh wow another guitar nice so a misunderstanding people make is um do you guys mind if I take off my stro you guys cool with that very I've never met a who knew that bottles hold stals by the way but I've noticed ever since I got that thing I'm trying to figure out where to put it I finally realized the stal holders right next to me all the time you know so anyway the uh this would be a great May Aiden commercial by the way I've apologize that I'm telling so many jokes I do standup so I mean normally I'm doing the r Tor and stuff but once in a while you I do stand up can I say a joke for this coming par shop oh please short one yeah yeah sure why did the Jews cross the sea yeah exactly that's the end of the joke but it's funny because it's just like the chicken joke yeah I figured that part out true expl hey how many uh how many how many old Jewish how many old Jewish Bubbies does it take to change a light bulb oh I'll just sit here in the dark [Music] miss all right guys so what' you say [Music] so what I want to share with you guys is um a lot of people make the mistake of of thinking that of thinking that yeah hit me too A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that um that that commitment follows Logistics that commitment follows Logistics meaning people would think it was a little irresponsible to commit to things before you figured out if you can do it right right so which is true you know it's like you're going to commit to something that you can't do you know if you can't do it don't commit to it so right so there's um the problem is is that yes you're right in most cases it's not responsible to be committing to things before you can figure out if logistically you could be there or you can get it done that's normal but there's a category of life where there's a lot of magic waiting for everyone who's listening to this and especially those on the screen Shalom and the uh the there's a lot of uh there's an actual secret about this world which is commitment comes before Logistics like you make the commitment and and what happens is something special happens where where God um I don't know it's like a light goes off a bell rings in heaven when someone commits to something that they can't really explain how they're going to pull it off but they're all in I mean all in like nak and by the way the theme of tonight of doing the nakun who what is nakun just for those who don't know it's the um when when the sea you know the Jews had the Egyptians on one side they had the Sea on the other and they're like we're going to die you know and they're freaking out and of course God says just go in you know and and you just proceed into the sea and then then it will split like show an Act of Faith and then it will split and uh but we do know famously that nak benad nakun the son of aminadav he went for it he just went for it and uh and the med says that he went straight into the water and the water like hit his mouth and just as he was about to drown as what's called adish ad neish just when he was about to drown sea splits and and we learn from him what's called a Bion of a a uh a primary principle about life that sometimes you just got to jump in when there's no when the logistics are like the logistics are IR relevant like I'm in and I'm just jumping in this sea and it's going to Cross or all drown which is what he said I mean he's either go he's going in and he's going to die if necessary but God said go in he's going in and he goes in and that's the famous se- splitting and he gets forever more to be the this kind of primary uh principle of just go for it and I think Nike caught on to that this uh was like just do it yeah just do it so I actually commit I've learned from this to commit to things that I can't necessarily commit to um but go all in and I find my myself in all kinds of interesting situations and so I'm going to share with you deeper about it but I meaning good situations I find myself in a lot of predicaments because I overcommitted but it always seems to work out and I'd like to share with you the secret of how to how to live in that level of what's called LSD LSD and LSD you're all looking at me a little funny right now but LSD stands for large siata desaya which means large which means that that God when he sees you're all in and there's and you burned your Bridges back when he sees you're all in a little bell goes off in heaven Ding and God says oh someone's working on that frequency okay that frequency is going to have Divine assistance don't tell me the odds it's going to work and an example of that is actually us being here right now as I've known AR Poston of Yer for what seems like forever longer than I've been longer than half my life and and we've known each other forever and you're one of these guys that just says don't tell me the odds you know he just has ideas and goes all in and and we're all like literally inside a 3D LSD experience meaning 3D largea situation that we inside this beautiful place that's just the next thing he dreamed up and uh and and thank God you know another place for Jews to congregate and feel safe and at home and we a place of where Torah and and love can be shared and kindness so so it's all you know this secret and we all know people like this and most of us hit glass ceilings because of this too by the way glass ceilings are there for other reasons as well meaning fear when we have fears fear of rejection fear of failure fear of the of being uh you know out of control fear of the unknown fear of pain and suffering that's the glass ceiling for everybody but another glass ceiling is that that many of us are way to what's the word what's the word we I mean you you you've been calling it responsible what chicken cautious cautious there's a better word for you know we're meaning we're putting Logistics ahead of commitment practical practical thank you but we're calling it practical but in fact life is less exciting because the people who go all in those people have exciting lives and some of us sometimes wonder if our life's so exciting really and the way you get there's many ways to get your life to be exciting as an extreme sports Enthusiast uh there's many ways to get your life exciting but one of the great ways of getting your life exciting is start committing to stuff just go all in on things and watch the watch the action after a while it start you start getting kind of used to it that if I go all in it just keeps moving in the right direction and so let me tell you a couple crazy stories of going Allin you want some Allin stories okay let's do the yeah let's do a little couple stories of do KN first of all we got to go all the way back to the Spanish uh the Spanish colonization of South America the uh the ships I'm sure they were similar to the Mayflower the these four ships landed uh on the South American continent and and they uh when they got to the they sent out spies to the land to go trps around there to figure out what's the war situation and and uh then all the men got off their ships they got to the with little boats to the land and now there's like a massive massive like four ship Army of of men and um and then the the spies came back and told the you know the the lead leader of the entire the entire uh uh what do you call it Expedition Expedition War whatever it is colonization but they he they come to him they say uh Captain what do you call the head he's not a captain he's a Admiral Admiral boy I'm blowing the story man anyway they said to him uh sir we're going to die and he's like what he's like they've been waiting for us we're going to die like they they we're surrounded by 10 times this amount of people and they're just waiting for us to just like go to sleep tonight and we're dead and the and the this you know captain of this whole uh Expedition you know heard the details and realized yeah they' miscalculated and they're going to die and so what did he do he sent out one of the guys on one of the little boats and he said I want you to light torches and I want you to burn all four ships go out to the four boats do docked you know a quarter mile off in this ocean and set them on fire and so all the men are standing there watching the four boats like their only way back to their wives and kids and their homes and their lives are just burning and he said to him that listen you're either going to win and live and then we'll rebuild boats and we'll go back or you're going to you're going to die here because we're surrounded and you have to know psychologically that there's no turning back now it's only forward and and they won and that's how we have today's cigarettes and coffee dear student of mine who had just gotten trained in this in this work I'm telling you about dear student of mine was in Vegas and it says when you get out of the airport in Vegas it says come four hours early or many hours early because cuz it could be that your convention gets out with other conventions and then there will be May him at the airport and you'll likely miss your flight now he had been gone the longest he ever flew away from yam he had been gone for four shamuses but he promised her on the fifth shamas he will be home but that was a real promise and when he gets to the airport he didn't pay attention to any signs and gets the airport and it's total Mayhem like three conventions got out at once everyone's missing their flights including him what was his flight it was the last flight it was the last flight to a no it was a flight to LA to make it to the last LOL direct flight on Thursday back to ER St for shabas and he missed the flight so he could have called his wife and said listen honey I sorry I just missed my flight and I'm sorry I'm not going to make it and instead what he did was he actually opened his smartphone and he's like what am I going to do he goes on Google and he wrote fast jet he needs a fast jet so turns out there was a company called fastjet who was the top of the thing so he clicks on fastjet he says hi I'm in Las Vegas do you have a fast jet in Las Vegas that could get me to LAX and they're like sure no problem and he said uh and they said would you like to know how much that would cost you and he explained which flight he had to catch in La they did the calculation they're like we could probably get you there and he's would you like to know how much he says no and that's another secret is don't don't think Logistics when you're in when you're in the logistics don't matter he said I don't even want to know I I'm just staying focused on my commitment which is shabus at my home in Yus anyway this fastjet has real connections cuz he never even went into the terminal they brought him straight he was processed at the Gate of the at the actual plane he went up the stairs of the baggage claim people you know the baggage claim people the uh you know the people who steal our roller bags so he went up that staircase was processed right there by the LOL security and they actually held the plane a little bit for him and there he was at the chabas table Moy he barely made it for Moy shabas he um looks at his phone to see the $77,000 bill now it was important he didn't look at that before I think and but here's the exciting thing is once you start playing this game your vibration shifts you start developing another kind of vibe people start sensing that you're the kind of guy who when you say you'll do it it gets done because it just keeps happening so once you keep doing this and you go all in you start getting this Vibe and kind of reputation that uh no sooner said than done type of reputation ready for this this is crazy so he did one particular kind of business in a in Jerusalem it just so happened that this the banks of Israel with the government decided to put an end to all the money changers there was just too much money like black money going around so they put an end to the whole thing I don't know if you've noticed that things got a lot more legit than last year is like they're asking for your ID sometimes and you know you know but if you need a number I could give you one anyway anyway but the uh so so the uh so what happened was all the money changers were freaking out cuz they were like they just lost their business there are many very established money changers who had no more business and and didn't know what to do and the and the banks were upset too sorry it wasn't the banks the government did it the banks were also upset because they were part of the whole ring and so the banks all of a sudden were losing cash flow so what happened was there were executive meetings of the top money changers with the banks and what they they were all told come into the meeting and bring names of people uh that you do business with and we're going to see how many names are in common amongst all of us that there could be someone we trust that we can go to the government and say this is going to be the guy who takes care of all the regulatory issues with money changing and guess what my student his name popped up on the most of everyone's list his student had the most his list had the most in common with every changer in Bank like they mean he showed up on let's say 15% of them but 15% of them was the most and so it wasn't even a week after he kept his word to the tune of $7,000 that he gets a phone call saying can you come in for a little meeting at such and such Bank he's like oh man what' I do you know and they uh and he wound up becoming the Kingpin of all money changing in Israel like he suddenly had a new profession um amazing and and you hear these stories over and over again I'll share I'll share one or two more um I'm flying I'm in a helicopter on the Golan Heights and we're way up the top like North Upper Balon you know above the hoola Valley and we're on a dirt Runway looks like maybe prop PLS maybe pull up there and we're flying off to the keset which is about a 45 minute flight on a helicopter if you're move them fast and I had to teach a class at asaa at 100 p.m. and I had 3 hours to get there which is no problem 45 minutes there get to the keset I'm I'm good I can even go home and have lunch before my 1:00 class as the helicopter's taking off there's an Su meaning we like 30 feet up an SUV with a siren on top and and flashing his brights and making making dirt s turns flying on this Runway and the and the uh and the pilot says you know I got to go down there's some kind of emergency this guy's trying to get my attention so puts the thing down and who is it it's a member of Kessa named Effie atam who's uh from engv Kuts right under the Golan Heights and and Effie had an emergency meeting at the knesset and he saw there's a helicopter up there so he quickly with his wife they jumped in the his SUV and drove up to the up the Gan and and uh he said is there an extra seat in the helicopter and so who was in the helicopter it was a three-seater the pilot the billionaire who I was showing around Israel and me who do you think lost their seat the pilot the billionaire or the rabbi next thing I know I'm watching this helicopter like I'm like I'm like my pays are like now my class starts at 1 it's a 4-Hour drive from the top of the Gan and the uh and I don't have a car so it's a simple thing get on the phone call down and say like class cancelled we'll continue the next which I reserve the right to do that however I know that once you say you're in just go for it so anyway Mrs atom said would you like a lift off the Golan Heights I said yeah thank you very much so I'm in her car I'm in her you know whatever it was it Land Cruiser or something we're coming down the hill and I say is there an airport up here somewhere in the hoola Valley she like yeah a little private airport said please take me there so she takes me to the airport and I'm cruising around the airport looking for a um just interviewing Pilots would anyone please take me to atot we have an airport in atot atot and yeah so they told me the first guy said they closed it during the in and I was like I was like what I said what's the closest to Jerusalem he said St do which is in Tel Aviv so I was like okay anyway he didn't take me to stay du but I asked around finally a guy agreed to take me at 800 shekels and so we're like I'm on this little plane and we get to Tel AV I jump out of that plane I race to a taxi and I'm just said like Jerusalem you know Old City Jerusalem and and it was 100 shekels in those days imagine 100 shekels from Tel it's 100 shekel those days I held a 200 and I said this is 200 to get me there on time I have to be walking in the classroom no later than 1 and he this guy floored man I took his number for future use and he doubled the price and I and because he floored I was just walked into the class one 1:00 now how much money did I lose in that story anyone do the math th thousand shekel I lost nothing I gained a th000 shekels and gained a th000 shekels worth of what's the word for someone who keeps their word integrity yeah Integrity or whatever I gained a thousand shekels meaning I what credibility credibility these kinds of things all all big words like that integrity and credibility acceptance love all of them are have big vibration and people sense that vibration people sense it well once you're going around with a lot of credibility you start getting a lot more jobs you know a lot more things start happening for you when you got that level of credibility did you know that Warren Buffett the famous uh wealthy man he uh he has a deal he has a a custom that he will not sign a deal that that has more than two lawyers which if you know big mergers have lots of lawyers and they're like thousand pages of legal he will not do a deal un with any more than two lawyers one for each side and the whole deal has to be able to be written on one side of a piece of paper if you flip the paper he gets up and walks because the deals are made on credibility and credibility is built on keeping one's word and keeping one's word how can you keep your word you know like the God's running the show and the answer is that God runs the show with sataya when he sees that you're all in which we learned from nak who is the banov of going all in we go all in on things now I'm going to finish with a funny example that's quick one just for fun and then I'll explain to you the the actual mechanics of how this works CU a lot of you are looking at me like great Rabbi you know like how are we going to do this so I'm going to give you a nice way to that everyone here can start literally tomorrow you can start tomorrow so start with what time you're planning on waking up see if you get so the um I my Sho where I D that's why I have this this white keepe here my Sho where I D is called pin Carlene it's um it's in um meim you know and the and you know we wear the gold robe and the big big white you know the big white GLE it's kind of a Obi-Wan Kenobi type of look and and the anyway so my colleagues there lights what they use lightsaber lightsabers anyway M cut the so my my colleagues there um that are let's say the ones who are a little older than me you know the ones who are in their 60s 70s and 80s they um they have a lot of kids they have a lot of kids I mean they they took Pur Vu very seriously and um and which is another Act of nakan meaning God says be fruitful motherfly I don't know why we should get more involved and can I say something that that just I never have a class where I don't say something that's provocative and um maybe even controversial so can I do that now I mean enic refiner you're allowed to say controversial things yeah quite normal actually so um controversial that's if it's not controversial they'll never come back so this isn't so much like that but I'm going to say something that that maybe hopefully it's not wrong to say I think there's two levels of relationship and marriage and one is when you're you're able to be together and then there's one where you're separate because of uh you know because of the the cycles of a woman's body in in Torah there's a time you're together there's a time your part and I know they're very different times like sometimes you're like best friends and siblings you know and sometimes you're you're deeply romantic and lovers you know there's there's the but there're two very different channels and these channels are happening throughout the marriage but they're not the same they're not the same there's a bonding that's happening during the intimate times that's not the same as the sibling times it's a bonding that's that's um well it's it's really it's uh ineffable if you think about it it's not something that um that could even be articulated and maybe that's why the world's so crazy about that is because it's just this ineffable inarticulable reality that happens between two who become one that is a Vibra again back to vibration it's a vibration that that you know can't even be described while the other times can be described as you know connection you know being connected like siblings like best friends like the other time so here's what I want to share is that um my colleagues in me sharim have uh you know they have a nice everyone has a nice truckload of kids there and and I Remember by the way when I had when I had a hundred of these coming down my back when I got here you know I when I you remember when I got to Israel I I didn't have clothing like I had a tank top with like an airbrush Mushroom on it and I had surf shorts and flip-flops that was my outfit for my first that was my outfit for the whole first week into shabas like that's how I showed up at the cotel for L shabas you know you imagine when I go in there you know with my stral today I'm like sometimes I see the mirror coming out of the bathroom I'm like who the hell are [Laughter] you anyway the the um so I remember though seeing a van drive by with a man and his wife in the passenger seat and it was like one of these big Vans and it was just like literally like going down every row of that thing was kids in the back of that van and and I remember saying to myself that's what I want I want that I want to be that guy driving that van and but what I want to says my so I have I have friends with a lot of kids and and let's say 14 kids I have some with 16 kids I have some with 17 kids like large large families when a woman is pregnant and then nursing there's no separation between the couple after the birth obviously that's a time for separation but then a few weeks later they're back together and then there's no separation meaning if there's ABS what I wanted to say was that if there's absolutely no birth control involved in this couple's life they're always together for all the years and when God said pur Vu that could it be what he meant was that the intimate part of the first 30 years should be full on you know with just breaks for for births and the question is that after 30 years of marriage a couple who live that way like my colleagues in m sharim versus the more modern couples today that that might say you know we want to balance it out cu you know they're not going for the full football team for kids you know you know they want to like live a more normal life because it's not a normal life you know you don't have a life there's you don't have a life like for example I've run seminars called you heard of the possi use seminar I've been running the seminar for 24 years and like 14,000 graduates so I get a lot ofum there so we learned something very important do the marketing in the last hours and this is for a fourn night event in Jerusalem I'm starting one tomorrow night for men it's F in Jerusalem it's five nights straight and anyone who's coming to something for five nights straight needs advanced warning so when I first discovered the kimus clients I put out the advertising like two months early and I get to this no one's signing up nothing and we're finally the last week and I'm figuring I've I'm done advertising already and but no one's signed up so someone told me do you know who you're talking about you're talking about people who are surviving their children meaning they're they're they're when you're when that's what's going on if your family planning is planning to have a big family like this that that's the only plan it you're going to wind up with no life at all and so if you're going to show up to such a seminar it only be it'll be one of those last minut things like the stuff by the cashier you know that you grab on your way out I'm the only guy who buys all that stuff you know I'm the easiest guy to sell I'm the most agreeable person in the world in the world my I'm my wife won't let me go to the shook anymore CU I come back from the shook with like uh I got my cart and then I've like hired a few more people to bring carts as well cuz they know me there already they're like can I interest you in a Pamela and I'm like I'll take three please and then what do you think of these mangoes throw them in yeah and I just will come out with so much food and and no money at all and the one thing she sent me for was carrots not a carrot inside you know thousand shekels later not one carrot you know so so the um anyway I just want to I just want to mention that point that perhaps that's the level of intimacy that God was actually going for it sounds it's a something I've just never thought about it before but it's an interesting thought that that's actually what God was going for when he said pur he was definitely going for kids should be lots of Jewish children but but perhaps the side thing he was going for was that level of connection maybe my friends in me have married off that's why I'm saying the older ones because the younger ones are still marrying off they've married off like 14 kids every single kid's married every single kid was they bought a house for him they bought a house in there for him all 14 kids now if you go to that guy for shabas let's say you want to go this shabas to that that 70-year-old man and his wife you want to go there for shabas I'm just telling you right now don't forget your taxi money because if you think you're going to go upstairs and quickly borrow you know 40 shekel to bring down to the taxi there's not 40 shekels in there because there com their their money that they had went to the shabas meal you're going to be eating there is no other money and if you ask him well how'd you marry off 14 kids and buy 14 homes and the answer is he's got a different story for every kid and and the guy next to me and Sh he said he he guy who my buddy and Sh next to me he says he's already married off eight kids and never went to karts to raise money eight kids no raising money in karts but this time he told me three weeks ago I'm going to HS for three weeks I'm going to raise money for the next wedding he shows up a week later I said what are you doing back he says I don't know I had sat D I raised all the money and he says and I got the hell out of there because all those guys going up and down the shoes and in Barrow Park and Lakewood and Muny all those guys going there and everyone's giving them a dollar while they doing you know I I I get a stack of dollars this big right when I get to America slide it in my the lower pocket of my filling bag and I'm just like it's like a it's like a toll booth it's a drive-thru what the easy P those guys yeah those guys those guys they're not making weddings off that that's where they spend their days till they have their LSD moment till they get their large moment second they get that moment they change their flight and they jump on the next flight come back home come back to show those people are and they're so hush with these guys they're treated like nothing while you hand them their dollar they're treated like nobody's here and there to stroll that same guy people stand up for him when he walks in the room you see for the guy with 14 kids needs an Exit Plan you understand it was a wonderful startup lots of kids but you can't you can't let the kids stay in the house you know it's not like America where you have you know you have 1.2 kid and your point2 kid is like up in his he's 38 years old now in a blue like the baby blue boy boy room that they made for him when he was a kid upstairs and he's like he's got no pigment left in his skin CU he's been on video games smoking cannabis for like 15 years the parents can't even evict him because of rent control when you got 14 kids you need an Exit Plan and because you're all in all in just like the Spanish all in just like my buddy from the money changing all in like me showing up at 100: p.m. at ASA Tor and all in like these sh characters who have these crazy stories how they somehow married off 14 kids and bought them all homes when you're all in the magic happens so I'm going to share with you just the mechanics of it and then I'm going to bre break out my guitar again Mechanics Work like this because I want you guys to start literally tomorrow tomorrow you're already committing to things and going all in how do you get it how do you get the Satay I know that a lot of people here have been thinking Satay is something like Godlike Smiles on you sometimes and that's how you get it there's an actual there's mechanics behind it once you know these mechanics you can just start doing it so it works like this whenever we I mean first of all I already told you commitments before Logistics so stop waiting around to commit like commit and then watch the logistics fall into place another secret put in your calendar put in your calendar put put whatever you let's say it's something you really want to do but you don't know if you can do it just put in your calendar and and then every time something's going to get in the way of that thing you'll open your calendar to make an appointment with someone you're like oh but I see that I'm busy that week and meanwhile you know you you're you know you're you're just kind of hoping really but it's in your calendar the um calendars respect your commitments so when you're thinking like I don't have time to do something you'll see your calendar will fill with other stuff it will always fill but if you can just grab that calendar and pop something in there you'll see that every time something's about to fill it you'll look and you'll there it is and so you don't mess with it and then you get to do what you actually want to do that's for stuff you want to do now works like this there's a big distinction between deciding and committing deciding and committing the word decide has a root side which comes from the word to eliminate pesticide homicide suicide genocide it means to eliminate why because to make a decision to decide is a process of elimination so I've been asked for three I was asked for this week Saturday night by three different people meaning three different organizations to come to and I did a process of elimination and I came here tonight and that was our discussion of which week to do and I had these two other options to do it do it I'll have to put them on another week the a process of elimination is deciding how does it work reasons pros and cons so what happens let's say you have five options pros and cons pros and cons pros and cons pros and cons okay more cons eliminated more cons eliminated more cons eliminated more cons until you finally get to the the one that's got the most Pros Les Le cons you did your decision now here's the issue that people have there's many people who think when they decided they committed the the decide is its own world commits its own world commit means no more reasons I want to just get that clear Comm commit means there are no reasons decide is reasons you're not you can't make a decision without reasons to do it commit no reasons so you tell me my relationship with my father my beloved father in La am I am I in decide mode about him or commit mode what do you think you I'm committed to my father decide mother now what have you guys ever noticed that when you speak to your parents and some of you parents are deceased so just remember when you spoke to your parents but you ever notice sometimes you speak to your parents that they download their like worldview as if you had no idea what they believe in ever notice that like they think like you'll call your mother and your mother just thinks she has to like let you know again like all of her value system as if you didn't know that or our fathers for men we get a lot of our father's downloads on what they believe now does that make you feel like a man or a boy a woman or a girl which one yeah it makes you feel like a child which gives you every reason to to hang up the phone meaning to say I'm busy bad timing goodbye and then you can go to a therapist and they will sign on the dotted line that your parent should be more respectful of your uh whatever you know you need a little space from your parent of course you as a Jew you're like where does it say that in the Ten Commandments you know more space for my parent so tell me if I hang up with my father if I tell him it's bad timing am I in decide or commit mode which one decide it's decide everyone say decide why because reasons there were reasons not to stay on the phone and I get off and that's what I used to do all the time when my wife gets upset with me you know she's like you know digging in and she's Hungarian you know they don't just they don't just stick the knife right they don't just stick the knife and they turn it you know so when my wife attacks if I go to sh for two hours for Min if I go for a two-hour Min when she's attacking am I in decide mode or commit mode decide decide she gave me every reason to disappear but in fact I could maybe be wise up a little and say wait if she's treating me this way could it be that she's feeling a little bit insecure she's looking for a little stability and she's just wondering if I could play that role and well what better way to play to see if he can play the role than attacking him and see what happens and so she attacks and I just stay there in fact I even like square off my shoulders a little bit stand a little taller inner smile great eye contact and she's just you she's still going at it you know like she's still after me but but I you know I'm a surfer she's having a storm Surfers like storms she's you know there's some crazy waves coming at me right now but I've learned to duck dive it's called duck dive stick the nose under and come out the other side and so if I disappear to Sho am I in decide mode with my wife or commit mode decide everyone decide or commit decide and if I can stand there and just be a rock for her when the waves are all over the place if I could just be a rock for her what what mode am I in commit if I can stay on the phone with my father what mode am I in you see until you learn this distinction you'll notice that you're fair weathered you'll notice that reasons got you like a yo-yo you're here there you're everywhere you're like a ping bong Ball moving from side to side or a pinball bouncing around the reasons for this and a reason for that now I got a reason to go over here now I got now I got a reason to calling sick now I got got a reason to explain why I didn't get a job done or now I got a reason for this and a reason for that you know what that's called that's called someone who's reasonable meaning you know how your phone has you can have a ringer you could have vibrate you can enable caller ID you get rid of it you could uh you know a lot of options you can enable a lot of things or disable until you learn this distinction you've Pro you're probably reason enabled in other words what reasonable I am not reasonable I can be reasonable meaning if I tell my wife I'm taking her out for to for flaks and we get to the restaurant we drove Qui ways to the restaurant and it turns out they're remodeling and next door is a nice mil place I don't drive her back home I go to the mil place cuz that's not a commitment that I need to be committed to so I'm very reasonable but when it comes to things that I'm committed to I'm what's called unreasonable now is unreasonable usually a good term or a bad term usually usually it means stubborn it means you're so when I'm asking you all to do to get this clear is to become unreasonable meaning choose the things that you're going to go all in on and then go unreasonable that you don't let reasons stop you I travel a lot I travel like every couple weeks if I could tell you just in a year how many times we're in some crazy situation to make a flight cuz whatever went wrong and the driver is like why aren't you nervous like I the driver's freaking out and I'm relaxed because I've seen it over and over again because wherever I'm flying to I'm committed to being there I'm all in and there are no reasons traffic nothing there will be LSD there will be large and you want to know something once in a while doesn't work but I can tell you every time it didn't work the craziest thing happened where I stayed that was p and even sometimes even U life saving once you're in like this and you really go in you're in what's called commit mode it's its own world so kazal call these two worlds we're almost done by the way I've really over talked here but I'm Jewish what I overt talk sometimes I didn't mean to over talk like this but kazal um kazal have a term for this one is called the the the decide world is calleda and the commit world is called now what does the word mean world what does pel mean wonder wonder world tell me where do you guys want to live in nature world or wonder world where would you prefer I'm going for Wonder World wonder world's where it's at sounds wonderful it's wonderful Wonder World is amazing and and so the way you live in Wonder World is you go all in you burn the boats back to your Europe you got to burn the exits there's you got to get yourself in situations where there's no way out and that's where the magic happens we learned this all from nak who was told to go in and I'll share with you just a little dick that anytime a letter you guys anytime there's a word in Hebrew and the first letter of the word can take a DOT or not a DOT for example a or a A or a anytime it could take a DOT at the beginning of the world word it takes the dot if it's the beginning of a word it takes the dot however if it the previous letter even in the previous word If the previous letter sorry if the previous letter of the previous word ends with meaning that last letter ends with one of the letters of God's name either a yud a hey a v or an Al which is two Ys and a if it ends if the letter before that word begins with one of the letters of God's name it loses its dot then it loses the dot so the first the word meaning if you have the word key it's key right but if the previous letter was Ash which ends with a Y so then it would Ash it would lose its dot because it's got a a letter from God's name when nak went into the water says the medus he was saying that's where we learn from he said and then the water hits his mouth and and he says it's not supposed to have a DOT there because it's following the yud we already had the mik mik is the actual proper way of saying it the second mik is where the that dot that gets in there is about noon having the water hit his mouth and he kept pushing through and that's when the sea split so let's sing mik together you guys know this song M raise your hand if you if you wash by the way anyone wash here hey we got a zim D minor nice to meet you [Music] let's go for [Music] [Applause] [Music] what do we sing now [Music] oh are M [Music] my hey my [Music] oh [Laughter] [Music] oh did [Music] I oh am my my my my my [Music] my [Music] okay that's it we're going to do one song that's and then we'll bench sh then we'll do [Music] sh oh U yeah we forgot the U yeah it's UA you know the U but guess what you can do the UA a little quicker uh a like that watch is [Music] is [Music] Hal [Music] spe [Music] love Hal [Music] yeah wow my voice I don't know what to do I think I'm enough change yeah that will work but it's too yeah maybe leave any random questions something bothering somebody you know I thinking about Trump you know did any of you see did any you see the news where Trump's getting lectured by by a a I don't know minister or whatever she was a bishop yes and then everyone was up in arms that she's lecturing the man cuz she was supposed to just say nice things and like not talk about the fact that you know all these housekeepers about to get deported you know who have been working Faithfully in the for you know 20 30 years she all from what I can tell just as a rabbi she was just saying like Mr Trump you know little Mercy would be appropriate for the people that you know are not criminals or whatever you know like about some mercy that's what she said I couldn't figure out what she said wrong exactly meaning I'm also you know I I agree with almost every policy of trump so far but what's wrong with tempering it with some mercy you know just regarding the you know the families there and the different situation that's not even what I'm bringing up what I'm bring bring it up is that all the anger of the Trump guys and including our dear friend who's the our dear friend the journalist who's just amazing since the war yeah yeah Murray Douglas Murray he also said it was inappropriate but I was thinking to myself self s who's in charge of values who's in charge of values so in general I think all of us agree that if it wasn't for the Torah we would all have pretty random values like meaning the what the Torah is saying when the Torah is saying be merciful it's a value and it's of the people people of the cloth when they see that a value isn't being is is at risk their job is to speak up like that's where the values come from that's the whole point of having a bishop is that if they were be a lack of values The Bishop's got to say something so that there's a value but the thing is including Douglas Murray they all said like and by the way I'm huge fans of all these people that I'm talking about here Douglas Murray obviously is like he'll be enshrined forever in Jewish history as a friend of Israel but he um if we're not expecting religious leaders to be giving us values who is Trump and the whole point of Trump coming in was he was saying that the politicians have no values you know so like there I'm not expecting to get my values from a politician I would hope that politicians uphold values you know I hope that they would they would uh uh you know do their best to make sure their values but the values themselves do come from the temple you know meaning they didn't put the Sanhedrin somewhere else the Sanhedrin sat on the Temple mount you know it's like that's where we get the values it was the prophet of the generation whose job was to tell the king what to do when he when the King was in question of his values the prophet would come and the prophet was for sure the most religious guy around and he would come to the king and say sorry King but we got something else we got to do here because it's you're veering off the path a little bit you know you got to temper your direction so I thought it was a little strange that everyone was so upset about you know the misbehaving Bishop seems strange to me because like if if we can't if we can't let the rabbi help people steer who's left you know anyway that was a thought you in public I try not to but I do yeah why meaning she shouldn't done it in public right oh was that the issue I think that's I think what she said was appropriate in a private conversation ah the issue wasar plus the fact it's a ceremonial the whole thing is a ceremon I didn't even know what it was yeah because every every president goes to that this Ceremony this ceremony uh what would have happened if uh J leberman was elected president and he have to go to that ceremony that'd be rough that would be rough Jonathan saxs when he was made a lord he there was something that they had there was something like he had to like remember he says this story he had to like she had to what do you have to do Bow to Bow you have to bow and it was a major issue and they came up with a what did they come up with he had like pick something I don't remember what it was fig he did pick something up was that what they came up with like I should know because I knew very well my in London he started AAL career my in [Music] London me as a kid whose sonah right he had to B yeah he I'll just you just pick it up and and that will be interes [Music] so Jo [Music] [Laughter] you know I'm choosing another key [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Laughter] by the way those words bring back our Exiles you know what aim are flash floods in the ne yeah a lot of people we say it all our lives and we never knew what it meant it means flash floods and that's the noon the flash floods in the netive carve these gorgeous incredible Canyons if you ever go down these to these SL and you should know everyone that that you can take a 25 minute drive from here to kibuts elog park your car park your car walk 10 minutes and you're in a Slot Canyon like you're in southern Utah or something like like you're you're in it's 25 minutes 10 more minutes to the canyon which is also a beautiful wash and then next thing you know you're in a giant Slot Canyon with ladders climbing all they're built in ladders for the waterfalls and the whole thing's a it's a one hour loop I don't do in one hour i' take my time but if you really only had an hour you climb the ladders they look crazy by the way but once you get up and you realize they're not that crazy I wouldn't want to go down them but going up them is fine and be careful underneath them CU sometimes there's tourists up top that knock off of you know a water bottle or something um anyway but you climb up the ladders you cruise up the Slot Canyon you get to the top and when you're at the top you just there's just nice road takes you right back to your car it's like five minute walk back to your car and it's just such a great outing such a great outing we do it all the time yeah if anyone who who would like to go do it with a friend I'd be happy to have you um bar my car and go do it without me because you'll drop me with my mountain bike at Malay adim and and I will be meeting you at the bottom later so yeah you want to do it you'd love it it's great my car is very comfortable and you you take my car you have a great day I'll be back in about 2 hours and uh mean beautiful yeah yeah sure [Music] it here