KLM: (Part #3) Maximizing Elul thru the Mitzvah of Ahavas HaShem with Rabbi Asher Baruch Wegbreit

your Museum [Music] welcome back and welcome to the listeners from ubene and of course KLM I don't want you to relate to this as a class where I'm imparting information from my head and it's going into your head I want it to be more than that for all of us as we said let's look at this time as if we walked into a bait knesset a baked knesset is a place where you focus on connecting to Hashem you're praying there here we're we're working on having cavana and when I say working I mean it what I want to do in the sheer itself is much as possible is I want us to do Mitzvahs I realize this connects back to something uh my revi always tried to do with a vodmo sir I assume most people know what about most or is people get together to work on improving their character they do activities so Rabbit Green his principle was he was a real spiritual Economist he said we're going to do something like that let's make sure we get a Mitzvah in the process so so at least uh it's hard to say at least but anyhow listen to what happened one time so one time the Mitzvah was do hesid on the telephone okay when you're on the phone uh Doula has it so one of the uh one of the members of the VOD she calls up a woman who um I think the woman raised a child with Down Syndrome and she said you know she said to that mother I really want to just share with you how much I admire how you take care of your your your son I mean it must be very difficult what was the reaction on the other side the woman burst into tears and she said and she says thank you so much do you know no one's ever said that to me now that's a result you hear that she did that has it and she saw the impact of what she did incredible right so what I feel we must concentrate on I look ultimately I'm trying to give you tools and myself tools to live connected to a college program de vacas however we can't get by on tools alone we need inspiration you need to reflect on what's taking place because most of the time the person if you're doing Venom Avera is not going to cry and said no one said that to me uh you know most of the time you're you're not going to get a reaction is if you pulled you jumped into a freezing River and pulled someone out but we have to we cannot fathom and also let me go over to bainam lamakum we cannot fathom but we must try to Fathom the impact we're having or why do this so we can go like this no because we want to have our Focus not be on the internet we want to focus on mitzvos right so we have to realize and be drawn and inspired to keep propelling forward so with that in mind I want to tell you uh a perspective that's I think Ms lamito I try very much in order to help myself and help people grow you know we know that the world is filled with wisdom many people have a lot of wisdom I kind of focus on the personal development type of things because what I the way I teach now this is a very wise statement listen to this statement the person says we tend and many of you know it I'm happy if you know it you'll appreciate this more if you've already heard this okay he says like this you know here here New Year's resolutions this is perfect right kabbalahs Rosh Hashanah right the the you know the he says like this we tend to overestimate what we can do in a year and underestimate what we'll do in a decade now that's very wise okay that's a wise point right we do tend to overestimate what we can accomplish in the short run and underestimate the power of sticking it out to the long run great point but it doesn't apply to Mitzvahs and I I can bring you sources and maybe I will what happened we right when it comes to Mitzvahs when it comes to inserting some Cabana right now let's do it I have in mind the Mitzvah of learning Torah right how long did that take me to express or you to think maybe some seconds we cannot overestimate what was accomplished just then do you hear we can underestimate it incredibly but we cannot overestimate what a second of thought were paid for a thought and our thought Cleaves us to Hashem and we get it says it says in the mystery Brewing the barrel left in the very beginning it says you know about this is to meteors those are myths were paid for what we think or how we feel right it says there for one rhaega for one little moment he says we cannot understand the matanzar the the tremendous reward so you're accomplishing so much every time you put in a second of conscious intention and thought okay I hope I've made my point okay now there's another Power what what I try to do we're coming to the third step in opposition the step of pleasing Hashem because we love him now I'm trying especially now in these classes I'm trying that it's not information I want us to actually fulfill Mitzvahs just like Robert Greene was saying I want us to fulfillments is in the moment and I'll tell you why have I been doing it generally because to be honest who knows what's going to happen when this year's over were you watching or you whatever you don't know I I could be a plead and beg you and myself please please implement this it'll change your life you'll have a good judgment unless it's kind of but who knows what's going to happen when when this year closes but if we do the Mitzvah right now we did it yes okay so that's one reason I try to put mitzvah's performing mixes besides learning Torah and having the coupon I try to put misses into this year for that reason but tonight I realize what a wonderful reason uh to to do it an incredible reason I'm sure Robbie green had this idea there's it happens to be a principle of spiritual physics which I you've all heard of Mitzvah goreris Mitzvah you hear that when you do one Mitzvah it creates a momentum and a dynamic that leads to others so who knows what the what we've done already will lead to I I hope it leads to a lot so I just wanted you to know this we're gonna do and and it's so important to do the minces as you can all right with that in mind let's um let's go back to our chart of Avis Hashem now uh making a quick decision [Music] let give me one second yes uh okay I'm gonna share a screen and I make one more promotional point about obvious Hashem that I want us to also do right now okay how many times in the Torah are we commanded to love Hashem well guess what nine times that's a big number okay let me show you this I did I've told you this but I want you to see it sometimes when you see things in print it helps okay before I just quickly review this list have in mind the following this is a principle I told you from rafumina when a shin commands something more than once then when you're doing that Mitzvah have in mind the number of times it was commanded because the kadusha of each separate time descends upon you and it's part of the Midstate and it's times nine okay uh so not it's nine X ready so listen to this and you get a feeling how much Hashem wants Moshe is telling us Mosher ebenu it's because it's mostly in davari me saying listen to me trust me on this one okay look the top posic is number one this is in Shema right and you show love Hashem your your God and this is what we're going to focus on tonight with all your heart with all your soul all your might one okay next let's go into the the right side walk in his ways and love him number two you should love a shame your God and keep his charge next love Hashem your God with all your heart next love Hashem your God and serve him with all your heart next love Hashem your God Walk in his ways that's a lot of times too that's eight walking his ways six love Hashem your God Walk in all this way it appears again next love ashamed your God walketh three times and then finally love Hashem your God to live and listen to his voice okay you hear love of in your God love Hashem your God love your shame your God it he must really think this is important okay so right we're gonna do the midst of right now where uh this is what um we're gonna yes ready we have in mind the midst of learning and one of the things we're going to learn tonight we're cut we're working on love is since we love Hashem we want to please him so Hashem really loves it when it really pleases Hashem when your motivation to do the Mitzvah is because you love him okay so let's do this right now okay we're fulfilling the midst of learning Torah and why are we doing this Hashem because we love you Hashem times nine we love you that's why we're doing it and we want to give you an office okay so now that we see how hush of it is in the eyes of the Torah let's go to the uh The Matrix of avocation okay give me one second foreign okay thank you technology this is the Derek Law Office Hashem that we've been discussing not only are is the Torah mentioned nine times that were commanded to love Hashem but there's at least nine different ways that we can express our love and so that's a lot of information that's complex so we simplified it okay so if you look in the middle box it says loving Hashem very much okay um that that's a mid spin itself and then what we did last week is focused on loving Hashem when when we're experiencing suffering difficulties troubles low Elena right so we said there's two misses there loving Hashem but call me o death with everything he measures out to us which means accepting um yasuring and the second one to love Hashem with an undivided heart which meant that we're not asking cautious we're not challenging ashen's treatment of us or others those are beautiful expressions of Hashem but you have to love Hashem to be able to do that so let's step back one step as we said and as we sang to no no no Hashem is to love love Hashem the rambam says that if you to the degree you know Hashem to that degree you will love him and we pointed out and I just want to remind you of this and we posted the exercise it's really beautiful pasuki to zimra can be your knowing Hashem experience and then when you arrive at the creation and you say you shall love Hashem with all your heart you can be there okay so first of all that's how you get there if you get there then you'll love Hashem right and that's a Mitzvah in its own right to love Hashem okay furthermore it's a part of the midst of loving Hashem is loving him even when it's difficult and we sit there concentrate on the seven reasons that we should put our trust entirely in Hashem from the holas of bobos when you reflect on those ideas um you'll realize that anything that's happening any treatment that's happening has to be for our benefit and we'll be able to love Hashem we won't ask difficulties we won't challenge Hashem and we'll be able to accept it okay that was what we've covered today now the next step the next step after to no no no Hashem and then to love love Hashem and now to service him okay to please him right if you love someone Then You're Gonna Wanna please them and that's what we're up to and let's get a deeper look at this okay so you see first we have to think and uh and and Ponder uh and learn Torah and reflect on nature those are the thoughts that leads to the feelings of Ava and now we're talking about action of Love okay so look at the um the three below here so we first had to serve Hashem from love we've already tried to do that right now I want to talk about it a little bit more okay um I mentioned this I think in a previous year that Weiss says that the icker of having cavana right or I'm sorry the icker of serving Hashem with all your heart is really being the Shema and the thing is most of us view being lechma as a very high level that maybe someday we'll get to and people with very long beards or maybe and uh women's with very great hair coverings have attained okay but it's it's kind of easier to reach at least a level of Le shame shamayan that is like the most beautiful thing where what you have to do is just remember before you do a Miss to say Hashem why am I doing this because I love you and listen to the next words I want to bring you nafas if you do that that I I promise you that if you sincerely say to Shem I want to bring in nachas it will enhance your performance of the Mitzvah because you just said I want to bring you knock us so how could you do the Mitzvah in a way that won't bring you an office and we have to realize the incredible drive we have for Parental approval yeah uh it's just an incredible thing you know people they're 50 60s 70s you can't get too old where you're not kind of hoping your parents were wishing your parents had approved of you in the past it's a very strong drive you know why because that's what we should be we should be wanting hashem's approval the perfect parents approval you hear we want to please him and bring him nachas that's what that drives there for and in Michel'le it all the time says beneath my son it speaks as a father to the son because in my humble opinion foreign knew that this is a deep drive and then and the father there is a cottageboro who okay so um like I said we've done the Mitzvah of this already okay and let's hope it's guerrera's other Menses now the middle section to serve Hashem right with our basically to dedicate ourselves in completely you notice that the language in the Karishma the coal of avaka with all your heart foreign so that this is where like again love is being Meshuggah okay now maybe you're not feeling Meshuggah yet about Akash for who but we know that hidsonius is mashpia on the paninias right the external actions affect the inside so let's let's work on this so I want to give you some some very practical ways to fulfill this Mitzvah some of which we can do right now some of which you will have to uh apply afterwards okay so because the uh the dress of the gemara which everyone knows this with your two inclinations so we all know this but what we have to realize is we can fulfill this and then we've done obvious Hashem times nine in actions pleasing Ashen okay let's discuss this one I'm very excited about which is how do you serve a Shen with your inclination for Tove your Yates or hatov all right so now that is uh the what we've said in the past and feel free to use it here oh here's one do I know the people that are online with me right now really enjoy Torah okay and I assume the kind of people that are you know coming into this year uh out there probably you probably enjoy Torah correct you enjoy um the you enjoy Torah okay so that's part of your the enjoyment of wisdom is a good trait it's like a naturally good trade so that enjoyment okay you can do it you think look I have an enjoyment of the wisdom of Torah so that's that's actually a good side of you that's like that or the example of banana bear you know that some people are really gracious in polite right so that's your Yates or toes so have in mind that you're instead of just exuding these naturally good instincts inclinations have in mind that I'm using this Hashem you bless me with ability to love Torah here do this right now come on this we can do it right the shin you bless me with a A Taste and light in Torah so that is part of my good inclination so you know what I'm learning Torah now because I want to love you with you gave me that inclination I want to love you with that okay so that's one that's what we've said in the past here's one from Rabbi Miller that's beautiful the what is the Acer Tove is the question it's not so simple it's never discussed the Yates car gets all the publicity in the talmud right one of the so Rabbi Miller explains what it refers to is your inner wisdom you know and this is something all human beings had they were but Selma came so many like the rambam explained that that you had that everybody because they have a soul in the mind they have inner truth and wisdom they have they have Inc an inclination towards the truth and Ms and things so how do you says Rabbi Miller but we don't always use that we're not usually draw um delving in or drawing Into The Well of wisdom within okay so when you how do how do you draw forth your inner wisdom this is how simple this is think reflect okay we don't take enough time to reflect but we're we have time right now so let's reflect when you reflect on things okay when you're right when you're using your your inner Compass your the inner wisdom within to reflect on you'll you'll feel love of Hashem here's the example he gives okay and I want us everyone to do this now okay this is a reflection that can come from within because you know is when this resonates with you it's because inside you know this is true right there are a lot of people that um let's say there are blind people low Elena they're people crippled they're people with there are a lot of people that have ailments and defects and things that we don't have right so reflect on the fact that you know we're please God we're not blind we're not just here let's do it right now have in mind the Mitzvah of obvious Hashem with your Yates or toe which means the inner um connection to truth all right here let me help other people that are non-south Africa okay I got one for you but in South Africans you just think about uh what what you've been blessed to uh be able to avoid in South Africa they went forward in joburg they went four days without water okay okay you say they go to the market but do you mean do you realize that means they couldn't flush their toilets okay do you can you imagine four days without water okay so if you live someplace other than there okay and you haven't gone without water for four days right that's a reason to love Hashem in other words love Hashem for not experiencing Misfortune that others have all right everybody let's do it right now okay so and I didn't want you to realize what a good investment it is obvious Hashem in terms of Leverage it's it's 9x right it's nine times you're doing the Mitzvah because you love Hashem is already one expression of it and now we're going to do the Yates or toe okay so just take a moment everybody we're gonna pause for let's say 20 seconds I don't want you to reflect on some of the things that you've been spared of and then I want you to say Hashem I love you because you haven't given me the challenge of going without water for four days I love you because I have legs that work here all right now everyone fit fill it in yourself do it yourself right now you can express it verbally is beautiful or just think it but okay so do the Reflection from your inner inner wisdom and tell Hashem you love Hashem because of that okay go ahead great Mitzvah Growers mitza who knows what's going to come from this okay let's move on loving Hashem with your Yates or harah so with that one um there's two there's two ways with that okay by the way uh yeah I'll give you kind of another Advance try to try to exert yourself to do a little more than you normally do if you just listen maybe make a note you know do something a little more but okay Yates are Haram is one way is all your physical drives are are described as your Yates are hard we see that from the gemara that when they took away the yatesahara for illicit relations then animals didn't procreate just an example but anyhow so when you have any physical pleasure right you could that's that's it can be loved it sounds like serving Hashem with your Yates are but it's loving Hashem I'll tell you if you're uh what's a sign that of Love is with your just like obsessed about the one you love right so if we're in this section where we're trying to please Hashem which is serving machine right so if we're obsessed with pleasing the one we love then we want to be in the right position you know I'll give you an example of some this is not love but it this idea of the physical being totally dedicated for something right so I this one person who was quite accomplished in martial arts said that um that when Fighters are going to have a when they're going to have a very top fight they sleep at a certain uh altitude you know they they go to a city where there's a certain altitude and they sleep let's say in a higher bed or higher bunk in order why because that's going to affect their stamina during the fight so you hear they actually travel to a place with higher altitude and sleep in a higher thing so imagine that you know your hydration your coffee your sleep uh all these things you're saying like wow I love a shim so much I want to please him and I look if I'm exhausted I'm not going to please him right if I can't focus how am I going to please him I I know he loves it when I learn Tara you hear that's loving a show with your Yates are hard because we're basically out of town the time I'm just gonna do uh finish with bukomio Deja okay uh and KIRO the means with all your resources so the simple thing try your best to remember when you go to the store to buy anything right if it's the for them for right if it's to be able to serve Hashem to take care of your kids whatever it is at any investment can be mayodeja your resources but because you love us and you're obsessed with pleasing him you're obsessed with him so therefore any investment can be that the other way they express it and I and I did this in the past right you have to be willing to give up all your resources rather than transgress even a rabbinic right but let's say like this this is a famous case imagine that um you know you had a someone at work a boss at work and they said I want you to tell me what x did and you realize it's not Russian it's Lush and hard it's not pot um doesn't fulfill the conditions of the two of us so you have to be willing to lose your job okay so look let's do that meaning just think for a second take a moment and Express in your heart Hashem I love you so much that I'm willing to I I'm willing to put my resources at risk uh if it's necessary to please you and to serve you okay just that declaration because you're willing to get give your life when you recite krishma these are all I hope they'll note these okay or review the this year uh we'll call everybody can fulfill this when you're saying that I love Hashem or when you're saying Krishna if you're just you say um think in your heart I'm willing to give my life for you for kidisha okay you've just done that that's uh 9x okay to finish the last thing is when when you love someone you want other people to love them too that's why okay so that's why roof right bringing people closer to Torah is a Mitzvah of obvious Hashem but the tower I I please send me something if I'm wrong but I understand that kirov doesn't just mean for people who are revoke distant anytime you draw a person closer that you expose them to Torah that they didn't know and they enjoy it or they connect to it you've just done care of and you've just expressed love tushion you brought people closer to him so what I want to say everyone's sharing things these days so if you share a share you share it is you share an Insight right that brings anyone closer Torah have in mind obvious Channel okay so um we've done a lot tonight you hear what I mean we've fulfilled a lot of Mitzvahs in addition to learning Tara and uh I pray to a shin that the principle of Miss agoras Mensa is that this infuses into your daily life and it won't hurt if you make a strong commitment for it to do so okay that's it thank you very much very very welcome can I ask you a question yeah sure I know it we talked you know when you talk about bringing nagas to Hashem right so you know there's we see the the phrase in the gemara and elsewhere right uh which which I take to mean sort of like a calm or or peaceful uh uh the colloquial is like Pride particularly parents for children means sort of like this I don't know whether Equanimity or peacefulness or or or calm tranquility and I'm just worried wondering like is there something we can derive from the etymology of the word nakhat when we're bringing nacha to Hashem is the nakas to Hashem different than nanakas we give to our parents is it something more complex um in some way different um so I I think I have a good source to uh that I think we can use um and that is it says by uh Raya um right that right by the court bonus it's a pleasant fragrance okay and so Rashi says you know Hashem is not smelling anything the physical sense it says um it's pleasing to ascend that his will was done that that that's the fragrance that's the pleasant uh um that uh is that Hashem said to do this and please now think about it if when you when if your parents right and you know and you're not on an ego trip but if your parent when you tell when you the kid listens to you he's listening to you because you want him to be successful you want to be happy right what is a what is a loving and this is a perfect parent right so they're really uh insistent that you do what's good for yourself right that right so that's I think is that Hashem knows that when we Macabre these Commandments and we do them uh uh it's so pleasing to him it's so pleasing we're bringing in pleasure because he knows we're doing what's good for us you hear so I mean no excellent I got it is is there a source for um the car revving yourself meaning are we are we can we fulfill the midst of Kira by attending this year Ah that's beautiful thought if anybody has an idea please chip in I'm gonna just think for a second um because you said you said it's not just for hooking it's not just people it's even people who are right right right right that you know okay since you brought up as always you lead to some very nice things okay I was just thinking about this the myth of Miss Martin okay so there's a famous three categories that I don't know and someone give me an authoritative Source if you have but it says there's been Amma makomero and banana right so it says or taking care of your take care of yourself what category is that in now I until I someone tells me that Vilma going says that there's a category called I want to say that that mitzvah to yourself right I I want to say it has to fit in one category it's either fitting in vain or BINA movero uh please what do people think I have a thought I want to hear what others think where would you guess that belongs pardon you see you guessed but uh that's the natural information okay what what Daryl sorry I think Ben Adams because if you're in good shape and your health is good then you're going to be a better living Hashem right but I rather not use that category because I don't know I've never seen an authoritarious Source say that is a category so I want to bump it into either Bay number clavero like Charles said or been on the Markov okay so what would you what do you think uh Rabbi Michael do you think it's been our Malcolm Ben almost over okay so I think uh I would agree I think Charles said I think I'd have to transfer it into the uh the Ben Adam the macron because again it's affecting my voice Hashem so okay right that's what I thought uh and and there's an argument for it because the rambam says the rambam says if you're not healthy you cannot um perceive Hashem and and that's where the kitchen learns that um taking care of yourself of your health is is um is a derisa in the smart ten it includes taking care of your health because if you're not at your Peak Health you see a Shameless so that would apply being on the Markham oh that's actually what I thought what Daryl said is that you know if we're doing things so we can serve Hashem better so Lahore is when we take care of ourselves but then I thought of it differently like you said and that's this and this is like this relates to the principle of doing hessed to yourself right what um and I and I I I'm sourcing this I heard this uh Rabbi uh um calamans say this uh and and as Dr Rosemary they had this principle which was great it uh basically your nashama has a parental obligation to take care of it the body okay so when you're doing hesid to yourself right what is hasid hessit is looking out for for the welfare of the other it's recognizing what they need and giving it to them right so when you take care of yourself Lahore there's a banana okay right it's the same kind of behavior as being Alma javero you hear a show oh this is I think what you're saying right the um that that it could be but the point I want to make it if if it's going to be two minutes if it's true that if it's true that um that when you take care of yourself it's um you're if if we accept the premise that the soul is apparent taking care of a child that's because it's physical Melda not show each kind of said when you give uh to yourself when you take care of yourself you're good to yourself you're a kind person kind usually implies to another okay but the other happens to be yourself if that's true then what you're all saying is true that you have you have admitted to my card yourself in other words if we look at uh there if we frame uh Mrs um like I said meaning I have to take care of myself kamoha right yeah after if there's a kamoha obligation then I think what you're saying is really interesting uh maybe there is an Indian to my car of yourself and you fulfill the midst of Being mccarged Yourself by bringing yourself close to Tara you hear I I'm speculating because I don't have a proof here but I'm saying back to you it depends on whether the Mitzvahs where the banana are in are actually been on the Markham or been on with Avera if they're being on with Avero I see a Mitzvah of curve to yourself if not I I think that care of scene uh would say is for uh you're bringing others to closer yeah others closer I'm glad I asked this question okay guys beautiful thank you all right what's that um I was just thinking um there's always something that has all that says uh three no it's the four things that needs his or and Torah Torah is one of them so then it doesn't mean other people's thorough I mean not only at least it should be my entire life oh very good very good in other words it for sure means there Torah uh Mason tongue does certain things that need his constantly meaning you have to take yourself to do them so he's saying that seems like the concept of tiruv right uh certainly there's an injunction there from the gemara you do things to strengthen yourself when it comes to Torah yeah very good Rabbi Michael beautiful beautiful okay everybody yes your coach thank you thank you thank you [Music]