KLM: Chodesh Elul: Spending the Entire Month in Hashem's Presence with Rabbi Asher Baruch Wegbreit

your Museum [Music] should drink from this and of course we want to welcome the holy beautiful members of yibene and whoever they pass this year on to kotish Tov I think we're in for an amazing month with the help of akadesh borahu so let's get started rosh hodish Ello is literally most people within the shama inside of them feel the magic and I want to let you know you're not kidding yourself you're not a you know my Rabbi got tested by his rebbe to see if he was for real he was eating on Shabbos at his revi's house and is ready asked him he says do the does the food taste good and he said sure he says does it taste better than a week so Rabbit Green said yeah it does you know the the food on Chavez taste better he says does it really taste better or you did you just talk yourself into that you hear the standard so let me tell you you're not just talk if you feel some excitement right now you're not just talking yourself into it I remember taking my kids and buy it for gone God's country I would take them to the Yeshiva kultura and the son-in-law of shlomo's almond arabath and said Saul he said the following said this Ace Rod Zone Ello is an ace rot Zone L is a time for divine favor and then he said the most important words from a gamara it's not some remote capitalistic safer from the Gamora Ace ratson mil sahi mil sahi when hazal described to us that there's something as an ace rotten a favorable time where you can experience greater closeness to Hashem and greater response to your efforts and your prayers it's real you're not just talking yourself into it it's a real thing that's ELO tonight I want to tell us share with you how to take advantage of this Ace rut Zone for the entire month of ello that's a hit-ish why because I don't you I normally often we feel a little bit of spiritual excitement and then it fades into the woodwork and back to normal to what can we compare this to to a man who's married a woman and they've been married for many years if he was to describe their relationship he would say something like this there were moments of closeness and even intense closeness scattered throughout the years however day-to-day there would be times where she was warm and connecting but most of the time he sat there wishing she would become closer to him the nimshaw in Ella we get excited about the possibilities of spiritual growth and connection and relationship and we're truly on fire but what Anila Dodi I'm for my beloved Edition but what happens and we're going to explain why it's very it's very important why what happens it kind of Fades a week or two in you may forget what month it is after all that arousal about Ace Watson it's a mosahi you can forget that it's the month of Elle this happens consistently this has been described throughout the generations but there is there is a Formula if you will there's a way to maintain the connection with Hashem okay that's what we're this is something new it thank God we're in our fourth year we have not discussed this idea and I I'm I you know what let's let's do this together everybody everyone's listening Wherever You Are in order for us for this to be penetrate our hearts and most importantly our hands our actions let's start off the right way let's pray to Hashem for a couple seconds and just say who please give a bracha to our efforts to come close to you now and to come close to our loved ones in this holy month available just say that for a second all right let's find out how because like I said right now rosh hodesh the first week the chauffeur's gonna start to blow we're gonna say that beautiful tillum Huff Zion okay we're going to be good for a while but what about in the middle often it fades in the middle it revives right before Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur maybe 10 days of chuva sukis back to normal nope please God we're gonna do something different okay so now how are we going to go about this what our goal is what I'd like to declare our communal goal the KLM community we want what Hashem found by avraham avino and positively by Sarah um the navi says Hashem you found his heart faithful before you faithful dependable and here's our word in modern Russian consistent avram was consistently present in the presence of Hashem consistence consistence that's what we're going to shoot for not just okay consistence now in order to do this we need to understand the science okay uh Hashem cut us in a world that works according to science so we're going to discuss the uh neuroscience and the psychology why inspiration Fades okay and we're gonna see if we can do anything about it all right so that that's what we're going to do first and then we're gonna have an inflammation implementation plan all right so and I checked this with our beloved Dr Setzer and got affirmation that what I'm sharing with you is a true application from the science to to our lives so I'm probably the least uh naturally scientific in the audience however I'll say like this there's a concept called homeostasis and what homeostasis is it's something in our physiological system that wants to maintain equilibrium and stability okay so when there's some sort of disruption in the system the forces of homeostasis do everything to be bring things back in to routine and into a normal situation it's super important and super valuable for our body and as my wife pointed out for our brain you know our brain takes so much energy I um I don't know if I wrote it here or she she told me it um and somebody can blurt this in if you want but the brain is um is like very very small percentage of our body in size very small but it it takes up something like 20 percent of our energy to feed it if you will so our brain Demands a lot of energy so this system of homeostasis right not not being uh disrupted and moving and changing and like that we would just collapse if there wasn't this system in our system however I've got very bad news for you the malbum says based on a can go helles and you've probably heard this I mean that you heard the muscle that Malik is bringing there is this war between this mighty king and it says the mighty king has a big country with a lot of soldiers and then you have this weak little King this week little King he's kind of smart but he's a miscayne that's what it says he's in that book if you will not really so anyhow who is the mighty king in this metaphor it's the Yates his soldiers and forces listen to this says the malbim the Yates are hurray he recruits your homeostasis he recruits all the physical forces that can Aid in his goal for you not to be present in the presence of Hashem for you not to be consistent for your heart not to be consistent with a shame homeostasis is going to take your excitement foreign wait what what month is this well then where was I where am I where am I in the prayers homeostasis is recruited by the Yates are hurray okay that's our challenge okay the question is is there anything we can do about it in order excuse me one second why would Hashem undermine our efforts like that if you will Hospital why is it that the yatesahara is empowered to take our excitement and our connection and just faded away constantly the answer is this is good news because it's a mitzvah it's a Mitzvah to be alive the heart of a hayen is a mitzvah derisa and therefore you have a chance to be checked out not present inconsistent Etc because if you choose you get a chance every second every minute whatever you get a chance to mankind the Mitzvah of bahata bahayan choosing life because to breathe and live physically no-brain urge him lets that go on but to be alive spiritually is always going to be a choice we're in our fourth year Hashem of KLM having tavana and you all know anyone who hears it at first really excited and they imply and they apply it and they feel like they're starting to think and be connected and then suddenly that gets the rote monster the homeostasis mechanism takes all the spiritual excitement out of it darn no yes the heart of a high-end choosing life you get to choose it every time it's a mix of derisa and it brings this causes uh so much kadusha to descend upon you I promise I read something over the banishment that said again it's not an accident that we don't have a clue the impact of our Mitzvahs it because I saw this one commentator say that if we understood you know a little bit about the impact of a single Mitzvah we would lose our free choice you hear that that's what's something's really happening when you do this okay with that said right with that said if we're in this position right now we we know that we know why homeostasis uh the Hashem are Empower homeostasis to bring to fight against the change to to reel it in and bring it back to normal yeah by the way there's deep things about when you're dealing with other people and homeostasis not for this year okay but we'll talk about it because we're of course going to emphasize in his holy month okay but now we have to uh figure out what can we do if this is a physiological phenomena that your system just tries to bring everything regulated and regulate out uh changes and new things so what can we do about it all right so the answer is if you can't hear me why am I speaking like this I don't want the Yates to hear it and gates are Harvard to hear this if we take teeny consistent steps Rabbi Michael can they hear it hear me yes you could have I okay teeny consistent steps something that doesn't shake up the system too much that's what we're gonna do okay and we have to be aware that the it's a hurray is it's it is a war you know it says that you have to get agitated and get to work so you have to realize that the one of his main tools he's going to do in Ello is to say where did the Inspiration Go and I failed at Rabbi wegbright's suggested program uh I guess here we go again I guess I have X Lindsay or to make us feel like I need to if I'm not perfect I'm a failure if I fail I'm a failure just be aware those are some of the uh voices of the enemy okay so we're about to present our plan our uh our war plan we're gonna present it and I stress it's gonna look like overwhelming but I'm gonna just discuss how we can do this in a way where we can let's say miss the landmines and here's the point here's the history you will not stay in well you will not stay inspired unless you choose to become inspired again you know it describes the path of exotic in the middle is it's thorny in the beginning and then it becomes a smooth plane whereas Wicked people it's a nice smooth plane gets thorny at the end okay so I saw one of the rebaim from the vardic uh explained because we have a Mitzvah the rise of the heart of the bahayan which we're gonna there's two Mitzvahs this month I want to focus on just two well heart of behind and avocation okay but baharta behind since that is a constant Mitzvah we will have a constant need to either arouse ourselves Inspire ourselves again or it's okay persevere even though to be nemon to have our hearts be consistent like Abram whether or not we're inspired you hear okay let me show you the war plans here we go [Music] oh you have to hit the share screen okay please be careful now uh let me just put it up okay and do do we have full screen you see rabbit Michael yes you're good Emma okay great um so first of all I want to speak to everyone who's listening okay if you're in our WhatsApp group we'll post this on the WhatsApp group but not in this form uh a little technical point in color takes up a lot of whatever whatever ink and this and that we're going to make it in white okay but I want you to see this model now if you are not part of our WhatsApp group or on our email group uh but really WhatsApp is the easiest then please whoever you are if I know you're not just send an email to rabbiwegbrite w-e-g-b-r-e-i-t gmail.com okay so uh here we go this is our battle plan but uh it looks comprehensive but my request of you fellow Warriors is to to approach it certain way that guarantees success what is our goal let me remind you we want to show Hashem Anila Dodi consistently for the whole month okay rather than that metaphor the the wife sometimes is intensely present by the way why did I pick a wife the husband's like expecting more emotions from his wife I did that because we're the wife in cherish Sharon and Hashem is the Dodi right he's the Beloved and we're the woman if you will so Hashem Dodi our beloved he's he's so much wants a consistent presence a consistent connection with us okay it's us getting there so again the goal is consistency the Mitzvah is and the other thing everyone declare in your heart right now that all our efforts for Ello is because we love Hashem and we want to if we do this it'll be so good for us and our families okay there'll be a lot of life if we choose life now there'll be a lot of Life please God for Claudius Rail and the entire world okay let's let's now take a look at this let me explain it okay so um I I gave a comprehensive this is really not super comprehensive but I gave this because I want everyone to be able to choose what they want to work on this month okay so first of all let's just go over there's three categories of relationship this is people learn this out from the gra in Michelin okay everyone knows too everyone knows two of them been on Autumn lamaco right between us and Hashem there are certain mitzvahsavero between us and our fellow man and here's an important one very contemporary being Adamo we have obligations towards ourself because our self really belongs to Hashem right we have an ishama deposited here we're supposed to do something with it right and the only way we can do that because this the nashama has to live in a body is by taking care of the body that's housing in the shama okay so so I'm just going to give you an overview but here look what it says if you can see look what it says it says KLM ello consists I'm at the top consistent presence chart right we want our heart to be consistently before Hashem okay our go here's here's the thing and please take by the way I tested this okay I work with something called habit charting but and it worked great on condition that I designed very teeny teeny teeny activities easy to succeed in okay believe me that's so important so look what it says underneath that the goal is to aim for tiny tiny victories and here's one you're already gonna win if you do this your daily charting is a victory and let me tell you why we're charting now besides we all know this is a 30 to 40 day period where we if all if because we want to be consistent based because one of the greatest um English-speaking ballet true uh not Bali trouba I'm um Musser Masters in our days as Rabbi uh laid Kellerman and I spoke to one of his uh very successful Tommy dot uh rabbits in Syria Heaven regular and she said that the the the difference between success and unsuccess was the daily charting I'll give you a KLM example okay uh I we're slowly releasing the news but um four years ago um besides my beloved friends uh from America Satora and uh uh you know alumni's and different people but that that came along with this but uh also one of the Tommy doat was rabbits in Syria have a regular and she broke Hashem she loved it she let me know she she shared her whole list of women with you know that to encourage them to join KLM and since we started she's been doing her she'll do a pulula an exercise in ello and at least a couple years it's been a KLM exercise because I don't miss us so let me tell you what she told me and this is why I'm we're going for charting this year all right so they worked on the five Mitzvahs TLC equals K tender loving care equals knowing yourself meaning the five misses you can fulfill by having a glass of water so she gave the women all our balloon poster and every day they had to chart that they drank at least one glass of water uh with those cavanas and she said has the Hashem is it was an incredible experience for everybody up until let's say Arabian Kipper right and then she said it was Hanukkah and she the one running she I'm sure she'd be okay with me sharing this she'd forgotten the exercise right while charting it succeeded without it stopped succeeding now I have a solution for us you're going to say well this only gonna last for 30 days no if you will make you a poster of different things if you put up a poster or like Dr Setzer does you put something in your standard you can put reminders and you can continue to succeed okay that's my sales pitch for this chart now let's go through it and I'm Gonna Give You tiny step suggestions but make up your own I highly recommend you either take notes now and decide now here here's my list of ideal right as we go through you make a decision okay uh second second best is don't do anything after you turn off this thing uh just make your decisions or do it as soon as you can okay so here here's the different places um to to choose to grow from okay so we're just going to go over that quickly and we give some maybe tiny step suggestions all right Bane Autumn lamaco okay I'm in the top of the left column so in one category is a votesolate the service of your heart prayer okay a tiny suggestion and something I've been practicing people are probably familiars um I've been uh working on is it a classic strategy working on a blessing in the Shimona esre that I'm gonna slow down for that and do my best one a week now I was doing it with one of my friends and we didn't choose avos because if you know the halacha you must have kavana and avos if you want to continue right but in the other one so one thing is to pick one of those brajos and the tiny achievement is well first of all suggestion okay put a mark there okay this is the broccoli Mark your sitter you must okay uh this could be a tail and whatever and all you're going to do is say it slower a little more teeny Improvement teensy weensy Improvement I promise you in the uh it's profound teeny weeny teeny weeny they're like lifetime achievements when you break through the homeostasis stasis and put a little of your heart there unbelievable okay so pick one mark one pick one teeny weeny Improvement okay or just trying is a success okay if you tried check check of success next Torah learning so there's two possibilities I would suggest okay is to learn pick something new that you had like a little extra of what you normally do let's say if you do duffyomi or you watch a shiron tour anytime or whatever it is right so if that's your kind of daily schedule whatever okay just like like read a couple minutes of some safer it might be good to pick some safer and just you're gonna keep going through that whatever a line of a teeny teeny please if you go a little further fine but don't obligate yourself to go further I beg you teeny weeny okay so that's Tyler oh the other way the other achievement is keeping your seder keeping your regular um committed learning not dropping the ball just you do it Faithfully okay name on all right so that that's my teeny suggestion for Torah kln is the third one that's definitely between you and God okay so and again I suggest right now you should be plotting planning committing okay but take some Mitzvah all right take and you can vary but but you should have a list right let's say going to the bathroom that before you go to the bathroom you have in mind the Mitzvah about to shock suit to go to use the restroom right or to um when you we're going to talk about um when you uh smiling at people helping doing has it so important to have cavana there okay because otherwise it may not be counted okay so anyway my point is just one uh if you want to choose the Cabana misses as your main thing so you want to work on having a component for one thing once a day jump jump up and down and dance okay that's [Music] okay so let me explain this and uh I also want to welcome um uh my my rebbies on uh my rebbies seabor in in torim the torim Yeshiva in Phoenix Arizona who's now uh um it's now run by Rabbi Green's incredible tomat hakum uh uh Vlog uh son of Aaron green Rabbi Aaron that's what they call him there and his uh wife rabbits and Esther green so why am I mentioning them they're working on they have like a WhatsApp group on Sean bias and they're working on those things and housing guitar is beautiful so I want to explain these um Bain on the favero things also for their benefit so they in the ROM bomb one way to delineate that from emulating Shem or kindness in general is there's two aspects about it I would say that is a of ahataraka kamoha is one is giving cover well covered and Mama really okay the rambam says when you um consider a person's and I'm going to translate covet into our language when you are concerned for the self-esteem of another like you are for your own that that's after effect or if you're con concerned for the finances of a friend or an other or an organization like your concern for your own fan finances so it's giving giving respect and and um being concerned to mahasik the self-esteem that's helping people in their finances and really uh anything and the simple and and empathy anything you would like done to you you do to them that's after in a nutshell okay now for example I'll just give you a teeny example is when you just smile at someone you're showing them covered you're showing them you're affected by their presence smiling saying good morning Etc little teeny weeny thing right do it try it with your husband your your child your friend your harusa whatever okay I said I hope that's understandable you know there's all sorts of things you can do verbal has said praying for someone uh etc etc kindness all right you know to to be tidy in the restroom after you used it that's that's it okay so next the LA the the third one I I is I'm putting here is being patient Hashem is patient with us Erica Pine we really want that and honest hello okay so patience means let's say holding back on a criticism right um not saying anything when someone is late right you know the things that get your blood boiling well you're emulating when you're patient when you're controlling your upsettedness okay big if you're waiting in the market you can fulfill that okay last and definitely not least in our generation okay so the first one we may if those who you want to join the VOD are on the VOD we may do a special special focus on this first one sleeping and napping okay that's a Mitzvah of self-care right now let me speak about that my revi uh I remember LOL right ace roton excitement I'm picture learning like 19 hours a day so I asked my revi rabbit green I said Rabbi what do I do what can I do to learn more hour hours in ello his response go to sleep on time go to sleep on time stop smiling around go to sleep on time turn off the whatever you hear that that is Holy okay so we we're gonna put a special emphasis on sleep but now you could short that one rabbits and said she's going to work on it and and I recommend all revitons I know how hard revenants work they should all uh work on on that next one proper eating and hydration I think this is no-brainer okay but the what's what's a brainer in all of this is having kavana don't go to sleep without having a mind you're taking care of your health or you're getting or you're doing it to service in don't have a glass of water without having a mind you're taking care of yourself and you're trying to have strength to cervatively don't do any of this without Covenant of hashem's Mitzvah then it's Eternal okay and the last one is exercise okay these are obvious all right so now how do you do this look at the very end of the chart we're almost done um the easy Victory strategy okay let me State the easiest one and this takes a lot of humility to try this one okay and that is pick only one item for the whole month it could be uh kindness sleeping and that's the one that you're gonna track for 30 days and you're gonna try to you're going to try work on it's not succeed you're going to work on it okay that's for the The Humble people okay the ones who are in the fast track to success but if you want to be a little more risky okay look at the easy Victory strategy below it says um success is one of these things success is merely charting three out of seven days okay obviously you don't chart on Chavez on Chavez okay so in other words um all all you another way to do this is you just fill out whatever thing you're focusing on or you could fill out everything three uh less than half of the week but you least charted you try to be consistent in L okay if you want to go for it if you're inspired uh and uh you want to go free okay try a chart every day try more than one thing but you know the um safer nephesus explains concentrate on something and you can have the other stuff in the back in the backdrop so here let's say you picked something like uh I have to refer uh so riyaka come over so let's say you're concentrated at but still you look at these other things and it will have a you know so spiritual osmosis there will be some thing gains from that okay so and really I said in the bottom success is one Improvement a day one thing and it's not Mastery of it it says you tried you tried but have in mind the heart to behind and choosing life choosing life that's the theme of the might of the month the heart of a high end and please God will be have a casino well altar I I don't know if I say that correct anyhow everybody Hodes and let's work on this please be in contact about it if you want again I remind you if you want this chart we're going to make a print user friendly one tomorrow so please message me however you can right if you want this chart and also if you want to fulfill the midst of consistently choosing life show up each time we're going to do this at this time uh once a week until we uh hear the chauffeur blowing of Rosh Hashanah okay [Music] help me [Music]