Josef Tells his Brothers: Allow the Torah to Guide You by Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston

[Music] okay welcome everybody we are in car shot the buggy gosh that is in Genesis chapter 45 verse 24 now there's a very strange verse and perhaps you've never really thought about it this way the way we're going to be thinking about it tonight and once you also know bob and valerie we're going to go much deeper than we went on tuesday so hang in there so we've been thinking about this verse in a very interesting way number one number two what is the Torah the Torah is a book of instructions for us so we can live our lives in a pure in a upward in a spiritual way in a way that we can work on our character as you know this is we've been learning for a while now and it's not just a book of prophecy but it's a it's a document that will hopefully change our lives okay so it may sound very strange when we're reading this verse and 130 how's it going what does it mean to me how does it affect me because young Joseph has already revealed himself to his brothers which is obviously a huge shock okay now that being said they have to go back eventually to tell their father that Yosef is still alive so we know you know many years earlier what happened there was obviously a sinned a great sin involved of selling right in the Ten Commandments one of the ten commandments is do not steal many people don't know this but that commandment of do not steal is do not kidnap and ransom off and sell a human being obviously stealing is forbidden from the Torah but it's mentioned other places okay so this is a huge sin and they're going to go back to their father and let them know that Yosef is alive I mean you don't think the father Jacqueline's gonna ask a few questions whoa what's going on what happened here and he'll find out the truth right the the revelation of him being alive could in the domino effect way send off all kinds of questions like what exactly happened why weren't you in touch for all these years and so on and so forth so let's read the verse in English and then in evil it's verse 24 in chapter 45 and he sent off his brothers and they went he said to them do not become agitated on the way okay now that's an English translation we're going to see many words instead of agitating for the word for the word that it will appear as tear Gazoo so let's read Hebrew the east lock at Asaf he sent his brothers the alaykum and they went the Omar Ali ham and he said to them these are the important words we're going to be dealing with ow tear Kazu Buderus do not become I'm gonna leave this blank it could mean agitated which I don't know we know what that means it could mean quickly on the way truth to be told it could mean anger reading on the way we'll have to find out now let's look at Rasheen Arashi will tell us three things okay so I think one the source sheep you will have that okay what does it mean oh I saw in another I think it was kebab they translated as quarrel don't quarrel on the way okay so let's see what Rashi says do not become agitated on the way do not become involved in a matter of Halawa which is very awkward because why wouldn't you learn Torah and be involved in God's Way while you're on the way as we will see if you haven't figured out already when we say the Shema right part of saying the Shema is these words should be upon you on your lips and guess what we've left it hovered Eric while you're walking on the way so why would you not so the the Rashi says so that the trip should not become a source of agitation for you again I don't know exactly what that means but we'll look at the comment down below and Gomorrah meet which we will actually examine closer that Joseph wanted his brothers to turn to as far as quickly as possible so that's when you don't become don't maybe don't be delayed on the way we'll see he told them not to become in a month become involved in a matter of Halawa lest it delay them and touch the trip might agitate them for a note it would be longer than they had originally intended okay keep in mind we're gonna be dealing with these three issues and I'll tell you another secret the clea cart has on many occasions says if it was up to me I would delete the words davara hair alternatively from any comment Rashi makes because usually when you really examine it it's these two sages had two totally different opinions one said one thing and then you have a different hair alternative explanation it's something else but you know what sometimes there are two sides of the same coin sometimes there's no MUC locus so if Rashi says the Warka I would personally take it away but I'll have to Gus but uh but what he does is he synthesizes and he takes that two ideas and puts them together and you can see the two sides of the same coin now what does it mean with cos ah the rabbi's say a lieu of the au in Velen dear al Oh Kim Chi and these and these are the words of God it's just essentially where you have two very obviously opposing opinions that would be extremely difficult to say they're actually saying the same thing they're not saying the same thing so how can it be both of the words of God because they really are both truth the question is from what perspective at what time what given time they're both in essence true but there are reasons why we perceive them as being a mock locus being an argument so so far we saw the first opinion in Rashi which said do right when Yosef was telling his brothers do not become involved in a matter of Halawa so the trip should not be source of agitation for you Rashi says devar affair alternatively meaning it's a whole different shot do not take long steps and enter the city to spend the night in sunlight meaning meaning like this don't walk quickly with long steps but rather you should enter this take your time do not travel at night don't overextend yourself it's not good that's all that when the rosh is bringing these from image rushy and what about the civil shot then he begins by saying but according to the simple meaning of the verse it can be said because they were ashamed he was worried they were gonna quarrel on the way over the matter of his sail by disputing one another by saying oh this one would say through you he was so right you were the cause or the other one like saying you spoke maliciously about him and you're the one that caused us to hate him and there is called the blame game and throughout their travel back to Yaakov to tell them he's still alive they would somehow not necessarily resolve it but emotionally feel expiated of them on some level that they're not to blame but of course their blame and this is what Yosef is with other words what would you write do not become agitated on the way or do not quarrel the way either way right the way we see it that would be push up shot pushes shot meaning the most simple explanation of the verse so what about these other two what's that all about so that is something we're going to examine tonight and we're gonna get some really deep insight into this wavelength we call Judaism and the fundamental concepts so the clear car begins by telling us about this verse I'll tear Gazoo Buderus do not become agitated on the way he goes through he says perish Rashi out it Scoob de varela ha interesting keep these words in mind do not become involved in words of Halawa in matters of love that's the Hebrew davara hair alternately I'll see you see agasa do not take large steps but rather hip knees so humble a year enter the city while the Sun is still out dear Sirs ooh this text you will find in the Gomorrah I meet in the first parrot which is on chapter I'm sorry on page 10 B says Rebbe Eleazar what was rude Yosef saying to his brothers are my Yosef laughs ha I'll tip a scoop at the parlor ha don't involve yourself in the matters of a lifetime I want to stop at this point to explain you will find if you fine-tune your ear the difference between devar hahaha and deed for a Torah devar hahaha is dealing with the finer points of law and dif'rent Torah is words of Torah which may be very commonly used and known about from the text where there's not much depth in terms of trying to figure out what it means so we saw the first opinion Rivia Eleazar don't involve yourself don't become engrossed in devar hahaha why scheme' tear Gaza alaikum these words are still vague maybe this blank this anger this agitation will come upon you on the way now Gomorrah and this Gomorrah tiny Rashi actually says to that you will make a mistake so don't do it while you're traveling because you're likely to make a mistake and the Gomorrah goes on it says how can that be is that really true that you're not supposed to involve yourself in devar ha ha when you're on the way because you might make a mistake the Gomorrah goes on and says I'm a rebel I says this other tada Shinae tommy date ha ha Meem Shima how sympathetic if two sages are walking on the way they aimed a mayhem deep break Tora here the difference already because I pointed it out you might not have noticed the original opinion was Davar Aloha and this opinion is by Rebbe Eli if two sages are walking and they're not involved in deaver a Torah ruin the slave they deserve to be burnt the meaning punished in its real fire so do the war itself says lo kasha it's not really a problem it can be resolved Halle me cross when it says that you should let's go through this again when you don't involve yourself in da ha ha ha that is not talking about gears up gear sir is just review simple dear a Torah that's certainly permissible and wanted but when you shouldn't be involved in da Halawa right devar ha ha which involves EU nay EU nay is like deep deep study EU every Ashima has basically two so darling two sets of hours a couple hours you learn in the morning you do EU you can spend a whole month on one page or a paragraph even whereas in the afternoon you can go through in one sitting a few pages so that's the difference what is even don't get involved in the EU because that involves deep study so what is raj is saying the me Grozny boil egg be Orca when you're traveling do the me Graz do the review dude I'm not gonna call but superficial but do the learning the your you know you can go a little deeper but it shouldn't be that new and that deep not the lowly annoying a but not the deep heavy introspective study and then the good more went on would be might be my Tina tonic was taught in a bright Sun out I'll see you see it Gaza do not take these large steps which was the Deborah hand which was the alternative explanation Rashi don't take large steps but enter the city while the like the Sun is throughout the Hockney's so homily here so he begins by really addressing the question the Talmud Shimano our Gomorrah and Highness anyway is Harlech on the break sheets raba on the on the mattress and over there is gonna quote the measures right now so now there's a whole new piece to throw into the mix what does the Metro say don't take large steps but it gives a different reason I'll tough see you see sagashi don't take these large steps the Alameda Artemis and Madeira Torah and don't hold yourself back from learning Torah isn't that the complete opposite of what we learned before except if you really notice the difference with hella hot Dobara lava and debris Torah okay so the clear car at this point feels it's it's appropriate to for him to bring a resolution between these two drush a--'s and he says a month low thursday mayhem there is no argument between them because what is gearson which is permissible and encouraged that's how deep would prepare that speaking through your mouth be deep or prepare but the vibe shooting things that are simple shifty me move are Bottari where the the details are clear in the Torah we don't have to go to the touch of my pad and you don't have to go deep deep deep the he Luna crane D Freight are that those words are called devrait Torah she died bear Mimi great deal in show Torah because you're speaking about the principles the main principles of the Torah hobble it comes to yield Eunice the deeper investigative senses that called var ha'la'tha okay that's called the vara ha ha that's involvement in in law kikaha Torah Nick great Derick did you know this the whole Torah is called Derek what's Derek the way that that makes sense it's the way in the light man come o chanel mar what in Psalms 119 verse 1 what a beautiful verse beautiful verse I read it in English and Hebrew you know it's much more beautiful in Hebrew but praiseworthy are those who way is perfect who walk with the law of the Lord what do you have to say about that verse have you ever seen that verse before praiseworthy or those who way is perfect who walk with the law of the Lord I straight to me made eros wow what a beautiful verse how hulking but Taurus Hashem they walk with the Torah of God that's the Torah is good way it's the way you can't get around it the Holly kazoo so this type of halifa right holding the tortoiseshell is in involved at take me muck on the Macomb you're moving from point A to point B but you know it's like it happens in Mott so bu Hoffman cetera it's very let's say common that one would involve themselves in even above the wisdom of the Torah shall may I in ball and they would when they when they're involved in yield they're looking very inquisitively net toss me Madre got lit madre god they're moving that's why it's called away it was a process the Torah is a process it's a path and you're moving along and you're going from one level to the next level and I'll use these words that use make us mad let me not from overarching wisdom towards understanding Bhima is understanding because you're connecting the dots and then from beam Allah daya from vena which is understanding towards a more particular set of knowledge and the reishi tables the acronym is kebab if you didn't know that hokhmah veena dot so you're moving in that direction that's called growth that's that's the path of the tortoise to move so now according to this we're actually able to answer what was mentioned and quoted in the Brett and the Meldrick which was the last court of the first paragraph don't hold yourselves back from the words of Torah from different era again just to reiterate we're talking about my gosh Macross means reviewed DNA Torah you're just doing it doing things you already know the DA bear bomb the left of hopper there is you're speaking in them as you are walking on the way and that's what's written in the Gomorrah which says how to ask you but Varna lava don't involve yourself don't become engrossed in the viral aha meaning annoying don't go deep deep deep he said Nikkor AHA haha that's we're gonna call how a car and then I in haha Lake man talking with my dragon on my traiga because when you're investigating deeply you're going from one level to another oh my mccoshen me Rebbe you lie and the question that rubbing a lie asked how can that be you have the statement in perky a vote that says Shinigami big haha me if you have two sages that maja see Medeiros they're actually holic but there is vain vain am tr-8r a if there's no debate or amongst them what's gonna happen they're worthy of being birthed by fire so the next statement is basically saying that it wasn't upon his mind to make this difference between devar halakha and deep return kilo Islita diked a diet it's more like a rhetorical question but he didn't know the difference mahalik being russian DVAR Torah ladira Torah Archer Terence law - able to answer yes takamore actually answered column across this would be club review hallelujah this is deep in intensive study and if you really look carefully the deep blue collection the very the precise language actually assists the answering really does answer Messiah Al Attar Sun as it was mentioned below plaguey keen the medaka tooth now there really isn't any argument it's a double negative the only argument that exists is what does alter Gazoo Buderus mean what does it mean do not become blank on the way right what is tear Gazoo mean so if the intent is shallow you see do how you'd the YouTube oh I need a Toraja Terrace that one shouldn't let's say like this he shouldn't get lost he shouldn't lose anything he's learning by trying to do you because he will make a mistake because of the efforts what needs to do when they're on their way now you guys have taken family trips you have a navigator right and they got the map and they're giving directions but imagine if you start talking about something very deep so I know where the maps gonna go it's gonna go back into the you know the pocket and you're gonna miss your exit right very simply put you're gonna get lost or the other way around surely offseason star Darris I dishes Cooper Torah so one we're talking about one would be just a tear cud you're on the way so don't be involved and the other way sorry is that you actually will physically get lost because you are what's that get inside low yes to stop Derek all your days you're moving you're a scuba turret the other way around meaning by not learning Torah you're gonna get lost think about that the first wouldn't we said you're learning saw so took deeply then what's gonna happen that you're gonna totally like miss your exit or run out of gas because you weren't looking down at your gas meter or the other way did you know that the turret actually guides you right so keep that ready eleazar the opinion of Rabbi Eliezer he was she Yosef his he robbed then Yosef was warning them so you ask of the Deborah halakhah that they shouldn't become involved grossed into Varla Hawaii because Siri sorry Ian when you're doing Duvall aha you need to investigate in a way that's looser chioma to Astana that needs like a clear clarity like a clear day you can't be involved in trying to look at the map and try to look at the odometer ever try to look at the gas meter or at the exit or the cars trying to pass you or whatever I know I'm talking about cars but it could be anything eh look who's shoving your kazoo Layton how dare it and the good morning says you should worry there's a concern that maybe this anger again we don't know if it's really anger will come upon you on the way came mashallah hor-aha Derek because of the issues involved in travelling you know you're also worried about your meals and without washing and all these other benching yeah like some laborers who built a new shop so maybe you will have in your heart ro guess again whatever rogas means without a new shop without a settlement of mine without a peace of mind you know some people worry a little bit more than others well I you days that so Lully they towards remember we saw Rashi said you come to make a mistake when bu-but VAR Elohim you were doing it the Word of God you don't want to make a mistake and that's what Rashi means when he says to though you make a mistake meaning tabbouleh day to hood to beat you and a half lost god forbid that you come to make mistake when we're dealing with the with the wisdom of God but when it came to the Madras it said it really wanted to explain the opposite then Joseph was coming to wear them that they should be involved in Torah on the way but what kind of Torah but vibe shooting the kind of you do review on the simple stuff conditional YouTube to stop there so that you don't become mistaken on the way you don't lose your path because if you're so engrossed and so involved there's no question you're gonna miss the exit you know why it's close to the Torah itself ice cream Bob the Derrick's if you involve yourself the Torah on the way time kul miss whose death so shallow it will lead you to your ultimate destination to acquire peace right that is the ultimate right even if it's not people's let's say physically to get to your ultimate destination so whether it's through your true physical destination or your spiritual your whole life force you need the Torah as your guide look in miss lane miss lane is proverbs chapter 6 verse 22 listen it's talking about the Torah what does it say when you walk it shall lead you when you lie down it shall guide you guard you and when you're awakened it shall speak for you be hid eleska timeset botox bisshop clock to schewe Elisha lucky so tahi tosses heheh when you walk it will lead you look at Rashi on the verse when you walk in your lifetime it's gonna lead you okay when you awaken for the resurrection of the Dead to stand the dry judgment that's going to speak for you to speak on your behalf so of course you should learn Torah while you're traveling but what kind of Torah not the deepest of deep but the more simple understanding of them movie Erica tooth now we understand to explain that those words don't tear Gazoo not as anger we will get to it it's possible X nation but out to fahadh oh don't be afraid right don't be afraid from the language if you look in Exodus chapter 15 verse 14 those words appear we all know people heard and they trembled it's a language of trembling Shango I mean you gesund tell a hoss you're a pleasure a shutter seasoning having tisks after these stuff so we know that it means to be afraid in your na ha ha ha don't be afraid meaning to say it is like Yosef telling his brothers Eve to ask you Bottari if you actually involve yourselves in Torah as looked it's tired Kula there is no need to be afraid love in a listing not from the robbers rule of Manhattan's Buderus and not from taking the wrong exit not from taking a not from being mistaken on the way why because it's the Torah that leaves you kiha Torah times has time it leaves your guides you've attached to the stem and it saves you Miko pox at the throat from any fear or mistakes key you are my lehem It was as if he was saying to them he's Haru but offer hamachi less salmon roe guess the Fox had a much soy but direct make sure you're carefully that thing meaning the Torah that's going to save you from any kind of anger and fear that you might find all the way meaning the Torah because we all know and or so that says should be in it the Isaac ball when you're actually involved in the Torah Magna or matzo it will guard you and save you hallelujah the clear carnal self says davara care alternatively should the odd vibrations Rama the opinion that we found in the Madras is explaining the words out here kazoo not as we just explained before us fear but it's actual anger Russian drug is the cosmology however one can ask key but there when you're on the way I love your Gazoo about baked em your Gazoo this would be a very simple question are you telling me that anger is just inappropriate when you're on the way but what about when you're sitting in your house then it's okay you're allowed to get angry no that can't be so the intent must be Shiva Derek our temps reek of the oven is hard be your tear but avatar that when you're all the way you actually have to be more careful when it comes much more careful when it comes to making sure you learn Torah properly shallow Tom need to Ozma Kamadeva Tara do not hold yourself back from learning Torah Fela share our house even for one moment and we all think that's okay we're on vacation but I'm gonna tell you there is no vacation when it comes to spirituality and spiritual growth right you think okay now I where I've learned that satin did my stuff now I can sit on the beach no if you go to a separate beach maybe they do have separate beaches here in Israel I imagine that I can't imagine anything and I was gonna say in America maybe they have separate features but it's a good that's a good good idea right if you like the idea of several features many women are separate okay probably in certain communities that are very religious okay where are we lost my place okay so the last thing we said was the right so don't hold yourself back from merit or even for one moment contain my heart seal f10 me co-op Rana Rana yo sumbitch truck I'm nude Rock Shows move our house but there is because that's actually going to save you from any type of punishment or bad circumstances that will occur to you on the way Haruka is massing Holi mood when you're involved with this anger this per adios Li and the punishments you're right let's just call it trials of sorts your your it takes away from your learning keep called cos and this is a very important point anyone who's angry anytime anger is involved it brings mistakes right we've compared being angry to idol worship before so that's obviously a big mistake to worship idols we're not to have a clear understanding of Hashem the inter Gazoo and if you become angry as we're now translating it Ozma pray our tits tart hula have Sigma TV Torah then by necessity required to stop learning Torah because you're afraid that it's gonna come to make him with make a mistake through the through the anger Penta Huli they tell you they a rogue as the thief hawk that's why Joseph says to the brothers don't become tear Gazoo on the Darius don't become angry on the way g'day sugar tits tired hula ha meanness can be dear a Torah in order that you're not required to stop learning Torah Lahav Sigma shakhas and to stop at the time with anger the features of Malcolm has the kind of the yoke tear out the charges a rules because especially at a place of danger a person needs to be even more careful meaning to learn Torah that don't get in a position where you have to stop don't get angry okay knock up adhara that's why it says the Derek because when you're on the way that's when it's more dangerous of a vibe when you're at the house in Kolkata then the anger doesn't come some so often off our patient there man but the truth is Rogan is Mazda coma call anytime Rogen's is involved is always damaged no matter where you are whether you're the house or on the way now some explain eh Nefarian when that says opt is a scoop at the Barossa don't become engrossed in what we call devar a loofah the rabbi's explained the word massage sake now if the laws of Shabbat massage sake means you weren't even thinking at all you brushed aside the light switch and the light went off or on it's clogged musasa you don't even break there's no sin you don't break a curving right there's no offering - there's nothing to do you didn't do anything so when it comes to cutting these are the holy offerings in the temple for the contine if they do it without thinking at all it's pusle it doesn't work you have to have a lot of Cavanaugh's a lot of intent Mumma da baby Misha anal or maybe you and that's referred to someone who didn't learn carefully Ella that's why the word I say côte d'ivoire Omaha Ella can I think by all my bloke Ivana but rather all he was was I sake in this world like in general without any attempt perhaps that was what he means when he says her rug is UVA Murray days that that the actor is gonna bring you to the point you're not even thinking and that will bring you to mistakes so that's just another explanation of what we said already but in a different way now I'm not however been my Tina Itano well we learned in the brighter in the measures I'm sorry was the second part of the Gomorrah it was a met you as a brighter Oh Topsy you see Acosta don't make long steps okay don't walk quickly perhaps Hockney so Hamlet here but enter the city while the Sun is still out so dr. Nefario rug it seems like the opinion of this brighter is to explain what is wrong gives me so far we said row games meant don't be afraid we said maybe it means anger now we're translating row games is what hastily don't be hastily on the way shame and the he root maja hops ax okay this idea of rogas is being explained as quick with LaShawn if you go to Genesis 49 for it says path has come Mayan now there's different translations but here your restlessness with water where the harried haven't eaten ish of water somehow water can travel very quickly if it's all obviously on an incline okay but water is very fluid I don't you know nope of course the pun was intended how madhab embassy paws on shall Romeo's we don't let the quickness of anger for the super zone shall Rogen's again maybe that's not anger but it's somehow quickness the fishy Oh Safariland Joseph did say to them at an earlier point he says mija mihari mihari / lol ah thee quickly go up to my father so he was telling them to go quickly meaning to say to maja rule a like makan get moving you should move now quickly I'll time to pub don't just stand around now when you do say that there's a there's a sus there's a weary lyov even with Russian perhaps what they understood was from the language used quickly may hi Raghava dark look a lake would be Mattoon even as they're going further they she goes quick no I'll be go quickly when you trying to leave because you know that you know inertia it's really hard to move whatever would ever state something is in it's easier to stay in that state it's always harder to get moving right so you have to move with a little bit more agility and an energy so that's what he was saying get going but once you're on the way there was a concern maybe they would not walk with Mattoon diligently keying the hops up but rather quickly to could they la magia be social of yet in order to quickly tell the good news to their father that y'all should still alive value days then through this you see those girls y'all trippin I know maybe they would end up taking large steps more than normal and wait till you hear this my blood like it's very interesting but let's continue the el Callado era and maybe they would need to continue after got dark and after schita hama that's when he said to them I'll tear Gazoo be direct do not go quickly on the way meaning dascomb Akkad specifically right now right here in this place get up to go but on the way itself don't go so quickly elet a later than Mattoon but rather take normal steps and go properly the consular ear bone accumbens Arak hot and you should enter the city well the city while the Sun is still shining because the gomorrah tells us in time is that someone should always enter a city while the light is out because it's good remember God said when he created the world he saw the light and the light was good enter while the light is still left because that is the seat of the best time also when you leave the city going it your going to a trip leave when it's light and n-terminus like do not travel at night now I have to tell you this last paragraph is my favorite paragraph of this entire presentation some say eh oh bream the future mr it says in Co Hellas who else is Ecclesiastes chapter 2 verse 9 this is consolidated talking in class tees so I became great and I increased more than all who were before me Jerusalem now this is not really the part he wanted to share but obviously it's part of his statement and also my wisdom remains with me no matter where I was I had many wives and they tripped me up whatever kind of mistakes I made okay because he made a mistake and all the increase Reber could even have been a sin threat but we'll just say that he made some grave errors in the amount of things that he had and yet also my my wisdom remains with me he's not saying I can do sin and be mistaken and still be wise know also look at Rashi I did not forsake my wisdom because of all these Affairs that remained with men didn't forget and it stood by me to aid me against all these wait to hear with the clear car explains these verses the statement that ass hath mercy unduly even my wisdom stayed with me means mashallah modesty but I focused even that which I learned while I was angry meaning in a precarious state likely to forget but guess what I didn't forget I'll take Kazuma direct now we understand when you also said to his brothers don't become rogue as on the way little mohawk move off learn wisdom keep that wisdom that you've learned in your anger life what does that mean like his new leader barichara see you rob perhaps the whole idea here means great investigation meaning to say this is the clear card now adding for himself he's about to say great wisdom he says I'm emo see if I'm gonna add that Cocteau of table that I'm gonna give you really a pearl of wisdom and great understanding but you should call cos maybe leave a tune we already know or anger brings you the mistakes but guess what it says in getting in of the point made Abdallah ha Ellen came nick szabo to feel that a person is unlikely to really get a strong resolve in devar holla ha the man only stands by his devar Aloha if he first falls in it meeting a mistake he's Nick Shaw stumbling first if he stumbles this will I think strengthened his resolve I'll Kaname that's why it says shall Hoffman llamada to be at vikas that the wisdom that I learned in my state of Cass or let's just say any place that is likely to bring mistake I share how the army lead a tooth which brought me to make a mistake Hisham delete that is going to stand by me meaning kiha TOA a daughter Palma heart if you made a mistake once husband your to nish mami module abba then he will be extremely more careful from letting it happen again do you hear that I mean look the older we are the wise we are we've made many mistakes I mean I'm I should be speaking for myself I'm looking at angels on this TV thing so those of us who were like me and have made mistakes we we if we mature and we're spiritually inclined then we want to live a moral life we will take them to heart and we will be sure careful and I think it's I think it's really beautiful what he's saying so these these brothers they did sell him and I'm sure they had Kurata I'm sure they had regrets but it really didn't fix them you know the facing what you did wrong many many years ago it's could easily hidden under the rug I think this was the time for them to really come to a wise choice now they did not tell they did not have to think didn't have to tell their father what happened but don't fight on the way don't start blaming one of the major pitfalls of not growing is always blaming other people they just accept responsibility and move on you know tell their father the good news and even later on and you'll see took the parsha where even Yosef sends out the Egyptians right it was earlier at the parsha but he sends out the Egyptians when he wants to reveal who he is and he doesn't want the the lush in Hara he doesn't want to embarrass the brothers so anyway Ben Youngman never knew about it and Yaakov apparently never knew either about the sale of Yosef throughout the next 17 plus years 1700 years that that they were together it was always hidden but there's a way to give tosaka someone asked me this week how do you give telleth us sometimes a statement doesn't have to be verbal right you just don't become that don't fight all the way I mean that already is a certain aspect of giving talk aha without embarrassing everybody I don't know if you like that idea but now in the Gomorrah I think I copied over a very interesting comment because also the the Klee cars mentioned quite a few times in the comments which I joy seeing do you know that walking very quickly can damage your eyesight now is it really true that it damages your eyesight so those who want to discuss is it maybe it's there's just the first step it takes one 500th of your eye set so if you want 500 hours so then you should be blind did we see that's not the case so what does it mean some say it's only the first step and then the next step is even less and the next step is even less and it goes back to the idea that we said all beginnings are difficult that's where you could lose your eyesight we're not talking about or maybe we're not just talking about physical eyesight we're talking about spiritual eyesight to see the world now when you're driving a car as opposed to sitting in the in the passenger seat you know this huge difference when you're driving everything is just your eyes are kind of like stuck on the road and everything is whizzing by you when you're sitting in the passenger seat you can like turn your head and look at something and you like you have a real idea of what it is looking at but it's a billboard or flowers or farm but our house you could so I imagine that when you're walking through life everything's just whizzing by you I'm talking about spiritually now that you can lose perspective so the remedy because I'll tell us one Friday night when you make a douche and I don't think it's just Friday night but I'll say kaduche on that on on Yom Tov the Hakim and when you make half dollar look into the cup look at your face the truth is it's brought down a cappella look at your forehead because there's some connection between the word hot slaw ha which means success and the word Mets off Mets up did you fart I don't really understand it but I do it anyway and I don't think it saves my physical isolate or though maybe I would be legally blind if it wasn't for this but it brings a certain perspective you're not in a rush Shabbos everything is done you're not going anywhere you could really just plotz down after a hard work you know we could work and you're just in the now and I think the whole concept is clearing up your eyesight the remedy because it'll the whole idea of Shabbos it should give you a true proper perspective on life on who you are what you want to be where you want to go obviously the ultimate growth is to be perfected so the gather the resurrection of the Dead but it's much more than that [Music]