It's Not Good for Man to Be Alone with Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston

[Music] shalom awaken everybody welcome back to the ebony bait midrash welcome home to torah i hope everyone had an uplifting inspirational hug for those that didn't next year what can i tell you learn as much as you can because that will enhance your experience if you missed out now there is actually one thing i want to mention about the experience we had right we all know i mean this is not the topic for tonight so hopefully in like five six minutes we'll get into the parashat brexit we're dealing with chapter 2 verse 18 but in the meantime i just want to tell you something i came across and i think it enhanced my own prayers okay so the idea is like this we change the new sock we change the the verbiage we change the the text that we say in our prayers during the winter months and we're already beginning to pray in praising hashem for bringing the wind maeshiva rook he brings the wind and he brings down the rain yet we don't really ask for rain for another two weeks at least here in israel i know in kutzler it's in another 60 days and uh i don't know what they do in the in the southern hemisphere there's a whole different opinions of what to do but one of the questions gomorrah anit tinus asks like why is it so important that it's in prayer it's within the prayers themselves meaning the the news the the three times we pray every day also uh musaf and uh especially musaf one on um on sempras torah this is when we begin right before musaf on shemini at serious simcastora is when we begin the change and it's so important the prayers so there's a statement in the gomorrah we all know that the service of the heart right a vote that should be late the service of the heart is te feeler that's where you let's we understand it and it's a very interesting uh way to bring it out um it's like this and i just want to read some of these things this is from the ben yahoo yada the benishai he says that it seems to him this idea remember prayers themselves what are they right in the temple in the in the temple itself in the mikdash we brought two daily offerings and we burnt at night the avarim the the limbs and whatever was left over so there was one in the morning a constant or a daily offering and in the afternoon there was another daily offering and according to one opinion in the gemara right this is what fila represents we're somehow replacing they're replacing or they're in addition to the daily offerings there's another idea that abraham abraham isaac and jacob they're the ones who instituted it there's no real contradiction but we're not going to go into that so basically because the filos were established connected the tummy offering okay the tummy is the hebrew word for the daily offering now it says believe it's believe just keep in mind a voter should believe that's what feel is the word shin bet la med bet shin bet means that which is in the late keep this in mind that the word itself unbelievable when you take the letters lamidbet and make them full limit so to speak in other words you take the word the letter lamin and it becomes are you guys following me lamin is not just a letter but it's a word and the word bet is bet you tough bet there's six letters and in their that's their million now if you take the word laive out of those that fullness which i just said lamid mem dalid bet you're tough take the lamin and bet out what are you left with anybody paying attention would know the le what you're left with is the word tamid unbelievable that a voter should believe that's what is the mem i'm sorry what does the bet represent avodah it's within the heart that's the tummy when we pray we should be thinking that we're offering up these daily offerings to hashem that's the first thing he mentions the next thing that also the mizbayach right that's where the alt that's the altar that's where the tummy offering was offered on the altar how what was the measurements of the altar 32 ammos la mid bet is the number 32 llamas 30 bet is two so it's 32 by 32 so again another hint to the idea of the tamid which is offered on the altar the the dimensions of the altar are lamid bet also and he mentions again just to bring it home that the the bet is batok right it doesn't only mean batok but a letter which is a prefix can have several different types of meanings so when it's bit lathe it's mamash beto late so this is again the um it's not the ben yahoo yada meaning it's it's the bani shai and another safer of his called binahu and he brings down this important idea that it has to be with our full heart cavanaugh's halle when we pray we should really dig deep into our own hearts and he says like this lo sagi bitsiftsu it's not enough to chirp like a bird and just mention the words with your mouth yanchihi the malcolm corbin tummy remember it's the very place which is the heart which is where the daily offering is coming from and the corbin cavanaugh saleem shalom that if you bring a corbin without the proper intent it's called it's pogum it's blemished and it's not accepted therefore if you didn't have the proper kavana or you had wrong cavanagh here's a pigle the knit so the corbin it has a certain category piggle piggles when the coin doesn't have the proper intentions for when it's going to be eaten or where it's going to be slaughtered and therefore it's i'm going to say it's a waste right it's not acceptable so too when it comes to our felis when we dive and remember we're talking we're not just showing up for sure for social reasons for the kid-ish right we're actually coming to pray below yoda don't talk about other things and don't think about other things when you come to shul and pray okay so now let's begin i just wanted to you know i came across this during the hog of shimini terrace and i'm telling you it did affect me positively now what we're going to talk about today is a very interesting idea because in chapter 1 verse sorry chapter 2 verse 18 it says god said it is not good that man be alone i will make him a helper corresponding to him now in english you don't really fully understand the depth of this but let's hear what it says in hebrew and i said it's verse 18. here it is the omar hashem elukim lo tov hayoto adam livando it's not good that man should be alone now why the clia car is now going to by the way i just want to mention we're using the clear car for the basis of this discussion and you can find the hebrew sheets on our website there'll be a link below i encourage everyone to make the effort to try to learn some hebrew it will expand your mind and here we go now before we even go into this idea what does it mean man should not be alone the the pushup shot the simple explanation would simply be that man must get married he needs i'm not sure about man as in male but a female also even though it's not a huge it's not an obligation for a woman but obviously for the purpose of procreating which again is not a few that's not an obligation or a woman but this is a it's a good thing for the world but a man does have this obligation but something i mentioned before this year the vilna gone says what's the whole purpose of life tikkun hamidos we're here to fix our character from whatever happened in a previous lifetime or in the in the world of souls we don't really know all that much but we do know the purpose of life is to work on whatever god gave us and make it better to improve on that so if you go to proverbs chapter 18 verse 22 it says he who has found well i should say like this says like this matzo is whoever has found a wife has found goodness the affect ratzon hashem and has obtained favor from the lord i just want to tell you arashi says what does it mean who you found the torah i'm sorry it means he who has found the torah in other words your wife is your torah we spoke about jonathan benouziel people can look that up he was a very interesting i'll say character in the talmud tamuda times and he never got married but people do go to his cover to his grave site specifically to pray for a wife because he said he would help others rash he also mentions what does it mean you have attained so a man who found a wife found good has obtained favor meaning he obtains favor from hashem so we can already see this is going to be a very good thing to get married now what does it mean low tove now just keep in mind when god created the world in the six days meaning in chapter one we see clearly that god mentions over and over again ketov this is good this is good this is good which day did he not say this is good monday we'll call day two in other words the second day god does not use the words ki tov we're going to talk about this so what is good and what is not good in other words it's not good for man to be alone god already said this is good on day one day three four five and when day six comes he actually also i should say like this in day three he also mentions kitov twice so on day three he mentions it's good and on day six he also mentions it was good twice actually the second time he says it says toba ode very good we're not going to deal with all that but just keep in mind that in day two as larry mentioned called day two's monday that was that it was good was not mentioned keep this in mind let's look at the clear car he says locus any place or everywhere however you want to translate that every place or anywhere where there is a shinoy shinoi means differentiations or maklocus which means divisive divisions and division to be divisive right this is not good ain hatovah mitsuya sham good will not be found there i could not have made this up this is we're seeing this it doesn't pay to be divisive our job in this world is somehow to unify what that's that is a whole right there's even a big discussion between truth and shalom which is more important if you had a choice okay we're not going to go too much into that but i think you'll come to certain conclusions at the end it says like this charade me tom zelone and it's for this very reason that the words it was good was not mentioned by monday by day two of creation what happened on day two larry you're on a streak already that's when the waters were divided right let's go do i have it here um if you look in number two on the english english source sheets genesis one verse six through eight and it's obvious only one of them but the idea of separation and the fact that god did not say it was good is clearly mentioned meaning it's clear that he doesn't say it it says god said let there be an expanse in the midst of the water and let it be a separation between water and water and god made the expanse and he separated between the water that was below the expanse and the water that was above the expanse the yav he doesn't say and it was good why it's not good to cause separation okay now the clear car we're only on line two leficia bonivra mark locust now that not only was mach locus which means separation actually it's it's more than that it's argumentation it's fighting okay it's real divisiveness and we're going to find out also that gehennam whatever that means people translate as purgatory but gehenna is a place for the refinement of the soul right after one dies if it's necessary if they need it and it can be anywhere from one second up until 12 months certainly not more of course there's always exceptions to every rule okay any time you have the number two right if you have one it's there's total unity but once you have the number two it implies a haluka or payroot some kind of division separation that is symbolized by the number two now if that's the case now you could read this as if each individual human being was created individually we were all created from adam and eve but more than that adam and eve were also created from the same home there the same material and eve was only then separated it depends how you look at it according to one opinion they were going to use that opinion that they were created like siamese twins back to back so in other words he created them together put man to sleep and create you know through a surgical process separated them so i think it means man as an adam if adam would have been created each of them from the same um from the same choi mere by themselves meaning if me female and male would have been created separately in cain you schneider then you would have had two then you would have had two you would have what goofing separate bodies and then you would never have had the possibility of good clinging to them in other words the possibility of good could never have somehow involved itself in their lives why then if they would have been created separately and you wouldn't have had good uh cleaving within them then there would have been a lack of love and unity it was never part of their essence it was never part of their macor their source but once it's part of their source and their essence then it can always be recaptured but if it wasn't there to begin with then the chances of it ever coming would have been second to nothing so go along with this thought because they would have been lacking any kind of love and unity the ukri theme love only the peru mariva then their tendency would be towards separation and strife the litan been advaicing and there would have been a distance between that which should have been connected but right the other medina and now listen this is a very fundamental principle man really loves relationships that's what we need we are not to be alone we need relationships listen to the words here the medina the way it works but in in the natural order of human beings tsarik yotter we require much more love and intimacy and and closeness and unity than any other animal that was ever created now i don't know about the microscopic level i don't know how it works right but i do see animals and i don't think they're as loyal there are going to always be exceptions right there are certain birds i've heard about who are we called monogamous is that the word that are let's say extremely loyal to their mate and again even if they're monogamous i don't know if they're 100 monogamous but let's just say there are a few exceptions that are but for the most part animals are not most animals are not and even if they are let's say you know because there are even certain um i don't know insects or certain things that only have uh procreate once and then they die i mean there are certain things like that that exist in the world obviously they're monogamous right they never had a chance to what's the word procreate with anybody else but yeah you can't say that right but you know when you think about just i i love to watch human beings you know i sit in the park on the bench and you know you see couples whether they're arm and arm or hand in hand or you know they're going home together right and sometimes they're even in a bad relationship but doing it for the kids whatever there's a lot of reasons why people stay together okay but most of the time it's out of love it's out of a positive positive feeling so you do have to say i mean i'm not telling you what to say but it seems like we are very unique animals right species on this planet okay let's now we understand why it says shalot it doesn't mention that it's good right we're talking about what chalotov let's leave it the way it says it's not good it wouldn't have been good if man would have been created from one type of material or a particular type a particular material and a woman would have been created from other material right even the same material but separately therefore therefore our verse says acello eze remember god said i will make him azer means a helper a help mate but we didn't read the whole verse but we're going to leave it for now god says i will make him a helper you mean when they would be and that's the way we were create we were created from one or let's say the same matter then each one would be there meaning not just the man to help the woman or just the woman to help the man but each one would be there azer to help la ho el ashani to assist and to help and to bring up right to raise up to um benefit the other one the user connected now the word connected can also mean many different things connected can mean in opposition to and we're going to hear that but not today so much or connect it could mean in the presence of okay but anyway that's the word god used what does it mean connected we're going to use it more in the sense of in the presence of but even facing ponem penne himself because remember when he created them they were like siamese twins back to back once they're separated they can turn around towards each other you cannot i mean again maybe there are exceptions to rule but it seems impossible to turn face to face when you're literally connected back to back the kizem this whole idea of the disconnect and then the reconnection face to face is actually an expression of love now i know there are maybe children watching okay but there is a thing called a missionary position right in terms of sexual relations this is what i heard i don't know okay i'm not a biologist or uh you know i don't study animals but i heard that there might be exceptions but most animals do not make love face to face most or whatever i don't know it's from back to front to back whatever it is i'm not going to go into it right but you get the idea here that there is something unique about the human um species that that would face i'm sure there's exceptions yeah now like it says now we know this yeah the gamora mentions it great okay so it says in psalms chapter verse 8 i think you can find this number four on page two right it mentions this is king david king david oh what what a beautiful singer of song what a high level man of kodesh the soul of the meshiach himself and he said sweet hashem right i'm going to give this a plug anybody wants to learn the shock and arc with us in the ibn abate midrash this is in one of the in within the first halacha of the this is how we wake up every morning and we should be thinking right i place hashem yudkevke before me always which the mishna brewer describes that on the eyelids your own eyelids when you close your eyes you imagine looking at the letters yud and hey and vav hey and imagine your your intimate relationship with hashem okay so basically the word negdy here obviously does not mean in opposition but in the presence of right i place hashem before me in my presence always okay again interesting the word tamir but in my heart perhaps like i said before but anyway it means constantly remember i'm going to give a plug the six constant mitzvahs i gave this a series on it and it's down below i'll put i'll put a link in to the description box ain't rousho hit nagdut shel meriva i mentioned the word hind can mean two things in the same sense the first time it's mentioned it means in opposition to so the the explanation of negdy and king david psalm is not in opposition to strife and sorry right now but rather it's ella hitna but rather in the presence of love and we have a verse in proverbs chapter 27 verse 19. you can find that in number five on the uh sourshi where it says kamayam hapanim lapanim when you look down into the water right what do you see you see your own reflection well guess what this is how we when we relate to other people right you can see their heart i mean when people talk to you right when you talk to people when you're confident when you're happy when you're insecure whatever it is people can read you don't think for a second right the heart knows right because when basically just like water the face is to another face so hopefully this is what love is all about we can have true expressions of love it has to start within you have to love yourself right when we come back to the original idea of the hafta reach love your neighbor as yourself how can you possibly love your neighbor if you don't love yourself right and people can see through the facade that people put up anyway la fuque bizman chamorila mitsuye this excludes this is would take out the time where mariva is mariva's strife and divisiveness is commonly found when their strife people are not communicating they're not looking at each other there's no love but rather it's like one is turning their back to the other and this is in my mind catastrophic what the jewish people need what god actually wants from us is to be unified we always have to find that which is actually in common with other jews and overlook that which is bringing the divisiveness okay but rather each person right as we said when you're divisive you turn your back to the other person and that's why now we understand when god's going to create let's say it's not good for man to be alone therefore i'm going to create this azer connecto it's a s i'm going to make for him the azer which is a help person a helper kin negdo in his presence to love i do have to say look on the other side i've told you guys before before i got married i had this interesting rabbi and he said to me aron david with a very harsh what do you call it not a a heavy uh yiddish accent right now you're the life of the party everybody loves you and yeshiva you're like you know mr popular everybody loves you you're going to get married and that's all going to go away right she's going to find anything and everything to criticize you it's just the way it is okay see but this is for your benefit and that's we're going to talk about now a little bit in other words even though everything we spoke about was in terms of love and unity there is also a benefit to the connecto being an opposition right you don't want to marry a clone you'll never grow there won't be any friction you need friction to grow and i'm not just talking about in terms of a sexual sense i'm talking about in every sense right you need some kind of friction in order to grow so let's go to the next paragraph yay show me remember it said lo tov does not get mentioned in day two right some say the very fact it does not say low to not good that shayna adam nikkor that a human being cannot be called a doer of good right that is hopefully what we are we accomplish things we make the planet a better place right we make the world a better place right a doer of good a person cannot be considered or is not called the doer of good in the midst of the shemius barak kishore vado when he is alone now think of it as the terms of the community just to start with right it's unbelievable i also spoke about this also in sukkot i'm not going to talk about it right now but the whole idea is that in terms of doing truva on your own it seems like it's easily acceptable during the 10 days of juva but throughout the year we need a community the acceptance of the community's truth is acceptable all year round and sukkot when we bring all the arbor and medium together is kind of like a what's the word it's it's a seed it's planting the echo it's putting into action the unity that we create on circus that hopefully will continue through the whole year where we can really truly feel true unity i know it's very difficult in these days and times but it's something we have to try to get over and figure out a way to see the good in others right and focus on that we talked about the azamra from right there's a whole philosophy in the breslau and that's a good thing to to to work on so the idea that you have to take the ar but the mean and beyond rishon why not just say the 15th because the measure says that sukis is the khala of the nose it's like a new slate we're starting all over again after we already finished the year rosh hashanah yom kippur we start a whole new year starting on sukkah it's yomma rishon it's the first day and the first day you make an impression of achtus by bringing the four meaning together which represents different people on amish realm okay let's move on to the idea that he wants to bring he says a person is not considered or called doing good or i'm not a good doer you know but a person who does good in the midst of hashem when he's alone the enlo mit naged mate ra without some kind of negative influence and boy does the world have a lot of negative influence today which means the potential for good is unbelievable do you understand that the more evil that seems to come into the world and i'll just mention this because there's certain words i cannot use on facebook but mandates i think that's acceptable right when there's a coercion of society that can really be have more negative ramifications than positive we have to be very careful there must be a lot of evil in the world and it must be that the potential for good is just around the corner so without some adversary in this sense and yes some kind of adversary that's inclining you towards evil right of course we can call that the satan but in judaism the way we understand the satan is nothing at all the way the christians or zoroasterism or any of these other religions these man-made religions came up with um an opposite of god because he's not opposite of god he is a or it is a obedient angel doing exactly what god wants him to do and if you're not clear about that go ahead and read the book of job which is a great book for the whole world to read right especially non-jews because he was a non-jew but anyway that's not for now the point here is of course thank you larry you must use jewish commentary correct okay so here we go lefika this is the very reason slo azer connecto that god would create now this is the opposition would create a helpmate opposite him kibameshita is before i translate this i don't think he's talking about the woman being the embodiment of evil huss for shalom i just want to make sure that's clear what it has to do in my mind is the way that she is so beautiful and she's enticing and can make your make your mind drift away from god consciousness our goal is to keep god consciousness in our relationship okay so i'll now translate this in that that the woman is going to be against him and entice him to do not such good things the whole ishmael then he wouldn't listen to her i'm not even saying she's speaking okay i'm saying she's just being and she's so beautiful and enticing the in-natural but yet he resists her meaning he resists his passions and uses it for holiness as only then can he be called a doer of good only when there is friction or opposition now keep in mind there is an interesting verse in let's see if i can find ecclesiastes 7 20 where it says for there is no righteous man on earth who does good and sins not that's one way to read it that's way to understand it that you're not going to be so so holy and good there's no point in even trying no that's not what it means okay there's no righteous man on earth who does good and does not sin but rather like this try to understand it like this that without that friction there's no way you could do good the good is only in relation to the friction inside there's no such thing as being so righteous in this world kishiyase tov because you're doing good meets because your nature is only to do good you won't be righteous i mean we do think of you know people completely righteous who overcame their evil inclination that's fine again these are like very rare exceptions um meaning that they didn't even have perhaps they didn't even have an evil inclination right they were just brought up so pure and so holy so these are like the exceptions the way to become holy is to fight to to uh work against the uh this compulsion so basically it's like this let's go back when a man a man cannot be considered righteous in the land when he does good from compulsion and he doesn't have any even ability to sin he's just so righteous seemingly we're not going to call him a do-gooder we're it's only when he has the ability to sin it's only when the enticement is there which is going to come through the act of being married bazrat hashem everyone should get married i want to go off a little bit to actually it's in the english source sheet number three there's a whole idea of zoo goat for those who are not familiar it's going to sound very strange okay the gemura discusses the idea that relates back to day two day two in in brexit in genesis talked about twos bring strife and negativity correct we were clear about that now apparently when you yourself use items food items of twos it's strongly discouraged in the gemara okay the gamora discusses it right here um after mentioning it it brings up the idea what about on pesach don't we use four cups and four is ultimately the multiplication of two and it says when it's done for god when it's done for good it's not going to have a negative effect okay so it's really rare that we're going to have this but keep in mind that even the shocking art doesn't bring it down as a halacha but it's something to philosophize about to i'll tell you what it really comes down to being god conscious or not being god conscious right god is one and anything that is two is is division strife and can bring or distract you from god consciousness so if you look at gamora brachos 51b look in page one right this idea you're not supposed to speak over a cup of the blessing from the moment you take it in your hand until you drink it one may not recite a blessing over such a cup because a cup of punishment what exactly is this so review socks if nachman bar yes said it's called a second cup the opinion was also taught in a bryce one who drinks in pairs should not recite a blessing okay we're not going to go too much into it but we're going to go this is really the key the key is in gemarp as i mentioned there was a whole discussion about the four cups on pesach keep in mind that the the night of pesach is lyleshmarim it's a night that god guards you and no damaging uh forces no i'm going to call them demons but demons don't don't get don't get distracted with the word let's just call them uh maziki in hebrew means negative forces okay so these negative forces can affect a person so he says on pesach it's not to it's not going to affect them but the gomorrah says how can the estab how could the sages establish a matter through which one will come to danger meaning the four cups wasn't it taught in a bryce a person should not eat in pears even a number of food items he shouldn't drink in pairs like cups he shouldn't wipe himself with pears and he shouldn't attend to his sexual needs in pairs well guess what when it came to the gamora gomorrah says you know what in eretz israel we're not really concerned this is something you have to worry about in hutzlarz right in florida for example but he says in babylon okay so there's a few other examples i'm not going to go into it right now what i do want to read for you is something very interesting i have here two articles which i i gave you on that list there's two um websites one is in one is from ursa mach so you don't have this but on the orsonic website someone asks why are even numbers said to come from unholy spheres so the this is the question dear rabbi on behalf of myself and my fellows to my fellow students at two atomic classes in jerusalem i submit the following the talmud states that a second cup of wine is dangerous raj explains the second cup that constitutes zoo goat pears which cause damage by demons please clarify the concept of zugot and explain why if pairs are considered a bad omen why did we use two challahs on shabbat so the rabbi answers from orsamaya there is a concept that zoo goat or pairs can cause spiritual damage the basic idea behind this is that even numbers are based on the number two while odd numbers are based on the number one the number one represents the omnipotence of god remember i told you it's all about just being god conscious well number two represents heresy the disbelief in the omnipotence of god impure forces have no power against the person meditating on the omnipotence of god that's why in today's society even those who are taking the medicine that's prescribed by the governments as long as they believe in god and it's not the medicine then maybe the medicine will protect them or they'll be protected from the medicine but but the main thing is not to believe in the medicine but to believe in god so again impure forces have no power against the person meditating on the omnipotence of god so while someone does an activity based on the number one the so-called demons can't do anything to him and his soul or what they call subconscious if you will is aware of god's omnipotence therefore the danger of zoo goat does not apply when doing a mitzvah such as eating halal on friday night or when a person performs a mitzvah he does so because of his belief in god and is thus protected from these negative influences therefore the talmud implies that zugot only harms someone who's concerned with them the that's the code of jewish law does not even bring down the idea of zugot being a prohibition therefore when i go shopping and i'm constantly buying things in twos i'm always thinking i believe in one god but this is a good price it says two for the price of one so what can i do look i drive i would drive the um the what do you call it the cashier crazy you know and i had to find someone in line who would buy the other one so anyway that's the way it works um rabbi steinzoltz the other it's very interesting but i want to go now too in the gemara sahim in the commentaries here i want us to the far right side at the bottom she looks like this guys the far right and bottom where it says meduzarika why should we or why is it necessary to be concerned or careful about these pairs i want to help us understand remember zoo goat or loto isn't that what we said for some reason it divisiveness is not good and if we think in terms of two gods right that's already not good right so here it says the gemara odom tray velo yishta tray a person should need two pairs and he shouldn't drink two pairs digmor explains that the isser to eat or to drink in zugos is because of these strange negative forces will have some influence on you and the rebate revena bakaya now i don't i don't i actually have here interestingly enough the whole remain of a high in english um but i think what we'll do is i'll do my best to explain through the hebrew here he said he quotes rebecca bechaya that the shoresh that the the root of the matter is like this that during the second day of creation right during creation of the world during the second day that's when my locus again maklocus means argumentation divisiveness separation remember it doesn't say the words it was good it left it out god left it out the thief because that's what caused all the problems that came afterwards day two was like the domino effect you got day three four five and six not such good things happened on those days let's hear what he says meaning from the second day onward they changed they deviated from the will of god behold on the third day when god said that the fruit tree should bear fruit like the the the branches like the the trunk itself meaning the eight's ottoman yet pre meaning that the the trunk itself would taste like a fruit hayloh asta kane remember it didn't do it so the ground did not listen to god it went against hashem's ratzon already on day three and what about the fourth day katrina the moon apparently the moon and the sun were the same size you guys listening the sun and the moon were were past tense the same size and while they were the same size there was an argument between the two the omr and the moon had a complaint ef how can we build both be in the glory of god the same it's how can we both be wearing a crown um we can't both wear the crown neither one of us can be the two of us cannot be king at the same time and what did god do he diminished the the light and the size of the moon what happened on yom kamishi this is a little bit on the spooky side apparently there are these two great i'm not sure if they're fish or mammals but they definitely live in the water called the leviathan there was a pair of them a male and a female by the way and the rabbis explained that what did god do he what's the word he unfertilized it's called the castrated thank you saressa zachar he castrated the male the horror gets in the caver he killed the female um tsundikim lost his lovo and he made her pickled pickled her assaulted her for what for us to feast on the righteous people to feast on in the future what happened on the sixth day okay thank you larry uh beyonce what happened on the sixth day we all know adam and java sinned and they were basically going to be expelled from the garden of eden now if that's all true in kane because what do we find that all the days that followed day two uh indian kits rogue the shinoi kevana supirun that we see that there's this argumentation or prosecution right this negativity and the changing of a deviation of command and separation the sibat coulomb who hayom shaini they all stretch back to the cause the original cause was yom shami the second day they're all coming out of the power that was created which we said was gehenna by the way right which is separation i think it means the zugos were turned around i'm not sure uh basically according to their according to their uh changes from like semele means like the the similarities of separation and the lack remember this is the whole point it was lack of actus it's anything that is separate and str and causes strife is the opposite of octus and it causes the lack of octus of unity alkane music this is what damages people that people who are argumentative meaning there is an art to an argument right you do it with mido to vote there's a way okay but when you're um when all you are is embodiment of of argumentation then the music can get a hold of you and the shulkin shall arbor which is a safer he adds to what rebecca has just said and he says the reason we're encouraged or warned about staying our distance away from these zugoti's pairs is kade ligvoa belaith in order to instill within the heart at malasa or this is something we really i'm talking for myself here to establish and set within my own heart and in the the advantages the positivities the outcome of having actus and to separate yourself interesting and really distance yourself from separation separate yourself from separateness no distance yourself from set from strife and separateness separateness the sim and the devarim how would i translate that and then it's more proper that it's fitting and these ideas in in in in natural things that are natural basically the reason he brings this down is because uh i have another page which you guys don't have the benue in both the uh ben yodan and the ben yahoo explain a little bit more that when it's created by god natural foods like you asked me for examples cucumbers peppers things that are natural foods and become ripe and ready for consumption by god those are the things that you're supposed to stay away from whereas man-made things whether it's hollowed man-made them or things you manufacture right or prepare that human beings have a hand in that you don't have to worry about and but either way there's a lot of reasons why you don't have to worry about this at all there's a lot of reasons why you can be superstitious or you can say look it's all about god consciousness whatever yom shami brought into the world the second day i don't really want a part of i want to bring octus therefore no matter when i'm going to the store i'm i'm buying something for shabbos i'm buying something so i can do more mixes because if i don't have the energy right why do i eat i eat in order to serve hashem so if whatever you're doing is for the greater good which is the good of doing mitzvahs remember the word mitzvah is to connect to hashem so as long as you're living a life of torah and mitzvahs it's really not going to have a negative effect on you keep that in mind and i think that's also why in eric israel it didn't have such an effect being in eritrea is such a big and unusual word mitzvah meaning it's an opportunity to lacha bear to really connect with hashem the word mitzvah in athbash keep in mind the vav and the hay is the last two letters of god's name the memsadek of mitzvah is really in atmash is a udenhay and when we do mitzvot which anyway the root is sevit sevit it's all that not to command but to unite that we are uniting with god that is the most beautiful thing about life and i'm going to end here keep in mind that when you get in a relationship hopefully it's for the sake of not just procreation but have also true love right and that that person whether it's the male or the female that you're involved with obviously talking about uh you know to the males the female the the female the male that is in order to work on your character that this person will not only be there for you and support you or love you but will also be critical to the point hopefully that it's only a motivation a motivator towards working on your character for the good in other words she or he will encourage you to be a better person and not god forbid the other way around okay so that was today's lesson i just want to wish everybody you know a a good winter against the people south of the equator uh a good summer but either way we should have biz rather shem as we used to as i used to give brothers all the time and i have to get back into it right one should be blessed with all the gosh and the rookiness and the ruknis and the goshamias all the spiritual power and all of the physical blessings in order to constantly elevate you and misrate hashem we will see you next week with the shams have a great life [Music] here [Music]