Halacha Series part#5 Home2Torah with Rabbi Aaron Dovid Poston

[Music] so welcome everybody we're going to do chapter three in the show fan art and is the Huggett of the man this is the behavior of people in the morning and it's something that's going to sound very strange so we'll only spend a little bit of time but maybe I'm open to the discussion and questions we will spend that much time reading the very first law that's brought down is not applicable today at all but in your mind's eye you should understand what the Shelf and RF is trying to tell us and that is that with one enters a bathroom meaning a toilet in a double e WC to relieve himself not to do the laundry sometimes in the laundry room right is that shared with the bathroom maybe your giving you kids a bath no we're talking about your going into the the bathroom in order to relieve yourself you should say to the angels that are accompanying you please wait for me outside and the chef Canora clearly says that nowadays this is not our custom and we'll have to see why the truth is that I do sense angels around me but not all the time and not consistently and not even on a regular fact not even on a regular basis but I'm cognizant of the fact that when we learned Gemara the letters gentle men rach olive actually stand for Gavriel myth they are awfully allegory ow the four angels that are surrounding you in your learning scripture Torah the oral torah specifically come home Friday night and we sing Sholem Aleichem to the Angels that s Curtis home from shul but the truth is they're really around us all the time but we're not cognizant too fact is the mr. Brewer brings down VI shop he ain't a new moves uh King Lear hm I inshallah love him alive in Montana we're not on the level we don't have the proper law of God to really recognize the fact that it B Musa Musa how would you translate moves up strength into this concept and knowledge and awareness that the angels are constantly escorting us around that we would SHINee Vox Shan Shan Teemu Leino I should say that we would request for them to wait for us when we leave the bet you know wait here until I finish but when you hear this idea you kind of like it I don't know no goose bumps or creeps or whatever it is just that you're not alone there are forces in this world that are in our in our presence constantly okay so you don't have to knock from the door and let the we get to not go to the door yet and anytime you go through any door you should always knock on the door in case there's somebody in there you don't surprise them and startle them god forbid give them some technical heart attack so even when you go to the bathroom and you know it's empty it's good point to not for the door anyway especially I actually walked him on one somebody I forgot to knock sounds in a rush you know sometimes you have those those moments so maybe it's also a good idea to stop and think before you walk from the bathroom and you don't have to tell the Angels that way from the outside but at least knock on the door so that in case there is somebody in there there you're either warned that we know what you know they're in there which we're going to discuss how they're gonna let you know especially when you're not supposed to talk while you're in the bathroom we leave it yourself okay so we did the first hole offer you just see what says in English when one enters the bathroom stand respect for the honored ones but this time it's not touching we say fine so you're basically asking the odd wants to wait for you to you are finished next to you hates a new above 8 the Keisei one should be modest in the bathroom Lady Gaga add some oh I see a shape okay this is um it's a little bit I guess it's easier for women if they wear skirts right but it's difficult for men and he discusses how much in the front how much of the back one should reveal themselves in order really not to there's like a balancing act here you don't want to get dirty all right you want to walk out of the bathroom like a human being and not like a schmutzie dirty person right so there's a balancing act between being modest how much to reveal and how much right not to reveal you don't want to get yourself dirty so there has to be a maximum amount of minimum amount of revealing yourself so your your your garments don't get soiled men and women are different okay guys in America minute we commit her different okay so he says Coosh Nana she be I thought two men should not go to the same stall should not be in the bathroom together obviously many many public bathrooms large rooms they have different stalls so obviously gonna be the same room but not the same stall together it's gonna be different enough about women and God look at dr. Sean also you should not speak there it really again if you're doing your laundry you're giving your kids two baths it's not a problem it's why we're leaving yourself and it says when you score how del it by odd double shoots nude and once you close the door on a cat of modesty this all sounds very practical right and like a no-brainer so when he said that mister brings down bring down when it says you shouldn't really reveal yourself until you're actually sitting good then surely y'all cook sugar good also when you're finished you also should pull your back up again we're talking about men and women wearing skirts and until your you should stand up while you're revealed you should try to as you're getting up or you know however comfortable it is but it's the principle obviously everybody's body is made differently some people cannot do this but the concept here is just to be as modest as possible even in a room obviously when you go to a shower when you go to a spa where it's you know what's the same sex spot it's all you know hot tubs and whatnot I don't know let's just you know equal those places the locker room okay so these rooms are made specifically to be naked so it's not really a problem it's like but when you're buying yourself you know when you're anything you're able to do you should still do to be remote remain modest and the whole idea of not having two people even if like even if you're afraid right you shouldn't go to people even if you're afraid but he mentions that let's say this sounds really strange if there's a window from the outside and the person is afraid so you could put your hand on his head through the window remember the let's say there are all principals here they're not exactly you know it's not every every situation is going to fit this but the whole idea is that the other person shouldn't see his nakedness so also even with your own wife even with your own spouse however if you're with a child who obviously needs help it's not a problem at all the idea of not speaking is if you have like a great need in mic like you know let's say toilet paper excuse me anybody out there help pass the toilet paper let's say there's a great need you can think of whatever you want so then it's okay to talk the whole time you're not actually revealed relieving yourself but at the moment you are relieving yourself in for a great need it would be forbidden and if it's impossible to close the door and you have another person someone else wants to enter let's say God forbid up and in a situation there's no door there's no lock doors they might have been box by their some of them did so what does it say so you know how resembles a blue dabu that you should grunt or make some kind of noise it's you've not having a copy the whole point is the bathroom is not a congregation place to have conversations right you can do that maybe in the spa you know in the bathhouse but not when you are relieving yourself I want to tell you my Rocha Shiva or of North Weinberg taught us that I think I mentioned this before we're the only animals that carry this sack of feces around us and have to wait to go to a certain place we don't just go wherever we want and it's to remind us to do Trula to do truly and and we're not supposed to think when I was in my Christian days most of my best prayers are in the bathroom believe it or not I think a lot of people probably can relate but in Judaism we don't have any holy thoughts we don't reach our own tree Scripture we don't pray to our Creator in the bathroom but the rocha Shiva said we should think of Tuva how lowly we are we're just bust of a table we came from a tip of screw cloud we came from just a drop and we developed which is quite miraculous but we're nothing and we're carrying around our you know our baggage gripped us until we're able to relieve ourselves to think of Trula the general concept if you heard such a thing isn't it beautiful okay so as he says if someone else wants to come in with a door or a lock you grunt but it says by women women are different okay now why can women go together in a public place let's say it's a public bathroom because well I mean I don't really have to specify too much what could happen but women are generally afraid of the man walking in and then maybe a man less so I don't know but so if women are in a public bathroom they're allowed to go together right if they're afraid that someone else might walk in or god forbid they try to take advantage and if they look out the field same thing that another woman can be there to assist her mistake hold their hand but whatever accompany accompany her and there even a lot of talk especially in the public bathroom because that will definitely give not rise to a me who wants to anybody who wants to come in that there are people that's more than one person and they whatever you know I'm at a minute okay what they're thinking but it's a great preventative medicine let's say for anybody who might want to take advantage okay okay now number three is I'm not gonna go into too much detail because we didn't have toilet paper back then and not only that they didn't have what's the word there's like what rules do you what does that called laxatives so let's say it wasn't you need it you had constipation and you needed some kind of a suppository or a laxative to help you relieve yourself so it gives some advice okay so we're going to go to number four okay now number four is talking about how much to reveal yourself in the front and the back the main goal is a balancing act between being modest and soil in your clothes so everyone's gonna be different you know how how you can crouch down how you can you know not everyone's needs work the same with certain ages so but the principle is gonna be the same but the advice here is that you should reveal yourself except in the back by @ff which is one hand breadth but two in the front so obviously when you're wearing pants it obviously doesn't work like that well it may be not at efrat but it's gonna be less in the back and more in the front but by a woman it's enough 110 each direction so what's the idea first of all if a man this is just you know throw the men listening let's say you go to the bathroom and you want to do a call number two it's called get Darlene but you have no intention to do a number one which is urinating a lot of times when you sit down all of a sudden the feeling comes and you you feel you have to urinate so again the goal is to keep your clothes clean and and remain modest at the same time and so they think I think number five so let's say you going you're out in the woods or you're in a place where you don't have walls in other words it's you say now house when a house has wolves usually so we're saying outside the outhouse right you're here you're in a place where there are no well obviously if there's a tree that that's good so you go next to the tree but there's an idea here about which direction to be in it's gonna get a little complicated because there are different ways to understand it and read it but it kind of matches up with number six but the idea is that when you're in Jerusalem and you're close to the base of Nick - it's absolutely forbidden to urinate for a man to urinate in the direction of the temple because you can see it from everywhere and if you're if you urinating in the direction of the temple it's what can I tell you it's like spitting you know it looks like it disgrace the disgraceful act so here it talks about directions east and west you shouldn't make a number to Koga Dali in facing either way east or west because even though we say the sheena is in where the West was the same as the East so other words it's the same line you know so the idea is to not be facing that direction way no matter where you are in the world east or west but that's if you have a proper bathroom with all the heats of proper walls so then it doesn't really apply for it to most people and the other in number 6 where it talks about sleeping with your wife which there's a whole chapter about those laws which maybe the chef will get to but it's brought here because of the idea of not having your bed east or west so the ideas like this the the Rambam who wrote a book called the garret the KO dish which has to do with the laws of sexual relations between man and his wife and he discussed this idea of east and west as opposed to north and south north and south if you have your bed north and south I'm talking about with your wife what happens is that we're talking about a perfect balancing act not to be too cold with your wife and not to be too hot with your wife meaning you have to talk to her with a lot of sensitivity and learn again this is dealing with enraged matter this is dealing with laws of sexual relations but we're talking about relations in general especially before consummating the Act the a man has to be extremely kind and sensitive to his wife and not to be extreme either too cold or too hot now because you know that's what that north-south represents but there's other he also explains things that we eat before having relations because you don't want to upset the stomach which will then affect your your body and your metabolism and everything else that you need to be involved with okay so we'll continue this this next week I just wanted to give you a brief introduction for for a chapter 3 ok any questions at this point fascinating if you want to open the finish - yes the the chakra narc says we're not accustomed this for to do it this way because most people are not on the level of the not they're not they don't have the or an awareness of the angels meaning word we have descended we're not as spiritual as we used to be but I would say that anybody that does it should the feels that actually feels it probably could do it but I wouldn't tell anybody because it's a it may appear to be haunting Cathy's laughing meaning I think I think when you go to the bathroom it's probably appropriate to think about it you know but to say it is a little bit haughty because who are you looking for the token arc says but not on that level today we're the word we've descended you know we're not aware of things we don't have a proper Hall to be consciously aware of that so it's true let's say it's true but you happen to know there's still there even though you're not aware of them so you want to give them honor by guess the weight for you so it certainly will appear haughty what do you think sadi I'm right he likes he likes my answer [Music]