Yesod of Hod - Counting the Omer - "Be Thankful" - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] so we're gonna be counting yes oh gee behold in search of all is the 34th day of the omen and as we explained the whole week of hood we're focusing on the power of my soul that is called Hoda ah it's called Coco nefesh my soul has many different powers one of the powers is called it meeting Hoda this is if you know how to master that you'll be a very successful individual very few people know how to admit and admit when they're wrong when they made a mistake this is a art to be able to know how to admit now we're focusing on the yes soulja behold the foundation of the hood is the power of the soul that will allow me to say thank you that's another thing that is pretty rare in this planet is being grateful and being thankful and bring appreciative and sometimes you are but it doesn't come out and the your soldier behold is not only the power to say thank you but a real thank you not just say thank you you know that's what you say a waiter when he gives you your food you say thank you like I'm talking about a real thanking a real thanking a real sense of appreciation you know what it does it will make a connection between two hearts if I really thank you for whatever it is even if you just did something very very small it makes a connection between both of our hearts so much more so is when I do a real thanking with a Shem how it's connecting me to the Kailash Mahal how many times do we have to thank a shame you wake up in the morning you say ma Daniel fernika I know I explained many times as Modi means I admit in front of you but don't we can take the words out of their own context and moodini are you thank you thank you for everything that you do how do you teach real kids when you say buy hot what do we tell the kids we're thanking em they don't understand exactly what's going on the blessing but you have a little kid somebody gives them a candy or something say thank you to the love me so we constantly trying to teach the kids the funny thing is that we're trying to teach the kids we don't even know how to say thank you so a real thanking a real appreciation will always cause two hearts to get connected so much more so when I'm thinking a shame will cause my spiritual heart and a shamisen spiritual heart to be connected to now everything that we do that is called an action it will birth something whether you realize it or not every action that you do it doesn't stop in the action that's why it's called an action in Hebrew it makes much more sense the words because enable action is called Paola Paola means that I did something that will now result in another thing this is the word Paola and I blow so when I do any type of an action whether I agree with it or not or good knowledge it or not or see it or not there is a result to my action and if you really focus and meditate and when I just said you'll see wait a minute do you write every action that I do will births a result now be very careful with your actions because you don't know what it's going to birth now I'll give you one example I mean I can get now very upset that's the action of anger but what's the result now oh I can break a window I can slap somebody in their face I can hurt somebody's feelings I can say words that I will never be able to reverse so my action is very very dangerous on the other hand if you take it to the positive side my actions good actions will birth good results so taking the action of thanking then has to be some type of a result what's the results of gratitude and thankful less and so forth is that it will birth something good and in most cases my action will birth another Berthe result here it will birth something good what is it birthing the power of this missile this ability to be grateful and thankful and when you're looking at the yes sort of whole world is admitting you saw the foundation of the sword is the power to connect myself to anything with being grateful and thankful so to admit this is one thing but thanking will be the power that will connect me to anything that I'm being grateful to and this whole point of this universe is to connect things together if your agenda is to disconnect yourself from things and you're doing completely the opposite of the Torah that's why again you see that the severe sins in the Torah are the sins that are causing separations the greatest meets vault is that mitzvot that cause unity that's why Shem only wants unity and closeness and togetherness so the sins specifically look at the sins of the Torah that are causing separation or disagreement these are the worst sins because the whole point of this creation is what's called lay ahead you who team is to make unities in things you praying a safari do-si-do and thus far as ido and some others in the limb you'll see that before any mitzvah that you do what do we say the chamois hood could travel harsh maintain for the sake of the unity between the Kenosha cocoa industry now so about making unities together so how do you apply that how do you bring this power out so the assault the foundation of hope is the power to connect two things together by being thankful and being grateful this is something that is a very very not easy but very practical that's one of my favorite things in the entire idea of takuna me dote there are many things like I said before some things I relate with more and some things your will relate with more that's why I said before and many other times don't take this class just for today take it if you find that oh this is something that is very very powerful in me this is I really relate with this specific thing then now you have to apply it all year round so this specifics fill out the assault Shepherd is very very powerful because most people they don't know how to be thankful and grateful and to appreciate what other people do to them now imagine how you feel when you do something and you're not appreciative and you're not being sorry I need not being appreciated I just imagine how you feel I mean I worked so hard and I can't get even get a thank you or a smile or whatever so the power of being grateful thankful and appreciative this is a very very powerful medium needless to say this is the assault the foundation of the hood now in the order of takuna me dot which I explained many times that the entire all-male is about hakuna matata hakuna me note is the refinement of character and that should be applied all year long in takuna me dot there are some things like I said you will relate with more and some things you will relate with less because each and every one I was came down to the world with a bunch of good characteristics good me--don't and a bunch that are not so good and now I have to empower the good ones and refine the bad ones this is mainly why I came to this world and whatever my dad that I need to work on then God will make sure that all the people around me are the ones who are pressing the right buttons so if I have to work on the mid out of anger and patience and being judgmental so the colosseo who will put people around me that constantly will make me angry constantly will make me impatient constantly will make me judge it judgmental why to practice the media and you know imagine now a person husband rome gets in an accident they need to do physicist physiotherapy so the physiotherapist will tell you the pain is when you go like this so go like this a lot yeah but it hurts but that's where you fix the the problem right now you understand what I'm saying I also broke my hand sixteen years ago I had to do physiotherapy the physiotherapy was pain was exactly how it hurt it hurt but the therapist is but that's how you fix it so how do you do your spiritual physiotherapy is if I have to work on anger then a shame is gonna put a wife that's gonna drive me crazy kids they're gonna drive me crazy a boss they're all gonna get me angry all day long why so I can practice this media same thing if I go and workout in the gym if I want to have nice pump up the biceps then I need to do a certain action that will work on the biceps if I will push my legs it's not gonna work on the biceps so I have a bunch of me dog that I need to work on a lot of them we all share anger is something that is very common everybody has to work on anger and patience and being judgmental and jealousy and a long list of me do it but the kadosh book will make sure that the ones that are around me are the ones who are holding the mirrors up and I don't like the mirrors and I don't like when you push all my buttons so by default I don't like you but you are my personal trainer so I have to be very thankful for the ones are in front of me I have to thank all the ones who are knowingly all day long and making me impatient and so forth so in takuna me don't like I said some things you will relate with some things you will relate with why because my me dot that I need to work on are not necessarily the middle that you need to work on some people they have a severe issue with the media that is called jealousy oh they will go nuts from every little thing that somebody else has and some people I don't care you can have whatever you want they'll always be happy for you they don't have the issue with the media the the attribute that is called jealousy doesn't mean the person is bad just mean that's the me dad they have to work on it's almost like taking our factory and in the factory there are stations you know when many many years ago many like as if I'm like a dinosaur but 25 years ago I went out of the army and I you know thinking what I'm gonna do anyways at some point I have an uncle in Canada was a big factory for aluminum and he told me why don't you come and work with me you'll make another money okay I thought that might be a good future for me so in order for me to work in the installing it I had to go to the factory to learn how the manufacturing so I had to go one week in this station one week in this station one week in this to see how their manufacturing each part the first three months was very boring why because it was like a I don't know if you said in English monotonic monotonous action like a machine but I had to see how they building everything after three months I knew all the stages how they manufacture the frame then I was able to go and install it because in my mind every time there was a problem and you ought to troubleshoot it because they knew how to do they manufacture it same thing here it's also in TQM adult I have to go and I have to go through all the stations and I need to know all the all the stops so they couldn't be though if I know how to focus on it then that's what's really gonna make me survive or succeed in this world so going back to the analogy with the factory in the factory everybody has a job and some people I looked at some people in that factory they're working in the same station five years how can you not go crazy doing the same all day long like a low machine but that's their job some of them were happy some ones are not some of them happy they came in the morning did their little job we had their lunch break go home that's it but we also have jobs in this world and sometimes your job is to work on this media your job is to work on let me just imagine that we're making this massive massive artwork in the world my job is to polish this media I see I take it personally she annoys me she annoyed me she annoyed me he annoyed me no I don't take it personal it's my station in the factory that I need to polish anger anger anger anger anger control yourself control him don't react don't react control your anger right so accordingly don't sometimes you will relate with something more sometimes you will relate with something more I can give in our class about jealousy some people will be like this is a hundred percent me some people say I'm not jealous of anybody so int economy no there are a few key things one of them is called hoc erat autos is me acknowledging the good that somebody did to me unfortunately that's something that most people fail and people think that they take everything for granted like as if I you everybody owes me something nobody owes you nothing and the fact that somebody did something good to you right in a way you have to be very very grateful that that person even bothered to did something good to you take that now to the next level we have to be so grateful for a ship dance for me most people have zero gratefulness or thankfulness or ever you will say it towards what a ship does to them how many times did you stop and say then you're so amazing i I can't believe how amazing you are I can breathe wow you know some people can't breathe go to the hospital here and Zieve go to the department and they're all attached to machines they can't breathe go to a dentist across the street some people don't have teeth they can't even eat I have teeth I can chew you know and I can have keys they're working so I have to thank a shame all day long I have to thank a shame for everything so the carotids of you practice it between me and you and you don't take things for granted nobody owes you anything nobody has to do anything for you when people do something for you you have to be thankful even if they do it for an agenda and even if they get paid it doesn't matter this called hakarat hatov people helped you people went out of their way for you you show gratitude this is basic action between two people so much more so between me and a Shem if you don't have a car to tow this gratefulness this being thankful to Hashem so at some point a chance is why would I want to give you anything and then a sham starts giving you what they called a Hawaiian like he throws it back okay whatever so a very big foundation int Hakuna Matata Sakurada dope and like I said when it applies to a chef you say in the morning well then infernal I thank you ashamed so well did you even allowed me to come back here and gave me another day and you're tolerating my nonsense so same thing you have to thank your spouse or your parents or whatever thank you that you're even tolerating me because I know that I'm not mr. perfection and don't take anything for granted so hold on yeah like I told you we were concentrating the whole week of hold of admitting here we're gonna take it to the next level of thinking because hold er hold can be written Hoda yeah with the youth this is thanking oh ho da with our lives so this is admitting when I want to thank what's called Hoda yeah this is the foundation to any successful relationship take any relationship and take the word thank you out of it something work husband and wife boss and employee friends if there's no thanking their appreciation take now all the relationships add in it the the fact of being thankful being appreciative and and acting upon that you'll have a successful relationship this is the key to any serious relationship with any other person even with a stranger try once in the streets to thank somebody whatever they moved aside there you with the supermarket then you had one box of milk and then a whole card and they let you go in front of them whatever it is you'll see when you start thanking people but genuinely now the area thank you you'll see the how the relationship will remember the stranger is a completely different relationship near now so much more so between somebody that is important to my life and so much more so with the calash before any person that is very grateful but also acts upon that you can be very grateful not say anything a husband can be very grateful that his wife is doing laundry and cooking and fixing him but he never says anything so what good is it you have to do something either you say with your mouth or once a week you buy flowers or once a week you do something whatever it is it doesn't matter but any person this is one example of many any person that knows how to thank knows how to be appreciative and grateful he's opening his nefesh to be open to another person so by default the relationship is much much much more healthier so your son Shiva hood this is the power of communicating and connecting because you saw we know it's a breach a covenant that's how it's connecting to two souls together practically saying you want to take that to a more practical level you have to ask yourself do you always remember to be grateful for when somebody did something to you and this has to be in your mind constantly because if you really focus on it you'll see that you're not thankful enough or grateful enough for what people do to you now even when it's obvious even when it's obvious you still have to show gratitude and appreciation I remember when I was growing up we would have like dinner was Kadosh sacred if I would be late to dinner or Yayoi I would be petrified to be late to dinner so I would play outside and and I would already have for now before oh my god husband mama should be late for dinner anyways but that was the time we were all still around the table and my father was always a very busy man but every and this is what is like echoing in my memory from being a child every time we would finish eating he would always come to my mom and thank her for making the meal a simple thing thank you but not like a automatic real thanking and this is something was engraved in my memory that he you know on that one hand one can say you know he's working 16 hours a day he's providing is the breadwinner and etc etc it's obvious that my mom's part is to make the the meal but nevertheless he was appreciative thank you for you doing your part and that's something it was very very profound in my memory it is many you see how being a grateful and appreciative to something that is even obvious or you know Hebrew say move on mail of that it's of course you have to do that but I always teach my kids I don't have to do anything somebody does something to you you sure preciate again the sort of the hood is to not only be able to admit is to be able to thank apply that in your life I can guarantee to you that you'll see a great improvement in a lot of your relationships needless to say with your relationship with a cannot reform don't think that you don't have to work on a relationship with a chimp don't take my relationship with ashamed for granted doesn't mean that that's a sham created me that he owes me anything he doesn't owe me anything goes like this I will disappear so I have to also work on my relationship with the kailash bajo not to take for granted that i'm breathing take a stop every day and have a five-minute people they do to the kailash bockhorn thank him for everything that he does for you that your fingers are working that your mind is working and your mouth is working and your teeth are there and your everything is working and if it's not working also thankful for today that it's not working but we have to build the relationship with a shame so we take it to the relationship between me and you and between me and the kailash before and one of the keys the assault the foundation is gratitude gratitude appreciation and sometimes all it takes is two words thank you in hebrews easy it's one word to that so in english is a little bit harder to words a little bit more effort in hebrew you just say to that masala share me we know how to thank a shame and thank people around us we're gonna have a much better relationship with everybody around us [Music]