Latest Talks Podcast - Ep #36 | Guest: R' Yeedle Melber

Monday morning what do I do about how does it make sense to you she's playing with your weak points mus in communication and Leadership kind of sh charity Links of WhatsApp he sound like a very professional person help successful people become more successful [Music] podcast the podcast oh by the way okay um so real estate professional servicing lake with Jackson Tom River and more new constructure development the club at Jackson 21 will total 465 tow that's it by the Way's back he's back exactly is uh somebody that's well known in the sign the yish the music business um as far as nice to meet you nice to meet you everyone okay sh know me personally and the review of amazing servic zero complaints zero complaints a guest true fair to say okay behind Okay so watch the watch this hello sh um amazing for reason for reason entertainment if it's going to be interesting or not and as we run along this directly ties into because a lot of people ask me success people look at successful people and they think I'll never be like the successful person that I meet but they they don't knowly and he worked himself in beautiful building wow I pass by the building he sound like a very professional person okay all right I'll take the compliment all right for 26 years ago is okay around years ago [Laughter] I started seeing this guy is a bully so people are either very nice other they're very aggressive and I did the same thing many times I made the same mistake by either in your face the whole truth or nothing and I started seeing no that's not the right way there must be a better way must be a MD wow how get correct because it's a [Music] partnership and I made a mistake many times and I approached appearance and I told them face remember because I wanted them to see in the hardship years later I found them what's the connection that he has real issues and you put him on medication blaming G instead of thanking me he's blam BL but I realized because I did it too harshly too your face and people can't always handle em no your em but how you say it how you the platic how how you connect with the person it's all about communication respond better to Communication in today's day and age the star isn't what I do today as the most common question that business owners managers ask me mention must be middle agressive or or there must be a middle way how to deal with people communicate assertively push over and driving over other people so that's called communication and be being able to be in a leadership position and to communicate right with people instead leadership you can easily railroad your own family but there must be a way do it accept correct was very was very and everyone hates their boss if they don't hate the boss check if they have a job so why does everyone hate the boss K the rooms like you pay the bills what's the friction and I'm thinking to myselfy I don't think so and unfortunately today's day and age criticizing and which never leads to a good [Music] place companies busy teaching successful people May so I mention I want to help people grow so everyone's laughing you guys AR a therapist no successful people become more successful who says they need to be more successful they're successful they're very successful I'm saying it job successful my job but I need to be more successful I need to have better communication skills better leadership skills and if if I'm a the regular person that needs it every regular person needs it communication skills and it's just going to be my job to make sure that people find out that they have a need like every good salesperson who's the sales you find a need and you fill it you'll find out you'll think that is that all for me is that all and I actually remember just looking out of the window and I'm thinking to myself all right but what's the future for me as a beautiful I enjoyed it but I'm thinking something like that and it makes me sad all right all right correct of therapy because I'm not a therapist and therapy is okay if I can explain the difference also in in in in therapy a doctor you're dealing with your weak side you're dealing with your painful side let's say trauma got of the past I need to heal it because it's blocking me from growing doctor like doctor keep doctor okay but I want to be stronger want my muscles to work up so you're in the wrong place you for them there's no treatment for that go go in the gym exercise but show on Gym Doctor fix your problem to me so some people gym full of people and some people because he had a problem he has to go for exercise but the idea is exercise and building up a person is not about fixing him it's focusing on the strong side of the person H muscles let's make it stronger the average person is what I call a successful people okay bank account right on muscles in communication and Leadership and Stress Management time management goal setting vision and self-confidence self-esteem all these types of things was you want to open a company mention they are really successful people they don't know it yet because they don't know the power and with the time they realize it not the training 27 weeks and a 9 Monon training they come out they say hey I can do it myself and they become millionaires they become powerful people I mention but but they a they don't know it B even if they know it how how do I st how do I do it if you build a person up you should believe in himself and know how to communicate and know how to lead know how to work with teams know how to work with all types of different styles social styles of people all of these types of things with he to show up in time to service people on time as they to build powerful relationships trusting relationships all of these things F sales I had one in in BFG he came to me and he go it's shame to you know who opened BFG who shaen which is my brother very nice oh wow all right small world Brooklyn Financial Group a life insurance compan okay oh okay so so Ina and the quietest kids still and then course he found his voice he found his power and he's one of the most successful people there wow on the top people saying careful he'll never be like him there's only one like him that he found this power he learned how to use itel it so introduction um basically was provided the knowledge so but this one of the things I told you then start charging he's sending you a bill and I asked him yeah you'll never understand try me otherwise going to be for free today he's is quite famous so I told him look they don't know that you don't know anyone you're the only one who knows that he was his act like you do know everyone just hey wave some people just and many years later I I met him I never saw you you gave me the right tip next felt comfortable wow what do you say what do you say no no no very good very self confidence F how to survive the moment right and you always communicate with that person that doesn't eyes with the eyes then start looking at people after a few minutes imagine communicate the men in the crowd that doesn't exist right you can I love that exactly if you met meet someone and then in anything how to survive and it happens the best and the brightest people it happens sometimes I get a little intimidated about something I don't know what happened a person looked at me a certain [Music] way so I Was preparing the stuff good because none of your business I'm titled I'm entitled to be a human being and I teach people don't deny yourself your Humanity Mak but you control it I control your butterflies no one has to see that you're uncomfortable actually for whatever on any s any shape any size any picture any is everyone answers can so successful the idea is people really like to connect with each other people on H are social creatures not everyone not everyone people some people live in their box they don't want to get people no no no but is Right stat introverts and extroverts like said introverts and extroverts attention it's a label man it's not only a label it's a nature in a in a social style you can change that but you don't have have to change no you can't you can't change yourself and you don't have to change yourself but you need to balance yourself when I was an introvert and I got around the corner then he's unbalanced introvert and extrovert and is unbalanced introvert extr I don't know introvert yes a lot of public people are introvert difference is the Limelight if he needs the Limelight because that's helping him deliver his message and do his job no problem but as soon as it's finished when he goes on vacation let's say in a quiet place I need my space was was mention you want to be alone you don't you're not looking for the an extrovert is the way they think the way they act and the way they talk and they the way they walk if you're a salesperson it's important to know if that person is a very expressive and extrovert exessive IDE window to park it's beautiful the introvert you'll have your privacy here the extrovert family the neighbors are very introverts decision feel comfortable and introverts usually introvert extrovert salesperson is are uncomfortable closet space bigger ideas extrovert is more personal things about the future about the big picture numbers and details not living the moments it's the extr is usually a person who's much more uh enthusiastic and and futuristic mention events but gra of other people's energy he lives of well said he lives of other people's energies happens to be lives on his own energy right he can change his mind the sentence in the end of the sentence doesn't have to be the same thing in spoken like a true EXT place you choose to be quiet it's okay you have a mind of your own you choose but it's not like because it's change fact extr comfortable and inv know me 7 to 11 at night you know me a person that Dam introvert or extrovert everyone says an extrovert no I'm an introvert I'm a private person I'm not looking for the Limelight but I'm not I have no problem doing the past in the beginning didn't look for it but other people saw me a lead so they pulled me up they wanted me to be part of the V part of the must part from the board they wanted me to be part so at this point part because I invested in myself I have no problem standing up doing what I have to do and talk to people mention but I'm still an introvert because the nature of the person doesn't change doesn't change no never changes you can balance yourself you can work with yourself and this is also to help people to show people you don't have to be that certain style they mention a successful person power certain style you don't have to do it in his style learn from him look at successful people learn it's MSD delivered energy learn from then do it your your style people don't learn from people copy others that's the GU the clud of Cl when you copy somebody else because you sound like monkey you're not a person you are you there's only one version of you make the best of it out the and suful men look you have Role Models you see people sign business anything and learn and and become the best version of yourself yeah the best of you don't have to be better than that to push to the max that's right wow that's right you're best version people have a interview how should I pretend to be the most successful person the most talkative person question is or because I I tell people if you try to do that show you do that for the rest of your life you have to pretend to be some somebody else no don't do that be yourself but version of yourself of course on an interview but don't do not act like some something that you're not expect and learns I don't have to be like you what you expect me to be I have to be what I expect myself to be the diamond and the un whatever let's Call [Music] Ita vietn many timesy men look I don't know go check by a therapist if you need to deal with that trauma not necessarily you gotta deal with that sometimes actually have one of big therapist here in I'm not sure if you needy if you still feel a certain aspect I don't know where to start with you I don't know if you really have a problem or it's building yourself up recognizing your power and building it up the introduction isses um the guest side courses side the guest training business training and side gu private um private consultations 10one consultations for mention couples and business partners so business can can you control yourself can can you communicate the right way indicates a problem got fixed most people we're too healthy normal people it's about communication continue why do do we have to think how about we both right we we didn't figure out individual sort of separate lives or technical lives the kind the house the mortgage I found with time menig how to have a great communication they think it's a Dream It's Illusions they think it's kind of or they say it's hard work but it's the biggest joke tell me is a hard work to talk to your friend you just enjoy talking to person why is it different at home you have to figure out and fig Natures I know the emotions get in the way because we have a lot of responsibilities it's a unique combination and reg business physically financially and emotionally 247 or however long you live is that that partnership needs the idea if you get away to have a friend communicate them connec with them well you just check out I'll come back later you can't afford to do that at home but what you need to do is is to figure out the relationship and then it's not hard work if it's hard work it's anyone was as as a relationship between husband and wife's hard work shom is hard work doesn't have shom in my opinion to show affection to to to show love to each other it's it's not only about um communication but you can call it communication relationship communication step different building no because it's a different fapy gu a therapist and most people not necessarily want to build themselves up they have a pro you have you have a problem if you need to deal with your weak side with your painful side deal with that but it is called a therapist that's a therapist no no what you do I'm a I'm a trainer and a coach to focus on the strong side of the person therapy wasis Mago therapy is is more like therapy um it's called a Mago therapy and it's very powerful but it's th what's what's mapy therapy is what is that is a a form of working say communication oh so yeah I learn a lot I'm a lifelong learner and the rest is okay fine seven habits in Steven K trained I trained seven habits trainer life experiences dealing with people more ideas in making this idea work practically Monday morning what do I do about it not interesting okay um from View Academy Academy is simpleology Ai and people are afraid View Academy latest talks can join in the latest talks plus tab of the YouTube channel of YouTube of YouTube yeah beautiful the point is team behind you against a team men a cost heal Academy is CL r Viewpoint Academy w99 latests interview oh wow forat videos interviews in English but a bonus 99 latest talks latest talks plus member exactly I love that question because that question and I asked myself that question as I said before when I introvert just to hang my name on the street as tell people what I do was the hardest thing buttion you know what and let's see I believed just like I needed training to become better and go from good to great interestingly position they look at it what are oh this is what's needed this is filling in the Gap so go ahead but right away was successful and one of the questions are for yeah what stops people the most of the fear of rejection the Beast they'll reject you but if you if I tell people this if you take out fear of rejection how would your life look like rejection organization I challenge you and you know what decided not to be afraid if you reject me you don't have to so to answer's question the answer is the filters that he has the blockages and the filters the average successful mench the average normala mench can anything with a you you put your mind to it but anything you should play to your strengths so the blockages that people have is they look at the three motivators three most common motivator the most the most common statistical reason for qu is because they don't feel fulfilled there famous stor College on financial Financial person bottom line is I a job Wall Street desk fancy office Corner Windows they'll call how's the weather in New York but wow then he goes on I struck gold I play my time away and I get paid $15 million a year and but after six months he wasn't there anymore shiming if you have so for a while you know what but tried that for a few weeks and that's saddest thing to do wow that guy loves it that guy goes out of his mind law law office running a company and being an expert in something is not the same thing not enjoy the finance and business that's right so the opposite mentioned the financial aspect negotiation in these types of things so day and age is called the te the the information age information information s business doctor real estate all books information Clips courses all of hearing and to learning the botom line is you don't find more successful people just because they've read something or they listen to something even though it resonates with them most things theed because still disconnect you're up against yourself you have a nature you have a habit n why not what are you missing all information P how works you know I still don't know it I don't have the experience the training wheels the and then at one point have a good day or simple treadmill in the what happens to you to it besides B return and can you guess how many books do I have zero zero you mention downloading courses videos let's put it this way correct I always encourage people become a lifelong learn because if you're the type of person very good question spokesman for the community di menion this is niess people are very nice to each other but they mix it up with being real so they're being very nice and and drinking if you're being nice to your wife I'm being nice I'm not saying while you don't even know what happened so it's swinging if you look closely to people between being very nice and then being very aggressive it's very hard to find a middle because we like to help if I only good to you and smile you asked me to borrow you $10,000 I don't have it people go from being very nice sure no problem all of a sudden lie andate outright aggressive towards each other there's a lot of aggression tremendous powerful aggression all coming from the same place the nicest people that I know the the kindest people sometimes are the most aggressive people if you want to help someone is guilt comp store policy no returns I'm thinking to myself I know if someone looks crazy I'm missing part of the story some are crazy but OB is a successful businessman is not crazy yeah what's the policy all of customer service doesn't make sense you person so so I'm going do you do you not changing you I really want to understand you're a successful person how does it make sense to you to give this customer service you know going Jeff Bezos doesn't live here so from local Amazon why doesn't Jeff basos live in your store take a page out of his book all he's all about customer service forget about and he shines the on the platform but at least the customers that that's the whole concept why can't you just take why can't you sit je B take a seat that's the what see he looks at me looks me up and down to see like a lot of people do that because you can't be up front no because you're trying to be nice be behind the bush change okay let me ask a question of course hold on a second aggressive how about you focus you troublemakers and deal with them to them you you you'll stay stuck in toys for you I don't know if she say names oh yeah I was in a country with him I guess 25 years ago own the country clean the sewers the Box stops here if I want something done it's got to be done returns so we don't take it back be strong enough to deal against but be strong and streng D to bring it back much better custom service so what do we have to be on the bush with your weak points correct guilty but when so so you find either people or they become very aggressive so the hardest thing to do right main way right the idea is you want to be able to deal with people according to best now I don't think I don't know about you but I don't I don't like it I told you before I'm an introvert definitely not maybe would enjoy it what am I doing to the mic bottle grape juice [Laughter] forl should I say what most most people would have said sure no problem and they would be so insulted but yeah I can take it and a little hint when a person say says I can take it stay away they can't yeah right so or or nine n but here's the thing confidence I don't have I have enough confidence to tell you I don't like it wow I don't have to be a better person a stronger person because you want me to be situation yeah no no my could be it's true that are more sensitive can this a normal thing to do and I don't like it and you should be able to be oh nice why you Mr Nice Guy Steve Jobs if you want to be nice sell ice cream something like that something like that is the quote business business or manager or your job is to be to tell people no why do bad things happen to good people you know why why did they became good right so measure is nice is is a mask a mask a smiling mask and if if it doesn't work for you you be a kind person good be a real kind person it all depends the measures on and if I want G then it's good for me and for you then that's called nice but some people would say you're a selfish guy whatever you didn't want to do what I wanted you to do let me ask you a question is selfish that bad is selfish a negative word so do a follow the selfish is bad you know when if you're not losing if you finish drinking your bottle water that's called selfish but if I need it still no that's not selfish that selfish is healthy selfishness I should look out for myself so you can't be honest with yourself and with others because you have one measure it's going to look nice if I always say yes at the end of the day the saddest part is those people always say yes they extend themselves expect mention when they need something baby no one is here why not because you don't realize something if I can't tell you no I didn't tell you yes you took it from me keep next he's not thankful this is the window those are the hardest people to deal with the manipulating people and there's a lot of manipulation between people and some people even expect it charity link for G for I don't know why is a personal object Guilt Trip a guilt trip yeah to tell you I want to hear this this man guil trip right that's guil I'm here to tell you there's a healthy way of doing it and a non-healthy way of doing it Links of WhatsApp yeah exactly the idea of it is a beautiful way beautiful idea generate Millions problem is if I send it to you and the gave and you're entitled to whatever you you feel whatever you want feeling to the organization whatever some people some doar this just a way to connect with people that you know can you say no because if you can't say no bait is entitled to manipulate you and not different sales that's a sales person tell me something different tomorrow do you know that this type of NE would save you a lot of money are you interested maybe but just to say the same thing again and again is also manipulation okay usually when they the tone idea I got manipulated the problem is manipulated but you let yourself you're partner in crime you can say no blue checks I'm not passive enough during the day at the end I told him look that's it few half a year later for what something I wanted okay sure you don't have to just interesting sounds like you're upset at me that I do something to you okay so you don't have to give if you don't want to you understand deal helping somebody is not a deal but you don't want it's not going to make it or break it for me if reality so so ignor says who sounds like sounds like he needs therapy like gave respect my wishes if you don't respect your wishes I will let you know to respect itar if you don't if you're going to come too close I'll tell you stay in your lane let me be right you know papers so got so upset at window tinting and lights Etc cars things and it's colorss hold don't do it you're not right well that's his decision that's his decision don't make decision somebody else nice people passive people why not to speak up instead hello I'm sure you didn't mean anything I want to inform you you used my language don't do it to me anymore of course do it in your face take the easy way talk to but to begin with when competition he's being aggressive whatever you wouldn't like you know I'm done with it main entrance competitions I look at the yeah um the I think it was the idea that we came up with i that myself on the back and I said hey you did a good job yeah wow happens to be comp entertainment something veryimportant whoever else correct it will never happen so every different flavor 100% I gotta stop best for me and some people will like you some people like him it's and then they sing together many times for but this is this it's never gonna happen but on the point stand a layout this Isa ingredients of course your intellectual property intellectual property was it main thing in business whatever you do whatever you ever the catering and then why exactly the idea of your success is not only what you're selling how are you doing it to the what to the how the system and how you're operating and the way the product was the focus I focus of quantity I focus of quality I F Vis and when you hire somebody who knows exactly to follow the the process that you have builds the person that's your company topic selfconfidence self-esteem people skills communication skills manag in the business IND comp you have a a method for that of course because Stress Management and Stress Management for mention because stress is part of life okay stress stress is part of life if you don't know how to handle stress even though everything is a stressful event so you're teaching them to manage it not to eliminate it El manage it if you eliminate it the stress elimination the only time you eliminate it's done but as long as you live there's always going to be stress whatever you want in life and you get it stress atheism whatever it is right so so definitely many times because on self-control doesn't know how how that works self-control how do I control myself meaning I prove it to meel in manatt okay let me ask you a question then you believe but you're running you don't know how that works very good some people run their whole lives they're so tired of running got to face yourself sit down I got some problems in the background there's a lot come from life looks like looked like so basically is but most people who come to know that contr that's right because people know themselves like the tip of the iceberg they CL the time you leave I don't want to know more that's that's the part you're missing by the time you left, $50,000 you so of course somebody told me once in mention look let me tell you something about myself a truck driver a local company do nice good jobri of wow so the idea is is to take what whatever you have if you're frustrated aish then maybe something wrong how do I know yeah thank you for reminding us the average person do whatever he wants but it's K to play to to your strengths look back look back you don't want to be in a place because then you're not growing unless mention who here is not replaceable none of you are replaceable unfortunately most of you are or do in some most places am no human being [Music] isops they made you they broke the doing it again they said enough enough for this getting getting an for the types St that makes it a beautiful place Focus gred numbers real estate do something else do something good at wow because you're sucessful where do you have some skills with the go and develop it make something of it successful people look at three things yeah of the problem is is something you need but it's not should not be the motivation why you're doing what you do wide variet kick the of the list really this is shad but I need to work if I don't work I can die from Hunger you would obviously do something you're good at it and you enjoy doing it you're good at it and you have a passion Now find that thing and figure out Vis to break the because you do need it you can't live without it but don't look at the motivation should never be off because let's say iny goes goes bad say is bad or something skills for them won't find a way around it because they don't have the skills and it would it wouldn't be able so is is there anything wrong isn't right as I don't do it I will focus on what I'm good at you should focus you're good at I'll invest in you or when I want money from Real Estate how how does a person reach you office sure so we have a number 844 laas l e h a s i g um and people reach out it's a the financial from the business finance expt to delegate you run a company numers okay numbers person you don't know what's going on he didn't like it theany ex by way you have to be involved in everything companies people wow okay decid best in the business office and she's [Music] better it's not about if you do the right thing family working together husband wife husband and wife can work together brother actually the trust is the trust much more powerful Father and Son work together brothers sisters work together husband wife the problem was present yeah yeah don't H well don't hire someone you can't fire no no no straight forward me and you have two relationships one is personal one is professional can you handle that without violating this do not expect then if you can't respect the professional relationship sure but violating meaning the problem is husband and wife work together let's say yeah the man the man way cont exactly happens if it doesn't work out what's the exit strategy and then we know and how we live wej thank you so much I like I like your thep of the iceg a message for is a pleasure talking to you I can tell you from my perspective if man experience deal with most of us are very nice people very good people unfortunately for the right reasons for the wrong reasons a person that's lacking communication skills can easily become uh a tough person a person with failtime leadership skills becomes easily a dictator the most dictators that I know position leadership the best to mention the ID to mention I'm trying to do my job and F I don't know how to get you in line it's very easy to hate that person if people around you of the have a lot of Talos of there it's probably because you don't know how to lead communication the relationship is because you're in a position to lead as a father business owner member whatever position is lead lead with kindness lead with passion lead with compassion and learn how to lead the simplest example is D car it's not so tough and you know because you know he's bound to make some accidents might be the best person in the world but he makes exellence invest in yourself learn leadership skills and you realize it's the easiest thing because most of us are good people we want to do the right thing we want to please but you got to know how to lead them without oppressing them it was a pleasure wow thank you so much and Hope just enjoy the episode give a like subscribe and join latest talks Plus thank you