Cleaning Out Our Inner Chametz In Far Rockaway ( Rabbi Yaron Reuven New York LECTURE TOUR)

[Music] T first of all thank you very much for hosting the event for having me uh from where I came from it's like the end of the world we got here um the sh usually are not PL uh it's really based on the crowd based on what you guys want to talk about we talked a little bit about you know the situation today uh the difference between Judaism today versus the past the truth versus the lies and it has to do with everything really m in general is is something that each one of us is obligated to do every day it's not just something that you do once a year it's not something that you do once a month it's something you're supposed to do every day it's learning m is is cleaning out the inner throughout the entire year and that's generally the topics that we talking about through or we're going to be talking about over the next few days is cleaning out the because is spending so much effort so much time cleaning out little breadcrumbs in every corner you know and torturing each other and the family and everything been turning dust intoit dust is not Kitz and the husband is not a kapar either he's not theban but the reality is that sometimes we worry so much about cleaning up the house and eating a certain type of kosher and this and that and we forget the real purpose now you can ask in my opinion you can ask most Jews what is really the number one most important part of p and most Jews would tell you eating Kosher for p eating the matah uh you know making sure that you don't eat don't violate very few are going to tell you which that the mid the part where you actually tell the stories of until you fall asleep is the number one mitvah but that's the truth the truth is the number one most important mitvah in all of p is the it's the part where you stop and you start talking about how do we get here 3,300 years ago we got there was everything happened fine fast forward to now how do we get here where are we now and I think that most of us have no idea because we've never really asked the question some of us know the stories B of what happened you know the the the plagues in Egypt some of us even know a little bit more we know the little details of mid mid the measure for measure from each one of the plagues hasem didn't get you know made the blood come down because uh made the blood turn um the water turn into blood because the Egyptians didn't allow us to drink and he also made everything smell really bad because they didn't allow us to bathe so they tortured us he tortures them and everything has a m principle but then you fast forward and you get to Mak Mak we had three days of darkness and most people do not know that the makat was not not only a plague that killed the Egyptians in fact the Mak at the best estimate meaning the most conservative the lowest number the nicest way killed 80% of am the best way the M says something scary says Mani says most think they killed one out of five one five hasm killed one that hasm preserved one out of five meaning 20% left Egypt he says no some say it's he preserved one out of 500 says no he says Al was one out of 5,000 that actually survived Egypt Al it was one out of 5,000 but we all know says we all know it was one out of 500,000 at best meaning the nicest way the the Rashi per says one out of five survived Egypt meaning 80% hasem killed 20% survived that's the shot butman says Al was one out of 500,000 survived meaning 99.9% two out of every million survived you just think of such numbers like why just leave us in Egypt why just leave us in Egypt and it's a serious question why didn't he just leave us in Egypt and second question is why did he kill them why you just tell them listen no come on that question is still applicable today 3,300 years later and the reason why Hashem killed so many of us is because when he told us listen all of the plagues all of the Miracles all of everything that happened it's all for the mat T all of it is for you to receive the Tor T is not going to be given in a place of idolatry it's not going to be given in a place where a uh people are worshiping idols and worshiping themselves it's not going to be given it has to be given a mount sa go to the desert like yeah but listen if you told us this a year two three four five years ago we would have done it why we were slaves back then it's comfortable for us to leave slavery and go to the desert why it can't get worse than slavery now we're not slaves anymore now we have stores and we have Banks and we have uh you know all these different things we have Bitcoin we have everything we have we don't need we don't want slaves anymore why should we leave Egypt and go to the desert it's a downgrade and they missed the whole point he said the whole reason of why Hashem did what he did was for you to leave Egypt not for you to like Egypt the whole reason of why Hashem sent us to America is for us to have the ability to learn Torah without any distractions and without any problems what happened we became American instead of being am as a result of all of the Miracles that hem did for us in Egypt we became Egyptians we became Americans we became Europeans we became everything but what Hashem wanted he says now I'm giving you one last chance you have a toora to get it's on Mount sa you have to go get it you have to rise yourself up to raise yourself up to not to come to you they said no no we'll get back to you on that get back to me I don't need you and he killed them so this when we read on y the and all the all the songs before we say a lot of nice songs it's it's it's brings a nice atmosphere but actually if you read the words the meaning of the words of and yourid it's probably one of the best M books in the world just you read just you listen to what you're saying on yum God sat while the Maul was destroying the world in so many words what does it mean in so many words AEM is telling you listen I created the world in order for you to fear me in order for you to honor me in order for you to serve me in order for you to learn my Torah not for me to serve you not for me to give you a uh money every time you pray not for me to give you every time you cry for you to serve me we get the roles reversed soem reminds us every he says I don't need you I want you you're my children I love you but I don't need you don't ever get it twisted and think that I need you and unfortunately we we got it twisted we think God needs us and there are many speakers today that will actually say this outright God needs us in order to honor him God needs us in order to serve him in essence people believe that God needs us that's how reform was born conservative was born and even certain parts of modern Orthodoxy was born the concept that God needs us instead of we need God because if you really think that we need God you'll stin twice before you sin why do we sin because we think that he needs us or he's not watching but definitely not that we need him because if you need somebody if you need a loan from somebody you're going to mouth off is Hey listen you're you're late to work again hey your uh your your your wife cooks terrible hey you uh smell today you're not going to tell him anything silly why you need a loan you need a help you need something you need a ride the reality anytime you need somebody all of a sudden you become nice all of a sudden you start worrying about how you're behaving we don't worry so much about how we're behaving and the reason why is because simply put most people do not realize that we need God so now we were talking before about the the problem that we have today is not necessarily because of the students it's not necessarily because of the the the you know regular people whether secular or religious in reality the big problem today is with leadership simply put leadership is fulfilling the prophecy that it says at the end of page 49b where it says at the end of times the truth will be hated anyone that will say the truth automatically he's going to be hated is going to be a lot of there going to be a lot of rude people people that have no manners so instead of saying you know what yeah you know what I agree what it said what he's saying is actually written in the Tora it's not he's saying of his own opinion instead what do they say ah they start writing bad stuff on you on the internet instead of saying you know what listen what he's saying is in the Torah I'm a loser I have to do chuva okay you know or whatever I don't agree with it whatever you're going to say but instead what they say they start insulting you like as if you wrote the Torah why there's a lot ofanim in this generation and and I saw just in a lecture I did maybe two months ago we're preparing for the Shure and uh you know as usual thing with am we're always late mashia is late 2,000 years he's definitely a Jew the real we're always late we always late so the usual we supposed to start at 8 we started it was 8:15 already and I told I asked the Rob do you want me to start today well he goes no you know wait a little bit more and one of the guys that already showed up says Ah no no come on come on let's do it now I'm already here for 15 minutes let's start and the rabbi is saying to him is like listen but there's not enough people it's only you know half the people came let's wait a little bit more and then we'll start he starts arguing with the rabbi this is as far from from like reality as can be you're arguing with the rabbi just forget about whether you're right or you're wrong it's irrelevant first of all you're not you can't do such a thing in public second of all you're only looking your own personal situation the rabbi is looking at the K he's saying listen 50 out of 100 people showed up so let's wait a little five minutes 10 minutes 20 minutes even to get the whole 100 he like no no I'm here so I have to do it so you have to do it because I'm here and thisai is not just his fault it's not just the guy's fault it's actually the rabbi's fault why if the rabbi would have taught him and taught him that you're supposed to fear your Rabbi as much as you fear God he would have never been a so it's not just the guy's fault he's just doesn't know anything you know he thinks that uh this is like an opera show you you show up at it says 8 o'l supposed to start at 8:00 or else they close the door he doesn't realize that the whole point of the sh is to get am to do chuv he doesn't realize that he doesn't care he's there he wants to sh to start the rabbi on the other hand is saying listen somebody ke is going to speak hopefully people are going to do Chua let's at least get as many people as possible so on one end the rabbi means well on another end the the guy also means well the problem is there was a disconnect before this year the disconnect already started before this year the disconnect is that we're not teaching am the truth to such an extent that they know that such things are not allowed not allowed to talk to your Rabbi that way especially not uh you know uh show B disrespect in public and such things if you disagree you disagree but the problem is and the reason why things like this happen in almost every Kaa is because many rabbis have left the role of the rabbi they kept the title but the role of the rabbi they left and they became friends with people and you'll see many rabbis very very friendly with the Kila very friendly with the teenagers very friendly with the the people that are rich very friendly with people they invite them to the house they go to their house and they talk they smoo about personal life oh where you going for PES or where you staying or where this there a lot of shooing going around very little chuva a lot of smoing but very little chuva that friendship even though it looks good theoretically looks good is destroying the Kila you're not supposed to be friends with your Rabbi as nice as it sounds to be friends with your Rabbi and you connect and and and and and and he inspires you and so on the reality is that the already told us in that you have to be careful not to get too close to the why they'll burn you meaning if they really if they're really Kim you're not allowed to get so close to them not to befriend them why because you'll lose honor you'll lose the respect you have from them from far away you have a lot of respect from them as soon as you became friends with them you're not going to have respect for them and that's going to burn you that's going to burn you in sh instead of saying what do you think you say I think the conversation changes and that's that's one of the one of the flaws that's again it's it's an outcome it's an outcome of lack of teaching but the biggest thing the biggest thing the biggest thing is that the says in a place that there's no leader you be the leader you be the leader so when it comes to the end of times of what the says what's going to happen before the mhia comes there's going to be a lot of is going to the truth is going to be hated the leaders are going to do things that are the opposite of what's good for their own people a lot of the things that we see it's almost like reading the newspaper you read this it's reading the newspaper it's everything it's unbelievable inflation people chasing money nonstop and so on and so forth so how do we fight this if the leaders are going to be hated the truth speakers are going to be hated the leaders that are there are going to be giving us the poison so how do we fight it how do we survive you be the leader you be the guy yeah but I don't know how to speak doesn't make a difference doesn't make a difference you don't have to be just a speaker there's many ways to be a leader if I told you listen that for every time you make a phone call you get a million dollars in your business how many calls you going to make a day until your fingers fall off why because every call a million dollars you're going to call I remember I was in a investment business I told the guys listen every single call you can make a million dollars how each guy can invest a certain amount of money with you can make a million dollars like yeah but come on it's too much okay hold hold on a second here give me the phone i' make the phone call to one of my clients I call him hey Mr Jones talk to him for a half hour at the end of the phone call the guy's investing x amount of money I mean $50,000 and they all see it like wow I said what wow you could do the same thing is anything that I say something that you can't say no you could say it how do I know you could say it I wrote it to you just repeat what I wrote you don't even have to think just repeat what I wrote I wrote it I wrote you the script here here's the script just repeat what I wrote and just say to somebody else if your somebody else does the same thing my guy did you also make $50,000 what's the problem for an hour's call for half hour for 5 minutes and this is how a lot of people got motivated became very successful but they had to see it even if you were to make a million dollars in a phone call it's still not anything comparison to saving one Jewish Soul now our misunderstanding today is that we think that to save a Jewish Soul means that you have to go into the secular world you have have to go into the people that are they're not even keeping kosher they're inter married they're no no no that's the wrong mentality the reality is that many people that consider themselves FR need even more saving than a secular person and the reason why is because I remember when I was most of my life I was secular I viewed my life as as far as religiosity is concerned religion Torah God and so on I knew the Torah existed I knew God existed I believed in him we had K and then we went to the movies right after you know we went to the club right after I said oh you not have to work on Shabbat fine I won't work on Shabbat I'll go to the casino instead I'll have some fun to me there was nothing wrong with my life in my secular mindset in my secular mindset is no different is no different than every secular person in the world unless he's just a hater of himself and Judaism and God and so on a normal person every secular person thinks the same they see nothing wrong with their life they just see you religious people as you chose to be religious that's for you but not for me he says you chose to keep Shabbat I don't feel like it you chose to wear a hat I don't want to I want to wear a baseball cap you chose not to drive on Shabbat I drove to drive extra it's your choice Freedom of Choice knowing they they start telling you the Constitution too freedom of this and freedom of that all of a sudden everybody a scholar in the Constitution no one knows anything about t but they know about the Constitution the reality is as a secular person you are sleepwalking you have no idea that you're walking on fire you have no idea that you're going one way you have one way ticket to G that never ends because anyone that dies in anyone that dies drives on Shabbat smokes a cigarette on Shabbat people know 10 people know he he's driving on Shabbat not even 10 people see him a lot of people think it's oh no 10 people need to see that he's driving on Shabbat no that's not true that's not true specifically says 10 people need to know that if 10 people know your that's 10 people know you have a serious problem why says the G starts and never ends where does he get it from page 17 a so the reality is someone is sleepwalking he has no idea there's anything wrong he doesn't realize he's walking on a Minefield he doesn't realize that there's anything wrong with his life why he's just looking at you religious gu look he wears a suit every day I wear a suit to work only he wears a hat I don't he decides not he decides to get together with his family on Shabbat and go to I decide to go to the casino instead or go to the beach or go it's a it's a freedom of choice it's nothing more than that he has no idea there's anything wrong with it so for him that's why a lot of people are dying to conclude that he's considered a like some kidnapped baby like they used to used to happen to us in during the Shah and after and before and so on many many times throughout all of history the Christians have always capitalized on our torture how they always took our kids and told them they were Christians because for them getting one Jew to be a Christian is is more valuable than a thousand of any other Nation that's why in any of their missionary websites they always highlight the one Jew that converted to Christianity they don't highlight the 50,000 uh people from Africa or from anywhere else in the world they highlight the one Jew the one Jew that converted and that's what they've been doing to us for 2,000 years now the reality is is that secular guy sees nothing wrong with any of this sees nothing wrong with any of this because he doesn't realize it's an obligation he doesn't realize that God didn't give us a choice we have choice but it's not free choice free choice would mean that you could just do whatever you want want if you do it great you get rewarded you don't do it you don't get rewarded that's freedom of choice we don't have freedom of choice we have choice choice means if you do it good you don't do it you get punished that's not free choice that's Choice that's like to what is it similar to if let's say for example you worked for a certain unusual business you worked for the mob okay and the mob told you the mafia boss told you listen if you go and do such and such I'm going to pay you if not I'm going to kill you instead which one do you want is that really a choice yeah it's a choice it's not free choice though it's a choice with a it's a choice with a price that's what we have that's what we have hem told us you have a choice inab page 88 he says something scary when we got mat it says it's a Mountain became like a on top of was by by they went they came to to mount saai and then it says that am was under the mountain what do you mean Under the Mountain had a cave no it didn't have a cave what do you mean under the under the mountain Under the Mountain Hashem took the mountain and put it on top of and said to them this is if you receive the Tor and you accept it you accept the Tor this we get married if you don't this will be your burial ground this is this is not like some commentary that's just this is oral Tora this is basic this is basic level Judaism this is not we're not talking about anything from the kubal or or something this is basic level Judaism hasm says it's or burial which one do you want so the ask wait a minute what kind of choice is this if you'd look at the AL of someone that wants to get married someone wants to get married and he tells woman hey you want to get married to me he says yes okay good good for you but if he says listen you want to get married he has a gun to her head is she considered married he's putting a gun to her head it's not fair it says she's an so the p is even more valuable than the basics why the commentaries are telling us of course it wasn't up in the air of course it wasn't up in the air because if you notice in the first days of creation every time hasem finished his work on a day he said it was night it was day and the first day night it was day and the second day night it was night it was Day end of Third Day fourth day fifth day all the way until the sixth day y y it says it was evening it was morning so the asked what is this extra letter has there's an extra ha we know there's no extra anything why do we have an extra a so comes he says the extra is a signature what signature signature of the deal that hasem made between himself and the Mal that runs the planet there's a Mal that runs the uh the uh Earth he says listen Mal we have a deal if is receive the Torah down the road if they receive the toat they accept it good we'll get the Shabbat we'll get the Shabbat but if they reject it I'm bringing you back to to I'm bringing you back to what's the signature that's going to remind us of this deal the extra hay extra hay is what five five five books of Moses so theim say wait a minute if AEM put the whole Mountain on top of us he said if I receive the T good if I don't rece if I don't accept the T no good then you're going to kill me it's not really it's an it's not you're forcing me into it so the tosot say of course it wasn't free choice what did you think we have some irresponsible God that's just going to leave the creation at large up to some people that if they say no he has to destroy everyone the Jews the non-jews the animals the everything he has to destroy just because a bunch of people decide to say no what do you think what kind of God do you think we have he's not going to leave it up to you yes you have choice but it's only choice not free choice the secular person does not understand this the secular person believes we have free choice the religious person on the other hand the one that went to Yesa and if you went to M today he most likely did not learn about topics like wasting seed even though the Torah tells us the says it's the number one sin in Judaism number one worst possible sin is wasting seed for a man go you find it says number one number one sin in Judaism makes it even worse we but you look online Whoever has internet you look online you see there's a total of maybe seven hours seven hours worth of sh worth of material in English about wasting seed I'm five and a half hours now this is not K to me this is bu this is bu this is this is an embarrassment why it's like you have a a it's like a problem what we don't have any water on the planet but no one wants to talk about it what do you mean it's the number one resources you need to survive you you realize we need water somebody need to talk about no no don't talk about it don't talk about it it's it's it's a it's not for us yeah but if we don't talk about it everyone's going to die they'll figure it out that's the problem with the religious world the religious world we choose we pick and choose our topics like it's a grocery list you tell people let's talk about wasting seed because practically every teenager religious or non-religious has this problem every adult religious or not religious has this problem unless they've worked on it why they didn't know there's anything wrong with it three hours ago I got a text from somebody this is every day because apparently I am the one that talks about this people contact me religious not Rel people contact con constantly and they say listen I have a problem how do I stop okay watch watch this sh watch this sh watch this sh it's all education based but the point is is that no one knew there's anything wrong with it even though the toraat tells us the number one sin in Judaism so you you see how far we are if it was like a or a like wearing a hat wearing a hat a it's not it's not it's a hat that's a nice meag that started recent relatively recent in the old days they used to wear the Urban they didn't wear hats so it's a it's a nice if someone says listen I don't feel like wearing a hat I don't feel like wearing a hat okay don't wor keep keep you learn every day learn every day to be like you all be like you learn Shabbat what's the problem you don't want to wear hat don't wear a hat what do I care about this a me it's not it's not is like means to me it's nice it's like you like potato chips or you like I don't know Pringles or something I don't know to me that's nice good for you you want to wear a hat wear a hat the key is the do you keep the do you keep Shabbat you keep you learn to every day do you have do you learn do you do anything that hasem said hasm didn't say right but wear hat do you do everything Hashem says if you do everything hasem says I have no problem with you but if you turned the Hat into into the and shabb the wearing a hat is important but keeping Shabbat is not so important then we have a problem unfortunately that's the problem we have the religious world has turned Judaism into an exterior based religion people Express their religiosity through their exterior no one really double checks what's in the interior what's under the engine and that's why a lot of people that are religious come to me and they ask me the the very same questions that Bal cha ask the very same question that new converts ask basic level questions until this day I'm doing this four years plus a little bit over four years I don't think any religious person has ever asked me a more complicated question than a non-religious person it's all very basic level questions proofs Al basic stuff not thing like uh meaning it's the same problem in both places but it's treated differently it's treated differently on the right hand the secular person didn't realize it was a problem until you woke him up on the left hand with the religious guy the religious guy in me skin why he's been learning for 20 years but he doesn't realize he's been he's been missing half the material because the teachers didn't teach them because they thought please they thought that it's g f the teacher thought that if I teach this Young Generation about wasting seed or I teach them about or I teach them their obligation to learn M I teach them that they actually have to fear God in order for them to even have a chance to actually believe in him at all all these basic level stuff they're not going to come anymore they're not going to donate anymore they're not going to this they're not going to that and we start doing of what other people are going to do because they don't like it and the reality is this creates a very big black hole within our education system so a lot of the religious the religious Jews ask the same questions ask the very same basic level questions as the Bala and the reason why is because they also don't know they also don't know no one ever taught them I could tell you from experience that most religious people that watch me they watch me simply because they want to learn about in the beginning this was unusual to me because I come from the secular World say what do you mean I'm secular so I'm learning about because that's the foundation why are you learning from me I was a few years ago what do you have to learn for me says no no no I'm learning for 20 years I've never learned about says what' you learn if you learn about what did you learn oh we learn about loving AEM we learned we learn about different things but we learn about said yeah but that's the foundation hem says to the prophet that the uh The Treasure of hem is and says he didn't create the world for any other reason other than than to fear Him that's the only reason why he created the world for you to fear him so what did you learn for 20 years that's what I learned so there's like a missing ingredient in our Judaism today and that's also leads us to the third outcome the third part the third part is the outcome the outcome of all of this is that we have very little Jewish Pride very very little Jewish Pride very few people are actually proud Jews now you could go start saying no no but what what about all the guys that uh from kabad that are put feeling in the middle of the street is not Jewish pride no it's not Jewish Pride it's something completely different it's a mission that they have for certain things it's not Jewish Pride well what about the people that uh you know that uh I don't know have the parades parades about how okay it's nice but it's not Jewish Pride if you look at all of the other nations around us if you go to the Spanish people you'll see they stick with each other you'll see that when there's a certain holiday they have no questions in their mind of whether they're going to put the Christmas lights on or whether they're going to put the this lights on or this candle or this flag or this statue they don't ask for permission from the city they don't ask if you like it if it's going to disturb you they just have their parade they're proud of it they're ecstatic about and they're looking at you as like why don't you come join us like why wouldn't you want to be part of it you look at the Irish people same thing they've made it a national holiday to drink it's not just for the Irish people it's for anyone but really the Irish people started it you look at the Italian every Italian will tell you no come on you eat pasta you eat this you eat this come eat it out I'll bless it for you I remember my secular uh my my non-jewish friends in public school I would tell them no no I think it's it's not Kosher because we still kept kosher meet even though we weren't keeping Shabbat we'll keep you Kosher meat so he's like what just come come eat uh come eat with us we're going to a restaurant or going to whatever he goes said no it's not Kosher he said what kosher what's what want bless it I'll bless it for you the it tellan would tell me he's going to bless my food but to him he's perfectly proud of his Linguini and his uh his his his his pasta and his and his holidays and his Italian flag and the soccer and all the things that make them what they are same thing with black people you're never going to see a black person at least not a normal one that's ashamed of being black in fact he's proud of it he's even proud of the slavery that happened 400 years ago some of them are still warning over it even though it has no connection to today's black people but the reality is they're upset and they're proud at the same time they're upset and they're proud but they're never embarrassed they're never embarrassed they're never embarrassed if they're normal and many of them are wonderful people some of my converts some of my students are black people they're amazing people hasem gave me the the the the ability not to see color I don't see color I see color like you I see blue and black and all but as far as whether you're black green Chinese not Chinese all my whole life I never cared what you are it doesn't make a difference to me so I speak very comfortable about topics like this most people are very like shaky when they talk about black people and Spanish people and because in reality they're racist so they know that when they say black like it doesn't to them me I see everybody's the same so I'm very comfortable talking about topics like this in my sh anyone that's uncomfortable it's because they're racist not because of me so the reality is you're never going to see a normal black person embarrassed at being black if he's normal if he's not normal it's a different situation same thing with a Jew same thing with everybody else but with Jews unfortunately it's very rare to find one that's proud it's very rare to find one that's proud now you can say why he's religious he's is not Mak him proud no a proud Jew by definition number one has to be a Jew has to be a Jew a Jew what is the definition of a Jew does a Jew mean because your mom is Jewish technically Al yes but in reality no in reality no Al yes he's a Jew he's going to be judged as a Jew but is he really a Jew no what makes you a Jew is the Torah before we got to mount we were after we were Nation of Israel later on fast forward we have the first time in the entire T that's written Jew is meaning what changed between A and M something that happened in between what was it the Torah is what makes you Jewish nothing else the fact that your mom is Jewish is giving you a ticket in you don't have to convert but what keeps you Jewish what makes you Jewish is whether you abide by the Torah or not now if you abide by the Torah that means you have to abide by all of the laws that are applicable to you one of those laws is a law that's called you must rebuke your brother meaning you see your brother Shabbat one of your friends drives on Shabbat every week one of your friends works on shabat one of your friends eats not Kosher one of your friends is going out with a non-jewish woman a non-jewish man you see this you're obligated to say something especially because he's close to you especially because he's within your inner circle you're obligated to say something why because you're obligated to be zealous there's obviously degrees of zealousness if you're a zealous as Pinas you're allowed to even kill somebody but in reality none of us are so we just say just say words don't kill anybody but that that obligation is what makes you Jewish the other thing that makes you Jewish according to the is if you go against the asks how why why is M the first person that's called Yi what makes him a Yi what made B the daughter of par become a y what's there was no Torah yet so why did hasem make her baa Batya means the daughter of hem her father really was why did hasm change her name to she's my daughter why did he let her you know raise the most important human being that ever lived M why because she she um she went against idolatry she went against idolatry so here we see just two simple things number one you see that in order for you to be a Jew by definition has nothing to do with hat has nothing to do with you black or white has to do with how proud of you of the tah to such an extent that you w to get yourself out of the comfort zone and tell your friends tell your family tell your surroundings hey by the way every time you you you violate Shabbat you're going against my my father and he happens to be your father too every time you steal you're stealing from my people every time how how proud of you of of being Jewish the second thing is is are you proud enough that when you see the missionaries that are roaming the streets like cockroaches to say something because they don't ask twice before they knock on a Jewish door they see the muuza you tell them don't come to to to houses with the Mizan what do they do da they go to the house with the muan why because that's what they want that's who they want they want the Jew that's practicing the Jew that has a mza how proud of you how proud are you of the Torah point to say something do something or at the very least do the same thing they are they're going to door to door at least tell the people in a to come to a the reality is is that we're not so proud we're not so proud because you see people in the airport any time I travel I always see especially morning flights I see people pray if you see the Arabs play the Arabs they pray in the middle of Broadway they they in the middle of traffic they'll pray in the middle of traffic they'll pray they have this uh their CU is called da dawa dawa is cu for them to get people to come closer to Islam and their mission for the last 20 years is to get the entire world to become Muslim to such an extent that every Muslim by default every single one of them in order for them to be a Muslim they have to do da so all these people in the key that are selling halal food every single one of them is doing DA they actually was the undercover report done in Israel and it was it's a published in in English and Hebrew by this uh this uh journalist called uhy and he came to the United States he went to different countries and uh he talked to the people running the Halal foods and so on he told them oh why do you have these stickers on top of your cart he's selling halal food why do you have these stickers and the guy tells him all right he goes because we believe that God runs the world and then Muhammad is our is our Messiah he's like yeah but that's your belief that's your belief it's not everybody else's belief he goes no we hope that by people eating the food they become Muslim too they become Muslim too and I give and he tells them I give them stickers I give them presents I tell them if they if they become Muslim they go to ganeden this is a guy selling hot dogs he's selling uh kishes not one not two not three every single one of them one after another so he says oh so so you're doing daah while you're while you're working he goes no no no no da is what I'm doing the food is secondary that's why they have two billion people because they're proud they're proud of what they are they're proud of their falsehood they have the sh but they work it like it's true we have them but we work it like it's false that's the difference the hot dog stand guy is going to try to recruit every single one of you just give him a chance the missionary will try to recruit every single one of you just give him a chance but the local Rabbi tell listen I want to learn today ah you know what I'm busy today come back next week I'm interested in con converting yeah yeah I don't do that can you connect me with somebody no you just call the bed everybody's busy everybody's doing something else everybody's not interested everybody's ashamed the Arabs that have the falsehood and the Christians that have the falsehood will praying them M the street the Jew in the corner hiding there's always like a jeuk in the corner of every airport praying no one is praying in the middle no one is no one has the the the the to pray in the middle of the air with and explain there by the way guys this is what the mhia is going to look like just so you know it's not your JC Penny it's not your Muhammad to get with that's what the mashia is going to look like get used to it you don't have to say those words but the reality is when you pray in the corner that means you're ashamed but that's all of us we're all victims myself included we're all ashamed we're all in the corner why we don't want to disturb anybody we don't want to put anything on anyone we're all like scared of our own Shadows we're scared of our own shadows and that's the problem that's the problem that we don't have any any Jewish Pride we don't have any Pride of the tah to let admit that we have we don't have we're scared of our own Shadows we're scared to do kiru every time it tell somebody listen why don't you do kiru why don't you get people to do cha ah no I don't know I don't know I don't know I don't know what do you mean I don't know why don't you know n they're already like somewhat religious if I tell them about your sh maybe they're not going to like it if I tell them about this maybe this they always have all these all of these accounting they do there all this accounting but if I tell listen I have a deal for you I have a deal for you we can make 50,000 next week okay okay but it's GNA be really hard okay fine fine but you're not going to be able to sleep for three months oh okay no problem and by the way you have to divorce your wife okay no problem oh you have to uh sell kids okay no problem everything no problem no why for money no problem for money no problem but to go save a Jew there's always this accounting oh I'm busy and I don't have and no one has any money all of a sudden they have a $5 million house but they don't have any money they have 50 friends but nobody comes to the Sher they have a mouth that doesn't stop talking but they can't tell anybody the truth that's what's missing that's what's missing both in a religious world and the secular world but the secular world will only do chuva if the religious world does chuva first the secular world will only do Chua if the religious world does Chua first why because the secular world will never know no one's teaching them they don't go to B and even if they do their entire to of the week is what they learn in sud the five minutes they let some guy talk that's their t for the entire week if they even come back every week so unless the religious guy that's talking for the five minutes actually does Chua himself and starts utilizing that five minutes to tell him the truth hey by the way all of you guys that drove on Shabbat you should know according to the ramb inat chapter 30 it says a Jew that Shabbat is considered 100% an idol worshiper just so you know shabbat shalom that's a sheer why someone's going to change from that sheer they may hate you a few of them they may even throw a few a few salads at you but one guy's going to change one guy is going to change that's enough that's enough do you need to be a big Rabbi to say what I just said no do you need to be a big no all you need to do is speak and be proud of what you are and don't do any accounting and that's what's missing that's what missing we're missing that zealousness we're missing that Jewish Pride that we're proud to be religious we're proud to have the truth because it's the truth because it's the truth let's be proud of it and that's you don't need to be a big speaker you don't need to be a have The Gift of Gab you don't have to be a certain look you don't have to be a certain height you don't need to be anything all you need to be is proud at least as proud as the Muslims at least as proud proud as the Christians that's it at least as proud as the Italian guy with his flag at least as proud as him there's nothing wrong with him as a matter of fact I envy him I envy all of them why I wish I wish we were like them we were as proud as the Arabs praying in the middle of Broadway stopping traffic without a care in the world well care in the world they stop traffic every day as if there's a few people online the supermarket oh no no no let the Arab guy go let the AR Go no no we we we could wait we could wait we have the Torah let him go first we don't want the Arab guy or the Christian guy to wait online at the supermarket we let him go ahead of us why Shalom he's going to wait we don't want to distract them some people who even say it's to make somebody else wait online with us they stop traffic why because they want you to be just like them but we don't want anyone to be like us why because we ourselves don't want to be us we ourselves are not so proud to be ourselves and that's the biggest problem and the reason why is because most of Judaism today is based on exterior it's based on the exterior it's based on the hats and the jackets and the Beards that are free that's why even a goat has one and and and and and all of these things that are exterior the and uh all of these different things that are nice but it doesn't make you Jewish it's good things for doing it I have a beard also and you know I don't wear a hat but hey I don't know if I don't think that makes me less Jewish but a lot of people will tell you that if you don't have a beard you shouldn't be a rabbi if you don't wear a hat you're you're you're on a lesser level of Jewish as a matter of fact there certain sex of Judaism that if you wear a different hat than them they think you're lesser of a Jew there's different types of hats now certain sex certain sex of Judaism wear the round hat other sex wear different there different types of hats so which means that each one of the sects that wears a different hat believes that their hat makes them more Jewish their beard makes them more Jewish you groom your beard oh you're less Jewish because we don't groom our beards we let it go oh your payers are this way they're behind the ear oh that's that's less our pays on the side they go all the way and so on and so forth so this type of Judaism cannot last because it's fake it's fake it's not real Judaism it's not real Judaism not one time do you see in the entire Five Books of Moses not one time do you see anyone any of the major leaders defined by their looks modesty is a is a it's of course it's a needless to say the women and the men need to be modest but mhu did not become mosu because of his paysu did not become Abu because of his hat Yu was not selected to be Yu because of his beard how how are they selected based on based on when you start with you say this verse every day in prayer every day you say this now I know you fear me Hashem tells him now I know you fear me don't touch the boy now I know you fear me now you know I fear well the first nine tests you didn't know the first nine test I left my father's house I went into the uh the Egypt over there starving this all these different tests you didn't know I feared you now I know you fear me the 10 test says you got to the highest level what you get to meaning to have you is the highest compliment you could have that's what made him a Jew not the beard not the Hat not the ex exterior you want to do the exterior good but it's not going to make you a Jew what's going to make you Jew is how you express this how the exterior is matching the interior but if the inter interior is rotten no exterior is going to save us and that's one ingredient that's missing today most of us are worried too much about the exterior as soon as you see somebody just did chuat three months ago already has a beard in my opinion you shouldn't have a beard until you at least read the kumash five times why because at least you know something you know something you read commentary you read the K five times okay you know something okay now you're allowed to have a beer but today every Joker wears a be he looks like he's a rabbi already and unfortunately sometimes it's it's you can't do anything about it and because of this we have a lot of issues in Judaism today I have actually I have a guy that did I helped him do Chua four years ago and he decided to speed up the process he said okay you know what I'm going to to Cola I'm going to leave everything leave the job leave the cola leave everything and I'm going to be an I said yeah it's a big adjustment it's a big adjustment to go from working all day to learning all day why don't you do a little bit of both in the beginning study and uh and work because it's a big test unless you have a bunch of money which I knew he didn't no no no I'm going to do it I'm going to do it you're just slowing me down all of a sudden I helped you do TR now I'm slowing you down okay good luck to you he did what he did he had a lot of big difficult tests and he went to a k wanted to kill his wife a few times because of the financial issues that they were going through but nonetheless within maybe a year after that he decided the next big move what's the next big move he's going to open a synagogue now we're talking about someone that is 18 months in 18 months in wants to open a synagogue meaning now he's going to be responsible for telling everybody the day to day and so on and so forth now this is a this is a problem why is this a problem because he still doesn't know anything yet himself he still hasn't finished the twice but the this this type of mentality is there why because he learned a little bit got the beard he thought that's Judaism the exterior is Judaism so now he would uh one time I remember when I knew already he's going in the wrong direction he asked me he's like listen um are you also going to wear white I said what do you mean wear white goes no Yip and you g to wear white said no we don't wear white anymore that's a that's lost many many years ago it's not it's not something that we do and actually says that only do it because no one else does it that you look very odd doing it in a world that's has no nothing no no such thing it's like no what are you talking about me and all my friends are wearing white it's like oh every one of them looks like a cabalist this guy started keeping Shabbat last week this why started keeping Shabbat two weeks ago this one is still not keeping Shabbat but everybody has turned it into exterior Judaism why leadership leadership he left me he want he went somewhere else the leader in the next place told him he's do good just grow a beard wear white you could start a Kila within nine months within uh nine months and that's what happened so this wouldn't happen this wouldn't happen if there was real leaders in different places if everybody was proud to be a Jew in different places by proud to be a Jew I constantly tell you the same thing it means you have to such an extent that you're know that your obligation not only to fulfill the truth but to tell people about it tell people listen you have to keep Shabbat tell people you have to uh uh keep kosher tell people the truth and not be ashamed of it not be ashamed of it and that's the main thing that I think we're missing today now I'm sure you guys have some questions we can talk about so go ahead you get a question you know your friend doesn't Okay so the is this if it's a rabah there you must rebuke your brother that you must rebuke him if it's aahah like or like or like or even a blessing over food blessing over food these are all rabal mitv if you know that if you tell your friend Listen by the way you just ate that before you eat that Apple make a blessing make a blessing and you know this guy is such a like malicious guy that he's da not going to do it then he's going to start eating in your face and start making a scene out of it and so on it's aah not to tell him mitvah not why because you know for sure he's not going to listen to it but that's only because it's AAL mitvah if it's a Biblical miter all of these biblical regardless of whether he listens or he doesn't listen you have to tell him up to what extent the rambam says up to the extent where he hit you up to that extent meaning I'm going to tell him to go keep Shabbat he's he's going to threaten to slap me he's not going to slap you tell him I'm going to tell him to keep sh this time he's going to slap me okay if he slaps you then you stop telling him after that but until he slaps you you keep telling them over and over and over and over again that's the actual so what happened as far as the what's Lost in Translation today is that most people just read the first part I told you which is the rabinal mitzvah don't tell him if he's not going to listen they turn it into if it's a Biblical mitvah also don't tell him but that's not true the actual is if it's a Biblical mitvah you have to tell them uh so your friend or your family member or whoever it is uh the reality is that you have to tell them you have to tell them one way or another and one secret I could tell you guys in regards to kiru in general is that without Miss without self sacrifice there's no there's no success because the rambam says that at the end of times a lot of the things we saw in Egypt we're going to see again but this time it's going to be magnified how so just like we had three days of darkness in Egypt before mashiach comes it's going to be 15 days of darkness because in Egypt he was only getting rid of the Egyptians the firstborn of the Egyptians and the wicked Jews that didn't want to do cha rest of the world in China in Africa and the rest of the world out there we left them alone when the Messiah comes it's for everyone you did CH as a Jew or as a non-jew you did CH you're good you didn't do CH you're finished no more CH page 4 a at the end of of 3B talks specifically about how there's no more conversions there's no more wants the mhia arrives why because at that point there's no more free choice you already know the truth you already know the god of Israel that's you're finished so whatever you are at that point that's it but that's why it's going to be 15 days of darkness why a lot of people a lot of people that's why it says actually at the end of days just the first count is two-thirds of the world will be wiped away two-thirds of the world meaning onethird have a chance to make it not for sure but they have a chance so now the say that the msia himself how did he this obviously this major Merit this is not a uh like the Christians think it's some guy that died is coming back to life or it's God it's a regular person the mashia is a regular person obviously once he becomes mashia hasem instills power in him and and so on and so forth but in reality before all of that takes place he a regular person he an average Joe how did he get to such a point how do he get to such a point to inherit such an amazing say is partially how self sacrifice three types of sufferings were given to am onethird was given to aavu all of the Giants onethird of all of is's suffering was given to them one-third of the suffering was given to the generations of pgrs inquisitions Holocaust all the nightmares am has gone through for the last 3,300 years onethird of all suffering to them and oneir to mashia by himself that soul that Soul that's GNA that's going to save all of us has onethird of all the world suffering and every Dayal say every single day every single day he has more and more wounds because of our sins and eaches every all of the all them come to that Soul come to that and beg him please continue please continue taking on more suffering and what's going to be the big bu for all of us when we see mashia Al we get the Merit to see MASH what's going to be the big bu when each one of us is going to see which wound we caused which suffering we caused on him imagine do is suffering because of you is suffering because he has a scar over here because you because you went out with a non-jew one time because you ate a little sh that's not Kos from the kalal guy ah it's only a sandwich okay he's suffering now because of you SN man that's the bu we're going to have if we make it but how do we get to such a point how does like what's obviously we have no connection with me we're not mashia it's teaching us that in order for mashia to be mashia he has to not only welcome but expect it expect M all of these Giants self-sacrifice was a given meaning the Tora is telling us that in order for you to have even a remote chance of being a leader you have to already get used to sacrificing sacrificing your comfort zone sacrificing everything that makes you comfortable start there you're comfortable financially start there you're comfortable with your time you have a lot of extra time start there you're comfortable with your learning start there make that uncomfortable if you're com comfortable with your learning that means you're not learning anything difficult if you're comfortable if you're not sweating every day at the end of you're learning and thinking about it constantly that means you're not learning anything difficult means you're just like a grinding water just learning just to repeat the same thing over and over again but nothing ever changes if your n is not traumatized at the end of every single day because you learn something that you have no idea what happen what's right what's left something's happening I can't believe it and you're not walking back and forth because there's some in yourself something's wrong with your learning I ask people all the time no what you learn this week people are religious not people are not religious this is for religious people what you learn this week I don't know what do you mean you don't know you went to ISA yeah went to ISA you went you learned yeah what' you learn I don't know what do you mean you don't know so what' you do for a all week I don't remember so it was better off the week never existed it means that you're not being you're not pushing yourself so if your learning is is it's not push start there if if your time start there if your money start there whatever is your comfort zone start moving start moving start getting used to self-sacrifice because if you want to have the Merit of saving a Jew from Gom and bring him to ganeden you have to realize you're gonna have to sacrifice something for that because the reward is endless the reward is extraordinary you can't do it Comfort can't do it you can't do it just like walking in expecting uh there there's going to be a uh Standing Ovation for you it's not going to happen and that's how you look at all of the each one of the each one of them is this one one story that I remember is uh during the Shalom during the um it was uh a few Rich guys donated a helicopter for him to go from place to place during those those the 10 days of Chua in order for him to give as many lectures as possible so he would go literally from Stadium to Stadium each Stadium 5 10 20,000 people one day as soon as he finished the lecture he came in back into the helicopter and he told the uh the pilot immediately to the hospital immediately go to the hospital don't go back anywhere else go straight to the hospital so on the way there they asked like what happened he goes I I had a I believe this I have a heart attack believe had a heart attack it's like when did you start feeling this pain like when was this pain is it just start now they starting in the middle of the election she goes no it was on the way there so when we were flying there I had the heart attack I had the pain in my chest and I was having a heart attack go for why don't you just turn her why you tell me to stop turn around go to the hospital you just sacrificed your life goes do you know how many people were waiting to go learn to you think I have any any possibility to give any accounting to my heart people are waiting to learn T do you think I can give any consideration to my heart that's now we're not we're not but we can get five guys to come to we can get a few CDs to a few people we can donate M we could do the basic things that we do but just a little more push us a little more instead of learning five minutes learn 10 minutes instead of learning an hour learn two hours instead of just learning the stuff you're comfortable with learn something that you're a little uncomfortable with that's it that's Ming with NE it starts there once you start doing that once you open up that that door forem and he shows up this guy really wants to do CH himself regardless religious not religious once you open that door a lot of good things happen after that starts and a lot of amazing things happen but until we actually become like was the one that saved all of we got to yam until did not have the Merit am did not have the Merit to cross the Sea of reeds it wouldn't open it wouldn't split M screamed to hem what are we going to do on the right side and left side there scorpions and snakes there's nothing we can do behind us is the Egyptians in front of us is an oceanem says what are you screaming to me for tell to move forward what do you mean move forward there's an ocean and the tribe of and then after that bamin all understood the point let's go into the water whyem wants us to do withm wants us to sacrifice sacrifice our comfort zone our comfort zone at that time was our logic our logic it didn't make sense that hasem would split the ocean so that's where we have to go that's what we have to do today in the American World we're very comfortable American Jud ism is very very comfortable people do everything they possibly can to be more comfortable if the old seats weren't good enough now they got leather seats if the leather seats weren't good enough now it's heated leather seats and if that's not not good enough now they have even heated door door knobs for the cars just in case Shalom your your little fingers will be will touch something cold and if that's not enough the steering wheel is heated also because Shalom your steering wheel will will be cold or normal temperature and it's all these convenient things which Len enjoy I enjoy it also we had a conversation my wife and I admitt admitted this a few weeks ago so it's it's just repeating the same bu that I had but it's okay it helps me do CH we had to consider we're talking my wife and I about doing alah doing Aliah and because of what I do what we do really my wife and I she's as much bigger part of it than I am um it's difficult not because of the money not because of where we live if it was up to that I'd leave tomorrow with no money with nothing it makes no difference to me go why I know that over there just takes care of us over here I'll take care of us over there what's the consideration consideration is that there's really more of a need for me for for what we do here than there is in Israel much more of a need in Israel there's quite a few truth speakers in Hebrew it's quite a few let's say there's at least a dozen that's not really a lot but relative to the English speakers in the world it's considered a lot in the English world you can count them on one hand you can count them on one hand there's a lot of English speakers there's a lot of really good speakers a lot of entertaining speakers but people that actually help people do cha according to one of the big rabbis one of the biggest rabbis in Jerusalem that I know he told me in his opinion there only five in the entire world that's his opinion I think his opinion is worth something people he says that people actually get people to do Chua not people that speak a lot of people people that speak there's a thousand of them people actually get people to do chuba since you actually help people will do cha you can't just go wherever you want you have to be go go wherever you're needed so then to go back to the story we're considering okay so what's going to change if we do go there maybe I'll travel back and you know take breaks and so on and so forth but what's the lifestyle change let's start talking about the logistics of it Logistics of moving do you know what the first consideration was Amazon that was the first consideration I'm dead serious as embarrassing as it is I know it's it's it's it's a real it was really a consideration why the convenience of Amazon boxes arriving at my house helps my life why that means I don't have to leave the house I could learn I could do K I don't have to leave the house and also my wife doesn't have to leave much why I could whatever I want I could AR in my house that's not the same everywhere else but that convenience that convenience is something that we have to consider we have to we have to debate it are we willing to lose it yeah they have something there but it's not the same but that's the convenience we're used to in America we're not willing to be inconvenienced we're not willing to be in convenience tell people listen uh can you give me a ride ah you're out of the way why you're carrying the guy on your head you're in a car you just press the button get out of the way 15 minutes why you carrying the guy for 15 minutes on your head now or you're riding a camel on the heat you're an air conditioner you have a shield to maybe on on the CD player what's the big deal to give the guy a ride we're very very reluctant to take to make ourselves in you know inconvenienced but when it comes to kiru when it comes to tah when it comes to the truth you have to be in convenient you have to be it's the only way it's the only chance we have next question shorter answer but at the same time like at what point are we able to transition himself was able to even get to thats like only then after after now you have so the teach us the following the and each have multiple levels it's not just or just there's levels of each now the lowest level of is purely fearing punishment I don't want to go against God because I don't want to lose money I don't want to go against God because I don't want to go to Gom forever or I don't want to go to G for three days even whatever it is there's actually a story in aad went up to and they told him listen you did fantastic except this one small thing you messed up on so you have a choice either come back to the world as a G again live a whole new life or go to Gom for 3 Days that's it just go to Gom for three days he says I'm not going back to the world for 70 more years who knows maybe I'll be R this time you know hard I work to get here to to to do something I'll go to get home for three days I got to get home for three days okay no problem they take the Giants come take him they that's so nice they come take him and they start walking and as they walking closer closer to the to the gate of Gom he starts feeling the heat it's like what we here he goes no we're miles away he goes it's hot though goes oh we're far we're far they get closer he's like I can't think it's too hot he goes well we still have two three miles left what are you scared of he goes no no I can't take it I can't take it he goes what can't take it you already made your own judgment he started crying to Hashem Hashem help me Hashem help me hasem help me and Hashem sent an angel goes because you are a sadik I'll give you the ability to change your mind what do you want he says I want to go back for 70 years go back for 70 years and try my luck then go to Gom for three days so now the lowest level lowest level is not to be that guy not to be not to go to G for one minute that's low the highest level of meaning you fear not because of punishment only but rather also also because you fear his majesty you fear hurting the relationship between you and him what is this like a relationship between a husband a normal husband and a wife today I always have to say normal because today there's a lot of things that are normal is not normal anymore so yeah so you guys understand what I mean when I say normal normal is not cuckoo even though the normal today is cuckoo but uh the thing is though is that a normal couple is not going to yell at each other the husband's not going to yell at the wife the wife is not going to yell at the husband not because they're scared that there's going to be violence he's not scared that if he yells at her she's gonna slap him in the face or she's not going to yell at him because she's scared that he's going to slap her they're not that's not the reason they're not doing it if they're normal they're not doing it because they're afraid of hurting the relationship she knows that if she disrespects her husband he's going to be offended if he's offended it's going to hurt him it's going to hurt her too why cuz his is like one with hers that's a that's a good quality couple that's on the same page she doesn't want to hurt him because she knows that number one hurting him is hurting herself that's she doesn't want to do it so it's not because of she's afraid he's going to beat the Rob or anything like that we're not in uh in Saddam Hussein's country we're here we're normal we're not afraid of be getting beat up we're just don't want to yell at each other we don't want to disrespect each other simply because we don't want to offend each other we don't want to hurt the relationship I know that if I yell at her she's not going to be open to me anymore she's not going to talk to me anymore she's not going to smile the next time I say a joke she's not going to even want to listen to my stories anymore she's something's going to change the quality of the relationship is going to change forever even though it's one yell something's going to change forever it's a tattoo it's a tattoo once once you break that barrier that's it something changes and you have to work and what took you one second to ruin it'll take you 20 years to fix that's we have to so when we care about the relationship we don't want to do it we don't want why because we care about the relationship that's the highest level of how do you get to that transition the highest level of is when you start caring about the Rel relationship between you and not because purely you're scared of punishment you're always scared of punishment that's always a necessity but you're also scared of hurting that connection with him and that says that is the beginning of the highest level of is the beginning of loving hem which means that most people in this generation have no concept of what aat really means the means you have no choice you have no desire you have nothing it's only what he wants I ask you so what do you want to do this weekend what does hem want what do you want to talk about what does hem want that's aat aatm means you've removed your desires and replace them with God's desires that's that's something that's very very high level so you have a without no never had no he did that's why Hashem called him when he later on in the uh which was um I think the book of Bachi he says he calls his lover meaning loved him so the sages tell us that the beginning is fear of punishment the highest level of is the beginning ofat the beginning ofat now the conclusion is you can fear hem but not love him you can fear AEM but not love him but you can't love him without fearing him you can't love him without fearing him the reason why you can't love him without fearing him is because in order to love somebody anyone you have to know what you're dealing with first before you say I love my wife you have to get to know her a little bit until you get to know her all you like is her looks what she looks like maybe if she has money or she doesn't have money if she has this you like qualities about it you don't love her same thing about your husband you may like a joke that he said but you don't know what's inside you have to get to know someone in order to love them takes time once you get to know hasem just a little bit of what he says you just read the five books of Moses with commentary by Rashi that's it in English if that's not if English is your first language read it in English if Hebrew is your first language like you're you're dominating the Biblical Hebrew read it in in Hebrew but a lot of people try to be heroes and read it in Hebrew even though they don't understand one word that's that's not that's just foolishness you're wasting your time you need to understand what it says read five books of Moses with Rashi commentary if you want more commentary do more commentary but just read that five books of one time and actually understand what it means once you read it one time whether it's the entire book of Deuteronomy a lot of the books once you read it with basic level commentary you're immediately scared immediately scared why you realize that half the T talks about punishment half the T talks about if you don't do what I say boom half the Tora is constantly repeating himself saying I'm not your friend I'm not your buddy not the guy from the bar not your classmate I'm not your K I'm God I love you but there's a condition there is a condition you have to listen to me so once we understand that who we're dealing with we can't get to without fearing him first we have to fear Him first and that's why K says very very extraordinary statement it says that purely by itself just having is an incomplete connection to AEM it's a connection but it's incomplete why the ideal is the ideal so the ideal connection is to have and so if you only have you only have fear of hem it's an incomplete connection but if you only have AA it's no connection at all what do you mean it's no connection there's no such thing it's impossible to Simply love AEM why because as soon as you realize who you're dealing with you must be scared if you're not scared you're also not there either mentally there's something wrong and that's one of the things that people try to teach to today very often a lot of these so-called amuna teachers these people that teach amuna amuna this amuna this think this and it'll be this think positive and it'll be positive all of this stot that people teach just because you think something it's going to happen it doesn't necessarily mean anything you could think you could be a millionaire all day but unless you go to work you don't have a chance yes you could believe that you're going to find a wife but unless you leave the four four walls that you're around you're not going to find anybody you could think a lot of things but in reality it's not going to make him so there has to be a reason of whym is going to make it so you simply thinking it is not enough there's no in thinking there's no there's no self-sacrifice in thinking you have to do so take something typ of action even if it's let's say there's a famous story of a certain that went into a room and didn't leave for like seven eight years as ra told him listen you haven't left your room in seven years you learned you're and everything else but you have to find a goes no I believe that Z is going to come to me I believe Z is going to come to me and lo behold the way it happened is that actually the Z actually came to him one day somebody sent a a woman to go deliver food to him and was the first woman he saw in seven years that he was in his room but all day he's learning to non-stop he's sleeping two hours a day and he said to the woman at first listen you're the first woman i' I've seen in seven years is there any chance you'd be willing to marry me he saw she has no K she saw that she was she was she was single she wasn't wearing a wig so he saw she's single so I uh because today you can't can't tell if they were not married or not married with the wigs so he saw she she's not wearing a so would you be willing to marry me she goes I don't even know you go no listen he got married why he did though he did something that most of us are not willing to do but for all of those amuna teachers that teach people oh yeah listen if you think good it's going to be good it's not necessarily so there's more to it there's more to the equation there's more to it you have to push yourself a little bit a little bit of just like there's is in your work there's is in your spirituality there's is in everything else and that's the thing that every one of us needs to know but the biggest part that I think all of us need help on is number one doing Chua ourselves and two ultimately having a goal of having enough of enough chuva in our system that we're proud of what we are we feel comfortable publicizing it so when it comes to let's say for example you want to do something like the idea they mentioned to me with the bands and so on how do you know that's a good idea or a bad idea how do you know any idea that you have is a good idea or a bad idea one you have basic level of basic level connection to hem you have to repeat the verse every day meaning I'm always thinking that hm is next to meem is always next to me what does that mean hm is always next to me it's always in you see it everywhere this what ises it actually mean it means this is the foundation of before I do something something I ask what's God's opinion now what's my opinion now what's going to make me money now what's going to make me popular not what's gonna people going to like or not like what is God's opinion now how do I know what God's opinion is you see from the five books of Moses the five books of Moses our Torah tells us what is his goal to spread the T around the world to make sure that is to make sure sure that everybody learns to to make sure that everybody knows who he is and follows what he says that's the ultimate goal that's the ultimate to fix the world to fix the world through his word through hashem's word that's the purpose of the world so is what you're doing doing that is what you're doing is what you're doing connected to hem at all if it's a spiritual thing for example the bands if this is going to help yeah some wrist bands that he would write some type of a uh I guess okay so yeah this is a very similar to a uh a ring a ring that uh I believe it was SCH gave to another king as a present um and uh it says uh uh when you um when you had this ring it said this two Shall Pass H maybe yeah maybe you're right yeah maybe somebody gave it to W gave it to somebody else and have the Second Story either way the point is is that it was a certain ring that would remind the person that regardless of what the circumstances is this two shall pass this two shall pass if what you're doing is going to spread hashem's name in one way or another and get one more person to do a get one more person to eat kosher get one more person to go through a uh certain difficulty without getting off the D why not there's no there's no down sight here but if this is going to make people lose their jish guite people are going to become less religious or or it's purely money based and obviously there's no point so it from basically from what you've told me I don't see a downside you're saying think about God what could be so wrong about telling people think about God you're not telling people listen think about God while you're eating think about God while you're with the non-jew think about God while you're stealing like Midol did you're not saying that you're just saying think about God what's wrong with that there's nothing wrong with it but you don't want what you don't want is you don't want people to turn to this to supplement the exterior Judaism that we have today exterior Judaism that we have today is that a lot of people have turned Judaism to things that are exterior so in the religious world it's the jackets it's the hats it's the beard in a non-religious world people love zul they love these little short prayers and they think that that's going to get them to uh get money get Z you know you see all these WhatsApp groups and Facebook groups and even kot you see people that come to the to the Sho half naked like oh what's this G for a keep Shabbat no no no something easier keep see something easier keep modesty no no no no something easier something easier everybody's looking for a shortcut so you don't want us to supplement that world where we've turned all of Judaism into a wristband or into a small little prayer you want to tell them listen this is good to have and if you're go through a struggle but you know if and obviously if you're giving it Hand by hand then you want to give them a little tah if it's someone religious tell them listen next time you go into it's good to have if it's someone that's that's a uh not religious he take this and uh come to the sh remind him to come to the sh on Tuesday on Wednesday or whatever like try to do kiru while you're doing Ito when you give it give it name sure yeah yeah yeah yeah give it give it to somebody give it to somebody uh in essence use it as a tool to get people to come closer not as the tool as this is end all be all uh but yeah if if what your decision is is has to do with AEM you could only win uh if it has nothing to do with hem it's you know usually it's if it has nothing to do with hm usually it's against him you know so that's that's really one of the main things because usually people don't do any no one does anything for no reason no one ever built a table for no reason you never going to see a table for no reason never going to tell the guy okay why' you build a table no no reason is somebody going to use it no I don't know is is somebody going to eat on it I don't know are you going to sell no no I don't think so why did you build it I don't know never going to see such a thing it's every creation has a purpose so if the purpose of whatever we're doing does not have a Shem in mind he usually has a Satan instead we just don't call it that we call it our bank account we call it our ego we call it a lot of other things we don't call it him but that's really what it is so you have to make sure which one it's one of them Z and just like Hashem made himself a throne of Glory he also made a throne of Glory for the time he also he also has one and he only gets up out of that chair when it comes to K when it comes to you recruiting to otherwise he has servants to do that the rest of the work he has servants to do that so you'll notice that the things that are meaningless if you're trying to make money if you want to have I don't know a basketball tournament you want to have a I don't know one of these crazy B that has a in Florida a few weeks ago had a uh back gam tournament in the besset a gambling tournament in the B Orthodox gambling tournament inside the B as El someone that died a year ago the guy the guy's probably screaming at them please don't do the tournament don't do the tournament you're killing me I had a chance now you guys are killing me with your stupid tournament but that's the thing so all of those things Satan is never going to interfere with why he's like oh listen everybody come to the back gam tournament everybody come to the basketball tournament everyone come to the baseball game for the hila everyone come to the Super Bowl party he's never going to get in the way why you're doing his work but if you try to get people to come do chuva somebody's gonna do CH every person that comes like pulling teeth every single person difficult why sometimes getting in the way so you'll know also you'll G this is a good way to gauge the more difficult the close you are to the truth the close you are to and again it's it's it's a it's it's a necessary thing for me that was one of the biggest suggestions for me going from this from the business world where people would pay to to to talk to me to going into the religious world where I would think the same logic but in reality I have to pay them to talk to them that's the reality there they would pay me $3,000 an hour just to talk to me here have to pay them $3,000 an hour for me to talk to them that's it that's say you know you're in the right direction that's just a reality next question yeah what is the process that I guess you and the other four people follow for how how I'm asking how does so in reality fearing fear is the number one motivator we all have whether we like it or not to do everything that we do everything that we do is based on fear when you leave and you're going to drive home you're going to have traffic laws that you're going to abide by even subconsciously subconsciously you're going to abide by the traffic light why you're afraid to get into a car accident you're afraid to get a ticket you're afraid that someone is going to curse you out you're going afraid you're afraid of things to happen that's why you're going to abide by those laws even if you disagree with them even if you think like me I don't think there should be any speed limit personally I don't think speed limits actually help the environment in any way shape or form and statistically speaking the countries that actually have no speed limits have less accidents than countries that do have speed limits but I still have to abide by the law of the country why because that's the law and I'm scared to get a ticket so fear is a motivator even in traffic fear also motivates us to get married why we don't want to be alone everyone that's normal knows that at some point even though I enjoy myself being alone now as a 18 20 25 30y old he's partying he's got a new girl every other day but the reality is at the end of the day he knows every day he's alone why you want to have a partner you want to have somebody with you that could share the stories could share the life with you you can't have it with some girl you met in the club so even the most secular person on Earth wants somebody to share their life with most religious person even more so he realized more significant meaning to life you realize listen I can't have kids without a wife I can't have I can't get to the highest level of Torah without a wife I can't get to where I want to be without a partner that's going to support me so we get married not just because we love somebody you don't love them when you get married to them you love you you love the you love the concept of them you love what could be with them but you also love the fact that you're no longer scared because you're not alone anymore so fear motivates us constantly in business most people work because they'll tell you that they're ambitious they'll tell you they're ambitious they work really hard because they're ambitious they're ambitious to make a lot of money in reality that ambition is flawed and the reason why is because the ambition is also fear based first fear to anyone that's ambitious is the number one fear of Donald Trump or any millionaire or any billionaire number one fear is to be broke even though it's as far from them as possible they have billions of dollars every single one of them is scared to be broke every single one of them is scared to not have any money I remember that fear myself when I had plenty of money in the old days that fear was the number one motivator but you have 10 million you have 20 million you have 20 zillion it's still very much of fear because you all everyone that's a real businessman knows that he could lose it all there's a guy in Brazil that his name is AI Batista few years ago he was on the rooll to be the richest man in the world I think he was number seven he had like billion 37 billion today he has zero actually has debt he has negative balance you would never think someone would even $30 million can go broke I'm the example $30 billion could also go broke every single person that's rich number one motivator is not to go broke second thing that's a motivator is what other people think you're scared of what other people think there's a constant competition with the Joneses especially in American Judaism we're constantly competing with the Joneses the Joneses are both Jews and non-jews we're competing with you know there's a contest all over religious America of who has the biggest house apparently every year there's a new floor if you don't have every year you have to build a new floor I went to some rich guy's house one time uh maybe two years ago three years ago in vocal tone I think he's a doctor or whatever he some some successful guy never really got to know him well but he's I think he's a doctor anyway um he had some other guests tella he was hosting and so on and he asked me tell tell my story and I remember that uh one of I guess the the guys that were there were more comfortable with him CU they've been there a few times and uh they saw that there was like ladders and like paint the whole place was brand new like it just came out of a box and beautiful place and so on but there was like ladders and paint and so on in different places and one of one of them asked him oh so what are you doing now to the wife what are you doing now she goes oh we're going to destroy this whole thing we're going to destroy this whole kitchen this whole living room and we're going to redo it I don't really like it I don't he's like didn't you just build this one like a year ago she goes yeah you know I don't like it we was going to have to destroy it it's like a quarter million dollar investment two three $400,000 investment but Shalom someone's not going to like where the fridge is located and and the light and the chandelier so we have to waste $300,000 to fix the Shalom someone's not going to like it this unfortunately is a disease this is a disease it actually talks about it also it says that there are certain women unfortunately that have this problem have this problem is actually a punishment for them why because that that money that $300,000 could be used to save you're not allowed to be wasteful like this there's no problem with you having nice things you can have a nice Chandelier and a nice house and a nice car there's no problem having nice things but to be wasteful like that is 100% a sin why do we get to such a point the fear that we're not the Jones we're not the richest we're don't have the nicest things and that's why people get new cars every year instead of every two three years when their lease is over and they get a new house and they get a second house and they tell people about all their successes Never Their failures and you see a very shallow environment where people always tell always tell you about all their good stock picks never their losses all their good deals never their bad ones all their good conversations never the everybody looks like a Facebook profile you ever see a Facebook profile if any of you have spent time on Facebook everyone looks like they're in ganeden everyone's always on vacation everyone's always eating the best meal in the world they took pictures of it For Heaven's Sake take pictures of their meal they put it online for some strange reason you know and everyone's always on vacation everyone's kids are always groomed and in good position always happy they're never crying no parent in the world ever takes a picture and puts it online of their kids crying even though the kids crying 90% of the day I know I have two of them they don't stop crying but that's what kids do that's that's that's their that's their thing but no parents going to put a picture of their kid crying why we want to show the world we are Adam and we're Adam and Eve but it's all falsehood it's all shallow World why because we're scared of other people's opinion so in reality fear is something that motivate us whether we like it or not from small places like traffic to business business to marriage to how we raise our kids to what schools we send them to to even what we read you could be reading the M book or all the letter compilation of his letters Blazer Blazer one of his his main put together maybe 40 of his letters or so amazing mus book you could be reading that someone's going to ask you oh so so what are you learning nowar what what no why don't you tell them why don't you tell them you read what we said no because they don't understand M they don't it's like we're like ashamed to tell them that we're not learning or we're not learning this and that's the reality is is that we're not comfortable with our own skin so fear motivates us whether we like it or not motivates us regardless so just like it motivates Us in these basic nonsensical things it also motivates Us in everything else so when you explain to people that there's a price for everything that they do immediately you'll get attention from some people if we go to a restaurant and the restaurant has a list of different things but no prices any normal person will just say give me everything why it's free it's assumed to be free there's no price next to it I'll just take all of it it's like my mom's house you go to your mom's house you don't tell hey how much does it cost you tell us give me whatever you have and she will give you whatever she has and more why she's your mom if a restaurant has the same policy said give me everything but then the guy tells no no no sir turn the menu around turn the menu around you'll see the prices and you turn the menu around you see it's the cheapest item on the entire menu is $100 all of a sudden your appetite just went away all of a sudden you're not hungry anymore like oh do you have water you have water they have water here is that cost anything oh that's salad I'll just take one LEF was one leaf yeah $10 okay I'll take one salad it's embarrassing to leave without eating it's embarrassing to I'll have one leaf of salad all of a sudden you don't want anything but why because you know the price you know the price the cost for actually doing business is the cost for living most people don't know this they know it but they've never really thought about it that way they know it everywhere else in their life they know it in traffic they know it in their besset they know it in they you know in their work they know it in their marriage they know it everywhere else but they don't know it with God why because very few people actually told them very few people actually told that if you don't do this you will get a punishment that's so bad it's hard for you to imagine it most people think that if I don't do what God says okay maybe I won't make as much money or maybe I'll have a flat tire no one thinks that just like Hashem has Unlimited mited love he also has unlimited wrath people don't think of hasem that way but that's what the that's what the talks about and also the talks about in a few places and talks about it in a few places just like hasem has unlimited love for us where he's constantly willing to take us back he's constantly willing to accept our chuva even if we're as bad as Mas Mas who brought idol worship to bet mikdash who took his grandfather Isaiah the prophet and cut him up to little pieces his grandfather he cut him up to little pieces he raped his mom he raped his sister he accepted his chuv at the end he accepted his chuva to show us he's always going to accept your chuva if you do Chua genuinely but just like he has unlimited love he also has unlimited wrath so when I had my sh that I did a few months ago about Gom anyone that watched it did chba why because For the First Time in their life FR not Jews and non-jews whoever watched Thea why for the first time in their life they realized God has unlimited wrath too because the details of the punishment which I didn't even go into even 5% of it but the details that I went into which is a small section of it it's it's it's it's a nightmare of nightmares and the reality is many people that don't do cha will go exactly there that's just the reality there's no someone that doesn't learn every day doesn't learn doesn't do full they have to go there why it's the only way to clean the soul the soul doesn't get cleaned by uh by scotchbrite and uh and Windex each time we make a sin we make an indent an indent a burn or some type of Mark on this pure Soul something has to clean it that's something hurts a lot so hasem doesn't want to goes want to send us over there you want to send us the ganed that's why he has GED but he also gives us an opportunity to avoid it do CH so when you explain to people that there is you don't even need to tell them the details of Gom most people it's not even necessary to tell them the details of Gom you just tell tell them listen if you violate Shabbat according to God not according to me I like you anyway but according to God you're considered the same thing as the guy praying to Buddha you're considered 100% an idol worshiper according to God where you get show them no less than seven sources in no less than 12 sources in the five books of Moses and countless other sources in and z and so many other places you're considered an idol worshipper when you violate Shabbat on purpose when you don't wear your SE seat it looks like it's not such a big deal why because according to us according to you only supposed to weigh if you have four corners right that's the because in the old days we wore clothes that had four corners so the you have to wait you have four corners but if you look at the page 25 it says is it a sin to not wear if you're not wearing Four Corners is it bad says yes it's bad it's bad when there's when there is a decree on when there a decree against am such as a holocaust such as an inquisition such as something bad the nation sinned first people that get punished are those people don't wa why because they have no rights whatsoever they have no they they were arrogant about their MIT that they just decide not to wa the one mitvah you make a mitvah every second they were so arrogant and how manyah they have they figured you know what I could just let this one go says it so something that we didn't even think is a sin is a problem something that is a sin most people don't know it's a sin like Shabbat so when you explain to people that the small things and the big things have a cost you don't need to go too far you don't need to go into the details of Gom with the worms and the hooks and the all the crazy stuff that's there you don't need to go into that just tell the guy listen do you really want to be considered an idol worshipper in the eyes of hem you really want to be considered one of his haters he hates you like he hates it says in it says in who he specifically hates you really want to be one of those people any normal human being that has any connection to hasem says absolutely not so why haven't they that cha because no one told them no one told them especially in the English language especially in the English language so the doesn't you don't have to go for the Home Run day one you don't have to go to Gom right away but just explain to them there's a cost the steak cost 100 bucks know before you buy it violating Shabbat has a cost eating non kosher has a cost being non kosher as a non kosher person has a cost do what you want but at least you now know what the cost is and plenty of people will do cha because of that they don't need to know the details of G they just need to know that oh hasem really needs you wants me to keep Shabbat and that is how you get people to do chuat that's how somebody that wasn't keeping Shabbat himself just a few years ago is helping people do keep CH you know do ch it doesn't make any sense that I'm a speaker doesn't make any sense only reason I do it my R told me listen you have to do it after what he says but the point is is that in reality it doesn't make any sense why there's plenty of people that have learned a lot more T than I did okay gives knowledge I learn a lot all those things are wonderful in reality there's still plenty of people that know a lot more than I do plenty of people why don't they get people to do cha one reason only money there only one reason that stops people from telling people the truth money and the reason why is because if you tell people what I just said donations immediately leave fees for lectures immediately disappear you can't charge people for a lecture like this why No One's Gonna No One's Gonna no one's going to pay to get hit on the head no one's going to do it unless it's Tony Robbins or one of these motivational speakers by the way those motivational speakers if you guys ever heard of any of them Zig Ziggler Tony Robbins any of these uh guys that uh are motivational speakers really what they're teaching you is M they just call it something else they call it self-help or motivational speaking or coaching in reality they teach you m and they tell you about all the things that you're doing wrong and you have to fix it stop being lazy stop being tired stop being this stop stop stop stop stop they're teaching exactly what we're teaching only difference is they're not obligating you because you already paid for that you paid $5,000 to see them so you're not obligated to do anything just pay the money that's the only obligation here on the other hand there's no fee only thing you obligated to do is do everything I say there's no Fe though it's free but it's not free any questions good go no um the um verses specifically say it's a male for example Go is is a masculine word it's a masculine word um plus it's mashia Ben David mashia Ben David is the mashiach son of David not thank you not daughter of David if it was mashiah but David then it would be a female but uh the good news is is that he will have a wife so everybody can marry the Mah uh but uh I think more importantly than worrying a lot of people you know love the mashiah topic simply because it's a um it's like a out of World experience it's a it's like an end to our troubles it's a uh it's something we've been waiting for for so many years everyone says we're the generation that's going to see it and so on and we are the missing ingredient though is that most people are worried a lot more about the msia that will save all of am instead of their own personal mashiah meaning a we read in every day it says it's a p in it says that the mhia will come to save all of those that did CH all those that used to be all those that used to be Wicked they did Chu he's going to save them so in essence this means that mashia is only going to save a certain select group of people not everyone not like a lot of people think that every Jew just by default is going to be saved this complete falsehood not every Jew is going to be saved so the mishna that's read on Shabbat that all of Israel has a share of the world to come is in page 98 and it continues till 98 it says yes all of Israel has a share of the world to come and then the next eight pages say and these are the ones that do not have a share in the world to come these so what does it mean it says based on the verse all of the have a share that are Israel have a share in the world to come and all of the following that are not don't have a share of the world to come and it gives the definition of who doesn't have a share of the world to come one that goes with and so on and so forth so many people like to think that they're part of that list they're part of that list of being saved when the mashiah comes which Al we will be hopefully we are hopefully we are part of that list that will be saved when mhia comes but the truth is that there's a bigger problem the problem is that our own personal mashiah could arrive at any moment it's called Death just like Hashem is g to give the messia the power just like it says in the book of Deuteronomy in Book of Jeremiah says he's going to give the Messiah the power to smell our sins smell our sins smell in sh in the of sh they don't even need why because they going to show you all your sins on a screen so the reality is that same that would be created when the mashia comes to do all the for everybody they're accounting for everyone this one's righteous this one's Wicked this one's righteous this one's Wicked I'm going to protect this one I'm GNA destroy this one and so on and so forth because the mashia himself is going to smell the sins and destroy the Sinners it's not oh you're not you're not doing tra go over there there's not go over there it's destroyed on the spot so it's a very very crazy extraordinary thing it's not like the uh Happy Ever After all the time if you did Chua then it is so now that's scary enough the scary thing is that it could arrive even before the actual Messiah why it's called Death people died I had a cousin a young cousin I didn't know him personally uh comes from a very rich family and unfortunately he died uh a year ago a little over a year ago on the second day of he was only 23 or 24 years old he fell off a scooter now did anyone think that he's going to die at 24 years old no did he wake up in the morning thinking this is his last day no did he wake up thinking that hasm doesn't want him to drive on his scooter on r no did he think he had his whole life ahead of him absolutely did his parents that were on vacation in Israel at that time think so also yes meaning that no one expects death but it comes and that's our personal Masia that's our personal and that's what every single person needs to live like that realize that today may be the last day is this how I want to finish it is this how I want to finish it if you think every day could be your last day you'll become much more productive you'll become much better husband much better wife much better father much better mother much better student much better Rabbi much better at everything why you're going to put it on the field every day every day you're going to try your best every day you're going to eliminate the thought of oh I'm waiting to be comfortable there's no comfortable in this world there's no comfortable everyone that's trying to be comfortable is just ultimately realizing how miserable it is that they're not comfortable because there's no comfortable in this world no one's comfortable the guy that has a lot of money has problems elsewhere the guy has a lot of kids has problems elsewhere the guy's not married has problem everyone has problem problems the reality is that when we realize that we came here to work and that ultimate day doesn't always have to be just mashia it could also be our own it changes the entire picture of course it could be M which is glamorous and great and so on but we should only be excited if we're really doing cha every day if we're doing every CH every day then we should pray for mashia to come to save but uh real istically speaking if we're not doing Chua we should pray for him not to come should pray for him not to come right now personally I don't think it would be a good idea for mashia for us for for to pray for mashia to come even though it's one of the 13 principles of faith that you're supposed to believe he's going to come supposed to believe that he's going to come and even expect him to come you're not obligate to pray for him to come and in reality it would be better if he didn't come right now because right now we have 90% of am in in America and probably similar statistics around the world 90% of them do not keep Shabbat 90% of the American Jews do not keep Shabbat 94% 94% believe that it's okay to work on Shabbat which means that 40% of the religious people 40 four out of the 10% that keep Shabbat so 4% of 10 is 40% so 40% of the religious people the so-called religious American Jews think it's okay to work on Shabbat so we're both damaged religious not religious problem is the 90% usually just don't know better the 10% should know better but they still don't why not enough people are delivering the message not enough people care enough to do K not enough people care enough to put themselves out at the go do it and that's why you'll see for example even when it comes to donations people that don't keep anything will donate to the biget they'll buy an alah for yur for 10,000 for 20,000 for somebody it for a million dollars they don't even keep Shabbat but they'll pay a million dollars for Ali you tell them listen can you maybe sponsor some CDs some lectures a flight anything for kiru nah it's not for me why is it not for you does no glamour in it when he donates the $50,000 at the besset everyone knows he donated $50,000 to besset so he feels proud of it but if he donated $50,000 to get to go do CH he doesn't see any immediate results why because no one knows he donated $50,000 the difference is that that donation toet his entire reward is paid on the spot all those people given him cavod that's his reward and kazal says he's going to cry in sh when he realizes that all of his cavod was the reward that he got and only 1% of 1% was left in sh for that donation and he's going to cry he's going to realize how much he missed out whereas with kiru that same amount of money you saved even one Soul one Jew started keeping Shabbat because of it one Jew not even 50,000 one Jew kept Shabbat because of it it's 50 million times bigger than any reward you could have gotten for donating to winess but why don't people donate for because simply put it's not as glamorous it's not giving you as much C to your it's not it's not something that people care about and that's a problem because in order for us to do Chua we have part of the mission of doing cha is caring about am love your brother as much as you love yourself love your brother at the very least means get him out of the train tracks the very least if you love your brother at the very least time Listen by the way the train's coming move to the left move to the left it's coming that's a minimum love minimum love everybody said no no you should love your brothers love okay you love your brother okay tell him to move the train's coming the chabbat train is coming and if he doesn't move hm's going to run them over that's love and that's why says the biggest is when one Jew sees another sin and doesn't say anything that's the biggest why he sees the trains coming he doesn't see move it's coming though you're not going to tell him you say you love your brothers you love all these nice no trade's coming no it's this it's this it always makes us uncomfortable so that's that that's that's the main thing we have to know that it's we have to become uncomfortable in order to get people do yeah coming me and I'm giving it to my friend he knows knows what I sure what does it mean to him okay I know what you do I just saw you the other day you telling me that you have to e well that's the thing you can't rebuke people for things that you're not doing because people by in nature sure they're not going to listen to you they think it's a joke so just like you're never going to ask for millionaire advice from a homeless person you know if somebody's homeless you're not going to ask him how can I become a millionaire why it doesn't make any sense what could he possibly know about being a millionaire even though he there is a small chance he may know he just went broke but naturally normally you're not going to ask for millionaire advice from a homeless person because if it was so good he would use it and he wouldn't be homeless same concept goes for everything in your life we're not saying to teach him how to be the r because we're not the ram we're not saying beu we're notu we're saying that you have to teach number one what you're already doing you keep Shabbat teach Shabbat you keep teach you keep kosher tell you keep kosher that's one second thing is teach what you aspire to do teach what you aspire to do so if you're aspiring to work on your midot your character traits anger stinginess uh G you know pride and so on and so forth all these Horrible character traits that all of us have part of working on them is teaching them because once you start teaching certain subjects number one it forces you to learn number two it forces you to embody that that that attitude that oh it's really bad to be angry why cuz look I'm teaching it and and you're actually teaching yourself while you're teaching them so what you aspire to do is also what you teach and I could tell you my own personal experience the most the biggest help for my chuva has been teaching because it forces me number one to learn and number two it forces me to learn what myself what I'm teaching other people so you're not portraying yourself as mhu you're not you're not talking to them from a higher ground you're not talking to him like Hey I'm here and you're there no what you're doing is you're telling listen I care about you that's why I tell you m is not it's not an egotistical thing to do it's the opposite teaching somebody M giving them a rebuke is not I'm it's not like the secular world where you're saying I Told You So I Told You So by the way is a big a we did a whole sh about it maybe two months ago about what it actually means to say I told you so and a person could actually literally lose for saying I told you so it's that bad it's that bad there's a mish about it there's a mish about it a Proverbs about it and there also about it so it's it's it's a really really serious thing and actually if you look at every one of your in the beginning of the it's tradition that uh you read this blessing in the beginning and uh it says that I don't want uh so my um colleagues will not uh uh that I may not stumble in a matter of Law and cause my colleagues to Rejoice over me and they uh and I don't Rejoice over them like I'm not happy that they're failing they're not happy that I'm failing why is it mentioned that here why because if they're happy if they're happy that I failed they losea if I'm happy they failed I losea that's why it says it it's not oh it's not nice there's no not nice in the Torah it's truth and it's false so say thing I told you so is not the attitude now so how do you rebuke you rebuke as I'm trying to help you and I'm also trying to help myself I'm obligated to tell you the truth I see that you're a very angry guy I see that you're a very stingy guy every time a dollar leaves your pocket it's uh it's the George Washington is going like this wow finally there's light you know you're a stingy guy you don't want to you don't want to go to the bathroom because you don't want to buy another sandwich you're stinging yourself your wife is wearing the same clothes since she was 12 years old she's already 40 you're sting you have a problem okay so I want to let you know you have a problem I'm not doing it because I'm telling you I told you so I'm telling you because it's to help you because I'm trying to also help myself I'm I helping myself number one I'm also stingy number two I'm obligated to tell you so any type of issue you have to show it to them as if you're helping them because you are really helping them but you're also helping yourself you're not talking to them from a higher ground I'm better than you and you're less than me you're not talking down to them you're talking to them either the same level or even up and that's why different people have different shot some people will give compliments before the rebuke some people will say a joke before the rebuke some people will even uh you know will say a joke after the rebuke but don't make a joke out of the rebuke you could use different tactics but don't make a joke out of it you understand because sometimes you'll make you'll tell somebody something and there'll be so much joking that you'll forget the truth and there's a lot of a lot of you know it's it becomes like a you know a lot of it doesn't they're not going to do anything so there's a way to do it and obviously practice makes perfect practice makes perfect but I think usually the best way to do it is if you um if you have experience get to know the people if you're doing it one-on-one if you have experience if you don't have experience at all best thing to do is to bring him to somebody else send them a lecture send him a video you saw that this guy's wife is walking around half naked and you know that he's scared to tell her something or maybe he doesn't know send him a video and tell him wow I just saw this video it's amazing what is it about I don't know just just you have to watch it let his curiosity you know actually cause him to watch it and he watches this so so-called Rabbi actually talk about modesty and hopefully aimon some type of token goes into his brain says oh yo by the way he's talking about my wife but now he took it and he owned that idea now he didn't think that you were telling him because of his wife he thought because you just like this Rabbi you just like this idea but now it's his idea to tell his wife hey honey you have to actually start wearing clothes so now it's something changed so usually it's better to get somebody else to do the job especially if that person's really close to you if it's a family member if it's a brother sister there someone that's really really close to you usually it's better for the rebuke to go to somebody else the best people to actually uh help as far as rebuke and and and and to get them to do Chua are people that are far away from you because it's much easier for a stranger to listen to you than someone that's close to you much easier it's much easier for me to help you guys than to help my own family it's just a reality your own family is much more comfortable with you your own family REM you from the past if it's your parents let's say they're always going to think of you the same way I think of my kids as little babies even if you're 30 years old you're still a little baby to them you know you don't think of yourself as a baby but to them you are to them you're like talking to them about M they're thinking about you in diapers that's just a reality so rebuking your parents is practically a waste of time but to not say anything is also not good either so you have to get the rebuke in a different way get the rabbi bring the she to the house give the CD send the video there's a million and a half different ways all you gotta do is just try once you start trying actively try every day spend five 10 20 minutes every day to start doing kiru for everybody religious not religious without thinking much just doing more focus on doing than thinking you'll start seeing you start seeing help from Hashem and how you'll start noticing that the videos the Right video is going to the right place the right book is going to the right place a lot of things that you didn't even mean to happen are happening but that's when you don't think much well you just focus on doing and you let Hashem do the thinking once you start thinking too much oh maybe she's going to like this or she's not going to like this or this is too much for her or this is too little for him you start doing all that accounting you end up doing nothing so that's the number one thing that you know when you're doing K you have to do it most important thing is to know is to care most important thing yeah what about what about this like new group where there's so many people that are becoming secular because they start off religious and they seen too many going on and they said I'm done with this this can't be true so how does approach this so says there's no such thing as someone going off the there's no such thing as someone going off the because of somebody else's sin No Such Thing reality is it's at the end of I forget the page though the reality is there was always something rotten from The Roots something rotten from the roots and the example that they use is Elisha B Aya Ela was the rabbi of was a t he was one of the four people that was able to go to the pares to see extraordinary things in sham that no other person was able to see one person died one person went crazy one person became a big giant which was r and one person went off the became a which is or they call him so they say how could it be someone knows so much T going off the I mean he saw things he did things I means how could such a thing be the reason why is because they'd say that the original Foundation that he had was rotten when he was born his father was actually a also his father was a and when he was born he s he invited all theim to his house and he said come let's celebrate for my newborn son and a couple of theim I think it was R and but I'm not really sure they said let's study they do their things they're celebrating let us do our thing let's learn to and they started learning Tora to such an extent they created a spiritual fire spiritual fire and the father came to says what are you doing you came to to destroy my house he goes no don't worry this is spiritual fire this is Tora and the father said oh if this is what Tor is going to yield then I promise to dedicate my son Elisha to Torah so the say how is it possible he was a himself the father was a himself why did he decide to dedicate a son of tah before he saw the fire he says that was the problem witha the problem is that he learned his tah but not for the right reason he learn his tah for fame for fortune for for for for the whole G of all of it not for itself meaning it was without without is not t at all to such an extent that the say was better off you don't study at all if you're not going to learn it's better off you don't study it all sour is shab Page 31 better off not to study at all if you're not going to study so meaning that even the one that knew a lot he didn't fall death because he saw something he fell death because that was the excuse he finally used that was the excuse same thing with all of these people that are falling off the de they see this guy that uh you know left his wife and they see this guy stole from this one and this guy raped this one this guy did all these crazy things that are happening around the world and they use that as the story as the nail that would that pretty much you know the last thing on the coffin they say okay I'm leaving that's all excuse why is it an excuse it's the last thing but it's just an excuse excuse why because Judaism has nothing to do with the Jews again Judaism has nothing to do with the Jews Judaism has to do with t t fulfilling it between you and hasem meaning if there was no Torah there would be no Jews what makes you a Jew a Jew is T if there's no tah there's no Jew if the Jew doesn't want to keep tah he's also not considered a Jew he's considered an idol worshiper meaning that once you realize that the Torah is your connection between you and hasem it doesn't make a difference if everyone around you is as himself it makes no difference you're still obligated to do what you're supposed to what Torah says even if everybody's as and and and H and Hitler and his brother and everybody it makes no difference why because toora command you to fulfill it with or without anyone else being a radik it has nothing to do with anybody the obligation of the Tora is for you specifically if he's a that's his problem he's going to pay for it and if you learn Tor that means you know what he's going to pay if you're going to be a sinner like him that means you don't know that means you never learned that means your whole thing was exterior based Judaism exterior based Judaism eventually Falls all of those people will fall eventually either now or when the mashia comes but eventually all of them will fall why because all of these people that don't have there's no chance for them to fulfill the tah so then what mechanism could one use or or is the actual mechanism that oh no don't worry about them worry about you worry about you yes worry about worry about the thing is the same mechanism is applicable everywhere you teach people the truth and the truth is you have to do Chua once you do Chua you help other people do Chua you help other people do Chua that helps your Chua gets even stronger but how to do chuba focusing on the truth not embellishing it not telling somebody listen if you keep Shabbat you're going to be a millionaire and if you uh you all these things that people try to Market Judaism people try to Market Judaism like it's a business they try to sell no if you keep Shabbat it's going to give you a lot of money there's plenty of people that keep Shabbat that are broke if you don't waste seed that means you're going to become a millionaire there's plenty of people that don't waste seed and they're also broke and if you if you uh you know if you read this certain prayer and uh you know you're going to find a z plenty of people read the that prayer and they don't have a z and if you cover your hair you're gonna have a kid plenty of women cover their hair and they have no kids don't sell Judaism as a g as something if you do it you get paid in this world why because that's not Judaism the specifically says your reward is that's your reward anything you get here is an extra anything you get here is extra it's not the real reward isn't me for you to get back on track to go through the pains right so when that mean for you to get back on track so if I get back on track my pain will go away I may be able to get what it is I've been searching for I've been wanting yes but pain pain pain yes there's different levels of pain though there's different levels of pain this pain of minimal pain which any pain there is there's no suffering without sin flat tire a headache near infection we make SS I make SS at least and I have ear infection that's one pain it's a different type of pain also pain you lose money okay so you lost 100 bucks okay that's pain it's annoying or you could lose 20 million it's a little more painful or you could just go from healthy to really sick and start screaming your lungs out day and night for seven years that's a different level of pain point is it's different levels of pain different levels of punishment the point is that Hashem is obviously always talking to you he's always talking to you and the pain is to wake you up but the reward is different the reward is not to it's not something that's instead of the pain the reward is not the ramb explains why do we get any reward in this world he says anyone that thinks that he gets any reward in this world because it's for one of his does not understand anything about t in reality any any reward that you get is just to encourage you to make more mitv meaning if let's say for example you gave M you gave 10% of your salary to T hem now give you more money next month you made let's say thousand this month the following month you made 2,000 Hashem rewarded you with an extra thousand he didn't reward you the extra thousand because you gave the the M last month he rewarded you because oh you like this Mitzvah let me give you the ability to make it even more it's not because you did it it's but because you fulfilled it same concept was for example somebody gets married oh you got married okay so let me give you kids he didn't give you kids because you got married he gave you kids because you made the Mitzvah of getting married meaning that he's every time he gives you a reward is in order for you to fulfill more mitv that's the reward the reward is an ability for you to make more mitv not a reward as this is end all be all I'm going to give you more money because you kept Shabbat no I'm gonna give you more money so you can give more and make more for more people to keep Shabbat because you honor the Shabbat I'm gonna give you money so you can get other people to keep Shabbat and that's the confusion that a lot of people have they think that if they keep something and they do something they're going to get a reward for it and that's not that's marketing Judaism it's just not true so the reward is just a catalyst for grow for the reward is a catalyst for you to make more mitv to continue doing what you already started he's going to reward you in a direction that you already were good at so if you were good at let's say Shabbat he's going to reward you in a way to connect to shabbat that connects to shabbat so to get other people to keep Shabbat to make your Shabbat even better and so on and so forth to learn more things about Shabbat and make you know and so on and so forth but he's going to reward you in a way to uh give uh I guess more of an embellishment to your existing Mitzvah magnify it even more and that's that's that's real Judaism when we Market it like it's a business like if we do this and hasem pays us this way if we do this P this way that's simply wrong it's not true and also it's bound to fail it's bound to fail if you tell people if you keep Shabbat you're going to get if you get married and you're G to get this if you if you make it a rewards based system where your reward is here it's only a matter of time before people start falling off like flies why because eventually it doesn't happen doesn't happen for everybody not every woman that covers her hair is going to have kids not every guy that keeps sh is gonna be rich not every person that gives you know not it's not a uh foolproof system because the reward is not here some people get rich some people don't some people have kids some people don't because the reward is over there and most importantly sometimes hasem simply doesn't want to give it sometimes you'll pray for something and Hashem says no simply no that's it just the answer is no just like prayed to 515 times let me go into is says enough enough you don't pray anymore answer is no I don't want you to come in why my own reasons my own reasons there's plenty of reasons that kazal explains to us but the point is the answer was simply no sometimes it's no sometimes you want money hasem says no why maybe you think that if you're gonna have money you're going to become a big donator in reality hasem says you're G to be a big Gambler instead you now because you have no money you're going to be a big donor once you have the money it's a different so will sometimes say know because he knows you better than you know yourself so to tell people that if you do this this and this you're going to get rewarded for it in this world it's an outright lie and it also creates it's a matter of time before those people fall off and a lot of those people that fell off the D or all falling off the D are from that mentality they did certain things they didn't get rewarded they fell off and they blamed the guy that raped this one and the guy that stole from that one and the guy that lied on this one they blame everyone else but in reality it's the original teacher they should blame the one that told them that it's a rewards based system that's they supposed to be rewarded in this world there's no such thing there's no Source in the tah for it either that's one thing I always try to understand is where do they get this stuff from if you do what what I say look at all these you're GNA get you see it it's mostly it's not a uh just a it's not if you instead of a tail my yes but it's an old it's not just a head of a tail your life over here is if you're 70 years old and you finally did chva you died 70 years in in one day does that mean you're not going to get the the the reward no it means you get the reward ultimately eternally all of the blessings that you get are Eternal blessings they're not timely blessings because someone could finally do chba do chba he's 25 he's 30 he's 35 but his clock is finished hasem decided when he before he came to the world he's only going to have 40 years in this world the guy did CH finally he's 39 he did CH it's great he only has one year to go only was one year to go but hasm says I have a whole wealth of blessings to give you so why now because I decided you're going to die at 40 That's say I'm not going to give you the blessings no it's all the blessings are Eternal all the blessings are Eternal and that's why if you look at the details of the commentary of each one of the blessings you see how each and every single one of them is not even applicable to this world yes of course there's certain things there certain comforts you get in this world but in reality plenty of people fulfilled the entire Torah the entire Tor and don't even have one of those blessings in this world and plenty of them are very happy they're not getting it in this world especially the more righteous they are why because they realize that any blessing in this world is meaningless in comparison to and that's why many of them would even ask for suffering and that's when in the gar it says that any time the sages saw that they're not getting suffering for 40 days in a row they would start bringing suffering on themselves by bringing picking up procs in the middle of the road because they were scared that maybe they made a sin so big and they didn't notice it that hasem just gave up on them he's not going to let them do cha so they start bringing suffering on themselves just because they didn't suffer for 40 days that's the mentality of a sadik Which is far from us but that's reality our reality is not reality that's reality the sadik is the reality so again we're not saying that you're ultimately supposed to be uh just suffering all the time and miserable and so on no but to think that if I do this I'm going to get this is a wrong mentality the same thing with mashia telling people the reason why we're not allowed to tell people when is the mashia supposed to come like actually putting a timetable on it it's 100% it's 100% to tell people mashiach is going to arrive this year mashia is going to arrive this PES mashia is going to arrive in before the year 5780 or before the year anything putting an actual timetable of Mia is 100% ass not allowed why because you're building something that's bound to fail if people are going to listen to you five people 50 people thousand people 50,000 people depends on your influence say oh look so and so Rabbi said the mashia is going to come before PES they start doing chuva the guys doing three times a day he's reading he's this he's this his wife all of a sudden body everything she's covering her eyes she became Muslim everything everything CH everything's good everybody's celebrating little kids group payers overnight everything is great the little kid seven years old has a beard everything is great P arrived mashia didn't they go back to be they go back to be why oh look the rabbi promised M to come in p no Masia no see it's the same thing they've been saying for 2,000 years is coming he didn't come they don't know he don't know no one knows and if they don't know about this they probably don't know Torah either I'm not keeping anything that's a creates creates creates Heretics so are we not supposed to say like that like the footsteps to say mashia is at the footstep it's always been the case it was the case 3,300 years ago I'm saying all the all the all the big rabbis are saying that hey you look at the gamar you know and all these things say say that he's saying that he's coming in our in our lifetime said that he's even coming very soon you're not only allowed you should because it's one of the 13 principles of Faith you're supposed to expect the mhia to come any given day but to give a specific time meaning before PES this year uh you know 5780 specific like actually putting a specific time on it is 100% biblical sin biblical sin because people will build on that time much more PE many more people are going to pinpoint that specific time even if a tel did it even if somebody that's a complete fool says mashia is going to come according to my computer at 5780 people are going to believe him much more than they'll believe the says he's going to come sometime in the next 10 years why because he put a specific time on it he put a date on it they'll go with him and then when it doesn't happen then it's a it's a big problem it's a very very big problem so I mean unless you guys have any more questions we have more sh this week we have sh and queens uh tomorrow night different topic different things I have no idea what we going to saym has to say something else so he'll tell me what to say and we'll say it hopefully you guys enjoyed it hopefully it gets us to do a little bit of Chua again like I said you have some CDs whatever extras keep them give them out to people the shim are online you go to be.org that's our website is countless shim one thing I highly recommend is the M series what we've been doing for the last two years is a m series we're up to 100 uh lecture 100 each lecture is between two to three hours each lecture is completely different from the other and it goes into the details of M the details of the behind the scenes a lot of a lot of interesting things and pretty much if you don't do Chua it just means you probably died already and you're you have to do but in reality is you you listen to those after few something's starting to move after 10 12 something more after about 25 you already do CH and now you're starting to do K already because it's the the words of the sage has nothing to do with me the words of the sages when you hear them in pure form they're powerful when there's no sugar coating they're powerful and even a Golem will do cha from them from them and that's the reality so that's the number one message today don't be a Golem be a proud Jew show everybody else that how how amazing it is to be a Jew not just by the exterior by by your lifestyle the interior what's inside once you once it starts once you start feeling that way the words that come out of your mouth will be like that what comes from the heart reaches the heart if each one of you becomes a speaker locally nationally in your synagogue in your work any even with your your own family if every single person starts delivering the truth and the statistics that I told you today are just going to be you know a horrible memory that we forgot but if we don't do CH then the mhia is going to be worse than uh and that's the scary part was great if you look at just the fact that we left but not if you look at the actual statistics of how many left we don't want those same numbers that's Our obligation the ones that actually know you know a little bit of Torah teach what you know without embellishing it without putting your own opinion into it without sugar coding it without worrying about whether they like it or not just give it to them how hasem wrote it if he wrote it that way that means he wants people to know it that way and will get to do chv get stop keeping Shabbat get stop worrying about the uh the hats and the coats and everything else and most importantly get us to at the very least be as proud of being Jews as the Muslims and the Christians are proud to be what they are because they have falsehood we have the truth we have to live like we have the truth similar to how they live like they have their falsehood [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]