Women's 3 Tammuz at the Ohel AND Class from R' Shais Taub on "Speaking to Children About the Rebbe"

[Music] [Applause] [Music] door [Music] foreign [Music] belt hi welcome okay welcome it's really really um an immense privilege an honor and somewhat petrifyingly humbling to be sitting together at this um auspicious intense kimo tamas 28 years to gather together to commemorate 28 years of the salkus of al-rabbah and i feel like after just that video clip there's so much already to launch from where we're this is a culmination of four weeks of learning hana for gimmel thomas with arvakrim beautiful letters we've been learning together and following this little fabringan which we hope everyone will get a little bit more involved in it's an intimate crowd we will learn the fifth letter which is a wonderful bonus um at the end um and this is a project of raheim and soul words with rabbi chase tab so we're really really definitely i know they'll speak for themselves but humbled and um to be gathered at this moment um when we were approaching the discussions about you know the word hystalcos right it's it's an elevation and for us as siddhim gathering together all over the world but gathering together here together by the isle as well we're just looking at the staggering estimation of 50 000 nishamas are going to come to this between now and through this whole shabbos and sunday and understanding what this means and the truth is i'm going to be honest we had intense conversations throughout the week to really unpack the idea of 28 years and what that means to us on a very personal level and what that means to so many different people around the world and you can't really you can't take the time to not recognize and it really daunt on us and we'll all share together this is a for our brain but that every single one of us comes to this day with a certain common thread a certain common bond and yet all from very different vantage points from a very different age ranges different experiences those of us who shani was sharing her experiences i i was a teenager you were a mother a shloka an adult i thought i was an adult i was just a teenager and ahama who's you know younger in a different generation born after kimmel thomas and in our in our very very deep and intense conversations throughout the week we're going to share and we're going to unpack it together because we realize the paradox of emotions that everyone feels coming towards this day it's it there's not one right or one wrong or one way to look at gimotamas or the hisalkos and when we talk about the idea which hopefully we unpack together and we really hope this could be interactive that's that's our goal um when we when we unpack the idea viscastras of this connection this bond the sushama bond that we have and what that means and what that feels like and what that looks like at different phases of our life different stages of our life as women we go through so many different well ups and downs lots of different phases and stages let's just keep it at that for now and it looks and feels different at different points in our lives sometimes we feel more plugged in more connected more anchored more grounded sometimes we don't even know what the word grounded means and we're just feeling so out of sorts or so uncomfortable ladies come join us come in we have plenty of room these are the special vip seats we save for you and and we really hope to share together tonight our thoughts our feelings and we really hope to hear from all of us ask us as we gather what this means and uh and where we go from here so i was i was sharing with a friend a friend saw that this rubbing was happening tonight and she said oh wow amazing how do you feel i said really really uncomfortable she said why do you feel uncomfortable and i said this is way out of my league this is dealing with the most intense and auspicious day for us as sedim with so many different feelings and i i like who like what am i doing like who am i to be sitting here having this conversation and we went back and forth a little i'm not going to share the voice notes but one thing she mentioned she said remember us i said us what do you mean us should remember those of us who feel jealous and disconnected that we're not feeling connected and i bark hashem have spent a lot of time with high schoolers and seminary girls and i feel like this word his scotch risk can mean so many things to so many people and it's really can be laden with feelings of inadequacy feelings of sadness from from past experiences and memories feelings of jealousy and envy i don't have what you have or your experiences and it could be filled with feelings of like how do i get this how do i attain this how do i leave this day this time a stronger more anchored more connected person who has more clarity of who i am and where i'm headed so um go for it we're we're doing this in a very like we're we we just want to share and please feel free i'm manu lazar from college station texas i forgot i'm supposed to introduce us in college station texas shawnee katzman from omaha nebraska and ahamaslanim from houston texas rice university and my niece okay so i'm going to echo what manya said that i don't feel like we are the ones that belong up here sharing and and uh inspiring or leading this conversation because this is a very deep serious giant conversation that is for the very great people but what i'd like to share or what helps me think about guimotamas is how the rabbit thought and felt and shared with us the passing of his rep that's that's what we have available to us and so i actually went back to tough genuid and i looked through those pages of the early terrace menachem the circus that there ever said in those very early days after yudshvat and on acharan cho pesach in that year thereby spoke about something incredible the rebbe quoted the story in the gemura where rebbi rabbi hoda hanasi is getting ready to pass away and he calls his sons in and by the way this is from the gemara i i could tell you where it is i think it's daf i think it's subbas kuf gimmel ahmed olive and the rebbe calls his his sons in and he says these words i need my children i'm going to the other world now and i need you and rebbe continues and says i want you to make sure that the candle is always burning in its place i want you to make sure that my table is always set the way it needs to be set and that my bed is always spread out and prepared for me and the rebbe says the rabbit takes the analogy or the rabbit looks at the story of rebbie and says imagine atsadik is moving from this corporal physical material world and he's going up into the celestial terrain this arrest celestial experience and he's going higher and higher how could he possibly how could we possibly have a connection with him but before he goes out the door he says i need my children and i need you to do this for me i need you i need your help please please keep my candle burning please keep my table set please keep the bed made and the rebel explains what does this mean the rebbe says you know we all have a relationship with the rebbe when we would go into yeshidas or or whatever that means when we would connect to the rebbe in a personal way there's two channels we either meet with the rebbe for rohnius things or we meet with the rebel for gosh mystical things so the rebbe said the rebbe is there for us in the same way the candle is burning the table is set the the bed is made what are these things the rabbit says bhagasmius the candle burning is right we the the three brachas that we need are bana the candle is hashem nishmas adam the table is is mesaina sustenance and the bed is bana so the rabbit says you could still come to the rebbe for the brachas and all of these things how does this apply barronius the rebbe says we know that every mitzvah is a candle kiner mitzvah the rebbe says the the torah is mazin while tyra still has the the the qualifications of of a mitzvah it has something more that it's muslim for the neshama it satiates the neshama and the third thing is the bed what is the bed that ever says when a person lays on the bed the head and the feet are the same and this is when a person trips up and makes a mistake and the ruach does comes into them and they're they're like an animal they're they're flat they're laying flat where the head and the feet are on the same level and there ever says that the the rabbit can help you with this too there ever can help you to come out of this just in the same way that the rebbe did it when he was here the rebbe continues to do it but there ever says the fact that we need the rebbe that goes without saying but think about it the rebbe says i need you what does that mean um you're you're you you touch upon something that you see throughout a lot of the letters that we were learning we've learned and a lot of the secrets and this some of our discussion that we had um together and i think often it can feel i i could say for myself i can't speak anyone else's feelings or experiences but i could feel like how do i connect to this day how do i connect to the rabbit how do i connect to how what this thing called his hiskashras which is it's like what it's like bigger it's it's the enormity of it is tremendous and how does that influence and affect every single day of my life and i know nakama and maybe i'm gonna pass the mic too but i know we you one of the areas we were talking about is repeated again and again and again like you're saying shawnee that the rabbit really showed us what gave us a map directions of how to handle many aspects of our lives but specifically as you were articulating right that you look at the circus from after the stockist of the frida graba and you're looking at how the rebbe and i know you said this quite a few times how the rabbit continuously the rabbit shark continuously kept the rabbit the frida grab as life and mission and identity so forward and present for all of us and the the rebel modeled for us so many things and taught us through the way the rebbe interacted with these ideas what our roadmap is because it could feel very i mean it's heavy it's intense and and sometimes feeling it could feel lost and overwhelming but one thing that kept recurring and i'm probably going to pass the mic to nakama because i would love her to expand on this is that one of the things that the rabbit kept repeating again throughout all the series that ever addressed how to connect to the freddie grabba was if you want to connect it's through learning the rebels through learning how the frida kahraba approached life and the world right and for us learning their best approach or mindset to dealing with life circumstances through learning the letters right the letters like you would different people different times but i want to pass the mike because nakamura really yeah thank you was sharing about what that looks like learning because there's no shortcut and there's no replacement but there that is such a recurring instruction of how we can connect and for some of us carving out the time is easier some of us more challenging at different stages and phases but first of all i want to echo what they were saying about feeling very inadequate to be speaking on this topic on such a day i tried getting myself out of this i'm still not sure why i'm here but i think that on such a on on other other other young if you think of yadav nissan or haitives it may be easier for me to be able to think about his scottish in a more i guess proactive way on a day like the multamos where me being born after gamotamas very lucky to be born into a family of hasidim of course but still not being able to be their bhagasmius in the ways that many of you here were um i think that it invokes a lot of emotion in this process of trying to think about what do i have to say i think i have nothing to say other than that you know i hope that we do get reunited with the rabbit very soon you know we were talking about a lot of different things and hearing the different stories as we all hear different kinds of thoughts and sentiments for many different people that can be very inspiring i often find myself feeling envious like you mentioned and just wishing that i had that opportunity as well and i it like dawned on me that it kind of it kind of i kind of compared it to i guess the generation that was able to receive the tire at her sinai where they're able to like see it and feel it and hear it and i guess my generation um i see some of you here with us um being that generation that are kind of like the children of that generation that were the guarantors of the torah um and how that with that i carry a responsibility right to be able to carry that forward at the same time i if i'd be really honest i think that it's it's something that feels maybe heavy to carry because sometimes um you know you look around and we're in the scullers and the fact that we're still here why are we still here and trying to impart this connection to our kids when you know we should have been out of this position a long time ago so i guess when i when i think about this day i i feel a very you know i know in a certain sense if i'd be very honest it's like i don't i feel uncomfortable i don't know why we're still here i don't know how i could be sitting here and trying to speak to anybody about this other than that i know that you know what's the world that we are engaging with the situations that each of every person has every type of struggle no one is a stranger to that that one thing i do know is that there's no way we could carry forward without having that point of connection so i guess part of this is being able to inspire each other and how to bring that forward within ourselves because ultimately we we spoke about a lot of different secrets and a lot of different things and they all sound very beautiful but we have to really take it to the next level and internalize it and be able to to live with it and going back to what i was saying about har sinai the the children still weren't able to see and hear in person but they did receive the torah and it is something that they were able to have and in one of these four letters that we've um that we've read together um i think was the letter to baba mayer i think is what he goes by harav mayor bukhara i think i don't remember what number it was but the rabbit basically the rubber talks about of course as we all know the importance of of studying the rebels tyra we all know that uh we all have different ways that we can do that um but something that i thought was maybe interesting was that the rabbit says that the importance of studying europe is my marum and that's the way to be able to connect to the rubber and that it's not enough just to i forgot the exact words but to envision the rabbi in their mind and in a way i feel like being this generation of the guarantors if i may say that but this next generation who in a certain sense we can't even envision of course we're so lucky to have the videos and and the pictures and everything that we have that we can carry in a physical way but in a way we're kind of stuck with the most direct mode of connection which the rebber said is through learning the rabbis tara and i do have to say that although that'll look differently i know for every person and for every stage that everyone is going through but it doesn't take away from the importance of finding and increasing ways to be able to i guess nourish that relationship with rubber so yeah i don't i i think you're saying i feel like i feel like saying at the end of the day this is the generation that we're in and if the absurd put us exactly where we are we're here for a reason so it's not a mistake it's not like the industry is asleep and like on an island and forgot that we're here this is this is what this is our generation's responsibility our generation's mission our generation's task this is what we have to do and but we're not left without direction and instruction and i think i mean i mean we know we can look and and that you touched upon everyone learning at different stages or different ages or different times or different things it's very interesting because if you notice the letters that we studied the reba addressed his kosheros differently to different people and there were certain common threads and there were certain things that like when the rebel was i think letter number four and there was talking to that though the woman who was feeling very guilty about where she was holding spiritually or where she was as a person or you know what her spiritual standing was or what that meant or what that would look like um the rabbit addressed her based on who she was and how she came to the table in her letter um and you see that that yet the common thread is always learning and always doing learn yeah learning and doing right i was just gonna say i think we're putting a lot of emphasis on the learning which is very very important but i think the the idea is for each of us to look in the mirror you know they've always used the expression yoda inash binoche every person knows their own capability everybody knows their own capacity you look in the mirror you see what can you do you know whether it's when you leave here tonight give someone a ride you know they're ever missed obviously stroll or you know uh put some put up put some money in the pushkas you're going into the oil writing upon each of what each of these things that you're doing are part of the whole framework of his kashas so it's not just learning and it's not just learning look at the series or learning letters or learning gitas like whatever wants us to do or learning rambam it's that and the myth time and obviously and whatever it is that tickles your fancy if i could say it in the most you know down-to-earth way if it tickles your fancy and if it jives with your personality that's the way to do it that's the way to do it and there's there's a whole smorgasbord of opportunities that the rebbe has given us whether you're working you know whether you're in ghana whether you're in business whether you're on whatever you are and wherever you are wherever you are you have the the capacity to be mkusher to the rib and i just actually noticed at in the eye hell there was or in the in the house there was a video playing and it's such a simple thing they're or deceptively simple the rebbe says what is hiskashras his conscious is i mean in hebrew if you speak if you speak hebrew you know to to connect right a cashier kashar kesher shakayama right we're all familiar with the language it's a not right it's a it's a it's a it's a bond it's a connection there ever says you take one thing and you take another thing they're two separate things and you tie them together and they become one imagine the enormity and the magnitude that there we are separate who we are simple we know who we are and the rebbe who is indescribable and we're able to take these two separate entities and tie the two entities together to become one and their episode and once it becomes one it's not two separate pieces that are together it literally becomes one methius it's one thing so now the hiscastrus has brought us to be one meaning that wherever you are and whatever you do the rebbe is with you there is a part of you it's so interesting because in one of the letters i think it was the think it was the third week there was a second letter a shorter letter um i think of and but in in it the rabbit it's it's a i it was to a man named oh gosh i'm going to mess up the name mr stulman or something i think that was it did anyone say that letter um the rabbit was basically saying was after the sacrifice of the fruit of greba and the rabbit was saying that the the rebbe's presence hasn't changed it changed in how it's like almost the rebel is an analogy of transmission of energy and that that it's it's basically a different plane of connection and that basically what the when when after and the rep was talking about after you shot that the the the basically the free deck to access the connection to the frida kareba of course services following in the friday grab his ways being passionate and like shauni was mentioning i always say that we have no shortage of things to do like it's it's not like we can't figure out what to do next to make an impact in the world the world needs us every single one of us wherever we find ourselves and it needs us to step up but and level up you know like really really step into the next role of what we can do wherever we find ourselves and i i'm so passionate about what you were just saying because it's it's true that's what that's the only way we're going to get out of goddess that's the truth we're all needed well none of us are like extra here but in it the the in that letter the rabbit was saying that basically the fried crab is challenging the hasidim to shift how they connect to the frida grabba so the rebbe's energy didn't change reba's energy passed on to a different world but in the the sham of assadic and the energy of its remains remains connected as a matter of fact the rabbi even makes the point that it's not limited now by by a body by time by space by all the things that limit us you know as i'm sure as women we always feel like we think we want to be at two places at once or you're anyone relate to being pulled in multiple directions at the same time no oh okay good few of you laughed that's not just me i appreciate that um especially just getting kids off the camera because we're not going to talk about that tonight um but the point is that the point is that we feel we're constantly being pulled and and and and the reb and but but the rebels saying to this man that the that the that the um frida kahrab is challenging him to connect differently through learning through doing through wha walking in what the further grab his passionate ways were and obviously we know as people in this generation again the rebel left us no shortage of instructions of of what to do it's not like we could ever be really bored if we wanted to she'll take it soon okay so i'm gonna i'm gonna share another story this is a story that is very well known it's another story from the gemura and uh i guess in my search for looking for inspiration uh where the rebbe speaks about the passing of the freya du gareba or where thereby speaks about difficult times and difficult challenges um it's a very well-known story the story of rabbi akiva and his fellow hachamem who are traveling to your shalayim we all know the story we say rabbi akiva laughed the talmud cried and he then at the end the conclusion of the story is but the rabbit tells the story and by the way it's a it's it was a hole for brengan and tafsian cafe this is a seam on the maserta which on youtube did in honor of his of robertson khanna who passed away that year so the rabbit tells the story and starts from earlier in the gemara rabbi akiva and these three other are going to yerushalayim and they come to har hatsay fem which is mount scopus it's where you can see the entire uh corbin of yerushalayim and they all rend their garments they see the tragedy they see the calamity they see the terrible situation that the yidden are in and they all rip their clothes including ruby akiva then when they get to the har habias all of a sudden they see a fox running out from the kaido shakodashim and there the three khamen cry and rabbi kiva the rebbe's word is eretkeqvilt not that he was laughing laughing is hahaha gekvelt is a word that that everybody who had a jewish grandmother in omaha knows kavel means that you you have pleasure rabbi now in in in the lotion of the gemara it's but the in the yiddish they ever use the word erkwelt eretzkevild and they said to him what are you what are you laughing and the rabbit says so he answers them like a jew answers with a question ma atem why are you crying and of course they say look you know look what's going on here and ruby akiva says look we are seeing the nevua of urea for sure the the navor of zacharia is going to come to be till now we didn't know for sure that the navoor of the destruction was so serious so we didn't uh you know we didn't know we didn't have the the the the the confidence what's going to happen but now that we saw what happened we know for sure it's going to be good and they say akiva akiva nikantanu not once but twice akiva nehantanu twice and the rebbe of course never takes anything at face value and takes apart the entire story and there ever proves thereby says look rebbi akiva was not oblivious to the tragedy rebbi akiva was not clueless to how much suffering was going on he was right there with them when they saw the terrible destruction they all rent their garments they all ripped their clothes yes this is terrible this is absolutely terrible and then when they came to the kaidushakadoshan the place where the kaijutshum used to be then they totally fell apart because this is horrific and there rabia kiva saw the kernel of positivity and transformation rabbi akiva saw in the in the in the trap in the tragedy in the challenge in the struggle in the disaster he saw the redemption so rabbi akiva was really straddling the two worlds he was on the one hand mourning deeply he was ripped clothes and on the other hand he was in ecstasy ered felt he was pashad makaya beautiful and in a way this describes exactly exactly how each of us feel on guimotamas you know we were talking about this and i said you know guimotamas was something those of us that were alive at that point if you call that living if we did not believe that such a thing could come to pass it was impossible we were going to live and i see whoever's nodding was there we were going to live with the rebbe and the rebel was going to take us to the ula shelima and that was that what was was what was going to happen that was the only option it wasn't even that oh the only option you know because the other option it was happening it was happening and here we were thrust into this unbelievable shocking experience and you know looking back hashem we've came we've come many years too long in the same situation but we have learned a lot on the way on how to tackle this and the rabbit keeps showing us we're almost there we're almost there we're almost there we can we say that we're it's a far brainian could we just be there already i mean like really we're we're really ready for the ghoulish lama like it's not even a question like we're we're we're we're there we're ready um what you're saying is is really very powerful it makes me it makes me it reminds me of this dichotomy i guess that we're all feeling that like on the one hand when you know we talk about his gosh first we talk about the rep as love the connection being really plugged in to me a lot of it is really like i understand it through a lot of the stories of people that people like you share and through watching the way they have interacted with people and hearing the way people experienced the rabbi in person and i think of it as i guess something that um like again not you know on the one hand something that i don't really get to feel in its entirety because i i think of i think of the word love i think of i think of my father coming to embrace me it's a sensation that i literally feel in my body it's something that you know we really got to get to feel in person on the one hand we are more connected than ever um i mean on the one hand you know we really feel this void really having this like you know sometimes not feeling that that same kind of intimate connection in a way that i think others um have experienced not even by choice but because they merited two um it's just just to vote not to dwell on this for too much but i was thinking about just recently there was a student who um lost her mother and i was just speaking with her about it and we were i just i don't know how but i found myself telling her that you know your mother must be so proud of you in the fact that you're more engaged with your you describe your you're wanting to learn more tara and then all of a sudden i i like just really cringed at myself because i i felt very bad about what i was saying because i how can i say that this girl doesn't have her mother she is she wants her mother next to her and although although we may know that that's true um i don't think that it's a complete experience the way that it should be um on the other hand you know we we know from the way there are spoke about the frida kareba and how and how the the friedrich said when he was leaving russia he assured his siddhim that their connection is is is not limited by borders and isn't limited by the physical separation that um that they were experiencing and we see this you know in the stories of how the sudden remain connected to the frida karaba and how this is obviously also true with our um with our rabbi and again we see it and the rabbit goes on in the seccha to to talk about how the fact that there is this idea of zari beckham the fact that i'm here that we're all here still trying to figure out how to connect and how to be in tune and plugged in to obviously the only way that we could get through what's going on around us the only way that we could get to the finish line is through having that connection that that and of itself is a testament to the fact that the life of the rebbe was kulei rochni was completely i guess above any limitation because it's not so much of course it comes with the responsibility of being able to do what rabbi wants from us but it's also just shows us that it's really nothing that we're doing it's the fact that the rabbit is the rebbe there and and is completely unlimited um that there's able to be this testament of all of us sitting here of you know the shlokham all over the world of every husset who's still maintaining and searching and and looking for that connection because we all need it um so it's just this very okay you touched upon something that really kept coming up again and i i on a very personal level i was 14 when when when gimmel thomas happened at that time and i wasn't in an environment with a lot of of people who were coming from the same community in the same background and i recall that there were quite a few let's just say naysayers who are like ha now you're where robotniks lived whatever among me and my other chabad friend they a lot of people were ready to um i'm not going to say gloat because that's maybe a strong word but they were like now what you guys like really now like now what and i i've probably because i'm a little bit stubborn it was like fuel for me like like what do you mean the rabbit's life their position i probably probably planted a lot of the seeds of what like impassioned me to like go on to go on childhoods to to make a difference in the world and to continue to try to continue to to follow their basers and try to change the world which all of us again the rabbit really handed that responsibility to all of us um and i remember following a few years later i met up with that that group that social group it was me and another uh girl for another habanekin and she said we were talking about where we were over the summer and we said we were somewhere in schliches the middle of nowhere usa i think we're in alabama which is you guys are 16 and you think you could change the world like you laboratures what is that and i think that when we look at this idea of haim of afubachayam look at the world when i spend time with let's say our laboratory high schoolers or or when i wherever you are in the world when i get regards from a student that they're in venice and they're put onto philadelphia reached out and the the connection it's it's like it's mind-boggling and it's humbling because all of us have it and all of us are really charged with that accris to and goalless to move forward i'm going to one second i'm going to pass it to you but i had one a situation where there was um one of my students mothers called me we're touching base and she says she's having a massive dilemma and i said you know give to dhaka say capitals and i send her a link to the isle i say write upon here's a lady in middle of nowhere texas and she says okay and i'm like you know what it's bigger than me it's bigger than you you need a bracha from above you need the rabbit you need a bra from the rabbit she i don't i don't know if she knew what it meant but i i tried to give her a lens in and i said here's a website explore it but right okay a year later i'm meeting up with her in dallas and she says again she's describing a different crisis she's going through and i said you know you really need to she's but whatever you tell me i'll listen to now i'm not used to hearing whatever you tell me i'll listen to i have teenage children like i have i've worked with high schoolers it's not the general mo like sure whatever you say i listen to i have a husband whatever you know whatever saying you know it's out of life so she says whatever you say i listen to and i'm like okay caught me by surprise obviously so i said to her really she said yeah because last year your your spiritual advice brought miracles and i'm like what spiritual advice brought miracles i didn't even remember that we had a conversation a year before she says remember that crisis whatever there was a whole situation with a lawsuit she says the next day after i wrote that letter to the rebbe i got um a call from my lawyer that the whole case is dropped i'm writing today so then her son is preg that wife is pregnant the childhood challenge and i'm speaking to in utero there was a problem she said don't worry i'm writing to the what i'm saying is in in a lot of the secrets of behind it means through and and in the youth based thomas i think it went around on gem what's up yesterday they were saying wit through you amongst the rebels amongst you with you and through you connected to everyone that means that we have this gift of a connection of viscas of anastar and we can we can't hug it ourselves we have to share it so share with us ours with the stacy's with the honeys with everyone passing it on i think it's even bigger than that i mean it's it's bigger than you know what they're for ex when you say a bachayam how many women in the world are wearing shaytluck today not laboratories modern orthodox it's it's a thing it's a thing and everyone does it or the fact that the governor of the state of nebraska would call the shliya and say on his cell phone and say hey rabbi when are we doing the menorah lighting i mean what has the rabbit done in this world and how is there ever living you know during covid countless reform congregations had menorah lightings in their parking lots reform congregations and menorah lightings in their parking lots it's wild it's wild the rabbit is alive it's it's hard because we have this we have this struggle we have this reality and you know the paradox but i just want to go back to the story for a moment that the that uh elaborated on where the rabbit speaks whether explains the conversation between akiva rabia akiva and the other ham and the rebbe says when when the say why are you laughing and rabbi akiva answers the question with a question and says him he's it's not it's not like a a you know a cute question the rebbe is saying rabbi akiva is a call is calling them to action he's saying now is not the time to cry number one look at the promise look at the potential look at what's possible to accomplish look at how we can transform the reality and what are we going to do now now is not the time for crying we have to do um i think i'll i'll be honest in our conversations that we went through this week it they they took a long journey and some of it was a little heavy and a little dark it was it was because goddess is heavy and dark and because the fact that we're sitting here 28 years later is ridiculous and should not is not okay and um but at a certain point i was i was referencing i think it was during covid there was a positivity bias there was a class on it and i remember doing it because i think i probably i like to teach what i need to learn because that's the best way for me to learn and um so i obviously need a little more positivity in my life during that time period so i started teaching that the class on it and i remember one thing that really struck me that i never thought about i just didn't you know you have those moments where you're like oh i never looked at it that way like that's interesting um and it was describing being positive i mean there's no shortage we're not talking about toxic positivity which is fake no one is whitewashing the intensity of what we're feeling right um but in it it was describing the rebbe's life the challenges the struggles the painful difficult life that the rabbit led leading up to taking on vinicius and obviously throughout their of his life two world wars right world war one world war two family imprisonment is you know disconnected from the parents family dying in the holocaust i mean tremendous tremendousness zionists and and i don't even remember why it was brought up because i don't remember the exact thing but it was such a shift to me to think we epitomized the rebbe's legacy the rebels identity is positivity how to reframe things how do we say things how to understand things in a different way right not even saying someone who's distant someone who you know someone who's not you know you're saying someone who's not close or not saying that you know dude deadline but saying a due date there's so many little ways where the rabbit really trained raised us to see the world through a positive lens and i think that we taking the intensity of the this sh this next few days and the truth is really i really really like if like i'm ready for moshiach for game of thomas we still have time no problem we're all ready but taking that moving forward to take that like now what and how does that affect me and how what can i do about this and i i someone i really feel for me it it really pushes me to say okay what can i do how can i how can i affect change and it doesn't mean we don't acknowledge the feelings and the the intensity and the difficult emotions of the gullis that we're in it's it's again it's we how many times did we say it's not okay this week it's not okay but to say what can i do about that and where does that take me um i'm just again thinking about you know the rubber talks about in the the famous mimer about cusses lamarr and i think what we're basically saying is that everyone feels that cusses right the fact that it's been so long but i think how are we paying that forward i guess how are we taking that to la or how are we taking this i guess this yearning that many of us feel and pushing ourselves to connect more i think we all know what that should look like for each of us i we all have i don't think there's one recipe there but gave us pretty clear instruction that we could translate into our lives if you're a mommy with little kids if you have everyone has their different you know situation that they apply their histories um and they're you know plugging in more but i think that we can just like what like what mrs katzman was saying is that you know we we can't just sit here and cry even though it is it is painful it is confusing trying to raise children with having that deep and intimate connection is something which is strange and i'm not really comfortable doing it i'm ready to shirk that responsibility that they can see the rabbit with their own eyes and see and feel and you know and hear but i also know that this yearning has to translate into something proactive um and incorporating more ways of i guess you know there's this expression that actually rabbi yehuda dukes of a sudden was i had i was i worked for him he was a very special person as many of you have seen um during the last you know he was i guess a public source of inspiration along with his wife um and i worked for janet for a few months or a little more than a few months when i was living in crown heights after i was married and he shared this on a very very very technical reason he was telling me i was doing like certain data entry i guess for connecting people who wanted to learn with their harvestas and he wanted that all the data going in should be very um accurate and as thorough as possible and he shared with me this expression called data in data out that however good the input is um in to your excel sheet that's how powerful of a system you can create and that's how powerful this data can be and i was just thinking about this idea that it's so true to i guess you know to so many things but in this conversation i think that we also have to be honest about how are we how are we nurturing how are we plugging in what kind of data are we putting in that we should be able to have that connection and i don't know that it always has to come with a feeling it would be nice if it always does but it's definitely doing something because we're putting that data in we're connecting to the source of right we're connecting to the only thing that can carry us through this through this craziness that we have to i guess pay it forward and and put the data in and we all have to find those ways to to do that and i think that it's a process it's not overnight we're all used to this like instant amazon delivery like three times a day um you know i mean i am yeah you know all this stuff but it's not something that happens overnight and i think that it's i'm talking to myself here that it's important not to be you know pulled down by not always feeling that but knowing that if i am connecting to the source there it's going to it's going to influence my my my behavior my actions and i think sorry man just one more thought on that note is thinking about you know we hear all these beautiful stories about um about i mean not really on that note but it just made me think of this that on the reba's the way looking at the way the rabbit interacted with so many different people and there was love to each person and the rabbi's ability to be able to really like understand their intimate personal emotional physical needs despite their greatness and the rep is you know really high high stature and everything else is is really beautiful we could talk about it we could for bring about it but then i also think like at some point i was like thinking about this it's very beautiful but how are we taking it and i guess how is that data going and applying into the way that we're interacting in our lives like how are we as chased we have a responsibility to represent the things that the rebbe embodied and i think that you know how am i taking that obviously straw the way the rebel looked at every person and applying it to the way i interact with my spouse the way that i interact with the people of my schlochers the way i interact to my children the way i interact with you know my friends and people who i meet so i think that there's also taking you know that is a way of being able to live the way the rapper wants us to yeah show repeaters um so she's asking what kind of data do we need to put in to get the output that i that i want um well for starters i could i could no i think i think it's going to be unique to every person and i think that although we have so i think for me i mean it's very obvious to me that the way that i get that that feeling of i guess clarity or where i feel that direction in a in a more clear in way that i could be more in tune with is i think through learning um i think i know is through learning i feel like if i want to feel if i want to be in tune to the things that i want to be doing and i want to actually be acting on them i need to kind of drink directly from that well so for me i wish i did more of it but i think that i think that i try to push myself and i know that we all can in our own way to incorporate a little bit more of kind of connecting straight to that to the mayan that we have um i think there's different elements of it i think that through writing to the rubber and having like a relationship in a way that um i think that that helps that helps me i guess feel that intimacy that i guess i miss i i so often wish i had more of but i think that it's clear from the way the rebbe spoke to us and i and for sure from the from the the impact that i find that it has in my life it gives me a certain sense of clarity short-lived something i have to constantly um rejuvenate and right and i think that there's also the fact that we really don't it doesn't come from ourselves i think that the only way that we can get that is through the plugging in because through learning um yeah that's the thing i want to add with learning because i the third letter just jumped out at me so much no letter number four jumped out of me the the woman with feeling guilty i just think that's such a natural uh place that we go to and um it really actually the guilt we obviously know tanya discusses extensively where guilt actually takes us it's not to a productive place so i i feel i feel like i i read it resonated so much with me that letter the last letter because there was this woman who is clearly struggling with who she is and where she's holding and and one line that jumped out at me that's like playing over in my head where she's obviously feeling inadequate to receive whatever her connections the braches and and the rabbit basically says in the the letter to her we had a great rabbit and we have a great rebbe meaning the rebels greatness is still something that every single one of us no matter how we feel because to me this woman represented so many of us who maybe were taking a look and saying like who am i and where am i holding and i know where i was yesterday and i know how i am maybe i'm having imposter syndrome that i don't feel like i could stand up there as whatever it is um in my show up in my life in that way in a healthy way and and and the rabbit was like saying and the rebbe is davening for you for you to have success in all areas of your life the gosh miss baruch with your children in all areas of your life not whether you're worthy whether you're not worthy and it's so interesting because again remember i was saying earlier how the rebels gave different ways to connect to different people there was a close look at a picture of the rebbe i think sometimes for me that is a moment that for his kasha said could you just like all i can do right at that moment just take a look you know someone a student came you have this picture of the rub in every room of your house i said i need it in every room of my house i'm in all the rooms it needs to be there um to have that that the connection sometimes i think it's going to look like sitting down and drinking from the mayan and sometimes i i i have even a two minute gem clip came on my whatsapp i can't even get through because of whatever is on my to-do list that day whether it's in here or actually the to-do list right so i think that we have to not wait till we and there's no substitute for learning i think yeah i think you're cutting everyone a little bit short because i think that we often um think that learning isn't for me learning isn't i don't have the time i'm not a learner there's so much access to being able to learn the rebels tyra in a way that is completely unprecedented for a woman for sure that we really don't have any excuses no i i don't think you know like with with all my respect i think that especially i guess being this generation where i do in a way feel like that is our like that is what we have and you know like like talking about the the generation of the children the next generation of course there's there's also the the rabbit cares about us in a way beyond just it's not just an intellectual thing but i think that the pro like the rabbit gave us this torah for us to tap into that i think that we're doing an injustice by not give you know allowing ourselves to do more of it and it doesn't mean to ignore that doesn't mean to ignore you know our the different things that are calling us i think that we all have so many things but i think that we could all push ourselves more in this area because i think every woman everyone who has ever you know we all know what it does for us and i think that everyone has maybe their own style of learning their own way of connecting to the rebels tyra some people like to listen to something like these letters that are on podcast form some people like to open up a saha some people can read something in english there's so many incredible ways to be able to drink directly from the well that i think we have to she's she's saying i'm wrong i'm saying that for all of us no you're good i think for all of us at different stages we have to not wait till we can get exactly what we want to because i think sometimes you know sometimes perfection's the enemy of progress oh 100 but but i'm not going to wait till the once a month that i could let's say to feel that connection we have to stop putting ourselves in a box i think i hear you okay i'm gonna pass it to someone wiser so i wanted to say one thing that in addition to the learning that and however you guys work it out between yourselves um i think the the the critical thing to remember is rebbe is royce banega stroll the rabbit is our head and in another place is there a bug in my head okay you got it okay and then you want to release it okay thank you okay and then so thank you very much mania well thank you um so in addition to the thank you in addition to the fact that the rabbit is our head the rabbit is also our heart so the two most vital organs the head and the heart that's the rebbe of our collective community and the whole world really so connecting with the mood of the rebbe is critical and in any way that you can do it but i also want to go back to what the rebbe spoke about on schminiker i mean on if you feel you can't do it for you could you do it for me could you please do it for me in other words and the rebbe says in that secret of course it's obvious that we still need the rebbe of course we need the rebba who are we we're you know we're yokos we need their ebba no question but the weapon needs us he says labana anitzer i need you and how do we how do we do whatever needs by following whatever wants us from us whether it's learning and with what in whatever intensity you decide or fine a hundred percent and doing what the rep asked us to do so i just think it's it's a it's a it's a different mindset in other words okay for myself maybe i'm i don't have the energy maybe i don't have the the the drive maybe i don't have i'm not incentivized but how could i let the ebba down he's waiting for you he's asking you please i need you yeah you want to say something no you're reminding me of a story that when i read the story it's in the new here's my story storybook i think it's called my story too um where the repertoire where the story just really touched me very deeply because there's the story of face value and then i kind of like saw it in a different way where basically there was this woman who was living in crown heights who was not did not consider herself lubovovich and she was very friendly had a close connection with rabbi jj and she confided in him that they were seriously considering adoption and rabbi hecht encouraged them to come to the frida karaba to get abraham before they do such a big you know thing in their life so they did and when they came to the future he rabbi jesus told them told the rep of the situation and the rebel like it says that they're belaft and said you're definitely going to have chil you're going to have children and you're going to have healthy children anyways rabbi jesus tells them look someone says and i'm going to be the son dick so anyways they move on did take some time and they were still not yet having children it came to a point where this woman's doctor told her that she had to go through a procedure that would actually remove her ability to be able to have a child and they came to then the rebbe our web at that time um and and explained the situation and the rabbit told them to go see another doctor um which they did and there but then connected them to represent kaimusko's doctor actually and all the doctors were saying that it's a matter of life and death she really has to go ahead with this procedure um they came back and to the rabbi and basically said like it's we really don't have a choice and they're upset go see another doctor they go see another doctor and the doctor from after the consultation whatever so they have the doctor goes and schedules the time for the surgery and says this is happening you don't have a choice in the matter and you know this this is what it is you can't you can play around so they come back to the rabbi and they basically say we really appreciate your concern but we really have to go ahead with this and the rebbe tells this woman can you please do me a favor so the woman says okay fine i'll do a favor they had she had respect to the rabbi of course and she said what's what's the favor and nervous said can you please go find go ask one more doctor and it's just crazy to me how many doctors and how you know this defied i guess the the physical reality and she went and found another doctor and of course the doctor after doing whatever it was that he checked he said i have a suspicion that she that she was pregnant and she ended up she ended up being so and she ends up saying i think of the story obviously there's like a face value it's an unbelievable like my fist honestly it's it's crazy what what what happened but i also think that it's really interesting how she was doing she thought that she was doing the rabbi a favor that the rebel needed her to do this favor and i also find the initiation there but even verbalize it that way that the rabbi was a favor perhaps because durba cares so deeply about her being able to have you know this thing that she was yearning so strongly for um but i also what i what really like struck me about this was that what really struck me about this was that she thought she was doing the rob a favor and ultimately what was happening was she was getting the biggest gift she was you know the rep was doing her favor by encouraging her to do this so i think that sometimes we think about the kind of maybe a certain like oh i guess or a certain like like we like the rabbit expects us of us and we have to do this and maybe it's not always in a way we think we're doing the rabbi a favor by you know being though zarya bachai and by doing what the rebel wants but i think it's pretty clear that maybe that was an expression of love to allow us to to merit to be able to do those things because ultimately it's the biggest i think gift you know i don't know how we would be able to survive i mean i don't know if we are but if how we could you know the world is just getting more and more crazy by i think the day and i guess being on campus also it's just i just want to hide sometimes when and you know block my eyes and ears to the things that i'm seeing and it's the biggest gift i think that we have by being able to to plug in um i think we're we're getting to a point where we're going to probably be rapping shortly um and i want to say that i i'm going to reiterate something that i feel like this gift is not just our gift and the responsibility is not just our responsibility um it's for each and every one of us at each and every place wherever we're at and i i have truly seen over the past um 16 years and actually happened i was once with my mother-in-law in crown heights in the year in the uh right when we had moved on campus and my mother-in-law asked me for a certain person do i know this person's mother's name i said no and it was a young lady in her community and she said well i'm i'm going to the isle and i know her back was bothering her so i want to put in her name and suddenly it like clicked like oh my i have so many students who are going through so many challenges some are struggling with dating the person that they should date some are struggling with many emotional challenges just different things that they're really really heavy and at times i feel very very inadequate to be the address that they're coming to for guidance for advice or whatever um and i i started just i have actually a little google keep on my phone where i put different students their names their children's now some of their children's names where when i go to the i'll i have them in mind and i have i have i've really truly i one year was gimmel thomas and i went and i texted the student i realized i didn't have his name and i said i know you've been dating for a long time it's not working what can i give me your give me your name your mother's name he gave me his name is on his name and he said keep my sister in mind too i didn't i didn't his sister was he was european he lived in france i didn't never met his sister okay i'll keep who am i to say no right and the next time i went to the aisle i had realized i was sitting by the aisle again and i pulled up my text to see the name because i wanted to still put it in he was not yet and he said you'll never b it was six it was like six months later says you'd never believe it i met this girl mania it was that day perfect for me and by the way my sister just got engaged and i just realized how can i not can help connect the nishama of nasi you you touch upon this is in the sham of the whole generation it's not just for me and for my children it's for each and every one of us but it's also our responsibility to share this gift of his kosheros to nurture it and nourish it within ourselves and to share it with obviously our children that they feel empowered and connected but to share with every single neshama this generation because the rebels their their rep is their rabbi i would extend it to all of mankind yeah yeah finish up um okay are i are we it looks like we are ready for the next incredible part of this program i want to say that we'll after not huh no rush then i'm passing the mic to shawnee she has a lot more to say go okay no okay i i will say this and i guess we will rap because if they don't want to share anything else i'm going to hand me a mic i'll go all night um i do want to ah naham is going to share a story no um i'll just share a story that just happened with my parents actually but my mother shared it with me after i shared with her something that um i guess was on my mind and i reached out to mashpia about it i wasn't able to to connect with her right away it took like three weeks and of course in the process what do you think happened i got a lot of clarity and i understood what i needed to do um and i felt like it was like this this gift of just like asking or just having that that person i guess gave me a lot of insight into like what i needed to hear and then she shared the story that just happened um where someone experienced something similar basically my parents have a chabad house near a hospital and they have all different kinds of yiddin that come for treatment and this specific family was an older an elderly couple and basically they had a new grandson so this these parents it was i think their 11th child kanehara came with their whole family down to houston to have the bris with these grandparents in houston and because of that the the parents of the mother so basically like the other the mechatanim came as well to houston for this bris and as they're leaving um you know my father gives them to send them on their way and he says oh you're lubavitcher i want to tell you a story this is they're they're wonderful people they're a very litvisha family i think he teaches entire vidas and it was he's not by any stretch consider himself a laboratory he said i had a story that um that recently happened so i mean now they really happened i have a story that happened to me you're a bob i'm sure i want to share with you so basically when he was i guess he's he's an elder elderly whatever he's he was a zeta to this young this young baby and he says he had a big question in kirov that was what he said something that was very personal and intimate in nature and he had to get a lot of clarity about it so he decided who should he go to if not for the in his last line like the godzilla of kirov the person who really understands this so he went to the rebbe and when he gets there he is told that you can't just walk in um you actually have to wait for like two or three hours right now but if you want he was able to have a hadith but he had to wait and he had to write what he needed to what he wanted to ask the rebbe down on paper so my mother showed this with me because basically at this point he he stands pacing back and forth he wasn't expecting it and during that time that he's pacing back and forth he actually gets clarity to his question um and he he he knew he he knew what he needed to do he decided to still go inside of course and to get the bracha from the rubber so he goes inside after you know he had his time and he got there was bracha and the rubber was i guess he was on he was on the right track um and when he ended his the rabbit told him forget the exact lashing i should look it up but basically something that was he didn't understand what the connection of it was to the issue at hand that essentially that mashiach was going to come through through basically through hassed and through gaming that's not the exact words but that was the idea the gist of it he had no idea what it had to do with anything and he's telling my father this is what happened this i don't understand what this means to my parents i guess at that moment it was something that they felt like was a direct what they needed to hear in their shockers their my mother calls herself a you know a concierge for everyone that comes physically spiritually but for them it was a good reminder that you know we're all doing our our own our own different kinds of sin in all of our different lives and i think that you know some it's nice to be able to get those messages but there's no doubt that the rabbit is um you know the fact that rubber could say something however many years and and it's exactly what they needed to hear there's no doubt that the rep is with us and the rabbit is watching us and giving us the we need to to continue what we're doing yeah may be of mamas okay ladies we hope that there's some one or two ideas that resonated we're by no means experts in this field where we're works of them that are on a journey struggling in our own way with these big ideas on a very very enormous enormous intense um day and time and i i guess we will end with him listen we really really um leave gullis we're ready [Music] there you [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] came [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] is [Music] oh [Applause] [Music] uh [Music] [Applause] uh [Music] [Applause] uh do you have a stand yeah okay that'd be good stand will be good um good yeah okay is there is there a pa system in the tent or there is there are speakers here i don't have to project my voice you hear me in the back row the mic's not on okay now the mic's on can you hear me in the back yeah this is okay this level you hear me huh oh you got to say things clearly um we're i'm being encouraged to encourage those who are standing over in that corner to fill up the chairs that are empty in this corner it's it's it's an interesting because on this side of the room there's a bunch of people standing in this side of the room there's a bunch of empty chairs so maybe we could put those two together and then the chairs will have people and the people will have chairs okay this is a amazing setup over here i heard about that i had a sneak preview first of all we want to thank the uh detroit yeshiva for giving us their tent the boys aren't here yet so they're letting us use their tent for the event i heard about this from uh from my son israel who and i didn't see him all day because he said he was setting up the tent so i don't know he's the one who set it up but okay um so we've been learning more of the rabbi's egress this is a continuation of a series that we began thirty days before udalif nissan before that of his birthday we started learning 30 letters in 30 days and barack hashem many people got excited about learning the rabbis letters and then after yadal of nissan people said you can't stop you got to continue in some capacity so we we we launched part two of the series which was a gimel thomas we've been preparing for gimmotamas over the past 30 days we started on gimmelciven 30 days before gimotamas and uh we didn't do it every day because that was a little bit at least for me a little bit excessive we've been doing it every every thursday night a live letter so this is letter number five and we've been following a theme all of our previous letters for the past 30 days have been about his kashas have been about the connection the relationship between a rabbi and khasid and khasid somebody wrote to me by the way and he's probably watching right now because from the things he wrote it was apparent that he actually listens to what i say um i told the story we the first letter that we did in this series was the schlemmer heim castleman letter and i mentioned a story about him that he once was forbranging in a little shabbat said i'll be a makusha but i don't need to be i'm a kusher to to the rabbit i want to be makusha to abayavarova to the amaroyam from the gemara and shalomheim said well it's nice you want to be mukusha to them who says they want to be makusha to you and the difference is the the rabbi is the nasty he wants to be mukusha to every year so i told that story when we learned the latter and then for some reason i told it again last week and somebody wrote in and said i don't like that story okay so first of all what do we say for myself this is that's the story that's uh you know why you can't ask a story on a question on the stories because that's the way it happened if it was fiction if i made it up you could criticize me but that's what happened that's what he said um but the criticism i really loved because he said why would anybody think that abaya verrava wouldn't be connected to every jew and the person who wrote the letter made it clear that he's not coming from a laboratory background in fact he said when laboratories speak this way it sounds very insecure it's a turn off i want to tell you my reaction i read that comment i was so delighted that this guy has been so thoroughly brainwashed that it's clear to him that abayavarava would want to be connected to every single jew that's beautiful and i'm glad that your view of a true goddel has become so rabified and that's great and i agree with you i agree with you i i was talking to and i can't give too many particulars here i was talking to a young woman recently who comes from a litvisher background and she was saying she saw something from a tiffany's hashem campaign where they were telling the kids make direba proud and she said to me it's it's weird why are you telling these kids to make that ever probably you know the that ever passed away 28 years ago you're telling them make that ever proud she said and i'm not going to say the name that she said because it's not important for the story and it would only be a distraction but she said i believe so and so is the god of daughter and he's alive and he doesn't know me and he doesn't want to know me i don't think i don't think he's missing anything that he doesn't know me and you're going and telling these kids that the who passed away before they were born is keeping track of of them so i didn't really answer that what she said to me but i treasured it personally because it was a moment of clarity for myself i said wow it never even occurred to me that there could be something this is a very intelligent very spiritual very thoughtful young woman it never occurred to me that there could be a concept of someone who is considered the goddess and that part of that definition is not that they know about or at least want to know about every single jew like to me that's automatically in fact more than saying somebody is smart oh they know cola tater cooler okay but do they know every jew that to me is the first quality then you could ask me you know how much of a talmud hawkham are they so the idea that uh the rabbit is truly connected and wants to be connected i mentioned at a fabregan in the five towns a few nights ago we had a fabregan we had our gimmel thomas pregum thomas fabregan in the five towns where i am i am fortunate to be on schliches just 15 minutes from here um and i mentioned at the fabregan how the rabbit is connected to the entire jewish people and i shared i didn't plan on sharing this i just i shared it very spontaneously a recollection that i had of being at a cheva brachas of a cousin of mine who's not a laboratory in manhattan at the karlbach school and um there was a a gentleman there an elderly gentleman at the time this was i was a baker in 770 at the time so this is like 1998 or something like that maybe 97 and they introduced me to him and he said oh you're a laboratory and i was the only laboratory there i said yeah so he said i used to go on business trips to jamaica in the 50s and the 60s and whenever i would come back from jamaica i would go to the debbie and it would always have yahidus they would always let me straight in because i could report to the rabbit about everything that's going on for the it's a very small jewish community there maybe like a hundred families in jamaica and i would report to the dev about the few jewish families in jamaica so i asked this guy i said you're not a laboratory how come when you would come back from jamaica you would report to the laboratory so he looked at me almost like stunned and he said who else would care it's a hundred jews hundred families living in some first god forsaken island like we got problems of our own over here who are you going to tell about what leader has time for that so i mentioned that story i i did not plan on telling that story but i got a whatsapp the following day from the schliak in jamaica and uh he said that he was off to put on a mozuza in a house of a yidd who's the only jew who lives in his town and he was driving through a forest and he was listening to the replay of the fabregan and all of a sudden he's driving in some totally desolate area of jamaica he hears this story about who cares what's going on with the jews in jamaica the lava should have it so an answer to the gentleman who wrote to me you're 100 right and congratulations that your your world view has been been so thoroughly uh influenced by the devil's teachings that it is an an absolute obvious apparent reality to you that all of the tenorium vamarayam would want to know every single jew even an intermarried jew living in a trailer park in oklahoma all the time would want to know him and spend time with him and speak to him and smile at him show him love and i i believe you're correct so thank you for pointing that out so today's letter is from the igress it's uh another letter from tough shin you'd we did a number of letters from tough shinjud from the year of the friday crab is passing so i'll just start here but hashem you'd sign ello do people have the the pdf at least yeah where's what's the in case people are watching on youtube right now that the pdf's not on youtube so where where can people get the pdf 30 letters 30days.com yeah 30 letters 30days.com the pdf is there the 17th day of ello the years 5710 tough shinod which is the year of the the frida philippines histalcus the nephew of which as we all know those of us who've been studying the igres that's how the rabbi greets a man and this man is a father and he's writing about his son as you are about to see me first thing that is in response to your letter from the 18th of of when you're writing about moving relocating and where you should relocate to this is not just talking about moving down the block this is talking about somebody who's looking to leave the country that they're in i don't know what country they were in i mean i could make some guesses this is 1950 this is um at this point the war refugees really don't have any place to go they have to find permanent homes there were dp camps displaced person camps in fact remember the first letter we did in this series the letter was speaking about the dp camps so the by this point the dp camps were shut down a lot of a lot of laboratories this letter seems to be written to a lobovich hosted were in paris sort of as like a temporary place to be before they found someplace else to go so the rabb is writing them and says i'm i would be interested to find out if you could get papers meaning documents to uh travel to america canada or australia america canada australia ulfi era comes from and also how much time it would take us if it's not possible to get to any of those three places then let me know i want to find out okay um that he's not so excited about learning that your son is not so excited about learning tata so what should this father tell this son who's not so excited about learning so maybe you should tell them how important it is to learn yeah let's see what the rabbit tells them you should explain to him the in words that are appropriate to him says in yiddish that now things are completely different it's very interesting expression things are completely different now we're living in a new era we're living in unprecedented times in what way remember this is tough this is right after the histalkis of the phirikaraba so what times are we talking about he has to know is that my father-in-law did he is the nasty the leader and he is the head of all of his siddhim and all those connected to him the kevin shahadesh who body the kazakh since the head is obviously healthy and strong it is obvious that he the head the rabbit is healthy and strong has all of the power potential and vitality that belongs to each one of those who are connected to him and he has it completely he's the head like an organism that has a head all of the limbs may be different limbs but they all receive like so this explains they receive their vitality from the head and we know in this case the head is healthy and strong the head is the is the rabbit and that the rabbit being the head has all of the the power and all of the life in its fullest complete form that each one of his siddhim require the aina david and the only thing that's a factor here the only [Music] the only uh variable is up to them in other words whatever you need he's saying to the father explain to your son whatever it is that you need that ebba has it because he has whatever all of his shot him need and he has it completely intact it's available it's in stock it's already there and all you have to do is claim it it's yours already however conversely this is for the rabbit very negative talk that ever avoids anything negative but here the rabbit says and if not and if one doesn't conduct oneself according to what the head would want them to do hari ain't zen this doesn't only affect the person himself it's a two-way street that is stuck with you so maybe you don't care about yourself but at least have some sympathy for the other those are my words i added that there's a letter also in the igress from tafshin yud alef from the following year over a year later it's from uh heisman of uh well actually i'm sorry no it wouldn't be over a year literally two months later because this is ella of tough yo this is the last couple of weeks of tafsinute so from a couple months later there's a letter where the rebbe is writing to a husset and officially we don't know who it is you ask me later i don't know maybe i'll hint to you who it is it doesn't matter it doesn't matter anyways there's a letter that i was writing to a hussain who wants to go to college and that abbott tells him [Music] it's not really a proper thing for him to do and uh first of all that abbott says it's something very interesting he says you're sort of your claims that you want to do something i told you not there's a whole correspondence back and forth that i was saying i told you not to do it and you're saying you want to do it anyway but i don't believe you because that ambulance says in that every jew wants to do the right thing right you know the famous thing the kaifen i say you hit the guy until he says i agree isn't it coerced no it's not coerced because that says deep down every jew wants to do the right thing so he says so don't tell me you don't want to do the right thing i i i read the rambam ram says every jew wants to do the right thing um and then the rabbit says look you know when when when it we don't have this anymore but there used to be something called ari miklot cities of refuge for a a uh in what he called the manslaughter for an accidental uh killer so the din is that if a talmud goes into gullus rabbi his his teacher goes with him so that ever writes to this concert and says you can't go wherever you want to go because wherever you go you're going to schlep whatever with you he's going to be forced to come along and then that ever says apparently in response to something that this young man had intimated to the rabbit that if so then i voluntarily sever my connection so that i won't be torturing the rabbit to bring the rabbit with me that abba says you can't do that why not because it's like a gersh in his gayer that once he dunks he comes out of that mikvah he's stuck and even if he sins later it doesn't matter he's just a jew who's sinning he can't become unjewish so that if it says you connected yourself to the rabbit come on upon him upon him that ever reciprocated you're locked in that's it and now wherever you go that ebb comes with and then the rabbit says gefe lesias speaks about the effect that a yid has on the srina when he when he sins to return the hay the hay of hashem's name which is malchus and that when you sin you're taking this the hay of hashem's name yud kev and you're schlepping that into klippa and the way that it's described in siddhis is malach the king who is held down in the gutter so that ever says if you do this if you go somewhere that the rabbit doesn't want to go you are taking the rabbit under duress and and forcing him into that place so here what is the rabbit saying to this father explain to your son first the positive everything he needs he that ever has it and it's available for him to just claim it but conversely you should let him know that if he doesn't claim his potential if he doesn't live up to his abilities then it's not just the loss of something positive it's actually causing damage it's not just you're not just hurting yourself isn't that always the claim who am i hurting and what am i a murderer what am i a thief who am i hurting but myself well there's no such thing as you're only hurting yourself that's baklal that i've explained how we're all interconnected that have explained the muscle of the the space mission that we're all on the in the in the space capsule on the rocket ship and everything we do affects the integrity of the mission but this is on an even deeper level that you're connected to the device so anything you do it's not just affecting you it's affecting the rabbit so the rabbit continues that if you'll meditate on this for even a moment it is you're going to see you're going to perceive the incredible responsibility that has been given to you uh and in a way that is commensurate with your health i think that's such an interesting phrase there in a way that's commensurate with your health yim soyer you'll turn over give over the tennessme and dedicate yourself the rabbit says in yiddish to completely give yourself over let's say they shall convey conditions made of admir to the rabbi who will mill with vaudev and to fulfilling his words by reissa and his teachings before i continue this we're in the middle of a sentence but i just think it's very interesting here you can argue with me what that means and maybe i'm totally misreading shot but for those people who say that all the responsibilities that ebba gave us makes them uncomfortable because they feel like they're crushing under the obligations i see right here that ebba says be realistic about your capacity the never says yeah give yourself over in ghansen completely but in gansen is a relative term in a manner that's healthy in a manner that makes sense obviously no one's asking you to hurt yourself not supposed to hurt yourself you're supposed to preserve yourself and then give over that beautiful preserved self i think that's really important i think maybe those few words got lost somewhere along the line in the mesoderm because i think a lot of people especially our youth think that ebergen and ganson sumreben should somehow be painful or involve some type of self uh clearly that's not what it's saying over here at all to the contrary that ebb is describing the manner in which one claims all the power and the vitality that is available to him the kaijus is good stuff so how do you get it by turning your will over to the rabbit but it's not supposed to hurt and it's not supposed to damage you god forbid it's only going to be helpful in every way okay so that ebb says giving yourself over to the deb has words and his directives all right words and directives which words and directives so here the rabbit says that are found in his secrets in his general letters those are the letters that ebba wrote addressed to all jewish sons and daughters everywhere and also individual letters that that taraba doesn't say here by the way letters that that ever wrote to you maybe again maybe i'm taking liberties here but it seems like that ebb is saying where do you find the directives well that's the first thing that ever mentions that's that's obvious that it was talks but also ended up as letters and even in the individual letters like what we're learning right here this is a myth of prati this is a letter that ever wrote to an individual and has incredible guidance for us these talks and these letters every individual will find every individual of the jewish people will find directives in how to live life which is really what we've been doing with learning the egress is letting the rabbit teach us how to live life um and don't be how do you even translate don't be in this poll don't be intimidated it's me it's even more than that it's like don't even pay it any mind not just don't be intimidated don't even worry about it don't give it a second thought that's how you say it in english don't even give it a second thought was hot cleaner jingle for a shirt as a grayson redden what connection could a little boy have with such a great rabbi that ev is coaching the father he's telling the father how to talk to his son his son lost his heishik to learn he's not excited about learning it's interesting that ebba doesn't say anything here about telling the son how important it is to learn didn't even mention learning he said talk to your son in appropriate words about the connection he has to the rebbe that all of the powers that he needs he can find it by the rabbi if he doesn't do it it has an effect also on the rabbi and that if he'll think about this for even a moment it'll have an effect on him and he'll realize the great responsibility that he has and if he'll say i'm just a little kid me i have responsibilities you're talking about such a great rabbit and he's relying on me little old me come on what do i have to do with such a great rabbit become a mccamus this concept is explained in many places says i enclosed here a copy of the mimer from kyle of this year this is your zionello this letter so the the letter from the the mimer from the from the next day that we explained this in i think the previous class that they were my mottom that were pre-written by the frida kahrabi and they came out even after yudshwat after the histalcus so this is one of those my modern and in that mimer the rabbit says even where to look in the in perhaps zion of the mimer but over there it's giving a marshall how to understand mitzvahs if hashem is infinite like how can we how can we do his mitzvah so why would he even matter if we do his mitzvahs and the mimer gives a martial there that there there's a hochem goddess there's this genius and the genius is involved in matters that even other geniuses don't understand let alone regular people and uh you know einstein is in his uh in his room at princeton with the chalkboards writing all the formulae and then all of a sudden the janitor walks by he has no idea what einstein's writing on the chalkboard even the other professors can't help cup and all of a sudden einstein tells the the janitor go bring me a cup of water all of a sudden i'm feeling it and i'm i'm embellishing the marshall a little bit but that other them in the mimer says the goddess tells some regular guy go do me a favor all of a sudden there's a connection even though this regular guy has no clue about the significance of what this genius is involved in and he can't he's not even able to understand what the genius is involved in and a minute before he was completely not even a blip on the radar screen of this of this genius but now that the genius asked him get me a cup of water it doesn't say get me a cup of water but whatever i'm saying get me a cup of water i'm not actually saying give me a couple i have a cup of water just in case you now all of a sudden there's a connection between this simple little guy and this big genius and so the mimer says the same thing with mitzvos that even though hashem is infinite and we can't wrap our minds around that but when the infinite one asks us do something for me now there's a connection and we become infinitely important because infinity has asked has asked us to do its bidding so the rabbi is saying explain to your son i don't know how old this son was but he referred to him as a little kid right and yiddish i don't know what age that means but i mean i'm supposed i am i'm i'm presuming it means even before bar mitzvah klena yingle so this father is supposed to explain to his son that the rabbi is great yeah maybe even so great that tati doesn't understand how great the rabbit is and yet did ever want something from you it's it's interesting there's a letter a myth of klali from reshadeshvath 10 days before the first yard site you know the goods fought men hugging you know the list of you'd schwartman hogging and that we use those now for gimmel thomas mongeau where is that from there's a letter reshaded so 10 days before the first yard site that ever wrote a mykhtov clawley a general letter and there he writes different minham to different customs to keep for the observance of the yard site as many things are written there like lighting the candle and saying the mimer but there's a section there about speaking to children well before that there's a section about going to schools and speaking to adults and to kazuravort to say something to say to give over a teaching of the rabbi speak about the rabbi but then there's a whole paragraph about speaking to children and uh it says over there you should speak the children and you should tell them about the deb is his his extra love that he had for children and also that he demands from them what he he demands certain things from them and that he relies on them and hopes in them that they'll do it so ashatova that he demands from them and the trust and the hope that he has in the children that they'll do what he demands i think it's very interesting he loves them he demands from them and he trusts that they'll do it i mean right there you could make a whole parenting course just on that one line he loves them he demands from them and he trusts that they can do it and foremost he loves them because you know what i don't want your demands if you don't love me so that you establish he loves you he demands from you and he's sure that you can do it it's more that he's more than just he's sure he's relying he's relying on you that you're going to do this how are we supposed to speak to our children about the rabbit so the rabbit told us how to speak to children about the rabbit you tell them that the devil loved children the rabbit loves you that abba expects certain things from you and the debbie knows that you can do it that ever trusts you that you can do these things for him that you can help him you know there was a in the talks and tales there was an announcement about the hystalcus of the fedex the the monthly that came out for children so after judge fought there was an announcement written and uh it's an i mean it's a fascinating read because it's written for children and it's written in english and it just condenses such deep concepts into such simple english for children but over there it says similar things it says children you should know that our dear rabbi loves the children and that just like he cared for them before he's caring for us now and that there are things that you can do for him that will bring him much pride i mean in case people are wondering where did this come from is this a real thing or like i started off at the beginning telling you about this uh this young woman who said why are you telling children make the rabbit proud of you okay so in the talks and tells in english and talks and tells that wasn't for sedum that was 1950 writing to american jews reading reading english and and and it says you should tell the kids our our beloved rabbi is still with us and he's watching us and he's getting tremendous pride from everything that you the children are doing and that he's a soul and because he's a soul so he's still with us and it doesn't mean the body is not does not prevent him from being present with us these concepts this is what you're supposed to tell kids and that there's a relationship just because this person passed away doesn't change the fact that this is the soul of a person who cared for every jew and especially for the little children and continues to care for the children and that not only he cares for you but it's a two-way street you can take care of him ebb switches to another topic certainly you and your son-in-law have set times to study siddhis especially the teachings of the siddhis of my father-in-law and that you're saying chapter 71 of talim that would be the frida krabi's capital that year this is also one of the sources for continuing to say the capital of a rabbit after the histalcus as per your versus i will be mentioning you and your entire family may they be well at the aisle of my father-in-law for a good sweet year this is or to be written and sealed for a good year this is remember we said zainel two weeks before rosh hashanah with the blessing for being written and sealed for good for a good and sweet year and that is the letter i want to mention also there's a uh asich from shabbos parishes which was which if you're interested in further study about speaking to children about his kashmiris that is your kitser the rabb is speaking about preparing for yud schwart and the deva says there the children need extra preparation it's very interesting with the devil said first of all preparing on shabbos you're not supposed to prepare on shabbos but because it's iber it's for a communal need then you are allowed to prepare on shabbos and that ebba says that adults can prepare much more quickly but children because every concept needs to be explained to them because when you're explaining a concept to a child they don't have the context built in already so that actually there says something remarkable he says when you're telling them about preparing for the histologist of the rabbi and you have to talk to them about that first you you may even have to explain to them what histalcus means so that ebb is talking about preparing children who need to be really taught everything even even the most basic concepts and over there in that sichua the explains at length the concepts that you should teach the children one thing i found remarkable that ebba says in that sichu to tell children about thought speech in action and that the world was created with the letter hey and like the altar says in shape the shape of the letters indicates the nature of that letter and what does it mean the world was created with the letter hey it means that there's thought speech and then a little break and then action not everything you think and not everything you even speak about doing needs to be done so there has to be the little break the little hefsik but if you don't have any action if you take it away then the hey becomes a dalid which is dalos which is poverty and the rabbit says this is what the faith talks about in the mimer of the hilula the hamshikha of the hilula if you're familiar with the whole hamster basilagani is not one mimer it's a whole hamshik of my modem so over there the the the fida grabber speaks about this idea about the hay and the dalid different ics but when i saw that i thought to myself wow i get why that ebook said that in connection with good shot because of it's mentioned in the basiligani hampshire but it hit me that it's even more connected to gimeltamos because guimotama's this year and many years is in the week of kyrah and what did that ever speak about kairaj the kodak has three letters kufreish has and each of those letters are a corruption of the letter hey and that the model of how to be is the hay to have all three the thought the speech the little break and then the action and uh so it's interesting that ebb is telling us how to prepare children for the lula and he says to talk to them about the letter hey so if you need a vote that's about gimel thomas and this week's parsha and probably something that they heard somewhere also it's a famous lord from the parsha this is what you have to explain to them there's thought in their speech and there's action and that the main thing is action and we need to make hakhitas when gimotamas comes it's a time to make resolutions about how to be better and that when we do these things we're helping the rabbit that abby loves us and that abby trusts us and when we're better this helps the rabbit this is what we're supposed to tell children but there's a lot more there in the in the fabrega again i recommend you take a look hass shvat shabbas parsha's boy tough shin mem so hashem should be here before gimotamas and you will have an opportunity to explain to your children all about his conscious in a way that has nothing to do with the hilula but either way one way or another we have to tell our children about the rabbi and that the rabbi loves them and is relying on them okay