Women On Chanukah - Rabbi Zev Smith

man and women well soon see the Gemara makes no difference the men and women but since it's an air issue bates base a type of mitzvah you have an option either you could be i to the mitzvah nari sube say like stardom do a dying or you could choose to be a Mahajan which according to the mini gosh jeana's is each man lights why taka this Mitzvah is nari shoe base a matzah is not an heiress you may say so this is the question that the penne issuer and that's the guests he has managed Donna never panic is a fiber sucker for the team and every person why don't we say one person is might see them or what I'm in the midst of are you I am a look like says the penne you sure that since the Mitzvah is done by the pest akka bias killer who fly versa bias kazow made it basically a home-related mitzvah but you have two options you could be right sir with the Raisa bias or you could make we do your own like the meaning of Ashkenazim now we have a different question so how about this question there's an armada that lives downstairs our children live far away she's basically alone every Missouri Shabbos like she comes to your house for Abdullah and comes kamikaze knocks in the door I want to listen to your Nair Hanukkah is a woman who doesn't live by you yochien' aircon it because she's there should we say if it's good for Abdullah it's good for near Hanukkah and now that we learned there is cheb a soy that might have some merit because she's part of right now she's in your house but this is definitely not true because the game are a little late enough club Gitmo um perhaps a assassin Oy which means that annoy era she's a guest a guest is kaya venir Konica this woman this armonica berates abdullah but you can't be iced americano because she's our guest now the question is why is that if she comes to you for the pseudo so theoretically she could be right see with you out locker their service so why all of the sudden when it comes to Nair Chanukah she's not yet sir I saw the clevis had dirt and hookers their Shabbos Lama tested the favours if someone comes he just for the Friday night Sudha technically they're Yates in their shop was with you they can light at home they want so now the question is Hanoi against the skyvan air Chanukah managed on an iconic of America's so the rush on this camara simin class says key crucial words to be part of narrow issue based site it has to be part of base a base a means not just eating with you or being with you base a is your family your household not just whoever's in attendance Havdalah whoever listens Americana but nari Tsubasa is part of your family will soon see extended family if you have someone staying will just ever extend the time but as the Prima Gotham puts it in tough race I in Zion gamble delight a Mac even show are you lost Rohan Bala by skipping a base a dummy and it's enough in their effort commercial on if you're not part of this family you cannot be I'd sue with their an air Faneca and the fiber sad or explains he says when it comes to their Shabbos its Tully in Makkah Mahela against upside is solemn bias cover Chavez are unique Chavez all those reasons so long as you're enjoying it you have it but now Monica's and their issue basing this someone has her own bias she lives downstairs and therefore she asked alight we're not yet finished here we come - probably the IKAR of today which is very unique - near Hanukkah let me read you the next words of the kymaro armored up Sara Mae race originally came Avena Bay Rob when I was in yeshiva and he was away from home mr. Taft nur the Pratibha had a US visa so apparently Rob Zahra did not live permanently by someone else he was away from his own family well soon see some say he was an awesome than half family but basically he was the on his own suptig Amara when he was above on his own he missed active BIP Ruta now this is the big hookup which is a share for itself it's not for today but basically what we see from this camera is if someone has a sea of gamma he's an area and he's believed to light he's Maclean's tonight but there's an option if you're a guest by someone be mist active good croutha and I love thought you don't need to give the value of the naira just give a shove a cast of something of value is up tips time is owlman's claim the basil impress olive if you contribute to the nail ice you become like been a vice so here we see when there is a fee of two light and you're a guest you can't walk off the street and give a penny if you're a guest by someone even though you have a fear but if you contribute to the neighbors and the place in their laptop you have to give money the bottle of us can be mapping it to you but if you have a piece of veneer ice your yard sir okay this is rarely done because marker seven we all have noise but there's always the option of miss dr. drew Putin but what what's important to us is the next words buster than a CV get this up if he got married so it got married but he went back to yeshiva he was like Ibaka with the wife but he was back in yeshiva so I'm Ashley's new publisher you see I saw a little mitre and as he got married and he went to back to the same scenario he was a guest Amina hash the vaad the lights are different now I am so X in America I'm so good to go I am so yes sir I don't even have to miss that to the puter hi he's a tonight and not even a fruit up to come out Leakey a live began Bayside now she says my wife is lighting and therefore me later now this is hard to understand if his wife makes how dull is he right sir if he's miles away if his wife puts the mezuzah on her door I'm buried or is he ice in his dorm room what does that mean long distance marathon I know he's not even there and so much so to the extent that he doesn't have to give a proto and the bigger caches I'm sorry up Sarah as a sticker Malachy was firmer than us and if he was yo so why can he like anyhow Alta Mahajan we our little children do it up Sarah was less than them so maybe you'll say you're upset it was this far thee I don't know how I don't remember him maybe it's a smiley maybe we couldn't afford it in those days it was very expect you know people don't have much or maybe as well soon see this is the incredible finish of each take a goofy part of their issue basa which the focus is on Bayside on household on family maybe this is the finish of Nair Tonica Havdalah you have to be there mezuzah has to be on the doorpost but this seems to be the uniqueness of mer can occur that Nair Hanukkah is a base a mitzvah and therefore the mr. Burris says this based on Julia crane imita fresh eye analysis of cotton tests whether a mas says the minigun Haysom is that all sun's light but this guy does not like because it's like a goofy now this is based on a Marshall a your Albert Prima Gotham and I'm going to die from Rashi that even like the min ago Mahajan that every boy lights the wife doesn't light now this of course needs husband if the husband eats matzah the wife's not yet sir inserted the wife eats match to the husband not yet sir so why is never kind of a different but I'll tell you something darker show fun and tougher Asia in Zion giemo says that the mechanic rum says it even though a man is right with his wife but better he should bite out Smits evaluation may be slow fight like everything other mitts up Do It Yourself says there shall I understand this was a really wasn't yet limits of light the terrace is narrow Tomica has this unique feature that is straight to go fight not only are you Yeats a long distance but because if he did it if he did it he also has Mahajan and I'll just show you I hate cannot Vern McGeehan the Marga have rum discusses this but mr. Biren tough race I involve Seve cotton sighing Pascal's like this let's say a tap is quite often the man for some reason was unable to light the first night the Marshall he had a flight someone s just Friday the xylem they're leaving before plug I'm in her today leaving two o'clock from the house today and they're flying a whole night and again they're it's ro it's already too late to light and the man is distraught beyond words I'm not gonna light the first night so the eighth so will soon see the simple eight is VI to let his wife light the question is the second night of Hanukkah when he lights does you make a Chevy uh no for him this is nose so the McGann eyebrow - mr. Berle pass skins now because he was yet to the first night with the Chevy on oh now he was miles and miles away from his bias but that's the cities of marriage you base a with its edit feature that we say it's tied to goofy so we have basically four levels if you want in there Chanukah doing it yourself we have the ride being part of the husband is to kigu fight then we have been a basic now the sons and daughters are you see with the father but the sons awash can ages his sons we light our own because there's no bad Vicky go fight so the sons have Mahajan and then we have the asteroid which means basically he's not part of the household and he has to either light or if he really needs to he could be out sama started recruited now to apply this the mice that were trying to organize it in in the various categories but basically we'll start with notion because these are the most shyness noshing have the identical key of nur Chanukah like man there's nothing to talk about the Gomera says in the russian tomorrow in very clear in africa by militia valet malika dharma be super Navy nos - hi-yah - Afghan acacia I obtained how your boy sinus in other words a sucker and Lula and she'll finish my party but never Annika the mohabbat afresh I in Hague mo says this Nostrum have the identical fear of Nair conic alike and the biggest Raya is Rebbetzin Zahra that's her name she was my dear husband had there been any less of a sea of heart to him how could you mightyou the terraces there's no doubt about it women are high of like men I Alan ostium do not light the terraces like I told you they are yard scenario-based and according to the Marsala earlier Alba prima garden they even have the concept of the mahadji I should mention the sheriff Rahim and Simon members asked us for a kasha why don't women like Libby tan that we have Mahajan but that's not committing so posh it will say the women did light with this new feature of issue ie goofer there is a verse from that some safer and Shabbos coffe Altima days hey league of art some cyclist says that really in the times of Casa they went outside so even though there was an inner Mahajan but it was inappropriate for an each of the spam outside with me I'm very there light so therefore he says originally when they were Misaki the Mahajan it did not include women because again it's unbecoming for a woman to stay in the street online Eric Lanigan so I'm safer even though now we light indoors and many people like by the door not even by by the window so no one sees but this original Turkana did not include women for Mahajan because of the sneers factor in other words the women are being Mahathir in sneeze so that's their hitter so that would explain also why women don't have even Mahajan now but who are then it should be understood then let's say there's no husband or the husband is not lighted whatever reason so the wife of course should light now women have an aversion as we know to make half dollar ok that's incest there are more women should try to avoid making Abdullah there's no scientist to anionic a women are high if the identical theory of like men if in each the times of cos a land has no husband she would have to go on the street and ITIL be no brayer but basically the women are included either else is to goof I was we said they hid their in sneeze in a atypical case that the husband lit and then the white side you know what I want I want to do myself I eat my own matzah I want to lighten their Konica after you so that's wrong because she was ready I'd say so it's the brothel about oh if she has them Hannah mine not to be I'd sit with her husband and then she wants to light so posh this and I stress passion as soon see why passion she could I don't advise it it's not conducive for shell and bias what's wrong with your husband it's not done and shouldn't be done if she's a big alarm then shall I before the husband then there's no child in the world that she has a feel but again the show and bias is something to consider but basically if a show wants the lights first of either she has a regular shave and there's absolutely no reservations about it smiting if the husband will soon see another problem because maybe even that's won't help not to have be ice with her husband but basically the women should know they're not being deprived they're not being ochita they're not getting into our deal they have equal rights the Equal Rights is it's like a goof it is as if they'll it the big question is on our girls today our girls today those that light so like I can understand why girls single girls light because there's no avi avi of Kufa and they want to be Mahajan so those family up the girls light it's basically the regular Mahajan like their brothers in those home that girls don't like single girls don't like the stock Akasha what about Mahajan and the answer is that some cipher and that family the mini government our Hajin is regarding Smith so each minik has the McConnell awesome ether Mahajan in there Hanako Mahajan and sneeze a question which could come up the wife is in a hospital let's talk about a good Iceland the wife had a baby and she's unable to light and she can't get home and she feels terrible she's missing their Hanukkah so you tell her you're as good as rep say I'm Sarah did not like he was yikes with his wife you'll be out with your husband so that's the basic you soy but this one point that must be mentioned I think it's an oversight will make our cash bonus and the Kumari says in Shabbos club gimel again this is another unique feature of Nair Hanukah says big Mohammed the peanuts character flaw bark there are three brother like the more explains when you like the first night Cairo your narrow Konica if you're not lighting you're just looking at an air Konica you make two brothers of tomorrow shall Sinise them and sheffy on in other words there are two options either if you like three brothers if you see the narrow two brothers now this is strange what is this when does this apply making to brother man look at the nearest when I liked Maris that I go to learn how to make another brother Siraj says no no no so grouchy if you didn't yet light and the way the motor height its to Rashi if you if you will light or you did light either way if you like that already or you are Austin Lahab lik then you don't make your breakfast area in other words it's a choice if you lit already or wheel light than you right so with your breakfast if you didn't write yet and I'm not Austin logic then you have to make at least two brothers the first night and one brother at the other night now here we're wondering okay so if I will light later I don't make a breakfast area but my wife and my daughters who don't light at all tonight that Yates with me do they make breakfast area so most of you showing him the rice brother Ron say what the Gemara means is someone that is not yet at all that night someone ever has homeless he has no home he's not lighting and I'm a little bit like many sheep this without a home but as the bass explains the tough rezaian Zion what about the Mitzvah of her doll ms you ever pay by dollars yes if you can't write in aircon appear itis but I go on s so acquaint the most we shine him the fee of our ie is if someone did not and will not have the midst of this night therefore our women and daughters have no he Vireo but the mortifyin race Sam of Zion after service says no if someone will have mechanical later time if someone will be lights in there sonica later let's say a woman is away but she's not by her husband vicious that locker and she doesn't have because the brushes by her husband he's lighting and she's out an Hospital where's the beer Caesarea dr. Bock she is yes with the husband is sticky goo freedom if a block is near sonica but what about the inion of eyes all honest she didn't make the broth adjusting this machete on Oh so suck the mortified that if someone is bite with family and here's the breakfast you're okay if someone is away from the home even though they're Yates in their panic oh they're not yet to the breakfast and there's so much service here they have to go and look at the race and make two brothers the first night and one brother all subsequent nights now the shop owner and tough race I involved gimel passing like most most to shine them if you will be I'd submit sir that's enough but in tough race I ins ing mow the remote quotes the sheet of the motor fight the Sherrod see and says it's it's the gravitas regime and I should mention the Maggie Mishna says that's the sheath of the Rambam and this arthéon says this is a sheet that that you have to reckon with according to many were showing him if a person didn't hear the bra is that night the wife is in the hospital even though she's used to the mitzvah of narrow conical imagine it's like a good point but you don't have breakfast yet so mr. Bursch spells this out as you've gotten to Zion that Lamesa if it comes to that don't make the brothers because Maria shine him hope that breakfast area does not apply if you have a mitzvah on your record but the price can point out that's why there's a Ninian to try to avoid this question and therefore if you Yeats with your husband be there with your husband to hear the promise now if the wife is in the hospital and she can't be home so palette you'll rely on the ickey the den that there's no because I write because she was Yates now could be in this scenario the wife's in the hospital and no one's lighting knife Annika in the hospital that night maybe you listen on the telephone even though we have a smoking valves in the past over telephone you're not Yoda any myths and he brought any mixes with the most sheeta's but my son has an issue is maker and my show is maker maybe in this case you could rely on those cheaters but what I mean is another issue that's the question of a singer main but one thing I will say if anybody in the hospital whoever she's staying in the convalescent home is lighting their Chanukah and it's possible to go and hear those brothers then gazecki it--some the precursor i doesn't have to be to hear the brothers that you've been yates to this marathon occur with there are two mitzvahs the pair has never did the net Chanukah New York and here breakfast of course here I mean here another one and have a mind three eyes do with that so when any time that a person even though the lights of the Mitzvah it's could I to try to hear bronze the same is true a girl the muscle is a way she has the fear of hearing the key of according to some adhering because her are you the next question is a trickier question the wife is supposed to be home she calls up I'm running late I'm stuck in traffic I'm not gonna go for another hour you will do what you want when I might be on for another hour and he's ready waiting it's this man or someone asked me his daughter has choir practice should she make an extra effort to be home or behaves with the father so there's no doubt about it there is both of them wherever they are are yeah it's a long distance that's basically our sugar of their issue Basin these the other fact of her Aria so basically if the wife will come home and will not have near Hanukkah whole night will not seen that will not see her breakfast she has this question but the husband's you know there's a different factor and that is what's cool we call Shaolin values if the wife says I want you to wait for me so you wait for you know there's a famous story driven I went to watch his never have not from right under Hanukkah and he got good by this man and he wasn't writing and he was waiting and waiting and time with surprises missing this madman he missed his mom dick is man while later the Rebbetzin came home and my uncle it so after the next time met is there ever enough nothing said you know you're probably wondering why did I not like this man there's no key if the wife should be there he said I made a push the Casman the gamora says that's where we pass given person has only one their Arab Chavez Hanukkah americana quinary Shabbos we would definitely say now sonic is first and Suman Issa but the memory says never Shabbos is first why I'm showing bias so Malcolm you made a freshman look at showing values how important it is it's even Dicer entirely narrow Konica so certainly it's very for to like this man so I made that president so I'm sorry to keep you waiting but that's what I did and that's not just a Shana my so that's an I love for solemn bias outweighs their kind of give is man so if the wife says listen you're the place if you do what you want I can't be on for another hour you want to light it's up to you then you make a decision and keep in mind show and bodies but if your wife says wait for me then don't make a decision and keep selling values now what the wife will do when she gets home that's an issue if any of the neighbors anybody are making a broth when she gets home she could just hear the process again you have to be connect the breakfast to this headlock you have to have an ID welcome and brush now again if she missed breakfast so la loca it's not market we said it's not market for sure but more than that Nikita then there's no fear of making brothers in that case now the question is what the other shot of this person s means daughter's choir practice so I told them this needs a pinnacle now whether in your mind quiet practices dice to this or not that's up to you but you and your daughter have to sit down and make a decision this is not drum semapo cop this is a mix of now Hanukkah and there is shoe base say it's a family mix-up so whatever you decide is fine but I think this should be a decision the doors should not just say I'm coming on 10 o'clock after choir practice you know you make a decision and use Mascola I see this but this should be a decision that's the thinnest to make decisions another question at one point I wanted to mention I think it's somewhat of an oversight when the wife is wrong with what is our home and they're busy making the soda and hug them I'm like I'm starting like okay good I'll be there so the husband takes that literally she'll be there and he still makes the broca's as soon as she finishes the browser she comes darting in Hashem she made it just to the headlock and she watches the husband and he she sees in him I must be Oregon is like there's no tomorrow fine but the MYSA occur custom and are safer in this scenario she saw the outlaw club but she missed the breakfast so here you have a scenario you're home but you don't hear the breakfast so if you're here from the kitchen and every word then you could say you know so then kisame ocarina but it's important that when they're home they should be there for the practice more than the unlock of the market see and tough fresh iron Bay's in a different context albeit but he says van died the broth is my active binary Hanukkah because the ickiest assume a nice Sun and if you imagine without a brother like me D of it Murray the Kailash you talking about a different scenario but basically as far as we're concerned the women and daughters have a sort of a sea of theater breakfast now I can't say see if that goes beep asking that you don't make a big fuss arroyo but definitely the husband the ones who do things right tell them was starting wait till they get there for the brothers and then being in their presence begin the brothers the question that we began the Amana the neighbor that wants to come up and here be here the halacha smell Hanukkah unfortunately she's not yet sir you could hear of dollar it's fine but near conical is an air issue basic and presumably it won't even help me started with Pluto because she's not part she's not an arsenide she's not part of this family so you tell her in gently but clearly there's nothing wrong with you like yourself you know again half dollar is one issue that you know that's so worried about drinking the wine have enough doll that's that's nice of a high look that that's fear that aversion but there's nothing wrong with an Easter making her own brother and that's the right way to do it so the question that that Baca asked his grandmother told them I'm not lighting I told her and she said I'm out lighting so that's it don't push so what do you do she's not lighting and she's not by you so there's another feature of near Hanukkah that is shriyak works now this is a whole circuit for itself for matzo you can appoint the CEO tonight to eat but that's the uniqueness of nerve tonic and there is so basic so the price can say that if someone cannot like let's say I'm on the field she's not lighting but some - and it's his grandmother free of qiba Dame or a person that's unburied and can't get out of bed so your pointer sphere and the sphere of lights and his behalf who makes the brush in this scenario so first aid sir who's doing the miser Mitzvah the grandson so the grandson makes the bronchus now the question he gets home does he have does he have to gonna make breakfast again the answer is absolutely in this house he was not yet sir this is not his bias so he was not uit was just doing it for the Mishnah layer so then the grandmother was right sir and then he can make the breakfast at home consider the next question but i urge you to think because it has a tricky twist to it the husband is out of town he's not coming home tonight so the wife does not want to stay home alone she goes to her parents does she love have a fiesta light or let's forget it but all these cases come up good nose done the wife had a baby she's in the hospital so he's not staying home along with his valiant four walls he's first child he goes to his parents he was the lakewood he's coming to Brooklyn with his parents for a day or two the question is she in the hospital that she have anymore here tonight so you're probably wondering what's the Schuyler we just said it's take a goofy right but here we come to a very crucial point that has to be clarified yes of course it's like a goof I works both ways if the wife lights the husband's the item if the husband lights the wife is him so what's the problem if he's out of town why can't she be I'd say Oh better yet if he's out if he's flying at someplace he can be ready to this wife right but says ruffling the Salmonella flesh Lima and your gimel you'd gimel and actually you look at the wreckage of Hannukah to Zion it schemata north i'm cyber's almonds the kiddush of their issue base side of history kigu fight is part of baseline and all these scenarios the one that's lighting is not in home turf he's not home what was the first story the husband's out of town and she went to her parents no he's lighting not in base say how could his light he cooks the base they packed a heart or the second case she's in the hospital and he's by his parents fight he's not in base sight maybe Nair is to base their works but it's a base like I'll say so what's the problem why can he be right sir with his parents sure I could she be lights up in the first case with her parents right she went our parents was he that at them the terrace is she got married she changed the name she's under new management she's not part of that Bernie bias she doesn't live the except for one or two nights even if the parents support her but that's not the halacha did Cosima house of harmik so here we have a scenario the husband is out of town on lighting she's by her parents she's not Yates with her parents and acquaintances name is Amin she's not yet sir with her husband so it's not the end of the world she could be missed activity because she is an ass tonight - these two day or two or the positive father give her a gift you want to say it's understood but the point is when a person is not home this magical long distance is the goofer does not work now the MS is I saw the price scheme our gifts will come an esky in a safe and her it's very Mustapha what he says the pillars of marriage - gugu fight is a relationship it is that a husband and a wife are one rep zero and his wife or one so Huson has to be and when when you're starting in headquarters at home grab their observers case what was very good cuz she was home but this is what some place can say the ickey is when there have that relationship but since epsilon is alma says this end alacrity aisha says the commander flourish I should mention that even though each take a goof a works but it's questionable when the husband is not at home bass doesn't work and I'll give you some examples he's out of town in business so she should try to light or be eisah Lele know if a husband is sitting Shiva and their fantasy lights in the base of a man in his own home then his wife has to light at home or children have to light or I saw this interesting Shia those rebels delight in best marriages and they don't live there they have they have I hope they're home because light abyss matters so their family would have to light independently now when we say the family I don't mean necessarily the mother has to light will soon see when you have a mother and a son so probably the son should light and the son also affects the narrow issue by sight that the entire family is Yeats another question that I saw let's say the entire family gets in a van they come for Shabbos from Lake Worth to the Brooklyn so typically and that family only the father and the sons that women and the girls do not light so now they start scratching their head wait a minute we're not home we're by a my parents is the wife and daughters yes sir with the husbands of Lanka with the fathers of welcome what's the problem because they're not home how does it work it's they could go fight dr. slay Mazama the same stick oh no no when they're separate he's here and she's there and you want to make a long distance to go if it doesn't go burned oh altogether when the role by is someone else's home then if they're all there he lights and his might see his wife and his daughters we had a question we're a grandmother in another word the younger man asked me his mother his bread there was a grandmother the children are very nervous so many igneous she says do me a favor when you come to Shabbos you could come and only by mitts avoids light happens to be here like six boys under Bat Mitzvah no boys on the over Bar Mitzvah so it was a very convenient way of saying just you light and know that she's not the children she was too nervous but all these at Lucky's so again here we have a passion a locker me if it didn't the father lights as might see your son's eye at home they are Mahajan and each boy lights but if the your mother tells you no Lighting's TV Mehadrin keep it up and you go back to the Nakamura and you do like swadden do for iris you'll be out so the Akkadian when there's a situation that the husband whatever reason is not home he's in there so he's out of town or there is no husband there's a mother and sons so obviously someone has to light who lights the mother or the bomb it's a boy the god oh boy in this scenario subscriber Salman in your demo Hara 99 based on at odds and beginning of tough resigns I and I saw other if I say this as well that in this case the Sun should light even though Ola my so the woman is more of the Russia bias but you don't need a Russia biased alight and apparently usually we have men being might see women and not for care so in a case when you have a boy a goggle a goggle Halawa the son not the mother should like I should mention which is posh it when you have a family father mother and son now lovely if the sunlights these are government is he could be mighty father mother the original din of marriage to Bayside does not demand only fathers or only mothers because we saw fathers are good and mothers are good so once father the mothers are good it's understand understandable that even a son could be might see the parents the Inka Mitzvah of narrow issue base a is one near a floor the whole Barnea by is like Rashi says so that could be done by the father mother or a son we had a question the husband is gonna be very late and she's waiting for the husband but he's coming on 11 o'clock and she has young children and she's also hungry they want to have a sued them they can't wait to 11 back to the Sudha but you don't eat the foreign air Kanaka so the wife has the the mother has an eight so they'll go to their downstairs neighbor and they'll watch the ad welcome so the answer is that's a wonderful idea you know to bring the Hanukkah spirit but you're not Yoda by watching the neighbor the neighbors that's not part of you yeah it's just a mitzvah so the eighties will rely on the patella Hoffman hail the dollar Nunez who explains that the issue of eating before lucky is if your if you're doing it then you have been you can't eat even though the midst is on the mother and Sons just like the father but who is performing the mitzvah the father he shouldn't eat and where this comes to an incredible nasca Mina when mama someone asked me this question he was making a bris Shabbos bris and in the shul before the brisk there was a kiddush that with the rubbers making kitty she couldn't leave before the kiddush so he had a kiddush before his son's wrist is he allowed to eat by the kiddush he said it was a very good killer you want to miss it Samson I am of course but can you eat before bris so I really the same could say on the kauffman that chuhwa says that the issue of eating before the Mila is on the moil the the a via Ben is not doing the Mila this of eating is more on the one that's performing the mitzvah not necessarily on the one that is Masai in the myths so again the Katella we try no one should eat before their Hanukkah but in such as extenuating circumstances will rely on that patella huh part two is the husband and his head laka so basically we have to remember we as husbands and fathers it's not just my Mitzvah like you know I pay the bills and I like Chronicle if I am performing on behalf of the family make sure that the wives and daughters are there for the bracha and it's also good ID to have them in mind to be it--some even though it's probably understood but would I be the breakfast we want to make that they should have breakfast area so we include them in the Mitzvah and then they are fully included in the midst a man lay Elena who can't light he's in the hospital and a person can't light or he's as a flight he's leaving early and lanyard Searle the next day so he should not be distraught he has Rob's era ASA Zahra did not like his wife list for him so here in this scenario will tell him it's not a consolation prize it's estoy gufa it's as if he live and to talk of the second night when he lights he will light without a Saffiano that's how far we're going with this ish taking over in both cases when this man who can't light and it's been Yates with his wife when possible is to try to hear the breakfast from someone else to be ice to the sheath in a business area is the pfn but if you can't find the breakfast me it could add in deficit right is not applied then since he was right so with ish tyka goofily now an interesting question which is also timid to mention is if the husband is away in a hotel and his wife is hiding at home so the fiber center also has caught my math test develops the aside that if he has his own bias he's paying rent so he has a new 5s her bias it's not just an astronaut if he has his own bias then he should certainly shed light on his own and happy I do with his wife that's posh it because a new bias like in their Shabbos is also a new bias as a new field a common question the husband comes home very late I say in the previous case so the wife decides you know why that Malcolm I'm gonna light first and the husband's is fine whatever you want this better for the children no the children go to sleep without seeing their Chanukah there's something lacking so the wife the husband says it's really fine I'll be home late tonight at 11 o'clock you like with the children and alcaman out light is that so possible look later what's the Schuyler and it's anomaly Tobias was the item children were you sir but it could be Mahajan sup Tamar shouted sempai and he says it very emphatically that's not true if the wife lit then it's like a girl foot and even having qivana a fool dog does not help it's not a joke this is it's they could go foot you know I'll give example you say I'm lighting with my right hand but I don't want to out of a path to my left is like a light again doesn't work sup Tamar shower air for the wife lit the husband cannot light even if you add us not to be all truth oh that's how much is the GU fireworks like the my shout and here's where they'll you're out that says that my child holds istic a goof ie is literally and a muscle we gave this left hand and right hand and maybe the rally would be from observe observe was a was Mahajan more than we are why don't you light afterwards - his wife was going to his wife could be taki he'll like the marshal once the wife lit you can't write I warranty light instead of his wife because she was someone he wasn't now this I must say is a kiddush the true Messiah destined in Kufa life and the so far north in tough race I ins ayan gimel I'm a-gonna from mr. Brewer all they say that most pie scheme do not go to smash out because if sticker gufa is an option it doesn't happen automatically come on au feu helps for everything else why not this so the my sir there are more postions not like the michelle if the wife lit and she had a mind not to be a to the husband husband a mind not to be ID sir about the he could light afterwards but the price can do say it could guide to avoid this confrontation going through my channel for the husband delight after his wife 'let is a Gruffalo vittala now how do you avoid this confrontation I'll tell you very simple eight sir if the wife is home with the children and this one by Mitsuba via let the mom it's a boy light and be might see the family I what do you gain cuz then the father comes home he could like the holidays why this is take a girlfriend but does not burn I could go fight so in such a scenario it would be an eight sir let the sunlight and son by mitzvah and he'll path to his mother this we have another consistent situation let's say she's home and she's lighting for the family he's away and he wants the light also any problem that she's staying in the house and he's staying by a relative's in a house on out of town so he could like Mahajan right according to the marshal you have a problem she was yikes it with the wife she's like I'm Sarah and this is long-distance true but don't forget at least the wife's in a home turf she's been basa going to my shall she he can live a de but for this is a simple simple later and that is called coordination tell the wife I'm lighting at my time when every time you decide the ether is mine right and you lied afterwards once she licked once he lit into bias where he is he's yikes up but she's not yes sir quit her Michelle didn't bother myself why because he's not in bayson then she could light whenever she wants so you coordinate the time Lamesa that's the eight if it comes to it that the wife lit and the husband is all upset I'm out lighting tonight so the iqua did then be passing the light commercial he could light after her this is good when the husband lights up another reason because he doesn't mind at all that night and he didn't have breakfast area he runs into that beatrice area problem as far as our sons are concerned basically it's our among diminutive swath of a dime that only the father lights we have - privacy bokram that their lives never live near Chanukah that's push it simple varnish mahogany the Ashkenazim each Sun lights I should mention the Maga from mr. Gura in beginning of tough race I in Zion says when the boys go to learn at a town they leave their home they are no longer been a baseline now not that you put them up for adoption they're still part of the family but they're not living I'm a basic they have a fear of I'm they have no fear but that they would live in the yeshiva by at least certainly by Ashkenazi but when they're away from home they are no longer a part of the immediate pain a basic if the boy goes to learn comes overnight come home for Shabbos then probably he really he could be Taine's his citizenship in the house he's still part of an eBay site but certainly we it could add in when he's away from home he's no longer part of in a basic we had a questions when someone had a nice femoral staying by his house and she's in seminary that would be part of been a basic she's staying by his house for an extended period of time she's not paying rent she doesn't have her own basement part of the family she's right sir with the B'nai basically similarly I'm a sure left that stays in someone's house and he's not charging and he's part of the household is also considered been a baseline not just astana a tsunami means that a guest that comes and goes but someone that's there and the the definition of a babe a sir is he's staying there for an extended period time and he's not paying grandes have his own apartment I'm sure look if it's that long or a seminary girl would be part of an a basic Samba Salman and you see the sensitivity and how leaders name would give Mahara 23 yeah he issued up sack for one of them during a war many smartest above them had to be on the front lines during Hanukkah so he told them that since the parents are lighting for them they don't have to worry about Nair Konica the lights are with their father parents so apparently they weren't like lefting didn't leave to go for weeks and weeks they went for a few days whatever was there was still part of an a bias and the weights with the parents but then he said and you see a sensitivity to her to his responsibilities he said it has to be a fire some in the newspapers that he meant only Soares about him literally for an Ashkenazi bucket that left his home for a few days he has a D as an Indian of mahajan if he could work out a Mahajan writing on the front lines tougher love Brussels but that would be the original yeast site above club is yet to with the father but he still has a dinner of mahajan we heard a question a the son is home before the father the father's come home from work late but the boy is learning in yeshiva luckily I saw say a McCubbin crayon Misha AIESEC Pattaya he gets off museum he could stay by the breast told Ben Chang he could go to the Costin is you know he has he has time but the question is should the son wait for the father to life now was his man the father's coming home seven eight nine o'clock so me it could did in the Sun could life before the father there's no eco and even if the Sun does like the father doesn't have a child that he could light some father's feel that it's not right it should like together so our problems are had the Prophet told me to say this that if the father is mocked bid that he wants the boy's life together they should wait even if it means waiting too much later but the father should know that there's nothing wrong with the Sun lighting earlier and if he wants to know what's the right thing that the son of these bees are up to the midst of his man now someone had our aura that if the Sun lights first and a Phenom II the father Collider afterwards beliefs Suffolk but then it comes out that the father is like a only Mahajan when he lives first he became there commits v''e now when this when the father lies Mahajan like you know the fifth-wheel that doesn't seem to be correct first so no one gave him the rights to be the it commit sir no one's asking him he's just doing is here the mitzvot so if the father allows the Sun to light the Sun collide otherwise let him wait patiently for the father to come home we have an old Minich before young to be like to give some food a fill for thoughts that was my spoke up I like to share with you a few artists I hope you'll enjoy as much as I do came the car can be asked among each one to be a discussion by a table each one for itself there's a very common scenario I mean typically the working person does not get home dismantle whatever yours man is but you know beyond six six thirty ready is not the the preferred to mount the Hitler's man the question comes up that the wife and sons are home by this man again I'm leaving that very politically correct whatever years man is the wife and sons are home does man the husband comes home seven eight nine even ten o'clock so there's a big discussion the pie scheme which we discussed another time maybe the husband should appoint the Slayer to light in his house for him how what do you mean because you have the mitzvah of lighting bisman come I say why not the terror it is that mitzvah boy soon maybe slowly but I should tell you there are poisk in that hall that here the mitzvot outweighs Mitzvah boy you're doing Mitsuki you're doing shalyah to have the hit the Mitzvah I know people that follow this sack by thing most don't why because if anything I'm a fish we have lights for you on your property you get an A+ for booze man but you don't get an A plus plus because it wasn't it's a boy so the questions which Hitler would you like let's avoid myself or booze man so that's that question but after here learning today still yeah I like to present a different option and that is what the wife like biz man then you get an A plus plus the higher why biz man that's you out locker and plus because of its take low flame it survive so I'm not suggesting this because no one's listening man have to do this but I know some people do this the question is why don't most think of this eight sir why don't we do this so could be when he gets home he's not being able to light because he was elated with his life so what's gonna be better Arya is it go shopping around for BFS arrow you can look for a Saab is go you can't look for her are you together than air plus I mentioned earlier darkus Olson says that it's take a goo fight is even MIT's abundant but he does mention that the mug enough ROM and see if cotton Zion has a question about that so maybe light them up in a from that we don't see a sticky goo file agape Mitzvah boy maybe Tucker he says I want to go with Mitzvah boy beyond this man but even if it's too late and he'll throw in that today we light inside it's not maybe it's not just a big hitter but I love to hear about about this Herrara is it true that when I hug my wife lights he has the midst of boy yes in the story also but one thing someone told me what she's making a mistake but he does as he tells his wife to be the light biz man and when he gets on me lights again now that he's missing the boat for two reasons like the Marshall he's making a profit of atella but more so he didn't get the credit of with his wife's lying if he likes afterwards his report card is going to be erased first you got an a-plus-plus and then you got erased because you decided not to be ISIL so make up your mind you can't do both but certainly we have this idea think about it and why it's not done think about it then maybe tell me maybe if there's more than I'm missing next question person has a late flight an unlighted car nakum and the best snare is getting home getting home 11 12 but if there's any delay it's gonna be 2 or 3 he's afraid there's the pressure getting missed a flock is near Hanukkah so he had a very aggressive eights he'll tell his wife you lied biz man so we'll get the A+ if I come home in a timely fashion then I wanna lied again so here this doesn't seem right what do you mean make up your mind who are you being right to it but this some this is something we discussed right after Pesach last year that according to many many PI skim you could do a mitzvah but tonight the seis if you're diverting my ribs during the mass fira after during banish muscles and the phoebus counting said this is American tough pay test you could count with them Beloit bracha and make it tonight if I remember laid it to say see with the brush up I want to describe what I said MB I'd say with the brother if I forget to count later I want to be isolated over you very taking the liberty of making a brothel later by canceling your previous Mitzvah so if tonight works for Sphero that's where the muhabba passkey and them anyplace camp asking why shouldn't it work regarding their Hanukkah and I believe that's true you're not making a broker early twice you look you're being rights with your wife once and then you could either choose take it or leave it so for those that hold that tonigh works I believe this would be a good aids now the Bears have biased enough is conical ashita say that doesn't work for mitzvahs he says Hanukkah won't work but if you hold it helps with fear it should help funnier Chanukah if I'm wrong please tell me question I had in this Shiva from Ibaka he wanted to be ID sir healed his man is late as man but he wanted to be yurts of the earliest man so he gave a buck up Ruth up and said I'm part of your ID locker and when the Layton's man came he well he did again to light this man I told that's no good no you can't do that because you can't be right sir twice you could if you do like everybody else does like once and don't be so firm that's what I should have told him I said you want to do that you could be I to give a proof to me rights with the first person this man and then lay the light again without a brother but to go make that light again with a brother you have to be right the first time you stuck you only have one you can't have two so that's misusing the tonight question posed to be my sister hiya there was a Volusia family and only one lit and for some reason was an oversight only the son shall I that there was a Gila Jennifer not by Mitzvah only the not vomits the boil it and the night was ready over the question is what is the rest of the family yartsa with a a cotton Shaquille FNX had local so to us this sounds unreasonable the Makabe says and tougher a spade test based 3/8 the Megillah after here Magilla from a god of symphonic is no different in both you are born about the con it could be different sup d perhaps V and the high suffice you'd give up tomorrow Masuka me to vas he has this very shyly and his Russian Kiba De La Barca Casa de Gotha Mutola fear of Allah Islamic Albania biased Malik since the midst is on the bias and this values has a qualified hot lava snare Hanukkah of a cotton eg love Ken up the entire family was Yosa regarding Magilla that you have to have shame a a coin so you have to have a constant connection I think he means to say you have to have a constant connection to the might see and he's a cotton so you can't be ISIL but their Hanukkah is one Nair Hanukkah per household that's the vices even a cotton shaggy latina Hanukkah is there has to be a custom rod Locker on my body to have I'll say see if so even the baby or even a gorilla ham go there's a fan of my South locker but I can't say all agreed there are more is crisis with homra in this very case interface iron and hey but you have become to me that a clevis how biased has a very prominent role I saw a fascinating her aura should have been a gaya but someone's gonna oil and my Elena on their Hanukkah during the night of Hanukkah so his wife lit was he I do with that lamashtu let's say the crew was at night does he after right after the kora or was he okay with his wife so to us this is not a Schuyler because or even the hairs of dollars on your eat even with the other is number clearly mitzvahs something missing carols in Jota Shani he'll kiss Hanukkah a Marvel to get finished half dollar you have to have a participation of the oil which you can have but near Hanukkah as long as I walk in the bias and he's part of the bias get out to have him doing anything I he's not about to you for who cares as long as he's part of the bias and a friend called let me leave you the Shila to think about a riddle how is it possible to be I turn there an hour ago 10 o'clock Ian now you can be H succumbing to the shear at 10 o'clock you can't be writing F Hanukkah clubs download kiss slave right now tell your Clara it's a pusher to push the idea there's a couple living in arity stroll and they broke some had an and an a knuckle born so his wife flew to America to be with his with their daughter and child the wife is here in America at 10 o'clock Sunday morning the husband calls on his phone I'm bout to like kind of collapse I want you to know I'm riding conical afraid the colonic oh she's wait a second can I be honest with you you wondering this is bizarre why is the bizarre dr. slim is aluminum and fresh lime the basement has valid since the midst of their panic is their issue based on her bias on sonica these out lockers may rise why can't you be right sir my so bizarre so to be I severe Caesarea you can't over the phone postures but my can be I to the mitzvah not over the phone yeah it's a long distance you want to be arrived from ABS era so it's not fair to be right from there because who said he was in a different time zone but in the time zones of cups members almond it's not a problem now many players can question this I should certainly question this but you're about to you via but at least something to think about that here's the riddle you could be right stuff valide because you have a frailer can cut your Hanukkah we should tell like the sang Christmas for the wonderful share my buddy said give me a minute in a few hours from now organization he only became monitor young as manners there we organizationally some novice a no ask a sham that she be biome and Mahane biz Manasa what's the main thing of narrow issue Bayside to put on the length of Hanukkah to think loudly throw this week call is from an appeal for yada straw which had thousands of kids thousands of kids from Kiev given out all over the world using Shemesh Bacchus you're going to go on a few hours in black they even say burnished on give me give me have an opponent come either hyung give me good kids give me good any colours there's no biggest close by helping out the yard is roll through the moist of currents don't give up for this kyndra there are thousands of kids they're warmer than Jesus kite they wanted no tournaments but we don't have sponsors for them please rather checks the yard Israel or give out your credit card to be a tremendous kissing for Christ all right now before the Chanukah lift this kilometers a parent customers baccala zakat sort of thing is evident when mr. Sherman Arabs over San Francisco yard will tell they are the Kaddish [Applause] [Music] [Applause] I mean fiscal mrs. Vyse to make checks to Yahoo sorrowful anatomic a fair analogy [Music] nobody give out your checks and credit cards right before Hanukkah everybody says my grace is cooler I get the kindy shaking says I avoid them look in Gale terrible sign diagram stuff not our first time that's moving can Chanukah know [Music] let's go let's go guys oh no nobody is considered a guest after slate but you're still invited to the cecum of of Smith shear take this analysis for a few more minutes [Music] justice to a summary learnt a bizarre jam we definitely saw mitzvah-kah viva admire like the rom mom says it's unique mitzvah a mitzvah maybe that's unparalleled in a locker each yogurt is definitely high if nothing talking about it's a high bizarre goof in a certain sense like matzah everybody has a feel but there's also this approach of marriage so they say it's a basic the committee's mitzvah that if any of the family members the father mother or sunlight Nicollet in the entire family that are there are Yeats with the midst of newark Chanukah Smarr them continue that they have a different tighten Hitler of course are the Mahathir a different night of hidden only the father lights and the fathers of Aughrim and certainly girls do not light Ashkenazim have somewhat of a division that the sons do light the wife doesn't light and girls single girls lighting is tall human hugging but there we see the uniqueness of the midsummer Chanukah it's a mitzvah of NER ich vase a basis who ich die which is really the countess take a go fight and then his vase I been a vase a that includes anybody that's part of his household a guest annex tonight even though he's eating supper there is not part of his but a basin he could be ice in their Shabbos with the headlock is near Shabbos of the palace' valleys but it can be also near Chanukah he has an option of English doctor fruit and that makes him into a pen a bias the real finishes rubs eras long distance being i'ts up that his wife lights even though he was learning in yeshiva he was an oxen on his own here he was yet to history kigu fight that according to many pi skin is even mitzvah boy as if he did it himself a woman has again the same tree of like a man she's with her husband and single girls should have Mehadrin but we said either like if some psycho says the header should be and sneers or the girls at do light seen girls do at home should do it but - so Noah and then they have their hitter a wife should not light after the husband lights its Bitola and not not to have a mind not to be I'd sir let's keep it as Dominica de arista husband lights includes the wife al cystic a goofy she's not being deprived she's not a second class citizen she's yolks of the Eco Mitzvah the wife is away she's yet to with the husband if possible to hit to here beer Maharaja that's an independent mid so I can't say it's a theable asleep asking if she's with the husband is now here but it's could ID him professor are you if she didn't hear breakfast area but she doesn't say Bertha said riah she's Yates's certainly the midst of NER Hanukkah its could die to wait for the wife and daughter to come home better yet they should be home bisman so you could do the optimist man if LeMay sir they're going to be late and they tell you not to wait and there won't be a shell and biases you could like this man and the wife and daughters who try to have breakfast from someone else and our mana a neighbor cannot be I'd suggest by coming they could be a safe dollar but not near Chanukah the eights of smear sliding if in case of a grandson light for the grandmother he could light with the broker by his grandmother and then he goes home on lights his own CF in his own house the interesting question how in their issue base say works if you're not home if the husband's lighting in a different place and the wife is not there so some question if marriage debate say works if it's not baseline when they're all together even though they're not home if they're all by their parents and their and he's lighting then there's survey say works because they roll together but if the husband is out of town lighting the wife there was a good side the wife is kept alive because there's no Isha base say when he is not lighting in his home if the groom if the grandmothers nervous not too many children survive so you'll go back to the addenda father lights his might see all the boys a mother and son and the father is not there the son ma'am it's avoid God will should light if they want to eat and the husband's coming home late the mother and children could just eat and rely that the ickey is of eating before luckiest thali on the one that's actually doing the Mitzvah the husband should wait for the women daughters and wife to get there for the brach is not just for the ad locker but they should hear the brothers to be I to the breakfast area if he can't light he's flying her in the hospital realize and his wife and it's as good as Isaiah and that certainly the Eco Mitzvah the with the Mahajan as well acquainted my shout after the husband after the wife lights the husband cannot light even if she had thus not to me right see him allahu wa make him but it's best to avoid such a confrontation and therefore if there's a wife and son at home and the husband's gonna be late to the sun should light not the wife when he's away he could light first and then she likes afterwards at home and there's no problem you see a bucket that goes away for an extended period of time is no longer than a base site if you have a nice or Mesilla staying your house and you're not charging rent they don't have their own apartment then they are part of an eBay site of course they have the option of mahajan but they have the status of been a baser and the Hat up yo through with the original lighting a son before the father to father's mark but you wait for the father if not let him like before the father and the father has lose his status of eco Mitzvah the Isha we had a question if the Easter should light before the man when he's late maybe then he gets the full Mitzvah maybe the Mitzvah boy is mamas mcian with the with the wife we said you could light you could be ice to the tonigh and then light over afterwards if the first time here to make Abraha an island as it Sarafian could be he was right so with the wife's a flaca according to gil Afeni there's it's sad that the family is Yosef and yes it's possible to the idea on car valid kiss slave if the wife is right with the husband and she's an American he's a narrative from take emissions once of the traffic that's not traffic coldest month all right