The Hidden Signs of Bullying - Therapist Jacob Klein Explains

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Mhm. can respond to them. Oh, interesting. Okay. >> [laughter] >> Yeah. And that's also okay. But slowly relationship. Okay. Slowly like don't. So the trust slowly but the relationship and the trust. So this is Mhm. Yeah. Okay. was the problem. I don't think so. is uneffective. Yeah. effective harm. We get the financial part. The message when the adult connection with. So, as a frontapist. But Mhm. Uh foreign. Yeah. generation [clears throat] generation. It's an interesting question. Is the generation Generally reaction aggressive. passive aggressive relationships. Ultimate ultimately what it's going to boil down to is the quality time was spent. baby. Yeah. The concept Yeah. So the the so the quality time is quality time. Quality time is just plain communication. Interesting. Wow. Oh, wow. Oh wow. Oh wow. Interesting. Just connecting just plain act the skillized act of listening. Mhm. And actively question in the act of listening communication self-esteem and resilience and get the relationship kicked. future relationship. A healthy relationship Mhm. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Usually. Yeah, that's right. Usually. Usually. is usually relationships. It's a generational divide. I don't usually Fore relationship worries in the in their relationship. >> Mhm. And usually usually the skill the insight the skill gave the message right I love my kid to death feel exactly right what's the what's Exactly. Right. Mhm. What the flip? Now truck driver [laughter] truck driver is is a game guy. Anyway, they all messages which is [laughter] But worries of the The alternate anxiety was a project like the effective effectively dealless. Gabby bless before and after. of the scale. But yeah, overall Yeah. >> [clears throat] >> skin upside down. So the man They struggle. They died. for you feel satisfied. results. >> Just make the right decision. The is special out of therapy anyapy physical kind Mhm. So therapy is right. Mhm. Right. early warnings, right? average emot Right. So my in my humble opinion is as then I can guide to therapy but let's let's put it into two categories for now major He's he's doing well, but basis in areas. But so issues across the board. Okay. therapy. But therapy is focusurial. Two reasons. Two reasons. Anger. Mhm. [snorts] Anger of the you know it's like of So, but generally feeling messages. Okay. Okay. So this is just like a feel. Okay. So the feeling is not the Okay. Front seat back seat whatever. Okay. Is so the so and reflect right? So the sleep the front seat the front seat has the front and the sleep from the front seat right and something he's looking forward to. So again they anger just lost disappointment. So human connection relationship neglected. So they [snorts] just Yeah. Okay. So, So the anger is just a messaging, right? So Exactly. Surface level. Right. Right. Secondary emotion is in our response. Response to sadness, worry. So yeah, therapy include this in the curriculum, math, reading along the years from curriculum. So, social skills, emotional regulation skills, um distress tolerance tolerate social skills. >> Yeah. Anyway, [laughter] the teacher, are you the teacher here? Yes, I are. [laughter] English monkey and pinky came on English teacher. And there you go. What's wrong? What's wrong? What's the problem? [laughter] Fore proactively Mhm. That's my question. >> Mhm. >> Right. I get the question this I get the question I was about physical at least. >> Yeah. >> If I was about mental health check. >> Mhm. >> Mhm. Right. >> It's a question. >> Right. question. Yeah, 100%. Yeah, 100%. It's my opinion. Mhm. Yeah. It's a problem insurance. Yeah. out there. Right. Soapy ideally that's a bust. Exactly. Extreme extreme extreme. Stepfather steps, right? The neighbors hopefully perfect imperfection. feeling guilty of my question. educating. Um, you know, which is which is appointment for the next few months. So yeah, divorced. Suicide. Suicides. Sure. Divorced unheard of separation, but divorced. Yeah. Yeah. He's he's good at very good at what he does. >> So, yeah, exactly. Give us questions. Give us doubts. There's discussion. Yeah. Yeah. >> Okay. So, the information anyways. Mhm. Yeah. Yeah. Usually in particular struggle. Yeah. Yeah. I get the question issues. Sure. Sure. So, but I would say okay is [snorts] struggle they don't feel understood. They don't feel the like people get them. They can communicate this expectations. So they can expect he's doing everything right. Right. You don't understand. Right. Right. for spouse is [snorts] active listening. Okay. Active listening is solution. Wow. connect was active listening to it. act of listening. Oh wow. Solutions to the next topic. Foreign speech. Foreign speech. Foreign speech. teacher level. So that's my best education. educated Thomas Edell from the Wow. Wow. >> Most influential mansion in the in the history. >> Yeah. So special bullying was mindblow. >> [laughter] [snorts] >> is dismissed. [laughter] Dismissed on executive power. Are you kidding me? foreign. But uh she was wearing right bullying. Is bull. I get the question. I'm sorry. Right. Right. So, this is [clears throat] Wow. >> Right. actions. Wow. Yeah. Right. Right. So bullying but bullying. So bullying is bullying. Okay. So to know what to look out for. Expect the best kind of deal. So another dimension physically verbally. This is not a verbal do social emotional emotional social games. You're not you're not needed here. You're not one of us. [snorts] That's Exactly. You're not one of us. You're not invited here. Right. and cyber bullying of WhatsApp groups of the phone in person. Okay. Bution social media. Social media. >> Social media. Exactly. Generally cyber bullying. This is electronically in person. >> Oh wow. >> Yeah. Wow. Wow. So this is generally bullying the next level. So the bullying the aspect power power difference is popular. Okay. So powerful. Okay. Powerful. Okay. Powerful. The status, the bully, so to speak. Okay. The bully. point finally message on purpose. Mhm. So isolated it happened to you experience lonely lonely mention as I I feel lonely. I feel alone. Wow. There you go. Wow. Wow. Powerful. All you need is loneliness. Yeah. Right. Alliance. The alliance lonely inside. Exactly. onetoone bullying other rightynville. foreign. Okay. Okay. So just to put the disclaimer out there, but in the back of the mind in the back of the mind he's only going to shut down and feel but just in the back of the mind that's a possibility. chance. Exactly. Exactly. Right. Right. 100%. Exactly. Right. So We're definitely going to get to it, but the bully power difference then over and over. Um, right. Exactly. Oh, there you go. Right. Most of them I don't care. Mhm. >> So the next step [snorts] of the red lights, meaning excited. Excited. Excited for life. was kind of gave him the red light as to look out for. So the symptoms so to speak is okay internalizing the pain and externalizing the pain. >> [snorts] >> Internalizing the pain mind. Okay. Internal inside anxiety depression friends and just blabbing a bed. [laughter] for the quality of life necessarily is externalizing the pain. Get into fights. Okay. This is externalizing the pain. anxious and depressed. Okay, this is generally speaking. Give us injuries. explain. Okay. So certain injuries boooos of the body. Oh, so the best Imagine. Okay. Okay. And all of a sudden, so Mhm. So red. So Right. Right. Get the question. Get the question. on edge. The next Right. Hopefully. Right. And I feel like the call% this is the attachment connected. basically which are good things. Amazing. Right. Active listening. welcoming. This is the the self-esteem, right? But they get okay, but reflect from past experiences. Memory fix. The main reasons This is the reaction. No judgment. >> No. So, okay. What's my no judgment? Is it possible for a mch to have no judgment? Well, it's basically admit. Okay. especially the bully. Okay. externalized externaliz. problems. The trust dimension, right? Right. So this is bullied in the past. I'm never going to get bullied again. So is I wish as easy as Okay, whatever. And I usually experience ignore him and that's it. So is just open-ended questions red flags. What red flags [snorts] next? He's out. Mhm. Right. Openended questions in class. Okay. So most meaning Okay. Okay. sort of transversation versus right. So yeah. Yeah. Okay. Okay. If anything is anything. Sure. Enjoy the puzzle neighbors outunication. The active listening and the [snorts] conversations, right? Intentional It's carrying interested interested in gave him agency. gave him the respons responsibility but gave him a certain like [snorts] Mhm. So she's she's wearing a bullet red flags. my conversation like Mhm. Right. No. Mhm. >> Right. Right. Which is more red flags. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> Right. >> I don't know. Right. Right. So generally [snorts] proactive education safety, emotal safety, social. That's never an excuse. Body safety concept the class proactively mind bullying. Awareness. The awareness So I'm so dry aspect of the the bullied the was bullied. Okay. Okay. The neighborhood But the adults do the physical bullying obvious Obvious social bullying the game. Okay. So okay bullying negative feedback. So meaning bullying, right? Just a concept. Foreolution. Mhm. So negative feedback. bully. Yeah. >> Right. child situation. So solution red flag. Mhm. Yeah. Red flag. Usually Red flags. information. Mhm. Mhm. So meaning Education bullying under adult authority bullet. Is it right? Article is given. >> [laughter] >> Right. So they Make please dimension. Mhm. Right. Okay. So, it is it is plot. So, so he's going to get into trouble. So, this is this is playing tattletailing. Mhm. But we're going to get to it. Ramifications of the bully. was bullet. The problem is [clears throat] right. Right. So it helps the emotional maturity. Right. Right. So the question is reward powerful reactions. to crack down, so to speak. they cannot record from zero tolerance. So the red flags, right? Mhm. Right. So red flags generally red flags. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's only going to shut the child down. Mhm. >> Usually [snorts] uncomfortable. open-ended questions. Okay, that's it. Next. specific which is the king which oh right so uncomfortable Okay. So, I'm afraid that slowly consistently Okay. So, okay. This is active listening. This is a solution that's educating the Just the reason Right. So next foreign. Okay. Do give us a red flag. Yeah. Right. So, and I really trust this. I get right. Gave my compliment. have the the conversation lately. It's possible intention, right? Appreciate the feedback and honestly conflict on board is gave the message and I'll do whatever it takes you know whatever you you think I should do lately I'm trying to make picture. I appreciate the feedback to follow up in a few days. When should we be in touch next? Okay. Nothing is guaranteed 100%. Okay. But at least it's way more likely Right. Right. forucing bullied 100% involved in basically but communication was bullied. was bullied under consequences feedback. So that's just the moment passive aggressive attitude. So right. So Right. Zero tolerance is not is not a 2-year-old. Right. foreign. Solve the problem. So gave him the positive gave the anything. Okay. at least connected and attached. Attachment attachments attachment. Mhm. vulnerable to bullying the connection. >> Right. So let's Rightificucid. powerful right is gave the message for the bully but the bully message that I don't care I don't give a hoot days now verbal emotional bullying. I don't care to respond. Okay. So, okay. Right. So, okay. That's right. Okay. That's right. You couldn't care less. >> Could not care less. Could not care. Right. The message sure validate right over the self-conidence from Mhm. And that's it. Next. I couldn't care less. I gave him the education 100%. 100%. So, but educating the kinder just in case. Yeah, this is this is how and we're going to get to that also feedback. I get the point. So when the when the is Weird. Okay. Okay. Okay. Whatever. Okay. Okay. Next. Now. message I don't careg just to the conversations anything. Okay. The pizza for lunch doesn't matter. This the message the message was the bully is I don't care. I don't care, right? Okay. basically. But the point is It's done. Is safe. He's good. He's going to take you for a ride. Exactly. Fore skills respond. days. Right. Okay. And don't get on there. and take the conversation from there. Mhm. Wow. Bulletproof. Mhm. You know, you're not going to care. The positive feedback and the encouragement, confidence and resilience. So the verbal and the verbal bullying physical bullying whenever it is do the bully crack down of the bully Right. Safety protocol. Zero. Okay. No such a thing. usually physical bullying. It's unusually but especially physical bullying. Right. Right. for building. Mhm. experience. Mhm. Mhm. Correct. Right. That's right. Nothing is happening. for the context the Yeah. Safety of the physical safety of the child comes comes first. >> Yeah. Um yeah rightcept aspect That's coming out. Yeah. Wow. Right. >> So, it's a serious stuff. Sure. Sure. Mhm. But it was too much. Exactly. The effect of the bullet. Yeah. >> Right. The long side the current effect inside the long-term effect. What's the long-term effect is the long-term effect right? He's going to lose trust in people around him. Say himself is going to lose trust. and trust in me and develop as a whole develop relationship going forward because he's constantly battling the the thoughts the uncertainty and the anxiety and the phobias of constantly on edge. >> Exactly. because it's constantly in his head. It is constantly as going forward anxiety, social phobias, general anxiety on edge, self-doubt, decision, unproductive to keep a job, everything is going to throw him off. This is this is the worst. Exactly. But definitely do help out there. I missed that. I forgot to sayully prone. to commit self harm. And then physically graphic but physically emotionally negative selft talk and ultimately yeah lonely low self-esteem He's not seeing a way out. He's giving up. The conversation. So there's definitely this concept. Okay. But just trigger solution so to speak right the problem the fights the the daily fight the daily struggle is now gone right to an extent so right but he never sort of took it seriously the concept but he never took it seriously. But educational mention. So I get the question on top of it. Zero tolerance anything. Yeah. Zero talent. Zero. [snorts] foreign. Yeah. opportunity going forward. Yeah. The awareness, the skills, right? vulnerable vulnerable powerful [clears throat] friends avenues nothing is going to improve solution Mhm. I really appreciate it.