Why Ultra-Successful People Are Really Just Sensitive Souls

Do you know any super successful people who are normal? Cuz I don't. I actually was having this discussion with a business consultant and he was talking to me about his clients who are like high-end uh usually entrepreneurs but CEOs, people who are very successful, at least uh financially successful. And he says, "Um, you know, but a lot a lot of them have like really messed up lives." And I said, "What do you mean a lot of them have messed up lives? I'm sure they all have messed up lives." And he's like, "Well, why would you even say that?" I said, "Not my expertise, your expertise and the clientele you're talking about. There's no there's no one that's normal among them." And I said, "Think think of one that's normal." And he said, "You know what? You're you're right." I said, "Yeah, I know I'm right." He said, "How did you know?" I said because anybody who's successful to that degree either a if they were normal which doesn't happen but even in theory if they were normal but living that intensity of a life that's required for success on that level has made them not normal or B which is really what happens they were never normal to begin with which is why they pursued such uh an intense way of of I mean I'm going to give away the spoiler but um finding comfort, finding solace. Okay, so I guess I should explain what I mean when I say these people are not normal and maybe even I include myself among them but that would be arrogant because I'm talking about people who are super super high achievers. So who am I to say I'm a super high achiever? people who are super high achievers and I'm saying they're not normal. I'm not saying it's a bad thing. I'm just saying it is what it is. And normally the situation is talking about highly sensitive people. I don't know what that term means to you. I know different people use it to mean different things. When I use that term, I'm talking about souls that struggle with embodiment. Souls that come to this world and never quite feel settled in their body. And so they're disturbed by everything of this world like sensorial stuff and they pick up on emotional energy and they're very sensitive to that and um you just uh people who are like like an antenna so to speak and never quite settled, never quite relaxed, can't find their their serenity, their peace. So, and and and rightfully so because they're so sensitive and they're feeling so much and they're processing so much. So, obviously they're a little bit irritable. Well, these people, two things are true. One is they're irritable, so they need some type of distraction. A lot of them choose self-medicating through drugs and alcohol. Um, a lot of them choose distraction through being a workaholic, having like a special interest and then excelling at that and becoming the world's greatest at that. By the way, those two forms of distraction are not mutually exclusive. You could have somebody who's who's executing on a level of excellence and self-medicating at the exact same time. In fact, very often is the case. And it bewilders everybody like how can he accomplish so much and be a drunk? Well, it's the same cause for both of those things. So, it's not shouldn't be such a mystery to you. Um but at any rate, so that's one thing is they're they're they're distracting themselves with um with work and with the passionate commitment to this vision or whatever it is. So that's one thing this self soothing through distraction. And the other thing is if someone is that this sensitive, they do see things that other people don't see. And when you see stuff, you know, information has value. Information is money. Now you can buy information or you can be the person who sees things that other people don't see. People who well anyone who knows how to invest well whether it's real estate or stocks, startups, that's seeing what other people don't see. Uh or even people who can like come into a company and they can see how it's functioning and understand where the problem is and how to fix it. That's seeing what other people don't see. or people who understand markets who understand what the public is going to suddenly realize that how could we have ever lived without this that's called seeing what other people don't see. So a sensitive person a they need a lot of self-distraction work is a great way to do that having a vision that you're passionate about is a great way to do that. So that's that's one thing, self-distraction. B, they see what other people don't see. You put that together, what do you have? Visionary entrepreneur, right? But that's not a normal person. That's not Don't say, "Oh, it's such a shame. He's so driven, so successful, so creative, so innovative, but he's a nut." No, that's that all goes together. That's all one thing. Don't be so confused about that. Now, I don't want to leave you with uh with a hopeless feeling. If you're watching this and you're identifying with this, by the way, if you're watching this and you're identifying with this, go to soulwords.org/donate. I'm 49% joking. 51% serious. Give whatever you're comfortable giving or don't give at all. That's not the point here. If you want to give, certainly give and every dime that you give will go toward bringing information like this to more people. But this is YouTube. This is free. This is for anyone who wants it. So, no pressure. I I was, like I said, I was 49% uh joking. 51% serious. If you like identifying with this, you you know, this resonates with you where you're extremely successful in certain areas of life, specifically financially, but like really struggling in personal relationships. So, a I want you to know you're not alone. Pretty typical. People don't talk about it. They don't advertise it. There's a lot of shame that surrounds it. So, people don't like to talk about it. Um, but B, the thing I want you to know is this. We were all sent to this world for a mission. We were all sent here to accomplish something. And we were sent here to I'm going to over oversimplify for a moment. To accomplish two sorts of goals. One sort of goal to accomplish is to do something massive with our skills. the areas that were already blessed. If you are blessed in a certain way, then you have to do something awesome with that and you probably already are. But then the other area of accomplishment in life is to take the things that you're awful at, the things that are your handicap that are that are disproportionately difficult for you. And I stress the word disproportionately because there are certain things that are difficult for everybody, but then there are things that are disproportionately difficult for you. Like why is it that difficult for you? And those are the areas that we're supposed to take little baby steps in if you struggle with your private life while having a public life that other people envy. So today, instead of doing another thing that strangers can admire you for, I want you to take 5 minutes to make a meaningful connection to someone close to you, preferably um your spouse or your children or your parents or a sibling, but a close relative, and reach out and and reach out knowing that you're not going to do it awesomely. You're not going to hit a grand slam home run. And that's okay. Not everything you do has to be awesome. Not everything you do do you have to be the world's best. There are things you do that you are awesome and the world's best. That's that's great. But do this thing that's hard for you and do it with humility. The humility of saying it's okay to not do it well. Or like they say, anything worth doing is worth doing poorly. It's counterintuitive. If it's worth doing, it's worth doing well. No, no, no. If it's worth doing, it's worth doing doing poorly. If it's worth doing, then it's worth doing it. Even if you'll do it poorly. Counterintuitive, I know. Difficult, but um so so important.