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Why is it so Hard to Have Kavanah part 2 - Chizuk for Iron Sword by Rabbi Yitzchak Feigenbaum
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good afternoon or good morning everybody
once again a huge I know we do this
every week but there's never enough AAR
to the OU and all the people that are
involved that arrange all these M should
give them to continue helping CL in so
many different ways and of course no
greater Li
the pardon me of the year should really
be for all the people that need Yeshua
all the hostages that have not yet been
released all the the wounded people all
s everybody who needs youhua over cell
everybody that needs to stay safe
because bers should keep them safe and
sound and everybody should get back home
M we should have aah Miracle soon so we
are continuing on our subject last time
what we did is we just we started
discussing why is ding so hard why is it
so hard to have confun we mentioned last
week one idea pardon me we let mentioned
last week one idea that daving a right
um a few people ask me how we know that
uh there are plenty of for it and it's
just self-evident uh you just see um it
it is true some people just communicate
some people just don't communicate some
people are talkers some people are not
talkers right some people are organized
because gives everybody some people were
upset about this and let let's let just
go back for two seconds so we can
clarify things we don't want anybody I
don't want anybody to be upset right um
is everybody different natures and we
will all have things that are easier or
harder for us I mean some people have a
hard time holding their temper and
you're judged subjectively because buru
knows what it means when he's judging
you were you patient for some people
everybody has different standards of
patience for you that was quite Pat
patient right I know how he created you
I know the life that you had I know what
it a struggle for you and you actually
did quite well the other person no that
was unacceptable you could have done a
much better job I give you much
different qualities no worse than Sedaka
right or or organization ability right
some people can organize fundraising
events and some people don't have that
gift right so if you're called upon it
there's nobody else you'll do it but
you'll do it you'll do it the best you
can and say for you you did a quite good
job and I'm very impressed for somebody
else that would not have been considered
a particularly good job for you that was
a wonderful doing you're K it doesn't go
well you have a hard time focusing
you're a little add your mind doesn't
turn off you have a hard time focusing
on anything for God's sakes
right see you can't focus on either
that's your god-given nature in school
when you were in high school you
probably didn't sit still and listen in
school either that's your god-given
nature so goting is gonna be hard to sit
for half hour and it's just you you
don't sit and focus on anything for half
hour you need to be running around and
doing stuff and other people can sit and
focus and just read for three hours
straight and just pay attention to a
three-hour class it's a god-given nature
so if that if you have that kind of
nature you can sit and doing for 45
minutes if you're add jumping around
jumping out of your skin type of person
focusing for 10 minutes is is is is a
dramatic struggle that's what we said
last week I hope that makes sense to
everybody and all the people who emailed
me and who were struggling a little bit
with it um but seemingly self-evident
today I want to focus on another Point
why is it so difficult to do it there's
a creative tension we touched on this
before but I want to do it better now as
a creative tension here there's a famous
story of suer mayali died in 2011 I'm
pretty sure uh I think the rash sha a
huge Bic it's a famous story that uh
somebody a lady had moved to a from
France she was older looking for a sh
struggling with getting herself married
and she had a friend who was very close
toak May so he said let's go toak May
and then you'll get a get a from she
goes on to they make an appointment
right and the lady trans slaves you know
because slave only speaks French doesn't
speak Hebrew right and uh she explains
she gives her a
and he tells her he says okay listen he
says here's what you need to do you need
to
say
and fam many of which we're all saying
now also famous proam of till and she
writes wait wait wait wait wait she's
writing and she's writing in french
letters he says okay he
says fighter gring she goes home and and
the lady say you understand what he said
said yeah yeah I wrote down I I wrote
down I wrote down what he
said a month later she calls her friends
and said it's a miracle it's it's a
miracle the rabis BR came I got engaged
it's a night it's a I did what the rabbi
said and look at that four weeks later
sh Zam I'm engaged and she the lady says
what do you mean what the rabbi said I
said exactly what you told me to say he
said said oh you you you don't read
Hebrew so you got you got a them in in
in French like transliterated are you
you read the English what what did you
read she said what did I read what did I
read what well he told you to to read
different chapters until him she said I
don't know what he told me to say I said
I I wrote down what he said and I say
every day I got up but I took my paper
and I said I said
oh
go I said what he said he told me to say
it I said it and a miracle a month later
I got
engaged there's truth to these stories
stories you know about sham the kid says
alive and it's worth more than
everybody's
fos
um you want of the most heartfelt filo
that I ever heard in my whole life I
don't believe any anybody ever ding
better when I was principal at firsto in
Toronto so I taught nth grade Kish it
was my favorite class taught nth grade
Kish I walk into Kish class one day and
there's a young lady sitting at the
front of the thing right I'm giving a
test that day and I walk in and as I
walk in I see she's mumbling to herself
she's mumbling to herself so I think she
must be repeating like a Rashi she
probably reviewing a p or something and
as I got closer I hear her saying I said
M should come before I have to take r f
Mom's
test so I said uh you know young lady it
it doesn't look like that's going to
happen I the tested like now she goes I
know what am I going to do I said why
don't you dab in the mchi should come
before I grade your test her eyes lit up
and with
heart she has to come before F my test
so unfortunately for her and
unfortunately for us that that obviously
did not happen right but
that's that's it's a conversation with a
k you can't do F you can't do F you can
do fill it a guy some's guy goes over to
somebody at the C and grabs his arm and
wraps some leather stuff around him and
plung something on the guy's head he
just works fill it whether he knows what
he's doing or he doesn't know what he's
doing he doesn't they make no difference
whole world if it Happ to be PES KN and
some guy sitting around and says hey why
don't you have this s what is it I just
eat it man I said eat it what was it
that was Mata
he ate M on face night he got the MIT
not the highest MIT not the greatest MIT
not the
most you know if you're dressing
appropriately you're dressing
appropriately you
know you can't do F you can't do it's a
conversation with
a and people and she had a conversation
with the c b whatever she thought she
met on the other
handes as we mentioned a few classes
ago BL KES
his power in the words if if the words
didn't matter would have made such a
structure and there will be so many H if
you miss it if you change it oh my gosh
right people you know why some people
can't have they're so OCD I right they
they're still they all they'll never get
it right because by the time they switch
to Masaru they're still afraid they
said right this a lost cause
right but the words are so so the words
aren so
important help if you talking English
you don't have to worry about it so why
you get so hung up Hebrews Hebrew words
are words it's a tricky tricky a tricky
thing right but other hand you need
famous for I don't think I didn't put
this in my S I don't know why it's a
good
for whether you say a lot or you say a
little as long as you're live as long as
your heart is
I
say to be the Hebrew word which implies
doing extra and more is the word g more
extra also G what's the letter before G
gim before gim is a
b the Hebrew word which is minimizes
things is but not everything but only
this that minimizes sa right what's the
letter after in the word
b
l as long as you're La doesn't matter if
your Mar your M you say more you say
less your heart but the words are words
are crucially important and a lot of
people get hung up on that they don't
know if they should do it in English
they don't know should do it in Hebrew
they don't should say the Hebrew and
focus on the English it it becomes a big
tension for many people who want to do
it
right there's no one
solution no one solution as we mentioned
tillum is a different ball okay there's
a special special concept of tillum we
mentioned this before if you're saying
tillum every gu say twoam of tillum even
if you don't understand what it means as
long as saying I don't know what these
words mean but said that we say this a
good Lord listens God you know what he
meant I whatever he said I agree I'm in
and you just say it that's powerful and
that's important to say in Hebrew when
you're regularly ding into him your
shoner you're making requests you could
try a mix and match right my suggestion
to people is if
you're who's not perfect and you don't
know exactly what all bros mean so mix
and match stop and every day take one
and stop and like just talk in normal
English and speak out what you think
that Braha means every day switch it
around so that Braha become more real
become more meaningful especially if you
know you're like you've been doming for
like you know 60 years right and uh you
know what I mean it it it just stop and
stop for a second and just a normal
regular and say what the heck I ask for
here
what make a list of all the things you
would like to understand and plug that
into it's that tension which which
drives people crazy uh many times and
and and you have to find your own your
own balance whatever he you can say is
crucial but it has to be a conversation
and you have to put it in your own words
otherwise you're not having a
conversation with god the law just
mumbling Hebrew words is not like you
you put on leather straps and it was
fill in whether you know it or not that
that's not true with you just Mumble
Hebrew you don't know what you said that
that you well I dove in no filling it
works mat works you shake a Lula you
shook the lul you don't know what's fly
you shook it at the right time bingo you
got a m mumbling shr without having any
clue what's flying right is is is is not
feel till him is till that's the special
power and you know what else gets in the
way of people we're gonna go back to
um and I want to focus on we're up to it
and I think it's one of the uh most
important and Ne most skipped overs of
the it it doesn't get the credit that it
deserves so technically we we were up
toah that's a pretty
straightfor thank
you we have Solid Ground you establish
ground over the waters we have Solid
Ground on which to build our lives again
one of the examples of Bak where we take
things that we so take for granted I can
stand up straight I have clothes to wear
I can see right and Me Say Yeah well you
know that's not always true for
everybody not everybody has Solid ground
there's earthquake there's floods that
they you got you can stand when you wake
up in the morning and you stand up in
the ground and solid don't take that for
granted thank AEM for it which is the
overall thing but now comes a huge one
and again it doesn't get as much um um
um credit or power as people should give
it
sh how do we think we translate that
folks
right thank you Hashem right king of the
world shali that you provided me you
made for me call sori all my
need now that's a little funny because
if that's true then there's nothing else
to D for then why you ding for
why you doubting for parasa and why you
going to ask hem you know to help you
find a job or why you doubting that
Hashem should find you know hasem gives
you everything you need if he gives you
everything you need so just shut up so
what are you asking for he gave you
everything you need you just said that
he gives me everything I need that's the
famous problem with that and first of
all he gave me everything I need that's
a little hard when you're struggling
with ABC your health ain't the best
grandchildren ain't doing so great uh
the the money's not coming like it's
supposed to uh your neighbor is driving
you uh crazy we all have things that we
think are not going the way they're
supposed to and we need help but wait a
minute he gave me everything I need and
how the mforum explain is whatever you
have given me that gotta be what I need
not more not less that's the power of
the Braha we believe you gave me what I
need same L I forget one of the rits he
was very poor and they said said how do
you make that you're so poor he said
must think that I need poverty and look
look how much poverty he gave me that's
wonderful
right you gota be a Reit to do that but
but that's what we have to believe but
if whatever you gave me must be what I
need not more not less and that's the
power of this braa and that's what I
believe okay and that goes with by the
way not only health wealth Etc but all
the
struggles right you giv me all the
difficult difficulties that I'm going
through these are things that I need to
deal with in order to be the best me
that I can be that's also part of us
called s say the b mus right all the
stuff in life that you've given to me
all the things I'm going through as
difficult as they are whatever troubles
Health troubles the prosa troubles the
children troubles grandchildren troubles
you know neighbor troubles whatever
cousins the Army whatever troubles you
have also be called sari that that that
I need these things to help grow and and
exercise certain muscles that need to
become stronger certain Bon muscles
certain patience muscles certain making
do with what I have muscles certain um I
know appreciate what you do have muscles
that's also aolly called
Sor but then why am I ding for things a
called Sor if I needed more money sh
will give it to me
here's
famous was
cursed you're gonna e dirt all days of
your life what a curse what a
curse hey all the other animals they
gotta struggle for food they gotta go
fight other animals for food they gotta
go find vegetation they got to wander
the Earth the snake wherever he goes he
got food that ain't so bad oh not very
tasty but like why is that such a
horrific curse why is that so bad he got
it made for the rest of his
life I remember used to say this all the
time it's a curse because a doesn't need
to turn to Hashem anymore he has no
relationship to Hashem he has it all and
if he has it all he's never going to
turn to and talk to
him told the is here
you have it all don't talk to me again I
don't want to hear your I don't want to
see your face I don't want to talk to
you goodbye have a nice day bye out the
door and bye goodbye you have it all you
don't have D and he goes off and T
doesn't need anything else no reason for
him to turn to hashm yeah it's turn and
goodbye we have a need to create a
relationship
with and he knows we're not going to do
that when we're overabundant with good
and we're just bursting with thanks so
we talk to him all day and all night
thanking him for what we have it's not
how we
work we need to create a relationship
with and sometimes the only way he can
get help us do that is by having us lack
things that we do need and forcing us to
ask for it a little kid when they're
walking they take the first two steps
what does the father and mother do they
walk backwards if I was a kid I'd say
hey yo you wanted me to walk I took two
steps forward and now you're walking
backwards hello why don't you walk
towards me and then he takes another
three steps and I'm almost there then
the father takes another few steps back
what he some kind of sness what the heck
is the matter with this guy shot is the
father knows I want him to walk if I
just stop there he'll never walk more I
keep on walking backwards he keeps on
walking more I keep on walking backwards
it keeps on walking more someday the kid
will thank me for this because it's
training his legs how to walk because
ber needs to train us how to talk to him
and we just don't talk to him when the
only thing we need to say is thanks we
say thans and then we forget about right
but we need stu oh we talk we DAV we cry
we beseech us called sori yes I'm in
Shon I'm gonna ask for things that I
believe I need I believe hash gave me
everything I need and I think what he
thinks I need is I think he needs I
think he thinks that you know what I
need I need to talk to him some more and
therefore he's like that helped me find
a job so I I I think what he thinks I
need more I need to do better that's why
I don't have a job and thank you for for
not giving me my job yet or having
struggle with this uh medical uh issue
or struggle with this financial issue uh
not meeting payday or whatever it might
be thank you for doing that because that
is going to force me to dve in with more
cavana which unfortunately I wouldn't if
I didn't have the problem that's when we
say us called sari we believe that gives
us everything we need whatever struggles
we have these are important struggles
for us they're good for us they build
our spiritual muscles and whatever we
are lacking that we think we are lacking
is because Hashem knows that we need a
little nudge to dive in a little better
a little harder to work out our
closeness with him a little more and
unfortunately the best way to do that is
when we're in struggle and when we're
missing things we do that and Brook will
respond and and if we keep on talking to
him a lot then maybe he wouldn't have to
push us do right because there's issues
Ali he should push us to ding because we
have so much abundance of good that
we're so thankful all the time that
we're ding is super duper because we're
saying thank you rather that our ding
becomes super duper because we're
struggling with struggles everybody have
a beautiful and wonderful day and
beautiful give everybody all the Bros
and all the blessings and and andurs
that colell need it's a time for n right
so would you oh somebody asked would you
ask Hashem to give you pain
no we don't ask hasem we don't ask hasem
to to give us tests but if there's
things that we know we're struggling
with maybe the reason he hasn't answered
if he gives me everything I need
obviously he feels if I have pain he
feels I must need it because I'm I'm not
focusing well when I'm healthy and I'm
taking my health for granted and
therefore I I don't ding well when I'm
healthy and therefore I doing better
when I'm in pain we never ask AEM for so
we don't ask AEM hasem I think my life
is too good please make something go
wrong because I'm afraid I won't D it
well no we don't ask for that BR who
knows we need it he'll give it to us we
never we don't ask God to put us in in a
situation of a test because we don't
know if we'll be able to pass it because
only gives you test that you can pass
and if he's not giving us that test
either because he loves us we don't need
it or he's afraid we'll mess it up one
of the three have a beautiful and
wonderful day everybody
yasher okay a huge amount
of