Why Do We Cry on Tisha B'Av?

We have ourselves a situation. We fasted, but we only realized what the point was now. The fast is over. What do we do? The good news is is that today, the 17th of Tammuz, is the beginning is the beginning of the Tisha time for Am Yisrael. If you ever wanted to start doing Tisha, this is exactly the time. 17th of Tammuz is the beginning of the disaster. There's the next 3 weeks every single day happened really bad things happened throughout history culminating with Tisha B'Av. On Tisha B'Av, we lost the two temples. We got bad decrees from Hashem, not only for the two temples, but also for being in staying in the desert for the next 40 years. A lot of really really horrible things happened throughout history both in the in the Torah as well as just regular history that we know recorded history that we know of. Uh even events major events that happened during the Holocaust. Plus a lot of really bad things happened on Tisha B'Av. Uh it's actually such a spiritually negative day for Am Yisrael that all the beaches all the in in Israel put a red flag in the ocean because the most amount of drowning happens on Tisha B'Av. So they tell people don't even go to don't don't even go into the water. Dangerous waters. So if anyone needs proof that God runs the world, just go to the ocean in Israel, you'll see it. Unless you go inside, then you won't be able to report it to the rest of us. So, the point here is that we have another big fast coming up. The big fast that's coming up is on Tisha B'Av. It's in 3 weeks. But this fast is much much bigger than this one. The one we had today is big, but Tisha B'Av is much bigger. Not only because we have to do more. We're not allowed to take a shower. It's for a longer period of time. You You have the option, at least if you want to remain a righteous Jew, you don't have the option of sleeping all day. You have to go to shul, you have to pray. You have to do teshuvah, but you have to get to a point of crying. Someone who doesn't cry on Tisha B'Av kind of missed the point. Why cry B'Av? You cry because you don't have the Beit Hamikdash. Now, for most Jews, myself included, most of my life that meant absolutely nothing to me. Most people are not going to tell you that, but it's real. For most people in the world, myself included, most of my life, baruch Hashem, recently it's changed, but for most of my life when people tell me, "Yeah, we don't have the Beit Hamikdash." Okay, so build a new one. We don't have it. Hashem give us a new one. Whatever. It's 2,000 years ago. Leave me alone. What's it to me that there's no building? Okay, so if Hashem wants to have the building, he'll give us a building. If Hashem really cared about this building, thinking it's just a building, then you just build a building. And if not, then hire somebody. What's the What's it to me that we don't have this Beit Hamikdash? Now, most people are not going to tell you this. And the reason why is because they still want to show face and go to synagogue. If you tell people, "Listen, I don't really care that the Beit Hamikdash is destroyed." They'll tell you, "Listen, do me a favor. Find a new shul. Find a new community. Maybe even find a new religion. Don't talk to us anymore." It's like if you tell people, you know, "The Holocaust." People ask, "Where was God during the Holocaust?" The real answer is, he was there. He did it. That's the answer. He was pressing the buttons. He did it. Nothing happens in the world without Hashem doing it. Nothing. A leaf has to ask God for permission if it wants to fall off the tree. A leaf. Every tree has tens of thousands of leaves. A leaf wants to fall off the tree. It says, "I'm weak. I want to fall." Hashem says, "Not yet. Wait another week." A week later, "Can I fall?" "No, no, you know what? Wait another week." A leaf has to ask for permission if he's going to fall off the tree. Hashem cares about the leaf. The prophet Job said, "Hashem, maybe you made a mistake. Maybe instead of Ayov, it's Oyev. Maybe you mistook my name instead of seeing that I'm a Ayov, your prophet that loves you, you thought of me as an enemy, but I'm not an enemy. I love you." Hashem responds to me. He says, "I know the name of every single hair on your head." Which means that every hair on our head Hashem gave it a name. The hair. Now, I saw in a book recently in our research for about wigs and everything that's misunderstood in the Jewish world today. Scientists have estimated that the average head has between 90,000 to 150,000 hairs. Average head. So, that means that on your head right now, there's approximately 125,000 names that Hashem knows. Before each one of those hairs decides to fall, turn gray, turn different color, anything, has to ask permission. Hashem, can I turn gray? No, no, no, yeah, he's too young. Week later, yeah, yeah, you know what? He made a sin last week. Turn gray. Make him upset. Yes, the hair has to ask for permission if it wants to turn gray. So, why do you think the Holocaust just happened? But if we tell this to a lot of people that are very sensitive about the Holocaust, they go, "That's mean. These were holy people." Who's saying they weren't? They were holy people. I love them as much as you do. But to say that anything else other than Hashem caused it is kafira. It's 100% heresy. Cuz you're saying that there's a power beyond God. So now this very same God decided that Tisha B'Av is going to be a day that unfortunately is going to be a day we're going to suffer. The negative things that happened in the Holocaust, the negative things that happened in the Bet HaMikdash, which by the way the Bet HaMikdash was drastically worse than the Holocaust as far as quantity in death and disaster, but nonetheless this is the recent disaster we have recorded that most people connect to, which is obvious why because maybe they still know somebody that survived it or perhaps died in it. No questions asked. But if you tell people listen I don't feel bad that the Bet HaMikdash was destroyed. Like really, inside I don't feel bad. They can tell you They can tell you, "Listen, there's something wrong with you. You should change Kayla." So now the responses that on on Tisha B'Av when you show up you show up to the Bet HaKnesset and you're sitting on the floor like everybody else. What's everybody doing? What's everybody doing on Tisha B'Av? They're sitting on the floor. They're looking at the book, but in reality what's everybody doing? They're always looking at the three guys that are crying. They say, "Why is he crying?" Why is he crying? Well, it's his house. Well, he lived there. Well, his uncle owned it, BUILT IT. WHAT HAPPENED? WHY IS HE CRYING? EVERYONE IS ASKING, "WHY ARE THESE three guys?" There's 500 people in the shul. There's three guys crying. Why is he crying? I know myself I used to ask the same question. Why is he crying on Tisha B'Av? Why? Because I didn't feel bad about the Bet Hamikdash. I didn't feel bad. I didn't connect to it. Now, why didn't I connect to it? For the very same reason of those 500 other people that are looking at the guy crying. They didn't know what happened there. Didn't know what the significance of the Bet Hamikdash was. So, today we have an opportunity to start learning what actually happened in this Bet Hamikdash. Why do we need to yearn for it? Why do we need to cry for it? What actually happened in this Bet Hamikdash that we should mourn it not existing? If somebody lost their house to Hashem Shalom something with a fire or flood, Shema Yisrael all of these disasters that happen on a daily basis in the world, people lose their houses all the time. But, once the insurance check comes in, nobody feels bad anymore. Everybody starts getting excited. Why? Cuz they're building a nicer house for more for for more money even. And still have change. Cuz everyone's over insured. You have a $500,000 house insurance for a million. So, you know, you're buying a house extension, maybe a car, too. So, as soon as the check comes in, everyone's excited. Plus, the insurance company pays for the hotel. So, no one's crying anymore as soon as the check comes in. Everyone's crying until the check comes in. But, here we don't have a check. And we're still expected to cry. Why are we crying? Because once we understood the significance of the Bet Hamikdash, you'd actually cry every day. A little bit every day. A little bit every single day of why we don't have the Bet Hamikdash. Let me know what you think. And make sure to share it because other people need to learn, too.