When You Truly Care, Nothing Can Stop You | The Secret of True Kindness - Rabbi Dovid Kaplan

Um, if you remember, Aramino has a hey added to his name. Sai has a yud number one and then the the previous para ends with the brisma that there's the there there's the uh the the circumcision. So here in parasa's vira it starts love appears to him and now the question here becomes right off the bat it's a very strange structure because as hashem appears to him starting a para with a hashem appears to him why does it say vira vira el hashem elam why does it say vira a love hashem hashem appears to him why since when since when the whole time it always talks about abra why uses names so why is and it's certainly at the beginning of a para hashem appeared to him why does why does it start with him why does it tell you who he appeared to so uh one of the approaches here the al-shik says that well there are two choices why hashem appeared to him did hashem appear to him because of the name expansion because of his the extra letter was added or did Hashem appear to him because of what just took place which is the circumcision. So what happened at the circumcision because Zraina circumcised himself. So that allows for a greater inflow of of a flow of kadusha of holiness. He's experiences Hashem at a higher level. Where is he? He's most prophets when they got achieved prophecy they had to go off into solitude. They had to do he bodus or go up to or whatever it is that prophet wherever it is that prophets go to here a right at the entrance of his tent. There's a lot of traffic here but he's on a higher level because they did the brisma. Ironically a brisma remember brism is perfection. But reason is perfection because in the Israeli army you lose three points for having a circumcision. The only ones who can get 100 are the Christian Jews >> who who don't get circumcised. They could get 100 on their profile. But that's not the Torah's attitude. >> Is that a real thing? >> That's a real thing. That's a real thing. >> Points on your military profile. >> Yeah. In the Israeli army, you lose points on your military profile. >> Why would that have to do with military ability? I I'm not but you know back in my career as a as a major general uh they didn't consult with me but uh uh you know the the uh uh you know back in NAM you know let's just say back in Nam you know I mean I saw some stuff you know the the what do you call it I don't know I that's just how they run it's not run by a Torah the military in Israel is not run by a Torah uh rules it's run by whatever rules they made up. So they you you had a surgery you lose three points or we consider it the perfection of the person perfection through the circumcision and the the the the gar says that in the merit of brisma the world is created that's one of the merit it's a tremendous merit and so Abrau now has a communication from God and the Torah wants us to know that it's because of brisma and therefore it doesn't say Hashem appears to Abraham because of his name and the hay that's added it wants us to know that it's because of the brisma that hashm appears to him. Number one. Number two, he's standing at the entrance of the tent and it's hot. Now, why is he at the entrance of the tent? What's Abraham doing out there? He's looking for guests. I think of it's hot. You know how hot it was? I mean, as the gumar says, there are two opinions. One is that Hashem took the sun out of its the sun is in some sort of case, whatever that means symbolically. And Hashem brought it out as if you took something out of the cover and just let it be, you know, it's a boiling hot day. It's boiling hot, Death Valley. And it's boiling hot. And Afraino is out there looking for guests. Hashem purposely made it hot so nobody should walk back and forth and inconvenience him when he's in a lot of pain on the third day of his brisma. There's another opinion that he made. Hashem made a little hole in the entrance to Gehennam. How do you like that? He made a hole in the entrance of Gam and the heat that came out through the hole heated up the world. It's hot down there. You know, it's like it's like a toaster. You know, when you hit the to the to the bread at the top, you push the button, it goes in. Now, it's hot at the top. Also, there's heat at the top. But down there where the bread is getting toasted, it's really hot until it pops out. Help Moshe comes bread comes popping out of the toaster. I mean, it's hot down there. So, whatever it means created a situation where a vinu would not be inconvenience. And to the contrary, Aravino in spite of everything, he wants to go out. He's looking for guests. Now, now by the way, it says that he sent out Eleazar, his tri the med says he sent out Elezar to find guests and Eleazar came back. He said, "No guest, boss. Don't find any guests." So, said can't trust the slave. And he went out and he saw the guests. Now, what does that mean? What do you mean can't trust the slave? Elazar goes out there. I mean, what's his fault? He goes out there, he doesn't find anybody. What do you want? And Avroino goes out. Aravina goes out and he finds them right away. Well, that gentleman, did it ever happen to you that your mother sent you into the back room to get the red towel or the orange towel and you came back? I couldn't find it. And your mother walks right in. There it is. Right in front of your nose. And she just pulls it out. It's right just open the drawer. It's right in the back. And it wouldn't wasn't that complicated. Whatever happened to you? Okay. What if she would have told you, "By the way, if you bring me the orange towel, inside the orange towel, there's a $20 bill that you get to keep." Do you think you'd find the orange towel then? Or the red tow? Oh, yeah. And for the for the 20 bucks, I'd find it. Why? Cuz then it's more important. If my mom wants the red towel, how important could it be? And I go, "Are you looking like where can find it?" [laughter] And she comes out, here it is right in front of your nose. And if there'd be 20 bucks in there, you'd find it. Why? So Abravita sends out Eleazar. Go find some guests. You can't find guests. I mean Eleazar if you put yourself in the servants. Why you know how hard is he going to look for the guests? If there are guests then who's going to have to do the work around here and who's going to have to do the dishes and clean the table and do everything? I want He doesn't know. Ara wants guests because he wants to do the mitzvah bringing guests. A lot of it has to do with what you want. Nobody stand nothing stands in front of your will. Every wants to find guests. And that's often the way it is in life is when you really want it, you gota you gota want, you know, it didn't work. Things didn't work out. I didn't try. It wasn't important enough to you. When it becomes important to a person, then all of a sudden things change. Everything changes when it's important enough to you. I used to tell my kids, if you didn't do it, it means it wasn't. If I asked you to do something and you didn't do it or you didn't do something, if I if I asked you to do it, you didn't do it. It just means it wasn't important enough to you. Because when it is important to do, you do do it. I once lost I once lost a calculator back in the day. The the the when I was in high school, calculators were the that's what you call computers. We had like a little calculator. That was the the that was the the the the the final word in in school work was a calculator. My dad bought all of I bought me a calculator. I lost it the next day. It was expensive. It was 50 bucks. A lot of money in those days. I lost it the next day. So my father was not happy. So I said to him, "I didn't do it on purpose." He says, "Man, I know you didn't do it on purpose, but you didn't lose your baseball glove." Which was true. And and why? Cuz that was important. [laughter] What am I going to do with the calculator? The algebra homework. How important is that? What are you going to get a job in an algebra factory? You know what are we going to do with algebra? A baseball glove. Now that was important. If it's important enough says to hey, go find guest. Sorry, I can't find any. Sure. Wasn't important enough to you. Savina goes out and he finds a guest. So you see three guys coming towards him. Say runs out towards them. Now take a look over here. There's a very important life lesson. He says, "Please don't pass me." And then in he says, "Let a little bit of water be taken. Wash your feet. Then you lean under the tree." Now notice he says, "Let some water be taken." Meaning somebody else should go get the water. In he says, I'll get the bread. I'll bring bread. Then you'll eat. Then you'll go. That's why for for for that you've passed by here. Now we know these three men are angels that are coming to who are they? Mik, Gabriel, and Rafael. These are the three angels. Mikail is there to inform Sara of the the impending birth of Yets. Gabriel, who is the angel of Den, he's going to go and he's going to overturn Snom. And Rafael is the angel of curing. He's there to cure Ara. Okay. So the three angels come in human form. Now when it comes to the water, Ara says, "Well, let somebody get the water. Somebody will bring water. Bread. I'll bring you the bread." And then goes to the tent of go take three measures of flour, fine flour, knead it and make cakes or loaves. Now, if you notice, look at what Abrau as soon as he sees these men. Then it says, look at the next poker. Ran to the cattle. Everybody see that? Page 78. You have a gentlemen, take a take so you can follow it inside. He ran to the cattle. He takes a young calf. Now, what are we told? How many were there? Actually, how many cal how many calves did he take? Actually took three. Why did he take three calves? >> What? They're not going to eat a whole calf. What does it say? What did he serve them? You know what it says he served them? Each one was given tongue, right? The Gmoria says, "What do you need? Three calves for three people. Even a shiva guy can't eat a calf." I mean even know I mean even a hungry bucker can't eat a hungry teenager can't eat a calf. Why do you need three cals for three people? He wanted to serve each one tongue. That's what Rashi brings on the gu. Each one's going to have his portion of tongue. [snorts] So he gives it to the lad and the lad goes and he slaughters the calves to to prepare it. Now take a look at Rashi in the left column of Rashi. It's uh it's the left column five lines from the bottom. You see where that is? If you don't see it, please if you find it, please put show the person next to you. Left column of Rashi, five lines from the bottom. Elhan, he gives it to the lad. >> You see where that is? Left column. Everybody got that? >> Who is this lad? toile in order to train him in the mitzvah. >> So if he was training Yeshua in the mitzvah. So who was it who he sent to get the water? Logically it must have been Yesh for what reason? To train him in the mitzvah. Okay, if that's the case, [snorts] the Gomorrah says that. Now listen to this carefully. Pay attention carefully. Everything Aram ofu did by himself, Hashem did by himself. Aram said, "I'll bring the bread." Hashem rained bread down from heaven. Aram sent somebody else to get the water. Right? The mana came down from heaven. Hashem sent it directly down. Aram sent somebody get the water. Where did the water come from? Mosher Rabenu had to go hit Iraq. [snorts] So the Gomorrah, there's an implied praise and an implied criticism. Everything he did for the guests, Hashem gave to the Jewish people. Gave them water, gave them meat, he gave them. But what he did by himself, Hashem gave directly. What he did through an agent, what he did through an agent, Hashem did through an agent. Why? It means that in the Gomorrah says it in a there's a critical tone. What are you sending somebody else to do it for? Should have done it yourself. And we even learned in the Gmorra kaducian mitzvah it's a mitzvah for you more than through your you should do things yourself if you can do the mitzvah yourself. So why is it that is criticized and particularly because Rashi says why did he have Yeshua do it? He was trying to train him to do the mitzvah. [snorts] So what's wrong with that? You say yes is his son. He's trying to train you to do the mitzvah. They send you to do it. Yet Aram's criticized should have done it yourself. The answer is that's not how you train your kids. You want to train your kids to do mitzvah. They're trained by seeing how you do the mitzvah. That's what trains kids. When kids see how the parents do it, that's the training for a kid. Sending a kid to do it, a kid's going to do it because he has no choice. That doesn't train him to do the mitzvah. You want to see love of the mitzvah, watch how your father does the mitzvah. That's what trains a kid. You want to see I if if you know they they they uh a uh what a kid sees in the house. That's ultimately the training for a child. It's what he sees in the house. Kids know what's important to the parents. Whether or not they do it is something else. Whether or not the kid does it, he's got his own yates and he's got his own, you know, issues in life. You want to train your kid in, you want to communicate to your kid what's important. What you communicate to your kid what's important is by watching how what you do and how you do it. That's how you communicate what the kids see what's really important to parents. Then they see what's really important. Abrau, you had all the great intentions. You want to train Ishmael. That's not how you train a kid. You train a kid by you doing it. I've seen parents sometimes you see a mother's walking with her ch kid and there's a poor man on the street and she says here put five give the poor man five shekels right it's not a good thing to do it's not a good thing it doesn't train the kid to give to ducka and it's insulting how would you like to be the older person who has a 5-year-old coming in a little kid coming and dropping a coin and it's an insensitivity and you want to train a kid to give saddaka it's when somebody knocks at your door because he's collecting for a yeshiva and you open the door happily and you happily write out a check. That's how you train a kid with sucka. Not by telling the kid, not by telling the kid to give to ducka. It's not how you train a kid to give to ducka. You can tell the kid this is what you should do. You want to trade a kid to do how the father dins and the kid sees what's important to do. The father's sitting in the sch smoozing with his friend and going to kiddish club and then tells the kid davin davin doin. So the kid learns. Yeah, I've learned one thing. When I become a father, I'll get to go to kiddish club and tell my kid to do. That's what the kid has learned. Doesn't learn anything. It's how you do it. One second. Now you see the the ramification of your actions. >> Now on the one hand, Abrain who did it was a merit for the Jewish people. God gave them food. God gave them meat. God gave them water. God gave everything as a merit because Abra gavaldic. On the other hand, you created an agent. You needed you used an agent for water. So Hashem used an agent for water. Who was that? Mosher Rabenu. And what happened when Mosherenu hit the rock? >> Angry. >> Yeah. Hashem. Moshe got angry. Hashem got Hashem punished him. He got angry. He hit the rock. Hashem punished Mosher Rabenu. And as a result of the punishment, Mosher Rabenu didn't go into Israel. And as a result of not going into Israel, the Ba Mdash wasn't built. >> So Abrau Arau did a mitzvah by sending and as a result of that, the Bikdash didn't get built. >> That's heavy. >> That's heavy. That's heavy. That means these are ra everything we do has ramifications. On the other hand, Arainu, he passed tests. He had 10 tests, right? He passed the test. That instilled in us the ability to pass test. How do you like that? Araino was willing to be thrown into How is it that so many Jews in history have been willing to give up their lives rather than worship idols? Even ordinary Jews, Jews who were not Torah leaders or great scholars. Yet in the time of the Spanish Inquisition, Jews would rather Jews would give up their life rather than worship by, you know, rather than kiss the cross. Where do you get that? Where did Where did anybody know you ever find anybody other religion that does that? They'd give up their life. Tell a Catholic tell a Catholic uh kiss a safer Torah or or or you die. You think he would die rather than kiss a safer Torah? Think he'll kiss it? He'll do anything you want rather than die. Where did Jews get the ability? Because when Avraino is willing to be thrown into a flame by into a furnace, right? And and rather than bow down to the idol, that instills something in the Jewish people. [snorts] That instills the ability genetically, we've got that makeup that we're able to give up our life. I told you, you know, Jews, as Rabbi Barl Wine used to say, Jews will give up their life, but they won't give up their seat in shel. I love that line. You know, they they'll give up, you know, people give up any, you know, where do we get that? And then not only that, this whole idea of bringing in guests. And by the way, you know who else brings in guests? Who's very very it's a a a uh a principle in their a fundamental in their society? What's that? Arabs. The Muslims. Yeah. You go in the bedawins. You go if you get into the bedawin tent, they treat you like a king. The other thing is they have slightly different approaches because if you don't eat certain food, they'll [clears throat] kill you because you've insulted them. You know, if you come into my house, you know, and I you don't want to eat gild the fish, that's fine. I won't kill you. The gild the fish will, you know, I give my life before I eat gild the fish. That's for sure. You know, so you want to come, you want to eat by a Jew, the the goal of hosting is to make the person comfortable. By the bedawins, you get in, they'll host you. They'll treat you like a king. Just don't insult them. And when you leave, don't turn your back on them. Once you're out of the tent, you're fair game. Don't don't insult it. But the the value of of of of a guest, you you're that comes from Avino that that's for sure 100%. The idea of the idea by the by the Arabs, Muslims, I'm not sure. Again, I don't know where the line is who some Arabs are Muslims, some Muslims are Arabs. I'm not sure exactly how that works, but at the end of the day, that's a value because that comes from Avinou. Now, watch this. Look at what he says to Sarah. This is very strange imposs take three measures of flour. Luci need them and make make loaves of them. Nothing bother you about that? Nothing bother you about that. Look, so take these three measures of flour, knead the flour, and make cake. Make make loaves out of them. Why is he giving her instructions on how to make bread? Knead the flour. What do you think I was doing to do with the flour? And one of the biggest mistakes you could ever make your make is double-checking on is double double-checking on your wife in the kitchen. Could you imagine a woman who's baking and oh by the way did you put the cinnamon in the apple pie? Excuse you know there by the way it's a double standard. Women are allowed to double check check on their husbands. Did you remember do you remember I told you I want you when you come home today please bring tomatoes. Did you bring the tomato? Are you going to remember? Did you write? Women check up on their husband. That's a perfectly okay. That's perfectly okay. You know why? Because we'll mess up if they don't. [laughter] 100%. Yeah. Can you imagine why a man walking in the kitchen? Oh, by the way, did you flavor the chicken? Those may be your final words. And never do that. What's a Venus say? Oh, by the way, take the flour. Knead the dough. Yeah. Yeah. [snorts] Why is he telling her that? Why is he telling her how to bake bread? >> So she can get married. Good. In other words, don't tell your agent to do it. Don't have one of the servants do it. I want you to do this so you'll have the merit. >> He's emphasizing you do it. Not telling her how to do it. He's just emphasizing not just get the bread made. Have one of have one of the servants make the bread. You be the one to knead the dough and have the merit of this mitzvah. [snorts] >> Oh, good. But what about And what about him? But he told you. Sure. I told you to because I'm trying to train him. That was for she doesn't have a job to train her servants. You to the contrary. That's why he's emphasizing it. That's why he's emphasizing it. When I did it, I was a reason. You I want you to be involved personally. Very good. more than that. Look at look at the um [snorts] it starts with Arau running towards the guests and then it says he tells look look at VV again he hurries up to the tent hurry up make three sons of goes he hurries to the tent he runs to the guests hurry up and then it says and he runs to the cattle What's the Torah telling you over here with all this running and hurrying? Take care of the guests quickly. Do things with do things with elacrity. Carefully, but with elacrity. By the way, do you know when a guest comes into your house, what's the most important thing or not the most it would be? Yes. The most important thing for the guest's comfort is what? When a guest comes into your house, what's the mo what's the priority for a guest? >> Better what's that? >> What comfort where >> no food is second on the list. First on the list is sleeping. The sleeping uh arrangement has to be com. It's more important to have a comfortable s food. Even if the food's mediocre, you know, but at least the guest won't be hungry. When it comes to sleeping, if it's a if if the bed is just, you know, the people are very, you know, if the mattress is too thin or it's or the bed isn't the room isn't comfortable, people won't sleep well. Sleeping is a very very sleeping is people are more sensitive to sleep than they are to food. Food. Okay, give me a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Okay, that's all you got. I'll eat it, you know, is I'd rather have a steak, but I'll have a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. And at least I'm not hungry. I'm okay with it. I'm good with a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. That's fine. You know, whatever. Right. But sleep, if you give me a bed and the mattress isn't good or there aren't enough blankets or the pillow is not high enough, then I'm not I'm going to lose a night's sleep. You have to make sure that the that that that the sleeping arrangement is not is a priority. Number one. Number two, when guests come into the house, it's extremely important to tell them where the bathroom is because many people are sensitive. You got a guy travels comes to your house, especially women, they come into the house and and you know, they're like, you know, do you have a bathroom? No, no, [clears throat] don't have a bathroom. You know, we're we're one of the only people on the block without a bathroom. We actually use all the neighbors. We take turns. Yeah, of course we have a bathroom. Say what you do is you come in, tell the B, we welcome guests and people into your house. Say, by the way, if anybody needs a bathrooms down the hall to the right, let them know in advance. There little subtle things, but you have to try to do everything you can to make the guest as comfortable as possible. One of the things that people are embarrassed about the fact is sometimes people are embarrassed ask about a bathroom. >> I mean you could you could wait you could say hi how are you how was your trip? Good. You know hi the bathroom's over there. You know a little little bit of tax but that's the that's the the the whole thing over here is to make them comfortable. Now the Gmorra says look at the next puzzle four lines. There are three words over there. takes a young calf soft and good and based on that the gar says there were three of them. [snorts] Gor said why do you need three of them? The three guests three calves. How much meat there is in a calf? Three calves. So look at Rashi. Take a look at the left column. Left column of Rashi. Seven lines from the bottom. Benboker Rakov says Rashi. There were three cows [snorts] to give them three tongues with mustard. Tongue. So I don't know if you like tongue or not. Tongue is one of those things either you love it or you don't. It's delicious. It's tender. It's everything else, but it's tongue, you know, and you're just knowing what it is. Some Some people get the heebie-jebies. I can't eat tongue, right? But it's it's very expensive. You like it? >> Yeah. It's a delicacy for >> It's a delicacy for a lot of people. >> It's a delicacy. It's just, you know, the idea is, you know, some people get get get bugged out by the idea. You know, it's not uh you know, I don't uh you know, but it's supposed to, you know, it's good. I mean, corn beef is, you know, that I could do, but you know, tongue. So, so so, so three tongues. I mean, tongue is also pretty big there. There's plenty of tongue. You could slice it. >> They're big. Each one gets its own tongue. Most you like tongue. >> When I can get past it, I like it. >> Well, you got to get past it though, right? Okay. Nobody has nobody has to get past a chicken wing. And none of us have trouble. I got to get past it. them. I got no problem. Chicken wing. We could do tongue. You know, [clears throat] it's one of those things. Why? Why does he give them three tongues? Why three tongues? Why not one tongue? And why three tongues? >> To be generous. >> To be generous. You can be generous. If I you know, if you ever want to be generous with me, a a rib steak is plenty generous. I'll be good with the rib steak. >> Question. We're actually the word. >> Gimalono. Three tongues. >> Mean like language. >> Yeah. Lion and tongue. Tongue and language mean the same thing. >> Sure. And it has to do with you because you use we even use it in English. >> We even use it in English. We talk about I don't What's the context? What would be context of saying uh uh >> tongue? Tongue. I've heard tongue used as like a language. >> It is language used as tongue. >> Mother tongue. >> Is my is my mother in English? My mother tongue. >> Right. But lush means language or tongue? >> Both. >> Both. L. There's certain words. The word teava means a box to word teava means a word. There are certain words that have double meanings in Hebrew. What's bothering you? >> No. No. >> Certain words have another meaning in English. Bad could mean bad and it could mean good. >> He's bad. >> It's the same thing. >> They could be good. He's bad and he's bad. Bad. I had a guy once in a in Sher once talking about Lawrence Taylor. Remember Lawrence Taylor? >> Yeah. >> He played for the Giants. Yeah. He was he was both an excellent football player and a cocaine salesman, but he was what? He goes, "So Lawrence Taylor was somebody mentioned Lawrence Taylor." So one of the guys in Sheer said, "Oh, he's sick." And I said, "I thought he said I thought he was good." He goes, "Yeah." So I said, "He's sick." And I said, "Sick could have a double meaning." You know, in English said certain things could have double meaning. He's mad. He's, you know, he's he's you know, if you're if you're mad bad, it means you're very good, right? He's mad bad. That means he's very good. Your mad bad used to be bad bad mad you know now mad bad bad means good and so on and so in answer to your question yes lon could mean tongue and lion now why three tongues so the say like this there were three malim sometimes if you come in with a prominent guest why are we feeding you we're feeding you you're on his we're we're really concerned with the prominent with the with the guest he's prominent so we're so he's the one that we're aiming at you happen to be there so we'll also serve you, how do you show each one of them that he himself is prominent? So, you got to give him each one a his own make [snorts] sure that he feels you're giving him his own unique cut of meat. There's only one tongue. If you give everybody else a cut of meat, well, maybe it's because I gave it to you and I gave it to you. I gave it to you, so I gave it here. If you could slaughter one, you could slaughter one animal. And you slaughter one animal. So they're lots of meat. But you're getting a good cut of meat because you happen to have come with you were with him. So I gave him. So I also gave you. The only way that I could show them that each one is an important guest to me is by giving each one his own individual piece of tongue. So shall slaughter she to give each one tongue. Okay, that's what the that's what the uh the alship says. Okay. So, they're standing there eating and then take look at the next page. Says, "Where's your wife?" Sor she's in the tent. Amen. >> There's a way of emphasizing how she is. He wants her the knows where is, but it's a way of she's in the tent. said the husband should appreciate his wife being I'm going to come back to you at this time next year. Now pay attention carefully gentlemen are very old. She never really have a monthly cycle laughs internally. She says, "After I've already old and wrinkled, I'm going to have my my youth is back and my husband is is old." And then look at the next God says, "Why did Sarah laugh and say she's criticized? [snorts] Why did Sarah laugh? is anything beyond God's ability. I'm gonna come back to you this time next year and is gonna be holding his child. Takes it up with Sor and what's her she denies it. I didn't laugh. She was afraid. No, no, you laughed. I didn't laugh. You laughed. I didn't. I told you. You laughed. She's criticized for laughing. If you look back at the previous para on page 74, page 74, seven lines on the bottom. You're not going to call her S anymore. Her name is now Sor. Bless her. You're going to have a son with her. She's going to be big nations. Kings are going to come from her. Look at reaction. Falls over laughing. He says in his heart, I'm going to have a child at 100. At 90 years old, she can have a child. Abra doesn't get criticized. He left. Why is she criticizing? He's not criticized. >> Two ways of laughing. [snorts] >> Speak. >> Abraham laughed out of joy and Sarah laughed out of uh um >> disbelief. >> Yeah. [snorts] Like >> cynicism. >> Cynicism. >> What's the difference between the two? How do you know the difference between the two? >> Where is the difference between laughing out of joy and cynicism? Exactly correct. Abrau, look what happens to him. He falls over laughing. >> He falls over laughing like a good joke. You can't You're clutching your stomach. You can't laugh. You go. You're rolling on the ground. >> He's rolling in the aisles. Qu He can't. He's laughing. And then he says internally. But when you're laughing out loud and you're falling over, that's a laughter of funny. That's a laughter of joy. Sara's laughter is like a Huh. [snorts] That's a cynical laugh. I'll bet >> I'll believe it when I >> That's an internal laughter of cynicism. And that's why Alra says, "You laughed." You know, sometimes a person laughs internally. How could Sarah deny it? How could she go and say, "No, I didn't laugh." >> Al says, "You laughed." No, I didn't. What do you mean you didn't? I'm telling you you did. I mean, sometimes a cynical laughter could be so subtle. You don't even know yourself that you laughed inside. There was like and sorry at her level. You don't even know that you laughed internally. Says you laughed. Hashem said Hashem saw that laughter. Now, what should Let me let me ask a question. You're picture yourself. You're Sar Emanu. You're an old lady. You've been married 80 years. According to some calculations, you no longer have a cycle. According to some, she didn't even have a womb. Three vagrants come out of the desert. And one of them, they've had a lot of sun today. Next year at this point, you're going to be holding a baby. I mean, if you were sorry, what would you have done? What? Yeah. Mhm. >> [snorts] >> It's like a guy saying to you, "Don't worry. Even if you don't buy a lottery ticket, at this point next year, you're going to be a billionaire without even buying a lottery ticket." What do you think your reaction? Right. Right. Tell me. Yeah. Sell me a bridge now. What do you want from sorry man? What's she supposed to react? The guy comes out some vagrant says something and she's supposed What What's she supposed to do? Says the Ramban. She said it should have said a main means it it should be so [clears throat] but not because see this is the mistake. I mean let's say you go to the Kaiso you know if you go to the western mall you got all sorts of funny people there you know some guy's dressed up like King David you know some guy King David's harp you know sometime somehow they all smell like vodka and and a guy says to you next year at this point you're going to be a billionaire. Amen. >> What should your reaction be? >> Amen. Thank you, Alicia. Amen. Why? Not because like not because like maybe he's a hidden sadic. Not because of who the person is. It's because a man is an indication that I believe that God could do anything at any time for anybody under any circumstances. Will he do it? A different question. But if somebody says to you next year, you're going to be holding a baby. Amen. I believe it could happen instead of laughing at it. I believe [snorts] it could happen. Will it happen? What's the likelihood it's going to happen? You know, some lady won a scratch off. She won a million dollar scratchoff. You know, it's a that's a good day. Six months later, she bought another car and won another million-doll scratchoff. So, they asked the head of the lottery commission, "What are the odds of the same person willing a million dollars within a six-month period?" I I remember the odds were something like 417 million to one, something like that. Okay? God's not limited by the odds. [snorts] God's not limited by the odds. So, if if if if a person understands anything could happen at any time, there's no limitation on God. So then, oh man, a guy comes in. He says, "Next year, you're going to be holding a baby." She should have said, "I hope it's so because I know that if God wants it to be so." Sorry. And she says, "Rambon." She should have said, "Amen." She laughed internally for that. She's criticized. What are you laughing about? What do you think? God can't make it happen. That's the That's the the the the what do you call it? That's the Okay. We'll stop here. This is because next time we're going to start with snow. Next time we're going to get to snow. >> Okay.