When should I stop trying (He'shtadlut - השתדלות) - Rabbi Alon Anava

just to to reply if you don't mind in English we see that in the Torah Miram when she was sick when she had Sarat all it took is a few words and she was cured and when mosu wanted to go into Isel he had to pray 5115 times till told him and enough quit you're not going in so first of all we're not Mam and we're not Moshe we're not in that level so we're not going to we're never going to be in that level to even know the point is that we don't know I the beginning of the class I was saying that everything is in concealment Hashem wanted to be concealed so so the point is that hasem made this made this concealment be before for me to have the now the question is how is that there's three options either it happens then I I know by myself to stop if I want to get married and I did my and after a while I found my other half that's it I have to stop I got my answer another time is that I'll never get my answer and I like an example not never but a very long period like the the the example with the couple that wanted to get pregnant they still didn't get their answer 5 years they're doing treatment so I said okay so it means you have to continue you know when you will stop when you're 50 that's it I told the the the girl the wife how old are you now she says 32 I said okay so talk to me in 8 years Shalom you invite me to the bre this year but don't ask this question before you're 38 39 40 because women can still get pregnant when you're 40 when you're 50 I can maybe shom you're not going to be pregnant when you're 50 then we'll discuss it again CU then already according to Nature will be a problem to for you to get pregnant so in some situations you have to let the time do its course and and you have to have the the right amount of patience in essence we don't know when hasem tells us to stop the point the know the way to know when to stop is to really read the signs that's another thing we said in the beginning of the class that you weren't here that Hashem puts his signs in people so if I let's say just for the sake of the example I have a a friend that for years he's trying to to hit it off in business and he tried this business didn't work that business didn't work this business and he goes to all the the seminaries and all the courses and all the and all the workshops and he works 25 hours a day invests all his money years already the first half a year I was like okay then another half a year then another year after about 3 years I told him I think you should quit I think you tried enough I think Hashem doesn't want you to be a businessman no I'm never giving up now this guy is literally a genius in the Torah he reads a book he me the book is memorized Hashem gave him such a gift of talking I heard him talk in a Shabbat table and to people he's a gift of giving over information and at some point I told him you're going off the wrong route Hashem doesn't want you in business Hashem wants you to be a teacher he wants you to go in no no no no I'm never giving up and I told him didn't you get the points I mean you went beyond your H you went beyond nature don't you see that one idea after the other after the other and he has very good ideas some that you say that he come comes with like a an idea that oh there's seven piz pizza stores on this road I'm going to open the E he has these bright ideas like a Facebook idea and it doesn't work so at some point I told him you did beating a dead horse you got your answer already because it doesn't make sense that you didn't make it and he comes up always he finds the investment the investors and he he he makes it happen doesn't work like as if like as if there's no and he comes from this and he starts no I didn't pray enough I didn't do this enough and I keep telling him just give up like you're not meant for business okay 7 eight years have passed somehow a few weeks ago our path came together again I mean he's he's a friend not like a best friend that I meet him every day but after like maybe a year that we weren't in touch somehow I meet him again and I'm like no what's going on in your life no I'm still I'm I I asked him something personal and he told me no I'm I'm still very bad in finance I'm in debt and I I can't seem to rise up I tell him you're still fighting yeah no I have this amazing idea we're launching in two weeks and he shows me the idea and I'm like I wish you all the best and I wish you to to to to be very successful but you you still didn't get the point Hashem doesn't want you to be a millionaire Hashem doesn't want you to be a businessman hasem wants you to take the talent that He gave you unbelievable way of expressing yourself and the knowledge that you have and he wants you to go in he wants you to go out there and to make people don't you get it he's like no when I make money then I'll start doing my I told him I only have one I only have one line answer for you there's a line from the that it says don't say I'm going to learn when I turn cuz you might never reach to the turn don't say I'll do it when I get there cuz he might not get there I told him not that I'm predicting anything bad but you might not get to a point that you have money to start your told him you know that you might be a millionaire when you do what hasem wants you to do you might go now and do you're going to do your Outreach you're going to do your K you're going to be so successful that's where your success is going to come from so unfortunately he's very stubborn that's the OCD part that is not healthy and no I'm launching this project and it's going to be successful I told him listen I'm going to give you a that you'll be successful but in my heart I know that half a year when I'm going to meet him again he the business is not going to be successful because hem put him in the world to be a sh if you hear this person talk his English is not good if you hear him talk in Hebrew he can be the number one Outreach Rabbi out there like that he doesn't want to he's stubborn because he's want to see the truth exact so that's exactly the answer she was asking how do I know so in some cases the answer is straight into your face just a person is so stubborn and so not willing to give up and to to to say it's a good stubbornness and I keep telling direct this a into you're going to be unbelievable sometimes hasem gives you unbelievable talent and you're using it to the wrong way and in on a personal level when I became religious 15 years ago okay so three years took me to become religious and I knew right away that I have to one of my main things is to share my personal story if hem my Rabbi told me hasem did a miracle to you you have to tell it so I knew that's going to be one one of the main routes but I was like I have a family I have a wife I have kids and not only that any type of any type of Outreach costs a lot of money so I was like I'm going to make myself a business and the business is going to make money and I'm going to support my own organization not way I don't have to fund raise I don't have to ask to money I don't have to charge I don't have to worry about money and for a couple years there was very very good deal cuz I had a good business it was successful my mind was always business oriented come tonight at 9:00 and you'll hear all about my business ventures and how I made Millions when I was 26 years old my mind was always on business and gave me very good touch and I was always able to make something out of nothing so for a couple years that path worked very well cuz I had a business it allowed me for to study seven years in Yesa because I had a business so I worked couple days a week I had enough money and most of my effort I was sitting in Yeshiva and learning and of course I started doing lectures I would lecture once a week once every two weeks it wasn't so intense like now but I was able to go out and and everything was free and it was amazing then at some point I developed my and we started producing CDs and videos and everything was covered by myself but at some point and of course when you have your mind in business then you develop more things at some point my Rabbi told me listen you putting 50% of your effort in the business it's not healthy shut the business down and you have to put 100% effort into your you cannot be involved into business anymore and in the beginning I told him yeah but it's paying the bills it's not only paying the bills but the entire organization is funded by I found my own organization I don't there's no there's not even a donate button on my website he's like listen I understand but like any other organization you find yourself your supporters and if you don't put 50% or more to say 100% of the effort into your Outreach then you're missing the point and it took 3 years for me to start getting the the the to down to the idea that I have to stop not only that I was like how am I going to do it it's too much how am I going to support my family how I'm going to do how I'm going to support the entire organization at that point that the organization was costing thousands of of dollars and then I met I was in a in an event and I a very she didn't come yet and then ER I met a I was in a in a event and I heard words of wisdom that's exactly the answer for your question Hashem got dressed in an individual that I never met I don't know it's not a rabbi that I know that I I built respect to him to listen to him it was a random individual very few people move me when they talk very few people I get my attention and I can actually listen to within 3 minutes I was invited somewhere it was a Shabbat I had to pray in a that it wasn't even my regular shoe they said uh you know this individual this Rabbi is going to talk now okay I was busy reading whatever I was reading he just said one sentence I turned my head he got my attention and I listen to his in many shes they say t between the reading of the Torah and MF he got my attention and his message was Hashem got dressed in him to tell me the message that I needed to hear and and his message was in in the words that I understood is that you take all your qualifications in this world that you have in business and you apply it to outreach and then I was like huh let me see what's my qualifications in this world so I was like okay I'm a professional photographer professional video editor professional videographer professional web designer developer coder programmer I went through all trades that I'm good at marketing business I was like okay let me see how I'm applying it to myem and within couple months I took everything that I was all my talents and all my trades and I applied it to to my with a lot of trust in the K and within a year time my entire organization from one place where it went it grew 100 times more like from having x amount of followers it jumped into like thousands of followers from getting 3 400 views on a video it got to 10,000 views on a video it within one second change and I and and that's when you know when when when the effort you have to have a little bit open-minded you have to be more receptive to what Hashem how hasem wants to talk to you so you have to read between the lines you have to be become a vessel to see how how hasm is talking to you how hasem is giving you your signs so we're not mosenu and we're not Mir to hear no I know um the point is that we have to be very focused and Hashem constantly talks to us constantly sends the right people to us and the way to do it is to lower my ego and we're going to talk about it a lot in the near future because we're starting a course of T that it's all about diminishing my ego then my ego is the problem in everything that I do but as long as I I totally lower my ego then every person in front of me is a sh of the with a message to me and if I have an ego then why should I listen to you why should I listen to you I'm smarter than you I'm better than you I'm more successful than you so when I work on that and I'm and I know how to focus myself that every person in my life is a messenger I call everybody Billboards every person in front of me is a billboard that comes to tell me a message more than that every person in my life is a mirror every day I meet mirrors so the most powerful mirror will be my spouse and then my parents and my siblings and my roommates or whatever every time the mirrors change but every person is a mirror that's why David says from every person I learn something I can learn something from the person who sits in the corner and and with a cup like this and asking for tedak I can learn something from him and if I'm able to lower myself to the level of everybody everybody has something to tell me and all day long I'm getting messages from everybody around me and I'm able to apply it so if I put myself in the position that's why I said before if I allow hem to come into my life Hashem has many many many ways hasem knows any in any way to get dressed to give me my message to know okay I'm going too much this is the line that I have to do and I have to have a very very good balance we're going to have a lot of classes here about the teachings of cabala and the foundation the fundamental teachings of cabala is balance is what's called isun balance that's why you see that in the structure of the SP cuz there's a very big question how do we know that really the SP are exactly how they we have the drawing you know go down here in the mid you know with the the the asaz you see on the on the window the drawing of the SP who says that that's how it was 500 years ago there was three earthquakes here who said that the window maybe that window is 40 years old so there's a big question between MIM who says that the structure of the SP is how how we know it because I saw a drawing of somebody that it's first of all it's with Dimensions so it's not exactly like that but that's a whole different question but if you're looking at the structure of this so you see there's aav and then there's a Cav and Cav small the line of the right the line of the left and the line of the excuse me can that's if you you can draw it in many different ways because in is talking about thisav it's not only in many other places it's talking about kav small and Cav so anyways we're not going to get into that we want to move to the next class but what I'm trying to say is that is if you looking at the SP how we see it then the dominant and the first SP is ker it's in the middle and then the the bottom is is in the middle and then you always have the the balance so we have the that are in the middle which will be and that will be in the middle and the so everything is always has to be a good balance and the teachings of cabala is teaching us that I my life has to be balanced I'm with you in a second so when I want to know where am I holding it's only if I gain good balance and when my life is balanced well and it's not only my it's my habits my nutrition my dig my my diet everything in my life has to be balanced when it's too much to one side or too much to this side then I'm not balanced then I'm already I'm off balance then I'll get dizzy enough all so my entire Focus has to be how am I gaining good balance and when I gain good balance then I I I see I see I feel I'm receptive to know when Hashem tells me enough now Hashem is not going to punish me like ysep because asking one time too much that's a sadik and Hashem is not going to reveal myself himself to me like mosha and tell me stop but hasem is going to give me enough signs to to to to know and of course if I lower lower my ego in the example that I said with my friend with the business if he would lower his ego one step and saying okay the success is not about me and I keep telling him you are very smart you're very sharp your ideas are unbelievable but it's not what Hashem wants and it's about lowering your ego a little bit by saying I it's not I tell I keep telling him it's not your that you're not successful it's not that you are a failure it's not what Hashem wants that's it accept it so that's another whole thing to do is knowing when and how to accept what Hashem wants Bes AEM everything should always be clear in our mind and we should be a vessel a CLE to receive hashem's guidance yes thank you