When Love Conquers Hurt

here's another commentary by olivier zuckerberg the word ar comes from the word ir light god was telling abraham the person who will curse you uh i'm going to cast light on him i'm going to open his eyes i'm going to enlighten him so that he should see the light and understand who you truly are that's the ultimate response to the person who curses you you know sometimes in life my friends people tell us things that are hurtful sometimes it's your own loved ones sometimes you can hear something from a child that is so painful it's like a dagger in your chest and there's a part of us that wants to respond impulsively and aggressively and we want to increase our curses and reciprocate not only in kind but with even more intensity sometimes it's a stranger sometimes it's much more painful when it's coming from family from community sometimes it comes from the closest to family so god is telling avram of perspective you know let's think about it abraham was the prototype of love and kindness his entire life was dedicated to helping humanity he fought abuse oppression immorality he hosted absolute strangers and he fed them and he nurtured them it's difficult to comprehend why would anybody want to curse such a person only one reason can justify such a behavior the person who curses avraham is confused is hurting is traumatized is in the dark he doesn't even understand who avraham avenue is he doesn't even understand who he is he has a fictional image of avram which in his mind somehow will deflect of his own pain of his own understanding of himself by cursing of ram he's really showing what state of mind he is in i spew venom against this person because i am in a miserable state i am not an abroad and expansive state therefore i don't know who i am i am in a very difficult traumatized wounded state and this is some dysfunctional mechanism for survival and sometimes i'm just completely clueless even if i'm not suffering from a trauma i just don't understand that i don't get it my curses are coming either from pain or just from such profound ignorance i really don't know the person i don't understand the person so god says those who curse you are they desperately need light they desperately need clarity they desperately need love and wisdom and enlightenment so when your child is in a difficult space hurls those difficult statements on you you have to really be able to diagnose what's going on there is a stage in life where education and boundaries and discipline is extremely important for the safety and benefit of the children even then i want to look into what is going on in this child's heart i want to understand him or her there's also a state where somebody is so broken that if you start taking these curses personally you really lost the plot you can't take it personally this person needs light these curses are just an expression of how deeply wounded this person is avi fischer told me just yesterday there was a teenage girl very broken it was molestation on her phone she had her father's number but you know what it said for the number the title the name satan and for her mother it said satan's mistress the parents changed their attitude they started to tune into the devastating pain and over the years they developed a very close relationship and recently she changed it satan became father or daddy and satan's mistress became mother so we sometimes take you cursed me and i start cursing you no this person needs light this person needs love this person needs clarity this person needs enlightenment [Music] the yeshiva.net