When do I finish my Tikun? How to get a Shiduch? Good Vs Bad.... - Rabbi Alon Anava

hold on for a second why wouldn't you want to reach your I want to it's scary because then I know that that's it I reached it so shouldn't be scary should be good if you finalized I want to ask you did it hurt when you doesn't hurt when you die if you don't have what to take with you then it might hurt what what what f for me I can't say pain what felt for me uh uh an absence is I didn't have anything I like as if I didn't do my T I came up there with nothing that was the problem not pain they didn't torture me the the pain was a spiritual pain that I didn't do anything like you're saying T when you died for a few second no there is no pain don't be afraid of death no no so better first of all you don't know exactly your tun second of all could be that your tun is at the day before you leave this world at the age of 89 and your entire life was the journey and in order for you to do you need all the experiences you went through your life for one time to do the right thing you don't know what your T is every day that you wake up in the morning you should thank hem for giving you the opportunity and you should say B I should I should get my tun trust me it's much better up there it just looks good here it's not good here you want to get to your tun and get up there whether you're 20 whether you're 30 whether you 80 don't worry death is not painful it's a good thing then waits to leave the body it came down here for a journey for a mission you're done let me go up let me go home it's almost like going on a business trip at some point you enjoy enjoy the trip you know you like first class fancy hotels good meals but at some point you miss home you want to go home already you sh misses your home don't worry don't worry death is not scary and it's not painful just make sure that you cushion yourself that your ride is going to be be met first class that that every little thing that you do every little step of your way that you have a connection a strong connection with hem if a person doesn't have a connection with hem then the problem begins but and my husband will be with me yeah don't worry he will be with you there I'm going to stay together forever and ever yeah you and your husband no you're not laughing it's good questions you and your husband is the sameish the Same Soul the zor explains that before you come down to the world as a special Angel he cuts the soul in half one part jumps in your body One Jump part jumps in the other body and then when you travel around the world you finally meet your husband you go under the SS the soul together so you'll be with your soul with your husband forever and ever with your parents with your kids everybody we're all one big unit what about divorce happen divorce that depends on many things sometimes the the divorce doesn't mean it was the the real unfortunately in our generation I would say 60 70 80% of the marriages they're not the real shid it happened because one had a lot of money or one looked real good or something was good and then doesn't mean it's the real partner sh I have to you have to talk louder when you go to Shay and when you're together talk yeah's only one yeah answ how do you recogniz get to the right to the right one there's no short answer but if a person wants to really be clear about the right one person has toades it that's more to be to sanctify himself the more you make yourself holy the more you see clear with your eyes the more you connect yourself to the physical to the materialism your eyes become blind so if you want to really see the right person then you have to to hold make yourself Holier better Kosher diet more modesty your mind everything The More You Are Holy the more you sanctify yourself when you'll sit in front of your husband it's going to fit like this it's going to be just obvious and the problem with most people in our generation is that they can't let go from the materialism and then when they sit in front of the right the wrong person oh maybe it is the right one and then you meet a divorce and most people in our Generations in Old the generation was a sh he didn't go out to a movie or to a bar there was a this family said a this family said b y no works good that's why you see in the Orthodox Community the quantity of divorce is very small so it's not stum you see because a sh a match is a business deal you don't go out to a pub or to a movie you sit and talk where do you want to live how many kids you want how do you educate your kids it's more like a business transaction and when it's done the right way it's obvious now it doesn't mean that all the Orthodox couples everything is perfect but the thing is that in any person you want to see more clear not only the right one you want to see anything more clear you have to sanctify yourself in all means of the word somebody up there was like moving the strings now you have to connect all the points together and says Ah if everything worked out that I'm here I got to get into business yes the army army one might say yeah but it was in the the little of the good things that I did yeah it is a good Mitzvah but when they they showed me a lot of good things that I did but the bad was too much that's the problem with a lot of Souls let's say that you know every person has bad things it's normal we're human but at least make it that you have a lot of good things that's the problem a lot of people okay it's fine we're human it's you'll do hear a problem hear a sin that's normal but at least if you must sin or you must do some wrong things at least pack it in with all the good things so at least you have a good uh a good uh how do you call it yeah better than a balance you want the good to be down hold on she was waiting for a while yes