When Dad's Happy, You Can Ask For Anything! Tapping Into the 6th Blessing | Shemoneh Esrei Prayer #7

Every smart child knows when to approach daddy, when he wants something from him and when not to approach daddy. You know, in my days, you wouldn't just get anything for nothing. If you want something, you'd have to work for it. But if you catch your father in an especially good mood, then you can ask him for some extra pocket money or for his farm that you want or for some fun time for something. We know that when daddy's in a good mood, that's a good time to kaparan and ask him for something. Let's say you want something really big. Let's say you want to ask him for forgiveness for something that you something really bad you did. Then you have to catch him in a really good moment. Imagine yourself, your father, in an especially elated mood. Uh he just finished chass. Wow. He just uh finished paying his lifelong mortgage. He just had some uh super thing happening to him. His mother-in-law just left after two weeks visit. You know, you catch your father in a super good mood, then you can ask him for almost anything. Welcome to our uh we are in the sixth braha. Today go and today we are in the braha of forgiveness. We are in the sixth brah of the braha of lanu au. We will uh not even mention or we will uh uh quickly mention the location of the that's very very easy. We just spoken to Hashem about the previous was about coming back to Hashem. Hashem help us feel close to you. Hashem, help us being close to your Torah in Avoda. Yeah, we spoke about being close to Torah, being close to serving Hashem as both a father and a king. Naturally speaking, the next step has to be and that's more or less what the Gar says. Once we ask for closeness to Hashem, you want to feel close. Okay, the first thing is say sorry for all the for all the sins you've done. That's the natural next step. So that's that's an easy one. More interesting is that there is a lot of equivalence a lot of parallel points between these two. In the previous we read us back our father to your Torah and then we continued bring us close our king to your service. So we spoke about father visav learning tra and our king visav the more formal service of mitzvot. We spoke about that this week. Here comes the new yet very much riding on the wave of the previous again. This has two parts. Yeah. Forgive us our father because we have committed we have sinned with and again the second part of the bra is about Hashem being a king and then we asking for forgiveness for something called so again we have means forgive okay forgive us our father because we have sinned If I would have to translate it to simple English, we're saying more or less the same except for the beginning, we talk to Hashem as father, as daddy, as you know, Abba and then the second time we talk to Hashem is our melik. But of course there are differences between and yeah is forgiving. One way when it comes to our father we asking for when it's to do with a mel with the hashem being our king it's spot the differences what's the difference between anybody and also the first part of the we ask hashem for forgiveness for father we have done and the second one when it comes to the mel we say we have committed pesim a different type or different level of okay and then again we conclude with because you are a you're an almighty which is good and forgiving and then we conclude yeah the giving the merciful one which forgives again and again so okay it's time to crack it down it's time to really decipher that those mysterious synonyms versus what's going on over here. So, an easy one. One second. One thing the Gmorrah in Yuma says clearly the difference between and the says means when you did something it's wrongdoing you did the wrong thing but it's anybody who knows basic of knows what's when you bringat same idea when means means when you have done something by mistake. You didn't know it was Shabbat. You genuinely thought it was still Friday. You didn't notice a difference or a hospital or something in a closed room. You didn't know it was Shabbat. You thought it was Friday and you turn on the light. So, you are being, you know, misinformed and it's a shag. It's a mistake. It's a kind of even honest mistake, but you still have to pay for it and you bring a kurban. It's not it's called kat. Why? Because in Hebrew actually the source is in the and it's used in modern Hebrew a lot actually means to miss. When in Hebrew we say we mean to miss the goal. Means you're aiming towards the goal. Means it's a miss. Every basketball player wants to have the ball in the net of course but he missed it. Okay. What can you do when it comes to Pesha? Pesha is a bit more complicated. Yet the Gar says Pesha means merid. Wow. Pesha means rebellion. So we're talking about two different levels already. We're beginning to see the light. We're groping in the dark here in the bra. We're beginning to see the difference. We're asking our father for forgiveness regarding what? Regarding things that are, you know, I messed up. I'm sorry. I mean, didn't mean to, Dad. I'm sorry. And then we say to the Mel, "Oh, we have really transgressed. We have rebelled. Pesha is rebellion against you, the Mel." And even then, we ask for forgiveness. This is just a basic. There's much much more. We're going to go much deeper, but this is the basics. Interestingly, that's a side point. Anybody who ever learned the four Yeah. people who look after other people's property, it doesn't sit right what I just said because what's Shia means being negligent. Yeah. So, not that I did anything on purpose. Shia means that somebody gave me to look after his ox. That's always the example in the Garra. You know, just last week you're looking after people oxen. No, don't you do that all the time? So, okay. He looked after someone's uh I don't know, credit card. I don't know. After his uh candlesticks. What? >> His dog. >> His what? >> His dog. >> His dog. Yeah. True. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Not Not a fan, but much more common. Yeah. Your dog sitter. It's already a profession today. So, you're looking after his dog and you're negligent. You're looking at your smartphone, drinking your coffee. Well, the dog ran ran around, ran away, and got lost. That's Shia. So how come Shia means being negligent and also being rebellious? I'll tell you why. Because yeah, if I'm not mistaken, it's freed says that the I'm pretty sure that he's the one bringing it down. And he says, "No, when you are negligent in front of a king, that's called being rebellious. In the high standard of a king of the king of the world, just not caring is equivalent to actually doing something on purpose. It's as if you're rebellious. You're so to just not care even in a passive way about what the king wants. That's but that's that's just a side point. As an introduction, I'd like to use this bar that we're explaining now as a tool to learn together with you a beautiful piece in sorry the greatest bal philosopher of all of them. He says as follows. I won't read it from the inside. I have it here, but I'll I'll say it, you know, in in our own language. Why do we have to keep mitzvah? He says it in the fourth chapter of the great work of why do we have to keep mitzvot? Because hashem said so. Well, would you say told us in to keep mitzvot? It's not so simple because they kept mitzvot before Harai and the Torah was actually written before the world ever existed. So we have the Torah already there from before the world was even there and then we have the Torah given again when in harai says beautiful idea when you fulfill a mitzvah you have two two points to your benefit you're gaining two things when you unfortunately transgress then you fail on two levels I'll give you an example what I'm about to tell you now is something uh very hard to imagine something very fictitious. It may sound crazy that I go to such funny um funny imaginatory things such such wild imagination but try and follow me with my you know wild flowing imagination. It's I'm in a good mood. Imagine yourself a teenager that has a messy room and it never happens. I know I'm I'm being like very it's like imagining an elephant pink elephant flying in the air. Just imagine a teenager that has a messy room. You know, all the everything is piled one on top of the other. You open the door, it smells like Swiss cheese, like good high quality European cheese. It smells so strong. Maybe has a piece of cheese over there. Maybe it's his socks. I don't know. But uh it smells and looks uh unpleasant. And we're going to now f now now we're going to extend imagination even more. His mother tells him to clean the room, to tidy the room, and he refuses. I know. I can see this. It can never happen. Let's just imagine. So now what's the problem? There are two problems here. When he doesn't tidy his room, first of all, the room, excuse my language, sorry, stinks. The room is stinky, messy. He loses everything. He can't find his shoes. He can't find his homework. The whole thing is a mess, which is in just intrinsically bad. Secondly, the fact he said no to his mother, that's rebellious. That's that's another layer of of that's already bad. So he's really living in a mess. you know, in a bad situation. Plus the fact that he's going against his mother's will that is an additional additional bed additional bad layer to the already existing bed. What happens when he does chuva and he then decides to clean up the room? Two good things happen. First of all, his room is nice, tidy, so pleasant to live there. He finds everything. He knows where everything is. And secondly, he fulfilled the will of his mother. That's exactly how Torah and work says the first of all changes I mean I changed it around first of all says when you do you fulfill the of taking or wearing you are fulfilling what Hashem told you to do and that's in Hashem told you to do something and you do it and if you don't then you're rebelling against Hashem Hashem told you not to speak and you do that's bad. What's going on here? And the second one he says you're becoming a better person when you put on and and nice to your wife and to environment and you guard your tongue and your eyes. you are becoming a better person and closer to your father in shamine. So there's always the double yeah the two levels existing either for the good or for the bad. you are a better person keeping mitzvot plus hey wow once hashem gave this to us in matan tora then it's an extra added bonus of we're fulfilling the ratson the will of heem we are good slaves to hashem and the second thing in the other way around already from time immemorial before the world was created it was bad to say lash or to eat for Jews or to eat meat and milk together it was always bad it was bad for a Jew for rais was always a bad thing to do. Kept the Torah. The reasons were certain things they didn't keep. I'll explain another time. But kept the Torah kept he did. But there was always there once you had there's an added value of us fulfilling or unfortunately rebelling if we do eat a cheeseburger shalom. Then not only it's bad for our na in reality the spiritual reality is really bad besides that we're also rebelling against hashem this is the key to understand the baraka of today very good so now I am today I opened mainly today's heavily based on hashem and another of a person who lived many many years later frelander the maj of panovich who wrote the famous series says Freedellander. What does that mean? As opposed to is as follows. Is in the actual I'm sorry father I am not as good as I should have been. I'm not talking here about my relationship with you. The mere fact they spoke and watched something not so appropriate online and was nasty to a friend and didn't give it to the car. Okay, we're not in the church right now. Yeah, nobody's giving confessions. Yeah, what? Yeah, not me for sure. The idea is the mere fact that I have sinned. I am not as good as I should be as a person says of my is impure now. Yeah. And I'm not far away from you. Means I want you to please erase the sin. Please erase that bad effect. Every a creates a bad malath. True. We all learn about those black angels in kindergarten. Yes, it's true. The is created from your remove that bad angel. Remove that bad reality that I've immersed myself into. And that is the bad reality. And that's why au why au because part of bad reality is that our relationship with you is not as good as it should be. Everybody wants to have co nice warm relationship with their parents. Of course the difference we're not equal to our parents but we want to have nice relationship with our father more than with the king right. Even the British people would agree to that. Yeah. the father is much more valuable. And therefore, we're saying all these made me dirty, yucky. I'm full of dirt. And we're supposed to live in the same house together, daddy and I. And I'm asking you just just remove the remove that away from me, my father. Cuz it's about the close relationship that I kind of missed cuz I'm I'm I'm too dirty to stand in front of you. And I created that. I created that wall. And that's why it says oh why means even if the was just so what surprise surprise also creates a bad reality and I'll tell you a very very very simple example let's say that your wife had a very short and busy and crazy Friday she was cooking the chlet uh the kam yeah whatever adafina whatever you want to call it. She was cooking the fish, whatever. She was cooking something meaty. She was cooking some nice meat dish. Yeah. And then the but complete mistake. She spilled a whole uh a whole jug of milk into the into the chand. Complete mistake. Somehow you know things were flying around. So it was complete mistake. It was an accident. She pushed something with her elbow or a child pushed it. So sorry. Nobody's to be blamed and everyone will stay quiet and calm hopefully. Can you eat the chand? No. Nobody's blaming anybody. It's nothing to do with how bad you are. Nobody's giving you grades. You're not in a kindergarten over here. The reality is that now you have you can do one thing with a troll and throw it in the garbage. Yeah. Far away. That's it. It's a reality. I'll tell you something more. There's an interesting discussion. Yeah. Amongst Maharal versus others. I won't go into it. And that is if somebody eats forbidden foods, we all know the immediate result of anybody eating shrimps, bad stuff. What happens to the person's says you become which means you become blocked. You're spiritually blocked and you become coarse and not accepting of of anything spiritual. Let's say somebody ate khazir by mistake. He thought he was kosher. He went to a restaurant. It was good and somebody tricked him and he ate kazir. He didn't recognize the taste. He's a fring guy. According to many it's according to many although it's a mistake. So what it's still that's a mainstream opinion. Yeah. Because the reality is reality. So now it's very nice is the actual sin. The sin itself made me dirty. Nothing to do with what you think about me. I am not clean and now I am far away from Hashem. I ate these things. I saw the things that that uh cause my eyes impurity or said the words or spent a lot of time without Torah. It just brought me down and I want that reality to be erased to have I want fresh start and then I'm asking from daddy cuz from father I want to have good relationship. Now number two, what's the difference between well the in around around there or that area the gar there talks about which people can forgive or in English I would say waver or forgo like to to give in like not to care to yeah you have rights. How do you say like to be your rights to waver your rights? Oh can a father beh on his yes a father can decide yeah if your children don't get up when I come to the dining room if my children are not exactly serving me food when I ask them to I'm even says it's a good thing to do up to a point you know forgive forget for go waiver. Yeah. And they decided ah I want to be one of the guys. They want to be democratic liberal kind of king. No >> that's more like >> okay. Okay. I want to explain more. Okay. Thank you for the English word. I appreciate it. Means I'm reading from Finland there. Meaning is just a reality. I messed up. I messed up. The milk is in the toilet. I messed up. Oops, I ate the shrimp. Sorry. Is on according to visav. If I hurt your your cavod, yeah, your dignity, your honor, your respect. I was disrespectful to you. I hurt your respect. What do I have to do? Ask for that's according there are a few explanations and I'm aware of it. I want to focus on this one now. We're asking meaning the fact that not only it's bad for me as a human being for my personal growth in my personal journey I lost you know like in these board games and I have to go 20 checkers behind cuz I spoke such terrible it's not only my personal journey I hurt your and for that I'm asking from and that's a me you as commander. You remember the hashem the second layer not only I did something bad I did something rebellious and that's why it's called yeah means please please overlook pardon whatever please you know forgive me for hurting your cavode your status your respect my king and that is pashanu that is a pesha that is rebellious. Now, that's very very interesting because when you look at both parts of the Baraka Yeah. and we're about now to enter the third part, you know what we're really asking says that chuva is a big Yeah. Or says also it's a different he says chuva is a miracle. Chuva is a creation that was created before the world was created. Shuva is something out of this world like a miracle. You ask any religious intelligent I don't know can one repent why not you can repent say sorry and you forgive why do we look at is something supernatural I'll tell you why because look at what we just said now if you spill the milk the first part of the we flipped we flunked sorry what do you mean sorry we want to change the reality yeah we are full of dirt inside and we want some of Hashem to get the dirt out. I want to ask you a question. That Friday hectic Friday scene in the kitchen. Somehow somebody the little girl she pushed the she spilled by mistake an entire litter of milk into the cholant. Can you and it cooked together? Can you undo it? Of course not. Maybe in a lab. I don't think even in 2026 there's an easy way. Yeah, there's an easy way to get the milk out of the meat. They're all cooked together. All the molecules are all mixed up together. Maybe in a lab they can, but it's very very hard. What? >> That's why I said an entire litter. I knew it's coming. There was a big jug of milk and it's not bashishim. So therefore, we're asking Hashem to do the impossible. We're asking him to change reality. As sorry as you are for the lushar you spoke or for the whatever it's a bad reality. Yeah. The reality is there and we're asking Hashem to do the impossible. And what's the second part? We're asking the to pardon us. Sounds very nice. Pardon us, our king. Excuse me. The says the actually lists and following the father. They can all be on the different conditions, different uh shades of gray there. Yeah, generally speaking, every person you're supposed to give to can at times be your father can be and be more, you know, cozy with a kid. Even to a point even yes cannot be that's you can't why the says because the whole idea of mel is to be above you. If father is your father anyways, yeah, he's the one whoathered you whether you like it or not. A mel the whole essence of mel is he's supposed to be above you. If he's equal to you then he's not a mel. So being a mel and being is an oxim and you can't be equal and more can't be. So we're asking for two impossible things. We're asking to change reality that was created the reality of sin. And we're asking to yes now I know Hashem can do everything. I think I've been to this shure long enough to know that Hashem can do everything. But let me explain to you now according to the next part of the bra how that works. How can we dare asking Hashem to just clean everything and make us new? How can we ask him to be we had to go against him says now I'm following which is also so we're in it together. The next part the crescendo is keel you are keel almighty powerful which is good and forgiving. Okay. Did you notice I just noticed when I prepared this year something very interesting. Every braha has its special word or some kind of you know unique character to that braha. The first braha in when we actually tell Hashem you are good is this braha. Yes, it does appear later again in barenu and other maybe. But here it's the first time when we kind of remember to say tom you know you are good. Interesting. We describe the first gave hashem almost any adjective every good adjective under the sun and then you can do anything and you are wow and you're amazing and we never said to hashem you are good. Why is it dka? Now when you talk when we talk about then we say you are why says thee at the very beginning beautiful words I'm not quoting because it's in English here I don't but beautiful words of hashem at the beginning of the second bar the hashem says that hashem's uh to is goodness yeah the quality of being good it's more than goodness I don't like the word goodness to it's like the the whole to the whole Anything good in the world is Hashem. Hashem is a reality is an essence essence of good and all he wants to do you know why he created that interesting creation called world world.com it's a nice interesting you know startup company from a few thousand years ago called the world why did hashem the CEO why did they start that company says that and he wants to do good to us hem's good is infinite when you read the words of the it's beautiful yeah all of Hashem is just the ultimate good Anything that we see is good is nothing comparing to Hashem. Even spiritual good is just a tiny segment relative to the goodness of Hashem to the to Hashem. Good. Remember what I told you at the beginning of this year. What does that have to do with anything? You approach your father at the day where he got a promotion and he finished CH and he I don't know he became CO and he's amazing. You can ask him for almost anything. You can ask him for a ticket to to Switzerland. Almost anything. Why? Because your father at that moment is in such an expansive expensive with an a expensive mood they can ask for any expensive gift. He's so big, his mood is so wide, is so wow, he's so high on a cloud that any request or even if he did something bad, you can ask him for forgiveness because his mood is like, wow, he's so happy, so all over the place, so in a different a thrill kind of atmosphere that even if you messed up and you made an accident with a car, okay, nothing happened. It's just so so good. Yeah. mortal accident. So now that's the point has no mood is so ultimately good. You are ke you're powerful. What kind of powerful you are the essence of good and your good is so vast, so infinite, so all over the place that anything bad that I did and sometimes people can do really really bad stuff. The guy did gim the guy did is so as bad as you are your badness is much smaller than Hashem's goodness. That's the point. You are so good and vest. This is something written by Rashiva of Ari Marcus and the safer vaniti. It's so good. You are tov you are ke your power is all just wow. And therefore with that goodness you can cleanse my sins and to turn the clock backwards to like me before the you're so good that as opposed to a human king you can forgive and waver your because and therefore you're and can change reality through because you're just goodness itself. That's the point here. Or I'll give you a more uh a better source for what I'm saying. The beginning of why did Israel not want to listen to Mosha's good news? Yeah. He gave them good news. You're going to be liberated. Yeah. That was way before Martin Luther King. Way way before this deal. He's coming with a good with good news. You're liberated from this horrible situation you're into. Why didn't it listen to him? Says their minds, their their mindset, their spirit was so small, was so constricted, was so tunnel visioned by slavery, they couldn't contain any news, not even good news. You're sometimes in such a bad situation that you're so small because of your What does mean? Trouble >> and narrow. I like it. We're all in it together. You're teaching me some Hebrew. Very good. S means narrow and trouble problem because troubles make you feel narrow and suffocated. Yeah, we all have those moments in life. And the opposite when Hashem's is so wide, it's actually endless. Is so endless he can forgive and contain all our sins. Of course, only when you go through the process of being honest and really asking Hashem, beating on our heart. Why? Because we are beating our hearts, we are pounding on our heart, hitting our hearts because the heart is the one who caused us to sin. When you really ask for forgiveness, I want reality to change as me being a bad person. Did I did something bad? I want also to ask you forgiveness because I've hurt your and your even that Hashem can do. How can he hashem do that? Your goodness blankets overpowers anything and you are what's again remember when we spoke about when Hashem gives us the knowledge because Hashem is giving us a free gift when we just have that wow idea that light bulb same thing over here has to do with free. We're asking for a free gift. You are you give free gifts. We don't deserve that. We're rebelled. Why should Why should Hashem forgive us? Exactly. Because we're saying I'm I'm sorry. No, you have to be sincere. And what will Hashem do? Hopefully, because he's he's giving you a free gift. He's giving you something out of his infinite uh uh treasure house of He has a lot a lot of forgiveness in his arsenal. a lot of forgiveness in his place and he can forgive us again and again and of course every time we do chuva on what's the past and promise to be better in the future and then in the future they say what yesterday sin yeah is something you don't do anymore but then today the sins are smaller and then you still have to ask again and again until you reach full closeness with Hashem thank you very very much thank you for your beautiful videography thank you everybody for listening ing. Thank you to the Les for hosting this year. May we will be able to dance in beta mikdash with our venu. Thank you.