What Stands Behind People Who Go Off the Derech? - Rabbi Yaron Reuven

[Music] so today's world there is unfortunately a growing popularity with Co flame Co flame there are people that are specifically instead of trying to onerous them they're trying to make it their point in life to be a solution walking solution a walking desecration of a shames name where they decide one day that they don't want to be religious and they want to publicize it to the world and it is unfortunately many shows online and on televisions and whatever else that people are looking for it that are publicizing these horror stories of people that came from religious holy families and now they have this bad apple and this bad app was not quietly going to the corner minding his own business and just trying to move on with his life they're trying to make sure the whole world knows it and they're trying to bring everyone with them how could such a thing happen so there's several different reasons of why sure to think it happened first and foremost the maja specifically says that there's no such thing there's no such thing as someone going off to death meaning that there's always a problem with the root meaning he was never religious to begin with what's the example example is at least shock him Alicia Benner who yeah who learned an enormous amount of Torah to such a point that he became one of the 10 a.m. but unfortunately one day he went off to death he became a cofell he became a really big problem farm sale and they changed his name to a hill when a prostitute saw him violating Shabbat and she says wait a minute aren't you the rabbi Alicia Anthony then he violated Shabbat you saw a heavy he's someone else there's no way there's no way that you're the rabbi why if you're a rabbi maybe you have desired to go to a prostitute but if you fight Alicia but there's no way you're a rabbi meaning that in the eyes of that generation and us it should be us too it's even worse to violate Shabbat then two husbands alone go to a prostitute but nonetheless people need to understand that Alicia hell didn't just go bad there's something bad with the roots and the say is that when he actually was born his father invited some of the ha ha Meem and he saw them studying tall and creating a holy fire he said you come to burn my house because no no no we didn't burn your house this is a holy fire this is a holy fights a spiritual fire that I regular fights a spiritual fire and this fire is created by our learning Torah he says if this is what the Torah does that I'm gonna have my son study Torah so the Hamim asked what do you mean his father was a calm he knew what Torah does what does it mean that I'm gonna dedicate my son to the Torah it means that now that he sees in his own eyes the benefit now I'm gonna give him to Torah before that I wasn't sure if you're not sure that means it's not coming listen you're not doing it for the right reason you're not learning Torah for the right reasons you're not learning Tod because Hashem said so you're learning tour because Abba said so that is your biological father you're learning Torah because you go to yeshiva you're learning tour because that's your life just like the people in Africa walk around in underwear and they feel perfectly fine about it you're learning Torah it's a custom it's not your life and the reason why such things happen is because there's always a bad route it's it could either come from the bad education it could come from the person himself now dedicating themselves it could come from a number of things there's no one thing that we can pinpoint out one thing that we can do is know that these people that turn into heretics and want to publicize their horrible horrible sins they're not doing it because they don't believe they're doing it because they're dying for attention and to justify their actions because inside them inside them they know it's wrong inside them they know it's a hundred percent wrong but every person needs to calm their nerves calm their conscience how are you gonna do it I'm gonna get other people to do with me why does the thief invite anyone else to come steal with them not because he wants to share the spoils because he knows it's wrong but if he steals also then it's less wrong if he steals also then it's less wrong why am i inviting him to the club because if he comes with me then it's less wrong to do it so they want to invite the world to the same thing they're yearning for attention they're yearning for justification and last but not least they're also making the ultimate mistake the main reason why people become less religious is because they make the mistake of thinking that Judaism depends on the Jews this is a mistake Judaism does not depend on the Jews Judaism depends on the Torah how do we know this we know this simply because before we went to Mount Sinai the Torah existed already 974 generations before the world was created the Gemara my secretary Goss says a shem creator the Torah Blackfyre written on white fire but he did not have a Jewish nation yet why because no one received the Torah yet no one accepted the tour yet once we went to Mount Sinai and we accepted the Torah Judaism was born meaning that if huh special um somebody else would have accepted the Torah instead of a me slave they would be the Jews which means that what makes you a Jew is not that your mom is Jewish even though logically speaking it does in reality speaking what keeps you Jewish is whether you observe the touhou not just like we did announce a night so instead of focusing on what the Jews are doing and this guy did this and therefore I'm gonna steal and this guy did this and therefore I'm gonna this all people trying to justify their sins because there are other sinners remember he's a sinner it's not gonna help you if he stole it doesn't mean it's right for you to steal if he cheat it doesn't mean it's right for you to cheat it has nothing to do with you either bad Jew that's his problem he'll have to pay for it on his own doesn't justify you doing it also so stop blaming other people for your own desires overcome your desires overcoming its alarm is like a shame you'll have a hyeme with a lot of us like ah a lot of good things goes on the shame and a lot of Seattle Ishmael help from sham I'm where you're not gonna actually ever have any type of confusion that you need to go elsewhere for answers [Music] [Applause]