What's your survival story? Rabbi Yom Tov Glaser on "Let's get real with Coach Menachem" Show # 17

[Music] everybody welcome to the let's get real program i'd like to thank everybody for coming here tonight tonight will be our 17th share and uh we are really really exploding over here and we have a very very amazing program tonight from the little bit that i know about it um it's really going to be something special tonight everybody strap up and get ready to experience something like you've never experienced before right right blazer that's right that's right first i want to thank uh all of our advertising sponsors the liquid scoop for what's promoting here in lakewood i would like to thank hazak ravi aniv they offer programming for children's teens singles couples millennials baby boomers and for seniors please visit kazakh.org for more information i'd like to give a special thank you to mrs mika sopher for always joining us on cll live it's really appreciated it thank you again and a really special thanks to mrs kyla kaufman and schmule summer from jcn the jewish content network for always promoting us across all the digital jewish platforms and really really helping this program get to another level and small you're always there with me and i'd like to get started first tonight with our host coach menachem uh to open up with a few words coach monaco mute yourself you're muted now first of all good morning everyone good morning oh you're calling it good morning yeah it's very kind of you to have a glazer up so early for those who know okay everyone welcome again wow this is uh show number seven uh seventeen nine nahara tonight i'm really excited and we'll find out why truth is this show is really um becoming more and more real like it's called let's get real with coach vanakkem and all the weeks we had all the knowledge that we learned and then last week it really became real we were able to hear somebody from somebody from charlemagne to actually watch him walk through the darkest places and how he was able to implement the muna in bataclan which was unbelievable the feedback that we got it has not stopped which was unbelievable so that's always the the question that we have berkshire will live in a world that avoid the and really it's really beautiful and we have to thank hashem for that the challenge is that when we're thrown into an asoyn when we have a test that's when um sometimes it can get hard to actually live with all the knowledge that we have all the knowledge that we learned like uh affirmative mentioned last week everything that he learned in shiva's everything that he learned he was uh trying to live it but that's that's the question how do we actually live when we're in the messiah and i believe that tonight we have in front of us reviews is going to help us out with that to be able to let in their information and just by looking at you and listening to your deep voice it reminds me um i i do want to mention to the island that i am a proud graduate from the possible you and i want to share with the islam a little bit um the truth is while i was sitting in the classes i remember my thoughts my thoughts were basically that the information is unbelievable and it's good for those who need it but me while i was sitting there my life was really perfect in box shrimp i grew up a beautiful family and have to thank my parents which i believe they're listening i thank them for that bar hashem and problems challenges not really somehow hashem got me into this seminar and i'm sitting in the seminar thinking it's unbelievable but i didn't resist i was listening i did the exercises i got try to get out of my comfort zone get some nose with a lot of the information that i picked up now it's been years now many years maybe uh eight eight years that i look back and i could tell you that the growth and what i had in my life basically started from i i think it started from there and for those who know me my life has changed and it really changed the before and after is not the same and i've learned a lot on the way but the concepts the seeds looking back i believe i got from those 24 hours that i sat and listened to what i thought then was not applicable for me and here i am so before i give you back the micro um obviously it's it doesn't go on one foot and it is a process but hopefully we'll be able to get some seeds planted get some idea of the whole seminar and everything else that you teach um i would just want to give a little bit of introduction the way i understand it and then you'll take over with your vast knowledge so the basic idea is that when a person is born a person is born like a a soft piece of clay like pure innocent the felika kami the world is open it's open there's a big world and it's open for him for the innocent child and with our experiences we learn certain behaviors and what we call the social norms this we do this we don't do from sitting in the park when the little baby starts eating mulch and then his mother comes over and takes it out and tells him why are you eating the mulch and then you continue dancing and singing on top of your lungs till um let's say first grade you start looking around and some kids are laughing and basically it goes on we pick up all the information and we pick up what's normal and what's not what we should do what we shouldn't do who am i who am i not again everyone with their own experiences and interaction whether it's hasidis litfish svardish wherever you are the interaction that you have and the experiences could be you were in town or out of town we basically become like a hard piece of clay we create that box like we're going to call tonight the story that we tell ourselves and we get very comfortable inside of it and we don't really want to come out we believe this is the way it should be some people use this is what hashem wants this is what destiny my life is destined to be but the truth is we're not really living our own life we're living the life that others have told us to live and that's where we get into a little bit of a struggle i just want to end with this i believe the the the juice of life is on the other side is outside of the box getting out of your comfort comfort zone and which could be very very scary and getting out there and learning more about yourself and then you won't believe certain things you have never dreamt you can do what you have never thought that you want to do and there you are so i'm giving back the mic and i hopefully hashem should send us the art and the seeds should go in and before i give it back if in middle somebody feels they're falling asleep which we might have some meditation on the show it's it you should just know that that means it's working thank you very much oh i'm up okay just again i want to give an overview of tonight you have her beyonce blazer i'm going to give you a full bio because it's a really long one but it's important to know a lot of people asking what the show was about tonight the the general topic of tonight is living the life you wanted to live and the topic is a lot of people get stuck in their own little story and they don't have to get out of this story you ever see guys sometimes they work in a grocery store and you see they have so much potential they can do so much more but they don't do it that's what we're talking about people that get stuck in that story and they have so much potential and everybody has potential in them but how to really really tune into it and find the interview and actually take those steps to get to it and i'm sure beyonce is going to give a lot of good examples um again coach mathema's actually a graduate he gives seminars all over the world and uh people getting tremendous mountain i i personally don't know ruby laser from before but uh i watched a few sharon i was a little bit blown away i actually like his music also very much we'll get to it soon now that it's after the nine days and um let me give you his bio everybody get ready all around the world the bianca blazer was born in hollywood california where he grew up on the foot of the mountains with the pacific ocean nearby he began surfing at a young age and at the end it was the son of a surf weir manufacturer yamtiv grew up traveling the world on surf travel expeditions on the days when the waves were small little yantiff took the to the hills and became a hardcore mountain biker another sport that he actively pursues until today a lover of music robert glazer has been playing music professionally over three decades in england he's known as the jewish bob marley and an interesting note the first time we met we we had our zoom pre-meeting with robert glaser he was doing it from his bike on top of some hill in israel we could barely hear him but he was he was definitely doing it while robbie glaser spent the majority of his life surfing and mountain biking he accumulated vast insights into human character religion and alternative spirituality after receiving a bachelor of arts from the university of georgia in santa barbara he moved to israel in 1991 to explore his jewish origins studying at a chateaura college of jewish studies after eight years intense study rabbi glazer received smith is that correct since two thousand glaze has been a senior rabbi at asia torah jerusalem a master oriented who had been found lecturing and entertaining for organizations worldwide few people can hold crowds attentive as rabbi yumtav glazer does regardless of his audience age level or observance or whether digital on zoom or not i added that in in 1999 rabbit glaser concluded his training under the top psychologist a freudian swartzky and since practices spiritual therapy helping individuals to make breakthrough deep emotional psychological blocks and come closer to god's experience in 2002 robert glaser founded internationally claimed possible you self-transformation seminar a company with an ever-growing worldwide staff and alumni today rabbi yandev prays in mayor charm in pink's carl and shul known for the fact that every word of the service is screamed on top of his lungs he also is a student of the pacific rebel spiritual dynamo of cutting edge of kabbalah's research and practice whereby yamcha can be found sitting at the river's table soaking and teaching often into the wee hours of the night like we'll do tonight rabbit lazy now resides in jerusalem with his wife and his children he studies teachers plays music and adventures in jerusalem and travels internationally sharing what he calls rabbi transformational blazer please open up shalom everybody so glad to be with you all it's uh thank god uh i'm in ursuline 5 15 in the morning and yes the the creator in the world the creator of the world that we all believe in so deeply is the is you know he's everything's possible but literally everything is possible i mean you've seen some of the twists and turns of your own life and you just you just can't believe some of those some of those moves and how everything's so orchestrated and but he's a cool yuckly he's absolutely completely all-powerful and can have anything happen but the question is are you someone that's a vessel that anything can happen to you are you that kind of vessel and we see that there are people that just have magical magical existences and you can have that magical existence but you have to be a vessel for it you got to be a klee for such a such a life now i want to tell you a little muscle that uh that's been kind of popular this year that i've been telling people and and that is uh you know an experience of uh you know like lab rats where the where if you put a rat inside a box and the box has four long tunnels coming off of it and the and you put cheese in the fourth tunnel so what happens is the rack goes into the box it will go down the first tunnel no cheese finally goes down the second tunnel no cheese finds the third tunnel no cheese goes down to the fourth tunnel there's the cheese now if you put the wrap back in the box which tunnel is it going into it's going straight to tunnel four right they're not dummies go straight to tunnel four the end of tunnel four bingo gets the cheese put it back in tunnel four goes in tunnel four there's the cheese again down tunnel four he goes straight to it each time now if you move the cheese to tunnel one what happens is the rack goes in the box which which tunnel is he going for that's right tunnel four goes right down tunnel four no cheese and the rat just turns around comes out tunnel three no cheese tunnel two no cheese tunnel one there's the cheese boom you put the rat back inside the box guess what tony's going down very simple tunnel one that's where the cheese was now you put a human being inside that box tunnel one no cheese tongue two no cheese tunnel three no cheese ghost tunnel four there's the cheese keep putting tunnel four there's cheese there's cheese there's cheese there's cheese and then you move the cheese to tunnel one you put the person inside the box what tunnel is he going for tunnel four goes down tunnel four no cheese at which point you know what the human being does he sets up a tent and he spends the next 40 years telling a story about the cheese that was once in tunnel four in fact he puts a plaque on the wall about the cheese that was once in 24. in fact his his kids grandkids and great grandkids have been hugging about i mean hugging them about the cheese that was in a tunnel at the end of tunnel four we are human beings as storytellers we tell stories when you grow up you heard stories probably at bedtime every night and our jewish narrative are as a people was it's all couched in stories everything stories human beings are storytellers and we ourselves have our own story we have our own narrative that we're telling now there are parts of that story that are just in our own personal story that are they're just not true but boy did they feel true at the time and when we grew up much like coach menachem was sharing earlier when we grew up so you know all kinds of stuff happens all the time i mean i oh my gosh my own kids i think about all the time like stuff that happened to them that's like you just can't protect your kids you know these days i would think we could like it aren't we high-tech enough now that we could like somehow wire our kids with cameras on all sides just to tell them when to like move out of the way so the bus doesn't splash them on their way in the school and and then and then when it's their turn to read you know we'll have we'll have a little earpiece in their ear just to read it right so they don't stutter and the kids laugh like if we could only protect our kids throughout their entire days so nothing would ever happen so they'd never develop any of those limiting beliefs that we all developed and the answer is that that we don't have that and we can't protect them all day and the scary thing is we're probably the biggest danger of all you know and on a deeper level like that we're the ones i mean if you think about it the average person goes to a shrink they're probably talking about their parents more than anyone else so it's it's like we're the ones trying to protect them but we're also the ones doing all the damage so so anyway the we have these stories and and those stories wind up being exactly what our brains navigate for you see the the possible you isn't like your average personal growth seminar it's actually a technology that transforms the way that a part of your brain called default mode network works and i only got to learn all the brain science of it much later than when coach menachem did the seminar so i i understand things that i didn't understand then even though i've been teaching the seminar for so many years the it's like i don't know 19 years now and like 9 000 graduates 95 i'm even i think we're even at a thousand now with the zoom webinars by the way yeah what's that i need to come back yeah it's it's really grown it's amazing what's going on in there now and speaking of which it's um coming to lakewood the first time ever on august 30th which is like a major launch for us we have been i feel so bad these people have been driving from lakewood to muncie to borough park and i'm like i want people driving all over the world for this i feel so bad that they come in you know and they so we're finally going to lakewood which is really exciting we're trying to hit a critical mass of those people driving in that we're finally going to come there and and and please god have a beautiful seminar so i have i have muncie on the on the 23rd of this month and then the 30th of uh august will be um lakewood with an intro the week before thursday night on whatever day that is the 27th or something anyway uh so so here we are going through these you know going through our lives in such a way so so here's the muscle and actually uh because you grew up in muncie coach menachem you'll like this is that when you're driving down palisades parkway and and i love this because there's such beautiful herds of deer all the time you know you see a whole herd sometimes like i saw like 10 12 deer so usually i'm a passenger so i i always say to my driver did you see those deer i mean it was like you couldn't miss this amount of deer and some of them had like big racks of you know big giant antlers and a big amount of deer wasn't a little amount and they're not exactly the same color as grass you know and and they're right on the edge of the highway and i it's two different trips a couple weeks ago i asked the driver did you notice those deer you see the deer and he was like what dear what dear he didn't see any deer and the reason is and they've discovered this scientifically that while you're driving down palisades parkway 90 of your brain is not seeing anything you see there's a tyrant inside your brain that's this conductor like an orchestra conductor and you know right now it's an oboe solo so oboz like this long tube it's a quieter instrument so he has to tell the 30 violinist to be quiet so the conductor's like like this to the to the violinists well he's going like this to the oboe player and he's like up with the elbow down with the violins and he's conducting everything so you have a conductor inside your brain that's constantly keeping your brain on low you know slow quiet keep all the instruments quiet so your brains as little networked as possible so that you can stay ten percent of your brain on task so they've discovered that 90 of what we see most of the time we don't even see it's just predictive models from every other time you drove down the highway and that's one of the reasons why you would prefer a 35 year old drive you from muncie to lakewood than a 16 year old because he just has much more past for the predictive models that he's really not going to see anything but that car in front of him and he's predicting for everything and sorry the ten percent of them that's on task is really on the front bumpers and the cars in front of them and he's he's really ready for all that that's where his brain's on now here's the here's the point is that our brain can't distinguish that network called the default mode network cannot distinguish between 65 miles per hour down the palisades parkway and walking into a wedding it can't distinguish the two both feel just as scary because on the highway you have a risk of you know grievous bodily harm from a car accident god forbid whereas a wedding has the fear of rejection how how am i coming off in the other people's eyes and then there's business and all the meetings and interviews and everything we're doing in business is is the fear of failure which for the human brain it doesn't know the difference between crashing in a highway god forbid or showing up in a business meeting and then you have a third fear that was rejection the rejection was the wedding and uh any other time you're you know going to schule or whatever and wondering what everyone's thinking about you or there was the business stuff which is the fear of failure the third fear is the fear of being out of control and that's going to meet your kids menahel right it's not called minha hell for nothing yeah which means from hell just kidding we we love all minha hells but people are often scared to death you know because they feel like the fate of their children is in someone else's hands and and that's the fear of being out of control and once again we're not really present we're just you know totally on task and we're not we're not there and so it turns out that you can actually get that default mode network of yours to go shh be quiet this is not an emergency someone actually spent 50 60 70 000 tonight for me to enjoy myself at this wedding if you don't mind i'm gonna dance around a little bit and uh meet a few new people for a change without alcohol like i don't need alcohol to to you know to uh confuse the default mode network though it is interesting that you see someone have one drink next to another dancing they're talking dancing to strangers they're talking to strangers and dancing around the center of the circle like this you know with one glass of wine like what happened all of a sudden and we we actually can get the default mode network to settle down and one of my favorite stories is when i'll speak to someone in the week after the seminar and the the guy will say that he he was making kiddush that shabbos after the seminar and he looks across the room he sees his wife for the first time because his default mode network had had her on some kind of predictive models and so he wasn't present there the orc the tyrant i called the orchestra the orc the um conductor of the orchestra he has somehow removed the orchestra the conductor's baton from his hand and he's able to see his wife and many have said that they just they saw their wife and they felt like they could just start sobbing and wives have said this about their husbands and then but then he looks over and sees his children who are like they're also just they've become concepts you know children themselves can become because the brain has two options experiential which we were saying is the ten percent and then ninety percent is just conceptual where i've just become conceptual and and uh coach monaco you may remember from the seminar when we talked about experiential versus conceptual living and the move that all of us made when we were about 11 12 years old was we we did a surgical maneuver called get the world atomy it's a world ottomy and that's get the world out of me because little kids why do we want to protect little ones so much because they it all goes in them like they're like sponges and they're taking in everything and they're they're just trying to get through their childhood without getting too embarrassed or or being called a failure or laughed at or or uh or controlled or whatever so so we uh so we're just we're able to stop seeing the world conceptually because oh i was saying around 11 12 years old is when your brain gets good enough to actually start conceptualizing life where you just get the world out that's why you'll notice teens are very cool about stuff you know you can tell them like the craziest news ever they're just like so what's that have to do with me you know you're like your high school blew up like you know that's that's that has to do with you you know or whatever and they're they're just they're just like yeah so because everything everything's been pushed out but the problem is is we forgot to put a switch see a paramedic has a switch you know they're present with their family but when they run into a house full of screaming people in blood or whatever they're they're they're not they don't walk in and go ah you know they're conceptual and this is the same reason why surgeons don't operate on their own family because how are they supposed to stay conceptual when the when the person on the operating table is a family member and so they won't operate because there's a time for being conceptual and some of those times are in crisis or in emergency situations you want to be conceptual in there you want to kind of shut down the rawness of the experience but but sadly so many of us are shut down for the rawness of the experience of our own spouse or the children or our parents and especially our in-laws you know who's not conceptual about their in-laws and and but here's the thing is kid-ish has become a concept i'm going to switch to you this guy no kiddish is becoming so by the time the guy's already sobbed over his wife and kids now when he makes kiddus there's no wine left in the cup by the time he's done there's no wine left in the cup because he's just like yomashi she like all of a sudden he just realizes how many years have i been saying this like it's not yomashi it's you why do we start the kid is with the wrong day you know and then by yomashviii he didn't stop on yamashvii he stopped on yamashii so now it's like we're on yommashree and now we're saying he stopped on yamashiri i thought he stopped on yom shishi so it's like what's going on here so the guy can barely get through kiddish because kiddush all of a sudden is like opening itself up to him and shahri says like forget about it like he comes home two hours late from because he's he's still on nishmas he's you know the everyone's gone home the kiddish is over he's on nishmas just trying to figure it all out because the whole world opens up and then later he's with us and it's a very difficult place for us and he used to have this like this like film between him and the death of like this is a difficult thai swiss now anyone trying to learn a taste of us calling it difficult it's going to be difficult boy does it get difficult but once the default mode network shuts down toastpost opens up because josephos did not he's not at all trying to make be difficult here there was no trying to be difficult he was actually saying things very clearly but but it's going to require some you know first of all the possibility that i'm a bente and to be able to say i got this and the commitment going into it that i'm going to get this and you know this is mine i'm sure this is the learning that i'm doing right now and then i mean it just opens up and everything else seems seems to open up and open up and open up open up and then you're in a business meeting and it's like you're actually so much more interested in the person you who you're meeting at the business meeting than the business you're discussing and who doesn't want to work with someone so interested you know it's like it's like wow wow this person's like really interested in me and then you know you go for you go for an interview and you wind up interviewing them you're like tell me about yourself they're like i thought i thought you're the one getting interviewed like well yeah but if we're going to spend 10 minutes together you know might as well enjoy each other you know like like just tell me two things about yourself you know how long you've been interviewing people in this company anyway now how do we start before you go on what what how does that happen and why does it happen why does somebody come from experiential to conceptual why do we shut down and everything becomes conceptual well if you notice there's no pause button on life and because i've already gone through certain things you know embarrassments or any other difficulty um what happens is i'm vigilant now before i was talking about being vigilant for the car in front of me i'm vigilant now for very specific triggers that anything should trigger those feelings about myself again and so those are called triggers and and this is why for example you cannot get to a therapist within a month of pesach if you didn't order in advance you know because everyone knows they're going to get triggered by uncle this and triggered by that one and triggered by that one and and everyone's going to by the way in america thanksgiving it's like you can't get a therapist for two months before thanksgiving because of all the different family members that trigger them and so i mean you have people you have people there ceo of a company but they were the fourth child in the family and their oldest brother just causes them to totally shut down which is such a joke because the oldest brother now works at a car wash you understand it's like it's like one guy's a millionaire a ceo and the other guy works in a car wash but meanwhile he's got three sessions at a shrink coming into uh coming into thanksgiving dinner for the triggers so what causes what caused us to shut down was that was just our vigilance for our triggers that that default mode network has to somehow navigate the dangers of life and those dangers for each one of us is something else because each one of us has our own story you know it's really your unique things that you're that you're watching out for i can keep going anyway but the bottom line is is that i thought you were going to ask how do you get it to shut how do you get it to shut down how do you get the default mode network to be quiet and the answer is and this was the amazing thing i discovered and coach menachem like another thing that like i discovered in last year's is that when you are when you are when you go down the rabbit hole of what your default mode network part of your brain is is vigilant for it just drops its baton it's a discovery i mean it's just a discovery that i made that that it can't keep telling you who you are meaning that secret limited who you are like not good enough not lovable not capable um not good looking not smart you know uh small weak worthless like every single thing and by the way you you know human beings we think uh psychologists tell us today that we think some 60 000 thoughts a day and you want to know which are the dangerous ones so you all learned about legend hearts the ones you speak right yeah that may be dangerous for you spiritually to speak flesh and heart but there's some words that are much worse because think about it the words you say are the ones you tailor for the listener what about the other what about the other 59 000 thoughts of the day where we're vicious against ourselves where we are ruthless in what we will say about ourselves and i mean we're really really rough on ourselves and and it's mozi shamrock i mean can you imagine sitting in a shabbos table and someone says to you someone's like so coach menachem what do you think about uh yankee goldstein and you're like oh that guy is uh it feels like kind of an ugly guy and uh you know stupid and worthless and uh no one really wants him around so he's unwanted and he's uh he's uh you know he's kind of weak the guy's lost he's just lost a failure you know with having everyone's job as they would be like coach monaghan we can't speak that way about people he'd be like oh sorry no he would never say that about someone else and uh i bless you and i hope that as a possibly graduate you never say that about yourself coach but a lot of work yeah but we will say the darndest things about ourselves we're ruthless just ruthless and and what happens is that you can only speak that way about yourself if it's under the radar now that stage one is what are you really saying the other thing is if you're saying that stuff you don't want anybody to hear it you know can you imagine if you had a megaphone one morning you wake up and you're walking down the street everyone's looking at you like you're nuts and what was happening there's a megaphone off your head two megaphones saying everything you're thinking about yourself off your head you know what you would do i mean you'd find the nearest basement as soon as possible and like cover yourself with blankets and like someone get these megaphones off my head we say all that stuff we'd never want anyone to hear it so what do we do we create a personality that is the personality we want everyone to know and then we vigilantly protect it for the rest of our lives and we're holding we're holding muscles we're holding you know if we're just we're people are holding so tight sometimes in seminars um i haven't done this in a while i mean since corona i've only done two seminars one in borrow park three weeks ago and two weeks ago in muncie but sometimes i'll take a participant to the front of the room and so you know only if he's game i'm not going to embarrass someone so he comes up to the front of the room and i i take his hand i say let me hold your hand so he gives me his hand and i raise his hand up to here and then i say okay give me your hand he's like i gave you my hand and then what do i do i let go and he's still holding his hand up i said i said give me your hand and he says so he puts his hand in my hand i raise it up i say know give it to me put all your weight there like really let go and then i drop my hand and guess what it's still up it doesn't go down and we really what everyone realizes there is that we're all holding well think about it if i can't let go of my hand when i'm being asked to and someone's actually i was ready to bear the weight and arms aren't light i know when someone's giving it to me because it weighs about 10 12 pounds and you know when someone dropped 10 total pounds in your hand and i can just feel this guy won't let go and we don't let go and it's all parts it's all kinds of parts of our body in fact the only reason i got to the possibly you was because my mine was uh by the way i'll share with you my word because it doesn't mean anything to me anymore it's that story is no longer relevant but my word was unacceptable i was humiliated at 10 years old in shul and uh and i just i just felt so unacceptable in the eyes of others i guess the person who humiliated me who didn't even try to it was like the most meaningless situation like there was no one humiliating me but i was humiliated and that that were i think that person was particularly popular and i wanted to be accepted by everybody and i was younger than everybody in this situation and i just got like unacceptable now what do i do and now that i'm unacceptable and i'm not 10 years old so like i got 100 years of this now you know like what am i going to do and believe me i didn't you think you went to your parents to tell them hey hey mom and dad guess what it's i got terrible news i just found out i'm dumb no we just sit at the shopper's table like this suddenly you realize because all it takes is opening your mouth at a shop that's able to have an older sibling say that was the dumbest thing i've ever heard in my entire life and now it's twice because it happened in school earlier that day and now it's shabbos you know it happened again it's like oh my gosh this is real and you learn real quick the personality of shy and then i'm saying oh he's shy we actually have names for these things it's amazing that we can actually believe a person's shy shy isn't a personality shy is is a chess move we made to protect the king because the king's in trouble with you know with being dumb which is the that one of those voices our ruthless barrage of of voices that we'll attack ourselves with and so we create shy and if it's failure maybe we'll create lazy you know lazy who's going to ask a guy who's lazy to do anything and so you're totally off the hook now all this goes on vibrationally so people's people sense you know you know not to ask the lazy guy to do anything and you know not to ask the shy person what time it is on the street they're literally saying don't ask me you know i'm not the person that's going to give you the time i'm not giving you the time of day so so the so we actually have developed a vibrational cover-up by the way the inner the inner negative voice is also vibration that has its own vibrations and and you know why how did the brother friday night pick up to tell that kid that that was the dumbest thing he ever heard in his life had he picked that up the older brother he normally doesn't speak that way to him but once it locked in in school and he didn't tell his parents because it's nice when your kids come home and they have an issue like that you can see it on their eyes something happened that day and you can uncover it and you can restore them on the spot restoring adults is more difficult because once that vibration's there it just keeps coming and coming okay god created the world everything's made of elluce i'm not going to give a kabbalah share but this whole world's made of vibration everything even what you're hearing right now is all just it's just movement vibrational energy got my guitar back there i'll get that thing going a little bit but like believe me the a string which you might have heard before you know uh it's moving at 440 oscillations per second while i'm seeing you uh my vocal cords are moving 440. so there's a lot of science in this and so i create a distraction vibrational personality which is like has nothing to do with that beautiful two-year-old who's eating mulch as coach menachem said i love that you know and dancing around you know it's like we all have these beautiful personalities you know uh usher and uh coach menachem and everybody i uh when i have you know a men's seminar so i often get these rabbis uh you know there are yeshiva rivers and you know we've actually had a couple of rabbit rivers and um and uh you know many dionym and generally generally the it's funny when i come to do a seminars often the first seminar has got a lot of manhiki because they're like let me get in there before the everyone else gets in there so the so when what happens is the um how do i get on the money and the oh i ask a kid ask a kid in the group um sorry one of the rebbe's in the group i say anyone here was a rabbi of three-year-olds learning olive base and so one of them raises his hand i always arrive at them tell me did any of those three-year-old little hey there boys was there was any two of them alike and they say no zero overlap like there was no overlap of any kid it was like it was like it was like uh you know by the way i've had some from sopmir so it's like four classes 40 in a class and they're all named by the way but they're they're like zero overlap it was like 40 worlds inside my classroom each one was his own world and then i asked another uh rebbe in the class i say ah you're a you're a rebbie of uh of the 12 year olds that turned 13 yeah that year i said yeah were any of those two kids different and he's like no no these were these were like self-amputating kids meaning that like anything that individuates these kids they will self you know just shave off the appendage of individuality just to like get through in as uniform a way as possible [Laughter] i remember now you told me the format oh i'm i'm so sorry i i'm like the energizer bunny you just get me going i just keep going um anyway so the wrap-up the basic wrap-up is is that is that there's a beautiful child inside of all of us it's a personality that is the soul meets the body perfect nexus a perfect fusion of who god made you and and that's all i'm giving people and when they have that and the vibrational energy that they've been kind of shooting into the future of like don't ask me you know or i'm the guy by the way those are all shy and lazy are flight but plenty of people got fight and i was doing that cool thing all those years and that's that's a fight vibration energy and that's you know i'm gonna dominate this situation that's exhausting and like your loved ones have to like jump through circus hoops all the time just to keep up with you and it's like you're an exhausting character to be in to have as a family member or a friend and all of a sudden you can just get back the beautiful child you suddenly get playful again and and it's a pleasure to be with you and be around you and and connect anyway so so just in in conclusion is uh so i've been doing this all these years and i'm inviting everyone you know to to join me i have zoom webinars i actually have a zoom webinar east coast uh on zoom tomorrow 11 for women and you can just go to rabbi yomtov.com and sign up if you're of the female persuasion and the uh and if you're on a um if you're on a non-smart phone or no internet if you're just a call-in so then there's a phone number that you can dial which is uh just uh 0.11972 take out your pen oh one one nine seven two five zero two nine two six zero zero nine o one one nine seven two five zero two nine two six zero zero nine and last so when i was uh usher when i was doing the seminar in new york last week i had many people who were at the zoom seminar came to the actual live seminar for the not the two hours a day but the 24 hour over four days and the ones who had done the zoom seminar were like we're like ahead of the game because they already had all the intellectual property from having done the you know the corona the corona seminar you know the zoom assembly okay what kind of questions you got what do you got i remember that let's take a little poll let's see everybody's holding here tonight and everybody is a little uh i'm going to say personally a little confused we want to break down these questions want to see if we have things in us that are holding us back and i want to really break it down so people understand what we're talking about here so not all in a daze let's or the place unless really we're gonna that's what we're not coming here we're here to break it down to the simple people let's take first of all everybody who's on i want to interesting poll turn it on okay everybody this is a anonymous poll we want to show rabbit glazer who we are what we're doing here tonight do you feel like you're living your ultimate potential in life there's four options yes i'm right on target is option a b i feel like i'm missing some some sometimes but i'm trying option c i feel like i am failing in life d i don't i don't like to think about these questions so the first question is again you feel like you're living your ultimate potential life yes i'm right on target i feel like i'm missing something but trying i feel like i'm failing i don't i don't like to think about these questions the follow-up question to number one is number two what are you doing to stay on target to get where you want to be option a learning music app should be talking it out with professionals mentors option c i don't know how to go about it option d i don't feel like i could accomplish my potential everybody please vote read the questions it's anonymous we don't know who's saying who but we're gonna get a general feel of what the crowd is every glazer and you're gonna get all your information right here you ready that's so cool it's really i love it okay five seconds everybody five four three wait wait you're doing too fast two one zero okay um where do how do i click if i want to click you no you can't click cause i know your answers are ready okay let's share the results you ready twelve percent of people here tonight they came here just to say hello to you every place they have no reason to being here they're right on target they're perfectly good they are not missing anything a whopping 62 percent they feel like they're really trying but they're missing something they don't know what but they're missing something 20 percent feel like they're really failing six percent feel like they don't like to think about these questions the follow-up to the question what what are you doing to stay on target where you where you want to be 36 obviously turning to learning in toronto which is learning muslim 34 percent are talking with professionals and mentors and 26 don't know how to go about it and don't feel they can accomplish their potential you see these answers wow there are i think there's amazing results over here so bottom line i'm getting out of here tonight people want to live their potential and people are trying whether it's learning with via torah which is amazing or talking to professionals to really get there and i think that's one of the main reasons why you're here tonight so we really want to take a lot of people's questions everybody please turn on your camera i have 400 000 questions for him so i'm sure everybody at least has one because i don't know what he's talking about to me this is chinese and i really want to understand what he's talking about and i really want to get it stop sharing that and uh let's start up i'll start off with the opening question and everybody wants to ask a question please text me management please bounce questions off me malcolm is much more familiar with robert glaze insurance but the first question from some of the pre questions that we got which i thought was very interesting and everybody talks to money let's start with money money money talks right question i love to have a more luxurious life with more money and more flexibility live a little bit more comfortable but i don't think it's the right thing i don't think that's what hashem wants from us on this world that's not the reason why we're here so the question is he feels like he wants to live more luxury but he's touching it up that hashem says no don't be swami gushing every glazer what do you think of that is that is he living his potential is he covering his potential wow you're asking me a rabbi question i here i am coming on as the possibility not very long answers good answer but this is not another segment yeah yeah i understand we're gonna but yeah this is we're gonna be yeah this is kind of this is more of my rabbi career um so if the pers if a person's willing to forgo the gosh miss like that uh by all means they should because because they're um you're gonna have every kind of kid you know i'm thinking more about the children here um that you're gonna have every kind of kid and the and the to train your kids in that more luxurious lifestyle is gonna set them up for um for uh potentially unhappy lives um so if you can forego it and and be happy so then by all means forego it if on the other hand there's certain people who just need it as you know we know in torah that certain people like for example when they go bankrupt we have to like support them for a while at the level they're used to if you really need it so then you're gonna be unhappy in your lifetime and now you raised kids as an unhappy parent and that's no good either so you really what i would do if i met such a person i would be i would really take their pulse on their desires uh for for having a little extra gosh miss um and whether it's worth making the sacrifice to go get it the uh i would i would take their pulse on that and see if it's if it's truly what they need so then they're gonna be the best parent that way but if they could forego it forgo it should a person live his life different based on his children and so the answer is if he if the answer is yes if he's happy or she's happy if on the other hand they're not going to be happy living their lives for their children meaning meaning foregoing stuff for their children and they're going to be unhappy about that so then they're they're not doing anyone a service you know they've taught their children how to have unhappy lives because we're modeling we're much more than what we say and do is you know how we're doing is modeling for our kids so i i personally feel that that it's uh that it's worth it to forego things for for our kids unless we're not we're just not going to be happy campers at which point then it's no longer worth it and you know let our kids deal with it you know it probably would have been it would have been better for my kids growing up in you know in carlene and maya sharing that they would have you know that their father didn't ride a mountain bike but they would have had one unhappy father and so so i trained them in mountain biking okay rabbit rabbit laser we have a lot of quite a few live questions people want to ask you and i want to go back to the basics of the fundamental of the issues because i jumped into into a serious question we're going to go back a little bit to build up about you know about what a person's interest let's start off with scott scott you're there so malaysia hey you got to give him a little history scott we go back i did the possibly you probably three times about 15 years ago and i was a big very close to yom toe back in the day when i lived there strong went to asia bought hashem we go way back and he definitely changed my life and in the whole it's just an amazing amazing everyone should definitely do it um and you can have the opportunity to get close with uh rabbi yomto so that's also amazing um so my question what is your question grasshopper um you're touching on it you just started touching on it regarding being a parent right we we we we right a lot of our reason that people are have issues is because they're parents right right so how do we as parents how do we not how to make sure that our kids don't have those issues and are happy when they're older so so the muscle i like to give is that we think we can drive our car without taking it into the shop for like 30 years straight you know i bet there's a couple people still driving around in like a an oldsmobile station wagon in lakewood from like 1970 and like they're still driving around with that thing and but when you're in that car it's just praying that you're gonna get meaning they would never take it out of town because they'd just get arrested for driving it but but when you're in that car you smell fumes why because there's a pipe going under the entire car and it's getting corroded from salted roads and years and years and years and years and years of not getting changed well if the exhaust pipe's blowing smoke up into the car will it goes into the cabin and so the way i like to say it is we're smoking our kids out in these old cars of ours because we're still you know we're and we're thinking oh you can't teach an old dog new tricks you guys saw the pool we just had you know you can't teach an old dog new tricks well i've got news for everybody you're not a dog and the and what happens is when you bring your car into the shop and you let your motor cool you can actually put yourself in the line of fire of somebody who trains people to clean their fuel like there's an oil filter clean it there's an air filter clean it there's a change the oil it's full of metal parts after a year of driving and 30 years forget about it and so we we can't go with the dictates of our the narratives which are often built off our parents as i said you know we're generations and telling stories about tunnel number four and it's often dysfunctional you know we cover up our dysfunction with with world view with ashkaffa you can know wherever you wherever you have hashgraph i don't mean torajko i mean your own hush wherever you have a coffee you're probably covering something up that's just that's the beauty is that like once you know that formula all you have to do is see some hush coffee you've created and you know behind there you're hiding something and that's what's messing up our kids when you burn clean fuel you have a safe home but um scott i you know i realized oh sure i'm going a little along with this but but you want to hear the real answer is the answer is distinguishing acceptance and approval remember that monaka yeah distinguishing acceptance and approval because what happens is if you're an observant jew you have high standards of approval high standard even if you're not jews just have a lot of categories that were very high standard so you have high standard approval what happens you wind up only accepting whoever you approve of so instead of approval and acceptance it's like i only meaning two separate subjects they get blurred and i wind up only accepting those i approve of and what that does is it makes our kids feel unsafe because here we're building a home with high standards as you should you should always have high standards of approval but because it gets blurred with acceptance our children feel unsafe and you know you don't want to try that in america i mean because america as you all know with the millennials running around in the the black lives matter and the whole things going on out there that that that those those um the the left-wing radical liberal you know socialist undercurrent that's not now the overcurrent because they've shamed all the other people to silence is that they're all about acceptance and they've thrown out approval you know there's like not only you see our what's our problem is observances we have high standard approval and therefore i only accept whoever i approve of that's our problem is that we're unsafe for everybody because think who do you love you love whoever accepts you that's it and who do you hate whoever doesn't accept you like the people that you love are the people that accept you and so if your standards of approval are that high and blurred with acceptance so you wind up you're just you're just scary for people and scary for your own children in america acceptance is the highest value and they have that blurred with approval and so what happens is that they say they say well not only do you have to accept everyone you also have to approve and therefore there are no more standards there's no such thing as guy or girl anymore do you know the majority of people under the age of 25 when they're asked on a questionnaire whether they're male female or other the majority of people put other and you can't beat other but yet people choose other now and and so in other words you're living in a country that's safe for being being different being being anything you want and even if it goes against the actual nature of creation itself and so so if your home has acceptance and approval blurred and you've got these high standards well the grass is greener and to the children it looks like wow you know america looks a lot safer than my home you know american culture is like you're accepted no matter what it actually calls them it beckons them so it's so important that we distinguish acceptance and approval just that's acceptance that's approval we have high standards of approval but you're accepted no matter what and so an answer to your question scott and there's two things one is is our our crew you know narratives that has got us because we've never worked them through burning you know not clean fuel sending smoke into the cabin in the car but the other is that we have acceptance and approval blurred and our kids generally just genuinely feel like they're only going to make it in your home based on your standards and now some of you might be thinking well what are we supposed to do not outstanding the answer is that that you want to guarantee your kids our and grandkids and great-grandkids are observant you make your home the most accepting home there is with the standards with the standards and you you can those two simultaneous exist they have separate definitions so why can't they simultaneously exist full acceptance full standards of approval all right beyond this we have a lot more questions um i want to make sure your internet is good it says the bandwidth is low and uh i want to make sure you're super clear so just make sure just be aware of that my band that's strange hear you clearly i hear you clearly i have all my heart okay good very good okay you do you ready jim should protect here we go you go to my friend i heard about trinidad for the kids and um the word i think was how we mess up the kids or not so i want to know if there's any any um standard that you could speak about in a nutshell of what because every child is complicated and it takes a lot of time and effort for keno what what's that actually what you believe in what's your opinion uh is that we do that makes is it high standards is it low standards that mess up the kid and about um children or in general uh answering questionnaires of other i see that the torah deals with not just one other but many types of other in tumtum so it seems like the torah not only could have easily ignored this because how many times do you go to shul and someone asks you this question you know should i put on film or not or which side of the mekita should i sit on but the player actually takes the time and take the time to discuss this um i i doubt they're doing it because they dealt with this in the shout outs to chivas on a daily basis must be the messages to teach us not to fall into the trap that we would believe that there's no other but what do you mean by there is no other so i heard i heard uh um i think a couple of questions there um i think i the the first question i think i more or less handled is that you don't drop your standards your standards are your that is your covenant with god your standards you don't mess with that and you you those standards are what will give your kids a compass that points north for their entire lives and you you don't compromise on standards ever and although one thing i wanted to add you huda is that it's important that whatever standards you're keeping you know what they are i mean there's i mean people they can't tell the difference between a minha uh a gazebo and a derisive you know they they just they they weren't educated properly so it's really important that our kids understand that we're differentiating and distinguishing the rice is and and where what xavier is you know and so and so that's number one i want to say just add that you should get i said have high standards but also be able to distinguish them for your children's your children to have a clear view of judaism and it's not just you know a shy you know as they say like like don't ask questions we which is what you tell people when you don't know what you're doing you know you just tell them shyla is safe so so you um so you we got to know what we're doing as jews you know and what and to distinguish things properly um regarding the other what i meant by uh as no other is that there's there is a binary nature to to reality um there is a plants are male and female fish are male and female all animals behemoths alum male and female and human beings with the exception of the endogamous which are are are male and male or female there is a genetic uh uh person that can be born with both um both features and that as you s so clearly said beautifully that there's you know obviously um is discussing them as well and the the uh but because there's a binary nature to the world what's the word binary is it means there's two binary is two so there's like for example in digital is uh ones and zeros everything digital even what you're hearing right now is all ones and zeros it's a binary and because the very creation's binary and because the the left in in their excitement of acceptance wants to wipe out the binary nature of reality to say there's there's just no such thing as wrong or right they've basically decided they're just going to tear down the whole hierarchy of value all together why because of the hierarchy of competence turns to power and now there's now there's going to be people wielding power and and they're going to step on the lower people on the run those rungs the ladder and it's like yeah that's true so we should probably train change presidents every four years or you know i'm sure most jews would prefer to be eight years this time and the and you know let's change that we have built into the system to deal with power and so that's a wonderful era but let's not throw out like god's creation which has been built with hierarchy of value and there's and we're think about it human beings are born for meaning we're born for meaning like we make meaning out of this world we are meaning making machines and and the and therefore we also have to point for meaning that's higher and brings us more meaning and then lower that brings us less meaning and so we can you know we can prioritize our time and our efforts and there but there's but the ultimate value is is good and the ultimate devalue is bad and that hierarchy of values is like if you'll notice every civilization that's lost their hierarchy of values god pulls the plug on them you know we have two stories in the tour of that we have the flood we have uh southern snowy minima but it's many other civil whole civilizations that's that conquered the world at point at times where just god just pulls the plug on them if they lose their the hierarchy of values let's go we have another live question i want to turn it on it's really your own yeah uh you had discussed earlier about how we you know experience life differently sometimes we're more present and you have mentioned that story about somebody who began being more present and suddenly saw his wife and children that traditional a whole different way and i was wondering is that something that we can turn on or off and if yes it's something that we should be turning on or off so for example there may be times where you're maybe don't want to be present something as simple as being stuck in traffic or long grocery line or fabulom or somebody's going through something that's stressful or maybe even worse painful then he may not want to be present the defense mechanism may want to check out so i guess the question is is that possible can we choose we'll turn it on or off or do we have to decide just globally how we want to live our life and if it's something that we can't honor all is it okay to turn it off or we're uncomfortable or are we gonna be losing that out in those cases as well excellent questions really and and then the other question is i thought you were going to ask how do we sustain it like you know that's great they all turned off their default mode network and now they're all experiential but like what about a week later or a month later so i thought you were going to ask that but so the question the question is is absolutely you turn it on and off i mean believe me when a dentist comes after my gums with a needle you know it's like what does that needle have to do with my gums you know i'm gone i'm i'm checking out now and so i'll tell you the truth truly you don't really once you get experiential you don't need to even check out you'll check out naturally when the needles come in for your gums you just check out naturally we we check out when and it's called there's actually a term for it whenever there's something traumatic like that and women will have this at birth and stuff and so that that term is called is called disassociation where we disassociate and that's one of the big reasons why why there's so much work that needs to be done in our communities is because the torture that people went through in the war left people disassociated meaning meaning there are three types of survivors there are physical survivors that's what i grew up i grew up in california where all they did was survive physically but they left everything back in europe like they just you know the holocaust was the nail in the coffin of europe it was nail and coffee yiddish kite it was the only coffin of everything there you know leave it in europe and the survivors survived physically the second kind of survivor the ones who built you know brooklyn you know and eventually lakewood and muncie and all those places and curious they are physical survivors and spiritual survivors meaning they're going to show those nazi bastards and they're going to rebuild judaism in the world and they they're going to show them they built these and we're all you realize we're all observant because of these people there's no way i would have become a balchu if it wasn't for or of north weinberg who grew up in in in flatbush you know no weinberg's no yomtov glazers yeah and all of you have your own story of who survived the war with that iron fist yiddish kite you know which maybe some of you are just trying to get over right now but uh but it was like they gave us that we inherited a yiddish kite that they gave us because of their you know their their their tremendous uh fight that they they're showing the third time the type of survivor are very rare very rare where they survive physically they survive spiritually with their yiddish guy but they also survived with themselves intact there's an eye i have an eye and and you will you'll meet i meet people i mean i've met people from lakewood i have muncie from from williamsburg who never heard their own parents say i love you because if if you don't have an eye i'm not talking about a young generation i'm talking about people in their 40s today because if you don't have an i how do you say i love you how do you say those three words and so i once asked a group of uh of 40 year olds i said i had a group of uh 30 of these guys i said when was the last time any of you said i love you to your wife and so one of them said 10 years ago and everyone else was like very impressed they're like not bad not fat one of them raised his hand and said i told her on our wedding night i love you and if anything changes i'll let you know so anyway one of the guys says 10 years ago but he says rabbit you're not going to believe what i said to her i'm like what do you mean i just asked you did you say i love you you know he says no i i said you are loved it's like general you're you're loved you know i'm we're not sure who loves you it might be you know the lady in the checkout stand but anyway so you got to have an eye to have i love you and and that self-reference and so you know yeah wrap it up because i have a few good questions over there coming in i want to cover ground over here it's getting late okay i just want to share one funny story because i was talking i was trying to find the eye i i was teaching 17 um 17 uh diane you know i i had uh i had a bunch of dionym come to uh to work with me and in workshop and i just couldn't get through to any of them to find the eye because they were all older you know from that european upbringing and uh anyway so i was just trying any so i finally said to them i'm like do any of you like have did you ever have a bad experience when you were a kid and so one of the one of the um elderly ones and the more uh you know the biggest of all the rabbis there he said he said uh he raised his hand he says yeah his father passed away when he was like 12 and i said so what you say you know what you say and he says to me he looks up to me like a hater but he's like i said goddess and i'm like i'm like no what'd you say inside like who are you man it was like two hours with him already i was going nuts i was like trying to find them inside you know and i'm like who are you who are you and he finally holds up a triangular sandwich you know wrap you know those wrappers wrap sandwiches packaged and he shows it to me and he says this is who i am and i look at the sandwich and i'm like you're a sandwich and then he points to the fine print on the sandwich and it's his name he's the rava maksha on the sandwich this is who i am and it was like such a heavy feeling in the air so heavy yeah usher good are you glad i tell the story actually before we go to live questions i think we should go back because of the middle explaining how it goes from a child you make your you create your story and then you justify your story and you're basically in your box and you have your survival strategy or maybe you can elaborate on that and help us understand how does a person know if he's living with that story or maybe he's not how do you know he if he created a story around it around himself and he's just trying to survive or maybe he is thriving how would a person know that and maybe you could share with us a little bit that you mentioned that you started doing things i'll mention that everybody knows about the surfing and then when you found out that it was all a survival strategy and then you were like boom so so it's um so there's ways of knowing so again what we call the the belief about ourselves that's called the inner negative belief and that's all the 60 thoughts throughout the day and then what we do is we cover them up with this external personality that are that's either fight or flight we mentioned shy versus uh you know dominating and cool or the mass made or the kodak you can become to survive right exactly so so the um so how you know it's real is every how do you know it's authentic like actual genuine and how you know it's just your bluff like this move you made a chess move is a couple things one is how people interact with you how successful because this is like literally the key for success because when you're burning clean fuel and it's genuine and authentic people just are so excited to be around you i mean i'm sure you've noticed coach monaco you're ma you're you have a magnetism that's coming from a very genuine place and people just light up i walk through jerusalem with a mask on like i just walked through town because i was getting my hairs cut i call it a hairs cut oh sure because no one ever got one haircut so i was walking through town to get my hairs cut on on uh you know the heir of shabbos and with my mask i have not been in public at all you know since i flew back you know barely been i haven't really walked through town during the day at least and and i'm going through town and everyone random people are like smiling just from my eyes or smiling at me you get that feedback when it's genuine when it's real but here's the here's the you don't have to wait for others you can just simply realize how exhausted are you at the end of a day you should be energized you should be energized when you're generating from clean being because think about those thoughts those negative beliefs that's our being as opposed to the doing which is the fight and flight what i do so there's being and there's doing and so if my doing is a cover-up for rotten being so that means i'm all that doing and ladies and gentlemen does doing take effort you bet it takes effort so you're like putting out all this effort well efforts got to come from some energy where's it coming from covering up something that's like ye you know it's negative things and so what happens is you get exhausted and also i mentioned the holding you don't know how to drop it it's not just there's micro muscles uh all kinds of parts of our body so you're holding the immune systems shut down meaning meaning often catching colds or whatever generally exhausted specifically exhausted when um when you're being called into action by by your job or different situations um you find that you're taking more than giving and and i realized one day and it was only because i would never have discovered any of this except that all that unacceptable attacked my colon and i literally was was like i was lined up for surgery to have my colon removed i was 33 years old and the embarrassing thing that happened to me at 10 years old uh took you know and by the way to happen in the bathroom and this crazy thing is that i didn't leave the bathroom for 23 years you know that humiliating thing was just a stupid thing it was the girl three years older walked in the men's bathroom by accident and for some reason that was just so humiliating to me and 23 years later i stepped out of that bathroom for the first time and i would never have stepped out of that i would have stayed in my you know because by that was when i was 10 by the time i was 11 i was a lead singer lead guitar player of a band taught myself how to drive when my parents were asleep and and i just like was i was life in the fast lane for years i was the coolest guy ever when i got to asia torah cool these days being cool and yeshe was cool in those day 91 being cool in yeshiva was like it had no currency it's like trying to buy a starbucks coffee with a 20 shekel bill you know it's like they you can't sell it i'm sorry you can't buy it with 20 shekels and the starbucks in america in the jfk so so i had no currency for the first time in my life because california surfer is cool asia toyota in 91 it was not cool and so so i just became a must meet but then like a few years later three years later i realized the hasidic world that there's there's a whole other population of jews that still think i'm a good and so and so the next thing you know it's just like like 45 minutes money yes you know who needs who needs lunch when there's minera you know and right osher who needs lunch when there's mincha and and so and so i just become this you know cuddlish guy and uh and then and then i get smirk because like put the cherry on top now i can go be a professional professional attention vampire while ignoring my wife and kids i'm flying around the world god's gift to kirov very close to rav noah weinberg and i'm just like reaching out reaching out reaching out reaching out except ladies and gentlemen am i giving or taking when i'm teaching in class giving or taking coach monaco which one well i know it's taking it's taking and when i was playing concerts i'm playing big concerts you know every week and taking a con i'm not giving a kind i'm taking a concert and i'm coming out exhausted and and are the weak part of our body usually takes it on and for me that was the colon and and i i was barren all the way to my in my digestive system i was i couldn't eat anything anymore i mean by the time i was 33 i couldn't digest nothing i could i could digest water and and by the way i was bubble wrap growing up i was raised in a mansion in california like nothing ever went wrong you understand the closest pedophile was like 11 zip codes away you know like we lived in the garden of eden over there but it doesn't matter how you grow up your fertile mind starts telling you things about yourself and it like you could be raised in the perfect like for example coach menachem shared with us like he was raised also in his own garden of eden over there in the in the beautiful funny next video just happens to be funny oh yeah right and uh anyway so we have been um so basically you're saying when you feel like you're exhausted at the end of the day or you feel like you're your inner self you're not simply you're not happy you don't have that energy it means that you're using all your shades to cover up everything and it's exhausting and you feel like you're really not accomplishing am i correct is that is that that's right and and yeah it's very good summary invite and also vibrationally things are you're not getting that siata de shmaya like there's incredible success that's available to the vest and that's what we started with right when coach monaco gave it to me now we got that let's let's let's take one all right wait uh just make sure we have time for the meditation that's that's the first part one second let me take a live question and then we'll go back to the next step okay put on jeremy jeremy hello hello how are you jeremy i'm seeing you i'm not seeing the rabbit i got to find the rabbis you know who you are do you know who you are hopefully oh there you are rabbi okay thank you for taking my question okay um there's a lot there's a lot here so i've been watching for like i think it's an hour and a half now um there's a lot so anyway i have a few things first of all you mentioned you're bringing a program to lakewood i just want to throw it out you know i checked out your website i don't see the dates there or information for the introduction so if you could share it at some point during this month we'll send it out tomorrow very good perfect um you're saying a lot i want to go back to what coach madoka said in the beginning and i i pretty much quote verbatim last week we had rabbi rabashkin he spoke to us about amuna and vitacon this week we're going to have rabbi young to blazer he's gonna i forgot the exact words but basically walk us through life all of the the minutes right and then i'm gonna pause my video i'm gonna look at that flyer live the life you've always wanted to live grab a young glazer and you're you're throwing out a lot of information which is awesome bring me back to please live the life you've always wanted to live and bring me back to what coach what said at the beginning rabbi glazer is going to walk us through day to day um i've taken similar programs i'm stuck in between if you're selling a product here which i know your product is awesome or it's like this regular sheer that we're used to and i just want i don't want you to give closing statements because we do that at the end but i want you to tell me like you know give it to me right here what am i walking away with kind of because i'm getting a lot and it's overwhelming you know what i'm saying uh yeah i'm i i mean i'm i'm trying to isolate the question exactly but um and and for sure yeah and um and for sure the the and that when you mention i'm selling something i i am for sure um what i'm what i'm selling ultimately is the possible you you um monokum's your first name jeremy oh sorry jeremy what's your hebrew name your meow israeli attack i'm selling the possible you meaning you and and yeah so i i i don't want to direct you i took i'm a landmark graduate so a lot of what i'm saying sounds very familiar and i'm trying to like i want to walk away with something and i'm like okay this is very familiar this is cool and we cover a lot of ground and i'm like okay like monday morning like i'll go to bed now i'll wake up tomorrow morning what do we have that's what i that's what i want to get at i should say jeremy i should have saved you for the last question because i'm getting i'm getting i'm getting it we're finally starting to get into it yeah except except i'd like to hear you or menachem tell me what his actual question is because meaning he keeps saying like okay i wake up tomorrow in the morning what do i have but i'm i'm not sure exactly he would keep him open for the end keep him open so we can hear what he took out and hopefully we'll fix him up the first thing that you learn one second the first thing you learned is do you feel your energy level at the end of the day do you feel positive do you feel knocked out if you have no energy do you feel the positive vibrations what do you feel that's the first question question for me for you don't answer that we'll come back to that no he wants me to answer dead at the end of the day totally wiped out what's the question okay okay so no but i've tried to differentiate what i would get i understand he has a program rabbi glazer right there that's the whole training i've done trainings i get it and then there's like just tonight like practical applications like hey i think you can do x y and z like this is what i think is what's up and two hours because obviously you can't give your whole program in two hours right so i'm just trying to grasp and i'm not i'm not grasping that's all i've got a whole bunch of different things which i've known about stories and trauma and past and parents and you know i know a lot of that and like you know i've started my question yeah it's okay um um so i i think i'll say a couple things um number one is is that the the default mode network doesn't go down uh doesn't go down easy um so certainly as you said very well jeremy that that these two hours it's uh it's not going to be uh you know you're it's not going to put down its guard in these two hours all i'm doing in these two hours is just kind of putting putting the the the prize out that you can live the life you you want and that's what's in the title is live the life you want so that i have have as the title because you can live that um the but the other thing is that there's a there's a term called integration and integration means that that that like for example if i hook my phone up to my stereo system in my car with the bluetooth so now my phone's now part of that stereo it's been integrated into the whole system and it now works that way now when you go to oh so so going back now the possible u works and and like other trainings only this one's uh i'd like to distinguish this from other trainings but what happens is all trainings where you're doing personal transformation are multi-day in a row it has to be multi-day in the road because the only way to get your default mode network to go quiet is to have you not re fortified each day see if it was once a week you just come back re re-armed with your way of being in the world because we put our way of being into the world and the and so we need to have it day after day after day beretsa now now there's there's other issues though and one of them is there's many people with with extreme pain and and so meaning there's a lot of pain inside and so what happens is often in these large group trainings there's not the option for that um there's just not the option for the all for the release of that the emotional toxins so one of the things that distinguishes the possibly you is we do allow for um the program actually brings you i don't know if you remember coach menachem some of the intensities in the in the dark in there but we do allow for the intense emotional cleansing and and by the way we've taken that all the way up many notches because there's uh i i got to myself experience some seminars that worked specifically on emotional toxins so i was thinking like hey i already got these guys and gals with me for four days like we might as well turn up the volume on day three and and by the way day three is the magic day like for example in the u.s government the cia when they're every glacier i'm sorry for cutting off i'm sorry i'm just getting a lot of taxes we got to stay on focus because people are saying that you're all over the place i want to stay on focus and clear no problem the last thing i want to say is just integration is that um when you have someone who's an observant jew training you and you live in an observant community and it's all in context your ability to integrate it later is much higher than if you're going out to some foreign thing and then you're coming back to your dysfunctional family or whatever it is and then you're like oh my gosh like there's like two worlds going on there's that world over there and and then there's this world so so the the i throughout the possibly you is on integration afterwards you got another question so so basically there could be that successful lawyer out there that went to school for many years and you're telling him now that all of this could be because of when ever he picked up that he was not enough and didn't feel good about himself and he decided that he's going to show the world and he's taking this survival strategy and became a big lawyer and you're going to tell now this lawyer um let me talk to you for a minute do you realize that this is the only reason why you really you're a lawyer is because you you don't feel good about yourself and you're trying to cover it up so to show the world that you're a successful lawyer so number one where what he wanted to do should he stop or would you tell him this straight out it's very scary for a person to hear all everything he put in for many years and years coitus and you're going to tell them now it was all for not really a cover-up yeah how does that work so listen to this here's a there's an amazing question that comes up when if you tell the lawyer that he just waste you know he just spent all this time covering up some stupid thing and who knows you know the thing he was saying wasn't even true by the way it's an inner negative belief it's not even true it's just some belief so so here's here's the thing is when you it causes a question in the person and you'll ask that question automatically since your mics are on coach menachem and osha um ask the question i know exactly what question you're going to ask if i'm not those stupid beliefs about myself and therefore wait wait yeah wait listen if i'm not the stupid beliefs i i say it to myself and i'm not the cover-up that i say to everyone else what's the obvious question gentlemen who am i who am i by the way we got a lot of questions people are texting how do i know who i am right so then you get to this who am i moment that why my moment is where you now have the canvas to paint on now you can paint something now he asked coach monaco asked about lawyers so in the end the guy wakes up monday and goes into the law office only all of a sudden he notices that everyone's like coming up to him and saying like how are you how's you know what's up how's the family is like why is everyone asking me about my family like i've been working with these people for 12 years no one ever asked me anything about my family and and why am i getting all these how are yous so the answer is go back to work see i learned guitar i learned that guitar basically that people should think i'm i'm worth having around you know that i'm a you know the cool guy tell me should i quit playing guitar i choose now to play guitar as opposed meaning i get to do it le shma now everyone listen carefully there's no reward in the next world for anything that's not done and this it's called ultima emma's for a reason because it's only what you do in your doing world only what you do to ms is what you get reap the reward of and if your whole life is just cover-ups so then there's no scar there and the only one who gets any scars women because they because they're always doing kindness all day raising families and kindness doesn't require cavanaugh everything else mitzvos all that terror just stays in this world if you're the reason you're a mass me the dying or whatever you are is all has been a cover-up so what i'm ultimately giving people is not just this world but the not i'm giving it but when i'm facilitating i'm what i'm facilitating is not just this world it's the next world because you now now you go back and learn all that torah and it actually comes down all peak ebola if you hazema all the tour that got locked into our this world gets released meaning every time you learn that masekta comes out now if you go back and review the masectolash mod so it's something a lot of people don't know it's like it's a in kabbalah it's taught and it's a very clear clear kabbalah is there anything a person could do anything a person could do let's go down to a little practical what should a person do how does he start realizing it and start tweaking changing you're telling him not to stop he should go back to work but what changes now yeah just go back to work but but let your go with clean energy back into law now there are people who should shift career but it's rare because there there's also there's sha ifas people have a there's a vari in people like this we don't wind up in our situation some people have settled in their in what they do during their day there are people have settled and they may actually uproot what they do and go do what they're dreaming of and live a life they dream of but but in the doing but i would say most people just stick with what they're doing because they're they're as usher as the question who are we you know who are we people want to know well then who am i really so i i discovered um four things we every person is you want to hear the four things four things are one is your nushoma number two the beautiful child personality which will be part of our meditation is you get back your beautiful child number three is you have everyone has divine settings you know coach monogamy you didn't randomly wind up coach menachem this is part of your settings and i'm my own setting that are unique and usher's got his settings first oh boy do i got my settings so these are divine settings and and there's um and by the way coach menachem settings are similar to mine and we're both i i there's actually there's there's those settings are called his settings are hagas which are good luck man intellectuals those are called ones because it's the top of your body well then there's two menachem's a two i'm a two that's uh to ferris and that's interpersonal they all begin with i intellectuals interpersonals and then instinctuals like you're the kind of guy i'd like to drink a shot oh sure with you i'd like to drink a shot while eating chon yeah okay so you're you're a nahinik and the genics are a blast all my best friends are in the enix and uh there was actually one of them was on from borough park i saw him in the corner of my screen is he was like my best friend and like we we just we love to schmooze together and drink a delicious beer together these and all my mountain biking surfings because i'm a two three one i'm mostly interpersonal then i'm instinction coach you're a two one three so you're you're mostly interpersonal then you'd love to get yourself into the ideas and then and then then you'll eat your child you know and you're only gonna eat a little so so the uh i want to bring out a point over here because i wanna get off track i want to stay on track over here the point i want to bring is that is that me myself i want to bring myself personal into it because if i bring myself personally i could talk to you i don't care that other 300 people are here i'm talking about myself there are times like a few months ago i felt there was so much more i could do internally and be so much more but i felt like i didn't have the so i didn't even know how to go about it okay so i'm assuming because i feel like that of course the whole world has to be like that because everybody feels like me so if that's the case people that feel like that you feel like i'm working in a grocery store i have a job that pays me 80 000 a year i barely cover my bills i have a mediocre marriage i have mediocre everything but i feel i have internal coeffices or i know that i could be so much more i don't know how to attain it what is a person who has those questions how does he first find out a what he could attain or what is ending and b how does he start baby steps to actually get there talking to me yeah i'm talking to you so the so oh sure going to share with you a little secret and that is that our job is what and god's job is how okay now with those cocos and and by the way we're on that we we we were not we were not uh off track by the way we were i was talking about nishama then personality and then kokasana fish okay so no we're on call um the fourth by the way just to give it because i never got to the fourth is of who we are is whoever they need me to be and that's number four it's the fun one i call it the shape shifter where like oh oh the stewardess is too short to close all the overhead compartments before the flight so who i am is helpful that's my being i'm helpful and then what i do is i close all the compartments for her i don't just sit there like a rabbi you know because everyone else is ignoring her and i'm noticing that she's just not really reaching this thing so that's number four is the shape shifter what we we do a mantra in the seminar whoever god calls me into being i am because god's constantly sending us new challenges that we've got to do but in answer to your question oh sure we're back to ko jose nefesh stage three of who we are and and that is i got all these cultures but i got a meteor this and a mediocre that and a mediocre everything and i've got these cocos so what i said to you was that our job is always what not how and all i've got to do is commit to what all i do is commit to what like today i was i had a buffer over today and he says to me um that he's found the girl that he wants to marry and he's already told her he wants to marry her but he hasn't asked her to marry her and i and i said to him what are you waiting for and he says well you know i haven't really figured out my partners yet and i'm not sure where i want to live and a couple other details that are all logisticals and i said to him don't you understand logistics follow commitments logistics is the how the commitment is the what logistics follows commitments you commit i promise you you'll have siata de shmaya that's what we call in the seminar and the possibilities large siata deschamps nia's large shiatsu you you you go you say you say what you're committed to and then the siata de shmaya starts coming into your life so my answer for the mr mediocre question is you just commit to something put and go all in you got to go all in you got to do the nakshon ben ami nadav man you jump in there and they and because god favors committed people god push it favors community people there are rabbis bring down bring down there's two worlds there's an oil moteva and there's another and is just the natural world that's where everyone else lives that's the mr mediocre yeah you work your 10 hours a day in your market you get your 80 000 you know it's tit for tat you you this for that you know it's it's uh it is a natural life you know you you work for this you get that but then there's called ola mapella you know the word pella means wonder well oil lemon pellets wonder world you can live in wonder world and what's wonder world wonder world's where you get all in you like get fully in and you burn your bridges on the exit there's no exits yeah i'm getting rid of my exits i can't get out of this you want to hear about siata de shmaya i live in your shalom in a place called my malcom kevua is i somehow won uh getting rabsundo crazers so that's that's my makham kuvoin and and it's where the old old like purushim you know the new noosa ashkenaz you know your xiaomi's are i can introduce you to your xiaomi after you're showing me after your show me with you know big white beards i mean they actually look about 30 years older than they are and they and they have they have married off 14 kids and bought every single one of them a home and you want to know how they did that how did they do that and the answer is commitment because when you have 14 kids you need an exit plan you know it's not like the americans with a 1.2 kid you know and you can imagine what the 0.2 kid looks like and the they got their 1.2 kid where the where their their 38 year old son is still in his baby boy blue room upstairs you know with long hair and you know pale skin because he hasn't seen the sun playing playing video games you know like when you have 14 kids you need an exit plan man those kids are coming in they're going out too and because you got to get those kids out you got you're fully committed and when you're fully committed you are you are just like going to have see normally versus actually doing something versus how does that play out in this so so when i say you you decide on the what you have to make even the smallest moves you don't have to do much when you get all behind something you get all in and you burn your bridges out you don't have to actually do much you can just let it happen i mean crazy stuff happens i just had a you know i just had i i just had a full rebranding that cost like ten thousand dollars to have a full rebranding free at a free full rebranding like that boom it was just maya because because because i'm so all in and i tell you i'll tell you the truth i was standing in front of a seminar like a year ago i'm standing in front of all these guys everyone in the room got to share where they're stuck not everyone had to share fully you know some people were like well i'm stuck in uh you know i'd like to make more money so in other words pass you know you didn't want to really share which is fine not everyone has to share who has time for everyone to share anyway so so anyway when it got to me i said you know so i'm you know i commit to the seminar and everything and my name is anyway but one of the guys said what do you want to where do you want to like what's yours where you stuck rabbi and i'm leading the seminar and so i closed my eyes and i said you know what i'll tell you there's a lot of place i'm stuck but one place i'm stuck now that i can see i'm stuck is that i am not i am there's something holding me back there's some belief inside of me that i'm not going all in when it comes to marketing my seminar i promise you i'm only on here right now because of that statement because that seminar and i cried in there in front of everybody and i'm leading the seminar but i got in touch with what that was that was that was holding me back and what was the belief about myself and how i was covering it up and and i totally caught it and i i exposed myself in front of the whole group which is what i'm asking them to do so i'd be like you know who might ask them to do this if i'm not gonna do it and the next thing i know it's like god just squeezed like a giant gallon of lubrication on my career he just like like dumped a bucket of lube onto my career and and out of nowhere stuff started happening and that's how i'm that's how i'm even on this show right now this is all part of this crazy thing i'm on just just today i ran an intro to my s to the possibly zoom webinar which is by the way ladies starts tomorrow 11 a.m ravioumtube.com monday monday monday monday 11 a.m eastern time so yeah oh my day yeah it's sunny out right now so anyway tomorrow at 11 a.m um it's two hours a day 11 01 sunday monday uh sorry monday tuesday wednesday thursday sunday and um we're gonna go into the following week so so i was at an intro today one of the women who's like found me she's like you just can't believe how i found you online anyway what does she do she has been running she told all the women in the group she said i i've been running webinars longer than you're alive meaning since internet she's been running webinars so what's my new career webinars except what do i know about running webinars except you know whatever i've learned by hook or crook since since corona started and of course now like now you know the full rebranding now i've got a a woman who's like this is her you know this is her bread and butter and it just keeps happening like that i just got like the best flyer maker ever out of nowhere just started sending me flyers and i'm like who are you you know you hire flyer makers you know you don't you don't just like get flyers in your emails that are you know he's just like what's your next event and i'm like i just write you know on such and such a date there's gonna be a this and he's like two hours later another flyer you couldn't pay the guy and you couldn't pay the guy finally my my the manager runs my my whole company finally just says listen we don't know who you are but we're paying you so just like send us your bank details osha you know what he's talking about you've had seated ishmael i know you don't have to share you don't have to share all right let's go okay one second let's look at this we have another live question where we don't have a lot of people asking for the meditation everybody wants to try it nobody most people here tonight did not try meditate let's do a live question for us put it on kaya oh me oh thank you um thank you well let me just turn this on here what are you talking you know about trying to accomplish and do more but you're saying the person may feel they'll even meet mediocre life well it still isn't responsible what if they have kids or whatever they're paying their bills they're they're still the things i'm a little skeptical and someone just do anything in the shot of the smile you know the doors are magically open but what about curveballs things on the field somebody is sick you know you have you know a big you know some buildings about what about the risks that when you start opening up those doors you start taking those risks yeah there's nothing that you have it doesn't come i don't think everything just comes easily even with faith because situations you know yeah so i actually recommend to people not to change anything so i'm totally with you when when we're in the seminar and i've got all these graduates who are like i call it seminar high they're all on like seminar high so i tell all those people doesn't everybody come out of the seminar and quit their job right away isn't that the first thing that happens right right i tell them like no one's getting divorced in the next two weeks no one's getting married in the nick no getting engaged no changing you know no you know you so high sorry you're speaking beautifully it's exactly very wise what you're sharing and and yes don't make any big moves on seminar high what you must do is continue integrating the cleaning out of negativities of how we in our self-talk you continue cleaning out your negative self-talk and you really hi something very interesting you really don't have to do much that's what i was saying before you don't have too much you just start seeing things unfold differently all of a sudden and and then that will take you eventually to a totally new place and without being responsible whatsoever so yeah we are not discussing being irresponsible we are talking about an organic growth an organic flow that leads to more and more um more and more uh bracha in your life very good question yeah and by the way i don't like the term mediocre usher because because you know what my my review says that you're allowed to just make a living working in a market that's cool just make sure that you're spending um make sure you're spending uh the off time involved in the in your dreams in your dreams he says he says listen some people learn how to monetize their dreams i just finished i'm running a i have a program called sunday's live with rabbi yomtov and don't worry it doesn't conflict at this time it's a daytime thing but it's called sunday's live and we just finished the month called desire meaning uh motivating into your what you want in life and this month we're doing we just started love um amazing we're doing five weeks of love which is good for two above um the whole month of uh of into ello is gonna be love and uh and we're really like taking it apart and i i suggest highly suggest joining sunday's live it's uh it's two hours every sunday it's a webinar so what i want to say about that is that um i was training people how to monetize their dreams but but my rebbe said that not everyone has to monetize their dreams you know you can you can work in a market and have your dreams on the side which is perfectly fine you can be a lawyer you can be a doctor and a dentist you could be cleaning people's teeth all day while still while still contributing tremendously in in but you do need to find your contribution and sadly so many people don't know what their contribution is and so that's the kind of work i'm doing in sunday's live um that that that webinars amazing out there some a lot of people text me they want to see what meditation is they never did any meditation before you do it explain this what it is what are we supposed to be thinking let's let's give it a shot i want to try it what's the point and then let's let's do it okay um i just want to share just a little bit of logistics if people want more of me and not everything costs money with me i'm actually a rabbi who does tons and tons of stuff for free and deal with every kind of crisis i actually give my whatsapp number unlike everyone else because i've literally every year i can tell you there's lives that are people were alive today because i gave out my whatsapp number you know i um so by the way my whatsapp number is plus 972-52-834-4664 i am one of the busiest people i know so make sure it's important but i but oh by the way my language of love is words so if you grow from anything i ever did or said please send that whatsapp you never know i can wake up i'm a very spiritual person which means high of waves so you never know i could be on it in a trough has anything to email we'll forward if you can respond back we'll we'll put them in thank you very much yeah so my my email is uh rabbi yomtov i'm sorry rabbi rabiyomtov.com my website's ravioumtub.com and uh and again my whatsapp's plus nine seven two five two eight three four four six six four um women's seminar tomorrow oh uh lakewood seminar so excited um is and the flyer guy sent me a flyer that actually like comes like it it works while you're looking at the flyer stuff starts popping on and stuff i mean this guy's super high tech anyway that's in lakewood uh august 30th thursday will be an intro for everybody look at the picture oh thank you so much yeah yeah so yeah muncie's august third month is august 23rd to the 27th uh lakewoods august 30th to the third um we the location to be announced i'm working out the location and the uh there will be an i'm going to do a full intro um it'll be men and women invited um the men's and women's seminars are separate the men's seminars are all day sunday sunday is shabbos cheney shivagulius and uh and so it's all day sunday and then monday tuesday wednesday nights it's after all non-work hours um and then the women's seminar is daily it's going to be 10 a.m to 4 00 10 a.m to 4 every day um you know each day for four days so logistics let's talk about meditation what is it let me get my little meditation device here so meditation and the word literally the word the word meditation means the word meditation means um to it means to focus on one thing at a time now what does that mean to focus on one thing at a time well you'll notice that you have a runaway train brain that's not interested at focusing on one thing at a time as i said earlier you think 60 000 thoughts an hour so your runaway brain train is not interested in that and try to focus on shimone yesterday that's a meditation that is our silent meditation and we've got out loud meditations and we've got the uh there are recorded 26 different types of meditation in judaism anyway so but what meditation means is thinking one thing at a time and uh meaning is focusing on one thing well what does that mean focusing on one thing my brain goes everywhere so the answer is that i keep bringing it back and bringing it back see my mouth let's say you're in prayer my mouth's saying this my brain's like over there now it's over there now it's over there now it's over there what is kavanagh the word come on in modern hebrew means to a line an ancient hebrew it means to a line i know we use it as intention but it literally means to align like if i bring my car into a line the wheel i ask for kavanagh you know i told the garage guy please give me kavanagh which means align the wheel with the tires so what is covernuts where my brain i reel in my brain like some fish i reel it in to be in line with with that which i'm saying with my mouth that's coming up okay and that's meditation is reeling in my brain now in meditation you may not be saying anything like our meditation i'm gonna lead you in we won't be saying anything what should we be thinking well your what your job is this is a guided it's guided imagery so i'm gonna be guiding you now your brain's gonna be like yeah that's nice i'm gonna you're gonna be guiding me and i'm gonna be thinking about my you know my bills to pay you know and by the way you should give back bills to pay and the um you know you're you're going to be your mind's going to be everywhere but with me i'll catch you don't worry i know when people are when people are off you know off the rails and i will bring you back to the rails but again yeah people move to india to like learn how to do that you know that's not for us we don't we don't need to spend uh you know how long you want to do this meditation by the way let's there's really no concept of time when you're in meditation anyway so it who cares how long we're in it but but the the point is is that i will be reeling you in while to where your self talks going to take you out i will reel you back should i put on a screen that shows water and calm that we're in process are you ready no i got this like this guitar is going to handle all that um we'll do uh we're going to do a guided imagery meditation oh nice oh beautiful all you need to do is close your eyes and listen perfect yeah you should keep that on for anyone who comes on okay rubber glaze for five minutes just the breathing exercises take more than five minutes um but um seriously is there a time still five minutes so we can do it in five minutes seven minutes uh so five minutes means i'm not going to take you through the breathing exercises but um but what we do is we use our breath so we start with breath and um we would inhale through the nose and then hold our breath so why don't we start already everyone close your eyes okay you can turn off your camera if you're worried about sneeze or whatever my eyes will be closed the whole time though so close your eyes and we're going to breathe in through our nose inhale and fill your stomach like expand your stomach and now hold your breath and allow your eyes to move upward between your eyebrows meaning your eyes are closed but it's like you're trying to look between your eyebrows with your breath held and now slowly release your breath through your mouth [Music] as your stomach contracts pushing the air out of your stomach and now inhaling through the nose inhale [Music] holding the breath eyes up and now slowly releasing the breath we'll do one more inhale through the nose inhale expanding the stomach breathing in relaxation hold the breath eyes up and exhale through the mouth slowly releasing the air as your stomach contracts tightening the stomach muscles pushing the air out and now when there's no more air in your body hold for a moment and now inhale [Music] and now breathing normally [Music] and feel a wave of relaxation move from the top of your head down to your toes starting from the top of your head moving down to your toes and catch that runaway brain of yours that runaway train thinking about everything else and just scan your body as it moves down to your toes and now on the count of three bring yourself to a deeper state of relaxation as the relaxation moves like a wave from your toes to the top of your head one two three that wave move up your body and watch your thoughts to make sure you're only focusing on a wave moving up your body to the top of your head catch your thoughts and now imagine yourself inside a garden beautiful garden [Music] and in that garden is a little footbridge about a foot over the water and you're looking at the glassy surface of the water looking at the blue sky and the reflection of the water and imagine if you were to drop a pebble [Music] into the water and break up that glassy [Music] surface and that would make a circular wave a beautiful vibrational energy crossing the pond [Music] and that is your beautiful child personality that's the beautiful child in you with a beautiful and simple wave crossing the pond which attracts beautiful and simple clean interactions but now close your right fist put your both hands on your lap rest your hands on your lap close your right fist and allow inside your right fist to be jagged rocks each one is a different limiting belief about yourself a negative belief some of that stuff you'd say about yourself not good enough dumb unworthy unwanted unlovable small weak incapable hopeless helpless lost any of those voices you might say and again if you're one of the highly successful types you probably don't even hear it but i promise you it's there now if you were to throw all five of those or ten of those stones into the water each one would create a circular wave but those waves would interfere with each other and now crossing the pond would be this complex complicated interference pattern which attracts complex and complicated interactions financials health [Music] but there you are with your right foot clenched and now clench your left fist and imagine in your left fist is fish tank gravel like those little tiny rocks that you're gonna somehow throw onto the surface of the pond so no one should see those waves crossing the pond those are your survival strategies both fight and flight and that's either being someone who's running away from things avoiding quitting being shy shut down isolating or the opposite the fight being the guy or the gal or that the show off the know-it-all or the massm or the control freak or on flight you're a mr or misindependent i did it my way and there you are sitting there with both fists clenched you look like a boxer clench them tight and you realize the holding that goes on in your body when you're believing those things about yourself i want you to hold it tight squeeze it tight and on three release your hands you can let your palms go upward if you want [Music] like a vessel before god on three release your hands hold them real tight now one two three release [Music] get in touch with the heartbeat of the beautiful child that is inside of you [Music] we all have a beautiful child inside that toddler we left behind [Music] their hearts beaten strong they've been waiting for us hold that child in your mind's eye hold the child never let that beautiful child go [Music] take a smaller step take a deeper breath [Music] let your motor cool gotta bring that car into the shop down to a crawl as your defenses fall [Music] feel your soul refuel close your right fist again everything you thought about yourself close your left fist all that you believed cause you believe your own stuff after a while hold it in your hands and let go release your hands again be a vessel nothing left to fear remember those fears open to receive setting free the child the beautiful child in you do a little dance sing a simple song [Music] laugh so hard you're crying [Music] chase a butterfly climb the mountainside once again you're flying the person of your dreams is coming into view nobody can take that dream away somebody who trusts somebody who shares [Music] someone like the child the [Music] child in your [Music] close your right fist everything you thought close your left fist all that you believed [Music] hold it in your hands and let it go release both hands you don't have to hold that stuff anymore everyone you love take a moment think about your loved ones how much energy does it take to be close to you what are people putting up with in tunnel number four think about your loved ones those beautiful people in your life imagine what life would be like with them just burning clean fuel your exhaust just goes out the back where there is no exhaust you actually pass your admissions test everyone you love want you to achieve they want to meet the child the beautiful child in you the beautiful [Music] yes [Music] and as you hear the numbers one through five at five you'll open up your eyes coming up one two three four and five opening up your eyes beautiful as well as lit did you really fall asleep oh i had so many sixty thousand thoughts all over the place i couldn't think straight okay guys so i i was saying that that just oh that i share uh i have um probably for close to 500 hours on tour anytime of classes and uh and meditation many nights i what's that with meditation some yeah very few very many um i also have uh you know on youtube and uh facebook as well and um and also very many nights i do ask rabbi yomtov where you get to ask like you know all your off-colored questions um and and then there's the webinars sundays live with rabbi yomtov and the webinars online and the live seminars coming to you let's go ahead okay so again i want to thank everybody coming on tonight i really appreciate it all the way from israel waking up early morning for us giving us uh i feel like i'm being very honest i feel like we really really barely touched the the tip of the iceberg i feel like we like really like you know concept we're gonna have to do like the the general concept i think maybe we got the concept but i think they're really getting into it we got to dig in much deeper but it was very eye-opening and i think everybody here tonight is a little bit like mesmerized what is going on here i'm completely confused but at least the awareness is there and then there's more follow-up obviously between i'm sure you clarified with all the follow-ups what there is and how they can move to the next level um again i want to talk about the program tonight next week we have blazer brody from again from israel discussing very interesting topic again he was one of the authors the co-authors of uh the number one selling book in jewish america jewish world was uh you know garden of emuna and he's discussing are you ready for this trivia are you ready you ready to be blown away the topic is represent a promise on anybody there's nothing in the world besides god discussing it in depth what does that mean and really really it's going to be a really kabbalistic and deep meaning week next week so maybe bring your guitar you'll play you'll play you're playing the orchestra again every night is recorded it's going to be available tomorrow on www.menachamburnfield.com they have all the programs listed over there again if anybody has any questions please email coachmenoff gmail.com if you have lasers you know go to rabbi rabbi um his website and you can look it up if not could send the culture math and forward them uh when you have time please respond again i want to give a special thank you to all our advertising sponsors like the school foreigners here in lakewood uh always pushing us on their on their platforms kazakh.org please check it out i'd also give the thanks so far from ceo alive for promoting us and i'll give you again special thank you to kylo calif initial software from jcn jewish content network for always promoting us digitally on all the jewish digital platforms coach menachem please give a few minutes closing statement followed by bianco thank you thank you so much if this was a good hazard for me it was a good hazard and that sounds like i need it again there's so much information you added but it's like what oshie said before basic what we got tonight is the concept and uh we we're all i guess everybody's invited to go to the seminar to get the experience but what i find is that what that's what people are a little bit scared of the concepts we know we live in a world that we understand concepts you can talk about concepts all day but once you want to go down to that experience i hear you beyonce's deep voice takes you to a different place people are not ready for that and that's why people need to uh look at their phones and be busy and continue their routine because it is very hard for them to have that shift but again i hope everyone tonight at least will feel something from the seeds planted and they might after a while say wow it probably came from then this idea of being able to stop and breathe which today's days i think most people forgot how and we're running and running and we're not really breathing and when you talk to them about this they say yeah it sounds good i'm busy i gotta go so thank you again bianchiff for their for the whole thing tonight so unbelievable and those are you and thank you for all the staff everybody to find their inner child and to be able to come closer to hashem before we go to closing i just want to tell you everybody that at the end of the day you you rock the bottom line you rock the house and i think they're just awareness at the end of the day as a person we have to know what our capabilities are we don't want to live in our self-made self-proclaimed uh you know story of our ours people have huge potential and we see from people out there that they utilize their potential there's so much growth out there that can be done and i feel like you told me a comment when you were a kid you saw a certain guy collecting and 25 30 years later you see the same guy still collecting what happened to the past 30 years of his life again it doesn't have to be collected i don't need to pick on that or anything specifically and i'm not using financial could be whether it's your marriage whether it's your kids whether it's a certain trend of thought we're growing people as we get older we grow more and more and we have to have that awareness and obviously we touch the tip of the iceberg i do feel like we understand when we feel like we're using our potential when we have that simple time and we have the happiness we feel that unbelievable burst of energy and people could just like be nervous you know like just seep it off of you that means a person is living a person's life and a person is doing and accomplishing and people have it in them but i feel between all the problems and all the stressors and life's non-stop curveballs it just dr kaiosaurus said it actually the best yeah guys are you that when you have all the stresses that have all the stressors it just brings you back and it brings you down and most people they go to school and they go like they just live that repetitive lifestyle when they could be so much more so again rabiante please in short short at least a takeaway close it up so i'd like to i'd like to close it up with uh two things one is uh moon in batoche that um sadly uh this um all this stuff we spoke about tonight trump someone invited um and like you're saying that we all we all um are we get kind of ravaged by life's um uh you know life happening to us and um and you know with all the ammunition we wind up just kind of stuck anyway and it doesn't really come as a service to us so often you saw with corona it's like by the way i only mentioned three of the five fears but you know there's we mentioned rejection failure uh being being controlled by others there's also unknown and pain and suffering and you see that people with the moon in bataclan were there their moon like we were even though we were dipped in a moon from birth well you guys were i wasn't but if you were dipped in it you saw that corona hit and it was like gone it was gone we the the rejection like all of us suddenly weren't spending our days with the people that actually make us feel like we exist in some kind of social ladder of you know you know we that was gone we don't do what we thought we did for a living gone um we we you know between our rabbis and the health ministries it was like every day was like a different instruction and often contradicting the day before totally out of control um and uh and then the um the unknowns still still many people are in the unknowns and the last was physical pain and suffering i mean it's like where's the ammunition and so the answer is is that the narrative of our lives are stronger than our moon our moon is is academic compared to um what all those inner stuff all those inner workings that we discussed tonight they're um and and what this work does is brings brings you it can get all that stuff that as we were saying and what khayasara said well in usher again is is all the parts of life that have kind of ravaged us to the point where we're just like i'm surviving you know where you're just surviving and you're not sensing that or the energy and or the health the that when we clean ourselves out we not only can we be um running clean with all that comes with but you're also your moon and our there's so that's everything to us as jews and our talmud and everything in our void this hashem and our davening and everything that are we're just clear to to live our lives as as jewish people with with because think about it the muna is rejection and failure and like god god wants you here so what's rejec what rejection are you worried about failure god gives you exactly what you need you know sally called sarki right he he does exactly what we need that's a muna and then battalion handles out of control unknown in pain and suffering because that covers that so like but our moon and baton doesn't do doesn't do nothing when we got those five fears you know behind you know kind of secretly activating behind the scenes and so and so we can all get back to that and lastly that i said two things that was one and the other that i want to close with is is that and you know it has to do with laser brodie's uh uh uh anal movado which we also speak about in the seminar is this whole world is a we're in a giant video game i know it seems really real and you know and uh you know there's real stuff happening out there and but it's really in the end if you know enough kabbalah it's all a digital simulation and why do you think when you say god's one you you don't look at anything because you know you're you're not supposed to look at the illusion when you're saying the truth that it's really all one anode right hashem surrounding space and time he's filling space and time he's not just the tortilla he's the rice and beans okay he's surrounding infilling and and so god who's creating this world from nowhere in from nothing to something can adjust the system every moment every moment you're not stuck you're not stuck he we say every morning he is creating perpetually at all times massive voracious we're the ones who are making it old we're the ones who believe in time there's no vayahisman we're in voracious the only thing we got is that he's perpetually creating this world from something from nothing and for god to make radical adjustments in your life he can do so without you even noticing because he's creating it he's only creating now and now and now and now you know the future is conceptual past conceptual you can learn from the past you can plan for the future but the only thing you've ever experienced is and god is creating that now and you can align yourself in that spirit and ride the wave of hashem's unfolding from infinite to finite at all times and liter literally live in the miraculous i've been doing it i've got plenty of people who are doing it scott stone spoke earlier that guy's living a miraculous life he's a ben who's killing it you know in every other aspect of his life coach menachem unbelievable you know it's like i have so much knackers from all these people the famous shabbos kara of tony you've heard of shabbos kevitoni it's like it's surpassed popular it's a it's bigger than project inspire now in size and it's um those are all my graduates they sat down together after the possible you and said what are we going to do for claudia israel you know because we can't expect everyone to have the courage to come do this seminar and they all sat down and they created shabbos kevin channing invited all the top and coach menachem you're coming man i'm gonna get you in there they they bring all the top personal growth people to the fanciest hasidic shop baton you've ever been and we're we're going to turn back the clocks on on generations of of disassociation you know in these communities that it's enough already you know like like we have to inherit our relationship with god in a way that is commensurate with the magical things we know in our sephirah site our secret books about hashem's ways the way of god the der hashem that is ours it's not just some dream that if excited bucker thinks about all night on the shabbos when he discovers the ramco it is the reality and and what i'm here to do is literally hand people their own inheritance so thank you thank you everybody for coming everybody see you next week 10 o'clock same time same place thank you thank you thank you thanks guys lots of love