What’s The Best Way To Help People Do TeShuva - Jewish HaShkafa (17)

[Music] is everyone all the regulars all the visitors from Texas landed this afternoon um we're going to do a we're back we're doing our series of um the Jewish ideology based on a by the uh tonight's sh will be for a for y um Stefan Ben Karina tal M sarana dor but Mercedes um uh Jonas Ben Sher Haley Esther Bora but Abraham Adel Shon and also Leana s um and also to Gabriel Ben Esther um Isa but Mara Marsha but Julie um sha Ben faran B gab bis and all of especially the ones that are are investors in anyone that invest their time their money their resources whatever it is to help us do what we do for free already for the last six or seven years um it's a uh rewarding to uh to help people do chuva it's rewarding to help people convert it's rewarding to give people even if they were born religious but it's also expensive uh so uh anyone that cares enough to help is uh already doesn't need my already blesses them as the Prophet Jeremiah says anyone that helps bring people do ch says you'll be like my mouth you'll be like my mouth why you'll be like my mouth the says that when you help a person do chuva it's as if you created him same thing it says about if you help somebody convert if you help somebody convert to uh to Judaism it's like you created him why because when a person does chuva it's the same thing as if a person converted to Judaism why because they were Reborn and uh when a person lives their whole life 5 years 10 years 20 years 50 years whatever it is but they're living a life away from Hashem they live a life that's against Hashem they live a life of a uh idolatry they live a life of uh you know secularism of of some kind and then one day they wake up they wake up and they say I love youm I want to do whatever you say I'll make the sacrifices it's not easy for me I'm already addicted to this I'm addicted to that I'm addicted to everything that you said is not is forbidden but I'm going to do it because you said so I'm going to do what I have to in order to adopt you in my life and abandon my addictions and it's hard it's hard to do chuva it's hard to convert to Judaism if you really want a serious conversion if you want a uh you know uh Cartoon conversion you can go to any reform show and they'll give you a little certificate sometimes for free you know you the dog and everybody else that just shows up uh potato chips whatever they'll convert anything you want uh but if you want to convert and be part of's chosen people if you want to do chuva because you already born Jewish but lived an opposite life uh your whole life requires a lot of sacrifices requires an enormous amount of changes and when you do says welcome back I've been looking for you for over 3,000 years now I found you not because I didn't know where you are I found you because somebody cared enough about me that he went out of his way to go bring you back home because you didn't know your way back you didn't know that you were worshiping an idol you didn't know that you were worshiping money you didn't know that you were living a life that's against me you didn't know now you know now you came back and that person that found you I owe them everything what's everything they're my partner because just like I created you in the beginning I created you to serve me I didn't create you to go against me but you went against me either because of your parents or your cousins or your friends or your teachers or whoever and whatever it doesn't really make much of a difference bottom line is you lived against me for an x amount of years I lost you I lost you he or she went out of their way and got you back either because they invested in a CD that got you back or they invested in a shield that got you back or they invested in a rabbi that got you back or they went and spoke to you themselves or whatever have to happen in order for you to come back home in Ence what did they do they became my partner in recreating you and that's why it says you will be like my mouth so now there are a lot of different types of ways to speak to people Jews non-jews to get them closer to Hashem um some favor one way over the other some have utilized comedy some have utilized stories some have utilized hard M there is no Monopoly on the way to help people do chuva and to get close to Hashem but the main thing is what works what works now for some people m is the only way that works either because their characters is that type of character that talks strong language serious doesn't really uh beat around the Bush tells you as it is for some people Comedy Works there's a famous Israeli R who's been doing kiru for over 30 years ra lesle perhaps the funniest person alive extraordinarily funny but also very serious now he can do comedy and help you do CH at the same time most people usually if they do comedy during this Shield it's a sin why cuz they're not really good at it not necessarily not good at the joke they're not good at connecting it to the admit so the point being is that yes there are different ways to do things there are different ways to teach the there are different ways to tell people the truth but so long as it remains true so long as it remains authentic so long as it Remains the word of hem and not your word your opinion or your customized job that you're trying to to appease people in order to get them to invite you again now what's happened today is that unlike our history where you see from the time of mosu was always full of debates told since you asked for help you didn't really need help you had me as but you asked for help you had somebody to help you started crying to says listen I can't do this by myself says okay you want you want help go get 70 elders get 70 wise people why 70 why didn't you just get one why didn't you get one get him and yesu why do you need 70 why two more five more why 70 70 different ways of thinking 70 different types of opinion 70 different faces that will represent the 600,000 individual thoughts of Cl is which means that these if they are different that means that they will debate on what the is he will say black you will say white he will say tall he will say short he will say middle he will say I agree with him he will say whatever these two guys say and so on and so forth meaning that having a debate among the sages is already from M this is why if you read deep enough into the you're going to see there are different times that both sides have the emit even though they're opposite of each other he says black he says white and is this and this are words of the Living God they both admit but how could it be this is black this is white white this is tall this is short this is yes this is no how could it be he says they both used and utilized all of the tools that were given to them for Mount Si to arrive at the and that's what they arrived at and they did it the right way which means that a kadh himself sometimes sometimes not all the time but sometimes unique times he actually made both sides right so long as you did it for the right reason and you arrived to it in the right way in a generation like we have where the average Jewish person an average non-jewish person is as ignorant as ever been where people simply have gone to the point where the average person not only does not know tah but does not even know the difference between right and wrong anymore where you have many people advocating their strong stance for something that's against the interest of society why because it serves their interest serves their interest it serves their agenda like an example that I gave you guys recently these two idiots that were given the stage on a Ted stage Ted Talk two women advocating that anyone that's a pedophile should be regarded as a regular person that just has a preference of children just like there's a guy that prefers a woman a woman that prefers a guy a guy that prefers a guy a woman that prefers a woman but there's also another one there's another preference pedophilia you shouldn't look at him as there's something wrong with him and these people these imbeciles and there's nothing else that you can call them monsters may be people that should be put in a cage I don't know something like that these people were given a stage stage on the perhaps the biggest platform there is for public speakers and actually said with a serious face that someone that's a pedophile that actually rapes children should be viewed as normal that's his preference I wonder how would they feel if somebody if that if that guy that had a preference of kids if he did it to their kid what they say you like my kid wow you should come over on weekends I'll get what no you want I want I want to be there you can do whatever you want do whatever you want my 5-year-old do you know what I'll leave all my kids for you you know what I'll invite the whole neighborhood so you could it's your preference what who am I to get in the way of your preference this is a deformity in the mentality of society as a result of our ignorance or as a result to our addiction our addiction to our desires whether our desires are physical material desires or simply our Personal Agenda in order to get the the headline in new newspaper in order to be mentioned by people wow new Innovative idea what a what a new insight they're so accepting such a uniform mentality now the average person today rabai does not know the difference right or wrong because we constantly do wrong and then we read about it in the news the next day people complain oh I'm so depressed why oh you hear what happened in the news no I didn't hear what happened in news that's why I'm not depressed stop don't you don't you notice that every time you read the news watch the news you're depressed it's a pattern I mean you didn't get it by now you read the news they tell you depressing stuff you get depressed over and over and over again I mean you didn't you're still being fooled every day people watch the news they get the depressed they watch the news they get depressed they watch the news they get depressed and I say you know what I'm not going to watch the news okay the next day oh I'm depressed what happened did you read the news I said don't watch the news I didn't watch the news I read the news oh okay genius the problem is is that when we remove AEM actively remove AEM from our lives from our society we leave ourselves as prey as pray to those people that have very strong biased opinions that are of their own and not of gods and it puts us in a very very problematic situation and really fighting back is not with guns or knives or bombs or any type of warfare but rather by educating oursel if we simply if we simply we adopted the rules of a into our lives and became strict with it he himself will fight our battles as it says in Exodus 14:14 God will fight your Wars and you shall remain silent now it doesn't mean that you won't have wars as clearly the verse says you'll have wars but would fight your Wars why cuz you did what he said now the K explained to us last week about the difference of what Society thinks is happiness versus true happiness whereas Society thinks happiness is attaining something more material more physical More Money More intimacy more good reputation and so on and so forth forth but everyone that's old enough knows it's not true simply not true talk to a few millionaires I'll tell you how miserable they are if they have no God in their in their life very miserable meaning that happiness cannot be attained by materialistic success impossible you could attain a certain type of luxury in your life a certain convenience in your life happiness no chance now K explained to us last week that if a person wants to be happy he has to make major sacrifices in order to serve hem like he's never thought it's even possible in order to combine his wisdom with his imagination and the reason why is because our imagination is typically utilized to make sins we want to buy a big house why because we want to show off that we have a big house why because we want to get everybody to give us respect because we have a big house why so everybody can do more business with us and we could buy a second big house a bigger house why so everybody could do more stuff and I can get more stuff and so on and so forth so when we visualize this business deal that perhaps may be crooked we figure you know what I'm gonna do this business deal that perhaps is not legit because for the sake of the good what's the good the bigger house is going to be get a bigger house and a bigger house and a bigger house I get a good reputation and then I'll do good once I'm the president I'll do good we visualize those things I'm going to get the car why because I want to get a nice car why do you have to a nice car because if I have a nice car people going to look at me so what do you need people to look at you for cuz maybe the right girl is going to look at me ah she want the right girl not the car yeah but the girl maybe she'll give me good kids and then the kids going to be a sadik our imagination tells us that we need this fancy schy car in order to get the girl that actually looking for cars not people so because maybe maybe just maybe is going to come from that like in our wildest imagination in reality what do we want intimacy sins but our imagination will tell us that even the the the bad stuff that we want is for the sake of good Satan doesn't come to you with a a dagger a machine gun a mached doesn't you he comes to you with a Mitzvah says no you're doing good you're a sadik no you didn't go to that club because you want to go clubbing you were looking to help people do K these people are so far these poor people if it wasn't for you how would they learn about God no you show them that at least when they're having a shot competition they should do sh the before they do it and you taught them the at the club no who else is like you what aad you taught them the he Tau him a blessing in the middle of a nightclub even though it was really loud and they couldn't hear you or see you I'm not going to remember you tomorrow Satan comes to you in the form of a mitvah that's why the K says you have to stay away from sins by using your wisdom but if you want to serve AEM at the highest level you also have to use your imagination that same imagination you utilize for you have to utilize it for how so next time you get a message of some kind a reminder from that you should dovah for argument sake let's say to do K you get a text message you get an email you get one of these spam messages that is very good at doing and remind you listen you should donate why because somebody was like you yesterday not you today not sadik you sadik you know you today you only to do you're sadiku but you before you became mhu before you became M when you were still like bam somebody gave you a CD somebody sent you a message somebody sent you a video something yeah no but nobody sent it to me what do you mean nobody sent to you what it arrived in your mind somebody sent it to you no no I actually found it what do you think it came by itself you found it had somebody sponsored that whole thing and it got to you so now you want to do the same thing for somebody else yeah but now the imagination is going to come to you and say n come on what's the big deal if I if I donate a thousand a 100 a million what who says that it's actually going to work who say it's going to actually work say it's going to work who's going to say it's going to work nobody in the history of mankind has ever done a mitvah and lost out of it but many times the Satan will tell you don't do it why maybe it's not going to work maybe they'll get offended maybe you're just wasting your time maybe this maybe that but it comes to a sin it's always going to work out for the Mitzvah but when it comes toah always that so you have to use your imagination you have to think about listen Okay so let's say I'm going to sponsor a th000 CDS I want to do $1,000 whatever it is a th000 Clips 1,000 CDs 1,000 links whatever okay out of the Thousand you have to look at it as a marketing expert if you're not I'll help you th000 you're spending 900s going to garbage 900,000 900 going into garbage don't worry we're still in good shape though out of a th000 900 going to garbage really not it's really less than that but let's just we'll go extreme because we like to be extreme 900 going in the garbage right you got 100 left out of the 100 out of the 100 20 100 going to listen right but only 20 going to do to love 20 out of the 20 one of them either he or she or their son [Applause] becomes now those 20 that you got to do chv every single they ever do for the rest of their life then their family their friends their anyone that they influence themselves goes into your account that means the average Jew does 20 30 40 50,000 mitv every single week every single day depends on how much to you learned all goes into your account that means that every single day Ching chinging CH your account goes up more from them than it do from you but on top of that you have one guy out of the whole thousand one guy actually becomes learns in doesn't become become become you're never gonna hear about him but he learns all day he goes he learns ohash says this to said this he learns every single second this person's alive is a Mitzvah practically why because he learns to non-stop every single letter he reads in the to in in anything every single letter letter is a Mitzvah that means on an average day he does over 600,000 mitv some say much more 600 every single one of those mitv goes into your account now you but in reality you're not why you're not learning T all day let's be real you're not learning you're working you're on Wall Street you're on this street you're in that you're in a lot of different places you come to but you're not 600,000 me every day which means what that one guy you never heard about him you're never going to see him he's making you more spiritual money than you're ever going to make for yourself and that's all offer for a thousand you have to use your imagination for this why without an imagination you would have never arrived at this conclusion now if that's hard for you I'm going to give you a real life story real life story of someone that found one of the most popular uh yot for American Jews for the Anglo Jew in the world no Weinberg said that the only thing that we could ever do as a people Jew or nohide the only thing that we could ever do as a people for hem for hasem is to help his kids come home to help his kids do Chua but you should know that no effort ever goes wasted one time he says there was a u at the Cel there's a r from a that probably till this day still comes down to the cotel looks for English-speaking Jews you speak English speak English oh come come to bring bring him to Yesa try to convince him to stay for a few months maybe forever and that's how they started what are you doing you're oh where you from we from okay well come to with us okay you know want lunch okay you want place to stay yeah okay six months later sadik and I do it and do it successfully now in their early days they would have to go look for people one day one of the rabbis over there who's not mentioned by name they just give the initial me or mein Ms he went down to the Cel and he saw a young guy what's your name what's your name yeah listen what do you do well I go to university one of the top ivy leak schools in America smart kid you want to come uh learn with us a little bit see how good your brain is sure why not goes upstairs start learning with them before you know it 6 months later he's still learning with them 6 months later that this Rob is sitting with them every single day for six months six months investment into complete stranger learning with him this that two two the kid doesn't know anything from day one nothing after six months knows a few things after six months the kid says okay listen Rabbi I got to go where you going I got to go back home in America no come on you got to stay no no no listen my my parents are calling me I got to go it's a you know I got to go yeah who who's your parents 6 months they're learning you never asked him about his parents who cares about your parents learning to are right now oh my parents oh my parents this what find out he's a Christian the kid's Christian he's not a Jew the rabbi doesn't know what hole to dig himself in he says for six months I invested of my life teaching a guy doesn't have to learn okay teacher maybe to uh to convert if he wants to convert he ask him do you want to convert he goes no Rabbi I don't want to convert it's too hard I'm going to be a nohide definitely abandon fenity I know for sure it's complete nonsense I'll be a noide but I can't convert it's too much for me what I don't know if I say this then the Rabbi says this and the RAB I can never do it I can never so I can't force the guy to convert okay but the Rabbi says how could it be how could do this to me like what happened 6 months you could give me a Jew at least give me a Jew teach him even if he leave 6 months at least learned to he's obligated to learn to the rabbi cried over this didn't know what happened what did I do maybe I made a sin maybe has doesn't want my Tor maybe this maybe that I don't know what happened but life goes on 10 years later 10 years later one day young kid comes to the ISA hello yeah uh I'm here and uh I want to learn toah oh yeah you want to learn toah who are you I'm such and such okay true have a seat American kid wants to learn have a seat start learning few minutes later yeah hello yeah hi how are you this you guys learn to here yeah can I learn sure where you from America okay yeah have a seat couple days later hello yeah yeah we're here uh can we learn t with you who are you we're from We're from University such okay G again and again for two weeks straight kids are coming in at one point after they have a whole group of American Kids the rub comes to them he says who are you how do you guys know how did you guys find out about thisa we don't advertise we have no budget for advertising we don't advertise how did you even hear about us usually we go find kids in the Cel we find them how did you guys find us oh that's easy Rabbi that's our professor who who's your professor oh Professor such and such profess can you have his phone number yeah call him they call them I uh Professor yeah yeah yeah uh you Jewish no no I'm not Jewish so can you uh do us a favor and explain to us why are your all your kids in my in my in my over here go oh that's easy I learned with the rabbi 10 years ago and I realized that's where the is now anytime I'm a professor at Ivy League Yesa ivy league uh University anytime I have I have a lot of kids any time I see a Jewish kid that has it's a smart kid I tell them what are you doing in this school what are you doing here this is school's for go you have your truth you have the highest level of highest level of wisdom inside your book goes Professor you're tell you're IV Professor you're telling me there's something else somewhere else he goes yes go over there TOA not only going to teach you wisdom but they'll teach you how to be a decent human being too showing us will never ever take your hard-earned work for the sake of kiru and waste it sometimes it pays 10 years later sometimes it pays 10 minutes later but nonetheless it pays no effort goes wasted but for this you need an imagination you need an imagination because many times you try to help certain people and instead of them helping you instead of them saying thank you to you they sometimes uh spit on you they sometimes curse you they sometimes reject you they sometimes do all types of things that you are you thought is the opposite of what they was doing at the very least to say thank you or you know what better yet don't say anything but that's not how that works works now the K tells us the reason why this is the case you see that although the in verse chapter 26 verse number eight says that there's no no such thing as good other than a Tor where if people actually knew how good the Torah is they would simply go crazy over it to the point of making all of their desires insignificant if people truly understood how delicious the Tora is and acquiring it all of their desires for money for this for that any filthy thought you have any thought that's an Essence not to even if it's not necessarily filthy you want to be successful in business you want to be uh happily married with kids all that stuff it's great wonderful even good desires all of that equals zero with two hands just in case with the dot in the middle zero in comparison to the to of the Torah but that's what the says he said it how do we get ourselves to believe it first we have to understand what the Kish is trying to explain he says in section 10 of still the first chapter the all human beings are of one species and one kind still there are no two people who are identical in every respect every person is an individual among other individuals his intellectual talents differ from those of others as do his personal qualities first and foremost understand just like my father always told us you see your hand big or small you have fingers none of your fingers are equal even if they kind of look like they're equal but they're not equal no two fingers are the same if they are you you have to go to the doctor probably but anyway none of your fingers are equal different just like your fingers are different people are different but that's not a new thought that's my father's way of putting it but this is also in where is in page 58b says just as their faces are different their ideas are different just as when you look at people's faces even though once in a while you're going to find two monkeys that look alike they're different still he has a wrinkle he doesn't have a wrinkle he has an eye that looks that way he has an eye looks that way in your eyes they're both monkeys but in reality in their eyes you're a monkey and gu what all of you look different and she looks pretty in your eyes and you look ugly in her eyes and you look pretty in Horizon she looked and so on and so forth but the point being is everybody has a different look not everyone is attracted to the same look not everyone agrees that a certain look is what it's supposed to be but the point being is for sure that everyone could agree with everyone definitely has a different face even if it's similar it's different but thear adds just like they have different faces they have different opinions now in reality between us why do we need the to tell us that all of us have different opinions we know we have different opinions unless you come to M you have a different opinion you have a different opinion how can you have a different opinion you have a different opinion why does the G have to teach something we already know this comes from a teaching also that's in the page 10 where it gives commentary in a in first chapter 2 verse number two say there is none as holy as hem for there is none besides you and there there is no Rock like our God so glorifies A's name despite all of her difficulties not being able to bring kids to the world suffering this that the other thing she serves AEM to the highest level so much so the says that we actually learn how to pray from her young man that learned young man that learned that she she H even if they're the biggest guess what they do they pray just like the average Jew everybody prays we pray amid three times a day and where do we learn how to pray from that went to cry to hysterical where elah thought that she was drunk he didn't see he thought what's wrong with this woman she was like falling on herself and he asked what's going on with this lady and he thought she was he he misunderstood what the were telling him he said in reality it said instead of drunk you re align the letters it means kosher meaning she's holy like ask what every time had some question he would just ask what is this email what is this Gmail what's going on here says no what do we learn from there elen saw this woman cry in her prayer to the extent where he saw this woman is about to die from crying to a breaking her heart to she was a and you're allowed to use the unless she was about to die that's how much she cried to this woman now this very same she says despite all of our difficulties and there's nothing like now the says what is here in the English translation says Rock but given a elaboration on says is means artist what KH was doing was glorifying hasem saying there's nothing like AEM there's nothing like AEM there's no one that could be an artist like Hashem where just like if a person let's say wants to make a emblem of himself or a coin of himself right so he makes one coin he replicates it a thousand million times whatever he is you have a new Donald Trump quarter right they're going to replicate it 50 billion times right you know and then somebody else that's rich is going to do an emblem of his own company oh but what is it it's the same thing over and over again says there's nothing like that he took but he made em that was the original image but then he made a stamp where every single stamp is different than the other your face your face your face my face his face his face every single one is different that's how glorious that's how glorious AEM he can make an unlimited amount of stamps of the original same stamp he has no limitation not like us we can make one stamp copy it a zillion times no him every single stamp is unique so much so that the page 37 says each person needs to know this there's a stamp in the world that's you meaning created you because the world he created needs to have you the world he created he doesn't need you the world he created needs to have you it needs to sometimes have your good it needs to sometimes have your bad it needs to have sometimes your suffering it needs to have sometimes your pleasure it needs to have sometimes your skill and needs to have sometimes your failures the world he created needs to have you so much so that the says every person needs to say everything that was created was created for me why look I'm an individual I got my own face my own thoughts my own created for me not that he needs you but the world he created utilize you in such a way where if you're not needed you're you're not in the world anymore so now every single person is unique every single person is different and Kish continues and says it's inevitable that we learned from this that an outcome of this difference between our differences intellectual differences uh physical differences and so on it's an inevitable outcome that sometimes the gap between one person and another is Extreme to the point that it seems that they couldn't possibly be of the same kind and species of creature says sometimes there's a difference of opinion between two people that's so different that like how can you be human and I'm human how could that be where do we see this most often marriages marriages CU sometimes our opinion is so different from yours like which world did you get this from which planet did you come from like how did you come up with this conclusion I would cuz I can't even think like that like if I tried and I sat there and I toiled and I read all the books that I could possibly imagine I will never arrive at your thought how did you do that like which where where did you learn this from and she just tells you innocently well I just thought it I just thought it and you know what the worst part is it happens sometimes she's right that's terrible why cuz you're never going to arrive at that conclusion you're never going to arrive it like you're thinking you're you know everything no come on it's this it's built this way it's that this way and she comes to you out of Nei I think you need an extra Tut what where did you get that from like why would I need this to that you're thinking of like where did you get this from like you just arrived I'm working on this thing breaking my head for 9 hours and you just arrive with the baby in your hand you're say oh I think you need a screw there like how did you even notice it where did you get this from and you get so frustrated because you're like ah just wants to tell me what to do you spend another nine hours doing it your way only to find out the instruction said Tut two needed step number nine how did you get there she got there she got there and it's many many times many times you have it in marriages so much so that the page 62a says women are a nation of itself a different species a different people than men this is not Shalom to frown upon them but rather to explain that you have to learn how to live with the woman you have to learn how to love the woman you have to learn how to deal with the woman and you have to know that she's not like you men she's not like you if she's like you there's a hormonal problem or you have a hormonal problem more likely it's not it's not the same it's not the same they don't think like you even if you agree on a lot of things generally she arrived that conclusion differently than you did even if you both arrive at the same conclusion she arrived through it by going through Straight you arrive through by taking 50 rights in in a row and eventually arrive there women think differently feel differently this is the reason why many many guys have marriage problems because they think that their wife is supposed to be their boy she'll play you know she'll watch the game with me she'll have a beer with me she'll hang out with me no no that's not that's that's do not enter you treat your wife like she's one of your boys one of your guys you're going to have marriage problems why because if you fail you're going to fail too late when you're going to realize she's not one of them and she's offended by every second comment that you make because you talk to her like a guy or if you succeed most likely she'll become more friends to you than wife which means the marriage failed so either way you fail you have to know she's not like you and you have to treat her accordingly the problem is many times we try to Force each other into our own little holes the guy is trying to make the wife into a guy the woman is trying to make him into one of our girlfriends she wants to talk to him for nine hours straight as soon as he comes home from work he wants her to watch the game with him he wants her to uh you know be rough and and jump and all types of things not going to work why different Nation different people different thinking we also learned from this that sometimes people say listen look the rabbi's wife wears a wig so you see he must agree with that that that wigs are allowed says no we don't learn anything by the way the woman is dressed we don't learn about the guy meaning if the rabbi's wife is wearing a wig it does not mean anything at all in relation to what the rabbi thinks at all it doesn't mean he agrees that she's wearing a wig just means that his wife happens to wear a wig it doesn't mean that he agrees with it if she's not modest doesn't mean that he agrees that she's not modest he may not simply have a choice he's just you know a very very strong woman doesn't want to listen to him we don't learn from that we don't learn Al that way we don't learn his opinion from her that's another thing that we learn why cuz they are different people just because she's his wife doesn't mean she's his represent her she's a different person she's her own the sooner we realize these things that we're all different the easier it's going to become for us to help each other and ourselves by trying to do something that I learned many years ago from a friend which is a little world called empathy empathy is simply put putting yourself in somebody else shoes andar already taught that over 2,000 years ago never judge another person until you were in his situation in his shoes don't go out there judging every single person for doing their sins unless you had the same tests now if you think that everyone is just like you strong like you powerful like you knowledgeable like you sees the truth like you guess what you're going to fight with everybody you're going to fight with everyone oh come on how can you not see it you can't see it we can't see it no but it's right there for you it's right there for him it's not for you it's right there you see it I don't see it I see glass that's what I see I see glass you'll see beyond the glass I can only see as far as the glass now if you think that everyone's like you guess what you're just going to fight with everyone because most people are not going to see things like you on the other hand if you're going to empathize and say you know what you see it no you know what one you know what you're right maybe in your perspective right now you can't see it and I remember from my perspective a long time time ago I couldn't see it either so let me tell you another way that I got to it you see I didn't see it straight on I didn't see it you know what I did I actually read this book and then I saw this Sho and then I folded this pamphlet and then I prayed to and cried and then simply one day I was able to see it one day I was able to see it if you empathize with people you'll have a lot more success the problem is though that in today's world as we were saying in the beginning we are a world full of ignorance so much ignorance that on one end the people that are trying to help many many times do not know that other people are not them they don't see the world from their perspective they don't you know agree with their perspective and so on and so forth and people can't fathom how could you disagree with me the other aspect of it is is that on the other end people reject debate they reject you simply because you have a different opinion not because your opinion is wrong but simply because it's different and thisai is much more dangerous much more dangerous than even ignorance itself you know we always say that ignorance is the biggest poison of the generation it's the biggest poison we have an ignorant generation people simply don't know right and wrong people don't know up or down people don't know anything that's the big most common virus that we have in the world that's infecting and killing people daily but the problem the bigger problem with this is that there is something even an outcome an outcome of this virus just like there's HIV and his AIDS is an outcome of ignorance which is a new generation that rejects rejects debate rejects conflict rejects a difference of opinion just based on the precedent that it's different that than what they believe so much so that anyone that arrive with something that's contrary to their belief even if your belief is more common even if your belief is more ancient even if your belief has more Foundation to it since it's not the style of the day since it's not as accepted of today therefore must be wrong one time I uh spoke to uh someone who wanted to invite me to their Sho and I said okay speak to your Rabbi and uh if the rabbi wants me to come I'll come so he said okay sure I'll call him he's my friend he's I'll talk to him no problem so he calls him and he calls me later on he's like you wouldn't believe it he probably told you no right how'd you know I didn't want to tell you to kill your hopes but I knew based on you told me who it was and what place it is I knew say yeah but you wouldn't believe what he said so no probably know what he said tell me anyway he said yeah yeah he's very popular and and and I know some people like him but he's not mainstream he's not mainstream what does he mean mainstream he's not like everybody else vanilla he's not like everybody else that's just simply pacifying everyone to to the point of numbness he's not he's he's gonna spice you up a little bit he may scare some people shom help them do you know kill us no one's going to come to anymore and that's the problem the problem is today that we live in such a awful awful generation where anyone that brings something that's contrary to the accepted mainstream is by default vilified and viewed as some type of an enemy but the worst part of it all is that they have the they have the nerve to accuse the new opinion of all of the crimes that they themselves are doing and that's one of the worst part and this is one of those things you have to Simply see it with a close eye to even notice it where what they say about the person that they're vilifying is simply everything that they're doing themselves now how could it be that two people both learn toah but arrive at different conclusions of course like I said before one way is that they both utilize the tools that provided of how to arrive at the the details these different tools and different and so on and so forth and you know how to think you learn gar not because teaches you the law we use the for that but you learn to teach you how to think in order to arrive at the right conclusion even when the is not in front of you you know how to arrive at the right conclusion you know how to think like a Jew that in combination with M Jewish ideology and so on you'll be able to arrive at the truth but the problem is is that it's not always the case where both parties are using the kosher tools they claim to be but not necessarily something gets in the way how could it be that two people could learn tah but both arrive at completely opposite conclusions but it's not both are true rather one is true one is false and it's false as can be how could that be says seemingly the difference in midot in character traits should have no connection with the degree of wisdom of each individual and being morally corrupt should not take away from one's wisdom for being wise requires a talent for wisdom a strong intellect an understanding heart in what way is the acquiring of wisdom affected if the person is cruel and merciless or if he was very proud and seeks a claim or bears any other alienating qualities first he says theoretically if both of us learned something we should both arrive at the same conclusion but we both know that's not true they're going to read a book I'm going to read a book we're going to arrive at different truth sometimes it's because of both right he say sometimes it's not because of both right there's something corrupt in one of the people and that corruption starts with and ends with midot character traits but theoretically character traits should have no effect whatsoever on wisdom because what what do we think of wisdom we think if I read a book a week for you know for for four years in a row I'm going to know 208 books I'm G to you know have a lot of information in my head I'm going to be smart right never in my wildest dreams do I think wait I read 200 books but I arrived at the wrong conclusion on 80 of them I arve at the wrong conclusion on the first one and therefore led to a domino effect of wrong conclusions for the other 199 or so what does it have to do with character traits what is a character trait have to do with it I read a book I read words I speak English I speak Hebrew I speak Chinese I speak whatever language I read it in my first language I arrive to the conclusion like how could my character trait flaw affect my wisdom because if when I went to public school they told me I was smart I could add and subtract and multiply and divide all in my head in a matter of seconds they told me that I was smart I can remember what the teacher taught three months ago four months ago for the test you know when he wrote on the board only one time I could do all types of calculations I can memorize a lot of different things we thought that's wisdom and it's not that's not wisdom has nothing to do with wisdom it's intellect it's not wisdom though says the wisdom that you learn from a Torah is given to you by a and your character traits do affect what's given to you not that gives you the wrong answer in order to make you fail on a regular basis he gives you the right answer but unfortunately the character traits that we have sometimes reject the right answer like we know we're not allowed to go there but we figure listen look there's a Jew inside maybe I could save him yeah but why you save yourself first by staying outside and wait for him maybe no no no I'm going to go I'm going to go I'm a fireman I'm going to go inside and save him but there's no fire in there it's a bar there's nothing fiery over there other than the gay no that's going to be a result of you going in there want to go why going to save him yeah but the rabbi said don't go yeah but the rabbi if he was here he would go too cuz he sees this poor Jew with the keepon and the beard pretending to not be he sees Hashem gives us the right answer but we switch it that has to do with a Corruption of our says that this Corruption of the midot theoretically should not affect our wisdom at all we think but he says it's the opposite says what what ways acquiring wisdom if how is it affected if a person is cruel or if he's a proud person an arrogant person looking for kav he tells you know you coming you're coming to the shield no ah no come on you're terrible you're this you're that why you cursing me I just told you I can't come why you have to curse me why you have to yell at me n you don't want to listen to me I'm trying to help you yeah go to help what who said go why I just said I'm busy I didn't even tell you I can't come why I can't come why I automatically have to go to Gom why I have to go to hell my wife just gave birth like why do I why do you have to curse me ah what does that mean that means you care less about helping this person you care about your ego and someone listening to you care about your ego someone listening to you if you care about your ego someone listening to you wait a few minutes we're going to get to you he says that these types of qualities hurt the person's wisdom even though we don't think so he says we don't think that these things could affect us these bad character traits but this is not really so because a flaw in the righteousness of the soul in the nobility of the soul and a lack of good midot good character traits interfere with the acquisition of wisdom as at the base of wisd wisdom lies a pleasant demeanor says that the foundation of wisdom Foundation of wisdom is good character traits good midot why says in the beginning of wisdom is fear of hem but says it's not just the beginning of wisdom is fear of hem where you only start fearing hem when you first acquired fear of you only start acquiring wisdom once you acquired fear of hasem but rather meaning the the head of all wisdom the ultimate wisdom the most important wisdom to possibly have the is fear of hem and if you have real fear of hem that automatically will soften your character and make you less arrogant to the point of non-existence the more fear of hasem you have the less arrogance you have the more arrogance you have the less fear of hasem you have why if you fear hem You Realize by default there's nothing for you to be arrogant about you're not all that you're nothing in reality you're nothing you came from a putrid seed and one day the maggots are going to eat you for lunch maybe dinner maybe both that's it and if that doesn't mean much to you because that's the beginning that you weren't there for and that's the end that you don't even think you're going to be there for look at the Middle look at the middle how you struggle just to get out of the bed like how strong can you possibly be you can't even get out of bed or better yet you can't even sustain yourself you you don't your job they're about to fire you every day you're depending on some customer or some boss to give you money like like you're not even self-sustainable the tree sustained itself and you're not the ant made more money on its first day of existence than you are for the rest of your life why cuz the a made enough money for the rest of his life on day one you will never make enough money for the rest of your life why because doesn't matter how much you have you always going to want more the reality is the more you look at the creatures around you the more you realize there's nothing for you to be so arrogant about and anyway what are you so arrogant about your opinion no one else agrees with with you anyway what's to be arrogant about and that's the point you go into this domino effect of realizing not your insignificance but rather who is more significant than you and everything that you have is his anyway now when a person realizes that their fear of hem has to be the foundation of all of their wisdom automatically starts changing their character the traits but the problem is is that people are afraid of being afraid of AEM they're afraid of being afraid of hem and many times it has to do with ego where they want the world to listen to them they want to do whatever they want they want freedom now sometimes you hear stories ofik and you're baffled you're related to these people of how they were able to overcome such obstacles but many times people run away from hearing some of the sharper stories some of the more spicy stories of the tadim where they rebuked for example somebody came to the styleon styleon was kashim biggest in the world his son iski the biggest in the world today and someone came to the styple and said we found a for uh my daughter but he nice kid good midot but he doesn't learn Torah good should we go with it now you would think Stifler the biggest Rabbi in the world he's an old man already would say oh maybe he should did you know like maybe one of the local rabbis today that tells you everybody's a sadik everyone's going to go L you know one of those things now if you brought you have your little daughter that you toiled and and did everything possible to keep this kid alive for 18 20 years to finally get her out of your house and get married she's your little precious Jewel and you brought her to the biggest Rabbi in the world to get a blessing to to go on theid you know to go with the so you're thinking you know this he's nice kid comes with maybe a little bit of money too you know he's good midot what's the he's just not a learner not a learner he's you know religious keep Shabbat says good shabas you figure that the r will say have blessing have success something no ston says to them it's not a good she know she's going to be lonely why is she going to be lonely he says because when they Resurrect The Dead surely he's not going to be resurrected so she's going to be alone for eternity if he doesn't learn Torah surely he not be going to be resurrected so your daughter is going to be larning lonely for eternity why why do that to her imagine going to the biggest Rabbi in the world and that's the news you get I mean this is like a shock of all shocks but this is actually standard standard language among the of course they spoke to different people different places different times different ways just like their faces they different their opinions are different and they even the the rabbis talk to people differently but nonetheless many people you know run away from such stories or such examples because they think no no this is not the way to talk to people wrong sometimes it's the only way to talk to people but only if you are doing it with a genuine interest to help the person and not to prove that you're right not to prove that you're strong not to prove that you're smart and so on and so forth now this also applies to people that don't necessarily value tah as much and they know a few things and they heard a few common phrases so the most common phrase I believe today is the law of very few people actually understand the laws of L but everybody likes to say every time they hear something that's contrary to their beliefs that's being said about somebody so they no one time there was a gab at the mid of where the was and every day this gab was a he was very precise with time but a little bit too precise you know like sometimes you go to Sho and there's always a one guy says okay guys M it's in two minutes buddy it's in two minutes it's not right now but he gets everybody to start like two minutes early like one of those people mitah right mitvah right let me tell you said this guy was one of those people this gab was one of these people he had a bet mid people will learning T every day a minute or two hourly let's go everybody right one day this gabai died one day he died everybody was sad heard that he died said what they going to do to him in sh for all the T that he caused all those years what they going to do to this guy like instead of saying a poor guy died is 100 years old he says what are they goingon to do to this guy for of everybody two minutes every day why he stopped them because he said two minutes early every day what who mitvah what's more important learning to what's more important learning or going to learning more important than anything else in the world more important than anything else in the world many times people would come to and have such and such is there G for this he says yes go learn Tor okay somebody else comes listen Rabbi I have such G for this like a special something I can do to to solve this problem he says yeah go learn Tor and every time somebody would come with a different problems he comes and say learn T learn T learn T somebody asked for I thought it's a different leave alone with the go learn there's no like this everything is nothing next to learning Torah go learn Tor it's the best Gul so when somebody goes and he wants to do a Mitzvah but in the name of him not in the name of a Torah and he wants to tell people no no and stop everybody one minute early two minutes early meaning there's going to be two minutes less for let's say 10 20 30 40 50 60 100 people learning to 2 minutes less of 100 people that's 200 minutes every single day you talk about, 1400 minutes every single year you could do the math now you may not think it's a big deal but that's because we don't understand the value of a second of T the who knew said the poor guy what they going to do to him in sh for all the T that he caused now this is Common Language among the may not not necessarily be common language in today's speaker world but nonetheless it's common language if you read their books if you read their bios and so on and so forth many times people think that they're doing things in the name of a Mitzvah but because they have a different opinion it gets in the way of the Mitzvah years ago they came to r yashiv with art scroll art scroll thear they have done a fantastic job where they give you all the commentary basic level commentary of Rashi right next to the words and you have even smaller commentary on the bottom from different things to give you at least a basic understanding of what's going on over there without as much effort as you would have to exert learning from the traditional G that we've had for 1600 1700 years or so in essence if you read it enough times you're going to understand the basic meaning and some family members some family members of rash came to him and said they're trying to publicize this AR scroll everywhere we got to the r has to put a stop to it the has that told for 100 years has to put a stop to it you have tell not allowed it's going to ruin the thinking people are not going to think for themselves anymore they're going to not toil for it's just given to them on a silver plate says no I'm going to support it this is the right thing to do no no no R listen and again the same AR as if he didn't understand the first time people are not going to think you goes no no you're don't understanding people are going to arrive with the truth of what it is and then the will begin the thinking doesn't start until you have the right foundation and if they provide him the right foundation that will lead to more Torah and therefore it's a good thing to do and I will publicly support it he says people that went against it they didn't go against it because they had a Personal Agenda against somebody else perhaps I don't know that but I'm assuming no what they go against that a personal agenda of the way they got to the truth where they toiled for it for 20 30 40 50 60 years themselves and they feel like everybody else just like you know skipping all the hard work they did it's not fair it's not fair that I build a tower and you're just there to cross the bridge it's not fair wrong if you're doing things for the sake of Tor what do you care how I cross the bridge let me just cross it if you care just for the sake of of the honor of hem what do you care let me just get there but if you care for your C because you want recognition you want to be respected because you did this this and that and you want everyone else that can do like you deserve it whoever can do like it to be admon and hey we don't want to listen to you anyway because your your wisdom is flawed by your bad character traits now many times a person is going to have opportunities to defend the honor of hem sometimes I'll take it and he'll do it he seees somebody desecrating aem's name he say something about it like right now unfortunately there's many clowns in the world that want to make fun of the Torah there's a show in is several shows but there's one particular show that has taken it to a new level of mocking of the Torah called the Jews are coming this show is the epitome of evil where they take everything that was ever holy to is and make fun of it make fun of mhu make fun of all of the sages make fun of anyone that's important to they make fun of them but in the most demeaning demoralizing ways possible now from a bunch of heretical comics and Lefty liberals you can't really expect much but yet there are many big rabbis that are going against them publicly raim Mig Coen and many many other big rabbis are publicly screaming out against these people and there's going to be a big protest this week I think it's tomorrow actually to try to get the show canceled it's already four seasons of desecrating of hem and they're trying to go against them now don't let your mind think for a moment that they're rebuking for the sake of helping those people that are running the show do chuva they're not they're not rebuking and protesting to help those people that are actors in the show or are running the show are financing the show they're not protesting because of those people because those people are considered those people make the public sin there's practically almost no way for them to do chuva almost no way and if there is a way it's a very difficult one because you're not allowed to help them do cha even if they want to do Chua because they cause the public to sin so what's the protest for the protest for is for the honor of the honor of hasem that everyone else watching wouldn't think that this is okay unfortunately this also happens from the religious World many people that have bad experiences in life love to blame God for it and how do they do it they go off the they start violating Shabbat they start eating pork they start dressing imly they start doing all the things that they're not allowed to do but on a higher level than even a regular secular person and then they can't wait to share this story and many times they attack the religious community and and everything that we believe in in the most sensitive ways where if you were an unlearned person on not learned in t but that too but unlearned in the ways of the secular world you would think maybe there's something to what they're saying so for example many times women that go off the that go off and become complete Heretics the main thing that they like to attack is the intimacy issues or what they call sexuality in the secular world of the religious community they love to attack that so one will woman who has had her own share of horrible experiences I guess in her life I don't know what they are but nonetheless she decided to write an article about taking stories of different women that went against God and they talked about their own personal life of how their they met this uh it was arranged uh you know uh they met somebody and they called arrange marriage if they didn't know who it was you know they make you think that it's what it really isn't like as if they put they just met the guy on the K oh this is your husband it's the wife okay y let's go guys like as if we're like uh this they make it seem like they never had a choice and I write yeah and I didn't know and then they start talking about tactless disgusting things tactless tactless why the first time the first time that the woman and her husband are together and they tell him oh yeah it didn't work it worked it was hard it was Hur all this and they blame the Judaism on this now someone that reads this article who doesn't know Judaism thinks wow these uh Jewish people their religious people are monsters these people are monsters what the guy said the guy said uh the rabbi told him listen if you're with your wife the first time and it hurts don't worry about that's the way it's supposed to be just keep going wow this guy's merciless this guy's vicious horrible these people black dark people always wearing black and white like penguins horrible these people and that's what they that's how they vilify it they vilify as if the first time between our husband and wife in a religious world it's painful and therefore anyone that hasn't lived under a rock knows that there's a secular world in the world today right a lot more of them than the religious ones unfortunately I was part of it and I can tell you I could tell you on my own blood it's the same thing everywhere in fact it's much worse than a secular world because at the very least in the religious world that person that's with the woman the first time is the husband not like some Joe she met at a club who did his business and left her for dead in the middle of the street but they don't tell you that in the religious articles that are against Rel religion they tell you about oh look it Hur what do you think it's it's it's it's it's fun in games this is this is the human physiology this is the body of a woman that's how it is but the tactless demeanor of the people that are anti- God are going to make you think that the religious people are villains and evil and as if there World there peaches as if there World there peaches as if that woman that's reading the article doesn't doesn't regret the the the football team that she spent the weekend with the reality is when people have Bad Manners bad character traits it makes their wisdom non-existent so all of a sudden all of the good that she saw in 30 years of religion of God of of of Simply Having a pay attention to your life all of a sudden all of that went to the garbage why she had a few bad experiences perhaps a divorce perhaps a few people made fun of her perhaps a few things but suddenly all the things that she remembers is just bad stuff nothing good nothing good happened in 30 years what does that mean that means that the emotions got the best of you cuz your wisdom surely didn't the wisdom surely didn't why does that happen that's when someone cares more about their own than when someone cares more about their own honor than the honor of hem itself says in 14 anyone who increases and lowers his own cavod his own cavod increases and increases but anyone who increases his own whether it be for the sake of salar sake of reputation and so on and lowers his kav would be lowered and Sh will increase either way explanation anyone that cares more about the honor of hem then their own honor the reward for that will be in this world and the next where Hashem will give them more honor and hashem's honor will increase nonetheless because they worried about aem's honor and not their own honor which means that sometimes to honor AEM you have to embarrass yourself a little bit but you embarrass yourself not because you want to pretend like you're some orik you embarrass yourself for the sake of hem how you go and you protest for the sake of hem you go and you talk about things that are uncomfortable for the sake of hem you go and do things for the sake of hasem why because the name of Hashem is everything without Hashem we're nothing and you're going to fight for the sake of hem even if that means they're going to insult you and call you 500 times a day and call you names and make fun of you and write articles about you and they're going to kick you out and they're going to kick you in and all types of things you don't care all hasem hem hasem hasem that's all you care about anyone that cares about more than his own kav the reward is his kavod will increase and will increase but on the other hand anyone that only cares about his or her how so ah listen as long as they pay me I'll do it ah as long as they say I'll do it ah as long as they recognize me I'll do it what about hem no hasem understands I need to do it ah so your Cav is more important than aem's C the punishment will also be in this world and the next how your cavod will disintegrate and hashem's c will increase anyway meaning there's nothing you can do to lower will always increase but your because you didn't care about's will decrease gives two examples two examples that when I first heard them I was shocked I hope you have the same effect he gives two examples of what he just said one on each side real stories next time you see you could ask him if it was real thei says there was a person at a sh with his son and while they were praying Hal his son was saying foolish things against hasem the people rebuked the father no say something to your kid the father said no no come on come on leave him alone he's just a kid and this continued for eight days in a row sukot every day they're saying Al and the kid you know Al is glorifying HEM glorifying hm the highest glorification of's name that's what Al is and a kid every time they're saying Hashem is amazing he said ah not so amazing Hashem is the best and not the best he thinks it's cute thinks it's funny and they tell him no come on tell your son something no no come on he's just a kid leave him alone leave him alone eight days in a row himself says the year was not complete before that man died his wife died that son died his grandkids died a total of 15 people in his family died leaving only two people that survived one rash and one disabled in the same year why didn't respect the's name didn't respect K's name why I just didn't rebuke my son okay you just rebuke your son no problem 15 people died no you shouldn't say that I didn't say that said that I'm just reading want to read it go I gave you the chapter on the other hand a person of thei says they got to a section of the prayer it says kados kados kados that this person was quiet the whole time no one knows who he is quiet didn't say a thing they got to the section of kadosh kados he started yelling at kados Kad like screaming whoa whoa what happened to you who are I didn't even know you were here the whole time you're screaming relax buddy relax relax you have to scream kados where who take it easy take a what are you we're here we're here you're not in the mountain take a chill pill with your religiosity the poor guy says to them I don't know how to read I don't know how to write I don't know how to learn and I don't know how to pray all I know how to do is say kadad to and you're going to take that away from me says it wasn't a year before this person was asked to move to yush in yush they meet him the the leader over there he had married a good woman had amazing kids all became why he said kados kados the so while sometimes we think sometimes we think that a who doesn't need us to honor him apparently we're wrong apparently we're wrong now you see many times when a person fights for the honor of hem people will go against him insulting hasem not as many this also tells us a little bit of the status of where we are as a society but it's important for us to know that if you want to fight for the sake of hashem's Honor every day you have to learn to because you have to know why you what you're fighting for why you're fighting you have to fall in love with you cannot fall in love with a without learning his T because when a person simply thinks of Torah without learning Torah he will always arrive at the wrong conclusion for example many people have a wrong picture of the BET mikdash converts anyone that that's new or not learned if they built the BET mdash today most of us we go in there we're going to be confused why are we going to be confused because what do we visualize bet mikdash as we're visualizing bet mikdash is what the most righteous people in the world are there they're learning tah it's like a lion coming from Heaven to burn the right that's what we're thinking of mikash we're thinking only sages everywhere all the greatest things in the world right that's what we think well if we went to the bet mikdash this is what we would see first thing you go into the bet mdash you're going to see a barber shop you see bar shop that's what you see Barber Shop you say what this the mdash yeah yeah mdash they cutting ha the mdash yeah they're cutting ha in the mdash they couldn't just go down the street there's a guy that's cheaper probably no this is where we cut it'ses they shave their heads and so on okay they cut fine after that you're going to go next room and you're going to see bunch of sick people looks like hpal boils everywhere yeah it's not hospital no this is these people have be here section for them oh okay I didn't know they have that okay next room is Big you figure I'm going to get to M at some point next room go in there open see wood chop huge amounts of wood everywhere is mdash yeah yeah mdash still you haven't left what's the wood we need wood mdash oh okay fine where's mhu here where's definitely not here there's wood here you want wood is the section you don't want wood get out of here next section cafeteria food bunch of food has food yes we have food people eating a lot I don't know I thought maybe they eat man or they live on prayers no no there's food there a lot of food next room meat and wine enormous giant corpses of of cows and hanging everywhere what is this a butcher shop kind of yeah a lot of lot of meat want some meat you're one of theim no no no so get out of here let's go don't touch anything you make you make it to me what is it butcher shop something like that this is mdash mdash after that you go to next room see they make a bunch like omelets was omel was a breakfast place B breakfast is also mdash next room bakery bakery is s bakery here yeah Bakery special bread stays stays hot for a week from Friday to Friday that's we make it mdash mikash all room for it next clothing shop clothing you sell clothes here only if you're coin clothes brand new clothes they size everybody see the size everything custom made everything's custom made you're disappointed you thought you're GNA seeu you thought you're GNA see you thought you see all you saw is clothes meat wine some sick people haircut shop like why don't just go to Manhattan why just go to uh to to I don't know one of these streets or go to the market the shook what is this bet what kind of bet mdash is this okay you know what maybe maybe I'll have some hope let me see maybe I'll find some other stuff next opens up two huge pools what's going on with these people pools here listen listen get out of here if you're not here what are you doing here I don't know why is there pools in a bet mikdash it's called mik mik get out of here mikash mikash has two mik after he leaves he figures okay I've had enough we going to get to the holy place opens up business shop sees where they make all the stamps any type of dealings that are done stamps next room sheep lots and lots of sheep he runs out of that room from the stench cuz he doesn't realize you have to have sheep have to have cattle then he goes to the par room they make the par special beautiful par mikash so why they just buy it from somebody got be and one disappointment after another he's like what is it bakery sheep pools what what it's called out with this place then he opens a room and he ah found it special VIP beautiful room this is it where's mosenu not here where's not here what's here nothing why is the room so beautiful oh it's only utilized one week a year why this room is so expensive everything's so beautiful just week one week a year no one's allowed to use it no one's allowed to use it what's it for it's for the he has to not be with his wife for a week before so we give him this room he stays here by himself beautiful room just F all year nobody touch this mdash one room mdash has limited amount of space but this one room use one week a year for the for what not to be on a vacation with his wife be vacation from his wife next he sees leather room all the animals that are slaughtered they make leather they sell it sees it all over hanging everywhere like a market shop like a shook then finally before he gives up he opens the room and he sees the gazit a place where all the see this is where we decide what's allowed what's not allowed what's what's not what's your opinion what's aem's opinion this is where it is now if he didn't learn toah his whole life he would have left already long ago as soon as you saw the barber shop or the meat place or the leather place or the the bakery he would have thought he's in the wrong place why cuz he had a different perception of what the bet is supposed to be supposed to be full of M and everywhere you know sitting in some type of like a stadium you know deciding how to run the world like he thinks it's like the Romans or something he has no concept of what the bet mikdash is so when he finally sees it he's disappointed she's disappointed why they have no knowledge no understanding of what the mdash is but the truth is if if he learned if she learned instead of being disappointed they'd be excited at every step oh I read about this this is where the leather is oh this is where they make the bread can I have some I can't okay I just look at it fine fine I'll look at it have peace no no peace okay fine shem's watching okay can't take a piece you won't be disappointed why you be excited because I read this I read this for 1500 years I read this I read this too I saw this this this is this I saw this I saw this I saw this here this you see it you read a story and now you see it in real life there's no disappointment it's excitement but if you didn't learn T it's full disappointed why I thought it's going to be different this unfortunately happens sometimes to us B and and and converts why we heard about certain things when we heard about mhu we heard about R AKA we heard about all these sages so we move into the Jewish community and it's not always that let's just say that like you go to and you're expecting to see mosenu with the Ten Commandments and not so much not always like you're expecting as soon as you come in the rabbi is going to be like AA you know love everyone and Rabbi is not always uh interested in even saying hello to you sometimes depends depends who the rabbi is sometimes you expect oh all together and you go to sh you figure everyone's going to welcome you oh sh that's my seat it's my seat what happened what happened now is it their fault is it their fault they've been religious this whole time and you were coming to to to to cause a mess over there because we're expecting R AKA and M is it their fault a little bit a little bit is their fault a little bit but it's more our fault right where have you been all this time why do you expect the one that's been here working toiling for all of their life to stop their life and say oh thank you for me like what are youu okay you came have a seat shut up we're praying now yeah you guys pray too fast for you we've been doing this for years catch up don't expect us to change because you showed up it's a little bit of their fault but it's more our fault why we just showed up and we have expectations of them when they've been here the whole time why we didn't learn what the BET mikdash looked like so as soon as we showed up we're disappointment naturally disappointment because we had only what's in our mind of what it's supposed to look like not that like we read it in the book and that's we saw that's what it looks like and that's the problem many times the problem is that we don't use hashem's opinion we use our opinion and we go and we get disappointed now I'm not talking about the heretical places where they tell people it's okay to drive or they don't say anything the guy's driving to sh for 20 years and the Rabbi says nothing about it knowingly and so I'm not talking about that I'm talking about simply a kosher place you go in there and you're already trying to run the show two weeks after you're there you just did chva a month ago or sometimes converts they want to you know they want to walk in they want to start telling the whole world how to run the place they just became converts 6 months ago I'm zealous what zealous for what go zealous to go learn don't go tell how how to be they've been doing it for 3,000 years you just started it 6 months ago no no but I'm zealous forem are you are you zealous for hem are you just as zealous for about everything or just this one thing that bothers you personally because if you're always zealous for AEM no matter what it's one thing you're like but are you always are you always there's a that says that one of the sages one of the sages saw saw a woman wearing a red hat but a hat that was grasping the attention he ran over to her took the hat and ripped it the shreds she screamed and yelled called the police took him to court suing him took my heart ripped it embarrassed me publicly all I said yeah but it's against the Torah they said what Torah she's a Goya she's not Jewish says oh okay she's right there okay we find you 400 Z ton of money that's what AB who paid for mar Just you get an understanding lot of money they find them says what's your name to the woman says matuna says matuna matuna if it wasn't if I knew I would be profitable 400 Zeus here you go PID the money so the question is ask wait this is a is the biggest Rabbi in the world you couldn't wait two minutes ask a Listen by the way you Jewish are you Jewish you know like theik do in the streets you Jewish you're Jewish you're Jewish put feeling on youah right they ask if can do it if the average Jew can do it how come the biggest Rabbi in the world can't do it ask the woman you're Jewish before I rip your hair off before I you know publicly embarrass you are you Jewish like why couldn't he do it you see when you love AEM thoughts like that don't come to your mind why we could only understand if we start from the beginning has fall for the Goot and start being intimate with non-jewish women when Pinas benar sees it and he sees that the leader of the Shimon tribe is publicly desecrating Hashem by going and being with a non-jewish woman he kills them both and that saves that saved says if it wasn't foras Ben the son of el the son of grandson of I would have simply wiped out all of why for him killing somebody you he saved everybody yes why cuz he showed me true zealousness what's true zealousness it's not that you just go kill people it's not that you just violent it's not that you just yell and scream at the top of your lungs no it's that you see something that's desecrating aem's name and you simply can't live with it you have to do something it's not an option for you oh how will they react what will they do what's going to happen once you start doing that calculation you're no longer loving AEM you're calculated you're a regular person the zealousness of came from the old ultimate love of hasem he simply could not live in the same world as someone is desecrating hashem's name he couldn't live in that world there was no reality that was part of him if something like this was happening because he knew at the moment that he saw this that he has to go kill him knowing that this is the leader of the Shimon tribe surrounded by tens of thousands of soldiers that are all going to kill him at the same time meaning he's going to kill that guy maybe succeed maybe not but for sure he himself is going to die in a process like he wasn't thinking no I'm going to kill him then run away like he's knew he's going there and he's going to die and that's the mitvah why because it's better to die for the honor of hem than to live while seeing this honor of hem when you're at the level of of loving AEM like P he could not fathom a world that desecrates aem's namea he didn't think is she Jewish is she not Jewish why he saw right now there's a reality a reality is that there's a woman that's walking around immodestly in his day he modestly meant an IM modest hat that was red in today's world in his day there was no such thing as a reality of a woman walking around in a Jewish neighborhood with an emodest hat there's no thinking oh maybe she's not Jewish oh maybe she is oh maybe somebody said it's okay oh maybe did there's no maybe he simply reacted why his love for hem his love for hasem simply knew nothing else knew nothing else when a person is constantly glued to Hashem he falls in love with hem to such an extent that it's not a matter of should I rebuke them should I not should I go should I not should I do should I there is no should hasem is in your veins you just do because it needs to be done you go because you need to go and there's no like thinking process anymore it simply becomes a reflex all for the sake of hashem's name now that could only only be a remote possibility if your honor is not important to you anymore because so long as your honor is important to you a little bit you're going to have to think a little bit before you do stuff you're going to have think should I say this today you know probably to get some comments and then maybe some people going to donate less and then maybe I'm going to get some hate mail and then maybe I'm not going to come oh you know I'm just say it you start you know I'm gonna say it but I had to think about it for two days before I said it once you start thinking that shows you where you're at doesn't mean that you don't love a doesn't mean you're a bad person just means that you're not being so stop acting like you are stop acting like you are many times people do a public a thing with they insult each other or other people all in the name of loving Hashem which is complete bogus why it all has to do with their own Cav their own honor because they only happen to love hem in this one thing that affects them personally but when it affects them in other ways affects other people in other ways they care less this is one of the ways that I always tell people you know when you have some of these people rabbis or others that say oh you shouldn't teach uh M you should shouldn't tell people Shabbat is a death penalty it's not good you should love old Jews and so on and so forth right they all tell you you should love all Jews you love all Jews but as soon as somebody as soon as somebody goes against them in in any other way just say no your Reb is not mashia or uh you know your the wig is not all of a sudden you shouldn't love all Jews you should love all Jews except these people like when it came to something that doesn't affect you yeah yeah yeah yeah it doesn't affect you something completely different that's not loving hasem that's loving yourself that's loving yourself and it's important for us to to find and look for these things in order to find them why because many times you're going to befriend certain people you're going to see certain people and you're going to have your own perception of what they're supposed to be either because you grew up in a certain from Community already or you're B CH and you're thinking that is the same same as what you think it is in your mind or you're are converting and you think that everybody's perfect and you're just joining this no there is work to be done and it starts with us it starts with us individually work on yourself work on your own mentality and little by little you'll start realizing that just like their faces are different their opinions are different and you have to learn how to cope with it how to deal with it and how to help them anyway how to help them anyway some sometimes you have to help them by rebuking them really hard sometimes you have to help them by simply inviting them over for Shabbat sometimes you have to help them by sending them a nice song that will cheer them up sometimes you have to help them by give them a story about one sad or sometimes you have to help them by simply giving them a hand when they're moving their houses or they need a ride to the airport everybody has their own thing of what's going to open them up surely the Torah is the ultimate way and the main way but before they're going to allow the Torah to come in they have to see you as a friend not a foe they have to see that you're interested in helping them first and not just interested in proving them wrong because if you're here to prove me wrong I'm going to eat your head why because I'm right why am I right because that's who I am I'm right all the time even when I'm wrong and I'm so right that even my wrong opinion I make it sound convincing so you're going to try to prove me wrong I'm going to eat your head oh you want to help me show me oh you gave me a ride oh you gave me this oh you said hello oh you're nice to me okay what was what would you what were you saying the other day again about me being wrong about what were you saying again I think you're right about that by the way how come how come you're right all a sudden cuz now I know you're trying to help me now I know you're trying to help now I know you care so sometimes it comes with hard rebuke sometimes it comes with an invitation sometimes it comes that's why the C that people do if it's genuine all types of styles work if it's not genuine no style Works no style works and that's why it's important for us to all work on ourself first and help each other in the process don't make helping other people more important than helping yourself first you and help others in the process little by little you'll see how you helping each each other becomes much more fruitful becomes much more successful and helps us all get to a bet mikdash we could all recognize because we read about it we learned about it and we expected it to look as such and we expected to see each other there amen [Music] oh [Music]