What's Doing In The World Of Shidduchim? - Rabbi Elozer Boruch Bald

like to welcome everyone tonight's here all the men here in the shule or the women as a smusham and everyone joining in on the phone and watching through the stream for sponsoring eight five one eight six five one or email ist at the shivernet.com tonight we have the cover to have with us once again revolutionary tara speak on the timely important process of shidduchim what's doing in the world of shidduchim my covers are calling rabbi bulls for tonight's russian [Music] everybody is joining us worldwide on this very important topic i heard from my dear friend a murderer my said that happened with him when he went out dating for shidduchim he came from metis 12 when he was 21 years old the girl that was speaking from was 19 years old it's his first time dating he goes out he speaks to the girl he goes out four times in two weeks man he's happy everything is fine and he doesn't know something wrong with him or something wrong it's just like you know like everything is fine so he went in there with us and then they used to go to the shiva of palm and afterwards we went to get another block from him so he went over he made an appointment with his father and he sits there but everything was like open in the dining room we sat in this couch his wife was around she was part of the conversation and he goes and tells him that he's nervous he doesn't know maybe he does not talk to a girl maybe doesn't know what's what's going on so without any uh before of palm had a chance to respond you hear a bosco the rabbitson screams out from the other side gives you a gift and you throw it back in his face which means that abhishek gave you a gift of the first time you went out and everything is gavaltic and you throw back this face and you have no cursor toy rapam smiled and it's attack attacker but if i may add to what my wife said he asked the baja how many girls did your friends go with how many did you go out with so he said well one buck went with three girls one with five one with eight you know endless sort of palm told him that a potential to find the right civic between thousands of girls to find the right one is also a hiddish it's a little kiddish but it's a hiddish three times five times eight times and you pick up the right one from thousands of the first time you met the right one but it's good in other words the college bachelor runs this world some people have a harder some people have it easier then he went to our moshe wolfson ambassador wilson told him do you like her does she like you is she gonna say yes if you propose is your parents happy with the shadow go ahead don't worry be good and eventually in other words although it's cautiously vulgar crazy [Music] some people have it easier some people have some people went through the answer from a shortcut some people went longer this is a very happy tsugi for many people and for many people very challenging sugiya we know khazal sector solita asked the question 40 days before a child is created babysitter calls out who is the shidduch it sounds like easy so the gamora answers this tyra campbell kanba civic shiny the first [ __ ] the person marries regular hashem called it out that's the [ __ ] but a second [ __ ] that will elaine if somebody has to go through a second [ __ ] then it's the free myself it depends on his actions and that's why it's hard left nakadeshwar that's the positive little touch in the gemara but arizona ultimately different the gamora they learned zivagrisha means what they call it in shamayim and actually the result after 20 years after is here in this world that's called zivik shaini because everybody has a hard time songwriting and the reason is because we see in zoya kodesh pasha's vayigash calls out the alma caution every civic is not easy every civic is hard we find the zorya pasha's truma the zoya writes page cuff iron on the base that panasonic and the vulgar are the same they're both very hard and the reason is because they come from a oil el join a muslin that's very high up and it's very hard to pull it down they're both even panasonin i talked about only the same you see in the madrid in madison the message brings the story that approached him what does hashem do after six days he created the world what did he do afterwards hashem is yo a veg all the years from the beginning of the year he's busy making shidduchim so this mature said what's the big deal i could do it i'll take six a thousand slaves zaharam the caves make one night you go to this one you go to that one the next day they're all broken bones and fighting i don't want him and she says you're right cause i've gone chris yamsev and let's talk about any [ __ ] it's not just about the second but any [ __ ] and the medish rabbi brings the was the first civic and the media's right said mom the boy mashita sometimes hashem makes it and people choose to sing mandela boy sometimes people cry about the [ __ ] if they're not happy hashem makes a [ __ ] you could look it with a good eye and you could be happy and you find the historians are not and are not happy but you see from the madrid that you can't just force on somebody a [ __ ] look like matuna did but if you go by there and you believe in hashem then hashem can help you to find the right [ __ ] but every [ __ ] that is not is complicated the morale explains why is this [ __ ] that complicated curious yamsuf so he writes two reasons one reason is because by kris yamsov you had to kill the mystery to save the eid sometimes hashem has to take away one a lady from somebody else's [ __ ] that's the viking it's very hard and the moral says the second reason is because a boy and a girl are two different natures two different total worlds apart they think differently they act differently and to put these two together is almost impossible how does how does that happen by chris we have to break the gasimius of the amsuf and become which means each person has to work on themselves with the the the has to work on himself on his meet us she has to work on hermit as a whole life to understand each other too that's the avoided kosher shepherd that's called rochnie is working on the kashmir and that's even the vigretion so which means shane is kosher more like christians of the morale says ignition is also cautious it's working in the cashmeres but everybody goes through either with themselves either their children in your name is ivorgan that we need a lot of help and physique is physic for ourselves hezekiah children so as i mentioned once i went to abraham and i asked him what did we do about shidduchim that tens of thousands of boys and girls are still waiting from ancient maine all over the world for shidduchim so he said this on the gamut you want to change what says in the gomorrah that it's hard kosher increase yamsev he means every civic even say hey but what do you do she said mrs follows on darwin so i asked him again next year that everybody darvan he says keep on governing but and it helps this is what crime can actually said but i'm i want to speak today about many different in yonam what we could do about shidduchim to help out the situation for ourselves and for kai's role we saw in the papers with the past years many times everybody's speaking about the gap of shidduchim someone brought me on buford shamadiya from years ago to show me how it works that the ibishi created five percent was harmed in the caves that's the fact in the world so by the lit for sure that they married the michaels that are 34 years apart is since every year there's more population so there's a lot more girls by the kassidy [ __ ] they marry the same age or sometimes they take even older girls so there's so many leftover boys that's why you see so many shidduchim that this has your boys and literature girls because they got to put them together because there's too many literature girls left and tomorrow is left but this all talk about the gap is all about the 10 20 i'm here tonight to talk about the 80 percent that there's two little talk about that 80 percent of kali israel are struggling with shidduchim i went to the had the street to go to i hope to show it to this year by the dynamite hashem and i said what do we do what you doing what does the problem mean kaiser so he said the problem has a failed shatthanam this missing a lack of shatchanam in other words claudius role grew so big by hashem the last 50 years but the shattaranam the same old shahanam stayed and some new ones came to the market he went once to the minsk and he he spoke at his heart we have to vincent and darwin about the parents that don't have kids people the ones he had their children they need so many yeshua's and then the the girls that don't find shidduchim so the river minsk cried out that the the parents that don't have kids bought hashem today with all the organizations most of them come up they struggled their children what should the girl do that she can't go out in the street look for [ __ ] that thousands of girls are looking [ __ ] for shidduchim and they sit in the home and they wait for somebody to pick up a phone and do something with them and it's not being around that's what the drummer means grab it cried out so if hazal what are we going to do about this if hazal said that it's similar to chris yamsev we have to know why is chris yams of course there if we'll understand what's so sweet about kris yamsov we could learn from it what so shiver by living and what to do about it just like what our fathers did vacation let me mark them a very powerful question which is not addressed enough in the madroshma before unfortunate we know in the train we are dom svadaya keenum or of all the markets we kaiser got a free ride we will stand with a cup of water for the either the water from the midstream it's down why because they had enough in the triumph they wish to promise the office they screamed hashem hashem has taken him out a whole year a great year there with the markets for their asham punishment and great for the honor of every market doesn't really shine him the highest were going around the eden everything was good for the eden everything was fine so far that hamush only a fifth wanted to go out the other four four the other eighty percent said it's great here let's stay here a year time of marcus for the mithrim and the eden got a free ride so frightening all three sides surrounded from heist in the mid bird the yams of the matrim what did we do they're screaming they're hard they're afraid they're gonna die they had a package of dying a real pakka they've never had such a package before nanometers rhyme why by the tel markets they got a free ride everything is free and here when she gets saved what were they so afraid what happened just didn't kit rick all over the enemy time there was no kitchen what would the other disarmaments run through territory and mila and they did sure and then they were fine so why was he a kitchen more than homo trying this is such a powerful question and once we'll understand the answer to this question why is kosher chris yamsuf we'll unders be able to apply it and all the answers and i'll try to give bethesda four answers and what our parents did and well and met hashem this will help us understand what we're supposed to do for civic and why it's so kosher reserved integration first answer is is we find the gomorrah the gemara says the eden was screaming today and they bishop tells moshe we saw jump into the water and akshay have jumped in first the gomorrah he jumped in first and the water was coming up and he said hoshi ain't no kim ki boy maya man fish he was please help me it's the mime is coming up i'm not fresh i can't survive it and then they should split the water people went in the museum in the yam why did they have to go through this stat to go through through this in other words they had to do a hashtagless mysterious nephesh to jump in what hashem wants to do what hashem wants if they like it or not this is what they have to do this day [ __ ] and so by the question what we have to do is you got to jump in with a moon hashem is not going to leave you go we got to do and to do a tremendous establish not like people saying they do two phone calls a day messi is never fresh thoughtless the most powerful istanbul is they can do why did they have to go through this in the amsterdam the reason says the helicopter's harm because the in the train there weren't a high level but by the answer we had to bring up clients throughout the bigger level a level of a level of shira as you all see it when you want to bring up something you have to pay for it you got to do something about it they have to jump and be mysterious with a tremendous status the same as the [ __ ] the helicopter says that [ __ ] goes so hard many times because the baldova the etoro wants to stop it they know for one [ __ ] that could come out generations throw spunks of thousands of kids and ending he's gonna do everything to stop it so what do you got to do like i saw from the sir of ramadan she says this that the more serious there just is yamsuf and if you look in khazal you see how hazal looked at shidduchim the gamora says when a girl gets older beatrice take even a slave if you can't find the [ __ ] that take your own slave and and free him let him marry her do even the people will talk we took your slave you married your daughter i couldn't find that you find in gemara so many things what they did to make shidduchim that the girls dancing and the wine got and all people couldn't find this [ __ ] today they would make as soon as it would do today for that but it was impossible they did crazier in those times for shidduchim now there are many people today that don't do ish because they are miuish that are enough they tried and they wagner's nephesh and we all need his only physique to do that each each everything we do is a mitzvah the gemara kudus base and superstorm bay says it's a mitzvah to do startles to matter of your children yourself to buy the knife clothing the commanding super you know the people should want to get a fashion you have to do it it's a basketball and sometimes you got to jump in and darven but do a very strong establish for shidduchim and i know there are people that when it comes to their talking they say you know the people say over shame nobody's it's not written anyway that people the fedish that the girl says nothing helps swishtardles only be talking and that's it and i looked i tried to find this guru because people say obviously they got it from somewhere so i looked into zoya and new desire speaks about it and it's like there's a safer from the girl on zoya called yo or page 33 on pasha's piku day and he writes words that are similar that people could take out of context and that's what he means he writes a personalized because the morris is the white coat and it has that machete but just like it says and tell him imma even the bias if hashem doesn't build a home shove um it's a waste of time of building it because only hashem could do it that whatever people do is meaningless because the ambition has to build the house and this is i want to say it's a terrible mistake and i always quote it became the grower because it's a tourist mukhra and all over building a house this capital tillam is talking about building a house and protection sherman so we shouldn't have police we shouldn't build houses because the hashem wants we'll have a house it means also remember specific but what if we started to build a house to build protection and with all that we need we need this mirror he means the same like the major says impartially which you mentioned then if you want to force it to do it the way you want to do it you can't do way do it you could try you have to establish speaks a lens about against these people that say you know everything is and he says he goes on but any mitzvah does the mitsuha to get married there's a mitzvot to marry your children hashem gave it your choice you could choose this that's what the rahman writes the yavitz is maggie over there he doesn't want to take it to such a strong extent because the gemara is mashima yoshimizu so the says the lotion if you want to if you really want to do the mitzvah of marrying you have to want and you have to do tremendous restaurants the morale and the gamora and soito with the gamora rights the divi grisham is from the hebrewshire baral writes it and and and i don't remember such a loss in the morale doesn't want to answer it it's nonsense because this world is made through teva hollam and i saw it in cliok and olessa friend shin lam writes it that even it's my shame but you got to do tremendous stardust pushed away he said don't worry hashem is going to help because he knew this is not a [ __ ] that's what ritual says the written recession the round says and the choices are as well the rambam that says that depends on status startness iran not iran the hadous also brings the rambam that i wish to give a person as a choice to do a shadow i spoke about it last year this past year we had four major gatherings one for the stone aquila which went which was shown in lakewood and monsieur as well simultaneously once for the community one envisions in muncie and one of the big pop of this medicine williamsburg which had at least 1500 people some say 2 000 people the whole street came and we were trying to address what's the problems and the solutions what we could do about shidduchim and i brought a big a big expert to metis roller coaster he was a raven or she even gave up all his jobs just to help the elder bachram with his organization called hagefin and then i made an introduction with this thing that i brought from many ghazal i brought the paleolithic rights that some shidduchim happened only with a tremendous establishment some people get easy but some people and everybody has to think maybe i'm from that group that has to do tremendous establishments did tremendously i was 14 years working for and so many ghazal we find this point that we need a special strong establishment so i spoke about it then and i mentioned in a story that i heard from shivanes israel his name is brung all the kids that didn't find shidduchim so [Music] turned around to his people and said a different answer both answers are true the difference he said blissgrove says betoken what's the big deal who doesn't want to give me bashar with the brisker off he has the easy time to find the [ __ ] everybody was running after the brisker of so he was choosing to pick a [ __ ] sure but yeah we can rely on it we have to do we have to do a tremendous establish that's what the hazard told him that i heard he said he was dear mamishba but he was there the prime grime and sword of itself and he heard it from him so the kids said we see from this they became alive we have to do tremendous establish and over there by the thief i started speaking by poor few points what's going on in kala israel with shidduchim in public medicine we try to put many organizations to join these asifis we had some williamsburg where the stolen group called keshia eckhart where the shadow organization with bukota which has a database of over twelve thousand names see this your boys and girls i wish they make for the litvisher too but and we had many organizations that joined to try to see what we could do so i we i spoke to you and said the bob of rebecca is the zangazoo he was the first one to jump in it to offer big money then came to satmar ibrahim thank him the popular many offered a lot of money and it wasn't enough and papa they told me throughout the summer what should have happened because of the money because the problem is not just the money the problem is that we have tens of thousands of boys and girls and we don't have enough chatroom to take care of them if a [ __ ] let's make a husband to make one [ __ ] that could take days or weeks or even months how are we going to solve the problem of tens of thousands of boys and girls in each of them we need every shiva to have an office of shidduch on every school every block every show every every as a small shrimp it's it's impossible to see what's going on people are crying for sudden and whatever is being done is only two percent of what's needed for him so till this yeshua comes as big yeshua with creating thousands of shatronam rabbishama a few tips that we we can do the first thing is we have at solar we have hawaii everybody's volunteering how many people need hot sola they be upbeating in a neighborhood two three a day we always listen but there are hundreds of sadiq running out from anything to say they eat shimmy and all these and here every house some have two three four families in each of them and besides we need thousands of volunteers so what should we do each person to donate two hours a day two hours a week we need hours here we need time people should add hours how much are you donating for for sure another thing we mentioned we need to carry names on ourselves every person who's your names give me your five ten names who you always thinking about them wherever you go do you have a boy i have such a tattoo you don't say the names to everybody i have such a type of boy such type of girl we need every person is obligated to carry a few names on a shoulder then another thing third thing we need is sheer names of a mother that has a father mother have a booker your friend also has a baja call them up maybe you have some that didn't work for you maybe you have eaten yours same with the girls and that would help a lot i can't like boss unless they installing shoe and bar park there's 20 fasteners for the upcoming year on the list there's over 200 boys and girls still sitting around what's going to be with them and those are from the older ones puppet they told me 500 boys and girls from all the neighbors together that they have they knocked it down after these deceivers to 50 bhakti and 50 shidduchim because they got a lot of people involved now but what's going to be with you so there are cries i'll tell you a story which happened by us installing the show we have with the shurim diana right now while we're talking to the shim poppa williamsburg or she installing ignition there's a coil we have molotov what happened we run up to find out what happened dude let's say 25 in the light there's two alter broken 28 years old what 28 or 28 29 that age and they couldn't find the [ __ ] we called it people said we give big money nothing we had one big ask of my guest when we called him up what should we do and he said the following i want itching a man to donate not money two hours a week you know what that means they took one buckle 25 causing a light each one donated two hours would be kim and his wife they shared by the supper table and they spoke within a month debacle was engaged because 75 hours a week donated for this baka then they started working on the next buck the next 28 year old and a month later he was also engaged we need choice is working for kaiser that's what we need here and that will be a tremendous physique to help nice israel to do the more status will do they should have that will do for ourselves parents for their kids and it's so hard we'll do the ability to see how much we're doing we'll have to also do because he's the one that's preserving a second answer what was the hardship of kai so the first answer was because yeah it's a big thing to bring shira or kaidish kid's a big thing the second thing and the eighth was as dabney sorry sorry fish a second answer is a muridic answer why was it so much harder by chris yamsev than by it's rhyme by all the marcus it was easy and just by yams of the answer is in the beginning of israel mushroom said okay now i understand why they eat mongolis because they speak oshinara daltura they speak russian out of one another now i understand what happened carl is all changed it says madras is and what happened by the end all the between from the tribe were fooled they borrowed all their clothing and the gold and the silver one mystery did not know that it's a whole plan of calisthenic they thought this neighbor's asking me for favor i'm giving him gold and silver and dishes and clothing all that the next seed went to another mystery if one yid would tell out that we're all doing it they know what happened if i would find it i would stop it all the mushrooms said this and what happened was not one eid spoke and said and then they found that hey everybody took everything that that's what they ran out after eating some they ran out what's going what it came because they had black actors they wouldn't speak a word aside about somebody else not a world of shinar that was the thicken of the time but that was and that's where they got dams fadaya kingdom everything was a mecca for eden but what came to the yam surf when they had on the sawing they were afraid they shall have more muna and they started fighting and arguing no we're going we're fighting back no we're going to jump into the water we'll die day rather than they should kill us out no we're going to try to make peace we're going back to the time they were fighting wakes up again and now there's a kitchen that's what happened so if kosher is a what's up the person gets bored is born and they grow up who knows how much how much people ruined shidduch and how much people shepherd people so what did they do in yamcha darbane yes a person could share a [ __ ] just like the gemara says nirita writes a person could take away [ __ ] that reacted a person could talk he could be the one and this needs a big physique of shamir salasha and i spoke about it last year and i have to speak about it again because i saw the feedback how many people called me up by me too but me too but me too everybody killed my shidduchim they say i said here last year the kids said he saw mahmee and smith and he writes it's limited to three things you're allowed to say upper courses preetsis and highly upper courses that is upper curse only with three conditions one is that you know for sure that now presently has this highly for sure two that you don't make it bigger than it is and three you don't have any grudge on them that's why you're saying it and how time writes more things that's all another three things only if you have no other choice how to stop the [ __ ] that'll be sick by not telling him or you don't and also you don't know what she has maybe she also has a sickness how could you tell her it hurt him it maybe has maybe she has much worse than it you have to know how many this is we have to know what you're talking about and a third is you'll be more important if you don't kill away this boy or girl if you don't do more harm than just by stopping the shadow and this is important such important the the mcgrath used to say because people are killing one after another one of the things i said someone that's a ghanaf he's told from people when they work for some business and he's coming to to for a job for business so let's take a lot of time listen if be careful this guy you take him he might kill your business but if this battle boss that's taking him is a real say vilde he's a real if he finds out he's again he'll tell the whole city to make sure that everybody knows and killed his personal reputation forever you should make sure commission get married you shouldn't have anything kill him away from me because the head there is because after that you have to know to help him but you have no right to kill away this person let the guy go work for him maybe he'll steal but you can't kill this person even if you stole by somebody else you can't kill him for life so that boy said today by shidduchim if you know how it goes today it's not like the old times he came to yeshiva to find the bokeh you call up the father mother and the and the and the whoever gives information the girl the friend the rebbe the teacher the says i don't know you know he didn't listen to me exactly you know he he didn't follow the system of the shiva the father mother the shot can know about it the the the rush of shiva the masjid or the teacher says it to somebody else six people everybody knows about and the bok has killed for years that's the fact more than that today people want to hear only good they don't believe that every person has the question we all have gastrinis nah if they hear one word bad about a bach or a girl the [ __ ] because of you and the parents work you imagine to make sure they work it's like sadiq which says kanye's to call people and try to figure that finally you got somebody there to the holy radish somewhere in the waiter they make one phone call to somebody that's a friend i don't understand this i don't understand how could it be that a teacher or principal or manal or they can't kill but a manal a malama then a teacher and a friend could kill somebody dean and a fascist how many shidducha my families were killed forever by your label they labeled the talmud a certain stigma this talmud is this and he's killed forever after last year i said she that's what i'm saying and again shiva called me up that there was a [ __ ] that was supposed to finish one night an hour before the other side called up backing out what we heard something azil's or something you know disrespectful no last week even muncie i spoke to he tells me you know by my son my aiden he says one of my dems i called up yeshiva and rasha shiva he wanted to tell me the emmys the endless information and she told me he didn't follow the system of the she we didn't come always to share he didn't you know you just want to tell them the emmis says i understand i'm not looking here for uh uh if he went to yoshi or not i'm looking for a bakir ishmael and is this the land is this the land is it a shaman is good me this this one i'm not looking if you went to your personal chair what are you it's awesome to do that i see the listeners these people are i don't want to say my mouth what what they're going to happen to these people they're killing doritos of people not one hundreds one person says it's illegal and kills the [ __ ] and usually i mainly shake on him last year after my [ __ ] called me up to me yeah i told these people manny mcgeek and i tell you you're the one in this school that's kind of no i give good information i give good information benedict they should say like crime right he's a good girl i don't know enough to give a full picture of information it asks me a question i'll try to find out for you or even more than that how could it be that masjid in yeshivas of bakim or girl 17 18 years old are giving information on a bokeh that's 22 that's a readiness historical three four years learning he tells him what happened three four years ago this also pick up a time this is awesome do you know what he's now how can you do such a thing you're killing bakkham you killed him when he was in the achievement he killed him now also people have to be responsible that tens of thousands of boys are girls everybody had some shidduchim spoken and they have to be hoshish maybe if people ask me information three times on a book and it's not maybe maybe i had a helicopter and then you are many many say yeah i i held this is not for you elders and i who asked you to sail the phenom for you he's not gonna do it there are certain people kids you send them to one yeshiva or obey him amazo disrespectful and these are the ones that give bad information the same baja goes to camp oh good oh yeshiva with the masjid hall is respectful to the bakram [Music] these are the places we should send the kids to each even girls schools and the truth is most malam the manala are great but there's too many of those little ones that killed everybody and the truth the person is not a malach but the rambam writes in days of about you but your children what happens people inside themselves as much travel talk is now being enough people in them are rebbe has a tiny talmud you feel it in his heart in his mouth and his lips in his eyes and his breath and once they make a picture on the student on the girl or the boy he's killed for life now it's like a hatter and bahama is sitting for years waiting for shidduch who takes a cries on the tower of the baja and that's why one of the biggest problems say they need a project for this don't know how to talk somebody asked him what are you supposed to say by [ __ ] that he said the ms says what does the mean the ms she said the my list you say ten times more the bad things they say a hundred times less why because usually when you say milers ten times more they'll take off ninety percent the shrine is they times it by i heard this between the lines they times it by a hundred so someone will say ten times more great things about the boy and girl and a hundred times less the kasrinas then they'll hear the embass and if they'll hear the ms then it'll be emis they saw one time fast a tightness so they asked the sheep why is your shiva so rashivaraban kotler said because there's one book here mr ignish and i and they speaking [ __ ] of him and i'm afraid they're gonna ask me information and how can i say bad about a booker so he's fasting abundant please make this information because i cannot say about them i tell them it was my son i mean things that need to be very careful because such things in heaven as a similar test you have to be very careful but i'm talking about normal things the greatest barking people are also with and again as i mentioned we find some more constrainers they make a stigma and a finish and now you know why there's so many thoughts on the song so i don't know what it's about what to do i just know it's a brand of fire miss masala and bachmann girls this is the biggest marker so the process says the toyota cruises somebody that that hit somebody hidden that's lost the every election is bad but every russian you say you go fighter he killed the bug forever he can't find the good cheddar the girl forever families forever it's a big screw so somebody could go explain you can't force a [ __ ] but after somebody killed it away to explain what it really is to be makshif the baker and girls to pick them up leaders to make a project about it and know what he has to talk to teaching she was in school but yet just talk what not to talk in this course what people would do talk good this would be a lavish motion and we have to learn from our good islam how they spoke about especially the mobile ambassador tazhayan medve says eof eve was a very hush of a rich person he wanted to make happy the heart of almana what did he do amanda couldn't find the [ __ ] so the gamora says he went around telling everybody oh this is my family take off as your in your family he said yeah she asked him how could he say she said if the the girl is a great girl the only problem is because she's titled the same i could call her my choreo no what emma's means i would say him knew how to do how to do it i heard from the mana vision samantha he told me there have been yo masaka a father came over and asked him about a book what did he say says this person needs he needs that i should say you know what it puppet over the means from williamsburg it's brought an image of him once somebody came to ask him about the bachelor i'm not talking about australians i'm talking about to bring out the miles how to say it just bring out the good part good meadow he's always happy caring keeping out the good good part so once someone came to the poop about a buck he said he went on like that after the hustler what's the difference a small lie or a big lie how you got to say more answers because if this person would live a little longer maybe you would have mitzvahs and opportunities to become better and he would that could be that so that's where he allowed to let us say it said this whatever mother a person that lived 70 80 years he didn't change for 70 80 years but maybe if he would live another few years he would do a little better more mitzvahs get out of him because maybe you never know get a worked out or become older be better coach in a bacha that always changes by the constant they become better they have more christ in life they themselves and they know what their responsibility is for the fighting that happened the talking of shanhara they're hurting people and again i'm not talking about about real histories which you have to have our oscar of it shouldn't be america toys i'm talking about bringing up in a good sky they should see you love the boy or the girl when you give out information and this includes asking michaela all the competitors i have a friend that for whole has happened five years ago you had a girl 21 years old a whole year's easier and a whole year shidduchim was spoken one after another he said it's a great girl hundreds of boys were spoken nothing moved and that's why i've heard from somebody that maybe if you have to pay this maybe so you cheap at somebody maybe that's holding back so he said yeah he called up somebody that said that he owes him eighteen thousand dollars and even though he held it he owes him the money and it's a mistake there's a whole story behind it how would someone lost a check but he never got it and somebody else took it someone stole the money but he says i didn't get the money she he gave the check i remember the story he gave the check 18 000 even though he felt he doesn't owe it the next week his daughter became a caller i asked him today again the mice to make the double check to myself another story happened with my daughter malki she's also in the shidduchim line and books remember color in she went out in the winter one month shabbos to buy hammond bagels or pizza whatever some from lava molecules the maps what's the occasion and there's a whole line in the store waiting and people people working they were very nervous but you know usually you make the carbon on one person and one of the workers just screamed at all look with the line and holding up he just screamed did you know he was mad she didn't say anything she came home you just told my my wife that this whole this uh mahalo the food that she brought close to cost her a busy busy harness in the store she got a lot not just a few dollars it caused a lot of his joy in his so my wife immediately said you kept quiet you didn't say anything yeah so we must follow faster my knees should become a collar she's 27 years old she become a collar my daughter said yeah this girl should go off might do my knees so one of my kids scream mommy but but you have a son that just became 22 he also needs to be a cousin he also needs to be here very so why did you say farm so my wife says no but she's first because she's 27. my niece is first she's 27. what's the name what are you talking about the next morning sunday my schwager i i spoke this [ __ ] about what if a few weeks ago no it wasn't interesting that day it was much shabbos that sunday is going into the shadow and within two weeks the girl was engaged being marvata is the opposite of mach like that's holding back all the shidduchim being marvata and saying speaking good and making sure does not pay this give him money and be my this is the second thing what we could do the third thing that we could do why was the akitrik by kris yams of muranbayitsyasmitrain by the marcus everything was free dumps for their kid but was a big deal this is a murder they can answer everybody this is he says a few words but these are such frightening words because when the stream came they start complaining oh sure why'd you take us out we came here to meet but to die we could have died in the time we told you eddie better take us back to the time we should work here for the museum everything will be fine leave us alone why you why are you taking us to darling they complained morale you complain you lose everything in other words hashem promised that they could go takes his role hashem promised the youngster is going to split that's only on the condition when you praise hashem you don't complain you complain they lost all the shepherd everything that was from complaining like that also the din was so strong because they said that they wanted to go back so what did they have to do what was the ticking they had to that it's going to be good that's where we by mahev say some sukum of the shira by night even though the shira was in the morning but we say some sukum by night because the eaten before they went into the haramuna which is going to be good foreign the helicopter he says yoshi in the morning sheila a person could fix everything the good for nephesh through shira when he tells somebody you pray you call somebody i have no time for you but when you say a praise oh because of complaining and this is all our brokers what we do and that's also the same kit trick by chris yams by shidduchim we grow older we have complaints about why this why the why everything person grows all these complaints ruin hurt a person bring dinner on a person and that's why it's so hard for the shidduchim so what should we do we have to thank hashem for the kids that we married but if they thank washington hashem we're alive we have to check for the hands for the feet all the broadcasts that we say in the morning and after we praise for everything then abolish them give us another [ __ ] that will have even more to praise for you shira this is what we have to do we all know the mice i said it once many years ago there was a person that the doctors one morning he wakes up and he became blind the doctor said he said take out the eye he rented iron coatings of manhattan for three hours crying and he said the burning shallow you know it's so many years i had the eyes i never thanked you fit and then he started thanking for everything he has for his parents for his family's phone feet for three hours thank hashem he goes back to the doctor and the doctor took a test everything went away everything is good he said hashem bernstein give me one more time opportunity to have my eyes i should thank you again for the eyes and he was and he changed it was a famous story the whole world shook with that story and people took that story girls 28 29 years old made stars sang hashem every day making lists family gatherings thank hashem not to complain and through all that they had the yeshua's and i want to give one's ghouler a particular thing we said it was your shira something to thank hashem and the reason is because it's from the oil alien it's from a mazda earlier higher than with the malhouse from the shrines it's kabbalah and it's if you have to pull it down so he the zoya asks why before darwining shakhtar is inaudible [Music] before benching hashem you must eat it's the opposite of chakras and you have to eat what whatever is if we could open up the shower alien through bikes you could once you could pull it off after the months after by more and we stick in all the rahman shabbas every person should put it full of fashion so you told him if you'll get married want to open the door from chris yam so for marriage you'll have also panaso they'll open the door for panasonic the fourth reason why was kosher because yamaza that we could apply to the vugin why was that harder because yams of me the sadden more than by mithram by all the marcus and the answer is capital how long would i have to look for aces every day and i'd honor your vlog how long would they sign to be on top of me and the is nd7 to four gallons hashem says i asked you how long am i gonna have to wait for you then you're gonna have to ask how long i'm gonna have to wait back for hashem i'd on up how long are you gonna forget me leave me in colors it depends how much hashem acids wait for us to and this is what happened by kris yams of zucchini medicine pastries a marshall a king found a basma malachan a girl of malachim that robbers took her and he saved her and then she went he wanted to marry her because he wanted to do good for her to marry her and make her mauka and she didn't want you don't hear from what he has to say he sent again the robbers and they said oh hashman now now i know who the melo is says the medish the inaudibles they screamed hashem hashem they screamed hashem hashem saved them they gave them doubts for they are killed him or all the marcus after a year was a mahaya instead of doubling mother shem getting close to tasham and darwining and doing more witness hashem relax [Music] i want to hear that crying again so he sent again to betray him that's what it was immediately and this is something that for us a person gets born grows up everything bak hashem shiva we get used to it we need to darwin more and the a bishop makes it like oh now is the new test caution as i've gone i'm waiting for you twilight this is what happened my oldest son is married with five kills israel before he was the host and he was ready 23 22 23 i called up a message of crime can i ask you what's going on what's holding it back it was a great boy and this is what the crime said and this is what people could do people could dove and could do more to darwin i don't know how long do you have to wait i tell back you out on how much you have to wait you should grow and do something more for yourself and fathers i want to say a story this happened with my brother rabbi madova from lakewood i asked him yesterday to repeat read the story one of his daughters were older 21 22 older but 20 on and the younger girl 16 1617 decided she wants to do something for her sister to get a [ __ ] they down chakras in school they made up the she'll add my riff oh it's so hard admired at night the shah's miracles is in school but maya she did marry her for 40 days no [ __ ] she didn't give up she didn't matter of another 40 days no [ __ ] and then she heard a sister someone crying on the phone her sister's friend who was 24 25 crying there will be kids nobody speaks and she was crying on the phone so this girl 17 year old said you know what i'll do a third 40 days but i'll do it for both for my sister and for my sister's friend guess what this she didn't give up the third 40 years the 40th day that she finished marath that night her sister got engaged and her sister's friend was which is four years old also got engaged and you know what the chime was the same night the vault was the same night and the hustler was the same week this is any it doesn't mean after my revolt whatever you do to add more hashem kiss besikta what we spoke in four answers what was the question of going to create yamsuf why was it so hard and deenan by kris yams of allah over the very desire of allah more than by the whole yemen trying by the markets which even had everything free so he said four answers which applies to shidduchim as well one is the best iron we have to bring them to high level shira and when you want to do something big you gotta pay for it and same as the original it says will do anything to stop a [ __ ] because he knows that for machida he'll come out the biggest sadiq mendoris so what are you going to do about it you got to jump into the water and [ __ ] non-stop the second thing we said that by christianity there was dalit kitas fighting around ah we fight his murakitrik was the kill trick so melo we have to be careful oshinara talking bad about shidduchim killing people hurting people to see to do the opposite to be marvata and to malam it's horse and to help people third answer we had was the morale that the reason why there was a big hit required the amps was because they complained let's go back to mitsray and we came here to die in the middle are you complaining hashem promised to be christian you're going to israel you complained you lost everything and therefore the 80 was shira singed the fourth one is the amish is waiting it's avali to awesome maybe trying they cried and then after a year marcus everything was fine stopped crying stop being close to hashem you have to cry again because hashem says to us how long do you have to wait so the remembrance of these four answers are on deposit as follows which applies to every issuer chris yamser and zivwug in the following plastic we need no screaming oh should have been what's going to be here so much answer the following don't be afraid hashem is here for you don't be afraid what should i do but i need a [ __ ] to stand in one place is look what hashem could keep on doing for you today could bring you your shoe if you'd have and you never know maybe today is the day a second thing he said don't look at now the massive doesn't look good look what could be the future make a new picture in front of you don't look at the way it looks now look what's going to be forever never maturing forever what does that mean it means be talking [ __ ] don't complain look the way it seems now look the way it could be look the way it's going to be have it taken and [ __ ] for the future but how is it going to happen to sugar hashem if you keep quiet don't talk one another don't kill shidduchim don't talk anything bad about another no grudges bring marvata be quiet says they should the mushroom if you can do all these four things they're not afraid they doubt hashem they have been talking in sheer that everything is going to be good they know hashem is going to do their shadows and they know to be quiet but if they do all this then they could do the next thing and have the issue actors together the isu they should go to mysterious nervous to jump in to work hard for shiloh to do the best he can and this horse will all have sudukum our boys say we stand in the end of three weeks and one of the things that we spoke about as guru for sudha is to do good one another to be water and faked i want to say more ridiculously that we could take home and get physic and maybe i'll say a story with that passion this week klaus overcomes the actors it is rather reading pasha's marseille we read matasmasi this week in the three weeks to make actors and we say how are we going to get hezik what's the last pasha before hazak hazak vanessa what what happened to parasha the story with bernoulli the salafi had five girls ultimately the commercials and baba bastard kofi tessa with base the youngest was 40 40 and up in this week's pasha all five maybe shidduch and not only that they made it in order that's kazakhstan but what happened how did they make the [ __ ] the gamora says about monster they want to allow she said they won't allow to do it how could you wait so long how are you who's this you have kids how did they let me say the nest have kids so the garage says they're in the gemara they were very choosy they were they couldn't find the [ __ ] you know why they couldn't find the [ __ ] that you know what these girls were the gemara says very geniuses darshan you're saying they gave big delusions speeches said connie are the same dude biggest sid corneas they couldn't find in guns claudius the youngest was over forty straightening kamara what happened that they found the [ __ ] suddenly all together one after another i didn't see anybody speaking about it what happened but what was the story in the pasha the answer is what happened to pasha look in the hamish which were going into strong what's going to be every shaver married in their own shave it didn't go out in that time they didn't go out because each one should the supporter explain they should conquer that land they didn't conquer whole lake to swallow one shot because they let slowly because they couldn't fill it up so they did it slowly so each shave it had to conquer their land and responsible so they said if these five girls will marry out a different shave it then all the shaving the go the land goes by the husband the husband will take the land why should we go conquer that land for some other shave it they're not going to come in so nobody's in the car that piece of land will be lost that's what this opponent explains that a china in other words it was a tiny of ban odom that if these girls will marry out they they their shavers will lose land and no it'll stay but they're going nobody's gonna not eat nobody will conquer it this explains it to porno so what should they do that's why they shouldn't go find a good boy that's good for them no hashem ants in the bag being named no they don't have to take their shave it they could go whichever one they like what's good for them says we don't look at the father the mother the kitten what's good for the girl what the girl likes that's for [ __ ] don't not you shave with no hajj bonus of money they could take any from the twelve shavating they can go whatever they want but they wish to add it it's a good acer to take from your shaved if you could find and your shave is better because then they get conquered to land but he told them to say they should allow to go out so they had a choice so what happened now suddenly they all got shadow parship shot you could say they saw hashem says maybe it's better your own so they looked alone and they know about their own the answer is i think is a muy ridiculous answer a boy say you'll agree to me that's a chat the answer is they were choosing they couldn't million people no [ __ ] for them nobody's as good as them five girls nobody's a [ __ ] but once they heard there's a child of ben autumn that if they can if they'll take them a different shape with their shame says your battle but if they'll take my other shade with what's going to happen then people in their shape will lose out but i'm not going to start up with so they decided let me take what's better in my family they took their cousins with minutes one after another because they know until now they know the whole class they could take but now it's gonna be they'll lose land the hashem was them that's not the best thing to do to hurt the anime says disappointed they didn't take exactly what they really wanted no not the best what they want the second choice on themselves clearly the um they didn't take the choice they wanted they would sell because they all got chidokin one after another in order that's the independent vanilla i try to help many times i hope many people who i can't when i i don't have no time but years ago i made an event in somebody's house robert binnick's house for scala his wife called people to come and there was one family a very beshivashi of hair they don't have money they don't know nothing to themselves but here thomas is color they want to come help out so listen to the story the the the lady had a ring of diamond during a cheap time between michigan floyd you know the chibari she didn't wanted to stroll for many many years and she was harvesting cortez role so she spoke to her husband she wants to sell the diamond of a ring she'll put on a cz stone doesn't make a difference they never use it she wish people you know and with this ring they'll sell it and they'll use the most of the money for tickets this role she didn't go in 10 years already she once got that israel so the stone was worth seventeen eighteen hundred dollars sold sixteen seventeen hundred they got it she got a ticket right this show and stayed five six hundred dollars left five hundred dollars was left that she does need she said for my ring i want to give away five hundred dollars for the scholar for this and she came and she delivered the money for her with russia she gave away a ring like the michigan she gave it away she comes there she saw her husband saw the time hashem she goes on she speaks to her husband she says i feel so bad this time and she can't have they're not the type to raise money this i'm going to go to at this role enjoy myself this year it is wrong i'll give away the whole money not go to this role and i'll give it to the talmud the husband didn't watch her here she's waiting for years to go to this role she sold the ring to go to this role but once she started doing the mitzvot giving hundred dollars mitzvah guerrero smith so and she got more excited i want to give the whole thing she comes back goes back to the house i want to give the whole money if i'm not going to take that foreign and the husband came no no do we will believe shaolin we want to give it no we that the fight forced him to take it and they gave it to him i remember this story she this lady this sardicas they gave up a ring to do this mitzvah they had a child that had a hard time finding the next morning they got a call within a week is and one more short story and i concluded that when i made we made these our ciphers and this went to each other sponsored it cost the tens of thousands of dollars huge posters every neighborhood but we sponsored the speaking save money and a lot of expenses and allah happened from that and i wish we could do a lot more but unfortunately we don't have the finances for that in any case when i called the popa scott and we made a meeting popa's got them sat masculine the whole williamsburg i was going to come what could we do they didn't want to do it because there's too much work people are going to show at night i have to fight one of the biggest scholars his name is and i'm not going to say his first name he it was his responsibility if it should be or not he was part of the vad and poppa to make this make the decision i convinced him i told him you don't get such a person all the time he's ahead of a big organization and turn over the kehillah in which he did listen to this story because you know it's hard for him you have to make arrangements from that safer and what are you then a whole medium what they're going to talk about listen exactly what happened when they hire sorrow well this past pastor sky started this winter when i spoke to him and he was finally masked him to the [ __ ] to to uh make that sifa he had a son that he was polishing for certain [ __ ] for this boy this [ __ ] that was spoken for almost two years the chanukah before a year before he was paying people money to convince the other side he helded this girl's mama's passing for his son he did everything to have the cheddar and they said lord with a big aleph and he waited a whole year still the day that he was masked him to make this asifa of asgardus for shidduchim the served that day ashanti calls him up he didn't do anything he didn't do startles he did a stardust to help us save her that day the chaplain called him up i heard that the other side is the girl side is asking again about your boy they're asking again i heard i'm just telling you a secret i heard the asking information you're gonna that was fri wednesday friday we spoke again to make a plan we have to make a date when we have this big asifa two thousand people and tens of thousands of people listening by phone when are we gonna have this asifa friday afternoon we were kazaya together on the phone we had a meeting that we're gonna make our sifa mr shem wednesday a few days later and we're going to make a meeting monday night with this rap shimeli that our guern of shimano to meet with all that's gone and what are we going to discuss that friday that we made up a date hello a phone call the other side want to meet the parents of the boy yeah every small part of this asifa he got back when they decided to do it when they decided to look it again he didn't want to shut us friday we made up as a man when the the drastic will be they called up they want to meet the family monday pashas told us a few days later monday parties told us we made our seafood with the prime smell rolled us on them that day they called they are very interested they want to meet again and middle of the night for talks tuesday morning a day before the asifa the [ __ ] that was finished and when it came to this i said how did we know it because i see for this person came over to man and tell them you know what happened with this and see if i was waiting a whole year for [ __ ] for my son and i i was about to that [ __ ] and it didn't go i just did for yemen i shared made every every part of the way wednesday i was asking to do to travel baltimore ask him the deceiver he told me the story is masking they're looking into it friday two days later what happened they made up a date they want to meet monday they made our sea for a priya sifa and middle of the night they finished the shooter my boys say if we do for yanum um like this week's parachute is foreign