What’s Destroying Our Eternity? - MUSSAR Pirkei Avot (76)

[Music] good to be Miami we have uh I think it's number 76 of the series we uh continue this uh series that's helping me do cha I don't know about you guys but uh for me it's been a uh real uh um a real big uh big Improvement so each each time we learn these things even if you know all of it to repeat it and repeat it and repeat it that's the greence for Success um so also the will go too yeshu Mika Daniel Yeshua Ben Abraham aaru herel Ben mayor she shba Sarah Magda Nicole valman Michelle valman Emily valman Patricia Montero yaran uh Garcia Ada Vasquez rera Guerrero Melissa nor Sarah leat SAR Ruben Ben Rifka Dalia Romero Lindsay misers Jana but Vladimir David Ben nria Doris bjora Sarah bat Lana Lana bat SAR dor Mercedes udor um morai Ephraim and Sharon and there's a reason why I'm not mentioning last names but hm knows who I'm talking about they all have um the good thing about this job of being a being a someone that's involved with bem having a merit to be involved in it is that you get to be involved in many people's lives and help them help them in many ways that are very personal very intimate you know you get someone that uh has marriage problems kids problems money problems religious problems Community problems rabinal problems all types of problems that we know of problems we don't know of of problems we have that sometimes we don't even know is a problem so you help navigate people to the right page in the Tor you know oh you have this problem okay it says it in it says the Tor all these problems you have someone in history has had this problem and hasem has provided a solution and just like the Torah says that learning T is as if you fulfilled all of the it's also the we talked about last night it's also giving us a incentive to learn Tor because Li T learning Tor also fixes all your fixes all of your problems just need to know just need to get to the right page doesn't mean that every time you open a page it's the right page you have to get there so one of the big benefits is a uh and I'm talking you know regular benefits I'm not talk abouta and all of those other things that are extraordinary of course but the benefits that you see with your own eyes so you get to see sometimes sometimes people listen and they make serious changes in their life they used to be Shabbat now they keep Shabbat before they started keeping Shabbat you told them you have to keep Shabbat oh is it so difficult I can't believe it do I really have to they try to find a way out of it you tell them you have to keep it you show in the Tora it says you have to keep Shabbat you have to avoid into marriage you have to make sure you follow the Tora in every single way shap or form and so on and so forth and sometimes you get to see get the pleasure of seeing people take AEM seriously and do it and then they get surprised I'm never surprised because I've seen it and for myself not only from other people but they're surprised that actually listening to Hashem gives you an amount of reward in this world not just the next world but in this world you enjoy Shabbat all of a sudden you look forward for Shabbat the whole week used to think that you don't want to keep it used to think that it's going to be torture used to think that you don't really want to do it now you start keeping Shabbat after a few months you get the hang of it you start doing it the right way you look forward for Shabbat for six days a week as soon as Shabbat ends you actually start getting upset which by the way actually happens because the the second that you get specifically on Shabbat leaves so that's left is upset half left so people get to see this you people get to do these CH and they actually see that following hasem is m a guarantee for Success the one of the negative parts of this not to complain shalom but really it has to do with the lecture today one of the negative parts of doing this is you get to see also the opposite you get to see what happens when people don't listen to Hashem and for me personally I don't know maybe other rabbis have their own way of expressing themselves I'm not really sure but for me personally when I see a sinner I don't get upset at them I don't get like oh this this guy is a Rasha he's evil that no I get scared when I see somebody driving on Shabbat I get scared when I see somebody that's about to get married to a non-jew whether it's a man about to marry a woman that's not Jewish or vice versa I get terrified terrified for them because I know what's coming I see somebody that's sinning or was about to make a bigger sin I get very scared for them because I know what the train looks like when it hits you and they don't know it's even coming it's very scary because I also was in their position and I didn't know that the train was about to hit me on November 18th of 2006 at 700 a.m. 7 a of November 18th of 2006 I was perfectly healthy with an annoying problem that annoyed me twice a year annoying wasn't like a I wasn't sick it's annoying me like someone gets an itch twice a year and they want to eliminate the itch for twice a year something like that at 700 a.m. I was perfectly healthy November 2006 May of 2006 just few months before that six months before I made $1.6 million for the month so and I continued making a lot of money after it so money wasn't the problem even though some of the deals that I had at the time didn't go as good as I wanted them to we still had plenty of money to burn so on November 18th 2006 at 700 a.m. everything was fine now little did I know that as of 8:00 a.m. just one hour 60 minutes later 60 minutes later 60 minutes later 60 minutes later I didn't know that everything would change everything would change change in such a drastic way you would think it's a madeup story like if I heard the story I wouldn't believe it if I didn't live the story I wouldn't believe it if you actually break the whole thing down you see in a matter of 60 Minutes everything changed Fortune changed from that moment on everything changed every single thing we touched turned to garbage the gold turned to powder used to be turned to Gold the gold started turning to powder the friends became enemies healthy 26y old all of a sudden became the sickest person you've ever met in your life the AIDS victims were looking at me and like oh this guy's really sick 60 Minutes difference but I didn't know I didn't know that's why I get scared because many people don't realize that in a matter of just like that in 60 minutes in 60 seconds you could destroy youra but already start suffering for it here in this world people always think all the suffering isn't gome and there the first chamber and the second chamber and a sixth and a seventh no no no no there a chamber chamber called Earth and for the most part most people spend their lives suffering here but they don't know why they're suffering here when you get there when you get to allaha you know for sure why you're suffering they tell you they tell you one of the very scary things you read in it's of people that steal they feed them sand and yell at them J why don't you eat eat and the breaks St te like why why uh why you know what's what's the punishment for when you you eating what was not yours when you were eating what was not yours you didn't uh cry about now we're giving you something here eat the sand why you crying punishment is awful awful this is for stealing uh meaning you made a you ate you ate a piece of bread you didn't do a blessing that's stealing what not talking about robbing a store for that talking about you just ate you just drank little iced tea you got all this nice iced tea you forgot to do blessing first blessing Second Blessing sh you have to pay for that you have to pay the bill it's very scary so imagine somebody's about to inter marry imagine so sometimes I see this and sometimes by sometimes I mean every day that's what I mean by sometimes every day every day I see these bad news and it makes me very sad because I try to help I really M try to help these people day and night to go in the right direction to help them but for whatever reason or another when it comes to the the Moment of Truth they break they break the question is what will we do when the moment of truth comes and hasem tests us will we fail will we break or will we make it in this week's we see that AB ainu is continuously tested we thought that last week was the last test you were just about to slaughter your son we figured this is the end of it and some of the say that was such a Monumental test nothing was compared to it until we find out that as soon as he gets back home he finds out that the love of his life the other half of his soul just died and he has to go bury her this is a Moment of Truth to say the least where at this point any person in the world in any generation other than abah ainu would have broken down would have just said you know what no enough enough okay jumped into the fire I slow whatever every I did now why you kill my wife for moment of truth what is what does what does abah ainu do ab ainu makes sure that the crying the suffering that he's going to he does he does it privately he does it privately so no one sees him crying and asks the question why does AEM punish such a righteous person because Shalom they question hem so we see in the moment of truth AB ainu passes the test with flying colors gets perfect score said wasn't she old she passed away 127 years old he died at 175 so she still had a some time left according to the way he lived but say that she died at the perfect time it's just the way she died was a surprise she in essence the equivalent of a heart attack because what happened is that when uh she woke up in the morning and she saw that you know son is missing but she didn't think much of it it's not like today where you just call your son every 5 Seconds to see where he's at sometimes the children would go away for uh days but wasn't exactly a child he was 37 years old but the Satan has a job his job is to test us not to destroy us first is to test us if we pass the test he comes back with another test if we fail the test he goes to Hashem and he tells on us hey look he failed the test can I punish him okay go punish him no he failed the test can I punish him for it so first he's a yet then he's Satan then that's so the Satan came to s menu as a uh homeless guy beggar you know poor person on a camel and he says say uh oh aren't you uh's uh mother and aren't you married to this Abraham this crazy guy Abraham he says what's it to you goes oh I just wanted to let you know I just saw the crazy husband of yours uh he's uh was tying up your son he was about to kill him he was about to slaughter him as a sacrifice he always told everybody not to sacrifice kids but he went to sacrifice your son so I don't know why you're so happy because your husband is sacrificing your son as we speak now saru didn't just love her son every mother loves her son saru knew that the entire fate of is depends on without there's no without yov there's no 12 tribes without the 12 tribes there's not so it's not just loving the son no was a prophet bigger than abah ainu she had better prophecy than abah ainu she knew the future she the whole thing depends on you tell me he's going to kill him that means he's destroying the world as right now he's not destroying my son anybody can have okay so somebody else can to have a son no oh he's destroying the world right now if he kills him the moment 5 seconds later hasm destroys the world why do is there's no world so my husband you're telling me is about to destroy the world would you get worried and that's just this world imagine it's eternity too so s menu is hysterical she goes to the Giants to the to the what was remaining of the neim and she asks him did you see my husband and there was three big Nephilim that were related to OG but not OG himself OG was involved in the story of lot I think one of them was called timan or Taman and the other two I forget their name but anyway she goes to these three Giants she say you see my husband oh yeah yeah we see there's actually a old man I guess that's your husband and he's on a mountain and uh yeah he tied up a younger guy it's about half his age or a third of his age with the uh hands behind the back and the legs behind the back and they're tied to each other page 54 ask how do we know what's says we learned from Abu what's AK it's when the hands and the legs are tied to each other meaning leaving no room whatsoever for whatever is being tied to move and you're not allowed to do that thear talks about it you're allow to do it to an animal for example on Shabbat you don't want your animals to run away you have a camel you have a horse you have a donkey or whatever you want to tie to something but you're not allowed to TI in any way you want meaning they're not you not have to make them suffer because that's called so you can't just tie them like tied his son where they can't move the whole Shabbat you have to tie them in a way that's kosher so for example a camel you're allowed to tie one of his legs so he could still walk and manage but it's on three legs which means he's not going to run away and so on and so forth but you're not allowed to tie any animal like abah ainu tied his son that's Shabbat 56 I believe 65 maybe so they're telling you what they see these Giants they have good Vision they're Giants tell I see you he's tying him and he has a knife in his hand and then Hashem makes the clouds come and block the vision that's the that's the Moment of Truth for s menu That's The Moment of Truth for s menu the Giants now can't see they can't see what's happening so they can't tell he by the way he did it he didn't do it they don't know what happened that's the Moment of Truth where saru is now crying her eyes out not knowing what's happening is is the world going to be destroyed in a moment or not this is like one of those uh action movies I remember I saw as a kid where there was always the world was always about to explode or get destroyed by some bomb or some metor or something but something would always happen in the last minute to save the world so in essence this is happening but it actually happened in real life but now she doesn't know what's happening there's no news then suddenly another guy comes in which is also the Satan but now he's dressed up as something else and he says to her hey don't worry uh just so you know I just saw your uh son and ab they uh they were just walking they walked down the mountain everything was good from happiness from happiness she died from happiness she died equivalent of a heart attack this is why kazal teach us that when you're about to give someone good news or bad news but even good news specifically good news you have to give it to them in pieces like if it's a big thing like for example there's a the story is a funny story but it's very very real two guys are friends one of them is very very poor and the guy that's not you know he's also poor but not as poor as the other guy says why don't you buy a lot ticket why don't you buy a lot ticket ah me my luck I can't even win a bubble gum I can't win you want me to buy a lot ticket he goes what are you kids $1 ask somebody give you a dollar buy a lot ticket he's bothering him the whole day buy a lot ticket buy a lot ticket buy a lot ticket eventually the guy says okay you know what I'll buy a lot of ticket what is it $1 I'll buy a lot of ticket so he buys a lot of ticket but if he has such bad luck his whole life he forgets about the ticket a couple of days past his friend sees the numbers on the uh you know one of these Billboards remembers that his friend has these numbers he looks at his friend's T Numbers he sees his friend one now if he knows this guy for him 50 bucks is a lot of money if he tells him listen you just won $10 million hundred million a billion dollars whatever they people win in Lotto these days the guy's going to have a heart attack and die so he doesn't know what to do he says you know what I have an idea he goes to a doctor he says listen you have to tell my friend something what do you have to tell your friend tell my friend he won the lotto did he yes he won the lotto okay bring him here so he tells him listen you don't look so good why don't we go to the doctor no no I don't have any money for a doctor goes no no don't worry about it it's a friend of mine I know this doctor come with me to the doctor he'll take care of you for free okay I'll go to the doctor you say I don't look so good you're my buddy why not he goes to the doctor so the doctor is checking him faking it like something is really wrong and he yes the doctor starts talking to him because the doctor knows if I tell him right now he won $100 million he's gonna die he going to get a heart attack this guy so the doctor says to them listen your friend told me that you had a lotto ticket goes yeah yeah I forgot about this lotto ticket wait he told you about my lotto ticket goes yeah lotto ticket what if you won what do you mean if I won because what if you wanton I don't know $500 guy like wow $500 you know what I can do with $500 $500 I can live a whole month $500 $500 $500 I could eat I could go to get a motel and and shower for the first time in a few months you know I could do 500 guyy is so happy just talking about some fake $500 that he doesn't have the doctor is like okay okay I got to take it easy this guy goes what if you won $55,000 $5,000 $5,000 doc are you serious what you want M that's a dream come true five you know what can I do $5,000 $5,000 I'm already rich what else do I need to ask out of $5,000 $5,000 $5,000 that changed my whole life so the doctor says what if you want $50,000 the guy starts looking at the doctor goes what do you have all these questions what do you give this $50,000 $50,000 can do $50,000 $50,000 I'm taking everybody I know if you to lunch so the doctor sees this guy is you know okay maybe by now it's okay maybe by now I could tell him I already tested him a few times what if you won the jackpot you won a hundred million homeless guy poor guy this is not even a part of his imagin ation so he says to the doc he goes doc if I want $100 million I'm giving you 50 the doctor drops that so kazal teach us when you give somebody good news you have to be careful this is what we're going to learn in a couple of weeks after they find out that YF is still alive before they tell yob that YF is still alive after 22 years of not seeing his son they send s the daughter of Aer to go Sing To Go sing to her grandfather yov and put him in a good mood what's he singing YF is still alive and he's the king of Egypt like in the background like elevated music and that got him into a good mood so by the time they actually told him he was ready for it cuz they knew that if they tell him right away he kill him where they learn it from when the Satan told her hey your son is alive and well it was too much for her she died of course kazal says that she lived exactly 12 27 years like she was supposed to this was just the way she died was surprising and it was actually a mided mid punish M for laughing when the Angels told her that she's going to have a son so first the first punishment was telling her no you don't have a son which is what she believed she's not going to have a son and then telling her no you do have a son he's alive when she laughed about it so it's measure for measure so the way she died but nonetheless for people like us what she did was how could someone die from Happ like I don't think that could ever happen to me like heart attack heart attack I a lot no it's not a matter of the lotto itself it's not it's just a matter of a physical reaction to an emotional event and usually in many cases you see people that have heart attacks or brain aneurysms or any type of major issue like that usually it's a result of some type of emotional response usually it's either the cause of anger they got so angry their body reacted not just their emotions or they got so stressed their body reacted if you go to any doctor any psychiatrist any psychologist and you ask him what is the number one killer in the world number one killer stress being stressed out in the Jewish World we call lack of amuna lack of faith in Hashem that's why you get stressed out because you have no emuna so now back to abah ainu he gets tested now he has to bury his wife he has to hide his Sorrows Soom there's no no person out that has lack OFA that doesn't understand the way Hashem runs the world questions it and he moves on so from this we see that AB ainu understood a concept a concept that if we ourselves understand it'll change our life but if we don't understand it we're doomed it's a very simple concept that if you understand it follow it you're in good shape you could be your own version ofo your own version of s if you don't understand it nothing in the world will help you and that's the mishna the Mish this week says which we also met in the uh Mish in a 39 maybe about a month and a half ago two months ago says this world is like the lobby before the world to come prepare yourself in the lobby so that you so that you may enter the Hall the banket hall so first and foremost we have to remind ourselves of who is this RAB yov ROV was one of the T one of the Holy people that's in the has several famous uh sayings that we've learned in the past and we'll continue learning one of them is that the reward for all of your is in anything you get in this world is just in essence to help you make more which the r elaborates on on his book but the point is that he's famous for saying listen this all the reward that you have is but the other thing that's very interesting is that ROV is also the grandson of Elisha Elisha B Aya who's Elisha B Aya in the time of the tanim each one of them was extraordinarily holy but unfortunately once in a while you'd have a bad story and Alisha binuya tops them all Alisha binuya was a t at the time of R and he's one of the four people that the says he went to thees he went to see what happens in shamim for tanim went to see what happens in sh things that we pre we can't even comprehend forget about tell you the story understanding what PES even means we can't understand they went to see what happens in sham whatever that means one saw it couldn't take it went crazy another saw it fell in love with it didn't want to leave was willing to die died didn't didn't come back didn't come back his didn't come back let me finish the point came back stayed there saw it I don't want to leave I don't want to leave I told somebody something that most people don't know is that if you get to a point of studying Torah deep deeply enough I'm not talking about studying a lot of books I'm not talking about being a bookworm of course that's necessary but I'm talking about gluing yourself to hem every moment that you're awake you're glued to hem you're reading his Torah and you're doing what it says not just reading it because it's entertaining or it's mentally stimulating you gluing yourself to hem the Torah can get to point where unlike secular knowledge the Torah can actually give you a physical reaction but the physical reaction is it's like nothing else it's like nothing else now I've never done drugs in my life so I don't know what it feels like to be high but the description of this feeling is something that is not from this world it's not it's not it's it's a physical reaction that's not of this world it's a pleasure that you can't get from the material world it's impossible so to imagine one of the one of the T go to sh sh it's not learning over here it's going to Sham sees what's happening over there and not wanting to leave it's not such a big difficulty to understand it I wouldn't want to leave either okay third one so what happens in sh his was able to handle it he was actually boosted from it became even a bigger sadik that'sa but the fourth one saw what was happening over there didn't really understand didn't understand one of the things that he saw and made him question things made him question things and little by little it became a k Why says how could it be that all of the reward is in the next World why can we have here how could it be that it says in the Torah that the malim are standing but I saw with my own eyes there's actually a Mal that's sitting down I saw a Mal that's sitting down does that change the rules of Shabbat does that change the rules of kosher does that change the rules of no but for him this question put everything into doubt you ever meet those people they ask you a few questions and sometimes you know the answer sometimes you don't know the answer you're not M sometimes you don't know the answer but you answer them already 50 questions 50 questions in a row you like a Torah encyclopedia question number 51 like you know what I'm not really sure ah see you don't know forget I'm Not Gonna Keep shabat what do you mean but you're asking about you're asking you're asking about if the fruits came before the trees and you know has nothing to do with Shabbat has nothing to do with one question that's it that's not a person that's looking for anes that's a person that's looking for excuses he was just waiting to ask you enough questions eventually you're not going to know something and then he can justify his sinful Behavior so Elisha Ben Aya saw something he didn't understand in his level and he lost it he lost it and became a big Kil started becoming a murderer he went to yes he would ask kids little tiny little kids studying T what are you studying I'm studying Mish okay give me a mishna what mishna you studying he gives a mishna okay give me p on mishna give me a commentary what what's what's the mishna mean and the kid will give him what it what he thought it means goes oh you're wrong took the kid killed him and then he cut them into pieces and he sent them to all the yes crazy but this Alisha who's this Alisha B just some some crazy guy who's this Alisha B Aya do you know that on yum Kip Yip every one of you mentions the name of a student when you're crying to Hashem for Mercy you're crying to hem for mercy on yum Kip what do you say in during the the god of answer me answer me who's is the student of Al so if the student is someone we depend on for for some mercy pretty much we're we're saying he has so many merits this has so many merits hook me up help me out sh no because of not because of me I don't have any merits go to you know but uh but has extra merits enough for the whole nation he has soem you're his God no I'm mentioning him help me out it's like oh what you don't know how know uh so and so you dropping names you ever meet those people they drop names yeah what you don't know Eddie Yeah Yeah Yeah Eddie Eddie we went to school together Eddie hasn't seen you in 30 years but the fact you went to school with them you're mentioning his name like he's your boy name dropping we read a little M says were dropping names to but it works now you have a problem though his Rabbi went off the went off the D but he was kesim is Rabbi it wasn't just some Rabbi that's uh to be the rabbi of RAB that means he was bigger than R May the students are not bigger than than the rabbis but he saw something that he didn't have an answer for he didn't like it started making sins little by little the sins fed themselves with more excuses and even when he wanted to do Chua he made enough sins that hasem made it difficult for him he became made other people sin so not to the same level but yes not to the same level anyway when he wanted to do chuva he heard a b call he heard some type of a voice the echo of a voice a Heavenly voice saying everyone can do chuva except a except the other meaning him Alisha Alisha Aya so now this is his Rabbi has a lot of and he said when I die I'm going to go to sh I'm gonna beg AEM with all of my I put all my SW on the line to allow me to put my Rabbi Elisha B Aya in Gom to put him in Gom why cuz right now he's in kafak right now he's nowhere they didn't know what to do with him he went to shamim on one end he's sinner he's a murderer he violated Shabbat he did a bunch of really really bad things sex crimes all types of terrible things but another end the amount of Torah that was inside him the amount of Torah that he learned was unprecedented to such an extent that one time re a kados that wrote the Mish saw his daughter after he died he says whose daughter are you he goesa he goes his seed is still alive immediately a fire from sham nearly burned rebi rebi was holy but a fire from sham was defending a was defending Alisha because of the Torah that he had so goes to Sham and all of a sudden they saw the says they saw that smoke started coming out of the ground of where Elisha was actually buried meaning that put him in 150 years passed ran one day sees this smoke and he asked what's the smoke the people that were old enough and knew the story say oh know they used to be everything I just told you is still in I put my word down now all the Torah that he learned I'm vowing now that when I die I'm going to go to shamim and I'm going to take him out of G myself me 10 who's going to get in my way ran who's going to get in my way when ranan died they saw that the smoke from Elish ended meaning he took him out of G put him in ganen the question is who's going to help us and take us out there's no RAB anymore who's going to take us out we don't have he's not why would he take it back it's his son we're not his son we're not his children different story wasn't his fault that shall Happ he saw something that we would have seen we would also point is he's in G we're still here now a lot of people depend on this kazal that says that a Jew that sins and goes to Gom can be saved by who by Abraham ainu abah ainu goes into Gom and takes out different Jews that deserve to be taken out what is not being taught is that there are certain people he does not take out in the it says in chapter 23 chapter 24 I'm sorry chapter 24 verse one says now abah was old well in on years and hem has blessed abah with everything what does it mean they blessed him with everything means AR became a billionaire arah became so rich he's printing money a had anything and everything you can possibly imagine materially spiritually was a complete human being but now he has one thing that he's missing his wife has died he's remarried but his one son his one main son still hasn't married still hasn't married and it's hurting him so he says got remarried yes moreid he had many kids in a par wedn so he's upset that his son has not gotten married and he tells his number one servant el el would take over anytime was not able to give a became gave he says elel I need you to go find my son a wife but not not just anyone you have to go to different place to find a son has to be specifically from a specific family it cannot be it cannot be from the daughters ofan says put your hand under my thigh and and I will have have you swear by hasem this is what you're going to do so Rashi says what do you what does it mean put your hand under my thigh ainu like I just said was blessed with everything was blessed with material wealth that only in your dreams maybe you can get to only in your dreams maybe he had everything you could possibly imagine but the most valuable possession that he had was his now unlike our tainted heads that as soon as we think of such a thing immediately we think of dirty disgusting things for ab ainu just like he viewed his finger that's able to change the pages in The ases he viewed his ases a holy person views his breit as KES something holy only a tainted mind like we have in the generation ation we live in today thinks of it as something that's provocative and dirty and and so on and so forth for ab ainu it was the most valuable thing he had because why it was an agreement it was an actual sign of an agreement between him and money you have a contract you buy a land when he brought the he signed a deal he gave some money that was the sign was money money exchange hands you buy a piece of real estate you give the guy some money maybe you sign a contract the end you have any proofs you ever a deal with hem who he has any proofs that hm even knows he's he's alive hasem sign any books for you no Didu had a signature Fromm he had a brief so for him that was the most valuable thing that he has and he tells elz put your hand under my bit because this is the most valuable thing that I have and swear to Hashem swearing hm's name that you're going to go find my son a wife that follow that meets these requirements now why did emphasize several times that it cannot be that it cannot be from the daughters of Canan why because they elzar himself was from elzar became elzar became after AB a kazal says elzar became so holy hasem changed his face to look exactly like a replica like abin you see both of them walking they look the same became monotheistic obviously there was no Judaism at the time but the point is that elzar became but when did elzar become elzar when did elzar become somewhat at a level that in sham they decided him he's never going to die he's going to go to ganeden alive when right here in this par because right now elel says I have a daughter I have a daughter same you know age as your son it's perfectly fine I'm a father you're her rabbi she has a good Rabbi it's you I'm a father I'm a decent father I follow I'm your student good family who raised her your your wife she has a good I have a daughter who could be a better match they grew up together they know each other good no how nice is it when oneor his kids marry the other gor's kids you know what kind of celebrations they have that's always try rabbis always try to marry their kids together you know it's good families especially the big giants so here you have elel have a perfect daughteru a says to isal don't bring a woman from from to my wife why because Kanan is cursed I am blessed Canan is cursed I am blessed now if I was a student and he just told me listen you just came to my Isa 30 40 50 60 70 years I'm in your Isa I'm your talid I'm giving lectures for free I'm this I'm this and now you tell me I'm cursed okay I retire thank you very much for teaching I'm going back to my father what do I need this for my teachers tell me after 50 years I'm cursed you not want to marry my daughter that's why El what does he say say you're right you're right is cursed remember in the Tora we learn no no says is cursed you're right hem says is cursed you're right and hasem saw in his heart that elza was not offended he knew it's the truth he saw the truth he accepted the truth for what it is he was not offended for a moment and he says him he doesn't deserve to die he's going to go to gedan alive when the Moment of Truth when elzar got the test are you going to follow the Torah because it's true or you GNA follow the Torah because it's convenient many people follow the Torah because it's convenient oh yeah I like Shabbat Shabbat is nice it's a vacation oh so you're not keeping Shabbat because hasem said so you're keeping Shabbat because you like to take a rest once a week oh kosher is good it tastes good kosher food is good oh so you're not eating kosher because Hashem said so you're eating kosher because you have five kosher stes next to your house it's not really that big of a deal so a lot of people today unfortunately I see this every day many times you see religious people that are religious because it's convenient not because it's true and this is why when they're tested when there's a Moment of Truth many break because their belief their am inem didn't have much legs to begin with in the Moment of Truth there was no truth this whole time they kept it because it was conven venient ABA was a rabbi IMA was a raban went to Yesa my whole life you know my friends were all religious but as soon as he met the non-jewish girl that was pretty he left everything do you know how many people already right now as we speak as we speak I'm dealing with at least a half a dozen religious people religious Jews born religious been religious the whole religious we talked about this last night religious people that are right now in a situation of in marriage religious we're not talking about people are secular religious people they call themselves religious they keep Shabbat keep kosher keep everything but they're intermarried they have a problem of intermarriage they're about to get married there is somebody about to be with somebody and so on and so forth why because at the moment of truth they broke it was convenient religion forel at the moment of truth he not only withstood the test but he said this is Emit and he wasn't even offended he wasn't offended and that's why it says and the servant meaning El placed his hand under the thigh of Abraham his master and swore to him regarding this manner so to us again some of us that have Twisted mind unfortunately we're still thinking about why do they keep having to touch this breit because we're still thinking in our Twisted mind that this is something that's not holy now let me give you a k maybe you don't know the breit of a Jew is so holy that abah ainu has a contract with hem every so often he goes to Gom to see who's there and he identifies the Jews by their breit if they Protected Their breit meaning they did not violate their breit they didn't waste seed they didn't go with non-jews they didn't go with prostitutes they weren't overly promiscuous and so on he takes them out of Gan that you get out of jail free card unfortunately in today's generation I don't know if such a person exists because there's such little teaching about wasting seed that nearly every single person that I meet either has the problem currently or is like working to get out of it or thinking about it some it's connected to it in some way or another and I'm not just talking about the young guys that are 15 16 years old I'm talking about married men 20s 30s 40s 50s 60s and as long as it works have this problem people think no no I'll fix this problem I'm not going to waste see once I get married if you didn't fix it when you were single it's definitely not going to be fixed when you're married it'll actually get worse it'll actually get worse when you get married so then this Covenant doesn't apply to you AB can't save you me 10 me 10 who's going to help you who who's going to give you something was able to help Alisha was able to go to sh and fight for Alish says who who's going to get in my way with all the Torah I have all the Torah he has all the Tor has we can help him why he's T who's going to help us ourselves that's our only hope says that if then it's like he got uncircumcised he gets back his and doesn't recognize him that's in essence what I was saying the point is that when somebody doesn't protect their breed it's not that does not want to save him thatu cannot identify him as a Jew once somebody has not done has died without doing chuva if they wasted seed or they did some type of they hurt their breit but they did chuva then it's fine we're good but if they lived their whole life and they hurt their breit and they did not do chuva when AB Ain goes to save the from he does not identify them as Jews because they don't have the sign that he had they don't have the bit so here we see that the Brit that you have when you get eight days old or if you're a convert later on sometimes is more than just a Brit it's more than just the circumcision more than just cutting some skin off of you that you forget about moments after it actually happens here we see says it's your most valuable possession now parents need to teach this to their kids so I'll give you some more things what it says in the Torah about you know that's true that's your so how come I see a lot of righteous very righteous people who really this like that video you sent me once of those uh bestes in Jerusalem who how they they trained the whole life and it doesn't look like they have shef when you because you define shefa differently than shefa really is you define shefa as money shefa does not mean money which we'll get to in a moment so we see we have a source of where everything comes from ra said in the name of RA which we learned a little bit about yesterday who said in the name of says anyone who places his hand over his lower face meaning on his genital puts his hand on it we're not talking about wasting seed even we're talking about literally just touching it has denied the Covenant of Our Father Abraham ainu since it appears that he's ashamed of his circumcision meaning sometimes you see people they go to the MKV and they're hiding you know from for for the purpose of this is very good this is appropriate behavior but some people like to go to these gyms or they like to go to these public saunas and they're hiding their breit but not because they're hiding it because of modesty they're hiding it because they don't want people to know that they're different there were some people that were to such an extent that they would actually pull their skin to such an extent that it looked like they didn't have a breit but the significance of what we're saying here is neither this or that the significance here is that we're seeing that kazal even looked at touching your bit as something very dangerous something that you could literally risk your entire by simply touching your B inappropriately in the same it says whoever holds his male member while urinating is considered as if he's bringing the Maul to the world he's bringing the flood Noah Noah's flood to the world why because the main reason of why hasem decided to destroy the world was because people were wasting seed how do people get to such an extent that they're so comfortable to waste seed they become very comfortable with their bodies overly comfortable with their bodies which we talked about recently a little more further says the rabbi you shall beware of any evil thing so the the rabis is teaching here that a person should never put himself in a situation where he sees or is involved in anything evil during the day because this will bring tum to him by night so the sages explain what does this mean Rashi says what they're referring to is watching your eyes if you look at every single girl that moves during the day at night you're going to have dreams that are going to lead you to waste seed if you're going to look at everything that moves during the day at night you're not going to be able to control yourself and you're going to waste seed either on purpose or not on purpose but one way or another it's going to happen now if you understand the significance of it you're realizing why it's called ra it's called in the eyes of why is it called is another name for Gom so you want to be Sav from Gom protect your breit protect your bre how do you protect your breit you start with your eyes further the says that there's a small hole in your body that creates a a large hole in your soul a small hole in your body that could create a large hole in your soul this very small hole could either bring life or destroy it and there's obviously many many other things but there's one particular thing that we're going to go over again we've talked about it in the past but this very same ran his students came to him they asked him how did you marry to have long life and so on and so forth but in the same that we see that story of uh of him telling his uh students how he merited to to to have such a uh such a long life 120 years um it says also a story about Rabel so Rabel when he got sick his students came to him this is Page 28b and they said say to him how did you marry to have such a long life be mindful of the honor of your colleagues and restrain your children from recitation and place them between the knees of Torah Scholars and when you pray know before whom you stand on the account of this you will Merit a life of the world to come so here it tells them a few notes that are pretty much Common Sense give people respect make sure you take care of your kids who give them Jewish Education make sure that when you pray you're paying attention to who you're praying you're not playing with your phone I always tell people sometimes you see them playing with the phone in besset to go to beet but in the middle of prayer instead of praying they're checking the baseball game they're checking the basketball game they're checking uh the stock market and I ask myself do they realize that God's here right now do you like if you're praying in a besset that means that you believe God is here not God is in sham he's here right now if he's not here why you praying here then if you're only on your phone because God's not here then why you even praying here just go home go to wherever he is but if he's here how dare you play with the phone in front of him this is pure logic but we don't think about it sometimes it's just a reminder so Raz says that these are very few things and if you do them you geta meaning if you don't do them you have no so here we see that it's very easy to get it's very easy to losea what is this yeah we talked about before about the wasting seed versus someone who's actually a murderer okay and you said that actually the punishment of someone who's a murderer is much less and worse than someone who we see okay what exactly is the punishment that a murderer gets because a murderer technically kills whole generation as well murderer still a murderer kills another person and if he gets the uh death penalty that is a big part of his of his Chua the um but a murderer is still Hasa someone that murdered another person still Hasa a person that Wast seed without doing chv does not have the reason why is the um explained this when it actually was pertaining to it says someone I'm sorry a um not someone that embarrasses another person in public so he says someone that embarrasses another person in public Tau us has no but someone that kills another person has a l how could it be so explains someone that embarrasses another person in public he murdered the other person meaning that when you embarrass another person you see their face becomes white and then really red which kazal explained to us that if your cheeks weren't exactly where they are all the blood from your entire body would spill out of your out of your face so in Ence like you murder the person in Cold Blood but it's still considered like murder but yet if one is considered like murder embarrassing a person is considered like murder and murder is actual murder why is the like murder get a worse punishment than the murder itself same question you're asking about why is is the wasting seed worse than murder so the same answer to both the person that murdered actual murdered because he's still human Because unless he's crazy if he's crazy he's P from all the mitv if he's you know if he's if he's a crazy person he's P but if he's still there he just there was a moment of anger it was out of control or so on and so forth naturally he's going to feel bad moments after he killed the other person naturally he's going to feel bad moments after he killed another person it could be a minute later an hour later a day later a week later but eventually he's going to feel bad about it sometimes you see people that murder their best friend or murder their wives or murder their husbands and so on and so forth all types of crazy things that are happening in the world it didn't just start now it's always been the case more so now than ever before but you see that these people before this murder was committed they were perfectly normal you see their pictures online family by the barbecue everybody loves each other the next day the guy murdered all of them what happened moment of weakness at the at at the moment of truth he failed he lost it he killed everyone something happened he got anger angry he saw the dog pooped on the lawn he saw that the his team lost on on TV he saw he lost his job whatever the mortgage check bounced something happened at the moment of truth he lost it but as soon as his mind came back immediately he feels bad immediately he wants to die from the sorrow that he has for what he just did to people that he loves not everybody's a serial kill like the movies some people Unfortunately they kill people that they love but it's a moment of weakness we're not justifying what they're doing and T we still give them the death penalty there's no jail sentence to a murderer in the Torah there's no jail sentences there's death you kill somebody you die so unfortunately for him the moment his mind comes back he feels horrible and Tora says that's already a large part of his chuva because he's already suffering in this world now in the days of the Tora that would be a large part of his chuva his suffering the other part of his Chua would be death penalty that would give him now someone that someone that embarrasses another person in public or someone that Wast seed they don't have this they don't feel bad about it and even if they feel bad it's for such a short moment that it's not real ch because they do it again they don't feel like it's in inherently wrong to say something that's embarrassing their friend they don't think there's something inherently wrong with wasting seed because what they see on TV is people that went to school for a million years they call themselves doctors or phds or scientists of some kind or another and they're telling you you should actually waste seed it's healthy for you they're telling you to waste seed they're telling you it's healthy for you they're stupid but to the rest the world they look smart because they went to school in order to get some certificate on their wall and they're telling you it's healthy for you to waste seed so people listen to them like so if the guy Wast seed even if he's a religious Jew he says yeah but this doctor so and so said it's healthy so already it makes him feel better about it the guy that embarrassed another person in public also doesn't think it's such a big deal why he's like ah what are you taking things so perfect personal I'll tell you something that happened recently I'm in a besset and uh for whatever reason or another it's you know some people have a they like to talk inet but not talk like a word here word there but they as soon as prayer is uh finished they it turns into a social club they talk about this about about everything so anyway once in a while too but the point is is that finished prayer I took a little bit longer and these two guys behind me are talking amongst each other about something something in the Paras or something that happened or something something I don't really that wasn't like Eve dropping I don't remember what it was really both of them are talking but it's like so one guy says okay let's ask Rabbi so and so there's a few people that me let's ask Rabbi so and so and the other guy says no no no no let's ask the other Rabbi now both of them are there both of these rabbis are there it's like they're talking so loud as if about these people as if they're not there not realizing you just embarrass the guy by saying no no let's talk let's ask the other Rabbi because in essence what you did is you just said no no this other Rabbi doesn't know anything you don't have to say he doesn't know anything no no no let's ask the other Rabbi he's right right there this is lack of etiquette this is lack of of any any etiquette whatsoever but this is coming for people that are religious they're they're religious some of them consider themselves but no consideration to the world around them this is exactly why I tell you guys all the time that if you don't learn M you're no different than a cow as a matter of fact the cow is better than you because mus cow is not obligated to do to learn m people don't understand that without M you cannot do chuv you cannot do chuva Theon would say that the midot of a person that's that's his entire being the only reason he was brought to this world was to fix his Mido to fix his character traits you cannot fix your character traits without M it's impossible so you see many times these people they embarrass people in public but there's not an out of them that thinks that anything wrong with it they don't even realize what they did is murder that some guy just died his just died literally you see the guy he just died and they don't realize they murdered him no no no let's ask the other Rabbi he's right there he's right there you just said that in essence in your words you just said he doesn't know anything could have just said okay but we could also ask another let's ask both of them let's ask both of them this happens every day so the guy that did that that's embarrassing people in public unfortunately he doesn't know that what he's doing is wrong this is why neither he nor the guy that's wasting seed has have AA because they never did Chua you understand they never did Chua the guy that murdered he immediately started his cha because he feels bad about what he did but the gu that's embarrassing people in public in the besset inside the besset I'm not talking about embarrassing them in the shook in the market he's embarrassing the rabbi inside the besset he's embarrassing the guy that sits next to him inside the besset he's embarrassing his wife right next to her parents right next to his parents right next to his kids people are embarrassing each other like it's a it's like it's a mitvah people love to embarrass each other it's like oh see I caught him you CAU him doing what oh I CAU him he was why you telling the whole world that you call him doing why why why you murdering him in front of people oh they tell you ah see I knew something he didn't know does is he okay with you saying that you know more than he does don't you don't you realize that right now he's like he feels like he's a little Smurf you're telling people you know more than him you're telling people that you're smarter than him and he's right next to you you shouldn't do it behind his back you're doing it to his face people have no care in the world about killing each other no care they're proud of it they're proud of it so that's why a person that doesn't do chv has no even more so a person that Wast seed because even though naturally a person that Wast seed will feel bad but it's only for a moment it's only for a small moment they feel bad they feel like remains of dog for for for a few minutes but if there's another opportunity and the hormones go crazy five minutes later they'll do it again so it's not bad enough to cause chuva this is the reason why they lose their this is the reason whyu can't look at them because they've destroyed themselves now this this whole conversation we talk about all the time about about this what is helping our chances to get there what is destroying our chances of getting there so this Mish actually tells us something extraordinary now that we know that who is telling this mishna it's r r is the grandson of Elisha binu he's the grandson of and says that actually listen to his own grandson's mishna he would have never gone off the meaning this Mish if you actually understand this mishna and you take it and become one with it we're not talking about just you learn it and you remember it by heart talking about you actually make it like a mantra of yours you make it something that is like part of your day-to-day life where you're thinking about it non-stop everything you do you're thinking about it everything you actually understand this mishna your whole life changes if it doesn't change you're because you're crazy if this Mish if understanding this Mish doesn't give you fear of sh you're crazy so you don't have to do MIT anyway so once you understand this mishna Everything Changes mishna says here this world is like a Lobby before the world to come many people invest an enormous amount of their life building an image they want people to know that they are a certain person they want people to know that they are have certain things people want the world to view them as something the reality is is that for for the most part most most people are not what people view them as they're quite different but they're different voluntarily they're different by choice so for example in the business World is's a saying fake it until you make it so when you're trying to go up the the the the the corporate ladder and you're trying to do business with very wealthy people you're trying to do business with big companies you're trying to do business with somebody that has more than you you're not going to tell him you're this little homeless guy you just started you make five bucks an hour you're not going to tell him that you're going to tell them listen I work for this company this company makes a zillion dollars this company's been around since the1 1800s you're going to tell them all the wonderful things about the background that's not really connected to you at all even if the company was founded in the 1800s it's not your company even if the product is amazing it's not your product even if the people behind it are geniuses it's not your intellect not you're just a Salesman and even if you're the CEO of the company you didn't start it you can get fired tomorrow if the board doesn't like you the point is that people represent something that's beyond them because they want you to do business if you came to a guy and you said to him listen I want you to invest a million dollars with me immediately he's going to ask you well who are you if you tell him listen I just started in a business 6 months ago he's going to tell you exactly what this Uncle of mine told me when I first started an investment business almost 20 years ago he's like call me back when you have a little bit more practice I was already in the business for a couple of years apparently he had a bunch of money so my dad told me call this guy he has money just sold some Hotel why don't you call him so I called him and we talked a few times and he's like all so you have any recommendations of what I should invest in you have any topics you have any good ideas that I should invest in so I'm thinking yeah okay so this guy's going to invest with me so I tell him a few ideas that I have and the guy like all right let me get back to you I'll get back to you and he never gets back to me and he pretty much disappears like the ground swallowed him like kak disappears off the face of the Earth about two years pass both of those Investments that I gave him do amazing amazing like one of them went up like 400% the other one went up like 60 or 70% like really really amazing results especially since at the time the market went down so it really really did well so anyway thisan so funny I heard this this guy thisan contacts me at this point already a couple years past I became successful not only because these Investments worked out but because you know you did well whatever hem blessed us we became very successful in a short period of time at this point I don't need him as a client I have a thousand of him so he calls me he's like oh listen uh you know uh I heard you're doing well that whatever yeah was thinking about doing something okay great I haven't heard from you in a couple years great goes yeah listen do you have any more of those other ideas those two ideas that you gave me one of them did really well I made a lot of money on it but the other one I didn't make as much money on it meaning what is he telling me right now he's telling me that he actually took my ideas he invested in them he made a ton of money on them and I got nothing out of it and on top of it he's complaining on top of it he's complaining about it that one of them didn't do as great as the other this is aan is he still with or around so the point I'm trying to say is that why didn't he do business with me because when I was first new no one wants to do business with a new guy because you don't have the image yet who wants who is the number one candidate that everyone wants to lend money to the richest guy everyone wants to lend money to BU to to Warren Buffett everyone wants to lend money to Bill Gates why because they know they're going to pay back they have a lot of money no one wants to lend money to the homeless guy no one wants to lend money to the guy who doesn't have any money why they don't have the image they don't have a way they don't have they don't represent themselves a certain way so the point being is that you have to represent a certain thing the problem is the problem is that people start building an image that's really really far removed from who they really are and they start fing it a little too much so I remember there was a uh a few people that worked for me more than a few people now I mean they see me do business big business I'm doing big deals big contracts big uh clients and so on and so forth and instead of doing it exactly what I did to get there which is work hard make phone calls make do what you have to do instead of doing that they want to do what I'm doing now which is meaning I was doing at the time which is the after effect once you've already gotone to success you only have fewer meetings but it's big meetings when you're grinding when you're trying to build it up you have a million and a half meetings hopefully one of them works out so in the beginning it's a million and a half meetings hopefully one works out after succeed it's usually less meetings but each meeting is significant so the people that are always looking for a shortcut they don't want to have a million meetings they don't want to work really hard they want just a few meetings they want every one of them to work out but now here's the problem no one wants to meet with them so what do they do they meet with each other so every time I would see the same group same handful of guys they would go and it all all we're going to lunch together and all get dressed up to work and all go to lunch together and they to each other's horn and talk to each other yeah yeah we're going to do a deal like this they give each other five hey yeah we give each other five and they all like just like M like faking each other out now not one of them can help the other they're all they're all chasing the same dream but they're faking it to such an extent that they're not only not making it they're faking it to certain extent they fell for the fake this happens every day this happens every day in the business world of course you see this every 5 seconds in the business world it's all fake it's all fake it's all an optical illusion the most successful people in the world as far as money usually you will see when you see behind the scenes many times have the most miserable lives on planet Earth many times you will see the people that have the zillions of dollars the guy's driving a Ferrari on Monday a Lamborghini on Tuesday a on Wednesday uh this whatever other brands there are he's got a house in Bali a house in Vegas a house in New York an apartment he has everything material you could possibly imagine but when you go behind the scenes behind the scenes behind the illusion behind the image you see what he is all about you see his real life son's an alcoholic daughter is a prostitute wife is cheating on him wants to divorce him he's on his third marriage that even the the dog doesn't want to listen to him poops all over the house the every single thing in his life is upside down the only that's going good is the image the image is going good how do I know this I saw them my whole life my whole career that's the people I dealt with so part investor part psychiatrist because as an invest you deal with these people you start learning about their real life you start learning about their real life you see what okay yeah we're making a million dollar deal we're making a $5 million making a $10 million deal okay we finished the deal now we have too oh wow your son is suing you wait isn't your didn't you give your son everything isn't the hundred million business that your son has really your business but you just signed it off to him oh and he's suing you your son is suing you this is the stories I dealt with every day well at least they have money I see people with these problems God bless you you're missing the point you come to every lecture you still haven't learned a thing yet no I'm saying I see Al a lot of poor people have the same issues that these people have no no different different world different world different world po poor people have different problems they don't have the same problems different problems the point I'm trying to make here is that people have the give the world an optical illusion the poor person also has an optical illusion the poor person is sometimes gives the illusion to the world that he's a victim that it's not his fault that he's poor being poor many times is a choice it's a choice it's not a it's not necessarily A decree that you must be poor if you're unless you're a religious person and you connected to Hashem could very well be something that you do by choice as a good choice because you don't want to enjoy this world but for the most part the overwhelming majority of the world are poor by choice they make really bad choices they over drink they over party they overspend they overextend themselves they do they make a lot of really bad choices or they just plain and simple lazy plain and simple lazy so being poor is not necessarily something that oh you're a victim sometimes people are poor because hasem doesn't want anything that they have to succeed but that's not a default that's not like everyone that's poor is poor because they're Mis victims and the world's just beating them up all the time many people that are poor are poor because they made really poor choices not because no one wants to pay them a salary so the illusion they give the world is that they're victims everyone here everyone out there everyone in the world is given the world some type of Illusion some type of image that they have out there now in the secular world it's very easy to find it's it's impossible not to find it if you know what to look for the surprise to me was seeing it in the religious world and the reason why is because you see the very same people that sometimes call themselves religious which is really the people we're targeting to try to help them as much as possible they're the closest ones to home is you see people give the world an illusion like they're really religious all those things they keep it looks great but then you find out that they're really in business they're criminals they cheat the government they cheat their customers they're stealing they this it's like an illusion they just fool people or sometimes you see people like oh yeah no I read I read tanak every day I read this I read this I read this oh okay great B that's great wow so are you married you have kids well no actually that's the problem what do you mean that's the problem why you're not married you go no actually my uh my girlfriend is not Jewish wait wait you keep Shabbat you keep mitv you keep everything but your girlfriend's not Jewish how could that be or the opposite so you see that there's an illusion there's there's an image there's something missing here in New York I remember one of the most annoying things for me was to search for offices we have to search for offic it's very annoying it's very time consuming and the reason why it's time consuming is because the office space in New York also has a certain illusion you'll see for example down really all over New York that many places have a beautiful Lobby beautiful Lobby you go to the lobby they spent Millions on it sometimes you have like a waterfall you have the desk of the people standing by the lobby it's like just the desk alone is a quarter million dollars you have these mirrors these chandeliers I mean something amazing you're like wow bring my customers to a place like this bring my clients up play just look at the lobby they're going to give me a million dollars look at the lobby 2 million maybe but then they take you in this elevator that also has beautiful doors but sometimes the door closes and you see that the elevator that's on the inside is very different than the door that's on the outside the door on the outside is model 2020 the elevator inside is from still from the 1300s when they were pulling it with the rope and you get to the you get to the floor and you see the place is broken down and disheveled or ugly or they haven't changed the carpet since the 1200s maybe even I don't know maybe Muhammad is still there who knows like the illusion is the lobby beautiful Lobby you go upstairs what is this what is this would you have a fire here why is the why are the walls black and this is constant constant constant because you're trying to save money you try to get decent space the problem is at the end you have to spend a lot of money why because you have to get someone that matches you can't have an ugly a pretty Lobby and an ugly office but it happens very very often in New York I remember I'm sure in other places as well but in New York being a city that's constantly building but this is very this is no different in our lives many times you see people project an image of their marriage they put their pictures online the husband is kissing the wife in public the wife is hugging the husband the kids look like they just came out of the you know they just came out of like some amazing school they're all happy they came out of a commercial they on a cereal box but then you see you get a little closer to this family the wife hates the husband the husband doesn't even consider her the wife the kids are completely delusional they don't even know why they're even in this house and it's it's completely like Haywire the illusion of the perfect marriage is as far removed from them as the picture is from you but to the world they're always going to show the pictures of them on vacation they're always going to show the pictures of the kids graduating school they're always going to show the pictures of something good happening they're not showing you the fights that happen six and a half days a week people people have this other fake thing that they make it seem like friends hey this is my boy yeah it's my best friend every two minutes this guy's my best friend this guy's my best friend this guy my best friend one thing I notice that the older you get the more you realize that best friends don't exist unless it's your spouse it doesn't exist you get older eventually the friends yeah they could be good friends they could be decent friends they could be nice people but best friends it's not in this world why change things change at the end of the day everybody wants something for their own interest everybody's there to serve their own interest your friends based on interest today your interests are aligned Therefore your friends as soon as your interests are not aligned you're not friends anymore usually what happens is money you put money between good friends they become enemies and for women sometimes you put a man between them you put a man between two women they all of a sudden hate each other like they're uh you know mortal enemies different things different things that cause people to Just Lose It But to the world they project themselves initially oh this is my best friend yeah I love her yeah I love him yeah that's my boy yeah that's my man yeah yeah high five high five yeah we going out we're going on vacation we're going this we're going that 6 months later they hate each other you know how many of these friends I had in my life you know how many of these friends I had in my life you know when you have you have money you have almost as many friends for each dollar bill you have in the bank yeah it's my best friend yeah I love this guy you know how many people told me they love me right before they stabbed this is to this is just a reality can't be too friendly it's not about being friendly it's a reality of life you ask any old man any old man how many friends you have he'll smile at you he won't even answer you he'll just smile at you it's like wow you're so young you still think there's such a thing as friends no but it's my girlfriend from high school we're still friends 15 years later okay give it another 15 years tell me the same thing it's just it's just a reality of Life your interest change your life changes but why am I saying it because people spend an enormous amount of energy and time to maintain this illusion this Lobby so they go to work and instead of focusing on if you're already at work focus on being successful at work what do they do they focus on socializing with their friends they focus on going to lunch together with their friends they they focus together to make sure that they and their friends are are working together on something the reality is you're both there because of money you're not there because of friends if you're already at work work number one you're getting paid to work which means that if you're not working you're stealing from the boss it's actually considered gazel it's considered stealing that's number one number two as soon as one of the friends leaves gets fired goes to another job you're never going to talk again they're never going to call you again maybe for the first week or two weeks yeah but I work with him for 5 years together so what as soon as he leaves as soon as she leaves that's it relationship's over you no long have the same common interest that kept you friends this is what I used to tell my employees every day you guys are wasting your careers being friends as soon as I fire one of you you're never going to talk to the guy that left you're never going to be oh that's my boy that's my boy he's gone it's like he died it's a reality but people invest so much time for their friends so even at the world that we live in that people are chasing money even that they can't do right why because they want to make friendss when you have money the point I'm trying to tell you is that people are worried too much building a Lobby building an image what I'm trying to tell you and what this mishna is trying to tell you is that the lobby is meaningless in the world to come the image you're trying to portray the world is completely meaningless what's meaningful where you end up with what's the Tas what's the bottom line what do you have to show for it if you're in a material world you're already working you're already doing whatever you got to do at least be the best of what you do you work for a bank be the best Banker you're a secretary be the best secretary you're a contractor be the best contractor whatever you're doing be the best at it don't just fill up space you have some people that they're they're doing some type of job all day they're taking selfies and put it on Facebook how good of an employee are you if all day your boss has to deal with you taking selfies all day it's the craziest thing in the world if I saw any employee taking a selfie I'd fire him just for that just for being stupid enough to think that it's a good idea all day you're taking selfie oh look this is me at the bank this is me at the bathroom this is me eating lunch look I'm eating spaghetti like you have not you're that boy you're that mentally empty that you have to take selfies All Day selfies they need attention it's exact why it's again goes back to building the lobby building the image that they have this Grand life but T bottom line they have nothing when you ask them oh how come you didn't get the promotion they tell yeah I think it's because they're racist I think it's because they're sexist I think it's because they're Prejudice I think it's because I'm black I think it's because I'm green I think it's because of the no no it's because you're lazy and you're taking selfies all day that's why you're not getting the job you're lazy and you're taking selfies all day and everyone knows what you ate for lunch for the last 365 days that's why you didn't get a promotion you're a loser in your job in life maybe something else but in your job who would want to hire you you're taking selfies all day instead of being a contractor instead of being a lawyer instead of being a doctor like imagine you have a lifethreatening life-threatening surgery and the doctor takes a self next to your heart puts it on Facebook like imagine this this is no different this is no different than the contractor that's on a building taking a selfie of himself it's no different than some stock broker taking a selfie of himself in the exchange this is what this is what your job is if that's what your job is then no wonder you're not getting a promotion so if you're already going to do it do it right that's one the spirit spiritual World on the other hand if you're already going to live if you're already going to be alive you're just going to be alive you're going to be something that moves and you realize that the creator that created you you got to start listening to him the problem is that we're not listening the problem is that we think it's all a joke very very light we're a generation that takes everything lightly everything is very light everything is like a ah come on you're an extremist ah come on you're too pushy ah come on you're too much pressure but if you look at what the Torah says it's even more pressure it's even more stringent it's even more difficult this mishna is telling you that this illusion that you're working on this Lobby this Lobby is worthless because if you don't prepare yourself in the lobby you're never going to get to the hall you're never going to get to the banket hole if you ever go to a guy somebody's house and you see that his dinner table is in the lobby his bed is in the lobby his uh chairs are in the lobby his food is in the lobby his fridge is in the lobby you're going to think okay either the guy is crazy or maybe the rest of his house got burned why would everything be where the door is you're supposed to be in a living room a kitchen a bedroom there's other parts but if your all your investment is next to the door next to the there's something wrong with there's something wrong with the rest of it there's something wrong unfortunately we're spending so much time building this image we forgot about what actually matters many people are so consumed with the exterior the beard that grows for free the the the keeper that you could buy for $2 or you can get it for free if you just go to any bar mitzvah the the suit that cost a hundred bucks we're so consumed with the image of what a Jew is supposed to look like we forget about the inside we're so consumed with what the community sees us at as we forget it how hashem's looking at us and many people forget this because they're so worried about the lobby now the also it's in M says that anyone who doesn't think about death but death on a regular basis is no different than a cow that eats drinks and doesn't know that it's being prepared to go to the butcher now if you tell people do you ever think about death heyy relax it's you're being too morbid you're being too extreme Shalom talk about death we to talk about death but wait a minute who told you you're G to live 120 years who gave you an assurance you're going to live a long life who gave you an assurance you have tomorrow forget long life who gave you a guarantee sealed you're going to be here tomorrow tomorrow tomorrow tomorrow you're not going to meet your maker who gave you this guarantee who gave you a guarantee you're going to live 120 years who gave you a guarantee you're going to be an old man who who knows for sure tomorrow I'm going to be here anyone raise their hand you don't know which means there's a possibility that tomorrow you're going to meet your creator what are you going to say out a nice Lobby add nice clothes in the closet add a big bank account add a lot of books in the shelf but I never read them there was a synagogue in my community I never attended or I attended it but I only talked about other people instead of talking to hem what's in what's inside what's inside you only decorated the lobby the lobby the image looks beautiful what's inside if you don't talk about what's in what's going to happen at the end you don't talk about death you don't talk about meeting your maker kazal is telling us you're no different than the cow they feed her to get a fatter to give her a drink to get her fatter why because eventually she's going to the slaughter house someone that goes into this world and is only worried about the lobby is only worried about the image of how people view him and how people view her and how people oh no no yeah he he he's religious what makes him religious religious well look he has a beard or look he has a hat or look she she has oh look she's wearing a long dress that doesn't make you religious that makes you modest good religious inside what's coming out of your mouth are you talking about baseball basketball in the stock market you talking about AEM what are you talking about what comes out of your mouth what comes in in we thank H for the openings and the closings of our body the reality of it is we have to ask ourselves what are we letting in and what are we letting out of these holes what words are coming out of your mouth and what noise is coming in if you're listening to you're part of the crime if you're saying L you're also the crime these are the things we have to ask ourselves sometimes you see people spend three hours eating I used to see the these same guys they used to go to these lunch breaks that worked for me they would go to lunch 3 hours sometimes three hour lunch you see people going to lunch an hour lunch an hour and a half lunch tell the guy D no no come on I'm in a hurry you just ate for an hour and a half an hour and a half you ate you can't give 3 minutes to hasem you ate for 90 minutes you can't give three minutes thank you no no I'm in a hurry is there a short version of it is there a short version of you eating is there a short version of you breathing is there a short version of you everything 90 minutes you ate you can't say thank you for three people have K Shabbat everything is this you know W they bring their guests everything else comes all of a sudden everyone's tired everyone's tired this one goes to the couch the other one's already asleep this one's like this this one looks like he's drunk we need Z I need I need people that are awake you can't count them for Z they're all drunk you're stealing from hem stealing from on Shabbat stealing from on Shabbat you just took all the on you and became theft we ate for two hours but we can't say thank you for three minutes you see people opening kosher restaurants kosher restaurants I've always told people it's a phenomenal idea anyone that owes a kosher restaurant should make it a deal a deal for his customers anyone that says I'm giving him a discount off of the food whatever it is if you're selling sandwiches take off a dollar or two if you're selling steaks take off whatever 10% whatever it is why because to have a restaurant full of people making you're bringing the biggest blessing in all of Judaism to your place is more important than it's more important than more important all the M that right because all the blessings not just money they said that place in Willam when they made pizza M they all lost a lot of money well the people that make pizza mot are just looking for a shortcut because the reality of it is that pizza it's almost impossible for it to be me if it's sold for anything less than $50 a pie because for it to be mezan you have to use an extraordinary amount of ingredients that are very very expensive that no one uses no they're saying that it was AI but they changed the ingredients made it with and all the people started losing money what I'm trying to tell you is that anyone that tells you that pizza is is just lying to you it's not it's Mi anyone that's a real anyone that really has any level of even for a tiny little bite of pizza they do there's no there's no such thing as so now the question is the question is this question is this you have people that are decorating their Lobby they're excited by this false sense of self-importance everybody feels like they're much more important than what they really are they believe that their Prestige their money their house their cars their fancy schmancy job the illusion that they show the world they believe that that's authentic happiness they believe that that's authentic success they believe that that's reality but here the is telling us all of the stuff that you're spending all of your energy on all this image that you're trying to protect you're trying to build that's just the lobby that's the part that doesn't actually matter what really matters is what happens after the lobby what really matters is if you're going to prepare yourself in this Lobby enough that they will let you enter the Hall that's what really matters the problem is that we're so focused on the image that we forget that the hall even exists said in the lecture that most people have taken a mortgage on their house here most people have taken a mortgage they want to buy a house in Israel buying a house unless you're a millionaire you can't you have to take a mortgage in America it's quite the same but there's plenty of houses in America that are cheap too not in Jewish communities but in different places the point is that for the most part everyone uses mortgage companies borrows part of the money from a bank and and even people that are don't make much money they find an a tail a leniency in that allows them to borrow money because borrowing money from another Jew is not allowed because they charge interest these mortgage companies but since it's owned by investors and not necessarily by a single Jew there's a leniency that you're allowed to borrow money to buy a house uh from an institution so now he says all of you have taken a mortgage on your house here has anyone thought about the mortgage for the house in sham has anyone thought about the house at all in sh forget the mortgage in sh the house itself and what you have the mortgage here for the house here that's the lobby that's where you do the work that's where you're showing the the image what about the actual house in anybody worry about it at all and he was talking to he was talking to people that learned what does it take to have a house there thought you got worlds for one you it's all the money in the world so now we have to find out what we have to do now we have to find out what we do so now says it's very simple Hashem directs you in the way that you want to go the illusion you give the world will fake them out what hasem sees is what really happens so says so in essence if one is drawn to clowns he's going to become a clown if if one is drawn to Humble people he's going to inherit humility and Hashem is going to give the The Inheritance goes to the wise and the fools generate disgrace this is in Mish 334 I'm just translating it the point here is that is saying directs you in the way that you want to go the illusion you give to the world doesn't really matter what matters is what you actually what is happening behind the scenes so sometimes you see an a he goes to call every day but all day smoking cigarettes outside sometimes you see people go to besset every day but all they do is talk in beet sometimes you see people look religious but all they do is just talk all day sometimes you see people do a lot of look a certain way but what's inside what's actually happening is a completely different direction so rule number one first thing first is be who you really are be who you really are you want to be a sadik be a sadik you want to be stop faking it stop pretending like you didn't know modesty was the number one rule for men and women stop pretending like you didn't know that Shabbat you're not allowed to drive on Shabbat stop pretending to be stupid stop playing like a fool hem is not a fool the get you an additional punishment so first and foremost understand it's not a joke you have to start taking life seriously stop taking things so lightly people take things so so lightly today oh yeah what happened how come you guys got divorced I know I got drunk one day I cheated on her but I think she took it to what wait hold on a second what did you do wait wait you cheated on your wife yeah but whatever you know I got drunk so why'd you get drunk why does you getting drunk mean you have to cheat on your wife like why is that not such a big like people make it seem like cheating is so what you know it happens it happens you know one thing led to another it happens what do you mean it happens how does it happen how does it happen how does this happen you're taking life too lightly people so lightly so lightly they just ah you know whatever you know what happened how come you're in jail how come you got arrested ah you know whatever I just I took a few dollars from the company no big deal wait excuse me what you just said something really fast what' you say well let me know I took a few million dollars from the company they have a billions what's the big what do you mean you stole why is that not a big deal people make the biggest problems and they minimize them like the little miniature Smurfs like everything is not a big deal except if you tell them the truth if you tell them to keep Shabbat oh it's too much if you tell them to be M oh anything that's true that's a big deal but [Music] lies it's that a big deal so you have to stop taking life so lightly this light mindlessness this this this I think it's said it's like light Min this type of attitude that's that's M poison it's poison second thing is we learned also in a um in aot we learned this actually uh I guess maybe a month ago or so says be exceedingly humble this is like telling people to split the see themselves today like if you tell people be humble it's almost like you're speaking a different language because the very nature the very nature of society as at large is to show off well more likely well more likely to make sins of Pride to make sins that show us being egotistical than making sins of anger even though they both in essence stem from the same place we're more likely to show that we're arrogant than any other negative trait the problem is with arrogance it's like on P tells us the Torah itself tells us that anyone that has in his house it's death penalty death penalty but the worst kind it's not like a you know like you'll die in 60 years from now we'll let you live another 60 years we'll let you live like 930 years like someone you have in his house he has a little piece of bread he had a lot of bread he had a whole Factory of bread but now he only left one piece of bread one piece of bread it's coret it's cor it's a big deal someone left aie so now having is a big deal having G is also a big deal why it's it's inside your so the second thing that we have to understand is that we have to do everything possible to Humble ourselves tone it down a little bit you don't have to report to the whole world that you got a brand new car you don't have to report to the whole world that you got married you don't have to report to the whole world that you're pregnant you don't have to report to the whole world anything anyone that's reporting anything about their personal life on social media is bringing only problems to their life in general anyone that's actually reporting anything about their life to the world in any way shape or form is not bringing any good to their life like people get pregnant people get married and in 5 seconds they just passed the test it chose they're pregnant 5 seconds later they show the world what the test looks like like we've lost all shame whatsoever we've lost all shame we've lost all privacy everyone needs to know everyone needs to know we got married look at the ring he got me look at the ring and they show the world the ring why do you need to tell the world humble yourself a little bit be private be quiet don't give the Satan such a big door to ruin it that's why the Tana says meaning there's never enough humility already means a lot he says a lot a lot a lot third yesterday we learned about Jonah Jonah made the mistake of trying to get away with it in essence Hashem told him to go do something he tell him go be a leader go tell the people of nve that they're Sinners and if they don't do chuva I'm going to kill all of them Jonah didn't want to do it now he didn't want to do it for for arguably good reason in essence he was trying to protect because nve was all non-jews and he knew through his prophecy that even though they were all non-jews they were all decent people that if he told them the truth they would actually all do chuva now why is this bad in his mind using his own logic he says if theim go do chuva while the Jews don't do chuva that makes am look even worse than what they really are so at least let's both of us not do chuva why am I going to go help them go to help the you know the others do Chua Hashem says this is the wrong attitude the same thing of rabbis today it says Hey listen why are you helping people convert why don't you help am why don't you help people do chv instead why don't you help people learn to instead only why you even bother helping non-jews become Jews if they want to become Jews non-jews find somebody else to do it I said the problem is there is nobody else there's very very few people that are helping people convert and anyone that's helping people convert for the most part it's usually associated with a lot of money a lot of difficulty a lot of hardship and they're making it more more difficult why wouldn't I help them even if they're noahides and they want to remain noahides why wouldn't I help them in a place that there's no leader be a leader Jonah the the prophet KES kashim made a mistake for a moment a moment of weakness that he had and he said listen this doesn't make sense to me doesn't make sense to me as say doesn't make sense that you that that doesn't make sense to you the fact that it doesn't make sense to you doesn't make sense why you're thinking that just because they're not Jews I don't like them that doesn't mean that I created them if I didn't like them I wouldn't create them so what did Jonah say he says he says to the I know that this is because of me I know that you're all suffering because of me AEM is punishing all of you in essence he's shaking the boat you're almost about to drown because of me what do we learn from here that we didn't learn yesterday that yonah unlike many of us took ownership of his sin being a leader doesn't just mean a bunch of people follow you being a leader means means you have to be a leader at home first you have to be a leader that when you screwed up admit it when you made a mistake admit it do chuva you yelled at your wife say I'm sorry you yell to your husband say I'm sorry do chuva you you messed up in one way or another do Chua that's a leader admit that you made a mistake that's the beginning of humility admit you made a mistake okay everybody's everybody's subject to mistakes but admit it at least don't pretend that you have to hold up this image like these politicians they murder entire civilizations and think it's and they blame it on somebody else some of them have literally become like serial killers every single person they know died and no no we don't know I never heard what do you mean you don't never heard you have vacation pictures on Facebook Facebook with this person what do you mean never heard of him oh that guy yeah yeah yeah I don't know what happened what do you mean he was with you that weekend that he died did somebody shot him in the face he was with you Oh you mean like everybody plays stupid all the time everybody's stupid nobody knows anything no one wants to admit guilt the reality of it is that if we want to prepare our Hall we want to prepare the reality for sh to St preparing the lobby the lobby needs to look like the hall it has to start match matching enough with this image if you're going to have an image it has to match if it's ugly on the inside make sure the it's ugly on the outside too if it's pretty on the inside pretty on the outside also stop with the image if you made a mistake you made a mistake say I'm sorry do let's go move on you don't have to become depressed but come on do something I'll give you an example of a famous story of what humility looks like what people that really understand humility with people that truly understand the purpose of preparing for the next World about 200 years ago there was two major two majorel and also ROV milissa so they both lived in different places but one time they both got together and to have two come to the same place is a big deal in the Jewish world it's a very big deal anytime you see any two really big rabbis get together it's a big deal people take pictures people see what are they talking about they try to listen to what they're saying so usually for the public they talk next to everyone for like three four five minutes but then they talk privately next to no one only next to Hashem for hours and some of these meetings have been very very famous meetings where they literally would go in a room for a couple of days without nothing talk deep stuff that no one's allowed to know and they would only tell little tidbits to the public but anyway one time was a they was celebrating this town was celebrating the andisa uh lber were uh both in the same town and they gave a lot of honor to the sadim so they got a caravan with horses this Caravan was extra fancy Caravan would have two compartments one compartment they put RAB AA eager one compartment they put rabak milisa oh like it was like fancy schy like one of these private jets just 200 years ago so now the people were so excited about the tadim being in town that they removed the horses and the people of the Town started moving the uh the Caravan they started pulling it and running with it all over town after a little whilea says you know what reality here this whole honor this whole cavod it's not for me it's for the Torah of he's how could I miss out on Aah like this like giving like R the honor that he deserves so he quietly snuck out of the Caravan and joined the people pulling the Caravan pulling pulling the uh with the people moments later thinking to himself this Cav that they're giving they're not giving it to me who am I they're giving it to you know how many books how many this how that me who am I how could I miss out on such aah of giving honor to says is like a living seph a living seph he snuck away and he started pulling the Caravan with everybody else when they finally got to the destination they opened the Caravan just to see it empty little did everybody know that two are pulling with them that's humility that's humility whatever you've achieved inside the hall that's for hasem to see it's not for the world to see you don't have to make a Lobby the key is to make sure that we have something we have something to show for it shalom had to deal with the anguish of having a daughter die one of his daughters died and one time he met with and uh Mo asked him how are you doing how how's everything and he said to him it's there to the right first door to the right he says to him you know me I'm dealing with it I'm okay I learned T all day that helps me helps my deal with this pain of losing a daughter but the raban the raban is having a tough time you know she doesn't learned to like me all day cuz she doesn't have that same fulfillment so Mo family s fameless says to him tell the ran not to worry the is coming up very soon she'll see the daughter very soon the resurrection of the Dead is around the corner the mashia is here he's coming so mashia comes deals with go Magog little while later resurrection of the dead so she's going to see your daughter anyway very soonik your daughter in the language of theim this meant something so went to the ra and he told them you know said that is coming up soon the resurrection's coming up soon cuz mashia is around the corner and the raban says you know it's the only thing that gave me it's the only thing that gave me a peace of mind with all of the difficulty that she was dealing with as far as losing her daughter knowing that she's going to see her daughter soon gave her Comfort why is it different for her than it is for most of us because most of us are still stuck building a Lobby most of us are still stuck building an image making everyone think that we're sadik making everyone think they we're rich making every and think that we're something that we're really not while these real while these people that were glued to hem they cared less about an image all they cared about was making sure they had the ticket to get TOA it's all they cared about is getting into their whole life was full of let me make sure I I'm allowed to enter they let me in it's the only thing they cared about Isa this is the main thing that we need to understand and we'll finalize with this the T says that anyone that learns T the r says anyone that works if he works he has a full-time job so how much Torah does should he learn so in a chapter 1 12 the r says he should learn n hours a day someone that works full-time job should learn n hours a day so how much time does he work three hours a day so what should he do with the rest of the time and chapter 4 verse 4 it says he should sleep eight hours which leaves four hours in the four hours you should do other things miscellaneous things eat drink pray so on but then if you look at the chapter three 13 it says the r says that a someone should never waste a night a single night not studying to the entire night wait but he said sleep eight hours and study 9 hours which is already a lot which none of us meet the N hours to begin with but then in another place he contradicts himself he says has to never sleep pretty much sleep a few minutes here and there never waste the night to sleep so he's not contradicting himself what is here it's for it's for everyone average person sleep eight hours but make sure you study nine hours you want to be not much for a sleep not much sleep how many of us are even meeting the workers definition forget about the one that doesn't sleep we're talking about just the worker that's supposed to study 9 hours a day how many of us are actually meeting that description the used to say anytime someone sees a gray hair a white hair on his face that's an invitation from sham they're saying hey it's time for you to show us what you have in your hall to show us what you have you see gray hair they're inviting you from sham you see a second gray hair that's a second invitation every time you see a new gray hair they're calling you from sh it says time's coming up it's supposed to be a reminder you're coming here soon prepare if you're still worried about the lobby you're still worried about the image you're still worried about having money still worried about having a fancy watch and a fancy car and another car and another house and more material and more this and more this and everything just to decorate your lobby says you're missing the point you're missing the point for your entire life your entire life you're missing the whole thing why the whole thing is to prepare for the whole thing is to prepare fora you're missing it you're missing the whole thing you're just you're just you're just spending your whole life grinding water doing nothing because that Hall that image that Lobby that you're preparing doesn't count for anything in J juiceless the billions of dollars that Steve Jobs had when he died if anything it hurt him in sh it didn't help him when Warren Buffett Bill Gates and anyone else on the Forbes 500 list die no one's going to care they're going to write a few books about them a few other people going to you know make money off of it but that's it nothing happens everyone goes back to their business everyone goes back to becoming the next Bill Gates and the next Warren Buffett and the next zillionaire nothing changes in the world so why spend all of our energy trying to be someone that's not anything themselves stop decorating the lobby let's worry abouta let's worry about the whole let's worry about the actual thing that matters that counts fora this that we learned and from obviously from that had it all that Hashem wrote himself he had the full blessing from Hashem he was a billionaire the only thing he valued was the deal he had with hem you hear it from this week's you see it in the Mish you see it in and Y you see it all over the I could bring you five hours more of sources it's not that I am such or anything it's just that it's everywhere it's the same message everywhere enough with the show enough with pretending we're religious enough with pretending we're the biggest sikim in the world and start working on becoming a sadik and this helps us this helps these that I specifically talked about in the beginning because the reality of it is that eventually all of us have to pay the bill all of us have to meet our creator if we inter married we're going to have to meet our creator and we're not going to have any arguments if we're wasting seed we're going to meet our creator and we're not going to have any there's no arguments there's only Dean there's only judgment in sham there's no excuses oh I didn't know what do you mean you didn't know I didn't know I'm not allowed to ENT marry I didn't know I'm not allowed to waste seed I didn't know I'm not allowed to waste my life I didn't know there's no I didn't know if I want you to not know then you just be a cow who eats drinks and doesn't know it's about to get slaughtered I gave you a mind I gave you a brain you had enough brain to find out how to become a successful businessman you had enough brain to find out how to convince your wife to marry you you had enough brain to convince your husband to marry you you had enough brain to figure out how to survive paying a mortgage you had enough brain to figure out how to make a shopping cart at Publix or when Dixie or one of these supermarkets you had enough brain to figure out how to buy an iPhone online you had enough brain to write an email you had enough brain to complain about the president you get enough brain to complain about some dog shelter you enough brain to do everything else except find out about me except find out about God I didn't know I didn't know you think that's going to hold who's going to go in sham and say oh I'll fight for them the guy who didn't know you have that fought for you have you have Abu what do you have papiss we have nothing who's going to fight for us that's what Amos said Amos says no one except us except us the only thing that can help us is us the only thing that can help you get to is you not your children not your parents not your grandfather not your grandmother not your wife not your husband husband not your friend nothing only one that can help you is you if we start taking our lives with some serious control and some take it seriously stop joking around we'll succeed continue joking around continue being half asleep continue doing half of a Mitzvah continue looking like a half a Jew a half of this and a half of this and playing 50/50 you're wasting your life this wakeup call wakes all of us up and next week we'll have some M to learn more things to improve on and already have something to bring to the table to Hashem and say you know what Hashem I'm not perfect but I did a little bit of remodeling the last week amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music]