What happens when you believe in difficult people?

What is the what is the switch there? And is it just natural out of so much practice? >> That that idea that if I choose to treat myself as a friend, I also can choose to treat other people like a friend. And if everybody's my friend, no one can hurt me. So if you punch me and I punch you back, we have a fight, right? But if you punch me and I say, "Wow, you are strong. That hurt." And I give you a compliment, is there a fight? >> No. >> No. So here's the trick question. >> There's strength, right? >> Here's the here's the trick question. Who starts the fight? Right? So, we have always been taught as kids that the first punch starts the fight.