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what the most failed marriages have in
common I think I have to sort of stop a
second and say how do you define a
failed marriage because I think a lot of
people will say that if a marriage ends
in divorce that's a failure so I got to
tell you something there are marriages
that end in divorce and I don't consider
them failures I think they accomplished
whatever they were supposed to
accomplish and sometimes it ends in
divorce it's a tragedy when it happens
but sometimes that's the necessary
culmination of the relationship on the
other hand there are marriages that
continue in a marital Union but they are
failures they're not successful unions
there's no divorce but I wouldn't call
it success I think you have to Define
what a successful marriage is before you
can say what's a failure of a marriage
and then ask the question what quality
is most indicative of a failed marriage
and the answer is and a lot of people
are not going to like this marriage is
not for your personal fulfillment it's
not because you want a relationship it's
not because you want to play house
marriage is not for you marriage is
because this is one of the primary ways
ways that we serve our maker we were put
in this world to serve our maker to
perform a mission to make this world a
better place one of the primary ways in
which we make the world a better place
is by creating a family and a home a
successful marriage is one where there
is a family where there are secure
children who are being raised with
morals and with a sense of purpose and
who will be able to go on and create
another family in the Next Generation
also with children who have a sense of
more morals and purpose that's a success
what component therefore is the most
indicative of marriages that fail in
that is that they just don't even
understand the purpose of marriage to
begin with they didn't know that their
home is serving a purpose larger than
any of us they thought marriage was
about personal fulfillment and then they
end up ironically experiencing personal
frustration disappointment so this is
what we have to understand marriage is
not here from me marriage is a tool
which I use to be useful to the world
