What Can TANYA & Pnimiyus HaTorah Offer You? Rabbi Naftali Silberberg #215

hi everybody Welcome to tonight's share with Coach B thank you for joining us on this freezing cold winter night January 5th tonight is sheer 215 and I always start off every week first thanking all the people that come here every week posted on their statuses and let people know about it and we have amazing speakers we have therapists different different people all walks of life different topics and we're here to really have a place to talk about things if wants to join our WhatsApp chats get WhatsApp me at 732 314710 I'll send you the link to the community chats that's where all the information goes and um we'll also post it in the chats as well um again for all the people that watching the replay of this on YouTube you can click on the Subscribe button so every week uploads the videos you get notification of it you could also um you could also uh click on on the like button want to thank all the advertising sponsors Lakewood Scoop here in Lakewood Ellen Ariel for Five Town Central k from jcn just a few things that quickly uh encapsulate we always started this year we started actually originally at 10:00 and then we moved it to 9:30 it's been like that for many many years and now without really much notice we just switched it to 9:00 so going forward hopefully the sh will be at 9 o'clock there might be one sh coming up that will be at 8:00 that's a technical thing but for now every night every Sunday night at 9 o'cl everybody enjoyed the Kan vacation with the family didn't have a share last week and again if anybody's here the first time every Sunday night now at 9 o'cl different sh different topics next week January 12th we're gonna have another sh tated but not t actually um we're actually doing a nutrition share by Nutrition By by Tanya her name happens to be Tanya and we're going to be talking about health and General Nutrition it's called tan versus asmic the shocking truth about weight loss his motivation really just baloney find you fire she reveals the secrets on how to really lose weight and keep yourself healthy which I think is a very important topic something I'm very into now recently so that's why it's a very important topic to me at least okay and M please join us should be very important for men for women we need to be healthy so please join us next week we gonna start off first tonight with an opening with Coach bfield to pause pause first we're gonna give the gatria tonight share 215 every week we have a gria TI into the and on a side note the she is be father my father who this Thursday shom everyone to number 25 what can offer you through learning it would lead you to realize that hem is our father and King in all aspects of our life which leads us up for tonight's gatria of 215 equals Our Father our King right beautiful see that's why we waited for now sorry all the people that listen to this now live and all the people later okay we're gonna turn over to coach BF what are we doing here amazing great question welcome everyone to another let's get real with Coach tonight we're doing number 25 as always hopefully everyone had a an amazing kanah was able to uh make the the for theis to uh to be able to continue everything that we got on KH for the rest of the year which we'll hear more tonight but it's a big to have zberg I've been on your chats since uh it's I think it's a year now in Tanya and it's it's a fascinating topic and that's exactly why we're here tonight so discuss what is Tanya um we know we've had many programs on P and Asen especially before M comes there's so there's a lot of things going on trying to figure out what's going on in the world trying to make sense out of it and then there's the individual every person trying to figure himself out more the you know healing or meaning which we've had many programs about just trying to figure out where am I where am I with Hashem and um trying to make sense out of it and not always is it easy growing up in Yesa you know learning mus learning gar sometimes you know it's very Gat but we have a hard time connecting on understanding and for those who grew up with you know sometimes able to connect others they know the concepts but not always does it really talk to them to be able to really understand where am I so there's all different types and it's important before we start just to know where am IUS in general do some people feel stuck they've maybe tried many times and gave up thinking this is what it is this is I guess you know if this is what everybody else is doing I'll try to be like everybody else others are still searching they're not giving up they're searching and searching trying this out trying that but for some reason not not understanding you know number one what am I looking for the you know there's some feeling that we have but what is it and uh not always do we understand many of us would find it in Goa books maybe going to different seminars and uh I've heard from many they find amazing insights and ideas by the go and then before they know it they start learning the or some saer and they say wow we have it by us and there something also we discussed something that many times you have to go out to find it by us if you grow you grow up with something and you get used to it so in general talking about a ye on this world connecting to Hashem it's all it's really all spiritual you don't see you it's auna and then when we have questions you have to know how how to deal with it how do I connect so basically in general there's a lot of questions some people have come to Clarity you know they found that safer that talks to them and slowly they're like oh finally I'm finding myself I could understand why I feel this way why I'm having these ups and downs and you learn how to deal with it and others are not there yet and that's this is what we're looking for so lot of tonight and Tanya is one of many he what Tanya is all about um really break it down to beginners somebody who has never learned Tanya before what is Tanya why I learn Tanya what will it give me and then take the discussion wherever it takes us thank you for the beautiful opening again so tonight sh we title it what can Tanya offer you can it guide you through life's challenges bring profound meaning to to your journey and strengthen your emotional and mental wellbeing just to mention a little background over here I got a text from somebody about daily Tanya share gives on WhatsApp so I get on WhatsApp he has it on YouTube and he has it on all the platforms met will post the links that people want to sign up it's about four minutes on average and he really goes through the whole time every year and um it's something very de and very very profound a lot of Concepts in there I've only heard few you know things here and there actually some of the questions some of them are M you know the B the this you know all these different words that we know but um it's something that I always wanted to learn I wasn't brought in the world of or that I really was brought up with it so I'm really not familiar with it but I think that if we could take a few minutes a day and listen to the recording and really get into it and every year at least one time finish it it's not something you could like learn on your own there are English books I just I tried it once or twice I just didn't find like I grasped it properly so I thought it was just something so right when the thing started I thought it was a new thing but I reached out to but it's he's already on his third cycle so will post the things I'm G Read's bio and then re will open it up re silverberg is respected lecture and author are celebrated by his unique ability to apply his Timeless teaching to of Torah andas to the Contemporary challenges his presentations Inspire personal growth and are characterized by clear reliable language that resonates with the diverse audiences that's why it comes we have diverse audience as the co-director of the curriculum development department at the RO Jewish learning Institute jli the world's largest provider of adult T education Robert silverberg plays a pivotal role in shaping transform transform transformative learning experien as a passionate Torah Scala of Tanya silberg has taught his foundation work I this to a wide range of audiences for over two decades he's also the host of Let's Talk t let's get real let's talk t a daily popular podcast prays for its Clarity relevance and ability to connect the listeners with a profound teaching cus and I I encourage everybody listening to this to please join the daily Tanya share that will change your life and we will send out the links so everybody can join I'll post it to to the chat silberg an honor to have you tonight the floor is yours thank you sh thank you coach and Andi and everyone else who's who's here so let's get real so you talk about let's get real one of the big Ideas this talk about P one of the big Ideas is the idea of let's get real meaning that whenever we're learning something in t we're never learning about someone else about somewhere else about someplace else about um something else you're not learning isn't a place and isn't a person although obviously m is a place and is a person and when you're learning about the a cow and and a everything is about yourself you're always learning about yourself and if you're learning something in and you don't realize yet how you're learning what you learning is about yourself you're kind of missing one of the big points so that's the let's get real that whatever we're learning it has to be real in your life there's always it's always something about about yourself um and nevertheless and that's that's in general specifically but within that t we'll talk about it more specifically soon but it holds a very specific space in that area and that if we're talking about let's get real you don't get more than Tanya in the area of let's get real because Tanya is really about reality um it's not about pretending that we're or aspirations that are unreasonable or expectations that are that unrealistic it's very much about reality so I know that we had a wonderful gatria of V malano for 215 but still I would say that it's high time that let's get real has a Tanya um a Tanya segment because it's Mish uh it's in the same Lane anyway so just uh a little about myself and how I got into into this uh into the into the Tanya industry as they would say so I um I grew up actually in Michigan where my parents are schim in Westfield Michigan that's suburban suburban Detroit my father's aov over there and then when I became became a Bak I did the circuit went to different Yas New York Canada and then I got married and I started teaching and one of the things that I started teaching was Tanya I was teaching in a missa here in in K heist in Brooklyn so you are you're from Lakewood right both coachi from Lakewood so I have a lot of family actually in Lakewood and I remember back so this is going back a little more 20 years ago I remember the once I was telling one of my aunts in leid that I teach Tanya in the M over here and she told me wow that must be such an easy job because Tanya such a revered safer by in laich that I'm sure that when you teach it no one is making any trouble and everyone's listening and with the utmost respect and reverence Etc and I kind of got a a chuckle at that a good laugh at that and the truth is that although the world has to discover also has to discover and that that I found out and interestingly as a when I was learning as a t wasn't appreciated the way it should be even you know it's taught 15 16 17 and then you move on you move on to the deeper know the hundreds of and is considered to be more Elementary and when I was I wasad actually when I was I was 18 years old and I decided that I'm actually going to start learning Tanya well and really you know you know the understand it well which was like an individual project that wasn't something which was common actually in yis at that time and kind of fell in love with the tanas I fell in love with with the safer I started teaching it and I started teaching it more and more and then eventually I um okay I moved from teaching I I I went to I started working for a few years I worked in kab.org as a writer over there and then where I am right now which is jli which we we PR around the world also along along with that I started just the teaching T many different places um I taught in in Flatbush there's a um actually a mo called the B Library so for eight and a half years I taught there and I finished T an hour week every single week Thursday night and finish all time the whole thing's also online and a lot of different St and and other places I teach over here in the seminary in K Heights over here in Bish Seminary I teach Tanya just this past Thursday night I started a new Tanya with a you know over here uh it never gets old and obviously then then two around two years ago so I started this let's talk T this uh every day because the the previous the he divided T according to the days of the year so that you learn a little segment probably around average of three qus of of Tanya every day this way you finish it every single year so I did one for the entire I I did one for an entire year and then for the next year because sh sh is a different and um and Tanya is having a Renaissance these days outside of laich and within laich I can't tell you the amounts of people who have reached out to me who talk about how their lives have been changed by Tanya in very very drastic ways and uh it's amazing this this to be able to be some sort of a channel a cond to be able to give over this incredible safer which we'll talk about more what it is as as as as we as we go on but if I could say one story before before before we get to the facial inion there was a whose name was past talkinging 20 years ago his name was gari and this gari so he was a big Mah and also many which not everyone is is so so meticulous about he was very he was a big M so one of the that he was it says the that if you leave your house to go off on a on a trip you don't go you don't go back home until you you've arrived at your destination once you leave your house you don't go back home until you've gone to your there and then you come back home so there people who do this therefore if they go outside and they they're leaving somewhere they realize they forgot their keys they won't go back in last someone El for example they got their keys so he once he was going off on a business trip and he went to the airport he lived here in New York in CR Heights he went to the airport only to find out that the flight was canceled and he doesn't know what to do should he should he go back home maybe he should get a hotel room because flight is the next morning he had a special relationship ship with the reab he was he was able to call and get responses and he called up from the airport he called up the rebba secretary and says I'm here in the airport here's the story I don't know whether I should go home or I shouldn't go home because I'm usually meticulous and I follow this from the so the secretary told him to hold on the secretary went into the Reb and asked what that what what what he should do secretary came back and he told said theb said as follows you should learn a p and then you can go home because when you learn a per time you become a new person so the person who left home isn't the same person who is right now going back and said and this this it's not a joke I mean it's serious that's Tanya you you learn you learn a pic and you learn it well you become a new person so talk about the transformative you have it right there and as I'm sure as even he procees we'll talk more exactly about the nature of what Tanya is and in what ways it is transformative okay so we're going to get into it right now we're going to start with first before we even get into what T is and all the questions people have we're going to take a four question poll this is a very philosophical program so you know keep in mind that okay here we go it's a four question poll everybody answer to the best of your ability here we go first question do you believe it's important to learn T four possible answers yes it's essential for spiritual growth yes but only when one is significantly high in spiritual level there was always like a concept that when a person reaches 40 or does this amount to learning or finish that's when you start learning you know number two no focused on reveal is enough just to learn is enough or number four I'm not sure that's the first question second question is doing what hem wants of us all the time practical aspiration so of course everybody going to say yes that's that's what would be practical the question is practical not what we should do is it practical in myself is it practically we should always be doing the right thing and doing the yes option number two for many people perhaps but not for me option three it's not realistic for the mass vast majority of people number four is I don't know third question this world is what what what's your Tye how do you explain a a place filled with that we need to overcome so we can get to the to the the world to come or be the purpose of all creation this world is the purpose of all creation or three this world is a beautiful garden right bani or d a confusing Place filled with spiritual pitfalls and the final question talk about philosophical when you look in the mirror looking back this is not from the what's it called Cinderella when you look in the mirror looking back at you is a a perfect person b a flawed person c a normal person or D it's too painful to look in the mirror this is not related to the share next week with the weights this is just general every ready answer those four questions and then we'll review them with Umali and then anybody who wants to ask a Live question who learned T multiple times probably thousands of times millions of times who gives the she to thousands of people so any question you could have on spirituality or something you know on a spiritual or anything in okay here we go three more seconds okay first question do you believe it's important to learn T 63% of people here believe yes it's essential for spiritual growth 3% say yes but only when one is on a spiritually high level 7% no focusing on the revealed ter is enough 27% the people are not sure to any answer on this any opinion uh I I I like the yes I like number one I'm not sure if I agree with the reason it's essential for spiritual growth I think there are other reasons also but I definitely think that everyone should be learning yes okay number two is doing what has wants to us all the time practical practical expectation aspiration so 60% of people feel we should always be doing what's right all the time sound like OCD perfectionist like we should be perfect I don't know only 8% for many people perhaps not for me 21% it's not realistic for vast majority of people 10% I don't know enough T I find that very interesting I find the answer is very interesting um I think the answer is yes but it's not so simple I as we'll see soon Tanya is really based on this very question of is it practical and how is it practical uh the fact that 60% of people say yes is pretty awesome I like that um and I wonder if if those 60% if it's a practical expectation aspiration so are they Tak doing that and if not why not okay third question this world is 41% of people believe it's a place filled with challenges that we need to overcome so we can get 41% of people tie both 41% the purpose of all creation only 6% of the people believe it's a beautiful garden and only 11% of people feel the feel it's a confusing Place filled with spiritual pits I'm tell you this is yeah the answer is all the above okay so we're gonna get into that and the fourth question is when you look at the mirror they're all correct I guess the bigger question is what's supposed to be our primary perspective when we look at the world but they're all correct these are every single one of these answers is correct abouta yeah when you look in the mirror what's looking back at you only 2% of people say a perfect person 60% of people say we should always do everything 100% right but only 2% of people believe when they look in the mirror it's a perfect person so I'm confused I don't know what happened to the other 58% oh yeah 3% of people a flawed person 57% of people the number one answer a normal person when they look in the mirror they say oh normal person you know the joke say the joke it's just a joke so when you go to the mental W right they always say the guy screaming inside get get me keep me in here it's not safe on the other side a bunch of crazy people you know so I'm saying when you look in the mirror looking back he a normal person and uh the fourth answer it's too painful to look in the mirror 10% any comments on this yeah there is no right answer to this this is the question is when you look into the mirror looking back at you so if you want to know what my what answer I gave to that yeah um aha well I be vulnerable enough to say that my answer is number four they say perfect L Perfectly Imperfect a combination a combination of two and three that would be my answer and whoever the two% who answered Perfect People by the way after class we after this we me I'd love to meet you okay there's a few live questions but I want to just jump into the first question because it's the it's like alive base and then we'll go into live questions and there's a bunch of other questions anybody has a question text please feel free to ask first question I would love to start with recently I started exploring the deeper meaning of Terra because I feel like something is missing in my daily learning and ding I'm trying out different speakers and different books why is this search why is this such an important and what makes Tanya so unique in P okay so Tanya is unique in in and obviously every safer is unique which is why it it's published because someone feels they have something which to to offer which isn't which is not in found yet any other safer but when I explain about batan you understand what I mean about it's it's a unique genre all of its own in order to really understand that if you'll bear with me for a second I want to give you just a two- minute three minute history of what Tanya is we'll give a little context about the uniqueness of T so the AL the author of the T the third generation of so we have the founding was by the B who passed away in the year 1760 and then the second generation ofus the leader of the the leader ofus at that time was the mag and he was leader for around 12 years he passed away in the year 1772 and the alter was a of the and passed away in 1772 and at that time there the the had many many he had 120 called holy the holy Brotherhood holy Society we're talking about the greatest sadim and the greatest go talking about and his brother and his brother and although he passed away before the mag but we're talk just um and more and more and more and what happened was that after the mid passed away so the Eastern Europe was divided up amongst the T amongst the amongst the and each one of them became a Reb in a certain area and the alter got white Rush on Lithuania which was a huge huge area it was the largest territory given to any one of the and one of the primary reasons is because the AL was a lak he was Lithuanian see B and litvak actually have something in common with each other which is also why we we speak you know our accent in speaking Hebrew and is the same because the AL was in fact by the he was known as when he when he was by so he got he got this area a huge area and because was such a big area and also because he was a very charismatic person and and a great leader he immediately attracted we're talking about tens of thousands if not more of of and followers and he was in the city of Le at that time and you had thousands and thousands of s streaming to the Al and each one of them wanted to enter into we call to talk to him and to pour out the heart and ask for his advice in the and eventually this became impossible there were way too many there were way too many and um even the structure the infrastructure Ofna wasn't big enough so the the AL you had to make a lot of rulle and severely limiting and um and restricting and restricting Yus but what are the to do right now they can't go into to ask them their questions so therefore said I'm gonna write a saer and this saer which is called or better better better known as tan Al tan isn't the official name is as himself says in the in in the what we call the compiler's introduction to he says this safer is the answer to all the questions in which people have asked me and I know all your questions and here all the answers to all your questions in are all in here and he says and if by the way and if you can't find an if you have a question you can't find the answer do me a favor go to the the big you know the the people who understand T and they tell them what your problem is and they'll show you in Tanya where the answer is because every single question in is answered in time so right away over there we see this is unique you have if you're familiar at all with with you know that most again 99% of are based on thees or based on and their ideas they're ver they're inspiring they're holy they're deep and saying this sa over here it's not it's not about to give you a art it's not even to give you a fascinating idea it's not to inspire you it's to help you in your a in any issue you might encounter any obstacle you might have any question T is going to answer that question and then writes he says that this the book is the safer is based on the so this is you know the poll question you asked earlier about is it practical is is that a realistic expectation you know that m is about to pass away and he turns to and says I gave you 613 mitz and I want you to know that everything I told you it's it doesn't it's hard to find a good translation for it it doesn't mean easy wasn't saying it's easy but he's saying it's all practical it's realistic and many people have an issue with this although 60% I saw the people here didn't have an issue with it but many people that I know they say uh didn't know my person he didn't know my he didn't understand the trauma that I had from my you know that I experienced and that my father hit me and that my teacher did this and my social issues and my my Temptations and my um my my character flaws etc etc and you want me to do I can do most of it I could do even all of it some of the time but all of it all the time I don't know how realistic that is and Dr comes along and says this safer is based on that we are going to teach a person how they can become a master of themselves in the area and regardless of what the challenge is regardless of what adversity is you can be you can serve that is in a nutshell that's what Tanya is about which is why Tanya is um we're going to focus mostly in tonight on the first part of T tan has five parts there but mostly will focus on the first part the first part is 53 chapters 53 and it's not a series of ver it's not a series of ideas it's a structure it's a building you start you start in chapter one takes you to 5 three it's a program I say it's a popular word a program it's a program in life literally which gives you a different perspective a different mindset and that's a mindset that allows you to overcome adversity primarily internal adversity because that's the biggest adversity that we face but obviously also external adversity and allows us to serve Hashem regardless of what that is basically what Tanya is and if you understand that about t you get why it's a unique safer um so we can have a whole different conversation a whole other day we can do you can ask your friend for a gatria about another session about PR in general we could talk about and why it's important to learn PR and that's a whole different conversation but today I actually want to stay more focused on which is a specific genre with it is what does it mean and how is it possible that what does teach us about being able to serve hasem regardless of our internal issues and struggles and adversity wow I think I think even before we go to any questions um I think somebody try is trying to find the answers they would come to you you learned it already for a while um for example somebody is having a hard time connecting to Hashem somebody for whatever reason they they have a negative outlook on that that whole connection so they they where do they where they number one is where do they start and number two if you can tell us where where they find answer I don't know if you have the it's an interesting question you're saying a person has has trouble connecting to Hashem what does that even mean the first thing that we have to learn in Tanya is what does it mean to connect to Hashem once you know what it means to connect to Hashem then you can say I'm having difficulty I'm not having difficulty I think people have different Illusions or imaginations what it means to connect hashm and then when they're not following that illusion then they wor worried about their connection so I can't even answer the question what to do if you're having difficulty connecting before we Define what it means to connect us okay so let's let's define it I most people grow up you D to hasem some people hear the concept of talking to hasem again not everybody you know you D you learn and whatever means while you grow up you know you have to do Mitzvah because your father is telling you you have to and then whatever happens happens so yeah let's define it okay one of the biggest ideas of Tanya is also one of the simplest ideas and that is we connect to Hashem in two ways doing mitz and learning there is no other way to connect to has and any connection to hasem that isn't by way of a Mitzvah learning isn't a connection it's uh it's a delusion as I said earlier and when you learn when you learn and you do a Mitzvah you are connected so then we need to so you need to re refine or your question a little you want to know if a person has this issue said but I don't feel that connection why is that a problem today we it's very hard to continue um every day doing Mitzvah and T if you're not connected whether it's the feeling that they're looking for or it's really the clarity of understanding what you're saying that that means I'm connected if we don't have that then after a while you're like why what in the world where am I what am I looking for like yeah there there's a lot there's a lot on this topic but I think that some of the topics we're going to discuss today I would want to Circle back to this question okay I think by the time by the time we getting close to end of the conversation we're going to have a lot of information fil filled in which will help us better better answer that question what to do about the fact that maybe I'm connected to the to Hashem but I don't experience it I'm not feeling it which makes my life difficult for me what do we do about that that's a great question so someone can keep notes over here I I want to I would like to return that a little later to that question okay okay let's go to the first Live question you done you're on uh hello can you hear me I hear you y so my question is so the speaking to a person who has the ability to have complete control over his thought speech and action how relevant is Tanya for a person who struggles with a psychological or psychiatric disorder that would impair that control okay that's a great question the answer is T is relevant to everyone and for someone who has a um a psychological or psychiatric by the way I just need to be upfront over here mean to State the obvious that I'm not uh I'm not a medical professional um but if there's something which is chemically or something which is off which is not allowing the person to be able to to operate in a normal way so then the person needs to figure out whatever it is in the way of in order to be able to find um relief from that issue in order to be able to Le and to do mitzah properly and by the way if a person cannot find relief so then even according to there's certain dispensations for a person who um who doesn't have the ability at the same time at the same time there many it's also it's not black and white as we know there are some people who they're seriously Dev you know they're diagnosed they have disorders and some people uh it's more you know it's more of a gray area and by the way everyone suffers from a little little here and a little over there and everyone can benefit from Tanya in combination together with together with uh together with the therapy um I was actually I wasn't sure whether to to tell the story tonight it's a little it's a little private and even even with even if uh you know I'm not going to say any identifying information it's still a private story but considering what you asked I'll tell it to you a few years ago I got a text from a woman a rabbitson and um back and forth she wants to thank me for my Tanish year she wants to know she can call me she identifies herself her name her location now for the people who know me know I'm not I'm not a very social person I'm not a kibitzer I'm not a smer and the idea of sitting and answering a phone and listening to someone me is not something which is I find personally very appealing so I tried to tomorrow next day I'm busy but she was quite insistent so I said okay so she calls me up and she says I want to thank you for saving my life what's this about um she was very very depressed to the point of being suicidal she a mother of many children for from women rabbits like I said and um she was going to therapy and it wasn't uh it wasn't having the desired effect and her father told her you need to start learning so she went online and she found my tare and she started listening to my tare and she said that that together with her therapy and her situation has stabilized she says that she um her her therapist was a firm lady she started learning Tanya with her therapist because her therapist was so was so intrigued by this by this uh transformation that went on and uh her therapist encouraged her to start actually giving a Tanya class for women in the same situation so she started teaching aanya class for women also in in in a similar situation um I think that maybe gives you a little Clarity to what I'm talking about and it was very she said that the Tanya together with the therapy and she had reached a place of stability by and the way I understand it is when you have and you understand why you're here what your purpose is the mission your importance you understand more about the nature of your struggles why you're having your struggles how to deal with them so that is helpful for anyone now there's certain people for them that might be enough they might need also other therapeutic measures um but Tanya is as mentioned T is for everyone the question is is that enough for everyone maybe some people need some other measures also but it's definitely for every here um so maybe then let's just say you have a person who is struggling with um I don't know insomnia that's causing him to not be able to to DAV in BisMan at all um and that's what he's that's his current struggle so I guess Al what kind of as a m what would you tell such a such a person how how should you view that struggle there's there's it's very tough to put that into into a two-minute uh answer because there there there's so many different angles over here number one obviously you need to do whatever you need to do in order to to be able to um in order to be able to you know be healed that's number one number two I think that with the strategies that are brought down in Tanya even with the insomnia you'll be able to also D on time because ultimately everything in life is about priorities and Tanya one of the strategies it gives you is the ability to be able to take Mastery of your life Mastery of your life means you do things even when it's difficult to do things that's number two number three um someone who's undergoing uh something of that sort is struggling also with a lot of other things guilt which is number one and there's a very big part of tan which talks about how we deal with guilt in a healthy way so that it doesn't become debilitating and there's also shame which is a separate thing guilt is about the things that I've done shame is who I am and the my self- perspective and how I look at myself and T perspective will help that also in other if you I don't know if you're talking about your Sol for they say today asking for a friend but if you had a clean state in other words this this person had insomnia okay and the question was am I going to D today it's probably not so difficult for them to wake up today D the problem is that you're you're in a rut and therefore you a rut and you're feeling the guilt and you already gave up on yourself and there's the shame that you're dealing with also so therefore to properly tackle what's going on over here it's a combination of things that are needed over here you need to know you need to know how to deal with the guilt in a proper way which again Tanya deals with extensively you need to know how to deal with the shame issue and the fact that you look at yourself as somewhat somewhat inadequate because of this you need to also learn the strategies of how to prioritize doing in order to make sure that even when it's difficult you're doing it and if you put you wrap those three things together in a bow I think you'll be in a very good place but that's why you know it's very nice that I'm sitting over here we're talking Tanya but you can't expect that we're goingon to have all the Solutions in life in in two hours when course Tanya but what I'm trying to to get across is that here you asked a question and you can see there multiple all of them tackled and addressed directly by Tanya because all of these are issues in our okay let's go to the next question okay okay here we go thank you for taking my question um actually I was so happy when Usher said he was going to bring you on because I listen to your Shir and M any time um um many times I've been listening again and again certain just doesn't end so I just have a I'm not and I learned T Mya even though it's not that popular and I just have a question in terms of the concept of learning Tanya like at what point do you need a rebi and I'll ask in what way I mean I remember when I learned this 10 years ago you know without any R something there's like certain parts you know just uh just gets a bit confusing you know okay you learn about B and what a b is and everyone could be a b but then practically like for example we see we're trying so hard I mean the Al said it's possible to be a b every person could be one we're just doing everything and it's just getting us down and I'm sure besides the emotional aspect like what's the Mah or I remember I was learninga and he said person should fast this amount of times that amount of times and then I was like okay even if someone's too hard at least one time in their life I don't remember it was 84 Tinus whatever it was misar and I know the finally later on when I heard youu the rebbit says he's supposed to givea right for example but someone doesn't didn't listen to the rebbit or didn't know these artists from how much could a person open the Tanya learn it by themselves and you know they have a and how much like T you have to you have to have a Reby or someone to guide you so you shouldn't end up in somewhere else when you say when you say rebi I'm not sure if you're talking about rebi like in like in the sense of someone to teach you the T make sure you understanding well are you talk about terms as like someone that makes sure that you're not gonna go do 84 fast someone either or whatever give give you a Mahal a practical Mahal the answer is very very very important and that's not unique to that's unique to every area of if you have a will tell you that he learned entire and all the and all of the the Tris but he didn't but he didn't have shim then you don't go to him and the importance of having a certain M and making sure that when you learn it you're learning it according to the m that's true when toate to every single safer and especially if you're new so it's like a new area it's a new field so it's very important that that you're being guided and make sure that your understanding is is correct thank you so much okay now you're mentioning not only with t to go get Shish learn with somebody that knows older generation I guess yeah yeah it's true in every single area of and the whole you know you talk about the many the streams that left conservative even more radical from one of the big things is okay I could learn the text by myself and I could then understand and I could figure myself out and no there the the that we have was so important every single area of you learn how safer okay so obviously if I if I learned you know and I had and I had so now I can go and I can Lear another to myself doesn't mean that you're stuck your entire life but the you this in any given field in any given area we need to make sure that it's it's based on the true M that that we have it's through in every area and another thing that he mentioned and somebody sent maybe we could talk about it somebody sent me the question the few times I studied T I read a lot about B which I understood to mean an average person like me someone who tries to do good but sometimes makes mistakes it seems like the B is a key Concept in Tanya can you explain more about this yeah okay that's a very that's an important conversation to have so let's talk a little about the B the as we mentioned Satan's they're five parts but we mentioned that we're paying most attention to the first part which by the way also um quantitatively is the biggest part of t 53 53 chapters and the AL calls that the book of so generally we talk about we know there's aad there's the rash there's the B which we understand as thead is the the righteous person the person who's you knowes mitz and does a lot of and then there's the wicked person is you know someone somewhere in between redefines the B and but actually more important even is redefining the redefines the let me explain what I mean by that tells us that is divided into two types of people and quotes which supports what he's saying there are certain people who are born with very highas and by the way this is a minority say that saw that there very few took and planted a few in every single generation and these are very highas that come down with this world and they have the ability other words everyone has free choice they can by the way just because you have the of doesn't mean that you can't end up being a russan you could but these are people who because they have very high shamas they have the ability to become a sadic and what does it mean to be a sadic a sadic is someone who doesn't struggle anymore a sadic is someone who is completely suffused with and and and and a person who doesn't all those things that the average person you know those issues that plague us the desires The Temptations the laziness the jealousy the pettiness the anger management issues the the addictions the the spiritual insensitivities has none of that thead is they say is a blaze with with with love for but most people cannot achieve that level most people have another type of n a type of which is a that will of a person that will always struggle will never be able will never be able to S to say you know shatter that glass ceiling and reach a place where they no longer have to have have to struggle yes we're going to struggle we have it's a harder and The Temptations and like I said the laziness and the the the the the jealousy and we have to deal with with you know with anger and hatred and and all these things now in this category of struggling people which again is most of us so what is our success rate if we have a success rate of anywhere between 0% and 99.9% then Dr says you are Russia if your success rate is 100% then you're abandoning meaning a person who in behaviorally when it comes to actually the way they behave they be this despite their struggles they're always doing the right thing they're doing what once they're doing Mitzvah learning staying away from a that person is the B so to put it in different words the B is someone who has self-mastery despite their internal strife and the Havoc that's going on inside and the chaos that might be going on inside sometimes and the struggles and nevertheless that person is able to um achieve self-mastery so if we go back to what we said earlier what Al said the purpose of T is said people are writing me letters and people are coming into they asking questions what do all these questions boil down to all these people coming to what are the issues boiling what is boil down to I'm having trouble serving the abish I'm having trouble doing the right thing all the time and say here I'm going to give you a book that allows you to become a b which means to have self-mastery to be able to do the right thing all the time I I'm G to show you actually it's a act it's a practical and a realistic expectation that 247 and 365 days a year you're doing what Hashem wants from you and staying away from anything else so that's the big idea in Tanya and besides for the fact that is going to say regardless of what you're struggling with I am going to show you you can manage the struggle effectively and successfully and bottom line do the right thing there's another two underlying issues is number one Dr is saying it's fine it's fine to struggle and in fact if you're upset over the fact that you're struggling and if you have a desire to be and you're you're you're upset that you're not a sadic so all you've done is you've set yourself up for failure because as we know that um frustration is the result of not meeting your expectations and when you set for yourself an unrealistic expectation you're setting yourself up for frustration so if you're struggling in a certain area and you're like why am I struggling in this area Al says why are you struggling in this area because that's who you are you're a struggler like 99% of quality you're a struggler and your job isn't to overcome the struggle and to to the point that you don't struggle anymore your job is despite the struggle make sure that you dove in every single morning in time and and if your goal is that you shouldn't struggle with it anymore that that's unrealistic so that's number that's a very important thing so actually we want to get down to it number one Dr is going to give us strategies and tools how to be able to overcome the struggles and again when I say word overcome you be careful what I mean not overcome as and get rid of the struggles but despite the struggles to do the right thing that's number one number two you should be at peace with yourself with the struggles understanding this is who you are this is your mission this is purpose this is your purpose it's fine and number three if I could take it even a step step further say something interesting he says the tells us that turns to to and says when he wants to give him the he says he says I want you to make for me Delicacies the way I like them and the Z tells us that this statement of that tells to to as is really as we know as we said earlier nothing you know en everything we learning yes it happened actually really there was a physical person son but everything is reflection of higher realities this is the m of this is hasem speaking to to her children to us the speaking to us and saying tells us I want you to make for me Delicacies hasem turns to me and to you and to you and to every single other says I need you to to to to give me pleasure by giving me Delicacies but Delicacies is in plural why is that says there two different types of Delicacies that we serve the aish just like when it comes to food so um one time there's one class or one genre of food that we enjoy is sweet food we like cake and cookies and candies and whatever ice cream and then there is the the Savory Foods we like CHS and pastrami sandwich and pizza and especially if you happen to be Moroccans then you make sure that you add a lot of on to it also and it's two different types of pleasure because the abish D also everything over here is a reflection of spiritual real realities because the abish D also there are two different types of Pleasures that Hashem gets one is a sweet pleasure one is Hashem who gives Hashem ice cream who gives a the lollipops that's because their is sweet so therefore they serve the dessert the apple pie who but who serves the aish the main course because main course isn't sweet I know today like sometimes someone will serve like a a carrot cake in the middle of the meal and say it's cougal because we sering the meal it's sweet sorry that's not cou that belongs in dessert it's sweet the main course right is something who gives the abish CH that's us the ones who struggle because our the service that we give the abish isn't sweet our service is flavored by by our Tears by our sweats by our character flaws which we have to battle in order to be able to do it by the struggles that we have but the abish loves that the abish loves that he loves that justce as much as he loves the so once we understand that we understand it's fine that I struggle I'm not a less of a person because I struggle that's my mission over here in this world and the pleasure that I give to abish is incredible when I overcome every single time that despite the struggle despite that I want to sleep and I don't I wake up and I I want I'm not interested in learning right now I go and I I I learned I'm not interested right now going and calling my my parents anding I do it anyways right all these things tremendous pleasure that we give the ab so it's not only the time to gives you the strategies of how to deal with the struggles but there's also the emotional element which is it makes you fine with the struggle just one you know to conclude one one story story it's anecdote there was once who came to the was the third who was the grandson of the balat and he came into and he says to this goes well what should I do I don't have a gmak in learning what's in English you don't feel the gak yeah well how do you translate gmak is like a pleasure it's a pleasure enjoyment enjoyment passion passion oh you have to sometimes you have take a bunch of words and put them together to get to get to one word and listen to what the answered answered him so what should I do I do have I'm jealous because the pleasure that you are able to give Hashem when you don't have a g and you sit down and you learn anyways that's a pleasure that I can't because I'm a sadic he didn't say those words but the idea is that that I am deprived of that ability to give that special unique pleasure now I just want to say that every one of us also has our Sweet Moments we have our sadic moments we have those mits that we are that that we don't struggle with and that's amazing so we we we every single one of us serves the Serv a diverse menu but we shouldn't be discounting those areas of struggle again there is a your struggle is not is not uh is not the end of the world there are ways to overcome it gives us strategies in Tanya how to manage the struggle and do the right thing and also again the main thing is how to be emotionally okay with it and not to and how not to allow the struggle to get you down because there's nothing worse than being down because that's the end of everything when a person falls into you know the famous V says right and many others you know all the Masters say there's nothing worse than being in a place of dejection and place of negative emotions and we need to be constantly we need to be to place of positive emotions enthusiastic and optimistic and and with a a positive self-image and our struggles should not get in the way with them wa before we continue so you're saying B is somebody who struggles what's if I struggle and I fall yeah I don't I don't hear the question that was a statement no because the way I understood B is somebody who still has the struggles but he overcomes the struggle yeah yeah so if you fall that means right now not a b you still have to they work to them so you don't automatically become a Russian you do oops I don't want to hear yeah work to them I don't want to hear that you don't want to hear that why not because the the name hurts I don't anybody wants to be hold Russia right I get that thank you for understanding no okay I'm trying to how to how to address this and I think um you have to say that if in today 2020 25 you have to find a different name that's number one but um to tell a person that's part of the so not Russ if it's part of my then hasem loves me because Russia to me means doesn't like me Russia means I'm an outcast that's the way I look at it so your problem isn't the word Russia your problem is all the associations you have with the word Russia so that and that's a problem and if you have all those associations and maybe talking you have to find a different name for it I don't know maybe call it purple avocado I don't know it doesn't have associations but um we have to jump into this a little again a lot of these aren't necessarily bar you know you said this going to be a two-hour podcast I was like that's good because a lot of these things are require more than uh sound bites the popular understanding of sad before the AL came along is that these are about Behavior sad rash is about Behavior sadic does a lot of mitz Russ does a lot of a and is somewhere in the middle and then if that's your understanding of and that's not necessarily a wrong understanding but it's a different understanding of sad BHA and then when someone comes along and says hey you did one a you're a Rasha you f you failed one what I'm a Ras that's horrible right and it is if you're following that definition but redefines it why does redefine it redefines it because one of the big ideas in t which I don't know if we're going to get to we're not going to get to is idea of versus as opposed toar and what that means is that the AL is more concerned about your internal States than about your behavior and I know you're GNA say what do you mean isn't isn't MIT is what it's all about and you just said earlier that connecting to is about Behavior yeah everything everything within context the but the real true it all comes down to Mitzvah and you have to do Mitzvah from but the real Battlefield thatb says is inside you it's an internal battle that's going on and that's the battle that you need to try to win what is this battle the battle between what we call the and it's translated The Godly soul and the animal soul and depending on where you are in that battle you will be a sadic or a billion or Russia and the behaviors flow from where you are and not they are the cause of the name in other words you're not a Russia because you do an AA you do an a because you're a Russian I know that sounds confusing but give me give me give me two minutes I'll explain what I mean to that we have every one of us we have a Godly soul and an animal Soul Godly soul is all about Hashem animal soul is self- serving we'll probably talk about that more a little more in depth as I'm assuming sometime over the next hour or so and when the when the overpowers theam it gains an edge an advantage an unnatural Edge in other words somehow it has compromised mam person is called a now obviously that person is never going to do any a because the is in control if a person the neam has taken the lead it is a little more powerful than the that person is called a Russia and if there's a stalemate going on where each one of them neither one of them has managed to compromise the other one at all that person is called the B so again the sadic B Russia are all descriptions of the the your the state of your internal battle now if you are in a place where neam is has is is has taken control or has gained somewhat of a advantage over the ne how's that going to express itself it's going to express itself the fact you're going to do Aus how many Aus are you going to do how big of a rush are you going to be well it depends how big is the imbalance how much how much more powerful Isam than if it's much more powerful then you'll do a lot of a various very often if it's a very slight imbalance but the just gained only a little of a edge you'll do only small a various only once in a while but Russ is a description of that internal state where your NE has been compromised the theory of the AL is that if your NE are both at full strength you will that that is the B why because you and you'll never do an a why because if they're both at full strength then the always will have the upper hand because what called the is based in the mind is based in the heart the Mind enjoys a natural superiority over the heart intellect over the emotions so if the both are at status quo the way at full strength that person won't do an A but the B is not aity because they don't do Aus they don't do Aus because they're aity because they're at that internal State a Russia someone who will do an AO once in a while because the neam has Tak is a little more powerful which is why they're called Rasha this is more powerful it's very important to redefine our struggle in life as instead of will I do this or not do that or will I do that will I do the right thing or the wrong thing takes us to a deeper place and says the primary struggle is more of an internal one it's more of an identity one who am I am I identified with am I identified with my and therefore he redefined s and rash to fit what he feels is the primary Battlefield in life which is the battle between the now if someone is used to defining sad Russ in the behavioral way as opposed to the internal way which I just described and you tell the person you're a Russia the person gets very offended so and I understand why the first pay of T actually Al it's very interesting the first the first like is Al trying to like restore to factory settings he's trying to like say you're understanding I need you to put that aside I need to give you a new definition because after knows if you're operating under the old definition you're going to get you're going to get offended that's a long answer to a short question and it was very deep but did you did you get what I was saying no I hear what you're saying you have to redefine redefine the way we look at Russia but to continue so basically most of the people I know or myself I'm still in that Russia stage because I do struggle and I fall so the re with T is going to teach me how to become a ban yes but yes but I but I also want to say he'll teach you how to become a b but there's a b in general but more than that Tanya teaches you how to be a in any area you'd like to be for example example I would like to give it so you say you you you say that once in a while you fail in your struggles right good okay join the club I'm with you on that okay but at the same time if on on ker afternoon at five o'clock in the afternoon I were to find out you know which show you diving in and I would come with a piping hot freshh pie of pizza and put it in front of you are you taking a slice no it has your favorite toppings it's such a clear Lan you would there's no sance right there's no chance but would you salivate it would smell good if you were a sadic by the way you would bre it would you you you'd want to run off and vomit right because a sad anything which is against the is disgusting so you're a b in that area meaning that it's something I I would love the pizza it tastes good but no way how many other areas in your life are there like that there are many areas as a from right everyone has those areas now take an area where you're not like that take an area in your life where you struggle and you you're not 100% confident that you'll be able to overcome that struggle every single time but you want to become in that area meaning you want to gain self Mastery in that area Tanya has their strategies what I'm trying to say is you don't have to it's not an all or nothing it's not I look at Tanya and say oh I'm going to be gain self Mastery my entire life because by the way you're probably setting yourself up for failure if you do that because that's too big but what if you learn T strategies and say okay so I'm struggling in this area and in this area I'm a Russia meaning in this area I my success rate is anywhere between 0% and 99% because if I'm 100% like Pizza on yum Kipper where your success rate is 100% And you said that and I believe you um I I want to I want to add this area of my life into my B column and by the way there's such a thing also as even for us putting things in a column also I want to take something and I might not be able to do that for everything but there are certain things in in my life I would like that I should actually have a a and and so we have you could talk about three people people you can also talk about them as you know in my life I have different areas and I'm constantly trying to shift things from one col to the next Al said reasonable expectation for any area of my life is to is B I might not always succeed in in sadic but B I can any area of my life I could be a b in any area of my life if I follow the strategies us saying everybody has different levels in different areas in their life and you can be all three in certain um ideas you can be AIC certain different struggles that you have you can be a b and then there's those things that you are still a Russia and working on becoming a b that's a reality you know you don't have to accept that as what I'm saying is if you know yourself you know what I'm saying is true and true about myself sorry no hearing it in a way that that's part of our av yes well yeah because there are many and I I would ask you the next questions how do they teach to young kids um because everybody struggles and we the younger generation we try you know always want them to do the right thing and when they fall you know right and wrong so understand that's part of it and it's okay okay it's not okay to fall and a is not fine oh well ever why is there however because we all do okay that doesn't make doesn't make it okay it's it's a very nuanced topic deals with this Al has a very radical understanding of this Al says and which is he says if you're feeling guilty about an a you have done you should know it's toxic it's thear throw it out that guilt if if that feeling happens upon you or comes to you the only legitimate guilt that there is remorse that there is is remorse that you schedule and that you give it a time a beginning time and an end time and also tells us what that remorse is supposed to look like exactly anything other than that it's p it it's the slippery slope and it'll take you straight to G to put it in different words I mean I want to put this in radical words imagine a the am the beard the P the whole everything I'm going to get a little graphic here hope you don't mind walks by a McDonald's and not McDonald's Avenue in bar Park on McDonald's and uh some reason can't hold himself in runs in buys a cheeseburger and eats the cheeseburger finishes the cheeseburger and then he's like okay what in the world I just do and distraught so what does he do obviously if he's he runs into the because that's what is way said every time that you learn you're going into that's what it is he runs into say I just had a cheeseburger what should I do I feel terrible what's Al gonna answer what ises Al answer he says Al says oh you at a cheeseburger I need you to put that out of your mind right now go to the B sit down with a sit down with a and start learning and forget about that you did it and then by kishita tonight and schedule for yourself 10 minutes to think about it and to cry about it and also I'll tell you what you're supposed to be thinking about then you're not supposed to be thinking about yourself and what kind of loser you are you're supposed to think about the words think about the because it's not about you the biggest problem is when we make it about ourselves and then move on knowing that forgave you so you notice over here we have incredible balance on the one hand we can never say an a is fine a isn't fine but at the same time there's a very specific way and healthy way spiritually and emotionally healthy way how to deal with it and how to move past it because the problem that Europe I think you're saying is that bottom line is people they how do you say they get they get they get they they they drown in the guilt but the way to undrawn a person is not by saying it's fine because it's not you're fine what you're fine fine but you're you yeah yeah no no okay okay there is a very important thing remember I said earlier there's between guilt and shame right guilt is about what I've done and shame is about who I am when you say you're fine what does that mean you're fine let's go back to the cheeseburger analogy the biggest thing bothering the person isn't even so much that they ate the cheeseburger if you go a little deeper what's what's what's bothering that much more is that I a personal ate a cheeseburger meaning I'm such a lowly person that I had that that I had that desire that's Returns the person and say no no no no you're 100% normal there's no such thing as as a struggle which is abnormal there's no such thing as a struggle which makes you flaw because the ab who who who made that struggle who gave you that struggle the aish and the abish doesn't create garbage whatever hasm creates is perfect so if hasm created you with that struggle that means that you're perfect with that struggle and everything is fine now the problem is that you didn't manage that struggle and you fell but that's not a problem with you that's a problem with the prob what I'm saying there there's that line the problem is what you did not who you are you're fine you are exactly who the aisher created and therefore you're gold you're perfect now you did something wrong that you have you have to wipe it off and move on there's nothing wrong with you that's correct yes there's nothing wrong with you for having that struggle and it doesn't make difference what that struggle is by the way you go to Every wasone was listening to this whether it's live or after you have to know regardless of what you're struggling with the abish there gave you that struggle and there's nothing wrong with you that's number one and number two if the aisher gave you that struggle that means that you can manage that struggle because the aish wouldn't give you a struggle you can't manage and number three what we said earlier the the pleasure that the a against me when you manage that struggle is through the roof the is pleasure was jealous of that pleasure that you give but I think I think this is like fundamental for a lot of people um people who have given up a long time already because they didn't see themselves um you know managing and taking it back to the connection to hasem the in their in their eyes they were you know disconnected or not wanted it wasn't working out so with all their struggles it might have been many years ago maybe when they were younger and a belief that I guess this is who I am and gave up already so I think what you're saying is very is fundamental is very important and we we have to sit on it before we continue just the idea to understand first of all what does AEM wants from you and if you're going through the struggle this is exactly what Hashem wants and yes you will fall doesn't mean it's okay to fall but you like like you mentioned like hasem still loves you I think that's something that a lot of people have a hard time with yeah but you think about Hashem loves you hasem loves every single Yem loves every single lot of people claim they have a hard time based on maybe the parents or their teachers that they didn't get the feelings from the adults in the room the people that they grew up with and now tell them that hem loves them is very hard to get back and that's the recycling to my first question to learning Tanya learning these ideas that hasem loves them but they don't really believe yeah there is no question a lot of people have these issues they have to get by they have to get over it but I I want to also he's saying that Hashem loves us just give me mind second um few weeks ago I went I visited a Yesa somewhere I sat with the staff and uh I asked the staff over there like what is uh you know what makes your unique what's and one of them told me that you know we're busy telling everyone how how great they are and how amazing is because they have a n and it bothered me a little because when you tell me I have a how do I take that usually I have a yeah inside me I have a was holy I'm garbage but I have a a it could be interpreted that way Hashem loves me is a commentary on Hashem it's not a commentary on me if you tell me I have I have struggles Hashem loves me loves me even though I have struggles so okay so I'm I'm still garbage and Hashem because he's so great he loves me anyways but that doesn't leave me feeling good why would I feel good by that that's like case that makes me into I want to take it past the Hashem loves me I want you to know that who you are is perfect not only that Hashem loves you despite not it's not a despite Hashem created you with struggles cuz that's what he wants and when you your service of Hashem with your struggles is not any less than the service of a sadic that's a different vert than Hashem loves me that gives me value you're following what I'm saying who I am yeah like I have it's not first all I I told the teacher it please don't tell just don't just tell your students to have a n tell them they're talented tell them they have practically right and and things that they could look at themselves and not only oh I have this like ambiguous Nish which you know which makes me precious so me me and my personality and I I'm not really capable or anything but I have no no you you're amazing you're sh Express itself in the fact that you are amazing I know we're going from thing to thing to thing but uh is it that I'm I am the a shama that's an interesting question some people like to say it that way it's a complicated question the answer is yes and no your deepest your deepest you is your the problem though is that that's not the default you when we when we wake up in the morning and we like um I want this I want that me me me me me and all you know the things that make us operate and TI throughout the day that's not the that's our defaults and requires to shift us from the to our real self which is the so the real deepest me is my but at the same time that's not going to be expressed in my reality unless I do the a of making that shift you have to get there so if to sleep by the way what o are we putting you to sleep like uh you're still with us oh um my my NE close is fully away okay I see even with the coffee even okay so if I feel it's not it's not that's a misunderstanding that's behind this so and we if somebody feels unworthy somebody doesn't looks in the mirror and doesn't see nice things over there which part of to should they run to which with where should they go so there obviously the I I can argue the all hotan is about that if you want specifically and if you uh if you want you can go Tora anytime and look up chapter 27 N I have my classes on it and uh very very powerful on this topic wow Rober Sil let's go to uh the next question hiar hi hi by the way I enjoy your um your YouTube video a lot I I watch it I watch it every day and I did have like a question I work with all you know first of all I study the Tanya at Daily I live I live in Crown Heights um but I work with all different kinds of Jews and I mean I used to get a lot of flack about you know Tanya and habad but how do how do I argue the difference like approach say with wer or hakir I work with somebody who's loves my modities he's said rationalist you know how would I how could I explain that you know my preference for my Approach over the others I mean have I have respect for muser I really you know you know there's I know there's classic muser different volumes and you know of course the ROM but how do you how would you explain that uh to someone like that uh you know the differences and why I feel that the Tanya's I don't want to say superior but I just really think that something is missing if you don't study it uh that you know so how would you I mean do you find yourself sometimes on the defensive when you have to explain the the t i i i very very much stay away from the defensive yeah and um I I I this you know I mean I don't tell somebody you've got you should learn Tanya but I'm just saying that you know but I always feel that there's something there that you like you said it's really that you're I think whenever you're busy trying to convince someone about what you have is better than what he or she has you're you're already lost before you started yeah it's not uh no no one wants to hear that first of all I think there's something about if we could keep this conversation to Tanya as opposed to the general studying ofus which is as I in the beginning I said you know talk about import is a topic all for itself um and I I don't want to do that today because then that that would detract from again what Tanya is specifically but um in terms of what Tanya is you can instead of saying that oh mus isn't this andir isn't this here is what Tanya is Tanya is and everything that we're talking about over here and it's a path for serving Hashem and if someone who struggles is the path for them and if that talks to the person great and I think that it'll talk to many people people today you know we we live in a world where where you know whereas 20 years ago 30 years ago Tanya was for labers and today there's becoming that recognition that there's something very special that the world is ready is ready coming to accept that and I don't think it's because people had arguments and explain to them why it's Superior just you know talk about it what it for what it is and I think that the product sells sells sells itself yeah just one of question what about explaining even to a non-jew I don't mean just somebody who's interest in conversion but somebody would wonder that you know he you know he's tries to live a righteous life on his level but he's not a Jew Andia teaches really the specialness of a Jew I I I have that in my writing you know I work with the Library Association and I have to deal you know when I review paciic books I mean do you I don't know do you ever come across that I mean it's a question for r i mean we're not we don't teach that's a general rule there are Exceptions there are parts of T which um could learn because it's it's relevant to them like I'm pretty sure that I saw that said the second part of T which is about could learn that because are commanded to believe in h but the part of we're talking I'm not sure you have to ask whether that's fine even to to give that yeah they seem aware of a Shem I mean you know many and and you could be a good person not be Jewish I think yeah so I don't know if that's a way to approach absolutely but there are things things that are for GR and again the first part of I'm not sure of that for oh okay thank you thank youber uh let's let somebody sent an email I've been feeling sad at times especially since October 7th I stopped watching the news I feel a lot better but whenever I see Israeli news or anything happening the World especially with all the C going on all the chaos going on I get very sad it and you know I was wondering if I learned Tanya can this help me with this general feeling of depression of the mat over the world yes plan oh Tanya absolutely can help you but let's talk about this a second okay we're eing so as a we know whatever whatever happens the runs the world is good or right so how is it that a yid from y isn't happy all the time so what happens in Israel is very painful obviously and there are manyas and we should have vaniga and absolute n over our enemies uh incredibly crushing victory destroying them all and we have to be determined to do that but at the same time as you we know that whatever happened again whatever happened already and everything's from hem and is the how is it that a Jew is be how is that a is depressed that's a that that's that's a question I'm actually asking you a questioni what do you what do you think the answer of that question is because at the end of the day we're born as human beings and hasm made it like that we have uh those feelings one of the it's one of the of the Bri right right but it doesn't have to be that way so what so if now I would like to actually zoom out a little I want to zoom out and talk a little about tell now we're talking about I want to talk a little about what what is the theory ofad you know stands for so does that mean that we're a bunch of intellectuals that if you want to be become you know join men and become become aik you know because we have high IQ why we call you you know we're busy with the mitzah tanks well you know what does that do what intellectual faculties kabad is a theory which was Advanced by the alter this is you know he was one who founded the founded the idea of kabad which is very similar by the way to um cognitive behavior therapy what is cognitive behavioral therapy cognitive behal therapy means it's a behavioral therapy which means that the purpose is that there's a certain pathology in the behavior there something wrong whe whether the person has a sleep disorder or it's OCD or it's panic but the end of the day the issue is we need to deal with the behavior so how do we deal with the behavior so the recognition is that the behavior is rooted in a faulty emotion and how do we fix the emotion cognitively by rewiring our thought patterns by the way we speak we fix the feeling and we fix the feeling we are going to automatically fix the behavior this idea is directly plagiarized from kabad because that is really what kabad is all about what does kabad mean kabad means that if I want to holistically transform myself so how does it start it starts in the head it starts by learning it starts by understanding not by inspiration by the way which is what makes different than all the other all the other books of sidus and by the way this is not about what's Superior or not Superior this is a we're drawing a contrast and each one has everyone has their own is is the idea that if I fully study something well and I understand it well and then I take time to think about it that's going to ultimately that filters down to my emotions and creates and generates emotions that are compatible or along the lines of that which I understand which automatically is also going to change my behaviors you follow that ushi so far yep so why is it that I can know but I'm still depressed the answer is because someone threw the words G me a million times but I never understood it so there's always parts to me that are resisting it and it doesn't it never really entered my heart and and therefore my behavior also be impacted in all these things because now you open up a chapter 26 by the way if you want and talks about how to deal with which means negative emotions that come from when a person has serious issues serious challenges even tragedies and and explains it well what does it mean understanding what it means in the higher world and how that relates to us and if a person takes time to learn it to understand it and then marinate in it and kind of let it sink in that is going to change the person's state of being so the simple answer is gam the reason why G is doesn't work is because it's not being done in aabad way and if it's not being done in kabad way it's much harder to maintain that then you like need injections you know on a constantly like inject like me I'm gonna say it as a mantra or I'm going to sing a song and that'll have an impact in me for a little while but if you want to organically transform yourself that requires starting on the top we call what I call for that reason trickle down spiritual nomics you start at the top you start in the head and understanding it and that impacts the emotions and then automatically the behavior follows it okay I want to get to two things quickly um number one um somebody texted before you said the only way to connect to hem is to Via daving and he said did I hear wrong he said I said now we connect is a mitah so people asking there's other let's say we discussed before working on your Midas working on your traits and the different things that they're having a hard concept they're other things people could do that are also feel connecting are you saying that the only way really to connect is when somebody's somebody works on gets up early pushes himself and does something you're saying it's all tied into Mitzvah if they're wake up early to saying not that everything is to be tight into MIT at the end of the day what I'm saying is that if Hashem didn't command you to to do it then the act in itself is meaningless is gorgeous but only because it says says you should do it and if not for that then it doesn't connect you to you have to realize that connecting to hasem is illogical it doesn't make sense that a human being connect tohm Hashem is infinite and we are nothing you know we haveed in right here someone knows right right you know the whole thing we're nothing right imagine you have like what I think like 40 trillion bacterias in your body Imagine One imagine this morning one of the bacteria one of the 40 trillion bacteria one of them that's in your little toe wakes up today and says you know this ushi guy he's an awesome guy I want to have a relationship with him maybe if I'm very friendly with my fellow bacteria then USI is going to really maybe will become buddy buddy now think about it for a second the bacteria is an organism you're an organism you're much more complex but s you're both what they say you're both n both creations and nevertheless the idea of you having a relationship with that bacteria is incomprehensible inconceivable what separates that bacteria from you is nothing compared to what separates us from m and we think we can connect to Hashem that's ludicrous there's only one way we connect to Hashem and that is that Hashem gave us 613 ropes and when we grab on to one of those groups then Hashem connects us to him we can't there's nothing we can do to connect to Hashem only when we take one of those tools that hasem gave us Mitzvah then we connect to hm other than that nothing is anything okay there's a there's a Live question and I have a chart somebody sent me is it okay if I share it maybe you could explain it right tell me if you know what this chart is this chart looks familiar you explain me what this chart is and maybe we could discuss it for a minute because we were talking on the topic yeah yeah one of your listeners they said that Reb should explain it because he's talking about somebody doesn't a yes I I made this chart okay so let's let's go through it we'll start over here I guess in the top left this is where it starts I feel regret sometimes this is this is this is Tanya this is Tanya way dealing with guilt is a flow chart yes okay so explain it let's top I feel regret for something I did is this regret appropriate so first question you have to ask yourself is did you make a morally faulty decision before we start this is a charge shared with his crowd but when somebody does an AA how to I guess process it this is I cre this I again remember I told you I I I'm the co-director of curriculum in an organization called jli Jewish learning Institute so this is a course that I wrote for jli and this is in one of the courses it's actually a course called Warrior to Warrior based on t Okay so the first question is I feel regret something I did is this regret appropriate yes that's the that's the that's the question which the the over over arching overarching what's the word question that we have over here is I did something wrong I feel a regret is it appropriate okay so did you make a morally faulty decision if the answer is no so for example what's what's the example of you you didn't make a morally faulty decision uh let's say you you left your kid play in the playground and the kid fell off the slide slide and got stitches so the first question is did I do something wrong and very often the answer is no it was age appropriate the kid was a and it was fine let him go to the park and uh she fell and she hurt herself so was there hurtful result if yes apologize and see what you can to fix the situation but guilt and remorse are inappropriate and if no there was no hurtful result then wonderful but the bottom line is if there was no moral decision let's say you encouraged your kid to go to uh to to learn take a course on uh Bas on computer science because you thought that's what would be good for them and they flopped in it but if you did and everything you did was excuse me you prepared and you dent in Any Which Way um then there's no feeling guilty for something which did not involve IM morally faulty decision okay so that's so everything that I write here from this part and up is basically you did everything to best your knowledge you ever heard of something called Survivor guil for example right other words the understanding is that if it wasn't a morally faulty Choice then I wasn't in control hashm was in control the only thing that I that I control was my moral choices so if I didn't make a morally faulty choice there's no reason to feel guilt then the AER was the one who orchestrated the events okay so now let's go further so if you made a mortally morally faulty decision and yes you said you did something that you knew was wrong so this is where're getting into this is okay this is GNA be a tough thing to teach in other words this this is a 45 minute class teaching the FL okay next week is this reg a product of a change perspective it truly change you remember I said is gonna teach us how to have regret and one of the big Ideas says is the feelings of regret that come to you are garbage the the normal natural feel that you have because think about it for a second we there's that Loop that cycle we regret we do we regret we do regret we do why because we didn't fundamentally change the same person who did that is the person who's regretting it and therefore why because I'm a a multifaceted and complex person so part of me wants to do it Part of Me doesn't want to do it part of me wants to do it and does it then the other part of me regrets it so that regret you're feeling right now is not going to prevent you from doing it tomor regret doesn't lead to change you need to change in order to really feel regret to feel real regret productive regret there needs to be some sort of change in your perspective some sort of change in your relationship to the person you offended towards Hashem or towards the whatever the subject is make sense but when we say when we learn that say right and having we're not talking about just in a theoretical thing we're talking about actually change and say that we're not doing this anymore but in very simple words if you did it another later okay and then 20 minutes later McDonald let's stick with the McDonald's I like the McDonald's okay well is a right see then 20 minutes I did that that's worthless that's worthless nothing fundamentally changed so what the all what what would be real is if you have a new appreciation understanding for what an a is a new appreciation for Hashem you you've grown your relationship with him to the point that now you can't believe you did it that's real that's lasting then the regret that comes as a result of the change is something which actually has the potential to be something real but if the change if the regret is not the result of any change of a change perspective then just throw that out it's not worth entertaining those thoughts and that those feelings because they're they're just going to pull you down and there's nothing productive to them see that says if no warning this a toxic regret get rid of it move your mind elsewhere re revisit your indiscretion during a contain pre-bedtime remorse session and by the way if it is result of a change you that's great this has the potential to be productive remorse nevertheless postpone the feelings for a contained pre-b time remorse session which means that either way guilt never consumes us we never walk around feeling guilty we walk around guilt is always scheduled however sometimes we have to also be aware that the natural guilt that I feel was pun should poison moving I think you have to scroll down and drop says begin the remorse session thinking about the harm and pain that you cause your fellow Orem make sure that this is not about feeling bad about yourself this is a very important thing there are people who go to sh Kipper and they spend 25 hours crying and hasham is really not part of the of the equation they're thinking about how how their failure and how they failed themselves and their own expectations and how uh next year I need to be better Hashem is only a over here present um to the extent that Hashem becomes my barometer for my completion so therefore but it's not about me disappointing Hashem it's me disappointing myself but just for whatever reason I've decided that is my barometer of of my expectations of myself um and that's that's not regret you know imagine you you know a husband uh is nasty to his wife and then he comes home the next day and he's like uh I can't believe I did that I'm such a bad husband I can't I can't live with myself I I I I I uh I failed myself and it keeps on going on and on about that like what's the wife gonna think you're a narcissist like this is all did you realize you hurt me it doesn't even bother you that you hurt me you're just thinking about yourself and about uh about you need to be a good husband stop that and the same thing in being a we have to stop being narcissist we're here to serve the we do we have to think the words I said earlier there's an the has the wants a relationship with you the gave you a mission and he and you know why that's amazing because then 10 minutes later after you take some time to marinate this and think about it then you stop and say to yourself but you know what the has forgiven me because then what happens you start dancing because the relationship has been restored if you're busy focusing on yourself that you're a failure then if you spend 10 minutes thinking about you're a failure the next five days you're going to be depressed but what if you're not thinking about yourself you're thinking about Hashem and the relationship that you've damaged the moment that you realize but hasem forgives me and the relationship has been restored then you have a greater than you began with so this is a recipe for feeling guilt but not a guilt that pulls you down into the into the abyss but a guilt that if it's done properly and at the right time and contained it leads you to actually to a tremendous you finish and you're dancing I if you ever been buter after they blow the right before they blow theer they sing what's called Napoleon's March very very I don't know any other that that done that you sing a after yeah yeah yeah what's the point of that so feel like the truth was like like feels being heard go what does that help you if you spend 25 hours thinking about how you know how kind of awful person you are even if you said okay and next year I'll be better so what you to be happy about next year be happy when you're a better person what if you spent 25 hours thinking about that and aish I I I I I disappointed you in this way and aish I didn't I you know I hurt our relationship I know you love and I heard our relationship and I know that you counted on me cuz you need the world made into you know made into whole your place and then at the end of the day you know they for you they says you know what we're all good we're starting the new year again that's so we don't we don't we try not to fall into that abyss of narcissism and that's one of the big Ideas we didn't yet get to talk about Isam means I'm about serving Hashem I'm not about it's I'm not about me I'm about Hashem and therefore when I did the problem isn't me the problem is Hashem it's not even that I'm going to burn in hell that's not that's not what's on my head we want to go further into who did I offend AEM or a person no let's let's more okay very powerful um for the people that are asking for the chart I'm going to email to and we'll email out after to share this this this CH very powerful okay let's go to the next Live question hold on one second hi hi okay um my question is as follows um as I always understood it the how can one know that a is that he's native the way that I understood it is that since is in's infinite therefore by definition he has no no limitations right he's infinite he's outside of space outside of time he has no limitations so by definition he has no needs no deficiencies and no needs and therefore everything that he does cannot be in order to receive because that would imply that he had a need and that would imply that he's in some way therefore everything that he does must be a pure Act of altruism and that is a logical way that helped me in my uh 20s so that's over you know 25 years ago to to understand really to have a very more solid and not just intuitive emotional feeling that Hashem is to but a a also a rational way to know how can we know that it's true my son recently um introduced this notion and asked him where did you get this idea from there's a book that he was reading called attached and the idea that is very uh new to me and a bit shocking is that a kades who needs a relationship with us that he needs you and the way I always understood it is that he doesn't need you he's not huster it's not like now something is going on because maybe his ego you know you disappointed you let him down or he's not huster everything he's is because he wants he has a rone to have a relationship with you you are and a who is so full of givingness right that that he's self to allow us to exist to have so that we can form a relationship with the a so with with the infinite how does this work with this notion that a well really what I'm asking is what does Tanya say about this what does say about this idea what what's true which one is true according to cus I love this one because the answer is they're both true they're both true is absolutely sh he's not anything he doesn't need you and yet Hashem decided that he does need you but because that's his choice that he decided that so it doesn't essentially make him a because that is a result of his choice but once he decided that he needs you he actually he needs you because that was his decision and that's why the when we do a mitvah we say says says I get pleasure so what do you mean is not does what Doan yeah we're giving pleasure there are many other that that we we cause the to be weak sometimes WEA we give strength so this is a little philosophical or a lot philosophical but I want I want to talk a little more about this idea that Hashem ultimately knowing that Hashem needs us is a very big idea in with the Cav that he doesn't essentially need us he chose to need us it's a very important cavat because if you say that essentially needs us that you're limiting hasem which to say that but this a big idea you know one of the the biggest philosophical revolution of is the idea of means that the reason why hasem created us and this goes back to one of the the poll the polling questions that we asked in the beginning that one of the reason the reason created us is not because he wants to give us Ghan and we're not here in this world simply to endure and Outlast and survive the challenging terrain of this physical materialistic World which is full of pitfalls but rather because Hashem wants this world he wants a a home here in this world and he put us over here in this world because he wants us he wants us to uh to make that home for him to put in different words Hashem needs us he put himself in the situation that he needs us again emphasis put himself in that situation where he needs us and he's relyant on us so to say to uh to do that by the way this interesting G that that Hashem DAV hasem DAV to us which is an interesting he says yeah I need you I need you to do the I I need that why is that so important are you still on the I am why is that why is that so important what I'm saying do you have any idea why that's so important um I actually have been waiting for Usher to unmute me again so got distracted I was I wanted to in I wanted to ask a question on what the r was saying and I I I'm sorry I'm in trouble okay so let me just finish my thought and we'll go we'll get back to you okay you know you were talking remember said before Hashem loves me Hashem loves me is a commentary on Hashem which it's amazing and we have to know that we every one of us has to know that hashm loves us more than we could imagine hasm is nuts over every single one of us individually crazy how do you know how do you know how do we know because said that and because says says I love you and when loves Hashem is infinite his love is infinite which we can't even begin says that Hashem loves every one of us more than elderly parents who didn't have children for many years and they gave birth to an only child hasm loves each one of us individually more than tells us says I love you forever and ever I lost my train of thought was itm loves same thing over here Hashem wants to be kind to me he wants to give me G that's nice but you know what that's a commentary on hashm that's not a so he's so great he's amazing who am I I'm nothing and what am I doing nothing because my m nothing they're just hm's excuse to give me G so what if I tell hasm you know what thank you very much I'm so happy that you're this awesome and you want to give me G do you know what I'm not interested and anyways I'm worthless anyways I'm nothing right I want to go to I want to have the cheeseburger instead of your Ganan you're gonna tell me but Ganan is better than cheeseburger true but you know what that's my decision to me but what if you say but what if you understand no no no no I'm not nothing Hashem needs me hasem gave me a job and hasem says you know what I'm in until you finish your jobos until we do our job tell and bring mhia and make the home forem and hasem is begging me and saying please that Mitzvah I need you to do it it's not about me for I'm not doing a mitvah because I need G it's about Hashem that's incredible value I'm valuable my action is valuable you want to know how that you know gon you're still there remember you asked about someone was that you someone who has mental health you know issues if a person to understand that the hasem hasem right is looking at me and saying please I need you to do this Mitzvah like wow that's awesome that gives me such incredible value and the act that I'm doing you so valuable it's not value because it's getting me that sounds like you know I tell my kid I want to give my kid a candy my 2-year-old and but I I want an excuse I say okay put away your toys so I'll I'll give you the candy now I don't I know that when the kid puts away the toys I'm GNA have to go put it away again afterwards because they're going to do it all wrong but are we that kid that hasem is finding us a meaningless excuse so we go we shake a aulive or we you know we whip a chicken over our head we eat matah and say okay now I give you your prize and what if I say you know what keep your prizes not it's it's a whole different way of looking at and ourselves have I misunderstood the nope you've not you've not misunderstood has a very different path understanding this now if I want to get if I want to get more nuanced I can say that the the there are different levels of Truth not he's not wrong in what he's saying but they're different mad and and has a lengthy dissertation on this talking about this topic the different reasons given for creation of the world including and there's a hierarchy of reasons and the most essential reason is that needs us to make for him his home so it's not saying is wrong he's it's a different will take a different and they're true on different levels thank you for explaining you're very welcome okay we're going to go to the closing just before we go to closing somebody wants to tell you something tell you here we go iPhone 32 all yours hey doing Rabbi um I just wanted to say that uh about a year ago I was uh just lurking around YouTube Just trying to find the purpose in life um didn't really have any purpose they didn't understand life as much um and then I came across a rabbi silverberg video I clicked it it was like four minutes and it just all made sense and I was like H I'm starting to like this and I clicked some link on the bottom before I know it I find myself on a WhatsApp group before I Know It uh you know I'm listening a couple months whatever it is and then I private messag you I said I think I need to go buy a safer Tanya ended up buying a five set edition of lessons in Tanya um for me it's been absolutely life-changing um I study it uh pretty much every day five minutes a day I will say that it's pretty deep very intense um it's in English and in Hebrew pretty easy to understand not that complicated um and I love it um there are parts to it that are very deep and sometimes I'll go like mentally crazy because it's so hard to comprehend and a lot to digest that once um but I just wanted to thank you publicly um for that and for creating such a space space and uh especially the social media aspect of it like of course you're on WhatsApp I listen from there as well but I wanted to thank you for the YouTube channel I think that was a big one and uh you know I say the internet was created for many things and uh thank God you know that we have that platform and that space and uh just wanted to thank you really this is actually why I was created that's why YouTube was created um by the way first of all you're welcome and that's I really appreciate you're coming on and saying that that's very sweet I'll just say two things number one there was someone who wrote to the r wrote to the Reb and told him was trying to get people Le told him a certain a certain safer to learn because it's more a little more of a beginner uh level safer the person learned the safer for a little while he writes back to the Reb and he says I learned the safer and I don't understand I don't I don't I don't understand what's going on in there so the de wrote back to him joined the club says we alln none of us understand all of it we all understand a little that's what it's about so you're saying that some of it's very deep yes as I say join the club as someone who teaches Tanya I can tell you there's sometimes that I'm let's talk Tanya and I'm saying and I'm speaking and I'm like I wish I understood what I'm saying okay so that's my personal adition and confession um and as you you know you grow and you understand more and you learn more but never let that get you down that's fine that's number one number two to talk about you know the lessons in Tanya but I don't remember they reached out to me so a lot of people reach out to me but I'm happy that you found my number and that it worked lessons Z is a translation of a book A book which was written in yish called this book is in yish was Tanya lessons that were given under radio every month of shabas rabf Weinberg was a every month of shabas here in New York he would he would give a she my grandfather who was aamar lived in bar Park I I barely remember him I was 11 when he passed away but I I'm told that every M shabas he would sit down he would listen to the radio the lessons ananya in being taught in yish with the radio waves and I'm sure that you this is not a surprise that we know that kabad encounters opposition very often and for different things they do so this was no ex yes by the way any good thing has to has to by definition Inspire sagas if it's not if it didn't Inspire sagus he asked what's wrong like why why didn't why is know sagus yet anything which is has to by definition anyways so people the radio how can you put Tanya on the radio the radio is filth kipa by the way today we're like radio I wish everyone had radios I wish that was what everyone had was radios right but then that was it radios and theb spoke about it by fing and the Reb said there's interesting Med that says that um that that gold is too good for this world really shouldn't have created gold which physically it's a it's beautiful but Also spiritually whatever gold stands for so why was it created was created for the Mish that's says why did create gold so to have it for the Mish asks how old is the world when the mishan was created I'm 2500 years old right for the first 2500 years what was the primary use of gold new iPhone 32 Ben what was your name what was the primary I'm not sure I think they used it for jewelry for for Idols right that was the imagine that they're starting to make the Mish says bring gold and we're making a mish gold that's how how dear we use gold for the mishkan that's that's that's disgusting and the truth is that gold was only created by Hashem for the Mish the fact that it was abused for 2 200 years doesn't change the fact that it was created for the mishkan you was created for let's talk doesn't make a difference what else is on there and for and for let that's so that's why I we created I have other people using other stuff okay as they say you know not going to destroy his world because because the idiots so they can misuse it but this is why it was created for that's what WhatsApp was created for and that's why YouTube was created for and that's why the internet was created for so that we can sit together over here the hundreds of us over here and the thousands and be inspired by we shouldn't be scared of it we have to maybe something to be scared personally we have to put protections I'm not talking against that but understanding that created it is there for a purpose and the purpose ultimately is to spread and bring spread yeah I wanted to end with this quickly but by kiss SL like I never knew what it was I never understood the the holiday but for me it was something so big and spiritual uh I was just on a complete like I never felt something so special such a special connection because for me you know just end with this the and the Tanya specifically really changed my entire life like it's it's like the life I used to be it's the old me and the new me so I want to thank you for that 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different lens a different mindset and hopefully with that who can connect whatever connecting means to feel to feel being part of that Hashem loves me needs me wants me and I'm doing I'm here for him waking up with a different mindset and hopefully with that we'll be able to beia hopefully soon so thank you here for two hours what do you want to leave the closing I don't remember the story exactly but there's once went to Once went to a city and he there's there's a lot of what they call him MN today there are no MN but Back Then There Were MN and he said he gone up to BMA I hope I'm saying over the story correctly and he got up and he said taste and you'll see the is good taste it's amazing stuff as and you know coach what you said was it's a mindset it's not even an idea like you have idea here you when when you learn the whole Tanya and by the way once and twice you you look at everything differently that's really what it's about and Tanya you can say it's a forest and a lot of beautiful trees in it you can get lost in a tree over here a tree over here or you can realize it's a program and ultimately it's about G gaining a certain mindset and with that mindset we can we can handle life we can handle life all of it and we can do it we can serve the do it properly and finally bring this go to end amen amen thank you everybody for joining thank you everybody for coming see next week with nutrition by Tanya please join us and everybody should have a a week full of T and spiritual uplifting have a great week take care good night thank you good night