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The thing that I try to emulate is to
love every Jew to see the good in every
Jew. To really appreciate every Jew even
if we don't agree with their mahalik and
how to come to the raon shalom but see
the good. See the good that I think that
I believe I can safely [music] say that
was a mahalik of mosha also to see the
good. My father really really uh showed
that to to us how he saw the good in
everyone and there is good in everything
and that's a hashkafa that I believe
should [music] be emphasized. Let's see
the good in each other because there's
more that unites us than divides us
obviously. [music]
It is my utmost privilege and pleasure
to welcome to the middle class podcast
Aimari Rabbi Alpbert Schlita [snorts]
and the inspiration for this podcast was
at this point I felt that we're just
talking about money too much and it is
something that is important to plan. No
one's denying that. But I think it's
also very important to take a step back
and to really just focus on what really
is important in life. um what is meaning
and my father Schlita grew up on the
lower east side near great personalities
like Rab Mosa Feinstein Zatar Shinberg
and others who we'll talk about and I
believe there's a tremendous amount of
lesson lessons that we can learn and
glean from that time period and uh my
father will go into in depth about that
type of lifestyle how it really was a
lifestyle that not necessarily were
there people that weren't wealthy, but
it definitely wasn't the main focus um
of living that uh type of lifestyle. So
again, my privilege to have my father,
Rabbi Alpert, who's been a Rebby and
Hank for how many years?
>> So long, I can't remember.
>> 40 something years.
>> Over 30 years.
>> Over 30 years. Hank, Hebrew Academy of
Nassau County. Shout out to all the
Tomidum out there and Tommy Deice. Um,
they could definitely hear this side of
Robbie Albert that they probably didn't
hear yet. No, I I talk a little bit
about my history. [snorts] So, it's not
totally, but uh there's certainly more
that we're going to talk about here.
Okay. So, it's definitely um definitely
I I think a refreshing type of look on
things. So, um let's start all the way
from the beginning. what what comes
>> I just first of all I I just want to
introduce uh my son uh gives us
tremendous nakas him and his family
barashm
and uh the nakas that I have my wife and
I we should live and be well from our
children that's a bra I send out to all
you listeners we should be za uh so I
really really happy to share with you
what we're going to talk about and uh
hopefully it will be inspiring yeah very
good Okay. Um, thank you very much.
Mashem, I may have asked from Sha. Um,
so, okay. So, let's go all the way back
to the beginning. [snorts] Um, where did
you grow up and what was it like from a
very early childhood perspective? As far
back as you can remember, if you can
just give us a description of what it
was like being a child on the Lower East
Side.
Uh, first of all, uh, let me just say
this. um sort of a reminder that uh I'm
getting a little older. Uh recently I
was asked to speak in the Auda of uh
Long Island and uh I was asked to speak
because I would be the link between
generations. So it's uh it's a little
uncanny being put into that position as
a link between generations.
uh not many people uh have seen or you
know have interacted with the great God
Mosha Feinstein and I had his to do
that. So uh yeah so I'd like to uh
hopefully we'll get into that but uh
growing up on the east side I was born
uh in Beth Israel. I don't remember
being born but uh Beth Israel Hospital
was uh was on uh was on the lower east
side. Uh my mother gave birth to all of
us there uh la shalom on in Beth Israel.
Uh we lived in a uh in an apartment in
the co-ops it's called as it's called on
FDR Drive uh corner Grand Street. Uh was
a small apartment and the u I guess the
recollections that I have is just
growing up in that small apartment. I
was the uh uh the fourth of uh six
children. So I was already, you know, I
was on the younger of the children. So I
remember my siblings and sharing things,
uh sleeping quarters, uh closets,
uh phones, bathrooms, so to speak. Uh
that was an issue. I think everyone in
the east sides bathroom door had some
kind of uh crack because
>> Yeah. [laughter]
Uh but uh it was sort of uh we were all
in the same boat so to speak. So uh we
all lived there was there was not
keeping up with the Joneses like if
someone had a circular driveway I didn't
need a circular you know there was no
such thing in in the east side. So in a
certain sense we were very unspoiled.
So it was a very simple lifestyle. It it
was simple but um I look there's
complexities of course that go on uh
always uh people human beings are by you
know by nature complex and uh uh you
know it's it wasn't it wasn't too simple
but yeah it was simple in the sense that
uh we didn't have the uh like if if you
have your own private home and you have
your neighbor doing certain things so
you have to do certain things. we didn't
have to live with that and uh that made
us I yeah I do believe uh uh less
spoiled and uh more content.
>> So I guess in a non-complicated kind of
uh lifestyle make it more
>> less complicated. Definitely
>> less complicated. No, no one had a
house, no one had a driveway, no one had
a car.
>> Yeah. or most people
>> most people didn't have a car but yeah
[snorts] and and um just I wanted to
mention of course I that my grandfather
Albert um was of course one of the
biggest talidim of remainds
and we definitely want to talk about uh
your memories of remnis and Albert
>> so maybe I would just actually segue
into that right away um because you know
back to your childhood So [snorts] let's
talk a little bit about uh Remnis and
Albert who I'm named after. Misha Nissan
Lipa Niss and Lipa Remnissen Albert and
let's just talk a little bit about uh
you know him. What are your earliest
recollections of of Reniss and Albert?
Okay, that's a yeah, that's a question
that could uh a lot to talk about. Um it
goes really back to my father's
childhood.
uh he grew up on the east side after
coming to America from Polanka, Poland
when he was a young teenager
and um his father,
my grandfather. Okay, my that was Zadi
Shopsy Albert. Um, so that's uh my son
Moshinis's great-grandfather.
Um, unfortunately he became ill with
debilitating disease, multiple
sclerosis, MS, and was not really able
to
support the family too well. So my
father's older sisters took some jobs.
Uh, but it wasn't easy. It was very
difficult and my father didn't really
have a father that you know typically uh
and even his mother my grandmother
Zatsala what a sad decad she was maybe
we'll talk about that later too uh
motionism has a a daughter named Tova
because her name was Ga
um so she was taking care of her husband
uh my great my grandfather Moshin's
great-grandfather because he had this MS
Yes. So, he wasn't really uh he didn't
really have my my father too much
parental guidance.
So, who took him under his wing? It was
Ramosa Feinstein. Ramosha took my father
and actually raised him um as as his own
child. My father was actually a member
of the uh of Reformation's family. So,
how how did that happen?
What was the first step that got rid of
Feinstein amazing to
>> amazingly? So there is a story um exact
details uh I'm not sure I'm getting it
you know I have all the details exactly
how it happened but the gist of it is
from what I've heard and read from other
people's sources is one of the sources
is that my father
uh picked up some mail that was on the
table in their tiny apartment also on
the Lower East Side that uh requested
that his his [clears throat] parents
um pay the tuition
and he was very uh he had pride a
certain amount of pride and he didn't
want to go to yeshiva
uh parents not paying tuition he felt
very embarrassed by this
so my grandmother was beside herself he
had locked himself in in the you know
one of the rooms there
and
rebosha and the rebbitson
picked up on it. My you have to
understand my even though my grandfather
was ill but he was a very well-known
rabbi. I mean he was a a brilliant ortor
uh and he was a big kakam and the east
side did know of them. So Raosha picked
up with the rebbitson very hands-on
roshiva of the yeshiva that my father
wasn't coming to yeshiva.
So the story goes the Revitson came
knocked on the door with cookies and so
forth. My father wasn't buying that.
The next uh the next day Ra Mosha came
and my grandmother
said to my through the door he was he
had locked himself in the door again not
refusing to go to yeshiva and my
grandmother you know said through the
door if you I'll translate the Yiddish
remnis
open the door is here my father thought
it was a joke
for every who didn't know Raosha
Feinstein
But sure enough, Reos Mosha knocked on
the door and said, "Remminiscent."
I don't know if he said Reb. Uh he was
he was a young teenager.
Nissent Effent opened the door and my
father opened the door and it was
Remosa. He Mosha took his put his arm
around my father's shoulders and they
walked to yeshiva together. Uh that
started a relationship. Uh every Friday
my father would would help Raosha.
Raosha was a very was on the short side.
He couldn't reach some of the higher
shelves and he was already older. My
father would use a ladder put this
putting this farum away and a
relationship evolved that really is the
reason my father became a uh a
tremendous.
>> Wow. So, so and rema
>> was a hands-on Rashiva like he knew who
who didn't show up.
>> He was very hands-on. He was it was the
rebbitson [clears throat] too. Yeah,
this is MTJ Mifa to ferris yushlay. MTJ
it's an acrostic and yeah the rebbitson
also was a very hands-on I mean I
remember um when I was going to cuz I
also went to Mississippi MTJ and I
remember the uh all the uh the the
community gatherings that were there uh
that the rebbitson took care of from the
niche the women's organization helping
uh the yeshiva helping the yeshiva you
know become uh be financed and so forth
all the programs
So they were very very active. Um
>> Mosha Feinstein himself would um so how
was Reisha very busy ask answering
Shilus at this point in his life? Was he
writing a lot? Like how did he have time
to Okay, so that goes back that's a
great question.
>> Uh and with that I could sort of also
bring in how exactly we lived uh in our
apartment. we could combine the you know
answer two questions at once. So I slept
on a uh we had we called it highrisers
[snorts]
which means you had a bed and underneath
you had another bed. So you pulled it
out. So like this you could pull it
back, you know, push it under the other
bed in the in the morning so you have
space in the bedroom and you had to
sleep that we had to sleep that way. We
had a few highrises. remember we was six
children
um and two parents in two bedrooms. So
we had a uh we called it a uh a love
seat. We had that in in the living room
which also was a pull out. Uh it was a
couch that you pulled the bed a bed out
of the couch. So that's how we managed.
But I was with Masle my uh I slept on
the um I pulled out the bed. I slept in
the, you know, the bottom half of the uh
of the high-risiser. Uh my uh brother uh
that's another story. My younger brother
Oliver Shalom, he passed away young
unfortunately. That's another story. Not
for now. Now, but um he slept next on
the bed on the uh on the other bed. So I
slept directly under the window. So when
I pulled up my bed cuz it pulled up, I
would be able to wake up whenever I wake
awakened it would seem that Raosha was
was up too. And he would be in the
winter time he'd be at his desk with a
fluorescent light. In the summertime he
was in the balcony and he was writing.
He was all I always saw him writing. Uh
so that's when he did his his chuvous I
guess. uh early in the morning before
shakaris uh he would uh he would write
his chuvous the the response to the
questions that were uh were being asked
to him um so I got to uh I got to see
that so that's when he did his chuvos um
he would come to yeshiva not as much
when I was a little older because he
already was elderly so he stayed at home
but um when he came to yeshiva he sat he
sat at his desk uh in the yeshiva Eva
and uh that's where he he would learn
and you know discuss learning with uh
with
>> tamidim
>> uh but he took advantage of that early
morning and one memory if I might share
with you that is still ingrained within
me um about seeing Raosha his and doing
his chouas was Raosha had of course a
tremendous sadic for for a son-in-law
rev one of his sons-in-law that I'm
talking about they were all great people
um was Raf Shiskal
Rafaiskal.
>> Yeah.
>> Um he has children uh you know
grandchildren that live in Farankaway.
So Rafiskal had uh you know was was ill
when he was a a teenager when he was
younger went into remission
and he married at that point he was able
to marry but unfortunately it came back
I'm making a long story short and he was
a nifter at a relatively young age I
think in his early 50s which was a
miraculous at those times to have lived
that long. Mhm.
>> Um, so the Leva was in was in I guess in
Fer Shalai, but I still remember my
parents talking. We again we lived in a
small apartment, so we knew
>> everything was going on. And I I saw my
father crying, my mother was crying, uh,
you know, Rafisco was nif.
>> So I woke when I woke up early that
morning, Raosha was doing his chis. I
remember seeing him writing his chuvous.
And it's not to say their emotion was uh
you know was not emotional. He was very
emotional extremely warm and uh outgoing
with a tremendous personality loving. He
loved Clyra
and he was doing his chis because as was
explained
he understood that people needed
answers.
He was not obligated in aut in in in
mourning. He wasn't an onain lenu.
So um he had the obligation to answer
those response. People needed answers
right away. So he had the he was able to
had the ability to concentrate and then
he went to Levia and you know anyone
would tell you how much he uh he missed
uh he missed the Rhyskal how he mourned
him. But um just a memory I had that I
saw that morning early that morning that
summer morningsh was still riding his
chubis.
>> So the what was the earliest you saw in
the morning? Was there
>> Oh, I must have been uh
you know soon as I could sleep on the
bed like uh you know I I would I guess
I'm going back to when I was uh 3 4
years old.
>> No, like what in the morning? Like when
would he wake up? Like what was the
earliest in the morning? Oh, to me it
seemed like uh [laughter]
to me it must seem like to me it seemed
like yeah if I would use the the the
bathroom, you know, so I I wake up early
and you know if I woke up then and uh he
was writing but from what I heard from
what I understand when I grew up later
it was probably around he he would go to
sleep around uh 10ish and wake up I
guess uh 5:00.
>> Oh wow.
>> Yeah. 4:00. 5:00. Yeah. That story that
everyone quotes about the small child
who um spilled ink on Raisha's new shas
is that was that your father is that a
true story?
>> Yeah, he wasn't that small. I think they
were in Baharim, you know, which means
the older uh
>> so let's let's repeat the story. So
what's
>> Well, this the story goes look as we
mentioned my father was very close. Um
so they were sitting around
him my father and I think some other
bakim was with was was talking I guess
and learning uh with Ramosa [snorts] and
by his desk and uh he had just received
a new shas a brand new shas and you know
that's that's quite expensive
um
and they were uh they were discussing so
then some kind of I think a phone call
Ramosa had zal had some kind of phone
call I guess it was so he left the room
would write
with like a fountain pen I guess.
>> Oh wow. A feather
>> I think it might have been had like a
feather but he would dip it in I guess
and it had an inkwell.
Um my father turned to his and knocked
over the inkwell and it uh you know the
the new garam was was uh was on the
table and pretty much the ink got all
over it. That's pretty much ruined.
So but remos came back and I'm not sure
what he said exactly but he made my
father feel at ease. You [snorts] know,
sometimes you could try to make a person
feel at feel at ease, but you sense that
the person underneath is seething,
[laughter]
you know, is is upset. Um, my father
explained that Mosha really didn't
was not upset. He knew it was a total he
knew it was an accident. He knew how my
father felt. And it reminded me of the
story they say over Raika Ager about the
guest who uh spilled the wine all over
the new tablecloth. So Raik Ager you
know hit the table and
>> I don't know
>> and you never heard that story.
>> Maybe I should know.
>> Rebecc So he had the you know he had
guests by the table Riker's that's all
and uh a guest by accident spilled over
wine. It was a it was a nice new white
tablecloth and ager saw how embarrassed
he was. So he uh underneath I guess he
used his knee or something to kick the
table. And so uh his wine also spilled.
He says, "Oh, I guess there's something
wrong with the table. You know, it's
shaky." Just to make another person feel
at ease when something uh uncomfortable
happened, awkward happened. Uh these
were good, you know.
>> Wow.
>> Yeah. [snorts] So that story, yes, is
true. And my father would talk about it.
Well, he would he would talk,
>> but they but I think I heard from Bubbby
Zat.
>> Yeah.
>> That the story with him leaving his feet
in cold water.
>> My father's feet.
>> Yeah. To keep himself totally not true.
>> That would be uh that would be abnormal.
I think we were raised in a very with
tremendous hmada. my father um uh since
we were in, you know, in close proximity
on the in the in the apartment to to
escape that proximity, so to speak. My
father had a uh a balcony.
So, uh on the east side, you had a
choice. You could either have a
two-bedroom apartment or a three-bedroom
apartment with uh without a balcony. So,
the two-bedroom apartment would have the
balcony. The three-bedroom apartment
wouldn't have the balcony. And there
were times when my parents could have
moved to a three-bedroom.
Uh but um my mother said, "No, for for
Tati, daddy, as I called my father,
we're not we didn't move." Because the
balcony was the escape. He was able to
go out there and it was, you know, this
the walls were soundproof in these
apartments and he was able to just learn
when he came home from his busy day, uh,
prepare his shim, uh, be madrush
and and and and prepare his safer. I
remember for, you know, that's where he
was from. as soon as he ate some supper,
he would go out onto the balcony and and
just learn there. Whether it was very
hot, he didn't mind the heat uh or it
was very very cold. He just put on hats
and scarves and uh Yeah. And and would
just uh we just learned there all the
time.
>> Um so that's why we uh we we we kept the
balcony.
>> Mhm.
>> Yeah. Wow. So, uh, that that was his,
um, [clears throat] that was his escape.
So, the he grew up in this atmosphere of
of learning and but it wasn't it sounds
like it wasn't the type of atmosphere
that was very um, at least from this
standpoint that the learning was um,
>> under direct like he really enjoyed it
like it was part of his living
basically.
>> Yeah. Yeah. My father uh my father just
um yeah learning was uh was like it was
like eating um maybe more so he just
loved to learn and that's uh that's what
I was alluding to his the hassad was was
so tremendous that even after he came in
from the balcony he would still have a
pile of on his uh on the bed you know
next to his bed uh he didn't really um
go to sleep he learned and fell asleep
sleep. That's how much he loved to
learn. But it was all within. I I want
to I want to emphasize this from the
point uh from that that was mentioned
this story that was written up. But uh I
have no recollection. My mother claimed
uh my mother Shalom claimed that it was
it wasn't true. So she knew best. So it
wasn't true that he put his feet in the
water. It was done with with a normaly.
In other words, my father had tremendous
husmada and my mother supported that. So
shout out to my mother that rabbits and
Albert
>> Rabbit and Albert was really very very
extremely supportive and my father could
not have done it without the support of
my mother. So they should have they're
having a gun now.
>> But it was all done with the normaly
which means my father understood there's
a certain time to relax. Um he played he
played handball. He played sports. My
youngest from my younger recollections I
recall my father playing handball with
with Rabbid Zatal Feinste's oldest son.
Uh they would play on you know in the uh
back door backyard of MTJ. Uh my father
loved to swim. Uh he uh he he read the
uh the the forward you know some of the
Yiddish newspapers.
Um, he would go, what's the story? He
would go to the pizza shop every morning
and read the newspaper. Is that true?
>> He would go, it's true. Um, I don't know
if it it wasn't a pizza shop. It was
like dairy restaurants. We had a number
of those on the lower side. We had the
garden cafeteria.
>> Nothing like Doma, right? Nothing. You
didn't have a Doma over there, did you?
>> Oh, what?
>> Doma. [laughter]
Fancy.
>> Oh, that No, no. No. These were classy
restaurants. Uh but they were dairy. You
had the the gun cafeteria was a very big
restaurant. Um and you had uh
Steinberg's I believe you had
Freriedman's. Um my father would
circulate [laughter]
>> diversify
>> and yeah sometimes he was accompanied by
ribbed they ate breakfast they ate they
would to talk together and learning or
current events. Um so my father was a
very uh very uh a tremendous masmid but
well-versed in current events uh and uh
also um
you know normalized kind of learning
right so you could be really shakua and
and sunk into learning but it wasn't
like uh it was wasn't a forced uh
>> it wasn't putting feet in you know to
stay awake it wasn't like that
>> that [snorts] part is I mean, the truth
is they don't say those stories about
me, but that that's that much you could
take out of it.
>> Yeah. Right. Right. Um,
>> okay. So, I want to I want to get back
to we'll shift gears for a little bit
going back to your childhood. So, um, it
seems like, you know, the east side was
not so complicated, but there were very
wealthy people that, um, that you were
neighbors with, right?
>> Yeah. years later we found that so you
know
>> you found out years later
>> people they they were very smart these
people on these side you know the rent
was low and and they bought real estate
>> um which today is worth you know quite a
bit of uh quite a lot of yeah um but
they were still a millionaires you know
quiet ones and uh um very uh
downto-earth people and not uh you know
they didn't have uh uh they and show
themselves show themselves as wealthy
people, you know, uh putting down
others. Very fine people. Very very
fine.
>> But they and they lived in apartments
like everyone else.
>> Yeah, we lived together in apartments
like everybody else. So uh
>> yeah.
>> So that uh and and were they happy? They
were happy people.
>> Uh we were happy people. Look, I uh
[snorts] we my father worked at so many
different jobs. He was uh he was a rebby
in Yeshiva University. Uh he was uh he
was a rub of a shul. He was a chaplain
of the police precinct. Uh he was uh the
chaplain of the education alliance which
was uh a building uh on those.
>> So these things I'm not familiar. What
did he do as the chaplain of the police
department? Did he tell you about that
at all or
>> I guess what a chaplain does. Uh
he didn't really disclose what he what
he did to us, but I imagine, you know,
there were Jewish policemen there. Uh I
still remember once um we were in the
suka. Uh the suka was a community suka,
[snorts] which means that the suka
wasn't privately owned. We shared a
suka. Every family ate in the suka. It
was a huge suka.
Um, and one time the uh the chief of the
precinct
came into the suka
and he was Jewish
and [snorts] he he actually was a Cohen
and he I guess from his youth he
remembered some of the words of the of
the blessings that the you know the
kohan the blessings the kohanim give. So
he said, I still remember him saying it
to my father. My father having him sit
down. And so I saw from this that my
father was uh got along well with the
with the with the police precinct. They
were very helpful with us, the the uh
police precinct. Uh if I may go into
another story. Sure. Yeah. My father's
shul
um started out on the on Third Street
and I believe avenue C. I could be
mistaken. Could be Avenue A or Avenue C.
I I forget at this point.
>> Um and the neighborhood
as as we know the neighborhood there
declined. It used to be packed with with
with Yidden,
but it declined. Yidden. you know, Jews
bought homes in uh in Queens and and and
Burough Park and Williamsburg and they
moved out of the Lower East Side and
therefore the clientele that came in was
not exactly friendly to us and it was
became almost a hazard dangerous to walk
from our apartment under the
Williamsburg Bridge to you know across
the Lansancy into the uh to my father's
shaw.
So eventually my father called the
precinct
and said um is there any could we have a
policeman helping us and they actually
sent a policeman when the you know when
the prayer times came the policeman
would stand and guard
um at one point at some point the
policeman was would come inside the shel
we in you know he he invited himself in
because he was afraid to stand outside.
>> Oh boy.
>> So later on they actually had a police
car which would escort us back and forth
from Shul at the at the times of prayer.
Uh so
thanks you know my father had this
connection with the precinct. So uh
>> Oh wow.
>> Yeah. So they they were very helpful. Uh
sadly
that shul was firebombed with all the uh
police helping us. One Friday night they
just threw the molotov cocktails,
homemade whatever bombs in
>> and the shul burnt.
>> Um [snorts] years years later, I don't
know if um you remember Mosha, but uh I
took you to on the tishabuff. I figured
it's a good trip to go back and see what
ever happened [snorts] because my father
shoe moved. We they had to move but I
never went back to the original site for
years and years for decades. So that
tishab I took you and
>> and you should be well and I think was
born
>> and it was a it was uh it was a church.
So
>> yeah remember
>> but the building was still there the way
I remembered it just [snorts] it wasn't
a sh Yeah.
>> When Msiah comes it'll become a shool
again.
>> So I So anti-semitism doesn't only exist
now. Apparently it existed before.
>> They they did not welcome us into the
neighborhood. Yeah. Well I guess you
could call it anti-semitism. Yeah. Scary
walking there.
>> Um [snorts]
>> so let's move to as so as a child again.
Um, today we have technology and social
media and all different types of
pastimes. What was,
you know, what what kept you busy as a
child in that lifestyle? Um, what did
you do for fun?
>> Okay. Yeah, I like that question. Uh,
for fun, is it possible to have fun
without technology?
>> Yeah. Right. That's why I like the
question. Uh, certainly is. Um we the
focus there there's a pro and con
actually to the answer to this question.
The we played a lot of ball. Um we
played sports that you can play cheaply.
Meaning all you needed was a rubber
ball.
>> Not tennis. You didn't play tennis?
>> No, we didn't play tennis. [snorts]
>> And uh hockey.
>> Um we actually played street hockey.
>> Oh yeah. How?
>> Yeah. We we bought plastic sticks. We
bought sticks. Not hockey sticks though.
>> They were hockey sticks when we were
older. We actually bought hockey sticks.
They were not expensive in those days.
>> Um
>> I didn't know this. Very good.
>> So I actually did play street hockey. We
played in the park. We played street
hockey when I was this was when I was
about 14, 15 years old. [gasps]
Uh but before that the main sport was
basically uh punch ball with a rubber
ball, slap ball, stick ball. All you
needed was a stick and a ball and uh you
could figure out the rest. Uh then
basketball. Um we played some
basketball. Um so that was the fun that
we had. We we would uh sports was a big
thing. The con
about that is that you know boys who
weren't into sports would feel left out.
So today in a way there's a little bit
more of a pro that there's with
technology there's things they can do uh
things that they can do that are fun but
if you're you know that time you could
read you could read books uh you could
watch television [clears throat] this is
what some of my friends did my father
refused to let us have a television I
may add so basically my brothers and I
we played sports that was the and and
you know with with our friends too. We
played a lot of sports. I was a very
good punch ball player. Um again even
punch ball you don't need a large field
because uh it's it's a you're punching a
ball. You're not hitting a baseball.
Right.
>> Yeah.
>> Right.
>> So we had we had fun doing that um
with uh with there were barrels in the
park. You we played off the barrel.
These barrels were cement barrels. Mhm.
>> Uh and you know those days they weren't
as conscious about uh uh safety these
barrels of my oldest brother should live
and be well. Uncle Monty, Uncle Morai
actually once uh got a lot of stitches
because he he banged his head on the
concrete of the barrel.
>> Yeah. So, but we played you you hit the
ball, you you threw the ball off the
barrel and it, you know, it uh it
bounced off the barrel and uh if you
caught it on a fly, it was an out. If it
bounced once, it was a base hit.
>> Uh we had a lot of fun games that way.
And all the uh community boys, you know,
that were in sports, we would get
together in the in the playground and
and play these games. They were really
good games. So, that that was fun.
>> Mhm.
>> Yeah.
So okay so lot of a lot of sports what
would you say so as the theme of links
of generations what was what's the diff
would you say there's a big difference
between the kin you had and yeshiva as
far as like the method and and design of
the compared to how it is today is
different or the same or better
>> um no it's not the same at all and I I
think um with all due respect and from
other generations. I think that the um
the movement towards
um
rewarding positive reinforcement
uh is the way to go. And because when I
was growing up, there was more of a
disciplinary system. Uh a rebby could
throw an eraser at you. uh maybe even uh
sometimes
um give a you know take a ruler and
smack you on the hand something like
that. Um so that that was uh that was
allowed to be done. Uh today we believe
more in I think in like I said positive
reinforcement, reward and for doing
things right and um we [snorts] stare
away very far away from any uh you know
from any uh using anything being any
anything physical.
>> Uh so in that way there's a there's a
certain pro in today's educational
system. uh the fact that we have um more
English books in English that people can
read for example or children could could
read the reading that that's that's
involved stories that we have that kids
can read is uh I think is is a an
element of growth on the other on the
other hand there's a sad con to today's
society uh when I is a when I was
growing up the you know the sounds of
kids talking to each other were
deafening. the rebi would have to make
you the rebi the secular teacher
whatever it is came into a classroom of
kids yapping at each other talking about
whatever it is
>> and today when I come into a classroom
as a rebby myself
the lights are closed very very often
first period the lights are are off and
kids are you know in the school that I
have they're allowed devices before
before the period starts so they're
looking at devices
whether it's a laptop or uh kids can
even have a phone and there's no there's
a lack of camaraderie there's a lack of
conversation
uh of socializing between children and I
think that's a very that's that's a sad
thing
yeah so we could learn from last
generation how you [snorts] know talk to
each other you have you have you're
sitting together you talk you don't you
don't uh look at the device and do
whatever you're doing here.
>> Uh I think that it's a it's even with a
relationship between parents and
children, the technology uh has taken
away some of that life that we had
growing up. I was just sitting in a park
uh uh this summer. Um, I was looking in
a safer, but um, it happened to be there
was a father who was pitching into his
young child, you know, like a baseball.
He was pitching in with a whiffle bat, a
whiffle ball. And but he, on one hand,
he had a cell phone. He had a phone
[clears throat] and at one point the boy
the the his son hit the ball. It rolled
all the way towards the fence [snorts]
and he was on a call and the boy was
just sitting there waiting and the the
[snorts] father was on the phone um just
you know waiting for whatever business
he had there to finish while the son was
waiting for. When I I that I felt that
was very sad. I was even thinking of
saying something but I didn't.
>> But that's that could be some somewhat
typical when you're um those years when
a parent had you know was giving
attention to a child it was it was total
attention so even though it may not have
been for a long time but [snorts] when
you're giving attention to a child it
was a total focus and some you know I
think that um has a little bit uh it's
been diminished that focus that we have
when you're with a child everything else
should be uh you know uh blacked out
this is your this is your time with your
child put your phone way. Mhm. Yeah.
Wow.
Um, so very salient points. Um, moving
more towards as you were growing up. So
what was the yeshiva system like back
then? Because today
you have uh every type and every stripe
of yeshivas. In those times, let's say
you were growing and learning and you
you're moving into bash medish. Where
did people go? What was the general
approach to learning? Was it complicated
or what was the atmosphere as you got
older and we're moving into the base
medish years? Uh, okay. First of all, I
became very close to uh very very close
to Rebosh's
oldest son. Um,
uh, my my father was close to Rotion. In
fact, something that I just want to put
in there, my son Mosha and Lipper is not
just a name for my father. The Moshe was
actually a name for for a Mosha because
the the rabbi talid relationship. So I
chose to not go to Erit Israel. My
father wanted me to go to Erit Israel.
>> To where in Eritra?
>> Uh anywhere.
>> What was there?
>> Uh what was there was my grandfather's
yeshiva zade shinberg shinberg.
>> Yeah. My mother's my mother's father was
ashal
very learned also tremendous
and he had a yeshiva that he opened way
ahead of the times in 1966 I believe
before the sixth day war he he bought a
property that was on the border with uh
with Jordan and the six day war opened
the they heard the bombs they really had
to use that shelter
uh because he invested in that property
way before anything was really
developed. It was no man's land.
So, um yeah, so that's so that's a
little bit about uh my my grandfather uh
Raf Shinberg. Um so he he my father
would have been happy that we that I you
know very happy that I I learned how to
he couldn't understand why I wouldn't
go. Oh, he had such a love fairy tal.
But [clears throat] um I wanted to be I
wanted I saw his hanhaga and uh I had
established a certain relationship with
with his I was very good friends with
David's son uharin Feinstein whose
oldest brother now is the um Russier his
older brother
Feinstein. So uh I wanted to do that. I
remember a quick story. Uh when I was
15, I was went to my parents [snorts]
received free tickets to Israel as a
present from the shul. They received
free tickets, but it was without the
children. My parents said, "Let's
splurge. We're going. Let the kids come
along." So they paid for us and my
father took me to uh I think it's R.
Sternbach
another maybe
>> really.
>> Yeah.
>> What's what's R what's um Sternbach?
>> I think that's the one. Yeah.
>> From already Wow. All these
>> Yeah.
>> So you splurged for one one time.
>> So yeah we [laughter] Yeah. Okay.
>> Yeah. We went to Yeah. We we stayed
there for about 3 4 weeks in the summer
and my father took me to Rav Shbak and
he had like a he has a hajas upon him
>> right
>> and he he asked my father and I I think
they were speaking in Hebrew but I
understood
um and [snorts]
uh he asked so where's he going to go to
yeshiva
and my father looked at me I said I'd
like to stay in
first
sir Sternbach said to My father
ah mim I don't know if he spoke in
Yiddish or Hebrew I'm doing it in
Yiddish mimaishi
>> I understood what he meant
>> that mean he meant that the the the the
law of the Hebrew intentioned servant
who wants to stay longer
>> in in the house of his master gets his
ear pierced so one of the things he says
is you know I like where I am
>> so I don't want to move
>> that's great to Yeah.
>> So I politely said I I I want to learn
with RDavid Feinstein
and he looked he understood a little
bit. He heard of Rabd uh what a sadic
was. So so that's uh so I developed
Reb's style of learning.
Uh I I was by David Feinstein for uh
between six and seven years till I got
married.
>> And I was I started out I was I
graduated high school. I was just
turning 16.
And his style was basically to uh stay
with the Ahmad Gumar.
He would he was even he wasn't even
pro-learning tofus that had to do with
another suga. if it affected the sugi
impacted the sugi itself he he would do
it but in the end he he said no okay
we'll do all the toes but it was
basically a daf shir and in this way we
covered a lot of ground
>> mhm
>> and that's the style that uh that I
developed uh morakio
and today in yeshivas
um you know I don't can't say all can't
speak for all but many yeshivas of
course they have that eon seder where
they don't cover that many blot. Uh they
certainly don't finish the mak and
theanser. Um
so it's a different style of learning.
But my father also was prolearning
the da you know covering more ground.
>> Mhm. uh many times David Shia he would
say things orally and I on my own going
being you know the reviewing the sh I
would uh look in and I would see that
David was he you know he he already
thought out what some of these were
saying
>> so uh I really love those those years of
sharim very much
>> so let's talk about cuz I know you you
also bring this up a lot with your
father and Eritis.
>> Yeah.
>> Um cuz we know a lot of contentious
things happening today. Um
how did did your father have any what
was his experience like with Eritis?
Okay.
Um we're not getting very political or
controversial. We just want to know what
>> Yeah.
>> what uh was like.
>> Yeah. It's not for me to uh you know to
take a stand on on certain issues but
certain things I think are coin and
should be you know therefore could be
said and should be emphasized. Uh first
of all
my father was a uh uh loved eritus. I
just want to say that get that out. I
mentioned it before I know but it's you
know has to be re reiterated. I remember
my father discussing the move to
Farakaway
um as being a move that's closer to
Kennedy airport which means uh a shorter
distance to Erit Israel
>> and so much he loved Erit Israel. He
just loved it. Uh my father went
uh he was sent by Ra Mosha with Rebell
and I forgot there was another RA rabbi
great uh rabbi I don't remember who it
was that they went together uh Terry
Tisel
um to uh see what they can do I think to
as a founding fathers of uh connecting
to to Pelim that that time it was called
>> Mhm. Um that was the organization what's
it called now? Yeah I think is it now?
Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Um he was one of the founding fathers
and
he went it's to work with the medina
to help you know schools uh you know
education young children becoming
educated uh you know in the Jewish way
similar organization. So he loved Arit
Israel and he um
he he just enjoyed
uh being there when we were there. He
was just ecstatic. And uh I remember
once we were uh doing uh we were we were
doing something for Pelim. Uh they were
looking uh at a um uh Rev. Grossman I
think it is.
>> Oh
>> yeah. In a Where is it? uh migdal
>> mdala
>> we actually went there to see what was
going on. Uh pil you know it was he
needed he would would have liked support
from pelim. So pa my father represented
pum went there and it was so impressive
by the way he had these it was just a
summer program and he had these kids
singing basama and benching like they
were pros at it like they were grown up
with it. It's just incredible. I I
actually shook Rub Grossman's hand. Um
well he tremendous person. I didn't
realize it at that time. My father did.
Anyway, on uh to make a long story
short, on the way home
um we saw some soldiers hitchhiking
and uh so the driver was driving was
going to pass them. My father said, "No,
let's stop and see if we can help them."
Those days, you know, it wasn't uh
>> easy to get around. it wasn't easy to
get around and uh and you were able to
you know it wasn't unsafe to do that.
>> Mhm.
>> Um [snorts]
>> Right.
>> So it turns out that there were wasn't
enough room for the uh for the amount of
soldiers that were uh looking for the
ride. But I just remember my father
getting out of the car shaking each
one's hand with a with mamish a hug and
a kiss.
um because he had such a karatov
for the fact that they were uh willing
to be mosa nephesh for uh for Israel and
amrael.
>> Mhm.
>> So that was uh you know that was my my
father's perspective on that. We all
have to be makertove
the the soldiers that are fighting for
us. um they are [snorts] uh being most
nephesh and willing to uh you know to do
things alkish hashem. So my father
really that story just stands in my mind
like you don't know the people you don't
know who they are and you're just and
and and you're acting like you're
>> Wow.
>> Yeah.
>> Wow. Mhm.
>> So when when you were in there, you saw
was he hiking the land like what was the
>> Yeah. Yeah. He he went he he did tours
with PM a lot. Um representing Pelim. Uh
he went around
>> he went around certain places that had
to be seen. Uh
>> yeah, he did.
>> Wow.
>> So um let's talk a little bit about Rev
Shinberg Zatal. And I also wanted to
understand before me before that um I
know that um your father had a kusa
Friday nights with what was it the the
one of the illium that was there. Am I
being accurate? He used to get into big
arguments uh Friday nights.
>> Um that was Yeah. Okay.
>> You know what I'm talking
>> um Yeah. [snorts] So the question is
>> I want to know what it is. What was that
that he had?
>> No, it was just basically risk the uh
risk the Torah, you know, the uh you
know um looking at a piece of Gamarra
and understanding it, I guess, in
different ways.
>> With who? Who was it with?
>> It was with uh a cousin of my uh of my
mother's was a cousin of my mother's. Um
they lived in a different apartment and
they would get together. It wasn't just
Friday night. I think it was like uh
weekday nights also
>> and they would scream at each other
>> and they would yeah they would risk of
learning and uh
>> um
>> yeah when they got together it was uh it
was a lot of it was a little bit noisy
and uh I remember it because uh at that
time you know we were living in that
apartment and uh even though the walls
were soundproof but if you're in the if
you're in the same apartment the colors
of of learning were uh Yeah.
>> Wow.
>> Yeah. [snorts]
>> But my father had a shaft in the summer
with uh
from the you know the rash from the
mirha in Brooklyn. Um uh the summers
were for my father. That was the time
where he could focus totally on his
[snorts] writing of the uh of his safer
the riv on the commentary of the riv on
on ba mitsia. M
>> there was no he was mala the riods and
uh you know the com the mafarim that
asked question on the riven and he wrote
haras on it
>> so that in the summer sometime he would
would work on that uh uh you know
full-time
and um when we when we would go away for
the summer we went when I was a very
young boy we went to a bungalow colony
in white lake
>> and in that bungalow colony was called
curts and lemon It's still there. Uh it
became Bab. But before that uh there
were people from the east side. Ra I
think was there too. And my father had
uh would they would go out into the
forest and uh
>> Well, they would go out there the whole
day.
>> They come out the whole day. Yeah.
>> He ended up burning.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. He was uh Yeah.
>> That's why uh he that's how he knew my
father pretty well. Yeah. my father. I
just just uh something I think that
should be emphasized
um is the thing that I try to emulate
and I try to give it over to my children
is to love every Jew
to see the good in every Jew to really
appreciate every Jew even if we don't
agree with their mahalik and how to come
to the raon shalom but see the good see
the good that I think that I believe I
can safy say that was the mahalik of
mosha also to see the good and um my
father really really uh showed that to
to us how he saw the good in everyone
and I I still remember somebody calling
up cuz I I was in the uh my father we we
had we ended up with two phones which
was a big deal in those days two two
house phones
>> two house phones
>> so one was in my father's bedroom But I
was I went in because uh that was the
room that had the air conditioner.
So I went in there. I was reading a
little bit and somebody was speaking to
my father about a shak
and he was speaking he was asking about
a boy that my father knew from Yeshiva
University and he was questioning if
it's a if it's a good shak because his
you know he's he's not familiar with
yeshiva university circles. It's you you
know I don't want to we're on the air
here so I don't want to get [laughter]
I'm a little bit my father started
laughing says he's a yucker he's a
special young man
you have to go ahead with the and it did
and today is tremendous
>> oh wow
>> yeah so he saw the good in everything
>> and there is good in everything and
that's a hashkafa that I believe should
be emphasized let's see the good in each
other because there's more that unites
us than divides us obviously. Uh we
shouldn't um demarcate ourselves too
much. Uh yeah, it's a it's funny cuz
it's a unfortunately cliche that you
know more than what divides us unites
us. But you're saying that Raisha was
like that. Your father was like that.
Ref. Shinberg also I'm assuming was
>> Yeah. My my R. Shberg was very
unpolitical. Well, he didn't get
involved in political, you know, these
things. He he wouldn't do that.
>> He wouldn't uh
>> So, so what what was what Shinburg like
on the east side? Do you remember how
>> uh it's start with the citizens? When
was that?
>> Uh it's I know that it started before I
was born.
>> Oh wow.
>> Um
>> my he was wearing citus. I remember
asking my mother and
I don't think we really have the real
answer. I think it's uh I don't think
we'll ever find out.
Um but uh yeah he wore all those titus
and um but he was a very uh like I said
before
he was a very normal person meaning it's
not a normal thing right it's not a
usual thing to wear so many tits as we
know uh we don't even know if Moshabenu
did that
but he was a very with it person my
grandfather and I remember as as a
teenager when I was about uh 16 17 and
[snorts] I uh was really getting more
into learning uh and I didn't want to
waste time and I went to my uh I ended
up going to my grandfather my my mother
said speak to Zadei and I said speak to
Zadeie Shinberg he's going to tell me uh
of course you shouldn't you should learn
more says you'd be surprised Zadi
Shinberg is he'll you have to go so sure
enough I went to Zadeie Shyberg
and um and he encouraged me. He says you
can't give up playing ball. Says it's a
it's a good thing when you're in Sedar
you're learning. Don't take off Sedar
for it, but don't go overboard with
that. And he quoted me.
I still remember his words. You should
remove the Satan
from before you and from behind you. And
he explains he says before you means you
have a ty to speak lash and har to maybe
uh uh wait you know miss krisheshma to
sleep later. Okay that's the satin
before you behind you is what you're
experiencing.
He wants you to learn more and in that
way you you u become burdened by it and
then you end up giving up the whole
thing. says that's Maharenu. You have to
be careful with that.
>> And he gave me his advice.
>> Yeah. [clears throat] And he was someone
who didn't stop learning himself from
Sh.
>> He was Yeah. My grandfather
uh he's the he was a very big uh he
promoted the fact that if you have a
minute to spare, you could learn a
halaka. And if you do that in all your
spare moments, you'll finish you'll
finish Mishna Burra. all all all
if you could do that he didn't waste a
second the story goes my uncle Simi uh
Sim Shinberg my grandfather's only son
who now was the Russian Torah in the
yeshiva there so he tells over the story
that my grandfather sent uh a close to
of his he he was going to England and he
said you know in Israel I can't seem to
find it there's a a certain type of of
uh the uh soap that you wash your hands
with.
Um so can you buy it for me? So the tom
thought it was a little strange you know
you have soap in Israel but my
grandfather said this you know like
zeros the rebi said so he went he
couldn't find the brand so he he he
bought a different brand and [snorts] he
says okay rebby I couldn't find the
brand I bought you this he says you
don't understand that brand I like
better because it creates the suds
faster so it's I could wash my hands
[laughter] faster that's the story um so
yes Second, the moment meant a lot. You
could do a lot. But like I mentioned at
the beginning, he was he knew how to
talk to to pe to boys to to young
people. He was a he was the die in a mat
starf. And uh when I was there, I
remember people were constantly coming
for asos for advice.
>> Wow.
>> Yeah. Wow. Um so back then did the
people
recognize who who who they were amongst
like these great people were people just
it was part of life walking down the
street and R shber gear and remnis
Albert was it yeah it was we took a
little bit for granted there um I look I
remember my father
uh Mosha Davins Mosha Davins in a minion
when he was older he couldn't walk to
Ferris Shallay anymore. So there was a
minion in the apartment building and
they offered to make the minion in
Ramosha's house but there was already a
minion in my section there were three
sections in the apartment building. So
in [snorts] my section across the way
there was already a minion byes
and says I'm not going to take away from
the minion [snorts] but
heavu
>> and you you know that's
no says that's what I said before
accepting everyone says
so to this day I have aus with my dear
friend
of his son
um about uh what did he do cuz I d
sometimes at that minion in the
building.
>> Mhm.
>> And I saw Raosha ding ma when it was you
know past this man that we would do and
he claims that Ramosa davined
uh
faking it. Maybe he was saying to hill.
He wasn't really dishing because he
would do before that time
>> in this minion in his
>> in this minion in the democar's house
where the minion for was raenu man.
>> Oh, he wasn't really ding.
>> He wasn't really ding.
>> Oh boy.
>> I I the way I sort of was. But the story
that I'm trying to bring out is my
father would come because they dav so
late. My father would come from his
shore
uh and wait for Emosa
to finish daring and walk him to the
other section where to remot's apartment
and um so when I was very young I would
actually walk on we would take turns my
father would walk on his right and I
would walk with my brothers on the left
take turns holding Ramosha's hand
uh you know like like like a like a
grandfather
um escorting him back to the apartment.
But I we took it for granted because
when I was a little older and I was
hungry,
I would say I I would sort of say to my
father, you know, he would wait for
emotion would be very late.
>> Let's let's let's start the meal.
>> Mhm.
>> So if I if only I could bring that time
back, imagine being able to walk, you
know, but it was like Ramosia is a was a
big tadic and everything but uh
he'll be around forever
part of every day.
>> Yeah, part of every day every
>> Yeah. It's not that it's not that we we
didn't realize how great he was. Um but
we sort of took it for granted. That's
more of a better way to put it.
>> Yeah. You know, I think we're going to
we're going to wind down the podcast,
but focus more on on how we could apply
the past uh to the present. Um so, first
like like this, what what were
considered luxuries back then? So, if
you had a little extra what was a
luxury?
Uh okay, so
>> vacations. What was a
>> Yeah, vacations. Uh people would go on a
vacation. That was a luxury.
>> Yeah. the the luxury those days. Um it
was still you may have heard of the the
borch belt. Uh that was still the uh the
luxury going to hotel in the catsclls. A
nice hotel.
>> That was the luxury.
>> Like the homo act the homo act.
>> Yeah. You remember days of the homo act
in its heyday?
>> Yeah. There were
>> Kutcher. What's it Kutcher? I Yeah. But
u there was a famous one. There was
Zucker's
um [clears throat] there was uh [snorts]
uh what was the there was a f more
famous one that's it eludes me at this
point that was uh uh people went [sighs]
h I don't remember it uh some of the
some of the hotels with the hashkah you
know it depends if you trusted it u but
I think would go to the zukers hotel uh
that was known to you know that was very
reliable
a very reliable heir and a lot of Gdole
went there. Tannersville uh a lot of
Gdole from the Yakasha community they
had up there the other part of the house
but that was like the luxury to go to a
hotel uh enjoy uh you know the meals and
service. Um people went to Bungalow
Colonies
um [snorts] that was a major uh you know
vacation thing. uh and people uh you
know people could afford to win terra
uh Florida was uh was known as the uh on
deck circle in those days meaning uh
people who were older moved to Florida
and that's where they retired. So but no
one [clears throat] was going for
midwinter to Florida. Not really. Yeah.
Not not from my circles.
Yeah. Uh, look, for me personally, it's
like a um it's like a sort of a
different world. Like if you probably
see have seen it in me cuz you're my
son. Uh the other day I was playing
tennis with one of your brothers and
um after these sets uh I went around
collecting some of the balls that were
on the side and he's like uh just leave
it. they're old already. And I I
couldn't I couldn't it was very hard for
me to do because uh as long as you could
use it. Uh
let's let's let's still use it. So it
doesn't bounce as good as another ball.
Uh growing up on the east side, we
[snorts] um we we couldn't afford new
balls so well. So that's I guess
something uh uh that I've haven't
outgrown from the east side that you
know that I still have with me uh to uh
make the best out of something and use
it and not waste it. Let's not waste
things. And that's that maybe could be
cuz I did grow up from you know from
survivors of the of the Holocaust. my
grandmother, my grandparents, my father
was a survivor really also.
>> Uh so that maybe is part of the uh part
of the reason for for treating things uh
till the last till they uh till you
can't lose it till the last drop as the
saying goes.
>> So what would you tell today?
>> I I would tell today's generation
um don't take anything for granted.
uh don't waste things. Um
and uh as far as um amuna and bahon is
concerned, you can't waste
the amuna and that these survivors,
these people had in order to make our
lives better today. Uh we have to live
with the with a picture of them in our
minds. I always emphasize this uh
because it's a you know it's they they
sacrifice so much uh I I still remember
it was difficult for some people to take
off on on shabas. I still remember that
uh before I was born it was you know
those times where people lost jobs you
know immediately if they were found to
uh that they couldn't work on shabas.
So, but I saw the amunauta of my uh
Bobby Alpert, my uh uh my father's
parents. I I still remember asking my
father, my grandmother, we we would eat
there for Yamto. We would go there to
eat on the for Yam meals. And my uh the
the night the night table, the table was
full of candles.
And I would ask my uh my mother, I said,
"Mommy, what why why so many candles?"
when I was old enough to realize what's
all the candles. My mother had a
difficulty, you know, how do you explain
to a child? These are all Bubby Bubby
Alpert's uh siblings that were nifter.
She had she had, you know, almost a
nine. I think I'm named for one and they
were all taken by the Holocaust. But
yet, you'd never notice she had such a
moon and so we can't forget that. We
can't forget that. And uh we have to
live up to it and therefore keep the
maintain the legacy of of Yiddish kite
uh you know from the generations that
are in danger here in America of living
so well of assimilating and sort of
forgetting that uh that that tremendous
sacrifice that they made to uh remain
from.
>> So what would you tell people today?
What what gives you happiness? Cuz we
know a lot of people pursue, you know,
financial monetary success and and they
vacations have gone a little bit um you
know, no no judgment of course, but the
standard of living has definitely
risen uh since uh you know, yester year.
What would you say people should what is
it? What will give people contentment?
>> Contentment. Listen, uh to be content is
you know like say who's a wealthy person
you satisfied with his with his lot. Uh
the problem with today is that a
person's lot could be could be quite
big. So to be satisfied with that lot
means means to be ashikuto.
So [laughter]
we have to realize when you know when a
person has to be smart and realize we
we've come over certain ways with takana
weddings and things like that. That's a
you know I don't want to get into that.
I don't want to uh go into that too much
but that's a but that is an idea of
where to where a person can start
exactly
um where to put your finances in now
that we are hashem doing better than
than the generation that we're building
you know generations ago that we're
building on now uh to think about uh
concerns of people that that there are
plenty on sadly that could use financial
cial support. Um so to weigh the u to
weigh the mitzvah of sodaka how great it
is versus um doing that u you know not
doing a takana wedding you know we
should we should be we should be careful
with that and make wise decisions.
[clears throat]
So let's end off with this because we
spoke about so much. I mean, we spoke
about what life was like in in the
previous generation. We spoke about the
ashkafa of the and how you interacted
with them
and um we gleaned a lot of lessons
really. You spoke about a lot of
different things, but what would you say
is one thing [snorts] if you could bring
from the 60s and the 70s when you were
growing up? What would be one thing you
can you wish you or something you would
apply to today you could bring to today
besides for the hippie movement maybe?
Yeah, that was a tough thing. I remember
I I I was too young. I was a little
young but my older brother's friends I
saw them uh join Yeah, that was that was
a tough thing. But I I would say this uh
I want to bring out this point um that
my father would emphasize also a lot and
I think we need to you know emphasize uh
today too. Um if you go to the lower
east side even today um there's
basically one yeshiva I'm talking about
boys one yeshiva sifted through MTJ
that's struggling to survive
and you take a tour of the east side you
go down the lower east side and you take
a tour so there's the one yeshiva and
you see remnants of shs
there's uh you know these shs that um
existed from the early 1900s.
Many many shs, but how many yeshivos
were there? They didn't really build too
many yeshivos
um in those days. And that was probably
uh the you know, Jews came and they
Yeah. We dive in in the in the h we ding
in the h in the in Europe or wherever
they came from. And so we're going to
dive in here, but we want to become more
uh more more financially independent.
Uh American colleges
and so forth. So uh they built shels but
not so many yeshivas. Education was free
in public schools.
You know, a [snorts] number of reasons.
And um and that my father said was was
was was an issue with that with with the
many of the uh yidden coming in from
immigrating from from across the ocean.
The importance of Torah, connecting to
Torah. That's what my father, my parents
taught us. Of course, my mother also the
importance of staying connected through
the learning of Torah. And that the best
way for that to happen is through making
sure we have yeshivos. So hashem we do
see growth of of yeshivos.
But there is you know there are there is
that problem of still going to the
secular college.
And we need to for some of for some of
our Jewish brethren out there that maybe
they went to yeshiva uh you know in high
schools when they go out to the American
colleges to stay connected to uh to stay
connected to Torah learning
that's the um that's that's something
that we have to take we have to uh
always make sure the the legacy of
Israel is through connection to Torah
learning that has to go on. Um so there
should be continued growth of yeshivos
and that connection to Torah. Um so
wherever someone is they should be uh
they should find the time to uh to learn
Torah.
I grew up with people learning Torah.
And you know just to uh conclude with um
the this what I'm saying now is with on
this week's para the balatur makes a
fascinating observation [snorts] where
it says about a king in this week's para
talks about appointing a king and it
says uh
uh it I I'm losing the quote there
basically The puzz begins and ends with
a lammed
[clears throat] and he makes the
observation that's not a coincidence.
Why does a puzz begin and end with a
lammed? And I in sham what he says but I
could hear my father giving this answer.
Not that he gave it. It's original but
he would he would shake his head and nod
for sure. It begins and ends with
because if you want you want
you want you want length of days
you want the Israel to continue it
begins and ends with lammed lammed
stands for limit to that's how amus
that's there has to be a connection to
Torah so there has to be yeshivas yes
yeshivas yeshivas so people send their
children to yeshivas
and whether it's uh elementary high
school and with a real emphasis on post
high school that the that the uh the
people the the boys the young men the
young women coming out of high school
still stay connected to Torah because
the temptation to go to an I to an Ivy
League college great college it's there
but then there's a certain loss to
connection to Torah And that's uh and
that's not that doesn't uh breed well.
So let's stay connected to Torah.
>> Oh wow. Okay. That was a very very
powerful podcast. I want to thank you
again aba for uh for gracing us with
your presence and reliving your
experiences and and sharing them with
us. And uh hopefully this will make a
positive influence on our listeners and
and uh we should only see brahas from it
and until Msiah comes. Amen. Amen. It
was a
yeah it was a pleasure being here too.
Uh really I hope that uh we we've
succeeded. I think we you know it's
inspiring people and uh I thank him
again for uh giving me the opportunity
to uh share these things and maybe it's
and gold said