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in a person's um mentality
we we create roads many many roads
like a gps there are many roads in our
all our actions that we do in our life
creates a road in our soul actually now
if you have a person who never drank
never never smoked marijuana never did
any of this stuff
so now he's going through life he just
got married he's very happy but a year
down
he just lost his job his wife's
screaming at him
um he didn't he's in the last place in
his league in his ball and is about
everything in his life is going wrong so
we automatically subconsciously
go to what we call our escape road our
road to escape as kids we grow up we
develop
you know places to go in our brain when
people are screaming at us when
we're having a bad day so
let's say you have a guy who never
smoked
never never smoked a joint never did a
drug so in his mentality
there is no such road called drugs so
when he needs to escape from his
depression or whatever the pressure that
he's going through
there's no such word he never did a drug
so he doesn't know that it can make him
escape
he doesn't know what it feels like so
the way he used to escape
whatever that road is that's where he's
gonna go it could be chocolate it could
be
it could be exercising it could be going
to a movie it could be a million
different things
whatever he created as an escape route
that's there
now you have this guy who just smoked a
little bit of marijuana
he was a kid with his friends a little
peer pressure
and now and he hasn't done it for five
years he kicked the habit right
and now life's not so good and he's
under a lot of pressure and he's sitting
in his office and
there's a few for you his friends that
smoke up and he knows that he can get a
joint now what happens is
he has he has what we call the road
closed in other words he stopped
he kicked it he doesn't gamble he
doesn't drink he kicked it so what do
you do he took his
escape role that used to say marijuana
or drugs and he put up
he put up a thing that says do not cross
road block those orange things
have a good day right so we all know
that anytime you come to that roadblock
if you happen to leave on the block
on that block where they closed it up
what do you do you get out of your car
you move them
right you pull in you pull them back and
you go into your driveway
so so when he's under that kind of
pressure he goes to that escape road
there is such a road now the road says
do not enter
because i've been there before and it's
not a good place and it has these things
on it
but it's just one more time it's not
gonna really change my life right now
i remember it's even subconscious my
brain remembers that
when i was under pressure as a youngster
i smoked up
so my brain is looking for that place
so it's much easier to go back to that
road because it exists
if the road doesn't exist you can't go
there so a person who drinks
on chavez definitely will end up
drinking during the week
if he's going through a situation
there's no such thing and a person who
gambles
if he's losing it there and he has a
chance to gamble on something else he'll
gamble on something else
and that is why 90
of drug addicts or any addict
who goes to rehab 90 percent relapse
that's a crazy number we pay people to
pay 26 000
a month 40 000 a month and that's i said
why are we sending them there why are we
sending them the answer is
success is amount of time between
relapses
so they spent 30 thousand dollars and
then he relapsed in 30 days
and then they spent another 30 000 this
time he went for 90 days
and then they they spent another 30 000
this time he went for 180 days and
they're trying to get him to a point
where there's such a long stretch the
problem with it is
is that the road exists and once that
road exists
it's there forever and even if you close
it as much as you close it it's a place
that you will go back to now
you may get back there and say uh right
but if you don't have the road you never
did that's what's called a very
aggressive
mission in the
type of their mission absolutely that's
why where they do
where they stand a regular person kazakh
they never you never tasted a lobster
so this guy but but the rambam says
that a person who does a real chuva and
he goes
and he admits what he did wrong and he
faces what he did wrong and he feels bad
about what he does wrong
and he who does a real chuma according
to the desire he's called the
beryakadasa
means a new creation and according to
rambam you're really supposed to change
your name
we don't pass it like that but that's
how much truva can do we're going into
ella
that's how much chula can do but
psychologically
there's no question and that's why i
tell kids don't even take don't don't
take the first joint
so once you taste that thing it's going
to be in your head
or your life yes you may have big
roadblocks
if you don't have the road that's why
people went through the who went through
the
holocaust like my mother-in-law is
always saying to hillary
why because when they were going through
the holocaust what was their escape
right where did they go what did they do
they weren't smoking off they weren't
drinking
they said to him everybody said to him
so today
when she's worried about her kids and
she's worried about her grandkids and
she worried about this what about that
where does she go to a cigarette no
drinking note to chocolate no
she goes to what her brain as a young
person when she was going through
problems
where it used to go it used to go to the
home so now that's where it's going it's
going to do it
so you create your escape routes and
and the more stuff you do once then you
create this escape route
and the more you do it the bigger the
highway in order to do it once it's a
small little path
to get out you do what you do you do it
also you have a six-lane highway
and it's like very hard to close the
six-lane highway
you
