VLK 15 - Ahavas Yisrael on Fire - Who Cares About Pairs ?

the most well-known gimar and the Very source of the morning we do during is which says had two sets of 12,000 and all died due to lack of proper respect for one another ever wonder why the gamar stresses the fact that they were schneer LF Zim 12,000 pairs why doesn't the just say Rea had 24,000 them that died why does it feel the need to say that they had a set of 12,000 pairs of tum what's it trying to say so I believe the answer may have a real practical halic ramification regarding the hierarchy and the Order of who we love before whom a lot of people's knee-jerk reaction when they hear the term aava is the need for the right to like the left and the left to respect the right and the yeshivish to love the modern and the modern to respect the yeshivish and for ashaz to get along with SP and to andish to Bales and Out of Towners to in Towners and working guys to learning guys and short shes to Long sh and we think to ourselves almost that the further removed another person is from my Camp the more important it is for me to love that person well ironically the exact opposite might be true the lit Miss test in determining how well you are is how do you love and treat the people closest to you your neighbors your friends your fellow Show members your wife gives a very precise order of who we give to the first person to receive is you like says that there is no Mitzvah of Saka when you yourself need Saka and then comes your parents and then comes children and then comes your relatives then comes Y and alos then comes your neighbors then comes those people in your city and even within those people in the city first comes the an that are following the Tyra and then comes the an that are not following the Tyra then comes the an and and so on and so forth so say rut like silver in his safer page that the same way in there is an order and a hierarchy as to who gets before whom so too in regards to aavas Isel there's an order and a hierarchy as to who we need to love before whom and the people that are closest to you are the people that should be the focus of your love as the Aral rights that the ultimate fulfillment of is found in how you treat your wife or how you treat your husband and then comes the love of your children then comes the love of G which explicitly in says you need to have extra love for G and silver ads based on the that a g includes any Foreigner or any person that is in a place alone or far away from their parents or far away from a lifestyle that they're used to which includes new or a new family on the Block there is a special additional Mitzvah of to them to care for them then comes your neighbors then comes the people in your town then the people in your city and Etc and sadly it's sometimes psychologically far easier to help other people far away and Pat ourselves on the back telling ourselves how much we love clol and we look at our chair gah and our napkin holder gah and our used baby bottle gah and we look at how we sent money to yiden and Ukraine and how we are out fundraising and advocating and doing and we tell ourselves that we are absolutely checking all the boxes of and yet sometimes our own for others comes at the expense of our own children and our own spouses and sometimes even at the expense of our self and our own spiritual growth as rabut Sila writes that if one's house is a wreck or if one has to hire someone else to take over the duties of child raising or if one's children don't get the attention they need because either parent is too busy with even good causes the parents have a distorted and Hally wrong outlook on and the real litmus test of aavas Isel is how you love the yiden around you when no one is looking when you don't get honored at a dinner for it when no one is congratulating you for it when you don't get a plaque on the wall for it is just Raw aava for the people that need your love the most for your wife when she had a bad day or for your husband when he needs phic for your kids who desperately need their parents undivided unwavering unadulterated love and attention for that guy in SCH that no one ever stops to talk to to that woman who always shows up and yet never seems to fit in to the socially off neighbors to the cousins who feel like outcasts in your family every single person listening to this right now has at least 10 contacts in their phone who need right now who could use a phone call right now who could use someone asking about them and calling about them and caring for them right now we can call them in our car we can call them on our walks or at the gym we can literally save lives by calling them and yet sometimes we are too busy raising money for yiden we don't know somewhere far away when a sitter falls on the floor notice how there will be six people who jump out of their seats to run and pick up the sitter off the floor and kiss it why because how could hashem's name lay in disgrace on the floor well did you know that inside of every yid is at Salim an actual breathing living peace of Hashem shouldn't it pain us that so many yid we know are on the floor where is our zealousness to pick them up and kiss them they're a lot holier than that sitter a sitter has hashem's name in it a person's soul has Hashem in it we need to pick them up and dust them off and call them and talk to them and love them that is the ultimate aav and that's why says the Ben the gar stresses that the T of Vera were pairs it wasn't that these tum tued away in their Yeshiva weren't caring enough about the yiden in Yemen or the yiden in Baghdad or the yiden in Alexandria these talim didn't have k for their own kusas for their own friends they were Zug they were a unit they were supposed to be KS that's why the punishment was so severe because the love of fellow yiden doesn't begin with yiden in far-flung places who you don't know who will never meet it begins with the yiden you know most