V'ahavta L'reiacha Kamocha in Halacha - Rabbi Yakov Zev Smith

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It's a different type of it's in perhaps more specifically I'll tell you some that we began with someone who was attempting for many years and he felt that he could do better learning on his own but if he stops going to the will feel very bad does he have to continue going or of course in a yeshiva there's a visceras I'm talking about that has the ability to make his own decision and the question if you have a he's not good and he's you think he could do better can you quote drop him like you don't drop a human being but can you uh ex you know changees wants to get up early in the morning in the the dorm room and he you know likes to learn but he wakes up all his roommates is that so that it's mut he's sharing someone else but of Of course the shila of all shilas said you know during the winter or summer some are always some are always hot they open the window and someone else closes it and it goes back and forth and these are just a few of the many shus that really I think the the issu we find the similian That's but then again we do know that there's a concept of when does that apply and how do you decide which has priority? So the is that this is like all of the you have to learn it properly and slowly tells but there's something that seems to be very unattainable in those words that's because a person cannot be expected to love another as much as he loves himself number one it doesn't seem to be possible it can't be literal But there's a much stronger. Let's say someone only has one pair of shoes and his friend has no shoes. Does he have to give his shoes to his friend? Because we'll soon see that's a talking about a much more serious question where two people are going by and only one has a jug of water and it seems that it's either he drinks the water and he survives and his friend dies or says You have to is such a compelling you can't favor yourself over your friend. So that means you have to give up the water. You don't have to give up the shoes [Music] also. Wait a second. If you learn is literally the same that says so and it's also a question what does it mean so so it's noteworthy that you see this from a different angle you know it's talking about and I'm mentioning this it would I would be remiss whenever I learn a I like to go to from the beginning certainly from all the did you ever wonder what is the I'm not giving what's the in other words if you want to talk about you want to talk about all these different what are the in regarding so I made a collection and it's volumes. There are six kimaras in shas actually eight. We'll get to the last two soon but six kimaras in shas that is all how to give misas bezden to a Russian. Now let me remind you what the Mishna says in Marcus. someone to get misdi was once in seven years or 70 years or is impossible because for someone to get misders a little extra here you have a person that literally know we have this is the real thing how to give don't give extra forget about giving him torture don't more than he deserves doesn't mean burning him literally The how to give an unbelievable insight means three out of the four is the the spouse your neighbor. So that's a that's part of a different on this. What's going on here? The whole is so in a few words and you almost you can miss it if you learn too quickly. So has already asked it can't be it can't be is literal because so therefore the has to go to six places in regarding giving a rush. So here we have you know writes in that before you start dabbing you should say I'm a lie after now if you did say it this morning or not let me ask a question what does it mean you want to do a what does it mean is it is so the is the most and I found this this he learns the Very simple is not an amount. It's not in in the in the is in the attitude. Just like you like when people do things nice to you, you should live the same with means an attitude. You understand that you appreciate when people are nice to you. Means try to please very simple. Then I found I guess more of a I found this person in the really and he says it's it's really let's say comes and he says I need a faith I need some time I'm a little behind and maybe you can help me with a certain thing. So you say you know for you and for me also I also have a family that's a good excuse busy you want to know the to help you what would you want if you need a favor you need help for you and you go to your neighbor and he says I'm sorry would you be disappointed because you say listen What's what's a friend for? Oh, now do the same to and he says right v do what you would what you would expect to do to someone else that you would you you expect he should do to you or vice versa. Someone asked you for a favor. How would you respond? How would you understand when you need a favor? And he says that's why he's very it's a sh in the of the you have to be reasonable but he hasn't to himself there's always going to be a challenge but but some reason when but we need the the we don't understand why can aid go the extra mile okay that's your attitude no but when I ask my friend my neighbor to do me a is because I'm thinking about me right so guess what that's what don't think about me no no that's what I'm saying don't think about me. Put yourself in the equation. You know what I'll tell you what it is. I'll put it very bluntly. If you have one pair of shoes, keep things under hate. The tyrants is put yourself in his shoes. Right. But don't give your shoes. He said he has his own family. So is should I give up time away from my family. Whatever whatever you would expect him to do to you, you have to do to him. I think it's very fair. All of a sudden things seem to be more understandable. it doesn't fail. It's really what we know really means. That's what he wants to say. Now, but I want to just add to that that the don't forget it's a she in the or the of the mitzvah now this makes it very workable and very do and the emp is that I think this is more than just a practical you see the problem is a person by nature that's created human beings we are we are you know a person living himself the beautiful says that when a person's living just me what kind of pitiful existence is that that's your whole extent of your life the is break the I guess we could say break the It's a two different sides of the spectrum. Don't live once a person is thinking of once other person's on the map already comes. The problem is he's so consumed with the you know that's the problem. You know they live in the world. This is the MI generation. I once saw someone wearing a t-shirt. I love me. I don't know if they think like that but they're not embarrassed. But you have to break to me. You know the bring the t and every time you do think of that breaks away a little bit of the he told you it's basically once you put yourself in his shoes then the mitzvah flows much better but ra there's probably much more to this question and that is the famous that we all know to go came to teach me. So told him now says what did that it's a fancy term but that's the so that you know talk straight if you want to tell the guy writing What? Go ahead. So what hill was he making? He just flipped over the words and made it the terrorist that even can't understand people crazy. How how's it if struggles with it? How's it going to understand it? So hill made it much more practical. and Hill said it's the attitude. Put yourself in his shoes. You know good well that when someone makes a joke quote unquote it hurts you. So why do you make a joke about because what I I made people laugh. I got a mitzvah. You know it comes to you think the mitzvah is there differently. So I found this not only in the back of the learns this doesn't that it's all in the So what's beautiful is the real is like the like told that's not enough that you got to be careful. You know good and well that you're very sensitive. So why don't you think when you talk about and it's not just the you're going back to and [Music] test that is the also I found more recently was asked how does a person really properly fulfill so said the real cl is. So that gives a whole new shot. So put the words but the minimum is now I just want to add a point which is but it has to be mentioned as many that people misunderstand the point. There's a mitzvah of there's a is a but that does not mean you have to think of yourself at the expense of there's a one has a water and shim has no water can shim say I I'm hate to do this but I I have to live and he snatches this to keep the from moving is that that's insanity It's a it's a means when two people are equal in a and is who goes first or you have the but to do that's but we could do much better another that if they come over to a and says, "Listen, you better shoot someone or we're going to shoot you what's so Rashi says explains that you have to know with your own you you can't kill someone else even to save your own life." And that's the big of my how did that hurt in the first place? Because to go do an ava to shoot someone else that's not justifiable. You want to save your own life. Okay. So go look for water but to do it at someone else's expense. That's not that's a a suffic obviously but this what I heard I saw if you look in Rashi makes a point to say that there's no of but there's no of said wanted it should be avar with Alex it's so much Pit you have to person has to take a bullet to his head and give up his life not to shoot and is dominant but when it comes to doing something it's so positive and officially said if they go and they say go over to the biggest and they put a gun he said shoot the biggest am brisk they say he had a brisk amaratis Okay. So the GLA door has a question and we would say you know my is pretty obvious. I know the door is bigger than Brisb wanted to be no matter who the big door is. No one knows who's more in that respect which speaks volumes of how you look at other you know we said this twice in no one knows what is but my point is from this we see that could very easily misunderstood means you could be be competitive and get what you need. But not at that overrides. So we have another in that's basically the then there's one more and that is and it's also the says, "But he says it in that's more when it comes to then and You go first. You don't go first. It's equal. Now that's in the now this is in the like I mentioned he was asked beautiful rather the responsibility of the so he says that basically you have to be there at all times willing to teach because remember does not apply in. And even though you lose your learning, you have to be there for your and he says, "But when it comes to now this is and again he said it not just but as we understand because we would say we would say Okay, you live without it. This is my you know that's battle cry I have [Music] to he says we'll soon see as a big which can't be didn't understand it. But if you look at and I found that four different times he speaks about his and he never says and he can repeatedly says does not apply to and that's because there's a special thing by that since the whole of is based on a medish but to as we know is a mat matter how big about you are and there's a when a person it has to be. So that's why is not such a if you understand the terror to those that are faithful to the to help others it's not so sure but in mitzvah is but we can also understand where is coming from ifra is then but be that as it Hey, this is where understood it and that's where you f the steer. So it's not such a picasha to steal it. Now the miser maybe could understand a little more. Now they say the famous ma the rebisha they said if you would be if we you to come would you want that? He said no the br will have oneish and one so what do I gain? See if someone's listen to the so what's the difference? I mean we want to I want to be you know okay but if someone is really and there's x amount of to have so what's wrong with you so he'll be the so that's probably with also understanding was that if you're thinking so who cares which does this service but this is the now the as I told you was talking and they told you one more I want to mention I think it's it's anhat which is someone came to he was married a few weeks he said you know I think I noticed that because I think women spend more than men on clothing said oh I see you got married so I said but you should know it's it's a fair maybe it's a ferris says which is already a tall order because it can be. There are two. First of all, we not you have to be willing to spend for your wife more than for yourself, more than than necessary. And that's the in we find the concept regarding the wife in we find there's no it comes to says it and all the say it the is not just with she's the she's the husband the and vice versa. So there is a by but what's so here again it I think it it lends itself to the you know the the word rayosi we find used today certainly invitation what did I So in in in probably the best 200 years ago the wordi is a wife. Now the emmes if you really go to the beginning from the from the wordi is not a wife is a friend. You find in in the orilla but it's it's used very much as a wife. It's thating a wife is more because that's that we see but more than that I told you six regarding the two other garb is talking about and he wants to not even go Go out. Go in. None of the above. Not even not even going in. He's going to marry a blind date. He'll make a leap of faith. You can't do it. He can't do it. What's the next word? About relationship by day. It's still a plain where did the give six places in how to give a rush and of in your own house because you know at home you're not getting honored by your wife you're not giving no writing a book about you at home people are very nice outside but at home you know whatever it is you know tando whatever I am I'm good to show It starts with a wife. But if you learn that then maybe we could say but there now you think who gives me the right to say that means a friend not so not so you ever wonder sixth place in is going on a that's getting he's not right. What does it mean? How could he be going on a of the worst of you have the I'm not comparing the worst of Israel to one's wife but once he's saying after that the word means a wife it's like said when a person comes to be on a belt and they're going to you know And you see they're not giving too much for but what happened to all my novelt starts at home. If you were good at home you get credit full credit for if something's lacking at home. If there's no then there's something wrong with it definitely has a little of a of a truth to it. But you should know this that the is going on a wife more than anybody else. And I would add the seventh place the ninth place I see in is Ben could very common make a give an injection take blood do surgery says we have and the father wants that you allow to do it that's a also a place because a person is a big but at home you know he's too busy for his parents so the chose very well where Israel is all about with the with the wife with with with children with with parents. So we have that is one of the what does it mean? So I think the most is an attitude. You like what people are nice to you do it to them. Maybe what to do. We did see the of the going on on the we also saw it going on in there's no now let's apply the so let's talk about a simple so two people are alone on a desert island and they have and ruin has a gaz of matzah and shim had nothing can ruin be a nice guy and give up half to his friend or give up the whole thing to his friend. So half doesn't make sense. Can he give the eyes to his friend and he wants to tap into that same if he does that of because if it's your matzah there's no bin of because that's poss I found a much earlier source that Pharisees and brought his talking about he says when it comes to I think when it comes to we once had the interest of can't believe but it happened someone was walking our neighborhood and it was right before and there was a paparus and they're making and he said oh never look they're So he grabs a handful of dirt, whatever he did. And as soon as the did it, he threw it on the on the blood and in the mitzvah and the started yelling and the the owner of the chicken started yelling, "What are you doing? I brought this chicken. I won't make that. You stole my mitzvah." Says, "If someone steals someone else's mitzvah, you have to pay money. If someone steals someone's, you have to pay money. So that's wrongly applying means when you have something or it's a free-for-all then you could get it but to take now but I said this for a reason there's an which has to be mentioned someone asked him a very I guess he lives in the world that we live in and everything is the the main word today is not what you know who you know. So he says what is this the about protect you? He writes it out. I don't know where the word came from. In English, it's called pull. But when you use pexi to get what you want, what's the so writes him back what you said is not right because not to he said if someone has the rights to adopt them and you take away that's that right that's an that's not the fellow thought he was m that if if I need a doctor to see a doctor and but I can't I'm going to get the next appointment in six months from now but I get my pepia and I'll get the appointment tomorrow. What happened? The doctor's not going on vacation. No, no, no. They push someone off. You know, cancellation. That's not a nephesh. If you're pushing off, so maybe he needs a doctor and that's and even if not, if that's his right, you can't take his right. And he says protects you when it's someone else. He's not you have to know for sure. whatever it is he says he says if you go to him it's not I saw this you know very one of the the the brother of husband's husband he learned by he said when he was much younger was was in hospital and he wasn't well known then but knew he was gador so he went to the doctor and they whispered at that time that you know he had a VIP patient comes what you tell the doctor said we want to tell me the goes a couple of care that you taken from I'm being on the go right back and tell doctor nothing more on the expense of someone else that's my causes there's a cha the vit in Chicago he was the unofficial r in in the concentration So if you want to be proud to be a ye learn that they were asking gay people were staring in the face one after the other it brings out the of but in the he writes he writes with the name who it was there was a fellow who smuggled money into the camps and he asked there's going to be a a seleia they called it and they had to chase out a few hundred children chase out me and kill them on the spot because a new transport's coming. He says, "My child is emaciated. He's weak. He's sickly. He's not going to make it. He's going to be on that transport out. But if I bribe the guard, right, price, he'll do it. He'll save my child. But there's a there's a m there's a minimum amount of children have to be and if my child is taken out, someone else will go. Could I do it at the expense of another child?" This is this is this I can't pass it. Goes if you don't tell me it's right I'm not going to do it. He goes I can't I I can't do it. I can't tell you I can't I need if you don't tell me it's I'm not doing it. The next day he said I made my own. He said, "I could have saved my son and now my son is because it wasn't 100% glat that's my even though the you might say it's someone else all the you want to say but pi is not as partial as it is. If it's at the expense of someone else, that means you've been going to someone else. A more practical, someone's waiting online and someone else comes and cuts the line. What about another I'll give you is the same thing that the is of mazik besides the of course the is the alash or but they all say the is of mazik is the ris of the loan That's the no one wants to be paid for damage. They don't want damage. So they're learning is because of the which is a a question in the camp and yeshiva. There's always a that wakes up early and alarm goes off and wakes up all the room all the roommates. I've seen this. I've experienced usually get these supersonic boom you know alarm clocks wakes up the whole yeshiva except for the go to get it broken that's the works so you know they're saying whether it's or or whatever it is but it's not pleasant he says it's totally in the if wakes up early in the morning it's not the to wake up in the yeshiva then it's he can't do it. So I used to think we should get a room of the early birds but the problem with the sheep there's not too many early birds. So it' be a very unpopular, you know, unpopulated room. But if that can work that out, that's good. Otherwise, you can't wake the room. Now, if the BA wakes up the chakras, but most people think that's too early. So then you have to they got to wake up. But it's not just, you know, at the expense of that's wrong. Another winter and some. There's always someone that's avitzer. You open the windows winter and summer of course you want to put the extra on it's not so hot. Is there any cl for this? So this there's a [Music] famous officially said that based on that it's not totally in it's totally in the season. During the winter people are cold, you can't open the window until everybody's masked. Even during the s the windows are open and again you disregard the it's totally in his mind disagrees and brings a heimlim that is totally in all these cases. has two rather interesting everything very methodically and he says this is the he discusses first a fan you have to be a fan was before air conditioning but a fan has a that it keeps cool but it's thear is it's annoying if you sit under the fan and it's you know feel like you're in an airport it's blowing and blowing so other people are happy and you're not So he he takes the same approach to fan and the later two about air conditioning. He says if it's an let's say the first rule that has air conditioning and most and some people don't want. So to change the norm you're not allowed to you follow the norm. It's not totally in winter or summer. It's totally what's normal. So in the with the fan he said the fan became normal. air conditioning he says it used to be you have to make sure all but today an air conditioning is part of the so again I also saw a very nice Jew in the day of pay test he wrote before everybody else but he also took this approach it's not totally in season it's totally in what's what's expected you know you come to shul you have to understand that during the submuls we have egg now some people are sensitive to eggsh okay so find a potential let's sit in the back says if you could sit not under the fan and not everybody but the point is it seems to be something that you have to understand is basically an opportunity the famous Ramb I should say so Raman is bothered the says right before that you have to do all the and after all This you told me to all the mitzvah. What is this? And why there special is this is going on the Turk can't tell you how to how to live with your neighbors. T can tell you how to live with air conditioning or fans, but you should do the why because loves when a person goes to And therefore there's a special for for more than all the mites. So I would say if someone is a little uncomfortable but wants the air conditioning and he his will definitely no doubt about it because the loves such a such it's always hard to give a concrete rule because the weather like is changing and say always hot and cold but it's not it's not a free-for-all. There's a there's a and then was asked a very challenging question which is there was a girl waiting for then a boy but typically it's usually girls and nothing's doing the younger girl wants to go first does she have to wait for the sister so Mosha says it in no uncertain terms we do not like love on that you're allowed to have young girl getting married for an older girl and then he adds a little I guess a little of a mus but he says that sometimes it's the older girl that you know they want the best so but that he adds and he says he says let's say I'm and someone else who's my age and my uh whatever my my capacities and he's not and I'm giving him because I'm a and he's not. Should I withdraw my job and and not do my best because I'm hurting him? We're parallels. We're friends or whatever it may be. So makes a without bringing. You can't tell someone not to do what he's allowed to do because he's hurting someone else. And therefore even if the older girl is trying as hard it's not her ga but she should give up her future the younger girl because of the older one we don't find such a thing now we know stories that he didn't take a because his old didn't have a stellar and and will feel bad that's the story told came to a city once said and he heard that the the ro wasn't happy with the new yeshiva so right away he moved out this is a very very sticky issue because it's it's involving people and involves feelings. That's the address for this. If you're doing what you're not encroaching on his job, I'm just doing my best. That shouldn't be a problem. has a sh where someone needs money desperately for let's say for surgery and he knows that if another god will collect for him he can get a lot of money quickly and he can make the surgery says I'm embarrassed and I don't want to do it so this come out the same he says just like there's a the a person that needs money for for his own because in a certain sense this This is wrong. There is no there's no of you go first and everything stops. Someone asked me a sh they giving around the papers to learn it wasn't have to do it because I told him I don't know what's doing you lose when someone else you learn from someone else they say is like an you take a candle from a candle you just increase it but I said your attitude is a little because if if there's a mason That's to do it also cost time and effort not a question of me my learning or that person learning it's so again probably you know if a person does he doesn't lose the famous we always quote you never lose probably or almost certainly you don't lose But the attitude that you know a person you know is only me these is not a right attitude. Let me tell you an interesting sh or let's say there's a mitzvah. Let's say two know of a father had a baby and he needs a mo and the father's not decided which mo to take. Can one mo do some extra visiting and check the baby? I don't I don't take I'm just I want to help you just in case you need me. Can a person be overly aggressive to get something that someone else is competing for? Again, as we always say, we have a everything is there. There are at least two in about this not being for someone else because that already is my but to be a little aggressive when something is can I be to it. of tough paid tough paid bot he starts with the following sha two people are in a jail or in a midb and there's only one kaz available let me be very clear he's not talking about that rubin has a kazay has nothing there's one kaz in he on the ground or in the m jail it's in the the prisoners visiting room and the god says whoever gets it first gets Can someone be very aggressive to get that matzah? Is that is that my how do you look at this? So he quotes one of the earlier he says now that's not a stereot words because when someone else has some you can't steal from him but this is so you want to do you want to work hard to make money you're allowed to do it so you want to work hard to get a mitzvah and then he says it's a mitsia And then he adds, he quotes from an earlier. If you notice when voyers approached the and told them about the mitzvah the perspective of being r he stress a lot about my why so he calls from an earlier source that beis boy goes wanted the graces but he wasn't first but he's allowed to do things to bring it to himself Now he didn't lie. He didn't say she's mad when she wasn't. She was may have you accentuate a fact or two to discourage the other person and but the other person decision called Kool. So here we have a that to be aggressive. Now he didn't it wasn't he says it's worse than it was. He did perfectly honest but he stressed the point of two to be able to corner it into himself. And then he brings a second from and with the and fits some humbling from. So again, you have to be careful. You have to know how to draw the line. But no doubt about it when it's up for grabs, so to speak. In the case of that mat, you do what you can. Now, of course, it should not be taken literally. Stop beating up one another. That's not but when a person aggressive to get a mitzvah we have two in that a person could go that extra mile to get the mitzvah found in the call say I don't have it that says a allowed to go to the house where a baby is born and volunteer his services not that you're taking me you're allowed to be aggressive to get a mitzvah because no one else has it yet even though maybe the father's more night to someone else that's within the confines of now of course the there are in this three but one thing we would say you have to know how to how to make a between aggressive or again protectia could be that abla that people don't realize. I I had the shila recently. Someone told me I think of an album because it's a it's a it's sticky sha but there was a social club quote unquote used to be a sh I think it's more of a it's a sh social club that's more social club than they have a they play bingo they have so this I found an earlier what I mentioned but it's really why was allowed to get from Asa because and when took the it was of it was being held captive by so it was a and to do it I found as well that have this type of sh that never got went from bad to worse so now the whole sh is one one conservative uh muck tiff less and safe. So you know the price they want is unreasonable. Whatever you could do to make that pig would be m based on this. Someone told me the sh he wanted a top quality but you know he's only a young man. So he went to the says I'm buying an estric for one of my very oh let me show you the good stuff. And he showed him the good stuff and he bought a nice one. You paid the right price. That already I'm not so sure is right because that's checking. You say I'm I'm a big person myself. You can say it. But to go say he's lying if he has exclusive. So you can't lie for a m that's blankets. They had a problem with his his work doesn't give him off. So he says I'm going to call in sick and I'll stay home and I won't have to go to work. Right? is what calling inher but to make the sometimes says that you say the godle so people will will listen to it you're not taking something away from someone else no taking away oh so that that's could be okay that's that's you want that but next time it's fine but not now this we're talking about someone that was going to and took something that's not that's not right. He wouldn't sell it to this young man. But that's your idea to do a lot of things. You got to say it's it's late. You'll change the clock in your house. I'm not giving you a good idea to he thinks the man is a nobody. But maybe the Yaman is not a nobody. Maybe a wood. Okay. I think the Yaman if he thinks he's a somebody, he needs No, no, but maybe the nobody. Okay. No, no. Now he thinks he's Yeah. Let me help. Let me let me finish. Okay. Now and let me start showing you you know let's say someone has enough oil for eight days of Hanukkah and rash and call his friend has nothing. So what would you say? Should he give his friend and he won't have mahajin myster? So you'll say I want to do but if he has and has nothing to give and not have if it comes to it not have you'll learn if you want to be alarmed it's not a because the isum is if I make my my with the that's one puma if It's another world there's more [Music] and says but that's not because another says in if someone has an a gorgeous but there's another city that has nothing but his city where he live there is an es so theoretically he could bench on the give to the other city. They'll have and he'll have the to give it to the other city. is part of if you can enable a city to have an that goes before you inside. He says if you have two on the first night and someone has nothing and you want one for tonight and one for tomorrow night and he has nothing give him the second right now there's a bit of and this you can go back and forth a little bit is a early a beautiful this very sh but what's yours rightfully yours you have to give up if someone has nothing. That's part of this is a gift for itself. But when someone has a yardite and someone else has a yardite it's a very challenging question because on the side of a parent is it presumably of but as the say the biggest is not to make sometimes giving up the or giving up the alo or giving up the the school for someone else is the biggest cost of But the caus is note that's he says was given. So I'm going to leave with one more and that is could I quote change when it's not going well? Can I stop going to the rere because I can do better on my own these type of how do we look at it? So it's simple. But you would think according to it's me me in that same chaos writes [Music] that writes it as clear as can be. He thinks that's in that learn 400 times. They they couldn't afford a ta I believe is to give of your time writes this in the and we'll soon see in the as well to give of your time and's idea is a novel idea and the exact same I remember when was printed I thought of he says he very much agreed to it but in the in caught in again. He says the the concept of of he says he thinks if you're going to keep to the letter of the law it'll be you go that the only way to in learning is if you're giving other people and says you won't lose you're going to gain he calls the the famous more in I would add says a different part ends it emphatically. You have to give of yourself and a person that is every second not not a minute every second was precious. He gave of freely of himself and Ruben I remember said my father didn't have a second of his own time. He said he had all the time in the world. It's a tremendous balance you have to have. But there's a there's a to there's a there's a there's a to this if I can say that word says and the famous what is it? It just aar. So she says no, it's it's more portion than if I have a worker and I entrust him with a small part of my business and he's doing well. So I I I increase his his job, right? He's he's trust trustworthy. Everything we have in this world is a gift. Money. If you are a faithful gizbah and you're doing your job properly and you're sharing with others, oh, I can trust you. So I'll give you a little more money. You're you're a good worker. You're not selfish. I could trust you with the I gave you. The more you give, the more you get. It's more than But maybe it's more of a rich and poor. Made them all. I'm saying it in English to make it easier. What does it mean and meet and bets the rash please help me and he helps him the the rush the the the will become a big but mayor you'll both have but this is but let's say he says I should help you you're learning and I'm learning I guess they had brisk in those days also I I can't I can't do it. I'm too busy. I'm going to make the the into an you're going to lose. Why it's we see there's an usher and as an I have to help you know that's but why should I suffer? If I have to suffer I'll do it says in basketball that we should be the honor is suffering because of the I have to be a ticket to made a big and I'm if they work together he's a faithful gizb and he's just my vehicle of bringing out the best of the so he did his job He did a job. They'll both be good. But if you're keeping it for yourself, you don't believe in you think let's see how much you can do on your own. It's not just it's the and you have to give others. That's so that's why it's not just that the the will help the person says you're not a faithful gizb and that's although he held but in he saw it different and it's so by regular mitzvah it's still he says it over and over by is in you have to help others and that's why you have to realize Each is different. You know, dropping a could beeally you're invalidating him, but I'm in the field. I asked for more than once. You know, people ask me what to do. He said, "But it is any that by sticking it out, it will work." So, he said will be there for you. said try to work it out but if it comes from then you're not learning I would add make it more practical if you give the the listen the reason why you're not learning is not because he has but those people usually work hard he's comes late early so you give an so they know this is if you don't work hard we're not going to learn so that but if there's any chance that it's going to work you'll rely on the school of the other sh is obviously a much sher to a person that has a steady by a certain ro and he stops going what does he say Rob you're getting older you know have a nice retirement but I'm not part of it anymore it's it's it's a very very devastating uh message a person feels he can't do it so you have to really the best thing is to ask a bank and I said to the cloud He goes, "Yeah, was the cloud stuck in cloud." That was his eternal message in these sh's cloud. But if a person feels he can't go on, I think he could maybe write a note. I send a gift or I might schedule change. I want to give you this gift. It was so precious all my years with you. Now I have a different schedule. You know, explain why you can't do it. Not that something wrong with him. It's something wrong with your schedule. But the is where we began. [Music] Yes. Also like to give a big sponsor from plumbing for sponsoring today's share.