UnitedForSimcha with Rabbi Taub, Rabbi Nissel, Rabbi Friedman and Rebbetzin Smiles

welcome everybody to to today's special united for simcha event we have literally such unbel such an unbelievable program for you today where where we're gonna be here for such unbelievable speakers speaking about united for simcha as we know we are in the men we are in the month of aadhaar when the month of other comes we have to increase our happiness and we are going to learn about and delve into this topic right now with such tremendous speakers and this program is for is um is specifically geared towards seminary students and we really appreciate all the seminars who are streaming this event and um and and we really appreciate it and and this is being presented by the kazakh organization and um as the middle to like say a and z whatever could do to help klay straw that kazakh is there so um because like is trying to is creating this program to really enhance and and uh and galvanize ourselves in and uplift ourselves and uh with this topic of united states just just one small word 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strange that they're asking an englishman to speak about simra it seems a little bit like asking vladimir putin to speak about democracy not easy times for simra there's so many so much loneliness anxiety depression how can we try to achieve a state of happiness serenity what we call in hebrew shall live as opposed to die 336 is the kamacho purim die is the gamatra 14 test i want to learn together how all the elements of joy serenity happiness we find in or connected with the festival of purim and how they are conspicuously absent on tishbo the possum that describes the elements of simcha is a passage [Music] tell us zion that actually each of these four elements [Music] corresponds to a mitzvah omar of yehuda ora [Music] why these four mistress why are these mitzvahs representative of these elements of semcon let's discuss are many including myself can sit and watch a fire just watch the flickering light and mesmerized why and the answer is that there's something that is resonating inside of us when we see that what is that what are those flames what's the light and the answer is that it is potential energy in the wood being turned into actual energy light heat there's nothing we want more deep down than to actualize our potential and when we see that when we see actualization of potential it resonates esther is a revelation a revelation of the hidden it's bringing it out revealing potential to reveal revelation is connected to the word gila a type of joy not only is torah the only way to actualize our potential but it also gives a remarkable clarity tish above on the other hand is a day when we sit in relative darkness if you have a look we know that every plague in egypt lasted for a month one week of warning the remainder of the month a one week of plague the remainder of the month warning the final plague marches perhaps was on the 15th of nissan if so go back a month marcus the plague of darkness starts on the day that will turn out to be and about that day in egypt it says for the jewish nation there was light where they lived many similarities between the plague of and the salvation of purim the element of light three days [Music] no one else can stand no one else can stand up against us for him is the day when we accepted the torah willingly knowing that there's no other way we want this we want this clarity as opposed to muhammad harassing the relations when our rabbis tell us that we accepted torah so to speak under duress clarity the gematria of ammar lake is 240. that's the gematria of suffake we vanquish our leg and we vanquish our doubt there is a famous saying many think it's khazal the earliest source i could find is the matsuras david on mishlai who says that there is no simpha there is no joy cataract fakers like the resolution of doubt purim is a day when we resolve our doubts that's torah simcha as opposed to pleasure [Music] is only when we feel we've achieved something we've grown we're bigger yantaf days we've expanded the boundaries of kadusa days that were whole on our kodesh the air of kadusa has grown the purim is the first days of sanctity of a yontov after the revelation on signing the first new yomim tobin expansion this is called atef handbreath there are two types of hand breath there's a hand breath when the fingers are very slightly they're apart and that's called sofik a happy perhaps laughing and then when the fingers are compressed together that's called the tephahats of assad is expansion sasan to him i don't have any mitzvahs here i don't i'm not wearing my tv i'm not wearing my cities there's not even a mezuzah on the doorway i am bereft of mitzvas and then he occurred to him i have brismuller that's with me all the time sassone is an ability to focus on what i do have not what i don't have at the moment ravish points out just as simcha [Music] blossom sits blossom when there's nothing else on the tree there's no fruit there may be no leaves but there can be blossom satsang is an ability to focus on what we don't have what we do have rather than what we don't have purim it's a festival that we're missing a lot it's a it's it's a festival in the winter and it's dark and it's the only festival that is enacted in exile and the message of sasson is don't focus on what you don't have focus on what you do have and the last of the four elements yakara your car it's actually an aramaic word you won't find it in hamish you will find it in the targum tahomish [Music] what else does it mean it also means as does kavod kavod is from [Music] the root cave which is often translated as heavy so what's the connection between respect honor and heavy we see akarak he white white is heavy connected to honor so i think a more helpful translation than heavy would be weighty what does weighty mean it has substance it has significance it is something the gamatra of yakar is three hundred and ten and that's the match of yesh it has something what's the opposite of respect what's the opposite of kavod and the answer is the opposite of herbert is le kalel to curse somebody what's the root of le kalel cow if one curses somebody once saying they have no significance they have no substance they have no weight they have no importance twillin is your car we placed fill in on our arm we placed filling on our head and the statement that we're making is every action every thought that we have has significance has importance on purim even our becoming drunk takes on an importance i'd like to look at the mitzvahs of purim sudan we're not alone social interaction we eat and enjoy together and part of the enjoyment we have in the suda is enjoying each other's company while we eat we are not as common accused we're not i'm not talking about having the fisa vaccination we're not mafuzar as opposed to tish above well that's a that's a topical root if ever there was one um and we have our surumafsekas apart we don't sit together i was looking at a mental health site and they suggested that in times like these um perhaps promising maybe we can't be together so what do we do they they're not talking about purim but listen to what they write some ways to stay connected through food while being physically apart include sending photos to one another while cooking the same dish you can then jump on a video or phone call after your meal to discuss what you enjoyed about the dish and potential recipe alterations maybe maybe that's what we need to do to have the symphosis burn this year drinking drinking and we drink a lot and i think there's a message there um don't keep your so to speak don't keep your troubles bottled up when one drinks one is freer one talks if there are things inside we we we let it out and i think there is an important message here that if things are going on inside of you if there's worries anxieties find a friend and and and speak to the friend about it don't don't keep it inside interesting on tish above no wine no wine for nine days levione i think there's a very important idea here matonus levioni brings home to us the idea there are people who are in tougher situations than we are when you focus on that i'm not so hard up after all on tisha well on the ground hard to feel that others are lower than us if we're on the ground and we should be thinking in times like this what can we do for someone worse off than us learning to give to others removes the focus from me and my troubles and on tish above we're not even allowed to give a greeting magilla seeing the big picture and at the end it all becomes clear things that we didn't understand but at the wow now we understand compare that interestingly with acha five chapters first chapter the aleph base is in the right order two three and four it's already out of order the iron and the pay suck exchanged and chapter 5 there is no alphabetical order whatsoever and perhaps that's the final period before mashiach everything is out of order when something is besetta when it's in order then it's peseda there's something very comforting about seeing the plan seeing the order costume learning to see behind the surface not all is what it seems and if we look in times like this corona hashem is definitely speaking to us and if we notice that wow he is communicating there was an entry in encyclopedia that i read about corona i read it two lines the name corona which in latin means crown or aura is given to the coronaviruses due to the characteristic appearance of the viruses under an electron microscope which form an image reminiscent of a royal crown or the aura of a sun you can see the crown of the king or you can see a piece of nature gratitude gratitude is one of the most important elements for having joy i'm so grateful for what i do have and i think there's another beautiful idea in alanisim we use inaudible there is a story told some say it's about hamelech but i don't think it was about that a king once asked a wise man give me a phrase that i can have engraved on a ring when i look at that ring when i see the phrase i'll always be happy and the phrase was the gamer and this too shall pass the gematria of esmach i will be happy 349 is the gematria of the gum zayavar by umahim it happened then the la actually has the the text what happened then can happen now hashem says then he can happen now games there are two festivals when we say these words and on both those vessels we take something and we spin it well it's a grogger where it's a dreidel and we make circles and cycles and it comes round again and again and again and there's an idea by omim basman one final idea and now as opposed to the differences between purim and tish above i want to focus on one similarity and this idea was pointed out to me by my friend joseph cohen they both have mcgillers vigilance and both authors experienced tragedy europe lived at the time of corbin by his writing esther was forbidden to a husband it's actually it's actually a tragic story we know that both mcgillis were written with rocha kodesh and we've also learned one can only have the divine spirit if one has a mood of absolute joy both and esther must have had semra there's no way that they could have written their mcgillis if they didn't that's an incredibly inspiring idea whatever your personal tragedy it is possible to achieve the highest level of simcha and perhaps if we use some of the tools that we've been talking about one can achieve that simpler i would like to conclude by showing you a short video that i made together with a very talented student of mine ariella berglis now um who in fact is one of the organizers of this karzak event it is ostensibly about corona but i really think it conveys a lot of the messages that we have been talking about i hope you find it interesting how to stay from how to stay fairly risk-free unharmed medically and spiritually rule number one stay away from people who might infect you rule number two one person can adversely affect hundreds if not thousands rule number three if you need to be with those who might infect you keep yourself protected especially your mouth [Music] rule number four do not touch what they touched rule number five when you return home make sure your home stays a hygienic environment wash your hands on entering keep your family safe rule number six do not go to places which might be dangerous rule number seven certain groups are more at risk and have to take extra precautions rule number eight do not be complacent rule number nine do not think we've never had challenges like this before rule number 10 don't forget that the consequences of a lack of care can be fatal rule number 11 listen to what the experts have to say rule number 12 keep up to date with new challenges and ways of dealing with them rule number 13 even if you think you look better without wearing protection do not be a fool you can look great even if you dress according to the rules rule number 14 remember you are part of an amazing community rule number 15 think what you can do for those who are having it hard we can overcome any challenge together follow these rules and you'll stay [Music] from hello sean i just want to begin by saying how incredibly happy i am to be recording here in my little rabbi cave in jerusalem for those who have been following my life you'll know that we the nissel just spent a month in america mainly in miami don't feel too sorry for us but we were basically in exile we wanted to come home after our nephew's wedding this is a month ago and israel would not let us back in and we stayed an extra three weeks and to be honest with you i spent a lot of time with students and friends and people that i met in south florida in chicago and other places that we were and they all had a common theme they came to me as a rabbi to expect me to have solutions to their unhappiness so this is something that's crazy that i've never been in america for this period of time hearing again and again and again that people are unhappy many of them for real reasons they've gone through stuff as we say difficulties in their lives challenges that are unsurmountable and some people are just unhappy campers they just don't like their lives they don't like themselves they're not happy with what's going on and they expect that somehow or rather i as a rabbi i'm supposed to have the solution to what everyone's looking for everyone wants to be happy that's just the way it is some of you know the the pharaoh williams song back in 2013 that had over a billion hits and everyone's dancing that they're gonna be happy and i think if i'm not mistaken there were like 2 000 imitations from all over the world of that i want to be happy song dancing to it but the point is that these people when the dancing is over you ask them are you truly truly happy and most times the answer is no while they were dancing they were happy but when the dancing is over so they're back to their miserable existences again dealing with their issues and dealing with their problems so what i want to do is give one approach to finding true happiness and this is the number one answer i give to everyone when they're saying to me remember initial what can you do to help me find this beautiful thing that everyone is looking for that feeling of being happy and the answer i always say it begins with tefila it begins with knowing how to be a governor so let me show you where i'm coming from and i want to begin by calling for my rebbe i have over here my this is my ali shore from literally 35 years ago and i have over here the opening quote of mayhem rabbi rashel the the ali shah on his vadim his essays on simha and this is what he writes these are the opening words listen carefully shamayim varats heaven and earth isha male and female the sham of a goof a soul and a body nigrim they naturally work against each other lotta made him in sharmini gurim but they don't have to remain opposites yes she must be himself they can affect each other positively yes she miss montgomery and sometimes obviously like a husband and a wife they can become truly one but call honey every connection between things that don't naturally work together that things that logically on their own should be going in different directions and yet they are cooperating that's the true place that's the natural home for simcha whenever there's connection or unity between things that don't naturally jive that's where you will find true happiness and of course for us in our worlds the baseline is the kolsasayin the khalsimha ko khasan the kokala that you find in a marriage but i want to point out that not everyone has that luxury not everyone has that perfect marriage not everyone had that wisdom to work in it from day one and to make that connection special from the very first moment but there is something else that creates that happiness and that is a relationship with hashem you cannot possibly have two more opposites than the creator and the creators now wait a moment i just want to add one thing and i hope you take this the right way why is it that today in 2021 there seems to be so much more unhappiness than in recent years so if connection is what creates happiness so social distancing is like duh the opposite of creating happiness i just spent last week 48 hours traveling to get home and everywhere i went people were just like stay away from me stay away from me people were angry people were just like anxious it was just very very unpleasant when i tried to get my wife and my daughter into the united lounge in newark so the woman said and she's actually right you can only bring in one person it's not like israel would just say that they said oh the rules we must follow the rules yeah and only one was allowed in so i said okay my wife will go in with my daughter no problem on the way out i wanted to sort of pop in for one second into the bathrooms over there and she screamed at me and she was so angry how dare you use the bathrooms when you haven't paid and i'm looking at her and i'm looking at her angry eyes and i see written above united airlines welcome to the friendly skies like hello what has happened to this world people have become less friendly people have become more anxious and i want to add another simple thing like again this is obvious when you're looking at me you're not really looking at me you're looking at pixels you're looking at literally a piece of metal or whatever these computers are made out of and your salim elekim which is where that simcha comes from that image of god inside of you is not truly nourished so when you have these things over here right you got your little phones and you look at them and you're face timing you're talking to people you're doing like what i'm doing now you're zooming all these things create a fake connection which does not nourish ourselves in a healthy way to allow us to truly truly feel that happiness if you want to have happiness you need connections that are real so a husband and wife have to be literally facing each other cabrous friends looking at each other the experience has to be real for it to be something worthwhile and then we get to the ultimate connection which is the connection between us and akrishbarahu and i always always say this to my student if you're angry with god for goodness sake don't run away from him work on building the connection in a way that makes sense for you so let me show you something incredible i have in front of me an old-fashioned mission abroad there we go this is based on the gemara the halachos of how to begin yeshua and ashrae i always beg the busiest people in the world mommies who have full-time job they got five kids their world is crazy they are hierarchically technically speaking exempt from fila i beg them find yourself those seven minutes a day seven minutes a day for a schwann asteroid but don't just stop an any schwann astray make it a moment of true connection now watch this i'm going to read to you now simon sarigimo halacha base here we go layama dispala you shouldn't be in a in a mode of strike of like giddiness laughter just having watched some some comedy or or out of anger you just had a fight with someone ella this is a crazy thing he starts it by saying you should have all and you should have fear well obviously not fear of being afraid but fear of greatness but then it says you entered filo with simcha and then the is based on the torah is three examples of how you enter with simcha number one divrei tanjong through the comforting words of torah number two the ghouls with rhyme you juxtapose it to the ghoul of the tribe when do we do this in chakras the last words we say before our schwann astray in the morning is one vanessa gundam again we talk about all the incredible things hashem did for us when we came out of egypt and the third is what we do in everything that we want whatever we want hashem takes care of shame hashem guards those people that truly love him all i want to point out is that there are three examples over here and all three are different angles of how we realize how much hakuri's in our lives and how close he is most of our day it's hard to notice sakuras baruch because of hester pawnee mashem is so hidden a little effort before you start you show an aster you first work on the connection let's go through this one by one terror study so what's the definition of terror terror is an instruction booklet correct it's a hurrah but there is also a raisa it is the light that connects us to kurdish in the words of the hashem he defines terror as literally we're tapping in to akrishbaraku's essence krisboro he gave us a little bit of himself when you study terror what you're really doing is getting to know him if her sinai is the marriage then terrorists hashem saying i want you to really get to know me you see why who runs this world the genius the infinite genius of akrish baruch of how he runs the world terror when learned properly gives us the joy of connecting to a being that literally runs everything with total and complete perfection and terror study helps us open our eyes to see that next cloud israel our nation gula we're coming up to purim purim we see at first glance he's hidden but when everything turns around we see how close he was to us all along and thirdly and finally in ashrae hashem is called intimately involved in our lives open your eyes and see what a kurdish borrow is doing for you right now i promise you in the last 24 hours if you just open your eyes you see how close hashem is and the hashikaka prada is that personalized care that hashem has for you so this is halacha this is not fromkai this is not mosur three examples seeing god in the universe that's terror seeing god and how he runs cly israel that's gullah and sina in your own personal lives if you do this every single day it puts a smile on your face because you see the imac in ponemius at the deepest level there's one relationship that no one can take away from us and it is more real than any other relationship and that is our personalized connection to hashem even our relationship with our most beloved people our spouses it's just a taste of that relationship that is forever and ever and ever so today in the world we are drowning in fake connections nothing more fake than a connection through a machine through a phone or through a computer where the arts is is dying it is basically basically shriveled up wanting something real but with the krishbaru just gonna take those three steps and he's there for you and at least once a day for the ladies three times a day for the men we need to work on that but we start off with simcha and that simha that we have seeing how close to kurdish baroque is that connection that is so real with that we take our three steps and we talk to kushbar and we ask him for our needs enter the maharal of prague the marande prague says something incredible morale the prague this is he says when you do this properly at the end of your dampening when you take it three steps back your simcha is a hundred times great you know why because you walked those three steps it's an evidence going into the milk a servant going to the king recognizing that he's the king and you're the servant you depend on him for everything you go in there with your tears crying for your needs but when you take your three steps back everything falls into place and you realize that evade lamellar is canelo on the deepest level if you are so close to the king you can ask him for whatever you want hashem always says yes so you really are on that certain some level like the king mosher bainer the greatest evad was also the greatest melod by he be sure at least on a certain level like kane abdi maisha but cole basin name on hashem says to moshe do what you want you're so close to me i give you infinite power when you take your three steps back and you walk back into the world you realize if hashem is that close you are literally infinitely powerful and that connection to the one above gives you a true inner deeper simcha that is incomparable so my dear friends you're going to be singing and dancing over laughing but that laughter and that simcha is all a taste of the symbol of the world to come where all the barriers to our connection to hashem is broken down just like confirm back shushon and all of clients were connected and there was a explosion of senkha that's what it's going to be like when the sheikh finally comes i'm begging you every single one of you make your darkening the centerpiece of the sinha in your day beforehand when you take your three steps back you misbehave and how awesome it is that we can talk to hashem and when you take your three steps back at the end and you realize how close hashem is how amazing it is to have that connection with him ever cameler edward camelot that we are an extension of the kurdish baracus and allow the simcha to explode into your life may be hashem's will that this beautiful beautiful simcha called the sims becomes indeed the taste of the true semcha that explodes when mashiach comes and all the barriers are taken away and the whole world becomes like it's filo of closeness to hashem the tantrum of terror the gula that we've experienced and realizing how koshbar kushbarahu is personally deep deep inside each one of our lives have a happy enjoyable simcha dikkapuram when we all laugh together in the sims of the coming mashiach and until that moment keep darvening keep governing as the centerpiece of the simcha inside your lives thank you for listening computer misha comes in we know it's just to increase our joy as we know well that the gemura says just like in the month of may so unbelievable amazing what that means is nonetheless is that an av but anyway you slice it we have simcha it's just a question while we're might or marbel i want to share an idea i don't know if it's true or not i hope it is i think it's a nice concept and that is understand the following concept you know that the word simcha when we say remember the letters of bisimra are the same letters of the word you switch the letters around it spells the word the word means it means means to think to think is the thought process simcha comes through a thought process and i was thinking fascinating we know we're not so supposed to be maharaja we're not supposed to think after the middle when hashem behaves a certain way with us and it's somewhere where it looks like it's not so good and maybe we get a little bit like how could this be what's going on we accept it we accept that three bonus some knows what's going on hashem knows what's best for us and being that hashem knows it's best for us therefore we don't think negatively with whatever it is maybe that's what it means just like during the month of av meaning to say we don't go to think what's going on over here what's hashem doing how can hashem do that etc so too to the mother when things are going good and things are going well we're meant to actually get to that level stop and think about everything that we have about all the goodness focused on all the positive the the idea in life is that we all want to be happy you want to be joyful and like we said the whole year we're meant to be happy just in averma might and ada and maybe that's what it is over here for us to take the time take the time to stop and think about all the goodness all the amazing things that we have i'm not saying there's no challenges people have challenges everybody has challenges some more some less some more to some people some less to some people at the end of the day though we bonus someone has given us so much hashem has given us so much goodness and if we were to take the opportunity of rebuying of additional thinking about that and beijing hashem we're going to have riboi as well afraid how do we define it what is it all about how do we access this seemingly elusive type of feeling so let's first understand what simcha we translate as joy is not reverend salvation explains the joy is not with what we understand in the outer world of gaiety of happiness of people who seemingly are enjoying themselves and all these forms of entertainment and the biggest proof of that is is the high rate of antidepressants these people on the outside seem very happy very joyous jovial but the inside is very empty and he notes that you proof of this is that the fact in yiddishkai that we don't look at simcha in this jovial type of way is the fact that we have yusuker anjantiv yante if it's the time of simha abbasar nyaya in the mitzvah at the time of what we would seem to be outer joy yet at the same time we say iskar on the social goalie on the festivals how do we reconcile the two so obviously joy in the yiddish kind of form is not this outer happiness to bust the reality in the night's clothes because it wouldn't stem with what your skirt's about somehow has to be something deeper has to be something more profound i'd like to try to understand what the idea of simcha is about from two insights of the maharalmi prague in two different places one is by the height of may mariva the sin of of vain which is obviously eludes us rasheed tells us the sin was shimuna maureen he got angry at the people and here the morale comments that the aspect of getting angry at the people is connected with what there was a lack of kinish hashem what is the interrelationship between getting angry and kiddish hashem so notes and are out that had most been in a state of simcha and amuna he would never have come to the idea of cass that there is an interrelationship between the fact when a person is in a state of simcha that a person's in the state of the moon a state of belief when one doesn't have this aspect of simcha when one is in a state of anger that's a re that is reflected in the aspect of yan lohamantan hamantinbi of a lack of a muna so again we need to ask ourselves i understand simra is not this jovialness simcha is not this outer gaiety is very much connected with the idea of emunah of faith however we still need to under understand what simcha is the marauders offers us a one word insight into and it's this one word insight that i'd like to try to develop for a number of moments together and it's a one-word insight that if we're able to integrate into our lives whoa the impact it can have and that one word is simcha is equal to shlaimus wholeness what does that mean what is this all about very interesting madras when the measure says where she says allah be bashed hashem she's praising hashem she's thankful to hashem he or she is rejoicing in the yeshua and the salvation of hashem note symmetra allah my heart rejoices with hashem that sadiq praised hashem with the full name of hashem yudh kevafke the madrish continues this is unlike the people who are regular people who are not righteous or not that sadiq they praise hashem with half a name [Applause] uk half of hashem's name what does it mean a full name of hashem a half a name rashem so say for muslim navium authors of geval dickensite we know the name of hashem the eurodkain fk represents past present and future most people praise hashem most people connect with hashem with half a name the ka which represents hashem in the past and hashem in the future ah in retrospect i realized that whatever happened needed to happen and in the future i'm confident that everything is going to work out the is being able to see hashem in the here and now in the present and what i'm going through i'll actually be basham ran a new zaddikin vashem the greatness of saddiquim is their able to praise hashem with the urdke bufke with the hayah and not only seeing hashem in the past in retrospect not only with the hope and anticipation of the future but to able to experience the joy the connection the shlamos the wholeness of the experience wherever i am right now as being exactly where hashem wants me to be and when i'm able to experience that the present itself is a present is a gift from hashem the present itself is exactly emunah where i need to be that a person is filled with simcha with this deep joy and as we know this foreign tell us that the word in joy is the same word same word mixing around the letters as makshava to be the simha needs makshava needs mindset it's not necessarily an outside stimulus the ice cream the great adventures that's what's going to bring me no that's jovial that's gaiety but inside it's empty the real simcha comes by makshava with the mindset of the yurt cave of k that wherever i am is exactly a muna where i need to be at this very moment to take a very simple example all of us have experience being stuck in traffic and all of us have experienced that we left plenty of time and something unexpected and obviously unexpected in our mindset occurs and we're late and it's an important meeting and it could be a or it could be a meeting it doesn't matter what the story is it could be a hassan my best friend and i'm sitting in traffic and the white cars in front of me and the red cars behind me and i have two car blue cars on the side of me and i am going nowhere so what do we start to do oh we start to growl and we get frustrated and we get a little excited i can't believe this and i'm missing it and then we get all worked out and we're definitely not in the state of simbah and then we stop and we say it means that hashem has planted me from my celebration he knew and he understood that part of the tikkun of mine the shama in order for me to grow to be the best i can be was to be able to go through this experience the red car the white car the two blue cars being late and being able to accept it this is exactly where hashem wants me to be at this very moment and i'm going to embrace it and embracing it that's the state of slamus that's the state of another way we can frame this idea is looking at the way hazel understand the posit by avaravinu that avraham venus and that by accident parenthetically we say this brought him in after halal on rosh chodesh because this bracha teaches us a fundamental insight what is the idea of bachol with everything what is everything everything is everything which is everything what is everything so the measure says there were three people hit me who planted in this world that was which was a taste of the next world avraham yitzhak and yakov we say this in benching avraham is plus baco yitzchak is blessed with the word connected yes miko and jacob avino usually called with the word called back cold me cold cold these three were planted in this world with a sense of the next world what does this mean so one idea that it means is that the next world there is no component of time past present and future all work together i'm sure many of you have read these stories of these after life after death experiences where the person sees in front of them you see this in all these writings they see their entire life coming in front of them like a fast feed film you know right after leaving this world because again there is no sense of time past present and future all merges together the others hakadoshima are able to live in a world of a latzly be bashem in a world of random sadiq bashem of past present and future going on at the same time that's the concept of alcohol that's the concept of shilemos that's the concept of if you were that simra is about the makshava perspective when i have a perspective of the totality of this experience sometimes i get so caught up not sometimes oftentimes i get so caught up in the moment that i'm not able to move beyond it i'm frustrated at the very thing that's going on right here and right now and i've lost perspective i've lost that this is part of a larger scene i've lost that emunah to be able to live in the oldham means that i understand that there's a plan for everything i understand that past present and future all merged together in the most beautiful tapestry that her sparkle was weaving for our lives there is one day a week notes is that we tap into this media of bachol this meet of perspective this ability to see olam haba in this world and that's obviously my friend shabbat shabbat is referred to as and it's not by accident that the majority of parties follow says that there's an indian of being the simcha on shabbos because shabbos is this media of bachol we're all being i'm in the physical world but i have a taste of shabbos i have a taste of the next world i have a taste of perspective that explains the change in birku's krishna on shabbos davening how do we begin we don't begin with hame or la aret's rather we say the word hako repeats itself over and over again because shabbos is about perspective all week it's about the little things that have happened in life suddenly you're able to step back on shabbos it's family time it's time for contemplation and you're able to see ah and able to put the entirety together and it's the wonder notes the sift that have changed the last word in the birks creature from the prosecuting talks about youth that hashem creates light fashioned lights and darkness oh say shalom it creates peace and the ishayan of the end of and it creates evil we end uvare and sakho because what are doing it's not really changing the word they're explaining it you're right ra in its own way in in in the intensity of the here and now is really hard but understand ra in perspective that the challenges we go through what we understand as ra as evil as difficulties as sufferings is seen in the perspective of varetako there's a larger picture here we're just seeing a such a small aspect of this larger picture it would be similar my friends if any of you have started a thousand page book a novel meta with a lot of you know drama in it or excitement in it or any type of whatever feeling you want to put into it or a mystery novel and you decide that you're going to start on page 480 and you start reading the book from page 480 it's a thousand page book and you're reading the book and the entire time you're saying to yourself what's going on why are they doing this this book makes no sense you're right but i have a little secret to tell you my friends our book isn't in a thousand page book it's a 5781 year book with many many days in each year do the math it's beyond me that's how big the book is and this is because we are here and seeing just a small part of what we play in this world do we understand what came before us in a different gilgal well we have to move attack in here we're very limited our job is to be able to understand that whatever happens are interrelated it's not for naught and hence we understand the idea that shabbos is filled with shira vazimra it's filled with sword what is song all about surabaya tats explained so beautifully song is not about the appreciation of playing each note individually song is about seeing the totality of the music the bachol the wholeness that is the challenge of our lives why are so many people miserable because we're looking at the here and now i'm looking at the rejection of this boy or that this suggestion didn't go through why is this happening to me why aren't i getting what i want because i'm living in the here and now to be able to step back and say oh this is probably for whatever reason best that i didn't go out with him or this didn't happen and i'm able to understand there's a plan and there's a larger picture here so that feeling fills me with slain us with wholeness and i'm able to move on doesn't necessarily mean i'm going to be laughing and i'm going to be dancing for joy no again that's that outer world of gaiety is the depth simcha is appreciating saying yisker looking up at where i've come from looking at the people in my life who are no longer here who have impacted me back hope perspective seeing the totality of what this is about my friends if we had to choose cesar of warping one bracha every morning that we say that would be a reminder for us that would be a focus for us on what our challenge is to be able to be in this state of not to get lost in the petty details but to see the totality it's the bracha we say every morning that hashem has given me cold sarki everything that i need ah how can i say this bracha in the morning he's given me everything i need well i'll tell you my friends there's a lot i need and i can give you a list of things i need some are more major some are more minor but how can i say sully called sarki he's giving me everything i need i grant you to say shall leave saraki he's given me my needs but cold sarki seems to be all inclusive all of my needs and this is exactly the answer cole bacco yaakov thing who says yesterday call while it's substantially wrapped i appreciate that whatever i have right now it's all that i need because indeed if i needed it hashem would give it to me but what i have is what i need and that is why when we dive in at times answers us right away or what seems to us right away and at times he says not yet or at times he says no instead of leading to depression well he's so mean and how can he do that and of course i need this and i need this to serve hashem kosaki that whatever i need right now at this point in time in my life this is what a crushed purple is going to give me and when i look at this perspective then the traffic jams and the challenges in life are seen in a larger whole it's not that i get caught up in the moment of course we do at the initial moment we can't control that but after i've let out my veggies yeah i can't handle this i step back and i say there must be a reason for this i may be privy to it one day i may not but i'm going to hold on to the simcha to the shera to the amuna i'm going to hold on to the beauty of the music and not get focused in on each note but see the totality let's see i could sparkle that's a larger plan i'd like to end with one story which is a example of where you see that according to orchestrates things and sometimes this orchestration happens over years and this when we have this understanding and this reality we can live a life of viscenvo specimen story is told of queen wilhelmina of holland of the dutch who was taking vacation around 1910 1911 she's taking a vacation in a quiet resort and she just had her attendance with her and she made sure that no one knew where she was just a private trip and she's on the train they didn't have private jets in those days and after pulling into the station she sees a whole crowd and she gets very nervous she said to her attendants i thought that nobody knew where i was so they do a little research and they come back and they say uh your your your majesty this gathering is not for you you know don't take it too personally there is a very famous rabbi on this uh train the mooncatcher rebbe and the crowd is out to greet him out of respect so she was very curious like you know she was used to these royal uh welcoming a rabbi gets these royal recommends and she asked a little bit further and said well what is special about him who is this rabbi and i told her that he gives blessings and that he's the spiritual healer describing a hasidic ripping to to announce you to a queen yeah so she asked her attendance see if you can make an appointment that i can meet him and indeed that's what happened on one night in a park the two attendants of the queen and two shamashim of the munkacho rebbe meet on a park bench and queen wilhelmina turns to the munkacha rebbe and says could you bless me with a child i don't have a child and i want an heir to my throne and he blesses her that she would have a child and that her children would be on the throne he says as the ki of oshilo until mashiach will arrive and that was the end of the meeting okay indeed shortly afterwards she has a daughter queen juliana who uh ultimately takes over the throne now let's fast forward to after world war ii there's a certain rabbi katz who needs a place to go to no country really wants to take people in unless you could prove that you have something to offer these people he's a rabbi what does he have to offer and he writes a letter to queen wilhelmina and he writes it in yiddish to obviously get her attention and he says the following you will remember that 30 odd years ago you were sitting on a park bench with two of your attendants asking a blessing from a rabbi with two of his students i am the student who gave you over the good news that you will have a descendant on the throne adki of oshilo until messiah comes in that merit i would like permission to be of entry into your country and indeed permission was granted and he became a rabbi in holland my friends we don't understand the larger picture we don't understand the events of park benches and the way they're going to impact later in life we don't understand the tapestry of every moment why we needed to get stuck in traffic and that's only an imagery so that we would be a few minutes late so that we would meet somebody that something else would happen sometimes we see it clearly sometimes we don't and this is what the amuna is about it's not about that when i get stuck in traffic and then because i'm late something happens and i say ah now i know i was stuck in traffic that is half the name of hashem and it's not getting stuck in traffic and saying i am sure something will happen that's what's okay the future what will happen it's about sitting getting stuck in traffic and saying this is where i need to be this is where i need to be right now because right here it's good for me and sakuyakta the truth is when you see that right here and now not past not future but here whether i understand it or not i have the marshava i have the amuna that this is where it's best for me and when i'm able to have that perspective and i'm able to have that aspect of slamus then i'm in a state of simcha and my friend this state of simcha is something that is the core of who and what we are and hence we understand and with goodness of heart we're going into goals we have all the the the how does that possibly end the semester of levans we roll cold because we lacked seeing cold we lacked having that perspective the more we work on our amuna the more we work i'm feeling that every step of the way sparkle is leading me the more i will be the state of simcha and indeed be able to be literally at all times in all situations in life thank you so much to all the unbelievable speakers today for really uplifting us and getting a deeper sense what does simcha mean and what how do we apply it to our lives and what is it how does this all relate to to this time period of purim and adar and it's unbelievable and we really were as the title says united for simcha because not only do we learn about cinema but 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