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for [Music] we're closing out it's last next year is already going to be here and turn it into um at the very least we'll do CH as a result of this uh today's uh sh is forat Tamar granik and um also for a for s ranan Lana B SAR Doris Bora David benri Esther Bora also and for Ben and Talia s to Brian Montenegro and the rest of his family uh also dear wife all of is especially the ones that are constant and supporters of whether it's the campaign to do uh K and share CDs all over the world and packages or it is uh you know the the that we are Merit meritorious enough to actually do uh with the recent campaign starting to uh help many families in is and uh at the very least uh try to uh do whatever we can to ease the dean ease the dean among our brothers and sisters that um are having a difficult time with this whole Corona virus and economic crisis that's happening here of course it's hurting the uh people that are in a uh were already struggling a lot more than uh everybody else and uh in is they don't have the the same uh government benefits that uh perhaps America has uh so a lot of people are struggling now Financial struggling is very easy for people to understand you know because this is something you see you see with your own eyes that uh somebody struggling you see him Shalom he got kicked out of his house his car got repossessed see his walks around with clothes that hasn't been washed for uh God only knows how long you see you can see when someone's struggling but when it comes to spiritual struggling it's much harder much harder to tell because a guy can come to you for all intents and purposes look as religious as can possibly be and you don't even know what hit you as soon as he or she starts talking about the things that they're overcoming or the things that they're failing at many times I try to tell people this that don't spend so much time on your looks don't spend so much time on making yourself look like whatever you think a Jew supposed to look like spend your time looking modest spend your time learning Torah and don't spend so much time on your looks why it may make you a liar your looks may make you a liar unintentionally you walk around you look like a rabbi but you don't even know how LIF bit you walk around you have a uh you have the look of a Yesa type of person but you're married to a guya you walk around you look like you've been at every col in America because you have such verbiage that you use and sometimes people are not even Jewish and the reality is when a person spends an exorb amount of time to look a certain amount of way it says a lot about them but not good now don't get me wrong should you try to look professional look respectable look like a Jew sure if you want to grow payers you can grow payers you don't have to but if you want you can you want to grow a beard you can you don't have to but you can what you have to focus on is what's obligatory first because if a person tells you grow a beard and you grow a beard because he told you it's not good why one day you're going to get itchy and you're going to want to shave the beard and now your uh beard turns into why you look religious you look cuz that's what people that are ignorant think religious people look like beard in the Hat so you look religious for a certain amount of time and uh then day you decide to shake cuz you don't like the beard or your wife complained and for you want to take off the beard all you want to take off the P because you didn't really want it in the first place you just did it because somebody told you you didn't understand the significance that babaali says that person that grows a beard is a uh lowers the lowers the uh judgment on themselves and brings instead brings kindness from Heaven on themselves or the uh the issue with the Ben says that the are the two witnesses that you're a Jew they're the two witnesses that you're a Jew so somebody says to say yeah but I'm a Jew he says there not a witness nobody can see it no one can see it he says these are two witnesses for Judaism you need two witnesses for everything and these are two witnesses that you have you're a Jew now sometimes you want to grow PE long sometimes you want to grow and just have sideburns but many times Jewish people don't know what's right and wrong they shave their head like green they shave their head like gu either a one or a zero around their head and have a little chicken thing on it and going on top and uh that look is not only not a Jewish look but it's a sin not low why shaving his SIDS this is a problem sometimes for people that are balding so because they feel uncomfortable balding they decid to just shave their entire head not allow not all to shave your entire head why you P your pil have to stay your pil have to stay you want to grow them long like uh the tradition is to grow them long grow them long but at the very least you have to have p and says these are two witnesses he says I'll tell you a story he said years ago theim the Arabs they don't like the Christians because they view them also like we do as Idol worshippers but they don't act like we do when they see somebody's an idol worshipper they just want to kill him so many times they would have these Crusades where they would look out for Christian people and it killed them entire cities entire uh communities and one time they caught a group of Christian people and the she would go and check who's a Jew who's a Christian and who's not how how do you know if he's a Christian he check if they have Brit or not not cuz people can talk you can say whatever it could be a slick Tong person convince you one thing in really something else says no I don't need you to talk I don't need to talk just show me the Brit me let me see if he has Brit mil or not because Muslims have a but they do it later on in their life and Jews have it at 8 days old so uh are we online so uh let me see if he has B because the Christians typically don't have bre so they check doesn't have kill him do kill him kill him why Idol worshiper they kill him two two two two two so the V says at one point they get to this one guy and the one guy say hey he takes out takes off his turban and he shows the he says a and these are my two witnesses so the she liked it he saw and he liked his expression so much it says give this yehud gold on his pretty Witnesses so they put some golden chains golden bracelets on his uh on his pale and the Jew says your my Witnesses are strong it can handle more if you want so they gave him more they gave him more so the Ben says that the uh par is a witness but the point is original point is whether somebody has par or doesn't have doesn't mean that they're religious doesn't mean they have doesn't mean anything mean something to you sees it but for all intents and purposes the look shouldn't necessarily be the number one Focus that you have I know at least two or three guys that are internet terrorists both of them are not Jewish neither one of them will ever be Jewish but if you hear their vocabulary and you look at their looks they both look like they've been Jewish for 30 years they act like they're so Jewish they forgot to convert and they have no interest in converting because all day they make fun of Jews make fun of the Torah but they think that they're doing it in the name of Judaism so looks it's not so much so now back to our point of not spending so much time on our looks is one thing but that means that how we supposed to know if someone is struggling spiritually because physically if they're struggling if you see somebody in pain you can see look at their facial expressions you can see if somebody's in pain materially you can see if the guy get kicked out of his house if the guy got his car repossessed if the guy you see him asking for takaka you could tell the guy is struggling you can help him what if somebody's struggling spiritually how can you tell the truth is that the only way that you can tell is with meaning free love but not free love like theim from the 70s we just love anything that moves or doesn't move and always connected with some type of immorality no senseless love baseless love free love whatever you want to call it however it translates is in so many words loving another person enough to care about them even when they don't care about you caring about them even if it doesn't benefit you caring about them enough to ask even if it doesn't look like they're interested in fact more times than not if they're struggling financially they want you to care and they're looking for your care but maybe you don't want to care because it's going to hurt your pocket if they're hurting physically the best you can do is you okay what are you going to do if they're hurting physically you see somebody in pain what are you going to do you okay you think that helps somebody I promise you you ask me if I'm okay it doesn't help me you ask anybody in P you okay it doesn't help any it just shows you care thank you for caring but it doesn't actually help in anything like he's still going to stay in pain after you ask them sometimes they're in so much pain they don't want to answer so but they want some to to say something hopefully maybe somebody cares you don't just die on a street or something but when somebody's struggling spiritually more times they're not they don't want you to ask them more times they not they want to be left alone unless you agree with them so that means that in order to show you have to care about a person even when he doesn't care about himself and you have to be a little bit of aan sometimes you have to push yourself in because you have to care about him because he doesn't care about himself because he doesn't care about himself and he's in so many words ruining his own life and making all of the worst possible decisions that are against theem and building himself a life that's not worth living you have to care about him so what are such examples one time a group of a rich people very rich people that decided to go to is to see different things and at one point they went to yes yes at the time led by ranl one of the but also a person that suffered an enormous amount of pain an enormous amount of pain having a uh serious illness and uh visibly suffering from his Parkinson's where it was things that were out of his control but if you ever looked at his face you're always going to seem happy so these rich people they uh came TOA it's an impressive Isa four five, imagine you have a school 5,000 people sitting in one room a g so they came they see where can we see the oh you have to go to his house get they sit the r at the time was in pain so they had to wait for him for a little bit but eventually they got and they sat in front of the r and uh the r asks these group of rich people what did you learn from the Holocaust what did you learn from the Holocaust so one guy says never again we have to have weapons iron doome IDF protect ourselves next one says hate is very bad shouldn't hate people there's no reason to hate people other one says different excuse different reasons so says you know what I learned I learned that when you love somebody and you care about them for no reason you can find a way to share a blanket among three or four people even if the blanket usually won't fit one person that's what I learned if you don't like somebody the whole room is not going to be enough but when you like somebody even if he doesn't like you but because you like him because you're on the same team you could find a way to share a blanket among three people so after that they left impressed by the ISA and one of them stayed behind s was very very impressed by Yesa by and uh I want to donate to your Yesa I want to donate to Yesa says he you go he gives him a check the ra opens a check it's blank check says write any amount you want now this yes you should know this is a $2 million a month budget we're not talking about a little Yesa you need maybe 10 20 30 40 $50,000 talk about two you have 4,000 people big budget write a check cuz either way you need millions of dollars write a check so the says to him this is mine said yeah yeah yeah any any amount you want he goes I can do anything I want with this check he goes yeah anything you want takes pent wres $1,800 and he gives it back to him he says go to my dear friend he's a r he lives down the street go buy from him cuz no what for no no no this is a uh for you for no no you said it's for me it's my check right I can write whatever I want go by yourself goodine goodine cost a little bit of money cost $1,800 my friend he lives down the street knock on his door tell me I'll give you a good feeling who told the story not the r the guy that gave the check he was the founder of Starbucks a guy that really had the ability to write a blank check now the r could have told him you know what I could I need 10 million could have taken 10 million I need 20 million could have taken 20 100 million his net worth ISO but all the r cares about is go get yourself someing why you don't have a keepon surely you don't have feeling go get yourself good feeling that's means that sometimes you have to look at things beyond your own interest in fact all the time you have to look at things beyond your own interest and it's very very difficult for people to look at anything beyond themselves because naturally we are selfish creatures we want to eat what we want to eat we want to go to where we want to go we want to pray the way we want to pray and many times we do things not necessarily because they're right or wrong but because it's fits us you know one of the good things that's a big difference for example if you go to a sh like this for example a barkarian Sho most people that come here all the time barkarian if you go to there's one in New York big bukari and Sh a few of them over there most of the people there are bharian surely there always going to be ups and downs different people disagreeing but overall everybody has overall the same understanding this is how we pray this is what we do finished but then sometimes you go to regular spartic shs where you have walks of all he's from Egypt he's from tesia he's from Baghdad he's from this he's from that you know what happens over there chaos every Shabbat there's a fight why is there a fight no no no no read it Yi I don't want Yushi I want this one no one agrees how the B is going to read the Tor no one agrees because he wants it to read thei way he wants it to read the Moroccan way he wants it to read the other way and the problem is why because they all have different Traditions but what's the real truth the truth is everyone looks at it from their own perspective from their own perspective it's very difficult it's very difficult to have a United sh when everyone's looking at it from their own perspective if we're going to turn the next into a day of it can't be by continuing to do what we're doing because obviously it's not working is whether it's in America or or anywhere else in the world for the most part is not becoming more religious the Venom of the secular world is well into the religious world it's affecting it in many many ways people have no idea what's right or wrong both in a religious world and the non-religious world that people are having a very difficult time gluing themselves to AEM and many times you see that people are having spiritual crisis but no one loves them enough to help them many times it's because they were Tau that mind your own business don't judge him don't tell him what to do you worry about you he'll worry about him but if you worry about you and he worries about him and he worries about him and he worries about him you know what's going to happen we're all going to turn into G because I'm has a it says all of are obligated to each other we all obligated to each other where it doesn't really matter if I like you if you're Moroccan or if you're Ash or or iFish or you're this or that the fact that we both have the same Father in Heaven automatically obligates me obligates me to care about your spiritual status even when you don't care in fact even more when you don't care because you're financial status if I could help you i' be more than happy to but that's not necessarily going to buy you a if I give you some money and you're able to buy some bread okay so you'll live another few days but if you use the money that I gave you to go gamble in a Cino then you're going to buy yourself a bigger Gan it's not going to help you but if I help you to do chuva if I help you to learn T if I help you to do that can get you but that also means that I have to care about your spiritual status because you're not going to come to me and tell me listen I'm having some amuna problems listen I'm having some problems understanding this why do I have to keep I'm already in Israel yeah but it's a vacation yeah it's vacation vacation I'm there already two months you have to keep y why that's unless you live there you have to keep y two days of Y yeah but isn't there this no no there isn't so unless you come to me and you tell me there's no way to know which means what which means I have to go to you because many times what do people do they just assume they assume that they made the right decision one guy tells me listen I uh heard your scared me to death I found myself a wife so oh I don't know just um I wanted to ask you something is it okay that uh she's not a Christian well that's okay if she's not a Christian but she's a Jew right goes well not so much really no not not exactly Jewish but she's not Idol worshiper make if she's not Jewish that's a problem well listen she's a noahide said no she doesn't worship idols I said you're not alled to be with her but listen you said that it should keep me it's keep she's keeping me away from a sin you know you said you know a guy needs to stay you know so I'm not going to sin at least I said no no now it's double sin now it's wasting seat and on top of it it's Aya what you telling me I'm still in trouble I said no you're in double trouble before you were in trouble alone you were in trouble now you're in double trouble why didn't you come to the R why don't you go ask if this is okay I don't know I just assume that since she's not can't assume you have to see what the is you have to see what the is you have to see and the reality is is that 99% of the time people are not going to ask because they assume they made the right decisions this happens every day if you look at him looks like a religious person talk to him sounds like a religious person you know how many times this happened to me no less than a half a dozen times I see a guy that went to Yesa he's married to a non-jew but because he thinks that since they're not married married like they didn't go to court and they're just like boyfriend girlfriend it's not so bad and since they're old already and they're not trying to have kids so it's not so bad people assume which means that if we do not go out of our way to go help people that are in spiritual crisis they will stay that way they'll stay that way they're not going to change now many times you see that the act very differently than we do where their main concern is their Torah their main concern is their tah that's what they spend their all time but you would think oh so if they're learning so much they don't care about the exact opposite they learn the Tor in order to help am so for example Shalom one time biy wanted to come visit him BB he doesn't walk around alone he has a whole team with him he has a you know like a typical president has all staff of people that follow him to protect him then you have the news this the all the that follow everybody comes he can't even go to the store without a whole Entourage of people so they show up to Ra's house and they see is in the middle of a writing a chva writing a cha so is walking around with a lot of people still writing a cha he's learning he's got in front of him writing writing writing writing so one of the people that helps says you want me to tell the that you here he goes no this is unbelievable what he doesn't realize we're here cu no he's learning he's learning he doesn't realize you're here go well how long is that going to last he goes it's going to go on for a long time unless we tell him you can sit here for two weeks he goes let's see how long it's going to last so they wait and they wait and they wait and they wait and they have a video of this on the internet they wait for a while one of the helpers already starts feeling bad the media there's a lot of people there is writing he doesn't realize they're there he's in his world he's in his Torah world one of the help and says okay okay let me let me just go tell him okay it's enough for already it's not Amusement comes to oh okay okay finishes writing okay yeah yeah so somebody that gets to that point learns that kind of Torah you would say this person doesn't have any connection to this world better yet when he already got in his later years he had a health problem and a doctor said that he has to have a surgery oh you had to have a surgery and but the doctors told his uh children that because of his age they're scared to do the surgery because it requires anesthesia and his age it's so risky to give anesthesia he may not wake up so they don't know what to do now surgery it's not like a little needle and a uh you know surgery is cutting the meat this that worse than what you do for your steak worse than what you guys are going to do tonight when you get home to eat can't eat meat tonight by the way tomorrow night meat is for Shabbat not for us far that we keep also to the tent but surgery hurts so they come to the sons and they tell them listen we don't know what to do so the sons come come to the father comes to and says ABA what do you want to do he says no problem just tell them to tell me five minutes before they want to start the surgery tell them five minutes and they could do whatever they want after five minutes okay so the same story is also told about ra by the way and I believe there's one other one other sadik that I heard the story I just don't remember the name so doctors are there he's in the surgery room he's sitting there and he they tell them okay you have five minutes okay Aya starts going into a deep thought about a certain minute two minutes five minutes doctors don't know what to do he didn't they didn't do anything but you poke somebody it's going to hurt CU in the beginning they were scared to do anything but they saw no matter what they're doing he's not here they performed the entire surgery cutting the meat going inside the body surgery not two minutes we're talking about several hour hours several hours of cutting the body this that serious surgery finish everything sew everything back up finished he's still like this nothing changed hasn't moved going studying one of the sons okay it's finished finished ABA ABA the doctor you can wake up he goes no yes start the surgery already he said no no what start the surgery finished cuz what finished I didn't feel anything what fin you sure yeah yeah I will look at you oh okay okay so a person like this that gets their mind into such a high level of Kusa you would think this person has nothing to do with the rest of us he doesn't care about anybody's spiritual status he doesn't care about opposite one time a woman calls the house of crying so I wanted to see the r can't see the r sorry the r is studying no no but I need to see the r no she comes to the house anyway I need to see the can't happens to see yeah yeah no no come on here's know this woman there's know this woman they start talking and he starts crying with her for over an hour does Noah she tells her tells him her problems and he starts crying with her for an hour why we're part of the same team part of the same people she's having a spiritual crisis how is that not going to make you cry the same thing goes for all of theik all of theik worried so much about the rest of and they utiliz their Torah in order to do it there was nothing that would stop them from doing it now many times one of the things that hold us back is when we have our own problems so you're so enamored in your own problems it's hard for you to think about somebody else's problems s but that's what is means that you have to put your own problems aside and in order to deal with other people's problems because the fact that you have a problem doesn't mean that he has to suffer the wife of the was known as a and what one of the things she would do is she would give money to poor people at at funerals funerals people would come and there's always poor people there and she would give the money she'd collect and give the money so as you would have it one of her own sons died one of the kids died and there was a funeral and at the funeral usually where you see funeral everybody's crying they see the raban like normal she sees the poor people she goes over there and she gives the money gives the money gives the money one of the people says to the ran your son just died shouldn't you deal with the Le for your own son she says my son died why does he have to suffer why do the poor people have to suffer because my son died they know me that I give during the funerals what's the yeah but you okay me I have a problem okay I have a problem it doesn't mean his problem is going to be solved that way that's means that you have to go out of your way in order to help the other which includes putting your own problems aside if you have the ability to help another person that means that wants you to help them many times we ask oh should I do this should I not do it generally speaking when it comes to spirituality if you have the ability to do it do it that's whym is sending you so for example a lot of times people ask me oh you know I don't know if I should send a sh to this guy maybe I'll get offended because he doesn't keep Shabbat and you spoke about Shabbat in this lecture how how do you know if you should send a lecture or not what's the gauge how do you figure that out if you should send a lecture about Shabbat to your friend at Shabbat how do you know very simple if you have his phone number and coincidentally you also have a finger and you can press the send button you send it that's all you need the rest of the calculations leave it to the Satan let them do calculations we don't do calculations like that e doesn't keep Shabbat you have a finger you have a lecture you have his phone number send the lecture why what do you have to lose oh maybe he'll get offended from what from you trying to help him from you trying to help him he's going to get offended yeah because last time I sent him something he said stop sending me stuff you did stop sending him stuff you haven't sent him anything in a week so send him now something new why because the reality is when you care about another person when it's real you start look looking at people and you start realizing if he doesn't change if she doesn't change only bad follows this when a person lives their life without AEM in their life without keeping Shabbat without learning to without doing without being an honest person without doing all of the things that says we have to do when a person lives a life that's simply careless and he lives no different than theim for sure they're going to lose any end you as his friend as his colleague as his brother as his sister as his nephew needs whoever you are you because you care and you want to show him you have to push you have to be a little you have to get them to at the very least review the other side so they can make an educated decision and in order to overcome your own that tells you no maybe I shouldn't send it maybe I shouldn't invite him maybe this maybe that in order for you to overcome your you need means that it doesn't even make sense for me to do this because I know that after I send this he's probably going to yell at me I know that after I send this he's probably going to get upset at me he's not going to invite me to his bar mitzvah he's not going to invite me to his kids wedding he's not going to you know invite me to the next Sim that he has because I'm worried about his spirituality truth it is you should still do it why because no matter what you lose as a result of it you're always going to gain with hem you're always going to gain with hem now somebody came to one time and told him listen Rob I have a friend that's not religious but he says he doesn't want to hear about it what do I do so the Shalom says says your friend is like a person that's a roommate of somebody who's really upset and comes back home from work and he tells you listen I'm tired I'm frustrated don't wake me up I'm going to sleep don't wake me up I don't care what happens you get upset that he's talking to you this way you leave the house as you leave the house you walk down the stairs you start smelling smoke start smelling smoke fire you turn around you see that there's a fire now of course your friend although he made you really really upset and if it was up to you you wouldn't want to talk to him for the rest of his life after such a nasty attitude what are you going to do you're going to run upstairs and wake him up now after you wake him up he's going to tell you hey hey I told you not to wake me up I told you not to wake me up I told you I'm going to sleep leave me alone and you're going to tell him listen whatever you want to say fine it's there's a fire here is he still going to be upset at you is he still going to be upset you after you woke him up because there's a fire no why not because you saved his life before when he didn't know there was a fire of course he's upset but one day he's going to wake up one day you're going to show him something that's going to wake him up and he's going to realize that he is on fire he is married to a non-jewish person and he's a Jew he's eating non kosher food he's learning things that he's not allowed to he's doing things that are forbidden and so on and so forth and he doesn't realize that he's on fire or he's his future is very fiery he doesn't know until one day you wake him up it may take you one video 20 videos 100 one class 100 who knows but the point is at some point he will wake up at some point she will wake up and she's not going to be upset at you anymore why cuz you're going to realize all you're trying to do is save their life all you're trying to do is save their life now sometimes they won't want to admit it because they have an ego and they don't like to be wrong and you don't like to be wrong and nobody likes to be wrong and that's also where comes in if you did it because you care you care about his more than you care about his and more than you care about your then you won't care if he doesn't say thank you then you won't care if he doesn't even give you the the credit in fact you won't even care if he pretends like he's always been this way why you did your job you did your job he's going to go to heaven you move on with your life next customer but if you did it because you want to get something out of it it's going to destroy you not to get the credit that he's not saying oh thank you for saving me every single time he sees you there's a wedding for his daughter to some sadik you want him to give you a special announcement listen I want you to know my friend my my daughter wouldn't be here she wouldn't marri this sadik if it was for my friend who helped me do CH 20 years ago that's what type of announcement you want thank you I want you to know if that's what you're looking for it's not good that's not means no matter what simply want to do it because it's the right thing to do it's the right thing to do now how do we get to such a point first and foremost you have to learn toah because even to help people do cha you have to have some Merit the some doesn't want to give this type of reward to a person just because you have to really want to help people you have to really want to work and to do that you have to learn to you have to know right and wrong you have to know what's allowed what's not allowed and so on and so forth now second thing is you have to be able to overcome your own obstacles like I said and pretty much look past them one of the examples is a story by um was a big and his son ra M also ended up becoming but when uh Ra mik was a little boy he says that uh because his father was an a learning all the time he didn't work a regular job so they were constantly struggling and one day the his mom told him we don't have any food there's no food it's not like today where you don't have the dish that you like but you have 87 other dishes simply nothing you open a fridge empty those days not even a fridge anyway there's no food what do we do as you would have it somebody knocks on the door yes some guy looks like an Arab yeah I can help you oh I'm uh here to uh sell you a chicken a nice chicken we're sorry uh we don't have any money oh it's okay I'll take I you you pay me back whenever you want yeah yeah yeah you take the chicken pay whatever you want so says to his mom don't take it don't take it why not what kind of person is he he doesn't even know you he's going to give you a chicken without you paying him he probably stole it he's trying to get rid of the goods how he stole it why is he going to give you a chicken for no reason he doesn't know you say yeah we have any food she didn't listen to him so okay fine give it the chicken few Days Later comes back hello yeah yeah I have a uh chicken and some flour for you yeah I'm sorry still don't have any money no don't worry it's okay you can take it sure IMA IMA don't take he's a thief the guy's a gav what he giving you nobody has this guy it's a gav this guy don't take it no come on okay thank you thank you few days later 3 weeks have passed already comes back again oh listen I have some chickens some flour and some other stuff oh fruits oh yeah I don't have any money s up S up you go go it's okay it's okay you pay me I know you you pay me you pay me the money so that Shabbat she had everything for Shabbat fruits vegetables meat so she set up Shabbat now this Shabbat the other times there was a little bit they made it but this time she had the guy gave us so much stuff so she figured maybe the r is going to notice finally he's going to ask where we getting this he never asked where we're getting the food so they're sitting on Shabbat and ra is waiting for off to to say something does say she says don't you wonder where we get the food or nothing cuz no I know already say what do you mean you know I know I know know already goes what do you know goes I know I know everything I know everything that's happening go how do you know go because is coming to the three three times already he keeps telling me that M keeps calling G he's coming already to the col for a month already telling me that M keeps calling a gav so when when a person when a person is so enamored in Tor is going to send him help but that doesn't mean he doesn't have any tests so when you care about is and you want to help them do CH get Clos to do all these different things you have to overcome your own tests so if you have your own struggle your own Financial struggle your own marriage struggle your own this your own that that doesn't mean that other people should suffer is one of those things where we're forced to get ourselves out of our own head and focus on what's in front of us if anybody sent in front of you and you have the opportunity to help him y you have to go for it when it comes to people have a much harder time than they do when it comes to money cuz usually with money you say listen the guy's struggling he's asking for help so if you have the money and you're generous you give him the money when it comes to people are a little bit more cautious because they figure listen maybe he has a rub already maybe he has this maybe he has that now we've talked about already that sometimes you have people that learn or they think they know but many times they're still doing the wrong thing like the example I just gave you tonight in you're going to do something that we do every day you're gonna read in it says he pays retribution to all of the enemies of of our souls meaning a punishment at some point has to come to all the people all the things that are enemies of our souls sometimes the enemies of our souls are a choice of friends sometimes our enemies of our souls are different people that we view As Leaders so that also means that even with you still have to be picky with you who you help because sometimes there are certain people you're not allowed to help them certain people are not all to love them why because they're anti Torah there's certain people they're just ignorant they don't know may he's driving on Shabbat because he doesn't think it's a big deal that's not anti that's just an ignorant person that's the vast majority of am is they may know that you have to keep Shabbat but they don't know the significance of violating it they figure it's like maybe going over the speed limit maybe you know okay so it says 65 and I went 75 what's the Worst That Could Happen the guy's going to give me a $500 ticket okay so's going to give me $500 ticket every uh every month every week and when I go up to sh say I don't have any money what do you want I don't have any money that's what people think people think it's like a you know parking ticket maybe when you actually let them know listen no no no it's not a parking ticket it's not even a trafficate it's not even a revoke of your license violating Shabbat is a very big deal and you give him some details all of a sudden guy's going to be much more receptive now if the guy is ignorant you have to do whatever you can to help him but then there are certain people that are empty they like to make fun of the Torah they like to go against the Torah even if you tell them and you explain to them and sometimes they actually get even worse if you tell them people like this there's no there people that are empti to that point and mo the there's no with them you have to go somewhere else why there's just too many people that are much easier customers there's no need for you to go and fight this guy for you know people say oh listen why don't you debate why would I debate oh listen you know because he has a different idea than you I said how many people going to do CH as a result of this debate no but it's entertaining I said for entertainment go to Hollywood the goal is to help people do Chua not entertain people and it's not about skills I've been debating for 20 years it's not about skills it's about what's the point of what you're doing if you look at you have a certain amount of time every day to spend helping people to fulfill theah you don't have the whole day you have a certain window every day that means you should not waste that time on somebody that is empty what you're doing go look for an easier customers so all of those different people that like to argue religion just for the sake of arguing worse customers in the world all of those people that already think they know everything terrible customer who should you go to people that are completely ignorant don't know much but still respectable there's a lot of them in fact you'll even find them inside the religious World many time I meet people they look a certain way I think that they're extremely religious they start talking they start saying single things they don't even know the basics of they don't know the basics of Judaism many times even though they look more religious than anybody else in this room why cuz looks are deceiving looks are not exactly always a representation of what somebody is right now there are certain people in government office in New York in other places that call themselves religious Jews they call themselves religious Jews but instead of helping the yes deal with the crisis that's happening from the New York New York government that's trying to force the to change the teachings alt together to have seven hours of SE study pretty much destroying the instead of these people actually fighting against the government say listen leave the yes alone the religion and state is should be that separate right you know what they did they're the ones that brought the problem to the to the government they're the ones that went to Congress and there's videos of this and they're proud of this that's what they're they're doing they went to Congress said listen we here to complain that these yes are not following your government's rules they're not teaching secular studies they're not teaching social studies they're not teaching this and that they're only teaching 90 minutes a a day so what happened the government said oh yeah okay good okay we're going to shut them all down we're going to cut out the funding now if you look at these people they look religious keep up be everything another group of people that are in the government they have a occupation where all day they're for they're forcing people to share their opinion of what they want to go into law what do they want to go into law things that promote homosexuality things that promote things that are perverted and against the Torah why because if this goes in something else that they want will go in and therefore now you look at them say well these are religious people how are they doing this looks could be deceiving looks could be deceiving doesn't somebody looks religious acts religious conceiving religious things doesn't mean anything how do you know if somebody's religious how they act how they act looks is only a small part of it so when you know that there's going to be a lot of people that are ignorant because they're seeing all types of versions of religious people they're seeing the good version they're seeing the not so good version they're seeing the real one they're seeing the fake one so surely anyone that's not already in is confused cuz he's not really sure which one is the reality and which one is an exceptional case which one is the one that that's the norm and which one is that because sometimes some people are so unfortunate that most of the people that they meet are the fakers I can tell you that for the first 30 years of my life all I met was fakers they would come to my office three times a week and the problem is is that sometimes you think that's the standard and it's not how do you know what's Judaism you have to learn to yourself Jews are not always the best representation of Judaism the only representation of Judaism is in to itself so that means you have to learn yourself you have to double check you have to have your R and so on and so forth but that also means that you have to prepare yourself that the next time you approach your friend your colleague another guy in the Manan another guy in the community you know them you don't know them already know that this guy if he's not religious there's a reason for it so if he's a little defensive don't be surprised don't be surprised why cuz he probably got offended by somebody maybe he got hurt by somebody maybe saw the wrong impression of what Judaism is at some point so you have to go there prepared with these tools you have to go prepared that okay this guy already probably has a warped version of what Judaism is that's the reason why he's not religious he's not religious because he hates God he's not religious because he probably has the wrong version of what Judaism is what T is that's why he's not religious so you have to already go into is prepared now that means that you have to prepare yourself for a headache why would you want to do that if not you're not going to make any money out of it sometimes he's not going to like you as a result of you doing it sometimes I'll love you and he'll become yourid but sometimes he'll hate you sometimes he'll tell you go fly kite sometimes they'll even use some foul language you have to be now in the business world if you want to talk to me you have to pay me $3,000 for one hour but in kiru it's free why in the business it's about money in business is money if you're going to go work in business you have to think how much you're going to make for spending this amount of time you have to look at what's worth it for you certain customers he's going to make me a 000 so other customer is going to make me $10,000 which customer do you go to if you're a good businessman you go to $10,000 guy why because that's where you're going to make more money now you could be a superhero and say no no no but the other guy is a much nicer person okay good luck with that you're not going to succeed in business in business you go where there's profits in to it's not where there's profits in to is where you needed where can I be most successful in helping people do cha now every single person can be a some people can do it by speaking some people could do it by their skill set whether it's computers or Graphics or whatever it is all types of skills people have skills utilize your skills both for your business and for tah some people can do it by inviting people to Sho some people can do it by arranging events some people people can do it in all types of ways that you can use your creativity to do it why would you do it it's not for a profit it's not for money and anyone that says yeah yeah but it's it's Heaven yeah all that's great but when you have a tough customer suddenly you forget all that stuff so that means that the only thing that's going to keep you coming back is loving more than sometimes you even love yourself because that means that you have to get yourself to do something that's not profitable at least nothing that you can see in order to help other people because you know that if you don't do it it's very likely nobody else will either because everyone else is going to make the same excuse you're making their excuse is they're busy with work so if you say you're busy with work they don't need to be un busy why should I do it you do it if you say listen I don't have the time I don't have the time either nobody has the time it's amazing how no matter how much technological developments we have that make the world more efficient we have less time Shalom used to like talking about how no matter what we did the never left where he says when the washing machine was first released people who are enamored by it it's like wow look how much time we're going to save instead of washing the clothes with our hands is going to be a washing machine oh that's amazing how much time you save by not having to go to wash the clothes you have a washing machine it's hours of time we're going to have so much time I going to be able to relax be able to work I'm be able to be with the kids I'm going to be able to to learn I going be able to do all these different things that I never had time to do because I was washing clothes guess what in America today it's completely standard to have a washer and a dryer other countries it's not so standard some yes some no but yet nobody has any time with the washer and a dryer and sometimes people have two no time no time why yet tells you listen yeah you save the time with the washer and dryer but does that means you have other stuff to do and other stuff to do and other stuff to do so if you're going to wait to finally have time and then you're going to make a lecture and then you're going to arrange an event and then you're going to go and give out CDs and then you're going to go help people do CH time's never going to be you're going to make the excuse he's going to make the excuse everybody's going to have the excuse nobody has any time means you simply have to make time because it becomes a priority in your life when you make the Torah a priority in your life it's not just the Torah that you learned for yourself to learn more to learn more to learn more to it's not just about that it's also to live the Torah it's to live the Torah it's actually to look at the Torah and say okay how could I do this how could I do okay I learned this oh wow it's amazing how could I do it how could I apply this to today that's what learning to is it's not just looking at things which sometimes you see it's different uh people learning together and they go back and forth of what his opinion is and that opinion is and his opinion is and an hour and a half they're talking about some is not even relevant to today somean that was 2,000 years ago at the BET mikdash and it's good to learn it for for the sake of learning but that shouldn't be your foundation it should be part of your learning but sometimes people like to toil toil and toil in things that are inconsequential they call P where they just go back for the sake of learning instead of learning things that you could apply to your life whether it's m or specific or whatever it is the key to your learning should be learn to do learn to do so you're learning okay how could I do this can I do this how could I do it how could I apply this today how could I apply this to my how could I apply this to my Shabbat how could I apply this to my how could I apply this to my day-to-day how could I do all these different things person learns to that way he'll succeed but if a learn if a person learns T in a selfish way just for the sake of his own learning says a person that learns tah just for his own learning but never to teach others it's like a person who does not have a God why is it like a person doesn't have a God say because learning Torah the first thing you're supposed to learn from it is about Hashem if you don't believe in Hashem go back to page one now you believe in Hashem okay so now you believe in hm what are you what are you supposed to do now emulate AEM be like Hashem whatever his character traits are you be like him what's the first character trait we all know about AEM aside from the fact that he's awesome and he's great and he's amazing and he's there's no enough description but what do we know he gives and never receives he's kind so if after learning T you've gone through the sh a few times you've gone through the you've done different things you're good you got it and you still don't share your Tor that means that you're learning the Torah like it's a history book because the point of your learning is supposed to be to emulate AEM and if emulating hem doesn't mean to you sharing the Torah that means you haven't learned about Hashem you learned about something else you learn about something else so so that that way when a person learns the par CH what should be his goal his goal first to be to understand second goal should be teaching to himself third is to share with his family or her family then whoever else and little by little spread the T to people that are knowledgeable people that are less knowledgeable people that don't know anything little by little trying to get to know more and more about that's that type of is not really it's not really free because it it's a lot of headache but it's worth it because then you start seeing one guy change one couple another couple another family another few families another few people get married to good people so on and so what before you know it you build communities in different places of different people and you see how people transform their life if every single person that's watching this Sho here live and wherever simply take on himself you know what this year from this TSH till next TSH I'm going to do everything possible to get at least 10 people to do Chua at least 10 people I'm going to get them to start learning T you know every day for at least 15 minutes that's my goal 10 people that means almost one a month how could I do it some people could do it because they have good speaking skills they're good talkers instead of talking to her on the phone for 5 hours about the mall talk to her about instead of talking to him about sports and all of these athletes making a lot of money and losing it talk to him about you use your time that you already have anyway talk about or share the or bring him to the or share the CDs or do whatever you can to help other people do Chua if every single person does that you're going to have literally tens and tens of thousands of people do chuva over the next here that could literally change the that's already on this world all of the horrible things that are happening in this world whether it's the possibilities of War poverty Great Depression recessions disease all types of horrible things are literally on the surface there's like it's like a black cloud all over the world people are scared to leave their house but at the same token they can't stay inside anymore they're going crazy no one want knows what to do no one knows if to invest not to invest go to work don't go to work get married don't get married everyone is scared Jews and Gentiles alike there's a Revolt everywhere in is there's all types of marches in America there's all types of marches you're not there's certain places in America you're not allowed to walk around with an American flag even though it's America in Israel Shalom you walk around like a religious person the world is boiling why there's less AEM here there's less AEM because people are not learning people are not doing and even the ones that are religious everybody's worrying about thems most people they worry about themselves maybe their kid maybe their daughter here and there no one loves each other to the extent where even if you don't know him you care about his spiritual status in order for us to have this horrible decree change we have to change we have to start caring about everybody that we don't know not only the people that we know but not about their pocket about their spiritual status because that's the only thing that cares about the pocket part is the one that takes care of it if we each take initiative to actually start helping people do chuva a lot of things are going to change some people are busy making money so you can use the money you donate we help people do chuva we share more CDs we do more lectures some people they have a certain unique skill use that skill some people have a certain ability to bring people they networkers they know a lot of people AR range cheing everybody can do something but always know that in order for that to succeed it has to come has to be free it has to be because you care about him or or her even though they don't care about you if you do it that way you'll succeed be next year we'll see each other again but under better conditions where's decrees are much better than they are today where a lot more of are closer to him and hopefully hopefully we have the Merit to see [Music]