Unfaithfulness of Israel and the Faithfulness of Jacob Rabbi Yitzchak Breitowitz VaYeitzei 5778

[Music] hi everybody so today we're looking at the haftorah or parts of a yes a this is a partial that has many many events it actually covers a period of over 20 years in the life of Yaakov Aveeno these are the years that he is away from marriage Israel these are the years in which he marries the people that he marries these are the years that he suffers the deception of love on and these are the years that all of the tribes are born except for Benjamin who was not born until Yaakov comes back to Eretz Israel at which point Raquel dies in childbirth so many many things do happen here and the parsha begins with Yoko fleeing for his life remember according to her glance penology he is 63 years old he is not a youngster at the time that he took the Bravo's he is without wife he is without a child obviously according to the Midrash he has been stripped of all of his possessions so he's penniless he's poverty-stricken he feels he will never see his father again although the MYSA he took lives longer than everybody thought he in fact never sees his mother again he's leaving the holiness of marriage is real he is leaving the spiritual environment of the home of the of us and he is going to a place in which he is really running you might say on some level from the frying pan to the fire because in Eretz Israel he faces the physical threat of the Asaph who wants to kill him but in lavon's house he's going to face the threat of morality but rather being corrupted and there is a deep sense that Yaakov was very very frightened of what the environment in loved ones house will do to him and his eventual family in a very spiritual way you know to give you a historical analog in the 19th century during the Napoleonic Wars when Napoleon was turning towards Russia there was a big big mullahs among the Hasidic rabbis of Europe should we pray for the victory of Napoleon or the victory of the Tsar now the Jews in Czarist Russia at the time we're under extreme conditions of oppression poverty oppression anti-semitism pogroms was a very very very difficult thing so most of the Hasidic rabbi says listen we ought to pray for Napoleon because Napoleon will promises emancipation civil rights freedom Economic Opportunity but the one major exception was the alter rebbe the first dollar voucher every eruption airs almond of Leo day the ballot Anja where he actually said as bad as the bazaar is we are better off with desire than will be with Napoleon because desire afflicts our bodies with taxation with is a rose with dangers with explosions if you remember the Jews were confined in an area called The Pale of Settlement and that area would changed a lot so often juice after what brutes themselves with taking done almost none of their positions and they had very little start up with so the Czar destroys our body but Napoleon's gift of freedom will destroy our soul and because of this it is actually recorded that Russian ears almond actually aided the Czarist armies and fundraising and and the like very very interesting 100 years or so later after the communist revolution the Communists labeled the whole Schneerson family as imperialists and counter revolutionaries because they were considered to be friends of bizarre and that was kind of the trumped up charge meant many other things as well that they had against Habad and Andalite but here we have somewhat of a similar idea and that is that a sub represents the physical threat to the Jew but Loveland represents the assimilationist threat to the jib in which love on comes to Yaakov and the guise of a brother the guise of a friends and the fact that Russia points out loved ones intimation that were friends and we're brethren means you know I'm a trickster just like you I have a fraudulent person just like you we can do wonderful things together as coach eaters you have to understand how painful that is booyaka and how much he's afraid so that is really generally what the part is talking about the idea of how to survive in in the Gullah sand-like now the habit area itself is taken from the Navi Hosea so before we look in the actual text of the haftorah I need to give you a little bit of a biographical sketch of Oh Jaya and some of the priests story that appears before this top story this up Torah is towards the very end of the book Oh Shia again not to be confused with you Shia or yahushua this is ho Shia Oh Shia was a prophet to the Northern Kingdom of Israel remember that after the death of melech the Jewish nation was divided into two nations the ten tribes were to the north and they were called malkos Yisrael and their capital was shown round and the kings of Malka Israel were from the tribe of Ephraim so yo yo save as it were had malucia for the ten tribes the southern kingdom were the successors of Malthus based of it and they had all they had was was much smaller they only had the tribes of Yehuda the tribes of Benjamin and they had the Kohanim and Levine that were there and alive but of course the one thing they did have was they had rushan I am and they had of course the base of McNish obviously many many Jews even to the north would want to visit Jewish a lion and bring corbino's to the base and make - but somewhat like east and west berlin yerevan been Nevada was the first king of the northern kingdom placed guards armed guards on the roads not allowing people to go and in its place in base Ale which is in the Sham Rome he put up two golden calves and paralleling what we said in the desert Allah ello haka Israel these are your God's o Israel so Hosea is a lovely - the Northern Kingdom and Hosea actually is at the very end of the Northern Kingdom that this is shortly before the ten tribes are going to be exiled by a Syrian auntie castigates them for many many sins he casts vacant cats against them for idolatry but he has an interesting spin on the idolatry you know the typical way a prophets talks to people who are worshiping idols is you are behaving like the nations of the world when you have a special mission Hosea pitches it on a kind of different level Hosea says you are much worse than the nations of the world because the nations of the world are at least loyal to the God they believe in and you switch alliances indiscriminately so it's interesting that Hosea does not attack idolatry as a theological city he attacks it as a disloyalty why aren't you loyal and faith and indeed the beginning of crochet is quite striking in the very beginning of Oh Shia we read that Oh Shia is commanded to marry a well-known prostitute her name was Gomer and she was very well known as a zona and this great prophet who must have been a very holy person to be a prophet was commanded to marry this president and he obeys the Word of God he marries the prostitute and she continues to practice her trade even after marriage and at some point I tell so sure you must divorce her because she's an unfaithful wife who has committed adultery and toshe essentially begs God for a dispensation and it's hard to understand at first glance what is this story about what is going on now there are some foursome that say that this is not this is not a true story in other words this was a prophetic dream that he had and we're going to see that God was communicating a certain message by a dream sequence in which he dreamt that he married this prostitute and was told to divorce her and he couldn't other we showed him understand that this was a literal event but whether it was a dream prophecy or whether it was a literal event what exactly is the meaning of that story what is the significance why would it be told to marry a prostitute so because I'll give us a very important backstory which puts a perspective and what is going on with oh sure yeah and that is when Hashem is telling oh sure go to the ten tribes give them Moosa give them total uh tell them to correct their ways and tell them to do children Oh Shia actually said back to what Coach Murphy no coach Murphy aren't you tired of having to go through this all the time drop them replace the Jewish people or at least replace the ten tribes make a covenant with another nation the opposite of Moshe a famous response by the hater-aide oh when Hashem said to Moshe Rabbeinu I will erase them from my book and I will make a special covenant with you Moshe a vain who says if you're taking them out of the Covenant I want to be taken out as well I don't want the special deal Oh Shia of course he's not necessarily talking about a special deal for him but I think about our kids basically telling a coach Bartow just drop these people they're disloyal door unfaithful they're promiscuous why do you continue to be involved with them so I sure wanted Hosea to internalize the feelings of being deeply in love with a person that is promiscuous and unfaithful she marries a prostitute one could imagine that he was not initially attracted to her certainly Hermes Oh sir you know whatever it would be one would assume but what happened was somehow he fell very very deeply in love with her and try to purchase loyalty in spite of her promiscuity in spite of her apparent indifference to their marriage and his needs and when God says okay okay you had your fling time to get rid of it oh she is sad I can't and God says now you know my problem now you know what I'm going the Jewish people and God in the Hosea imagery it's interesting and in many parts of the new VM and even in the Torah we are the children of Hashem Hoshea asymmetry is not one of parent and child Hoshea asymmetry is one of husband and wife that's another recurring image and therefore the Jewish people are described in RJ's prophecy as an unfaithful wife who commits adultery and the normal halakha is that's the Halawa an unfaithful wife that commits adultery must receive they get it's interesting issue a man cannot forgive a joke you know I mean I'm not giving a locker here what what is very very interesting is that they mentioned I just mentioned this that's often the way post can deal with issues of adultery is by in by interesting applications of the rules of evidence because here is the thing if a woman tells her husband she committed adultery how logically she's not necessarily believed because they aren't witnesses if how luckily she's not necessarily believed this is actually a mechanism that allows the husband to stay married to his wife even though she confessed to adultery but this creates a psychologically difficult process because he can stay married only because he doesn't believe she's trustworthy now that's not necessarily a foundation for a reconciliation you can see so what he has to say is well it's almost an impossible mental operation he has to say I believe you that you believe you committed adultery because I trust that you would never lie to me but I don't believe that you actually committed adultery I believe that you believe that that is the game you dreamed it something like that but again as I say it's a little difficult and that is why the post can say it is actually advisable that a woman not tell interrupt and she's not another here's the point she's not obligated to tell her husband because he doesn't have to believe her if he would have to believe her she'd have to tell him because just like you have to tell him the food is great but if the hakka is he's not obligated to believe her even if she tells him then it may be advisable for her not to tell them now if a man commits adultery although I understand the double standard I don't have a completely convincing answer how logically that is not an issue at all in other words a man who commits adultery is how logically permitted to stay married to his wife a woman who commits adultery is not but because of the rules of evidence Lamine so they could say okay but be it as it may this is the issue here the Jewish people are adulterous they are promiscuous they are unfaithful to their loving husband which is Hashem Hosea's argument is give them a gets divorce them Hashem responds it's not so easy as you will discover so there's something very very powerful in the notion of the helplessness of love in some way that a love can be so deep that no matter what happens that love doesn't go away and that is the message that emerges from this imagery of the prostitute that God's love for the Jewish people is an unconditional love now now that doesn't mean that unconditional love does not mean there are no consequences certainly there are consequence there's goggles and there's Corbin and there are Halle constant there are many many things that happen it doesn't mean that life is going to be smooth and there are not going to be up and ups and downs in the relationship but it does mean that ultimately the marriage indoors and the conclusion of that part which is not disappear the conclusion of that section is Hashem declares to Hosea the verse of sukham that to this very day men recite when they put on tefillin very rustic lelee alum I be trust you unto me a sham is speaking to us Leo lung forever very rustically but said that over mishpokhe who was a said Mubarak omim I will betroth you unto me that said it was righteousness and with justice and with loving-kindness and with mercy they rustically be Emunah I will be trapped you to me with faithfulness and dependability the adat as hashem and you will know how jamming again this is the biblical the biblical use of the verb know often refers to a even a physical intimacy you know marital intercourse or the like and obviously in the case of God we don't have that in a literal sense but I share is literally using a sexual Union metaphor that you will be united to me on the deepest level of intimacy in fact the reason why we recite that as we put out its filling is because you'll notice there are seven terms of endearment here Leo Lum forever said that mish pot I said Rock I'm in my na and dot knowing a Shem seven terms of endearment these fillin has seven straps and the concept of trilling is we are binding our hearts and our mind to be connected to Hashem would be seven terms of endearment and love according to some abortion the mcore of a caller walking around the content if you do it seven times some do 3 but Momo sticking with the standard may not get 7 is that essentially she's declaring to the Fatah you are bound to me with these seven terms of endearment the alum said that mishpokhe says that brought them in and not be attacked and there's another concept as well walking around this though which is not connected to this that is when the Jewish people were waging war against Yuriko which was the very first city in Irish Israel so every day they walked around the city once and I'm the shoppers they walked around seven times and the black spiritual a habit and the walls came tumbling down the walls of Jericho came tumbling down and we see the concept that the notion of circuits somehow are connected to barriers falling you don't understand exactly so so to the caller is walking around the constant seven times as if to say all barriers between us all walls that block our connection should be like the walls of Eureka that fall down and and collapse so in a sense Oh Shia is one of those mobium who have to live in his flesh the meaning of his prophecy and he had to internalize it through his personal life either in the dream sequence or or an actual physical reality because he had to be in line with his message other if this is an important aspect generally a nugget cannot just speak out of his mouth so to speak the Navi has to identify with heart and soul the pecos of his message and therefore the fashions message is I love you unconditionally and there never be a get between us Oh Shia had to feel in his own internal life this idea that the person that you love don't send away now there are going to be a lot like issues and that is I mean how can I share not followed the house ends in your way and again since I it's not clear exactly did I shall give him permission to maintain any marriage that is against I love that it's not really clear exactly if it's a brief sequence is much easier to understand that there's no there's no open blatant I love it it could be it could be although our relative to have a lifetime of marriage in fact it's not clear that would fall under the category of her a shot now the department young disabled for their shame told him to marry oh yeah sham told them tonight you wouldn't yeah you wouldn't have done it on his own he was commanded to marry yeah no that's what I'm saying Hashem wanted ho Shia to fall in love with an unfaithful woman so he would understand that even if the wife is unfaithful the husband makes it a dozen they still love her and want to take care of her and that's a critic worthless situation not to matter it was well it was not absolutely when was it was not uh sir for him to marry her with the state marriage yeah that's the question I'm raising yeah that is the question the question is not how is he allowed to marry her you're allowed you know the prostitute is not forbidden an acceptable Cohen I mean the marriage was not the really marriage getting married the wedding was not the problem the problem was remaining with her after she continued unless there weren't there weren't witnesses etc maybe the same technicalities that we use [Music] well it's you know depends how explicit explicit I mean if you look in in the parsha of sodium which is a woman who commits adultery cuz I'll find a number of terms that describe her as tomb up in its mouth she has become impure or defiled and they understand that to mean she cannot stay married to her husband so it's not it's not quite explicit but that is the how the tour's about Pantera it's the references to her becoming Tamar now just to be just to complete the halacha discussion for a moment if God forbid a woman is raped she has intercourse against her will then she is not forbidden to stay with her husband but but there is a technical alotta that if her husband is a calling then even if God forbid she was raped she is forbidden to stay married to the husband but once again we have the same technicality that is the heart witnesses to the rape and it's only her word or a non Jews word or whatever it would be how logically that is insufficient evidence to say that she is so we find ways I mean you see that basically the electric system is very very reluctant to create a mandatory breakup of a marriage event that we look for various ways within the holistic system to preserve marriages whenever whenever possible okay now one other points about Hosea and that is Hosea is really one of the earliest prophets because this is way before the court men base to make this is over 150 years before the foreman based on make - and so Shia is of the tribe of Reuben that's why he's part of the ten tribes and the governor says to following that Reuben was the first of this fourteen that's what the rest of the Jewish people about doing children what was revenge like we went to middle a a sin that's very bit enigmatic it actually appears in next week's patch up this is after Raquel died after Russell died the Commish says something that would be astounding you've read literally after Russell died Rubin slept with Bill ha Raquel maidservants and the puss it just says by Ishmael Israel and Yaakov heard about this identical diamond send and behold the children of Israel are 12 except just goes on to it so like what's going on spreads out the wording is very odd and Yaakov here and now we do know we do know that Yaakov mentioned this incident on his deathbed when he supposedly gave it Brucker to ruling now the way cuz I'm understand the story they understand it in a very unusual way that wouldn't you wouldn't throw them out you wouldn't get it and that is cos mashaallah that reuben actually slept with his stepmother that's an issue number one occasionally it's considered incestuous even though it's not your biological mother and the fact that the Torah says right after the incident that the children of Israel were 12 indicates that they were all righteous all 12 of them were good rather when ruling did was the following the Yaakov had of course four wives in Rockaway and two canta Bynes bill and Silva and Jakob would obviously spend time with each wife but his primary bed so to speak his primary locale his primary home was in the tents of Raquel does Roxanna was his the wife due which he was close his favorite wave although they add more and more children now when Raquel died in childbirth giving birth to Binyamin Yaakov designated Bilhah the concubine of Raphael as his primary wife he didn't go from Raquel to Leia he went from Russell to Billa Ruben as the eldest of Laius children was deeply offended and a fronting that's what he thought was profound disrespect for his mother because he said if my father preferred Raquel to Leia how can he prefer the concubine of Raquel to Leia so he did once he moved the meter he moved the bed of yakou from the tent of billa to the tent of Leia now that's not with the from ourselves but comer says he slept with Billa how did you understand that so because I'll understand that interfering with the relationship of a husband and a wife is tantamount to adultery if it's kind of an emotional adultery because you are interfering we find an exact parallel in the book of Shmuel much later if you remember the beginning of the book Ishmael the Kohen Gadol is a lien and it mentions how the children of a li the sons of a li were also caught on him they would sleep with the women who were bringing their offerings in the Michigan and Sheila wasn't Jewish aligned yet so again because I'll say it doesn't mean they did that it meant that women after childbirth would bring very cheap core virus to only being burped offerings there's not a lot of meat in those little birds so the children of Ailey put them in the back of the line and as a result they were delayed in getting back to their husbands and in the language of the Tanakh interfering with marital is tantamount to adultery the exact error so be it as it may we are told that this is what Jakob means when Yakko blesses he really doesn't bless remember when Yaakov gives the blessing to all of his sons so what he says to Reuben is he said you are my oldest son but you are unstable as water you are impulsive you desecrated my bed you desecrated the place that I slept and although you could have read that literally referring to sleeping with Billa but as I understand it in the way that I described it now if you take you who do you who also committed a sin all over very different type Micah who died had a daughter-in-law Tamar and she was with air and air died and then owned on with his other son and I'd like me bum this is pre Matt Santoro levirate marriage and then Onan dice so you'd as a third son shaiva and it's now shameless turn to marry her but you did does not want Shayla to marry her because she was afraid the tumbler has a bad reputation she's like a black widow I was about this that two husbands died you know we don't want to give her a third husband so as a result Tamar was a living widow so to speak she was a widow he had no one to marry so the story that the Commish tells us is where you aren't remarkable that she dressed up like a prostitute and she enticed her father-in-law yahuda to be with her and she demanded a deposit for future compensation you to Gaber his staff and his ring and money belt and that's the end of it he has a one-night stand with her and he goes home he then sends the compensation the sheets that are designed to be the compensation and all of a sudden you can't find her so he's getting a little nervous because you know he might spread the word you know who knows he's getting a little nervous and finally he discovers his own daughter-in-law is pregnant but he doesn't know it's from him he doesn't know that she was the prostitute so if you recall Tamar was going to be burnt at the stake was going to be burnt at the stake and at the last minute she had the man that sent me there that gave me this staff and this money belt with his ring this is the man from whom I got pregnant now because I'll say remarkable thing she was not gonna reveal you who his identity unless you who to himself cuz I'll say it is better to be thrown into a fiery furnace before you humiliate someone publicly and the proof is that Tamar was willing to go into a fiery furnace in that you Millie am i sir did we shown and tell us that we don't pass him this way how economizer if you were actually faced with this actual type of case you would be allowed to protect yourself but as a spiritual aspiration it just reminds us how wrong word is it but you who does stepped up to the plate and you who there admitted she said such godly man II she is more righteous than me and indeed from the twins that you would have from some are one of them parent is the ancestor of Bob's who is the ancestor of Governor Miller so we have two models of sins and Shuba among the shrug him we have Reubens sin in interfering with yong-chol and we have unison with summer according to Kazan it was Rubin who did chuva first thereby teaching you the Mitzvah of repentance and the possibility to repent so the Gemara says in the merit of Reuben being post seoc petula he was over to have a grandson or great-grandson a descendant who is the one that calls on the Jewish people to be true of a number in thursdaya became a loving as a reward to Reuben teaching us the concept of shubra now you know it's interesting that when people when you ask somebody what are the three most important things to look for in real estate so the answer always is location location location and location is very significant in the Jewish religion as well I don't just mean every Church over to put sweaters but even in terms of the liturgy let's take a prayer for example like o Meno Elena which some people referred to as Fela cetera because you're always saying it as you're leaving the show all I know is a very neglected prayer it's recited three times a day but at the very end of governing people mumble that people are on their way out of bedroom but then all of a sudden on Rosh Hashanah in Wisam kind of the highlight of the governing is the same Elena that was so humble and inconspicuous and ignored the whole year all of a sudden so much qivana out a meme they come back his location makes a very very big difference it's the same thing here you know the haftorah of the second half of October by a train from Oh Shia years the haftorah of Shabbos Shuba between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur Shuba israel hashem elokenu and when we hear it then it's so significant because that's the season of children we're gonna hear it on Shabbos people aren't gonna pay attention to man fact they may not even notice it because it's in the middle in the middle of the haftorah are all of the sukkah most sure where you throw that I shall look at so just as it might be the fate of Elena to be ignored during the week in spite of its great significance it might be the fate of Shubin Israel to be ignored unless Shabbos Shuba but you can look at it the other way in the long winter weeks between Yom Kippur and Hanukkah we need a certain spiritual jolt to be thinking that it's still the time to be driven and therefore we reach each other's sugar precisely in this in this integrity I'll come back to that because that's the second half of that ferry but in the first half as I say the primary emphasis is on disloyalty that this is God that has taken care of you he took you out of Egypt he gave you the money he brought you to a beautiful land he gave you in Eretz Israel economic prosperity in fact Ochoa makes the point that the reason the ten tribes became disloyal is precisely because their life was so good and so comfortable that they no longer felt being either done and they made alliances with foreign powers like Assyria and Egypt and of course those foreign powers eventually became the nations that destroyed them and exile them and this is a theme that the Torah itself makes quite often that prosperity can drive the person away from God it's kind of the opportunity figured with prosperity I should be grateful I should be appreciative and yet what is the Torah say the Rambla Rebekah when you come to Eretz Israel and you're a man you'll be prosperous and successful your heart will be high and mighty and you will forget by ishm on you showing by give us the Jewish people become fats and they take it out of this work they don't need them anymore I made your life too good that is why you have rejected and you go to the other nations and to the other Idol and you're not even as faithful as they are they at least stick to the gods they believe in even if they have setbacks and you don't even have the setbacks and you turn against me so the muster is fairly strong here but at the same time it's combined with the message of my love is not going to end I'm not going to divorce you in spite of all this they rascally they raster clearly olam and again the Navi goes on and says you have been ruined by your successes and therefore you will need to experience failure and suffering and through that failure and suckering you will eventually come to realize what brought you to that situation and that will bring you back to time so now we come to the descent the last half of the program and this is a very beautiful talented it's quite a different tone because after God is saying no we need tough love he now expresses the tenderness that is behind that tough love the toughness is a well to reality obviously but in some sense it's a facade behind which is a great tenderness and compassion and this is the again the famous suppose it Shuba Israel Hashem a locale please I beg of you return to a Shem that is your guy t cost shelter via phone aha you have stumbled in your phone now hear the command interesting others you know we typically have three terms for sin hate isn't inadvertent unintentional so I didn't know what you were straight I didn't know a bone I know I am sitting against God but I'm doing it out of time out of lust out of desire the third one that's courtesy avicii the third is Posche Shakti pesha is the worst of all Pecha is spitefulness' rebellious nassif you're getting nothing out of it ignore gives an example by contras if I'm very hungry and the only restaurant in town has a trave restaurant and I buy the tray food knowing its trade but I'm pretty hungry no I'm not life-threatening but I'm hungry that's called although serious in it's over a bone a bone IVC but let's say there's a coach on the non kosher and the kosher is just as good as the non kosher when I say you know I'm gonna choose trace because I want to show God that I can eat rape or I don't believe in God or whatever it would be that's a different type of site that is called rebellious menses spitefulness' that's called pesha so there's saint of on Pecha you'll remember when the calling gunnel recited the various confessions on Yom Kippur he used those three with shownotes car - or courtesy of VC passatti now if our bone means intentional using the verb Salta Mitchell seems to be the wrong verb because stumbling on something is an accident when you're walking and you stumble and you trip that is an accident so the gomorrah esta casa if the nothing is saying do children from your Arbonne because you have tripped and stumbled what do you mean she shallow stumbling is show good great a bone is amazing so the thought here is very deep the thought here actually is that on some extent level even intentional since our fundamentally in entry because the person didn't realize what they were doing to themselves yeah I technically knew I'm not supposed to eat a ham sandwich I technically knew that so in a technical sense it's a road nothing but in a deep emotional I just didn't realize what I was doing and by the way just to go back a second I want to point out that ho Shia is not only condemning about the idolatry as unfaithful as he also talks about oppression of the poor and whatever they are very rare is but here is the idea the idea is that there really is no such thing as a truly intentional thing because even if something is intentional on one level on the other level it is a mistake of inadvertent and just not knowing what's going on you see this by a selectively partial a sub sells his birthright to yahko for a pot of beans many years later Yaakov tricks him and yet Huck gives a sub a gives Yaakov the brothels so then a sub says ah now I know why his name is Yoko Yoko is a deception because he tricked me twice he tricked me by taking my birthright and now he tricked me by taking my brothers the birthright is the spiritual I could say and the Broncos is a rich available land now if you think about it I wouldn't describe the birthright as a trick it's true that the Bravo's could be described as a trick because Yaakov masqueraded as ASA and some level tricked their father but the birthright perhaps he took advantage of a hungry man so you could call it different things you can call it compulsion you can call it forcing taking advantage but there was no deception involved here ASA was itwas knew what he was giving up and he knew what he was getting in return so why is it called a deceptive transaction that's that's not the right word it is not deceptive and it may be unfair but the short answer is that ASA knew what he was giving up but he didn't know the significance of what he was giving him he thought it wasn't important that's what the Commish says by even say some Aesop despised the book over because Asaph says behold I'm gonna die so what is this spiritual thing to get the world to come there is no world to come there is only eat drink and be merry which morrow we will die now ASA was beginning to realize oh gee I gave up a lot more than I thought and in that way what what starts off as intentional turns into being inadvertent because you just didn't realize what it is that we're doing we experience this all the time you know we might say things to our spouses that are very very hurtful and we intended to say wasn't an accident we intended to say it but then we realized oh no I didn't want this to happen so that is the idea that as a person grows in self-awareness and introspection and self understandable that which was intentional turns out to have been unintended and in entry now this is really God giving you a very encouraging message here because God is saying you know I know that even when you sin against me intentionally it's because you weren't thinking you didn't fully understand if you fully understood the totality of the picture you wouldn't have been this way so there's a rock mmm that's built into this then the person goes on to who we must end of our in take with you words that's a bit of an odd expression take with you words are these your words are these somebody else's words the answer isn't enough almost any explanation you can give to a phrase all of the explanations are true meaning take these words and be strengthened with them take your own words of prayer and train to watch them take words of conciliation with to your friends to build right use the power of speech no speech is very powerful you know there's an old sending a robe nachman of breslev mascha of charlotte cow cow of charlotte uh ken if you can break it you can also fix it in fact i you know when i last year I was visiting my son in Baltimore that has as a dog so I'm just popping it was little a little a little while so I had left the jackets and pants draped over a chair it was close enough that the dog the puppy could reach it so the next day was like chewed up and rich and it's not a good shape so I took it to an American Taylor I was there and the American table of course I thought I am a guy you may show him that I know so I brought it to the game and shot him and even the table says my chef shot of a cocktail of shove attacking that which can be ruined to be tricked me any victim of it he did a very nice job here you know again so people don't have money so often what you'll find people trying to fix things that the United States would just be we just be thrown thrown away and the life so concluding welcome to Barnum is a recognition that speech is a very powerful entity this speech can hurt and destroy you know the old saying sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me it's just not true the other way around often when sticks and stones break balance the bones heal but the hurt and the pain of rejection and humiliation they can remain with the person their entire life I think I've mentioned before that even people like Richard Nixon and one too laughter after water Daffy after he left the presidency in which he talked about the pain of playground constant sickening how those things remain with the burden so what the nothing is saying is the message take words your speech is enormous leap hour but that speech that hurts an oppressed and humiliated you can use that same power they come closer to us them words can comfort and heal the shoe buela chemin in brewing love say them call t saw bone take our sins away the Cocteau and look at the good that we've done as well then we have a famous phrase that has our luck would be very important when the Shama poem CIPA say no and we will replace the bowls and the corbino's that we should bring with the prayers of our lips this is the famous teaching that beats free loves when there's no bass on McNutt you take the place of the atonement of the core brother when they shall not targets if I say no and then the nothing goes on and says you will recognize that Hashem is your issue and not the nations of the world sure lo lo she Adam this is putting words in the mouth of the Jewish people Assyria will not be our salvation our so slow near Conway will not ride on the military force or the tank or whatever it would be well a nightmare O'Dell oh hey no the master you Daniel we will no longer declare to that which we made of our own hands ello hey no you are right on and a Shem then says and then I will love you in a free unrestrained way and I will be like the dew that will revive you and you will grow and you will flourish and the like right so on one hand if you look at the actual versus the overall tone of most of the programming is very very hard it's very hard it is wrong God is saying you guys you guys it's us you need a lesson sometime and you're going to get a lesson and it's going to be hard but with all of that there is tremendous tenderness and love now I do want to point out that maybe the timonium are tougher people than us because the taemin in actually don't include this part in the october they ended within Toccata and the muster Ashkenazim were a little weaker the ashkenazi asura continues with the in german and the love but the final point i want to point out is the following they have torah ends with this verse me Clark on the other neighbor who is wise enough to understand this now Vaughn who is understanding the age I am that he will know he is sure rimmed our session the ways of God are straight if you walk in the ways of God you're not gonna have crookedness or get lost or be in the wrong place the road is straight it will take you where you have to go tsadikim yahuveh the righteous person walks on this road potion but the rebellious sinners the Cussler bum will stumble on this road now here is my question there is something a little strange about the visual image that's being drawn here what I would have expected to say is the way of God is straight the righteous walk on that path and the wicked try to circumvent and go in other paths initially for example that's commonly the way it's spoken there are two roads there's the way of righteousness the way of evil which is crooked and turns and their obstacles but that's not what it says here here it says the ways of God are straight the righteous walk on them and the potion the regime stumble on them which means the mental picture is you have what's called the path of God and both the SAVAK and the Russia are walking on the path of God that's the picture here but the Sadiq keeps on going and the Russian trips but I would have thought the Russia is not walking on the Capitol is walking on another path so I would suggest the key to understand this here is that the plastic is not contrasting siding versus Russia its contrasting sadiq versus Pasha now I had said before that poche Ament a person who sins out of spitefulness' and that is often its meaning but there's another word for PO Shia and that is effective in modern Hebrew we would say this if a person is negligent or careless he is called a poached egg so what is being contrasted here is not good and evil but people who get defeated by failures in life meaning both people are trying to do the right thing they're walking on the path of God but when you walk on the path of God you will often encounter obstacles you will often have mistakes you will have failures you will have setbacks the subject keeps on going even though he falls but the negligent person meaning the person who doesn't think as soon as he encounters obstacle he gives up so the lesson here is one of resilience right the plastic says in Michelin more famous Buster Sheva nepo Sadiq become the Sadiq falls seven times it still gets up again well foot there once remarked that he didn't like the genre of judoma great rabbi biographies we know this goes back to the nineteen seventies at one time ago he doesn't like them because those are some of them are better now but you read all you read about is like superhuman geniuses who never have any problems never have any challenges because everything comes it does totally righteous and holy from the day that they're born and when they were four year old they finished the Babylonian Talmud and five-year-old the Jerusalem Talmud and by six days Oh our and by seven the writings of the Ariza and we came to Russia shave at eleven you know etc and that's those are wonderful stories but the question is what does it say to you what does it say to me what does it say to our children we're never going to be like them we're gonna put your sense there's a big mistake that one has to know that great people that were not always born great they had struggled they had failures they had obstacles they have challenges and they found an inner strength to be able to surmount those challenges and not be defeated and to keep on working and keep on striving and that would that's what makes a Sabich it's funny is he doesn't allow himself to be defeated fussing till fall seven times and he will get him he will not be crushed he will be resilient he will have faith in a sham and faith in himself so I would suggest that this is the message of this last verse that this is not referring to the Russia who doesn't walk in the path of God both people are walking in the path of God but the righteous person does not get discouraged and the negligent person that's the story but the Berdichev love related look nice with a bridge it said there are three things we have to learn from our children three things that little children teachers one is when you're when you're hurting you cry by the child cries without any limitation they're not embarrassed to cry a human man should also be memorable and should also be willing to cry to us yet you don't have to hold in your emotion the second thing by the child is when a child Lisa is very young baby learning to walk no matter how many times they fall they get up again it's quite amazing we are programmed to keep Anna not to give up do you ever remember a child child learning I don't want Emma or even cry learning how to crawl a woman amazing I remember no child learning how to crawl it's such a strange thing no they they can't really crawl yet there groaning and you think why are you doing this to yourself you know what do they know there's something within the human personality that says my god I have to move I have to walk I no matter how many times I fall I'm gonna get up that's a remarkable thing we're hardwired not together and the British over says we look you should look at a baby and say yeah that's how I should be - and the third thing you said was that maybe less true today says little children are never bored they always find something to be interested in boredom is a fairly modern phenomena don'ts already get bored guess we have less interesting things I didn't know what the Prudential percent like the point that's most relevant to this is the one about when you fall you get up and that's the sign of greatness the sign of greatness is not a person who doesn't have struggle but the person who doesn't allow their struggles to defeat them to crush them so this is the high right now what is the connection to the parsha again it's not entirely clear but again I think the connections of the parsha is that Yaka will be new in his own life look at all of the struggles that he faces struggles and deception with lovin he does not allow himself to be crushed and the Gaspar who is contrasting the unfaithfulness of Israel even when times were good and prosperous with the faithfulness of Yaakov in spite of all of the deprivation and hardships and therefore once again often a half story is chosen by reason of contrast to kind of say look at Yaakov and look at you look at us and see the see the difference so we want each other's been weak [Music]